Dating just for fun?
I find it fascinating how the same people who claim not to want a serious relationship turn out to be the first person to catch feelings. It’s sort of like “protesting too much” because they are quick to say it’s all good with no strings. The reality is that they are actually wearing their heart on their sleeves, hoping things get serious!
Men crack me up claiming they are not that type of dude or proclaim “they won’t trip over some broad” because they like things casual. These are the ones that start stalking you at Kroger when you don’t return his phone calls!
How does dating for fun work, then? When people are truly only interested in companionship and/or sex with no commitment, how does it get so complicated?
If you follow the dating for fun approach to dating, do you find that people are apprehensive about seeing you again?
Is it necessary to actually say you are just dating for fun or will your actions kind of show it?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Durty Bird ( Rise-up Hawk fans)
February 28th, 2013
3:48 pm
Celisea so silky smooth been the one who has been hittin for years….Silky smooth is my name and sexing Celisea for years is my game….
Exiled
February 28th, 2013
3:49 pm
I onces asked her why she never wears stockings
and shes not ur girl, u ask this question?
u have hit?
@Court
Leggs
February 28th, 2013
3:49 pm
Thanks, disco! Leaving work, I’m driving around the corner to the Mexican restaurant and get a large, frozen margarita!!!
DuShawn
February 28th, 2013
3:50 pm
He worked with her, she was his lady’s best friend
Even if they don’t try some ladies test men
And this was a test that was bigger than him
Some believe its the nature that is given to men
He had a good gig, a wife, a kid, a decent home
One reason or another couldn’t find peace at home
She asked, “Why do men always have to stray?”
He said, “I’m bad, not as bad as Eric Benet”
“I used to take ‘em out to eat but they wasn’t really eatin’
Might a got a little head but I wasn’t really cheatin’”
It’s hard when your lady don’t believe what you say
And what you did in the past you gotta live with today
She asked if they could spend the night together
He thought, and said, “I’m tryin’ to get my life together”
Went home to his lady, these were his confessions
“Baby you a blessin’ and my best friend”
SlimNu
February 28th, 2013
3:51 pm
u can always mess around with any of us worthy blogs menfolks,Slim…we keep it on the Low_low here,u knw dat
Exiled – As much as I do not believe you anyway, it doesn’t matter because I have No desire to do so. lol
Celisea – No the co-worker doesn’t know I told it here…matter of fact, the person who did it doesn’t even know I know
I remember at my first job which was a cashier at a grocery store, the manager had a thing for me. He would flirt and say little borderline inappropriate things to me and he was married. I wonder what ever happened to him?
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
3:53 pm
MMeelo – Raw skills and that’s all would go to kid’s dad. We were young and both rough around the edges and had much much much growing and learning.
Silky though (took me a looooooooooooooong time to get over him) was top notch. A man’s man. Not only was he skilled, he used love and tenderness in not just the bedroom, but that was his character. He knew how to get “bucky” and stay collected…that mess was the funniest to watch. Silky wins hands down!!!
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
3:54 pm
Durty – Naw, me and Silky ended it. Well I ended it and Silky made it hard cause he kept coming back and wanting to talk. Naw, once I’m done, I’m done. None of that creeping back over. Too old for that. That falls under head games…IMO…lol
SlimNu
February 28th, 2013
3:55 pm
Dushawn – How did ole girl take the break-off???
Durty Bird ( Rise-up Hawk fans)
February 28th, 2013
3:56 pm
Disco…I am not sure what his super power was but the age range was from 22 to 40. Dude was in the mid 30’s. One of the ladies told me after about one week of talking to the ladies he would tell them I love you. I’m like damm that still works. On 2 seperate occasions I saw to different ladies with sweat on their foreheads, he was able to convince the ladies that he needed the becky everyday.
Breaking news…North Korea has stated they will give up their nuclear weapons if the United States of America take Dennis Rodman back!
President Obama is now going to campaign around the country to see if the citzens of the U.S. want Dennis Rodman back into the U.S.
HST
February 28th, 2013
3:57 pm
Celisea, I wish I would’ve met you when I was single, or got an idea of whom you are like I do now (at least in types words
).
There’s no hidden implications in that statement bloggers – it’s just an observation.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 28th, 2013
3:57 pm
Ex, Naw… have not hit yet..But we are doing that dance…. inuendo dropping… leaving isht to my imagination….just enough to let me know that when the time presents itself, its gonna be on….
