Romantic comedies made us cynical?
My friend Paul said that romantic comedies, romance novels, and sexy vampires are making women become cynics. If regular men don’t chase us all over town or doing some grand romantic gesture, some women actually feel disappointed.
I argued that no smart woman is walking around trying to be Nina Moseley to someone’s Darius Lovehall. There is no Katherine Heigel type women storing 27 bridesmaids dresses in her closet. We get that Hollywood love and real life love are vastly different things!
Granted, the right man, brave enough to open his heart and declare his love would probably be well-received. Do we really get disappointed if men don’t act out a love story from a movie? I just don’t think so.
If anything makes us cynical, it’s the emotional roller coaster we get stuck on trying to navigate a dating relationship. Maybe those romantic comedies serve as an escape from all of that. What do you think?
Guys, do you feel pressure to do all the crazy in love things men do in movies? Do you get the sense that the women you date create or manufacture drama, just so they can play out some twisted scene from a movie character’s life?
Happy Wednesday!
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166 comments Add your comment
Lee
February 27th, 2013
7:11 am
No drama here unless you lie, then that is on you. Movie character now that is funny–never heard of that one.
One major thing i am waiting for is: when a man words and actions equal the same. Not say one thing and do another.
SlimNu
February 27th, 2013
8:19 am
I surely hope folks aren’t trying to act out antics they see on tv….Almost always, the chick dips out because the dude did something crazy or betrayed her in some way….he tries to hide his hurt at first but as the music montague goes on, you can see he’s really struggling not having her around…he gets some hair brain idea or showing up at one of her favorites spots (more often times than not, it’s in a public place or at some event) and he confesses his love for her. She’s impressed by his conviction and disregard for embarrassment and they fade to black in an embrace as she looks into his eyes thinking, “What the hell took you so long”.
That is SOOOOO not real life….
MissMoni
February 27th, 2013
8:31 am
GOOD Wednesday Morning MIA!!!
-Lee I totally agree in reference to waiting on when a man’s words and actions equal the same thing.
Personally, I love a good romantic comedy or just a good romantic movie period. Watched Love & Basketball last night on BET for the umpteenth time. However the older I get, my perspective changes on these romance movies. It’s nice to want what they have in the movies, but you have to be realistic and know that the movie is scripted versus your real life which is not. I so don’t want the additional drama, there’s gonna be natural drama that occurs regardless just because that’s life. . . I just want the man to be himself, because if he’s acting then that will eventually come out as well.
Button
February 27th, 2013
9:21 am
Good hump day! I remember harlequin romance novels and I can see how it can make some women cynical. Most men are not that romantic hence the high sale volumns of romance novels/movie…alas the fantasies begin and the drama begin.
SlimNu
February 27th, 2013
9:27 am
Most men are not that romantic hence the high sale volumns of romance novels/movie
Button – Seems like men would use that lack of romance to their advantage and start getting ROMANTICO lol I think for women, thoughtfulness can take you a long way. That’s an aphrodiciac in itself
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
February 27th, 2013
9:34 am
“declare his love” is the operative phrase in the whole post
That’s what gets ladies stuck, the ‘declaration’ of love. The ‘butterflies’, the ‘tingling feeling’, all the ‘emotions’ that get these ladies stuck come from these movies.
Truth is, love is all that; and like is another thing
disco
February 27th, 2013
9:44 am
good morning. I think some folks are born cynical. others may grow cynical. still I don’t see any point in blaming it on the movies. it is what it is.
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
9:55 am
I don’t think I’ve ever mixed fantasy with reality. I was reared in the real world and taught very early how to separate the real from the not so real. Maybe that’s why I’m seem a bit brutal when it comes to honesty. Cause really, there’s a lot of fantisizing going on and it ain’t just with romance and it ain’t just in the movies….lololol I might even add that the “woman” in me is a romantic…yuuuup shole is, but even with that, I don’t get that mixed, twisted nor distorted.
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
9:58 am
Paul himself needs to stop paying attention to romantic comedies, novels and such.
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
10:09 am
My friend Paul said that romantic comedies, romance novels, and sexy vampires are making women become cynics. If regular men don’t chase us all over town or doing some grand romantic gesture, some women actually feel disappointed.
Diva, I think your friend is off the mark a bit. IMO…..Most women that are truly cynical, sort of become that way as a result of all the bad (decisions) she’s encountered. Not because by comparison the dude in the real world ain’t putting it down (sex, gifts, poems, love, love, love) like the dude in the movies.
disco
February 27th, 2013
10:18 am
if I got to play out the life of a romantic comedy character I suppose I could pull off eva (deliver us from eva). that one wouldn’t be much of a stretch for me anyway. plus she and LL “burned a hole in the floor”. lol. hmm. I didn’t envy any of the chicks in the best man but if I had to pick one I suppose the stripper (candy) hit the best lick in that movie. dag. I’m drawing a blank. I can’t even think of any romantic comedies.
MsAtl
February 27th, 2013
10:25 am
Morning All!
