Dating just for fun?
I find it fascinating how the same people who claim not to want a serious relationship turn out to be the first person to catch feelings. It’s sort of like “protesting too much” because they are quick to say it’s all good with no strings. The reality is that they are actually wearing their heart on their sleeves, hoping things get serious!
Men crack me up claiming they are not that type of dude or proclaim “they won’t trip over some broad” because they like things casual. These are the ones that start stalking you at Kroger when you don’t return his phone calls!
How does dating for fun work, then? When people are truly only interested in companionship and/or sex with no commitment, how does it get so complicated?
If you follow the dating for fun approach to dating, do you find that people are apprehensive about seeing you again?
Is it necessary to actually say you are just dating for fun or will your actions kind of show it?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Durty Bird (Assessing the MIA blog ladies)
February 28th, 2013
1:56 pm
The 2pm review:
Celisea likes to be stalked, plus she likes reading dirty e-mails..
Slim-Nu wants me and does not know how to tell me….lol
MsAtl is playing hard to get but I am wearing her down.
Disco…Has been hit upside the head toooo many timesss…
Button was a playa as recently as 2012.
Leggs is just trying to figure out what is Celisea is blogging about deleting those e-mails…Celisea statements make you go…. hummmm
Kimmie states the term stalking is over used…Translation she would like a part time stalker…
kimmie
February 28th, 2013
2:00 pm
Durty –
DuShawn
February 28th, 2013
2:06 pm
“Dating for fun”…… I’ve always been of the opinion that the purpose of dating was to have a good time. I never quite grasped the concept of the relationship must be “going somewhere” or it’s a waste of time. That entire ideology is estrogen based. I never broadcasted my casual intentions, but if asked I was truthful. What you don’t say, says it all. If I didn’t mention it, my position should be obvious. Then again, I have always had the ability to make the cootchie easy and the obvious invisible.
MsAtl
February 28th, 2013
2:10 pm
Durty- Didn’t we blog about wearing someone down a couple of weeks ago?
DuShawn- Yes, the purpose of dating is to have fun, but I thik MIA is distinguishing between serious dating and FWB (I think).
Btw- Remembering our convo the other day, check out this article. http://blogs.ajc.com/news-to-me/2013/02/28/poll-12-of-employees-have-sex-at-work/
Bluzgirl
February 28th, 2013
2:16 pm
Durty – LOL! You ain’t right. What’s up with you hitting on all the blog ladies? I thought I was special.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 28th, 2013
2:18 pm
MsAtl…. I checked out that article…. Based on some of the places I have worked, those numbers seem really low!!! Lots of attractive, big ego, type A’s in my industry……
HST
February 28th, 2013
2:20 pm
That suxs Cel, but at least you got it repaired. I laugh at my buddies with large expensive 2-3K a piece and ride on 30’s (side wall height) in Atlanta. I’ve had many rims repaired, it’s as natural as humidity around here. FTR, my GF is on the second clutch (less than 25K), but Audi says they’re good for 18K. Pffftt! That stupid clutch is 9K installed; whatever, she’s maintaining it.
on to page 3…
HST
February 28th, 2013
2:21 pm
*edit* expensive RIMS that are 2-3k
Button
February 28th, 2013
2:25 pm
lol @Durty I wouldn’t know where to begin @being a playa.
disco
February 28th, 2013
2:26 pm
durty – why you bringing up old stuff?
Button
February 28th, 2013
2:28 pm
I don’t like rims. I’m good with just having hub caps. Rims are too expensive and when it’s damage it makes the car look raggy. Rims don’t look good on every car. Whatever happened to the spinners tims? lol
SlimNu
February 28th, 2013
2:34 pm
Durty – I’m not into being Catfished so send pics
SlimNu
February 28th, 2013
2:39 pm
Speaking of work and sex, I got privy to some info just yesterday about a married chick getting it on with a married manager. Apparently, a few folks went out to a bar and got trashed…next thing you know folks are dancing around naked and waking up in the bed next to a co-worker…That’s one reason I would not want to mess around with anyone here because it’s like high school…Gossip forever traveling.
daddy swiss
February 28th, 2013
2:42 pm
When’s your next office party, Slim?
disco
February 28th, 2013
2:42 pm
slim – well, ummm, you see, what had happened was….
HST
February 28th, 2013
2:47 pm
Botton, curb rash or dings do seem to show extra on a rim. I powder-coat some and even that can’t with stand the “ish” Atlanta’s street can dish out.