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
3:58 pm
Awwww, HST…ain’t you sweet
HST
February 28th, 2013
3:58 pm
BTW, no responses to users of Windows 8?
SlimNu
February 28th, 2013
3:59 pm
It’s just a shame that I confided in a “friend” and she spread the word.
Bluz – I’m amazed by the many mentions of folks you thought were your ‘friend’….errrrrbody can’t be privy to your insider’s info or your goodies.
disco
February 28th, 2013
3:59 pm
court – that 60 year old husband… how’s his trigger finger?
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
4:00 pm
just enough to let me know that when the time presents itself, its gonna be on
That’s the dance we danced!!! I have to be honest. Silky was the first dude where I felt no hold backs, AND GAVE OFF SIGNS, no timeframe, none of that…. I pretty was in the same place, right time? It’s going dooooownnn!!!
disco
February 28th, 2013
4:02 pm
slim – and to take it a step further bluz, you especially have to look out for those so-called work friends. that’s a whole different level of phoney bs.
C – I thought you was gone pull up. keep on and your boo gone be wondering what’s different with the cat. lol.
Leggs
February 28th, 2013
4:03 pm
Like I said the other day, Celisea, when a woman is done, SHE’S DONE!
Bluzgirl
February 28th, 2013
4:04 pm
Slim – I was young and really trusted this “friend”. If I had known then that she was spreading my business, I would have spread hers also. Hers was much worse than mine! As I get older, I’m learning more and more about what makes a good friend!
HST
February 28th, 2013
4:05 pm
Just as a thought because Disco made her funny.
I would never kill or even be able to fight someone if I found my significant other in the act of coitus. I’d seriously just have to walk away.
I would be stewing for the conversation with her.
Still no Window 8 users?
Leggs
February 28th, 2013
4:05 pm
Still on 7, HST.
DuShawn
February 28th, 2013
4:05 pm
@Slim: It went down smoothly. I was single, she was married. We remained friends afterwards. She was just to messy with it.
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
4:06 pm
disco – I ain’t gone lie, I’m feeling a lil bit guilty over here for reminscing so hard….lol I almost typed (cause I can get raw with it now) about glad I didn’t wear those sexy sexy undies today…lol Yeah, Imma leave that alone
Leggs – Yep so so true. Silky was alllll that and a bag of chips and I cannot EVERY remember a bad moment between us….in seven years, ever. A couple of slightly heated but soon resolved disgreements. But, the moment I feel like trust is compromised and you ain’t talking and splaing quick, I’m done.
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
4:07 pm
HST – I don’t have it but I may be getting it. I was just told a couple of days I’m up for a new laptop. We get them every 3 years.
disco
February 28th, 2013
4:07 pm
HST – you would want a conversation with her? what do you want to hear? why, how long? just curious.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 28th, 2013
4:10 pm
disco, I ain’t skeeeered of his old azz…. He does not look like he could pull a trigger if his life depended on it…But he does look like and I know he has the means to hire somebody that could and would enjoy doing it!!!
@ Celisea, I won’t lie, i have actually prepped for that day…. wiating for her to tip her hand before I jump all over her “like a spider monkey” ( In my Ricky Bobby voice)
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
4:10 pm
The mind can be awfully wicked
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
4:12 pm
Courtside – Dang, I jumped at that….lololol Pace yourself, patience my brother…lol Oh wait, she’s married. Naw I can’t tip my hat to that…lol
HST
February 28th, 2013
4:15 pm
Disco, really?
Not a chance I’m ‘opening that can of worms.’
Leggs, from watching my poor sap buddies, and even pleading on their behalf there’s no getting around “When a woman is done, SHE’S DONE!”. I just got 8 a couple of weeks ago, I really love it now.
Celisea, it takes a sec, but it’s much better, IMO.
Exiled
February 28th, 2013
4:16 pm
Cel…if u reminscing about the past flavors, it means Mr Current aint got a handle on his New engine yet….? Right.
coz i will tel u,all my exes, if they saw me today and im walking across the street and she walking on the other side with current Mr man,they will ALL,like on q,have to put Mr on standby,”baby, hold on and wait right here, i got run and greet Ray over there across,we grew up tgether and go waaay back? ….
and if Mr makes the mistake of giving us his backside while he window shops..she will gladly plant a Big one on my forehead….