Any cynicism I possess comes from games, lack of truthfullness, etc. on the part of men I have come into contact with (not all), not from any expectation that men will confirm to some idea of romanticism in the mind of a writer. I enjoy romantic comedies but recognize them as a form of entertainment, not real life. While it looks good on film, I can’t really picture a man on stage telling me “I’m the blues in your right thigh trying to become the funk in your right.”
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
10:36 am
Morning!!!
Romance movies and novels stretch things a bit, but I still believe my Prince Charming will come one day. I don’t expect it to be like a movie or fairytale at all. I think he’ll be just the right amount of romantic. I’ve had several guy friends through my life tell me that the right man for me will put me on a pedastool (sp?) and if he doesn’t, I need to KIM. Maybe it’s time for me to listen to that!
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
10:41 am
I can just envision Fabio right about now…
Ripped and muscle-ee, sporting an eight pack, Adonis hair blowing in the wind, bronzed, chiseled and square jawed. Awe inspiring and just took my breath away….”uggggh, I can’t breeeeth, while looking at him”
I’m cracking up typing this….lololololol
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
10:42 am
“He’s my weakness,I cannot live without him”……How’s that for t.v. :mgreen:
disco
February 27th, 2013
10:43 am
bluz – I have to admit that I giggled at your spelling. pedastool. that’s funny girl. not because it’s misspelled but because I can see pedestal being one level and pedastoool being that level before you get to the pedestal level. lol.
disco
February 27th, 2013
10:44 am
celisea – really or are you joking? Fabio? what’s the draw with him? I don’t see it.
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
10:44 am
LOL disco! I knew it didn’t look right, but I still don’t feel well and didn’t have the strength to look it up! HAHA
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
10:50 am
disco – You missed my “lols” and overall performance. I tossed out Fabio cause he used to be the face of Romance, per se. He’s played out now. Back then though, tell me you didn’t see him sketched on the cover of a softback romance novel, holding some woman in a comprising position?
I’d be lying if I said I haven’t read one or two in my lifetime, but two of my sisters were queens of romance novels/movies. I have one now that still gets carried away. So, I was recalling some of the books I saw on the bookshelves and how they’d be laid across the bed, all caught up….lololol
I ain’t gon lie though, the young dude on the diet coke commercial is banging
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
10:51 am
Frankly, that’s ain’t the face of sexy for me. Give me clean cut and well groomed…whether he’s hanging a suit or wearing nice jeans. He ain’t gotta be pretty, just well put together.
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
10:52 am
I wouldn’t mind a Christian Grey from 50 Shades of Grey, though! Yummy!!!
abc
February 27th, 2013
10:54 am
If you find the right person, it really is all that. Me and sweetie are a Hallmark movie. With the right one, it’s isn’t difficult, it doesn’t really even take much, if any, extra effort. ‘Course, you have to be their right person, too. You get what you give; you attract what you are; everybody gets exactly what they deserve.
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
10:54 am
that ain’t, not that’s aint….
Dirty Bird ( Romancing Ms. Atl
February 27th, 2013
10:54 am
Good Morning!
MsAtl…I am saying this on the MIA blog (this will have to substitute for the stage) ….“I am going to be the blues in your right thigh trying to become the funk in your right.”.
What else do you desire? (:)
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
10:55 am
it’s blues in your right thigh, trying to become the funk in your left (thigh)…not two right thighs….
carry on…….
disco
February 27th, 2013
10:56 am
C – saw it but even with lol’s you can’t always be sure without checking. there are a lot of so-called sex symbols that I wonder how they made the list.
bluz – I never read the books but did they have a picture of him or just a description?
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
10:57 am
“……..blues in your right thigh, tryna become the funk in your left. Alright, alriiiiight.”
Lorenz got down in that movie, Yes he did!!
disco
February 27th, 2013
10:59 am
C – if a person can have two left feet, why can’t they have two right thighs? lol.
oh and larenz is a sexy little thang to be so petite.
Dirty Bird ( The romancing of MsAtl)
February 27th, 2013
11:04 am
I can only work on one thigh at a time…. Thank you Ms. Fabio…lol
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
11:07 am
I wouldn’t mind a chiseled brother as described in Disappearing Acts (and having Wesley Snipes portray him sickened me).
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
11:07 am
Durty – One thigh at a time means you need to work on your skills then…lol
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
11:08 am
Alright, gotta get to work for now……
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
11:17 am
I agree, abc!
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
11:17 am
BTW abc, every time I see your moniker I think of 123 and have been playing it all last week. Don’t you know it fell Saturday evening, and I didn’t play it!!!!
disco
February 27th, 2013
11:18 am
leggs – that’s why I asked if there was a pic or just a description. you know you can create a character in your mind. I, too, was disappointed by Wesley getting that role. uggh. lol. also in the walter mosley books, as much as I love me some don cheadle I just don’t think cheadle fits the description of mouse. I love how he said “you won’t me to shoot this MFer easy” in devil in a blue dress. lol.
