Dating just for fun?
I find it fascinating how the same people who claim not to want a serious relationship turn out to be the first person to catch feelings. It’s sort of like “protesting too much” because they are quick to say it’s all good with no strings. The reality is that they are actually wearing their heart on their sleeves, hoping things get serious!
Men crack me up claiming they are not that type of dude or proclaim “they won’t trip over some broad” because they like things casual. These are the ones that start stalking you at Kroger when you don’t return his phone calls!
How does dating for fun work, then? When people are truly only interested in companionship and/or sex with no commitment, how does it get so complicated?
If you follow the dating for fun approach to dating, do you find that people are apprehensive about seeing you again?
Is it necessary to actually say you are just dating for fun or will your actions kind of show it?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Leggs
February 28th, 2013
11:37 am
Albert ~ you sound jilted. But if I remember correctly, you’ve had a bad run at dating lately?
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
11:41 am
I had the Mr. Silky Smooth to follow me a couple of time, but I wouldn’t call that stalking. I had resolved at that point to not talk to him, so he was intentional about trying to get us to meet and talk. Stalking is a strong word.
abc
February 28th, 2013
11:47 am
I’ve been stalked. Even with the chick in another state, she could tell me of comings and goings around my house. Threats from local friends. Obviously, I didn’t appreciate it. It only had the effect of making a bolder period following The. End.
Durty Bird (Dating Msatl would be fun)
February 28th, 2013
11:47 am
@Disco…too funny!
Speaking of doing stupid things when you were a kid. There was an old potato chip factory in the neighborhood that was closed on the weekend. They did not have security, so me and my boys would climb the fence go thru one of the windows they would leave open and proceed to load-up. We would bring home boxes of potato chips and sale them to the kids in the hood for a dime.
Leggs
February 28th, 2013
11:51 am
Good grief, Celisea. Have you reported to your IT Dept?
kimmie
February 28th, 2013
11:51 am
I think people do over-use the term stalking now, and I agree it is a very strong accusation.
disco
February 28th, 2013
11:53 am
DB – we would climb the fence (or squeeze through if you were thin enough) of the frito lay company. we’d take boxes of stuff out of the dumpster. it was the stuff that the trucks tossed at the end of the day apparently pulled from store shelves because of the expiration date. we then sold stuff at school for a quarter. lol.
HST
February 28th, 2013
11:55 am
I was a master at dating casually, and had many casual relationships that were for over 2 decades. That’s right 2 decades – since HS.
My rules were simple.
1. Never tell or brag about a conquest unless it it with the other participant.
2. Always be a gentleman.
3. Never lie.
4. Always keep your obligations. (At one point I felt like the obligatory Marriage Ceremony date. Was it because I was an educated man, well-groomed, well spoken, self-reliant, dependable, and owned a tux or an assortment of proper suits? You bet.)
5. Never ignore another woman even if you happen upon her while out with another – address her properly, it won’t be awkward, and she’ll (the woman not with you) be thinking of you after it 90% of the time, after the introduction.
6. Always respond within that 72 hour period women set for us men to respond by.
7. take her somewhere nice, or a place with thought with personal involvement to make the date happen.
8. Always keep it casual, but that isn’t to mean to not be romantic.
9. Like every human, women especially want to feel wanted. Pay attention to her, and give her that attention she deserves.
9. I know I said it, however, one again, BE A GENTLEMAN.
I never had a problem following these rules, and I’m sure there’s a few more that are more my quirkiness, but those rules of engagement have never failed or kept a woman around casually.
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
11:56 am
Heeey, where’s my email
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
11:57 am
Leggs – I was pretty much saying, the emails are coming to my personal emails and that if I could delete the spam folder from my phone that would be perfect. I would just delete from my computer every now and then, when I go in and clean out spam. But I’m seeing each and every one as they come in.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 28th, 2013
12:01 pm
Damn HST…. Sounds alot like my playbook…. Sincerity,honor, and respect will take you along way when properly applied……
disco
February 28th, 2013
12:03 pm
sincerity, honor and respect? pssst. that ain’t nothing but game. lol. that’s that “gentleman game” right there. LOLOL.
