Is dating making you broke?
Cody has been only been seeing Sabrina for a couple of weeks now and he already has to adjust his budget. Why? Apparently, Sabrina likes the finer things in life. Cody likes the fine Sabrina. Now he is doing way too much to pursue her. He feels that she is worth it. I don’t think any man should go to these kind of lengths to get a woman.
Eventually, she will find out he is strapped for cash. If this is the kind of thing that would be a deal breaker, he needs to know it sooner than later. Why would anyone want to go broke trying to date someone? I understand wanting to impress a person. I even get that men want to show that they can be a provider. Where do you draw the line, though?
Cody felt that Sabrina was out of his league from the moment he met her. Instead of letting her see him for who he is, he took the impress her with shiny things route. What happens if (when?) she gets distracted by the next man offering her more? Is he going to regret the money he invested in pursuing her?
I have met men like this before after they have been used by women who like to date men for sponsorship. They end up questioning the motives of every woman they meet after that. They also suddenly become a lot more selective about spending money on women to impress them.
What happens when you spend too much money dating? What kind of impact does that have? What is the most money you have spent on one date?
Do you think it is possible to date someone without blowing a lot of cash and still manage to impress them?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Leggs
March 1st, 2013
10:16 am
Celisea ~ If that same date was presented to you, and you realize he bought concert tix and plane tix, you would turn it down because the flight was booked on AirTran?
daddy swiss
March 1st, 2013
10:17 am
“Now, I know you don’t know this about me, I own every Najee record.”
And Leggs also has frequent flyer miles on Airtran. You do the math, Courtside.
MissMoni
March 1st, 2013
10:17 am
-Courtside 2 thumbs up for creativity, spontaniety & actually listening to her during the lunch. Had you gotten lost in “whatever” you would’ve missed that tidbit about her loving Najee. You must have made a GREAT impression because she trusted you enough to go along with it!!!
Leggs
March 1st, 2013
10:17 am
Cute, swiss (lol).
daddy swiss
March 1st, 2013
10:18 am
BTW, Leggs, you know I kid because I love…
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
March 1st, 2013
10:18 am
MsAtl, Funny thing is we turned out to be Great friends…We are each others “sure thing date”…. Company functions, formal affairs ect…. and believe it or not, we have never slept together…..
Celisea
March 1st, 2013
10:19 am
Leggs – Like I stated, that was a groovy, well done date. And yes, I would have gotten on AirTran, only because it was sprung on me. But I would have gently let him know, next time let’s do Delta. I wouldn’t have said it that day though. That would have spoiled things and showed a lack of appreciation. That would have been a future date convo.
Sorry…I’m just afraid to fly AirTran
MsAtl
March 1st, 2013
10:19 am
Disco- my question was to the broke woman getting laid quicker than a broke man. By the time it appeared, you had posted something else.
Courtside- That sounds great! That doesn’t happen too often, in my opinion.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
March 1st, 2013
10:22 am
@MsAtl. and to be honest, as much fun as we had, and as nice as it was, I would be lying if I said I would do it again……
SlimNu
March 1st, 2013
10:22 am
Celisea – I’m not sure if that would go over well on a later date either….ummm honey, I forgive you THIS time but sugar baby does not do Airtran. So next time can you step it up a bit? Hello? Hello? Baby are you there? Dayum, I guess he must’ve lost his cell phone signal
Leggs
March 1st, 2013
10:23 am
Alright, Celisea. I figured as much. Nothing wrong with letting him know if he wanted to spring something like that again in the future, you prefer a different airline. Nothing wrong there.
Leggs
March 1st, 2013
10:24 am
swiss, you’re always cool w/me. I love quick-witted individuals, even the sexually deviant ones such as yourself (lol).
Exiled
March 1st, 2013
10:24 am
Courtside..I hear what u said but if u wanna be true to urself and not self castrate,date ur league..
If ur money is gon get u lower league chics,then get those because fronting like u got it will put u in deeper holes financially. Yes,hot babes flock to dudes with deeper pockets…guys we know that.
But there are diamonds in the rough if u take time to look.
Hey MIA!
Hazel
March 1st, 2013
10:25 am
@ Disco – lol.. well.. yah that would be an issue for sure
Exiled
March 1st, 2013
10:25 am
What’s up Swiss?!!
How’s the Lil MA?