Durty Bird ( I think Celisea wants me)
February 27th, 2013
11:25 am
@Leggs what is going on with the Deklab county school board?
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 27th, 2013
11:25 am
Am I the only person that notices that the best friend/ buddy/ wing man/girl seems to be the person that has all the fun in those movies??? The stay laid, always have a pocket full of money and /or don’t give a damn about going to work……..
MsAtl
February 27th, 2013
11:26 am
Dirty- You are not up for this challenge, lol.
Disco- I am cracking up at you; I don’t get the draw of Fabio either, but I get why Celisea named him, being on all the books. We get an idea in our minds of what a character looks like and have to struggle through the movie watching someone else play it…
disco
February 27th, 2013
11:30 am
ms atl – Fabio. ewww. just when I think Fabio I think ewww. I can’t even say it’s the hair (which to me is a huge turnoff) because that brett Michaels guy doesn’t look bad and he’s got the same hair thing going on.
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
11:31 am
Durty – Boy stop….lol Oh yes, please do!!!
Actually, Fabio ain’t exactly my idea of “romance” nor does he come to mind, if I’m really thinking “hmmmm, who what that be?” I just remember back in the what 80s, him being the cat’s meow. I would say that’s probably (and again), bored housewives. Like I said, for me…..clean cut, well groomed, mannerable, gainfully employed, etc etc etc. Y’all can keep them pretty dudes and share amongst yourselves (not y’all…IJS). I ain’t knocking nice looking. I do that all day long. I”m talking fantasy.
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
11:39 am
Too, them pretty cats feel entitled. Why, I don’t know. It’s been those dudes that came with that cookie cutter stuff, that I happily shot down. That stuff that’s been worked over time and time again by chicks that just fell over for it….lol You can smell bullcrappery a gazillion miles away. Most times, I just find it amazing when you don’t fall for it, they’re shocked. It’s those dudes that go into the “you’re a cynical chick.” Kind of like throwing back at you, cause you didn’t fall the okie doke.
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
11:42 am
Had to step out for a quick meeting…
disco – no picture of him, but a great description. My friends and I kept looking online for people we thought he would look at. Look up Leandro Lima…that’s who I picture as Christian! Beautiful man!!!
disco
February 27th, 2013
11:43 am
C – your post reminds me of the time a guy was just all up in my face giving me the bedroom eyes, batting his little lashes and whatnot. no play. anyone who knows me knows I don’t do “funny colored” eyes. to me any eye that isn’t brown is funny colored (and as far as I’m concerned scary looking). I don’t think I could wake up to it day in and day out.
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
11:46 am
disco – Been there many times, looking a dude who’s watching his own reflection in your pupils…lol Yeah, I feel ya on the no play. I don’t take issue with “funny colored eyes.” I have a girlfriend that’s got hazel eyes.
disco
February 27th, 2013
11:46 am
bluz – one pic he looked alright. the others, naw. he’s also extremely thin (and got the nerve to be posing with no shirt on with all that little bird chest showing – lol).
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
11:48 am
Okay, I’ve been killing time on a call that lasted two hours. The call just ended. Gotta get to work…..for real this time. I guess being a part of the (NC) team, I have to sit in but really none of it concerns me. So, I get to be preoccupied while they talk.
BBL…….
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 27th, 2013
11:48 am
Didn’t Fabio get hit in the face by a bird while he was on a rollercoaster???
disco
February 27th, 2013
11:51 am
C –one of my cousins has been effectively nicknamed the “little blue eyed boy”. he had to get those eyes from his “other people”. lol. I can tolerate them in general but I’m never going to be the one to gush and talk about they got pretty eyes and I’m not likely to ever date a guy with them. they disturb me.
Courtside – huh?
MsAtl
February 27th, 2013
11:53 am
Courtside- I do recall hearing about that. Didn’t the bird break his nose or something?
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
11:54 am
Dirty ~ they’re slow as rocks, mean spirited and clueless. I think..lol. Boy, I don’t know what’s wrong with the school board. I don’t have any insider information (lol).
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 27th, 2013
11:55 am
Hey disco…..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U8PgcCe3P_c
Thats was really funnny to me!!!
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
11:57 am
disco – I think it’s the one pic of just his face that’s in black and white…something about his eyes! Christian has grey eyes and a chisled face…mmmmm
disco
February 27th, 2013
12:01 pm
speaking of chiseled (and tying into yesterday’s discussion on young’uns) there were two prime specimens at the gym last night. I remember thinking they just looked like someone chiseled them out of chocolate marble or something. those little young boys were cut up something nice. (and I just literally shook my head to do away with the image. sort of like clearing the etch a sketch).
did anyone take blog attendance today? I think we are going to have to send notes home with a few folks.
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
12:12 pm
Right?!?! Where all the other cool people (besides us) at?!?!
Mrs. SexyCool
February 27th, 2013
12:26 pm
Romantic comedies only make cynics or dreamers out of those that don’t understand that it’s fiction.