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
12:04 pm
I’m hungry
Leggs
February 28th, 2013
12:06 pm
Oh, coming to your personal account. That makes sense. Well, since you’re shouting out for your email, MLB is now under the spotlight. Wasn’t sure if you dubbed someone here in Atl Silky Smooth.
Durty Bird (Dating Msatl would be fun)
February 28th, 2013
12:06 pm
Msatl….I am just saying what I mean and plan on doing what I say….As adults of course we would have that conversation if during the dating process we progressed to another level. P.S. I can only handle one woman at a time.
@Celisea can I have your personal e-mail address I need to send you some scriptures… lol
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
12:08 pm
Durty – You sure you ain’t already got it? lololololol
Not that Silky Smooth…lol I just naming an ex as that…lol
HST
February 28th, 2013
12:09 pm
Courtside, how would you not apply sincerity,honor, and respect properly? besides lying or pretending? Maybe that just just answered my question, and with Disco’s remarks it seems I might be on target.
Disco, jaded or bitter much, or do you just choose the biggest looser?
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 28th, 2013
12:09 pm
Come on disco….. it’s not game if you are legit when you apply it…
Robert
February 28th, 2013
12:09 pm
“How does dating for fun work ? ”
I can only speak for myself. I am very careful not to send the wrong signal to women. From my experience women are emotional and can easily mistake a casual relationship for a serious relationship if they find you appealing and worthy of their love and affection. I try to be honest and tell my date how I feel regardless.
HST
February 28th, 2013
12:11 pm
Celisea, eat something girl.
How’s the M car doing?
disco
February 28th, 2013
12:12 pm
HST – jaded? bitter? naw. just comical. I got jokes.
HST
February 28th, 2013
12:14 pm
Never had that problem Robert. I always was up front with my intent, and if she thought differently – that’s her issues not mine. I certainly wouldn’t entertain even listening to such dribble. I kind of think women like that as well. If they didn’t then that was the end of that.
HST
February 28th, 2013
12:15 pm
Disco, you do have jokes.
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
12:16 pm
I don’t think I’m shouting out, and certainly not to the MLB. I’m speaking solely to stalking. Real stalking versus bumping into someone on the bread aisle, say twice in one ain’t the same.
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
12:17 pm
HST – I’m on a call but as soooon as we’re done, I’m eating…lol
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
12:18 pm
twice in one visit….ain’t the same
is how that should have read
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
12:18 pm
HST – Oh the car is fantab!!
SlimNu
February 28th, 2013
12:18 pm
Celisea – Well why haven’t you simply had their email address blocked?
MsAtl
February 28th, 2013
12:20 pm
Durty- First time I heard a man say he can only handle one woman at a time.
Celisea- Lol. Do your stalker emails contain scriptures? If so, you might be on to something.
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
12:20 pm
SlimNu – Cause I can just delete them
I just don’t want them coming to my phone. Otherwise, I’m good at putting the ig on whomever it is and hitting delete. Really, I’m not bothered. I just mentioned the stalking.
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
12:21 pm
Did you miss where I said I don’t read them? I don’t,I just hit “empty”
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
12:22 pm
MsAtl – I don’t read them. They might!!
MsAtl
February 28th, 2013
12:26 pm
D’oh! I missed that part…
SlimNu
February 28th, 2013
12:28 pm
Um….okeeyyyyy ???
SlimNu
February 28th, 2013
12:32 pm
You said you read some of them because the 1st line or subject line is catchy…seems like you can save yourself the trouble of deleting the frequent emails by just blocking them. But whatever works for you
Leggs
February 28th, 2013
12:34 pm
Celisea ~ oh, gotcha. Why you asking for your email. Thinking out loud (lol).
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
12:35 pm
Slim – Yep, it works for me to igg whomever it is…lol If a person wants to spend their time sending timed naughty emails (who does that), then knock yaself out. It’s much much much easier to just empty the trash, rather than going through blocking folks. Too, I’m sure the sender knows how to do ghost addys.
