Romantic comedies made us cynical?
My friend Paul said that romantic comedies, romance novels, and sexy vampires are making women become cynics. If regular men don’t chase us all over town or doing some grand romantic gesture, some women actually feel disappointed.
I argued that no smart woman is walking around trying to be Nina Moseley to someone’s Darius Lovehall. There is no Katherine Heigel type women storing 27 bridesmaids dresses in her closet. We get that Hollywood love and real life love are vastly different things!
Granted, the right man, brave enough to open his heart and declare his love would probably be well-received. Do we really get disappointed if men don’t act out a love story from a movie? I just don’t think so.
If anything makes us cynical, it’s the emotional roller coaster we get stuck on trying to navigate a dating relationship. Maybe those romantic comedies serve as an escape from all of that. What do you think?
Guys, do you feel pressure to do all the crazy in love things men do in movies? Do you get the sense that the women you date create or manufacture drama, just so they can play out some twisted scene from a movie character’s life?
Happy Wednesday!
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166 comments Add your comment
kimmie
February 27th, 2013
2:42 pm
Hey Gang!
Hard at work today, just stopped by to speak.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 27th, 2013
2:42 pm
5 of the boys not six…
MsAtl
February 27th, 2013
2:44 pm
Disco- I don’t remember that scene. You are going to make me go home and watch the movie now…
disco
February 27th, 2013
2:45 pm
C – as far as parenting goes, in my opinion, the “nature” of male/female isn’t as important as being the standup man/woman necessary to parent the child. heck, all kinds of “natural” males/females ain’t doing right by their kids. I make the same argument when folks talk about people adopting kids of different races. sure I’d probably like it if every child could be with parents of their own racial background but if there aren’t any stepping up and parents of another race are, I’m all for it. who am I to talk about who is adopting who when I’m not adopting anybody?
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
2:45 pm
One of ten kids. 6 boys and 4 girls. All of the girls are strait and 6 of the boys are. – Is this funny math.
SlimNu
February 27th, 2013
2:46 pm
abc – Were you a part of those 20 – 25?
disco
February 27th, 2013
2:47 pm
ms atl – first quarter (they are at Q’s basketball game) and the girls in the stands are talking about him. the chick who was “sending her coochie through the mail”. you right. I might have to go home and watch that one again myself.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 27th, 2013
2:49 pm
Leggs, I corrected it…4 strait girls and 5 strait boys 1 gay boy….
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
2:49 pm
disco – I wasn’t speaking to rearing, I was just speaking to folks saying they’re born gay.
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
2:49 pm
My best friend is a gay man and his brother is also gay. They grew up in a very Christian, loving environment. They both knew they were gay when they were very young…
I just hate the stigma that gay people are perverts!!! I’ve known many people who were molested by straight men…
I’m gonna have to dip out of this conversation before it makes me mad…
SlimNu
February 27th, 2013
2:51 pm
I have always wondered why it seems that boys that grow up constantly in church, singing and usually has a much older parent, are a bit flamboyant. Anyone else ever noticed that ‘trend’ if I can call it one?
Exiled
February 27th, 2013
2:53 pm
I am ok with gays having same benefits as normal folks if that makes them not be discriminated against.
However I don’t think being gay is what God wants.
But we all are going to find out,aren’t we..
The problem with being ok with gays comes when you actually have to ‘associate’ with them. That’s where my inclusivity gets tested.
This morning when I went for breakfast at the hotel where I’m at, I noticed that the dude who helps out in the kitchen is gay. Folks,this dude walks with a behind waay behind himself,like a woman that to me,it was real nauseating. The breakfast was nothing to write home about and after eating the first box of cereal to start the routine, I decided to get another box since there was nothing there on the breakfast menu that I liked.
That’s when I noticed Mr lady behind,replenishing some items in the freezer that was next to the microwave. I wanted to go warm my milk but on seeing him,I recoiled. I shuddered at the thought of even saying to him,’excuse me’. It felt that foul to me.
I looked around and that’s when I saw another microwave behind me.
I was relieved.