MsAtl
February 27th, 2013
12:40 pm
Courtside- That video was funny. And if he does not stop shaking his hair & brushing it back. At what age does a man let go of the flowing hair thing? I am not even going there with Stevie Wonder holding onto those braids in the back of his head! He gets a pass because he can’t see his head (going to hell for that one, lol).
Disco- Laughing at you shaking your head to clear the image. Nothing wrong with admiring.
disco
February 27th, 2013
12:50 pm
ms atl – I have an uncle who held onto his curl way longer than the rest of the world held on to their curls. his was long and hung down his back. you couldn’t tell him nothing. he then started losing hair in the front/center but still kept that curl going. he eventually had a full fledged ball spot on top and still wasn’t ready to let go of the curl. he finally, only in recent years, shaved his head.
SlimNu
February 27th, 2013
12:54 pm
cool people
Someone rannnnnnnnnng?
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
1:02 pm
Hey Slim!!!! What’s “Nu”?
:roll: On the Prowl
February 27th, 2013
1:08 pm
Looking.
On the Prowl
February 27th, 2013
1:17 pm
shopping allowance
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
1:33 pm
I guess the blog has died for the day? I’ll check back in later…
Durty Bird ( I think Celisea wants me)
February 27th, 2013
1:33 pm
MsAtl- I am always up and I love a challenge..
SlimNu
February 27th, 2013
1:45 pm
Bluz – I have nothing Nu to report thus far…guess there isn’t that much gossip around town going on. I didn’t come to work last Wednesday, and the task that I normally do had to be done by 4 ppl while I was out. So today everybody kept telling me how bad and backed up things were and it made them appreciate when I am here. So that was a nice ego stroke for me today.
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
1:46 pm
Mrs SC ~ you definitely summed that up nicely.
DuShawn
February 27th, 2013
1:55 pm
zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz…….yawn………….fart. Damn yall boring.
SlimNu
February 27th, 2013
1:56 pm
MsAtl – I wonder the very same thing with regard to guys with corn rolls….or dreads. I have a guy friend from school that has locks but he’s balding at the top of his head and it doesn’t look that good. I wish he’d just cut it off. I mean, does it matter how long your hair is in the back it the top looks like shiny bowling ball?
SlimNu
February 27th, 2013
1:57 pm
DuShawn – You stank!
DuShawn
February 27th, 2013
1:59 pm
Has any one seen this movie “Snow on da Bluff”. I stumbled on to it last night on netflix. Man….it made me get up and make sure my back door was locked.
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
2:03 pm
Then that means I don’t need to see it DuShawn. I scare easily. My child surprised me with a home visit while I was cooking dinner. I’m so thankful my quick reflexes didn’t have me releasing the knives I had in my hand when she jumped into the house.
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
2:07 pm
Slim – It sure is nice when people miss you when you are out! Makes them see what all you really do!!!
I’ve been sick the past few days and haven’t been able to call out cause I’ve had too much work to do! Glad my doctor called in an antibiotic for me today. Can’t wait to get it started!
DuShawn
February 27th, 2013
2:08 pm
It wasn’t a horror flick. Just about some dope boy in Atlanta robbing people. I would recommend it. It’s a special film.
disco
February 27th, 2013
2:11 pm
I saw my little crush guy today y’all. I had a love and basketball moment. remember when old girl said she could just lick the sweat off of him. yep. that’s what I was thinking. shame on me. lol.
DuShawn
February 27th, 2013
2:14 pm
Lunch time observation: I went to Olive Garden for lunch. While people watching, I noticed this punk with a baby. It got me to thinking. Do you think two gay men raising a male child significantly increases the probabilty the he will be gay as well?
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
2:18 pm
I don’t think I’ve ever seen someone and thought I wouldn’t mind licking the sweat off him, BUT, I get what you’re saying (lol).
Got it, DuShawn.
disco
February 27th, 2013
2:20 pm
leggs – I don’t know if it’s good or bad. lol.
dushawn – no I do not have a problem with gays having/raising children but apparently a lot of folks do. recently on the radio, with the boy scout drama, they had a call in essentially asking how folks felt about gay men in “role model” positions. I wish I could say I was surprised at the number of people who felt like gay men shouldn’t have jobs. lol. okay, that’s not what they said but they shouldn’t be scout leaders, shouldn’t be teachers, shouldn’t hold church positions, the list went on and on. I just drove along shaking my head.
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
2:21 pm
disco – Just love those moments!!!!
Du – I don’t think it increases the chances of the baby being gay at all!!!
I’m crushing on a guy that I have to get out of my head!!! He and I would make a great couple, but he’s my friend’s recent ex boyfriend. He came out to see me play on Friday and that’s really the first time I noticed that I liked him! I’ve known him for years and always thought he was attractive. I guess we have recently talked a little more about personal things. I have to let him go, though. My friend is really in love with him…oh well…
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
2:22 pm
disco – it makes me mad that people think that way. Just because a man is gay doesn’t mean he’s going to be a pervert! I would be more concerned about a single man with no kids couching my kid over a gay man!