Celisea
March 1st, 2013
10:25 am
Slim – You can get anything said with tact. Sometimes there’s a need to shoot straight from the hip and sometimes there’s a need to cushion it a bit. Still though, being honest would be first and foremost. I don’t feel safe flying AirTran. I’m certainly not going to continuously endanger (or at least get that feeling), all for dates or a boo
lololol
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
March 1st, 2013
10:26 am
Just for you Leggs,
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xkxpQ9lmB8U
My Favorite Najee album
Bluzgirl
March 1st, 2013
10:28 am
Morning all!
I do not think you should spend more than you can afford on a date. If you act like a big baller, then the woman is going to expect that. You are being fake. No one likes fake! Obviously, I’m not one that cares about whether or not a man has money…it’s more about his character. Unfortunately, I’ve also picked men with lousy character, but that’s neither here nor there. LOL!
I’m soooooooo glad it’s Friday!!!
disco
March 1st, 2013
10:28 am
courtside – who was not interested in doing the other or, rather, why didn’t she/doesn’t she want to sleep with you?
Button
March 1st, 2013
10:29 am
way to go Courtside!
Exiled
March 1st, 2013
10:33 am
So Court??
What was the return on that 1.2 stack spend?
MissMoni
March 1st, 2013
10:35 am
-disco Great question!!!
-Courtside We’re waiting. . .
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
March 1st, 2013
10:38 am
Mayne shoot…
If you’re too good for a McDonald’s meal at any point we’re dating, you’re too good for me (and probably yourself).
“Dating to show a woman you can take care of her” has some merit to it; however, if you can’t ‘do fast food’, then what is your attitude when the hard time hits?
At the end of the day you’re showing a potential mate about who you are as a person, and if you’re only there when they have/for money, then, well….you know what Churchill said about a proposition.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
March 1st, 2013
10:40 am
disco, it was not a matter of not wanting to do each other, But the time we spent together initially was invested in enjoying the moment and not pushing for the next thing. At some point I am sure we will get there, and when we do, we will, but to this point …….
Leggs
March 1st, 2013
10:41 am
Oh MsAtl ~ no, I don’t dispute the statement. Broke chicks get laid all the time. Do you dispute it?
Awww the memories, Courtside. I can see me in my one bedroom apartment, lights dimmed, Najee on. I had one fierce stereo system in the closet. Double 8-track, reel to reel, Jensen speakers, Technique (sp?) turntables. I did a lot of mixing and making tapes for friends.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
March 1st, 2013
10:43 am
Exiled. the returns are still coming in….
disco
March 1st, 2013
10:44 am
courtside – so when was this date? the fact that you all have become friends and stand-in dates and all that simply led me to believe that it was quite some time ago. if it’s relatively recent, you’ll get a pass. if not, I’m thinking she ain’t feeling you.
not DJ Leggs on the ones and twos. lol.
SlimNu
March 1st, 2013
10:46 am
Courtside – So what you’re saying is, home girl was on the rag during that trip?
MsAtl
March 1st, 2013
10:48 am
Leggs- Not at all. I thought it was rather funny.
Leggs
March 1st, 2013
10:48 am
MissMoni ~ I’ve been waiting knowing someone would be asking. I didn’t want to be the one. Was hoping a man asked first and herein pops Ex.
Leggs
March 1st, 2013
10:54 am
if you can’t ‘do fast food’, then what is your attitude when the hard time hits? – buy inexpensive food items at the store and cook at home. Hell, for two you can spend a good $10-12 on fast food (I think). I can make a more nutritious and better tasting meal with that.
Leggs
March 1st, 2013
10:56 am
disco ~ you beat me to the punch…when was this date?
Leggs
March 1st, 2013
10:58 am
disco ~ I had my moments. I had a great ear for knowing when to splice music together. When I hear a good mix, music comes in on time and keeps the beat flowing, I get excited.
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
March 1st, 2013
10:58 am
@Leggs
Didn’t we have a conversation about women (these days) not being able to cook, and being (more than) comfortable with that fact?
I’m saying.
Just like ladies be holding out for their ‘perfect’ guy, a man these days wants an *actual* lady when he’s ready to settle down.