SlimNu, as a rule I never fraternize with co-workers in any way. I also don’t fraternize with my neighbors either. I mean I say hey, watch their house, watch their teenagers (not that way creepy), and will do anything neighborly, but never fraternize. I think neighbors gossip worse than co-workers…
HST
February 28th, 2013
2:50 pm
O/T How many of you out here are using Windows 8?
Button
February 28th, 2013
2:54 pm
HST that’s why I prefer hub caps because of the curb rashes! I get them everytime when I’m leaving the boa near my job. After a few curb rashes I simply replace em and KIM!
disco
February 28th, 2013
2:55 pm
HST – I can’t speak for neighbors in general but I know that nosey bastid next door to me must be trying to take home the nosey neighbor gold. I have never come across a more busy body, gossip-y grown man in all my days.
DuShawn
February 28th, 2013
2:59 pm
There are quite a few beautiful, elegant, intelligent women at the gig. I would never sleep with any of them. I learned the dangers of those decisions years ago. Then still did it again and it ended badly….again. If I were to secretly get it in with a chick in the workplace, I would choose the young Mexican girl that comes around late evenings and empties the trash in my office. She speaks very little English, I always thank her, she always smiles…..and she wears the fragrance I love to smell on a woman………..Pine sol.
Bluzgirl
February 28th, 2013
3:02 pm
I had an FWB at work many, many years ago. It was fun while it lasted and we would go to a park during lunch time to have some fun! A couple of people figured it out, though. I didn’t know that until well after he left to work at another credit union. Was embarrassing to know that it got spread around. Won’t do that again!
HST
February 28th, 2013
3:09 pm
Bluz, you just won sooo many points with me for lunch debauchery in a car.
MsAtl
February 28th, 2013
3:12 pm
DuShawn- You are wrong for that one. Although Pine Sol does smell good, lol.
disco
February 28th, 2013
3:12 pm
HST – thank you for saying that. I was sitting here wondering just what the heck bluz was up to. I was thinking park benches and bushes and seesaws and swings but the car never crossed my mind.
HST
February 28th, 2013
3:14 pm
Leggs
February 28th, 2013
3:14 pm
Awww, Albert. If you don’t mind answering, how old are you?
I dated this guy who drove a truck and would leave is 200SX with me. He said if learned how to drive it I could drive it. So, I taught myself to drive it. First time I heard about Perrili (sp?) tires. It had a fabulous sound system. I drove that car back from an interview in Marietta and sweated so much my poor silk blouse had some serious sweat stains. I was so afraid of stalling and jerking, which I did a few times.
Durty, funny, but on point with one of the statements, maybe even two (lol)
This afternoon is proving to be as hellish as my morning.
Exiled
February 28th, 2013
3:15 pm
That’s one reason I would not want to mess around with anyone here because it’s like high school…Gossip forever traveling. –
@Slim..u can always mess around with any of us worthy blogs menfolks,Slim…we keep it on the Low_low here,u knw dat.
Leggs
February 28th, 2013
3:17 pm
“…few folks went out to a bar and got trashed…next thing you know folks are dancing around naked and waking up in the bed next to a co-worker….” – WTH, grown folk don’t know how to control themselves and get so drunk they’re sexing their co-workers. Boy, sounds like poster people for AA!
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
3:18 pm
Well, I’ve done the office romance and it was ultra private and well kept. The “wonderment” came because we spent so much time together (i.e. lunch, stopping by, etc), no kidding, my manager called me and asked what was up, if we were an item (caue he was at my desk allllllll the time). But to that, most folks knew we were super super cool, so some went one way with their ideas and others that didn’t know either of us too well, went another way. We never crossed any lines at work and like I said kept things hidden and private…NOT A SINGLE SOLITARY PEEP FROM ME OR HIM. Of course he was a gentleman always and I was a lady always. That makes a world of difference. You can’t be all janky and play durty and expect folks to be nice about it and expect no backlash…lolol Just one of those things folks have to stay mindful of when hooking. Especially folks that’s tryna do the durty (not sex) and lowdown and playing games and tricks. Can’t get mad if he or she ups you one…lololol Matter of fact though, me and silky stayed together longer after he left than while here.
DuShawn
February 28th, 2013
3:19 pm
I do remember this one office affair I had decades ago. My potnahs and I used to call the girl Married Tall. As the name implies she was married….and tall. A fine dark-skinned Amazon. She was still in Grad School. After work, I would meet her at the University Library, take her to my spot, do the dirt and drop her back off, so she could make it home to hubby and the kids. It was cool at first, but then she started self-snitchin. We worked on different floors, so nobody knew. I would get to my office in the mornings and she started leaving me little teddy bears, muffins, cards and stuff. Then she started coming by office and hanging out, making it so obvious to everyone what the business was. I had to end that quickly before her husband killed my azz.