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
2:23 pm
I’ve thought that very thing before DuShawn, but I don’t think it will. Supposedly, you are either born that way or not and your environment doesn’t make you gay, unless the world consisted only of men.
But, was the punk guy gay or just a punk?
disco
February 27th, 2013
2:25 pm
bluz – you gotta get out of your circle. seems like you date too many folks within the same group. broaden your horizons girl. lol.
leggs – I completely ignored that. I don’t equate punk with gay. to me punk is just a soft buster no fight in him type dude.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 27th, 2013
2:26 pm
DuShawn,
I don’t think so…But I also believe that a most gay people are BORN that way…..
abc
February 27th, 2013
2:26 pm
DuShawn: yes, I think so. Representing homosexuality as a norm would make it more likely to become an adopted lifestyle.
I do not think that gay men should be allowed to be scout leaders. There was a gay scoutmaster when I was a kid; his son was in our troop; he molested perhaps 20-25 of the boys in the troop. Nature hikes. Sickening.
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
2:26 pm
Being gay is a choice. People aren’t born gay. God made them male and female.
MsAtl
February 27th, 2013
2:27 pm
Bluz- Step away from the friend’s ex…
DuShawn- I do not have an issue with gay people raising children; I have a problem with nincompoops, abusers, and druggies raising children. As far as teachers are concerned, as long as he or she knows how to teach, I don’t care about their orientation. It seems lately that the female teachers are the ones messing with the male students.
Disco- Lick the sweat off him? I’m cringing, lol.
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
2:28 pm
disco – I’m surprised at your response. Normally you’re are nails and pins and usually respond like a dude. A bit of softness, eh?
abc
February 27th, 2013
2:28 pm
Regarding being born that way or adopting the behavior somehow: I don’t think many DL men are gay before they are incarcerated.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 27th, 2013
2:30 pm
If that is the case, then we should not let men teach young girls cause they might moleste them or let women teach young boys because we have all heard of female teachers screwing 13 year old boys right???
disco
February 27th, 2013
2:30 pm
I know countless chicks who “went gay” after having had several kids. I know a few guys who were in gay denial, fathered some kids and then decided to respect the truth. I don’t think what or who they do necessarily affects their ability to parent. good parent or bad parent I don’t think being gay is what determines that.
celisea – gay men are still male. lesbians are still female. at least in most cases. sure don’t want to open up the whole transgender can of worms. lol.
ms atl – well do you at least remember the scene in the movie? lol. I’m seeking justification. that wasn’t my thought. I just borrowed a thought from a movie. a romantic comedy no less. I am on topic. lol.
DuShawn
February 27th, 2013
2:31 pm
I like to eat alone and observe people. I watched how he/she interacted with the child and concluded that person appears to be a good parent. I wondered however, how the child would end up. I learned how to be a man by watching and imitating my father and other men. If a kid grows up watching a he/she day in and day out, wouldn’t he be conditioned to emulate that example?
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
2:32 pm
disco ~ lust is good (when you can handle it). Not like Jimmy Carter feeling bad because he had lust in his heart and loins (lol)
SlimNu
February 27th, 2013
2:33 pm
disco/Leggs – I was just telling my coworkers yesterday that I saw this guy that was working for a amored car company. He came out carrying a money bag, all strapped in his bullet proof vest and what not…I felt like when I passed by him checking him out, that a fan was blowing my hair in the wind as we walked in slow motion lol He was a cutie pa tootie
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
2:33 pm
My brothers were Cub Scouts and Boy Scouts and there was a huge mess of molestation going on and this was in the 70s. Talk about my mama snatching them out. IMO, children getting molested happens at the hands of folks that lack morals, decorum and decency. Now you can be gay, straight….whatever.
DuShawn
February 27th, 2013
2:35 pm
punk, sissy, transgender whateva…..he was one of them.
disco
February 27th, 2013
2:36 pm
dushawn – I have a friend who is a gay male. he fathered a child before coming to terms with the fact that he was gay. when it came out his son’s mother was livid. she played the “you can’t see my son” games and all that for awhile. with time she came around. his son is now about 14 and is a fabulous child. trust me, if he was bad, ignorant, disrespectful, anything I’d call him on it. this particular gay friend is on the ball.
slim – not that your hair was “windswept”. lol. you go girl.
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
2:38 pm
disco – I know girl…I know…At least this guy is a successful musician, has a full time job as an IT tech, has his own house and cars. It’s a shame cause he’s a cutie!!!
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
2:38 pm
disco – No can of worms here, but with being made male and female, comes the nature of male (within male) and the nature of female (within female). He got it right the first time
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
2:39 pm
I just want to know how a man gets it up for a woman, all while not knowing he’s gay and then when “realizes” he’s gay, can’t get it up for a woman but can for a man…..
Just things to ponder….
Back to lurking for me.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 27th, 2013
2:40 pm
I have a cousin… One of ten kids. 6 boys and 4 girls. All of the girls are strait and 6 of the boys are. He says he is as he has been for his entire life. No trama to send him there, no closet molestation… He is just who he is… and BTW, he has been in a commited relationship for nearly 25 years, and has twin ( adopted) sons that are strait and knocking down chics like bowling pins!!!