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
2:54 pm
Nevermind, Courtside, I now see your 2:42
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
2:55 pm
Byeeee!!! LOLOLOL
It would just behoove any parent to keep an eye out for their children, at all places at all times, with all people. Sick folks comes in all colors, shapes, sizes, genders, races
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
2:56 pm
Mr. Lady….
abc
February 27th, 2013
2:57 pm
Incidence of teachers having sex with young students seems to be increasing; I don’t know if there’s a corollary to being a gay scouting leader. Maybe, maybe not. If there are to be gay scout leaders, hopefully disclosure of that will be required. My kids wouldn’t be in that troop. I think it’s enough of a controversy that parents deserve to be informed of it.
Homosexuality is a good example of sin that some people want to declare is not a sin. It’s not committing the sin that’s all that; it’s the denial of it even being sin. Episcopalian and ELCA Lutherans have gay clergy. Hmm.
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
2:59 pm
Wow!
Gays having the same benefits as “normal” folks? That statement makes me sick. Being straight does not make you “normal.” Being gay does not make you “abnormal.” Ugh…I’m thoroughly disgusted right now by that mentality.
disco
February 27th, 2013
3:00 pm
C – oh. gotcha.
ex – why was you watching dude’s booty?
abc – we are all sinners. what we (the general public) need to do is worry about our sins and not everybody elses.
SlimNu
February 27th, 2013
3:03 pm
abc – You wouldn’t want your kids in a group where the leader is gay? I can understand if it was a matter of protection from some sort of child molester but even when straight folks apply for coaching/teaching jobs, I don’t believe “what sex do you have relations with” is asked. I would be okay with it, as long as there was no PDA type situations going on with their lover in the presence of the kids. I believe that should be kept totally separate.
One of my best friends is a lesbian, in a relationship with a woman that has 2 girls. My friend also has custody of her nephew and they are both very good parents. The boy is very much into girls and the daugthers are very much into boys. But everyone has their opinion and their right to it.
DuShawn
February 27th, 2013
3:03 pm
I personally believe that some people are born gay or have a predisposition for that lifestyle. I believe it results from a chromosomal disorder, similar to a hermaphrodite. Environment plays a small role. The few gay men I know, we knew they were different as kids. They were playing Double Dutch while the rest of us played football. There is a lesbian couple that’s real cool with our family. The dominant female is butch, but a pretty girl. She tries hard to act like a dude. I asked her why she does it. She told me it’s not an act. It’s who she is. She’s has been that way since she was a little girl. Ironically, she has two children. She must’ve behaved like a female at some point.
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
3:04 pm
Um…having sex outside of missionary style and outside of trying to create a baby is a sin also, isn’t it?
Does one have to disclose being straight to be a scout leader or a teacher? No…why would one have to disclose being gay? I don’t think your child can become gay just by having a gay scout leader who may shake his hand. Sickened at the intolerance!!!
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
3:05 pm
omosexuality is a good example of sin that some people want to declare is not a sin. It’s not committing the sin that’s all that; it’s the denial of it even being sin
Good point. It’s not “judging” folks to repeat what is recorded in the good book. It won’t erase or disappear cause folks don’t say, discuss it, speak against it….or even further, just because everybody is doing. Everybody doing it don’t means it’s becoming more acceptable. It means it’s the sign of the times.
Exiled
February 27th, 2013
3:06 pm
Go to hell Bluz!
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
3:07 pm
And yes, WE are all sinners…..just wanna say that
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
3:08 pm
Wow…how very Christian-like that was…
Exiled
February 27th, 2013
3:09 pm
I wasn’t…u see him from the front and his walk gives away his sexuality
@Disco
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
3:10 pm
Ex, this can be a volatile topic, but let’s be nice.
Simply missionary style is a sin all by itself!
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
3:14 pm
Ex – How do you feel about people who say you disgust them just because you are black? Aren’t you putting the same prejudice on this man because you “think” he’s gay?
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
3:16 pm
I have a gay flaming cousin that just got saved last year. He’s got the tendencies but I know for certain he accepted Christ as his savior. That means, he might think about it, he might be tempted as we all “LIVE” in the flesh, the job now is to follow the Holy Spirit as it guides him away from that lifestyle. I think that’s fantab!!!
disco
February 27th, 2013
3:16 pm
bluz – in all fairness, let the man have his prejudice. at the end of the day, we all have some. they may not be racial or towards gays but we all have some. he’s entitled.
Exiled
February 27th, 2013
3:16 pm
Bluz…I didn’t say I was fair or non judgemental. Nobody is.