Celisea
March 1st, 2013
10:59 am
For many reasons folks shouldn’t eat fast food. Yeah, I wouldn’t be good for a MickieDee’s dude. Nothing to do with being too good. Well, I guess that depends on what you view as “too good.” That stuff ain’t good for you. I’ll take a home date, ANYDAY over fast food. I eat out, but it ain’t ff joints. At the most, it’s gonna be Chickfila…for health reasons.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
March 1st, 2013
11:01 am
disco, Like 3 years ago….Slimnu, Not sure if that was the case, lol
In teh begining, she was fresh out of a long term thing, and I did not want to push her into something she was not ready for… as time has gone on, I always have new coochie in play so I do not have to make an issue out of it….. We have had teh conversation on several occasions and at some point we will get there…..
disco
March 1st, 2013
11:02 am
C – I got the impression that “fast food” wasn’t necessarily literal. it was moreso an economic reference point. I could be wrong.
leggs – you know Michael baisden is having that old school deejay contest. you better throw something together. I always think about omar epps in juice when I think about turntables. I used to love me some omar epps.
Exiled
March 1st, 2013
11:02 am
Court…u maybe dealing with a beautiful but fast chic and I think she’s gon come back to u for more,not because she’s obligated but because she saw u drop loot…it has left a nice tinkling sensation on her…but this will get u a smash…I don’t see anything more…
Why I say that is coz she took the upper hand…challenging u to plan something interesting….see,on a first date….a woman feeling a man can’t use those words….
In my view ofcourse.
U got deep pockets though…
Clap clap…
SlimNu
March 1st, 2013
11:03 am
Is knowing how to cook subjective? lol
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
March 1st, 2013
11:03 am
All jokes aside.( I can’t believe I am about to say this) But when we cross that threshold, everything is going to change for me….. I have to make sure that I am ready to commit, because that is where i will be with her.
SlimNu
March 1st, 2013
11:04 am
Court – Are yall worried that if you finally go there, that things will not be as cool as they are now? SOmetimes that does happen….it sucks too. Makes me wonder if the idea & anticipation is better than the reality
Leggs
March 1st, 2013
11:06 am
Courtside ~ this is very interesting. You’re still seeing the woman, have coochie on the side, have had the talk, but has never gone all the way with her. 3 years later and “when it happens it happens.” Where’s the problem in that she’s not being intimate with you. Wait, that may be too personal so if you don’t want to answer, I’ll certainly understand.
disco ~
disco
March 1st, 2013
11:06 am
courtside – dang. you had to go all deep with it and here I was about to tell you that you might just be her “in case of emergency” piece. so far life has been good to her. she hasn’t had any emergencies. lol.
slim – cooking is subjective like a mug.
Button
March 1st, 2013
11:07 am
thank you! @Dan, that’s why I believe how a man date will show you how he will take care of you going forward IF he’s serious about having something meaningful with you. If he’s cheap or going broke to take you on a date he shouldn’t be dating in the first place. It should be genuine. And yes if times get hard I will still be there with him eating at McD’s.
Celisea
March 1st, 2013
11:08 am
disco – I took it as an economic reference. But I also took the words and referenced what he stated…MickieDees and FF
disco
March 1st, 2013
11:12 am
here’s a random since we are kind of talking cheap/broke. on the radio this morning I heard where they were accepting applications for pet food stamps. yep. you heard right. pet food stamps. apparently they are for low income pet owners and the mission is to allow them to keep their pets rather than have them seek new homes for them or for them to end up in shelters. pet food stamps. I done heard a lot of stuff in my day but never that.
Celisea
March 1st, 2013
11:12 am
If times get hard, we should be getting discounted groceries and eating at home, not hitting up the dollar menu.
How’s that disco?
BBL….when thangs pick up, if thangs pick up
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
March 1st, 2013
11:16 am
Exiled, Pockets are fine, but I would not call them deep….. And there have been times when she has dug deep for me as well… Its one of those things were if the timing were different, we would be in a much more advanced place, but I recognized that I am not and she is not, so we take what we have and appreciate that. If and when we come to that next jumping off place, if we are there at tha same time, we will take that leap 2gether….
MissMoni
March 1st, 2013
11:20 am
-disco I heard that on the news yesterday and was CONFUSED!!! All I’m saying is if you can’t afford to feed yourself, then lil FeFe needs to go on to a better home. . .
Exiled
March 1st, 2013
11:21 am
1,200 invested in 3 years and no return yet…
and u living on crumbs from a side, hood,rental investment?
Come on Court?
Come on playa!