That is all
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
12:36 pm
Leggs – I didn’t ask for my email. Durty asked being funny and I asked him if he’s sure he ain’t already go it.
BTW, like I said yesterday, I don’t jokie joke or make mockery of the Word. I know it was suppose to be a joke, but um I’on go there with that. That’s where my health and strength, blessings, uplifts, encouragement….all of it come from. Some things, IMO and for me solely, you shouldn’t play with.
Not tryna tell folks, just saying I can’t engage on the scriptures jokie jokes.
HST
February 28th, 2013
12:39 pm
Nice Celesiea, I’ll admit I never had anything but problems with M cars, but they were all AMG. One had more warranty work than I paid for the car. I would lease them, and trade them in for a new one when the lease/warranty ended. That made me dislike M AMG cars, but then my GF got the C350. What a world of difference, everything always worked, ran like a scolded dog everytime I drove it (my GF is a speed freak as well, so she gave it no quarter either), and it had zero warranty or problems.
Now she has taken over my R8 (it’s the V8 not V10) as her daily. Whatever, it’s a piece of crap like an AMG. She’s already had to have 3 major warranty jobs done in less than a year. I’m kind of glad, because the car was just sitting in my garage, and I would have never put the mileage on it to get to those problems before warranty was over. Just so all you guys can be like “Biotch is driving his R8 daily”…it gets better…it’s a manual. She recently handed my buddy his arse in his new P car on some back roads. I still dislike all sport/super German cars due to reliability.
A C350 could be used as an underground bunker that car is so tuff.
HST
February 28th, 2013
12:43 pm
How does luxury items increase annually, but the economic state of the world is in trouble? How conglomerates get away with price increases in this economy is beyond me…
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
12:45 pm
HST – I bought the extended warranty…to be on the safe side. Funny though you mentioned AMG. How bout I hit something on raggedy 285 and thought I had a flat. Well how about I cracked my rims. I’m thinking oh $400 or so. Nooooo, the dealer said, “oh the new C350s have AMG rims and it’s gonna be $900
Of course that wasn’t covered under warranty.
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
12:46 pm
Rim…just cracked one. Of course I know the manager at one of the Kaufman Tire locations and he knows a dude that repaired for me for $150…but yeah, bad car….smooth ride. Feels more like a BMW than a benz.
Leggs
February 28th, 2013
12:49 pm
You asked at 11:56, that’s why I asked (lol). Gotcha…
abc
February 28th, 2013
1:14 pm
Just say “Lexus”. Actually, I’m over Lexus. I want a Tesla S.
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
1:22 pm
Every woman should learn how to drive an automatic….of course and again (disclaimer), just my opinion.
My daddy taught me, partly. My little dumb self went out and bought a brand new 5 speed Corolla…lol And on the Saturday I was maid of honor in my bff’s wedding. Naturally, I jerked all the way back from yondersville, I think it was Alpharetta where I bought the car. Needless to say after that, I knew WELL how to drive an automatic
Celisea
February 28th, 2013
1:23 pm
I could smell the clutch burning though, by the time I made it back to Atlanta….
Off to lunch
SlimNu
February 28th, 2013
1:28 pm
My first NEW car was a stick and my stepdad taught me in one weekend how to drive that thang. Sometimes I miss driving a stick but the minute I hit traffic, i’m greatful that i don’t drive one anymore.
DuShawn
February 28th, 2013
1:37 pm
Just confirmed my Jazz in Gardens transportation and accommodations. I am so looking forward to that weekend.
MsAtl
February 28th, 2013
1:41 pm
I learned how to drive a stick, but those hills in Germany had me stalling all over the place! I haven’t driven one in 20 years and probably couldn’t today.
Albert
February 28th, 2013
1:48 pm
Leggs, I haven’t dated in years. Every woman I meet is either married or otherwise taken. And yes, I have been jilted.