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
2:40 pm
“I watched how he/she…”
disco, that’s why I asked because for him to have the thought on gays suggested the punk guy was too effeminate. That’s how I read it.
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
2:41 pm
punk, sissy, transgender whateva…..he was one of them. – LOLOL
kimmie
February 27th, 2013
2:42 pm
Hey Gang!
Hard at work today, just stopped by to speak.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 27th, 2013
2:42 pm
5 of the boys not six…
MsAtl
February 27th, 2013
2:44 pm
Disco- I don’t remember that scene. You are going to make me go home and watch the movie now…
disco
February 27th, 2013
2:45 pm
C – as far as parenting goes, in my opinion, the “nature” of male/female isn’t as important as being the standup man/woman necessary to parent the child. heck, all kinds of “natural” males/females ain’t doing right by their kids. I make the same argument when folks talk about people adopting kids of different races. sure I’d probably like it if every child could be with parents of their own racial background but if there aren’t any stepping up and parents of another race are, I’m all for it. who am I to talk about who is adopting who when I’m not adopting anybody?
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
2:45 pm
One of ten kids. 6 boys and 4 girls. All of the girls are strait and 6 of the boys are. – Is this funny math.
SlimNu
February 27th, 2013
2:46 pm
abc – Were you a part of those 20 – 25?
disco
February 27th, 2013
2:47 pm
ms atl – first quarter (they are at Q’s basketball game) and the girls in the stands are talking about him. the chick who was “sending her coochie through the mail”. you right. I might have to go home and watch that one again myself.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 27th, 2013
2:49 pm
Leggs, I corrected it…4 strait girls and 5 strait boys 1 gay boy….
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
2:49 pm
disco – I wasn’t speaking to rearing, I was just speaking to folks saying they’re born gay.
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
2:49 pm
My best friend is a gay man and his brother is also gay. They grew up in a very Christian, loving environment. They both knew they were gay when they were very young…
I just hate the stigma that gay people are perverts!!! I’ve known many people who were molested by straight men…
I’m gonna have to dip out of this conversation before it makes me mad…
SlimNu
February 27th, 2013
2:51 pm
I have always wondered why it seems that boys that grow up constantly in church, singing and usually has a much older parent, are a bit flamboyant. Anyone else ever noticed that ‘trend’ if I can call it one?
Exiled
February 27th, 2013
2:53 pm
I am ok with gays having same benefits as normal folks if that makes them not be discriminated against.
However I don’t think being gay is what God wants.
But we all are going to find out,aren’t we..
The problem with being ok with gays comes when you actually have to ‘associate’ with them. That’s where my inclusivity gets tested.
This morning when I went for breakfast at the hotel where I’m at, I noticed that the dude who helps out in the kitchen is gay. Folks,this dude walks with a behind waay behind himself,like a woman that to me,it was real nauseating. The breakfast was nothing to write home about and after eating the first box of cereal to start the routine, I decided to get another box since there was nothing there on the breakfast menu that I liked.
That’s when I noticed Mr lady behind,replenishing some items in the freezer that was next to the microwave. I wanted to go warm my milk but on seeing him,I recoiled. I shuddered at the thought of even saying to him,’excuse me’. It felt that foul to me.
I looked around and that’s when I saw another microwave behind me.
I was relieved.
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
2:54 pm
Nevermind, Courtside, I now see your 2:42
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
2:55 pm
Byeeee!!! LOLOLOL
It would just behoove any parent to keep an eye out for their children, at all places at all times, with all people. Sick folks comes in all colors, shapes, sizes, genders, races
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
2:56 pm
Mr. Lady….
abc
February 27th, 2013
2:57 pm
Incidence of teachers having sex with young students seems to be increasing; I don’t know if there’s a corollary to being a gay scouting leader. Maybe, maybe not. If there are to be gay scout leaders, hopefully disclosure of that will be required. My kids wouldn’t be in that troop. I think it’s enough of a controversy that parents deserve to be informed of it.
Homosexuality is a good example of sin that some people want to declare is not a sin. It’s not committing the sin that’s all that; it’s the denial of it even being sin. Episcopalian and ELCA Lutherans have gay clergy. Hmm.
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
2:59 pm
Wow!
Gays having the same benefits as “normal” folks? That statement makes me sick. Being straight does not make you “normal.” Being gay does not make you “abnormal.” Ugh…I’m thoroughly disgusted right now by that mentality.
disco
February 27th, 2013
3:00 pm
C – oh. gotcha.
ex – why was you watching dude’s booty?
abc – we are all sinners. what we (the general public) need to do is worry about our sins and not everybody elses.
SlimNu
February 27th, 2013
3:03 pm
abc – You wouldn’t want your kids in a group where the leader is gay? I can understand if it was a matter of protection from some sort of child molester but even when straight folks apply for coaching/teaching jobs, I don’t believe “what sex do you have relations with” is asked. I would be okay with it, as long as there was no PDA type situations going on with their lover in the presence of the kids. I believe that should be kept totally separate.