I guess that what Silky did to u, Right?
SlimNu
February 28th, 2013
4:16 pm
Bluz – Yeah, I hear ya so take your time to get to know folks before you want to trust them in a ‘real friend’ fashion. I have very few folks I call my friend…
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
4:17 pm
HST – Okay…hopefully with the new laptop I’ll get all the good stuff. I’ve Dell for a couple of upgrades. I opted for HP this time.
Exiled
February 28th, 2013
4:18 pm
thats what
Exiled
February 28th, 2013
4:19 pm
@Bluz..just call them work aquantances not friends….what if u change jobs….?….new friends….. lol
disco
February 28th, 2013
4:20 pm
hst – what??? you said you’d walk away and then you said you’d be stewing for that conversation with her. I was just curious about the exchange during that conversation. anyway, the can of worms is way in the back of the shelf.
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
4:21 pm
Mmeello – Not at all. Me and Silky was really really tight and was equally friends as lovers. We had something I’ve had with no one before him, and yet to get to with the current boo. The current boo is a good dude but you gotta understand, we’ve not been together long enough to establish the bond Silky and I shared. That’s gonna take a minute. Hopefully we’ll not only get there but surpass
Leggs
February 28th, 2013
4:22 pm
“…it means Mr Current aint got a handle on his New engine yet….? – Finally, I like the way you said something!
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
4:24 pm
MMeello – Let’s just say I believe in “respecting” my dude. I ain’t gonna drop him and cross traffic to speak to a former…lolol and he better not do that to me or it’s a wrap (for real). IJS Now, I wouldn’t take issue introducing the former to the new. But I would be a lady in how I pulled that off. It would be no disrespect to the past and definitely no disrespect to the new.
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
4:24 pm
I like “Mr Current” better than champ. Champ never grew on me. Imma take “Mr. Current”
MsAtl
February 28th, 2013
4:25 pm
Excuse me- I have to interrupt for a moment! I was in a co-worker’s office & he handed me a pen so we could write notes on a case. I was using the pen when I looked down & realized that he chewed the top of it all up. Damn! My hands are tingling and I have already cleaned them. Just ick!
HST
February 28th, 2013
4:26 pm
I hear ya on that SlimNu. I have lots of acquiescences, but few friends. I also like the word pal, and use that for hobby and common interest acquiescences. specific
Leggs, from watching my poor sap buddies, and even pleading on their behalf there’s no getting around “When a woman is done, SHE’S DONE!”. Thanks for the response on Windows, I just got 8 a few weeks ago, and I love it.
Celisea, it takes a second to warm up to it; but it much better, IMO.
Exiled
February 28th, 2013
4:27 pm
Cel…I give u that….goood answer..at least u protected his rep!(current) lol
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
4:29 pm
HST – I’m keeping my fingers crossed that I’ll have it on the new laptop
HST
February 28th, 2013
4:29 pm
Sorry for grammar today, I’ve been on my iPhone all day. No matter how hard I try – it’s never right – I think the screen layout gets me.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 28th, 2013
4:30 pm
@MsAtl…… LOLOLOLOLOL…Yeah, Thats nasty!!! Amazing how the smallest things just make you say ewwwwwwww…..
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
4:30 pm
Mmeello – Everything can be pulled off with decency and decorum and respect. I’m BIIIIG on that. I give it because I expect it in return.
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
4:31 pm
HST – Don’t sweat the grammar….I don’t and I’m sure most don’t either. It’s just a blog
HST
February 28th, 2013
4:34 pm
@4:25
MsAtl, I would be panicking inside as well. Ick is right…tell me you have some mouthwash at the desk…
Exiled
February 28th, 2013
4:37 pm
Cel..next time we meet and u introduce me to Mr Current, ima squeeze his hand a lil tighter and look him str8 in the eye, as if to say,”better get ur act right bwa, and fast coz u on probabation and got Big, Long and Wide shoes to fill” ..
HST
February 28th, 2013
4:39 pm
I’m dying laughing, because I said ‘Sorry for grammar today’ there’s little hope for me today. I hear ya, but I personally like grammar – I’m sure some out here have seen me be a “Grammar Nazi” – even if it’s just for me. I oddly get off on good grammar.