We are All entitled to our opinions
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
3:18 pm
because you “think” he’s gay? – Not sure why this made me laugh. Yes I am. Some things, you don’t “think” you just know. If a man’s hips move like a woman’s hip and he’s straight, he has problems. Our hip bones are different thereby letting women switch when they walk. Perhaps a gay man has the same hip structure as a woman. Hmmmm, doctors should look into that. Ok, I went left (2nd time today)…
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
3:20 pm
I’m gonna shut up about this topic now because it is getting to me. It’s a bit touchy to me because some of the best people I know are gay. My best friend and some family members. I just hate to think that some people would walk away from them if they found out they were gay. There is too much intolerance in this world, whether it is towards the GLBT community or towards other races…
abc
February 27th, 2013
3:21 pm
Sex without benefit of marriage, ergo fornication, is a sin; sodomy (oral, anal) is a sin; a common term applied to it is ’sexual morality’. I’d guess that probably most of the people we all know have committed those sins, but relatively few would refuse that they even are sins.
No, I would not want my children to be influenced such that they were exposed to the idea that homosexuality is normal. As much as I’ve been around gay people, and count them as friends, I do not think that homosexual behavior is normal. I think that the biological function of sex — quite apart from the recreational aspects of it — make that pretty clear.
disco
February 27th, 2013
3:25 pm
bluz – lol. girl you are just too sensitive for your own good. personally, I think that is a very bad trait. suck it up, walk it off, don’t let stuff get to you so easy.
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
3:31 pm
disco – You’re right! I can be sensitive about some things! LOL! It doesn’t help that I don’t feel well today…probably making me get angrier quicker!
Exiled
February 27th, 2013
3:32 pm
Actually there are white folks who are disgusted coz I’m black and worse African
I , as in me, don’t care
Different folks have different prejudices
As long as nobody is taking oxygen from me,it’s all good
Done
disco
February 27th, 2013
3:35 pm
speaking of prejudices (lol). not saying that obese folks are one of my prejudices but I was driving today and looked over into the car next to me (suv actually) and the woman driving it practically filled up the whole window. you could see her and that’s it. no idea if there was a passenger or not. I remember thinking that was so funny.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 27th, 2013
3:41 pm
LOLOLOLOL!!!!!! “and the woman driving it practically filled up the whole window.”
Big as all of outdoors!!!! LOLOL
MsAtl
February 27th, 2013
3:43 pm
ABC- Oh gosh! I am a sinner! -_-
Disco- “filled up the whole window.” I am not fooling with you today (dying!)
abc
February 27th, 2013
3:44 pm
I think some folks could even be biased against certain eye colors, didn’t I read that today? Whether rational or not, everyone has their own collection of biases, for good or ill.
disco
February 27th, 2013
3:46 pm
hey. I’m just sharing my thoughts with y’all. as you can see, inside my head is not necessarily a good place to be. all kinds of crazy going on. lol.
abc
February 27th, 2013
3:47 pm
Short people got no reason to live
They got little hands
Little eyes
They walk around
Tellin’ great big lies
They got little noses
And tiny little teeth
They wear platform shoes
On their nasty little feet
Don’t want no short people `round here
Exiled
February 27th, 2013
3:48 pm
Now I don’t know if,when watching the Oscars,you observed JHUD sister in the background as JHUD was being interviews.
Looking glammed up,to me she literally looked like some prime,well fed cow at a cattle show,with her big voluptuous lips,towering in the background.
Is Dunkin doughnuts headquarters in Chicago? They must give those for free up there
Exiled
February 27th, 2013
3:49 pm
interviewed
disco
February 27th, 2013
3:49 pm
abc – that would be me. I don’t do the “funny colored” eyes.
ex – you were studying the Oscars weren’t you?
SlimNu
February 27th, 2013
3:49 pm
WTF
http://www.ajc.com/ap/ap/crime/2-missing-boys-grandmother-found-dead-in-conn/nWbPg/
Exiled
February 27th, 2013
3:52 pm
that platform shoes one kills me
I had a college buddy who rocked those,waaaay late after they were in fashion
DuShawn
February 27th, 2013
3:53 pm
I’m prejudice against all women……….that won’t give me none. can’t stand them. don’t want to be around them.
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
3:53 pm
Since you guys already commented on woman filling up the entire window, I just sit with a
and a 
abc ~ we are all sinners!