One of my best friends is a lesbian, in a relationship with a woman that has 2 girls. My friend also has custody of her nephew and they are both very good parents. The boy is very much into girls and the daugthers are very much into boys. But everyone has their opinion and their right to it.
DuShawn
February 27th, 2013
3:03 pm
I personally believe that some people are born gay or have a predisposition for that lifestyle. I believe it results from a chromosomal disorder, similar to a hermaphrodite. Environment plays a small role. The few gay men I know, we knew they were different as kids. They were playing Double Dutch while the rest of us played football. There is a lesbian couple that’s real cool with our family. The dominant female is butch, but a pretty girl. She tries hard to act like a dude. I asked her why she does it. She told me it’s not an act. It’s who she is. She’s has been that way since she was a little girl. Ironically, she has two children. She must’ve behaved like a female at some point.
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
3:04 pm
Um…having sex outside of missionary style and outside of trying to create a baby is a sin also, isn’t it?
Does one have to disclose being straight to be a scout leader or a teacher? No…why would one have to disclose being gay? I don’t think your child can become gay just by having a gay scout leader who may shake his hand. Sickened at the intolerance!!!
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
3:05 pm
omosexuality is a good example of sin that some people want to declare is not a sin. It’s not committing the sin that’s all that; it’s the denial of it even being sin
Good point. It’s not “judging” folks to repeat what is recorded in the good book. It won’t erase or disappear cause folks don’t say, discuss it, speak against it….or even further, just because everybody is doing. Everybody doing it don’t means it’s becoming more acceptable. It means it’s the sign of the times.
Exiled
February 27th, 2013
3:06 pm
Go to hell Bluz!
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
3:07 pm
And yes, WE are all sinners…..just wanna say that
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
3:08 pm
Wow…how very Christian-like that was…
Exiled
February 27th, 2013
3:09 pm
I wasn’t…u see him from the front and his walk gives away his sexuality
@Disco
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
3:10 pm
Ex, this can be a volatile topic, but let’s be nice.
Simply missionary style is a sin all by itself!
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
3:14 pm
Ex – How do you feel about people who say you disgust them just because you are black? Aren’t you putting the same prejudice on this man because you “think” he’s gay?
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
3:16 pm
I have a gay flaming cousin that just got saved last year. He’s got the tendencies but I know for certain he accepted Christ as his savior. That means, he might think about it, he might be tempted as we all “LIVE” in the flesh, the job now is to follow the Holy Spirit as it guides him away from that lifestyle. I think that’s fantab!!!
disco
February 27th, 2013
3:16 pm
bluz – in all fairness, let the man have his prejudice. at the end of the day, we all have some. they may not be racial or towards gays but we all have some. he’s entitled.
Exiled
February 27th, 2013
3:16 pm
Bluz…I didn’t say I was fair or non judgemental. Nobody is.
We are All entitled to our opinions
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
3:18 pm
because you “think” he’s gay? – Not sure why this made me laugh. Yes I am. Some things, you don’t “think” you just know. If a man’s hips move like a woman’s hip and he’s straight, he has problems. Our hip bones are different thereby letting women switch when they walk. Perhaps a gay man has the same hip structure as a woman. Hmmmm, doctors should look into that. Ok, I went left (2nd time today)…
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
3:20 pm
I’m gonna shut up about this topic now because it is getting to me. It’s a bit touchy to me because some of the best people I know are gay. My best friend and some family members. I just hate to think that some people would walk away from them if they found out they were gay. There is too much intolerance in this world, whether it is towards the GLBT community or towards other races…
abc
February 27th, 2013
3:21 pm
Sex without benefit of marriage, ergo fornication, is a sin; sodomy (oral, anal) is a sin; a common term applied to it is ’sexual morality’. I’d guess that probably most of the people we all know have committed those sins, but relatively few would refuse that they even are sins.
No, I would not want my children to be influenced such that they were exposed to the idea that homosexuality is normal. As much as I’ve been around gay people, and count them as friends, I do not think that homosexual behavior is normal. I think that the biological function of sex — quite apart from the recreational aspects of it — make that pretty clear.
disco
February 27th, 2013
3:25 pm
bluz – lol. girl you are just too sensitive for your own good. personally, I think that is a very bad trait. suck it up, walk it off, don’t let stuff get to you so easy.
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
3:31 pm
disco – You’re right! I can be sensitive about some things! LOL! It doesn’t help that I don’t feel well today…probably making me get angrier quicker!
Exiled
February 27th, 2013
3:32 pm
Actually there are white folks who are disgusted coz I’m black and worse African
I , as in me, don’t care
Different folks have different prejudices
As long as nobody is taking oxygen from me,it’s all good
Done
disco
February 27th, 2013
3:35 pm
speaking of prejudices (lol). not saying that obese folks are one of my prejudices but I was driving today and looked over into the car next to me (suv actually) and the woman driving it practically filled up the whole window. you could see her and that’s it. no idea if there was a passenger or not. I remember thinking that was so funny.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 27th, 2013
3:41 pm
LOLOLOLOL!!!!!! “and the woman driving it practically filled up the whole window.”