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
3:20 pm
Slim – Does your coworker know you told it here? lolololol
Leggs
February 28th, 2013
3:23 pm
..and she wears the fragrance I love to smell on a woman………..Pine sol.
Thanks so much for the hearty laugh. I wasn’t expecting that!!!
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
3:25 pm
Matter of fact, I’ve had two work romances. The stockbroker back in 1998-99 and Silky…that lasted yeeeeeeeears
Exiled
February 28th, 2013
3:26 pm
and she started leaving me little teddy bears, muffins, cards and stuff. Then she started coming by office and hanging out –
self snittching…..
For a moment, u lost me there untill u defined it later there… oh boy…
My Publisher!
Leggs
February 28th, 2013
3:27 pm
I am just eating lunch…
Durty Bird ( Rise-up Hawk fans)
February 28th, 2013
3:31 pm
Speaking of stalking back in 2009 Kimmie was blogging so strong I almost wanted to drop the 2 ladies I was dating so I could stalk Kimmie on a part time basis…Kimmie is my favorite MIA blogger
@BluzGirl…. U know u are special….Just be careful with office romances.
Speaking of sex in the office. I worked in an office about 3 yrs ago where the ratio of women to men was about 5 to 1. The building was under going construction and low and behold we find out one of the men in the office had been taking several women in the construction area and was getting busy.
I will admit I did have sex in the bosses office once.
MsAtl
February 28th, 2013
3:32 pm
I’ve never had an office romance. However, when I worked at Steinmart, I was called by management and questioned why security was at my register several times a day. I responded honestly- he knew I kept a stash of Sour Patch Kids at my register and he was too cheap to buy his own!
disco
February 28th, 2013
3:32 pm
leggs – girl if someone opens up the blog bar I’m going to buy you a drink. heck, I’ll buy you two. seems like you really have had one of those days.
disco
February 28th, 2013
3:33 pm
DB – did you say several women? who was this man? what was his super power? lol.
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
3:33 pm
Sometimes office romances are fun!!! That is if they ain’t slumming all over the place and getting trashy with it. I remember after my manager (supervisor’s manager) asked if we had a thing, ole boy started do invites with me and the supervisor (cause all of us were sort of in this “inner circle”). He was a slick one. That was his way of disspelling rumors…lol I remember her (and all the women) saying how “he was such a good guy” cause he played the “moral” thing to the hilt. I didn’t say a word, but away from work I was like you need to stop… All he could do was flash them pearly whites. Killer smile!! Let me stop, I just felt my groin stir…
disco
February 28th, 2013
3:34 pm
ms atl – you didn’t hit him with a “no my brother…. you’ve got to buy your own”. lol.
Exiled
February 28th, 2013
3:35 pm
I just felt my groin stir…
LOL
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
3:36 pm
My nether regions…whew buddy.
I’m getting back to work….later
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 28th, 2013
3:39 pm
“just felt my groin stir…”
I guess dude was really putting in work!!! Just a mere thought and there you go…..
Bluzgirl
February 28th, 2013
3:41 pm
There hasn’t been anyone here worthy of an office romance since that dude and that was about 12-13 years ago! We still chat every once in a while and he hints at hooking up sometimes, but I’m not attracted to him anymore. Good memories, though! It’s just a shame that I confided in a “friend” and she spread the word.
I did have the hots for the president of the CU years ago and we had a flirty thing after he left, but nothing real came of it. He was married with two kids anyway. He was absolutely beautiful!!!
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
3:42 pm
Courtside – My boo might would leave me if he knew of the flashbacks I just experienced. Whew buddy
Imma leave this alone
Byyyye
Exiled
February 28th, 2013
3:45 pm
Cel..of ALL the dudes in ur escapades, who takes the prize for hitting the spot the best?
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 28th, 2013
3:45 pm
I am in the process of setting up a workplace thing right now….. She is one of our outside sales reps so she only comes into the office a few times a month.. But she is that worldly (speaks like 3 or four languages), mysterious type…. Always wears the most fly pumps.. I onces asked her why she never wears stockings , and she told me that saves her stockings and her garters for after hours activities… She is married but her hubby is like 60 and and she is a prime 52…….
MsAtl
February 28th, 2013
3:47 pm
Disco- I shared them until I realized how much he ate, lol. That’s when I told him there was a candy store in the mall.
Exiled
February 28th, 2013
3:47 pm
oghhh, uall ladies(I aint forgetting u at all..even the now married chics) can participate if u, like Cel..feel there is somebody in ur casual past who was fiiiiiiiiiiiiire!..in bed