Big as all of outdoors!!!! LOLOL
MsAtl
February 27th, 2013
3:43 pm
ABC- Oh gosh! I am a sinner! -_-
Disco- “filled up the whole window.” I am not fooling with you today (dying!)
abc
February 27th, 2013
3:44 pm
I think some folks could even be biased against certain eye colors, didn’t I read that today? Whether rational or not, everyone has their own collection of biases, for good or ill.
disco
February 27th, 2013
3:46 pm
hey. I’m just sharing my thoughts with y’all. as you can see, inside my head is not necessarily a good place to be. all kinds of crazy going on. lol.
abc
February 27th, 2013
3:47 pm
Short people got no reason to live
They got little hands
Little eyes
They walk around
Tellin’ great big lies
They got little noses
And tiny little teeth
They wear platform shoes
On their nasty little feet
Don’t want no short people `round here
Exiled
February 27th, 2013
3:48 pm
Now I don’t know if,when watching the Oscars,you observed JHUD sister in the background as JHUD was being interviews.
Looking glammed up,to me she literally looked like some prime,well fed cow at a cattle show,with her big voluptuous lips,towering in the background.
Is Dunkin doughnuts headquarters in Chicago? They must give those for free up there
Exiled
February 27th, 2013
3:49 pm
interviewed
disco
February 27th, 2013
3:49 pm
abc – that would be me. I don’t do the “funny colored” eyes.
ex – you were studying the Oscars weren’t you?
SlimNu
February 27th, 2013
3:49 pm
WTF
http://www.ajc.com/ap/ap/crime/2-missing-boys-grandmother-found-dead-in-conn/nWbPg/
Exiled
February 27th, 2013
3:52 pm
that platform shoes one kills me
I had a college buddy who rocked those,waaaay late after they were in fashion
DuShawn
February 27th, 2013
3:53 pm
I’m prejudice against all women……….that won’t give me none. can’t stand them. don’t want to be around them.
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
3:53 pm
Since you guys already commented on woman filling up the entire window, I just sit with a
and a 
abc ~ we are all sinners!
Exiled
February 27th, 2013
3:54 pm
Queen alerted to me it Bluz
Funny I don’t watch movies but when the opportunity to see bare skin comes I’m there
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
3:55 pm
That
should have been a 
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
3:57 pm
Dayum, SlimNu. What is wrong with people these days. Everyone seems to be snapping left and right. Why take out the children. Take out yourself if you need to, but not the children.
DuShawn
February 27th, 2013
3:59 pm
Did I read -abc- right? Oral sex is a sin? I have been going to church, living righteously, staying prayed up all to try to get into heaven. Now you telling me I can’t get no head once I get there! Heyall nawww.
disco
February 27th, 2013
4:03 pm
D – that sounds like a grown movie title “heaven and head”. lol.
Exiled
February 27th, 2013
4:04 pm
She was sick SlimNu..it’s sad but I can see how u can be comfortable with a relative with that illness and assume nothing of that sort wld happen.
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
4:04 pm
Ain’t gon be no sex in heaven…of any kind. But you ain’t gonna be having it in hell either….
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 27th, 2013
4:07 pm
“Ain’t gon be no sex in heaven…of any kind. But you ain’t gonna be having it in hell either….”
Thats why you have to get as much as you can RIGHT NOW!!!!!!
disco
February 27th, 2013
4:09 pm
courtside – your post made me think “don’t stop, get it, get it”. lol.
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
4:10 pm
I gotta admit, I sniggled at that 4:07. I’on be playing though with going to heaven/hell cause I believe it’s real. Might mess around and jokie joke yourself right on down there….lol Can’t be playing with that.
Alright…night folks
SlimNu
February 27th, 2013
4:11 pm
Now you telling me I can’t get no head once I get there! Heyall nawww.
CRACKING UP
Ex/Leggs – Yeah, the daycare said she was talking and being friendly so nothing alerted them that she was having any kind of episode. But that is just so crazy to take those two young boys out (on one’s bday no less) then kill yourself.
Mrs. SexyCool
February 27th, 2013
4:29 pm
I miss hanging out with you guys. Seriously…
Sometimes….being the boss is some bllsht….
Mrs. SexyCool
February 27th, 2013
4:33 pm
And I really don’t understand grown folks that need a frickin’ fan club.
#Venting
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
4:33 pm
and sometimes it’s the ISHT!
Durty Bird ( MsATL yummy)
February 27th, 2013
4:47 pm
I am not sure how anyone knows they are born gay. Just because you played double dutch or played with girls does not mean you are going to be gay. Society is dictating what we do is what defines us as a man and a woman. Break free from the trap folks.
A man is not straight if he molests a child period. If you are molesting children you are one sick individual.
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
5:06 pm
Good night all!