Romantic comedies made us cynical?
My friend Paul said that romantic comedies, romance novels, and sexy vampires are making women become cynics. If regular men don’t chase us all over town or doing some grand romantic gesture, some women actually feel disappointed.
I argued that no smart woman is walking around trying to be Nina Moseley to someone’s Darius Lovehall. There is no Katherine Heigel type women storing 27 bridesmaids dresses in her closet. We get that Hollywood love and real life love are vastly different things!
Granted, the right man, brave enough to open his heart and declare his love would probably be well-received. Do we really get disappointed if men don’t act out a love story from a movie? I just don’t think so.
If anything makes us cynical, it’s the emotional roller coaster we get stuck on trying to navigate a dating relationship. Maybe those romantic comedies serve as an escape from all of that. What do you think?
Guys, do you feel pressure to do all the crazy in love things men do in movies? Do you get the sense that the women you date create or manufacture drama, just so they can play out some twisted scene from a movie character’s life?
Happy Wednesday!
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Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 27th, 2013
11:55 am
Hey disco…..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U8PgcCe3P_c
Thats was really funnny to me!!!
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
11:57 am
disco – I think it’s the one pic of just his face that’s in black and white…something about his eyes! Christian has grey eyes and a chisled face…mmmmm
disco
February 27th, 2013
12:01 pm
speaking of chiseled (and tying into yesterday’s discussion on young’uns) there were two prime specimens at the gym last night. I remember thinking they just looked like someone chiseled them out of chocolate marble or something. those little young boys were cut up something nice. (and I just literally shook my head to do away with the image. sort of like clearing the etch a sketch).
did anyone take blog attendance today? I think we are going to have to send notes home with a few folks.
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
12:12 pm
Right?!?! Where all the other cool people (besides us) at?!?!
Mrs. SexyCool
February 27th, 2013
12:26 pm
Romantic comedies only make cynics or dreamers out of those that don’t understand that it’s fiction.
MsAtl
February 27th, 2013
12:40 pm
Courtside- That video was funny. And if he does not stop shaking his hair & brushing it back. At what age does a man let go of the flowing hair thing? I am not even going there with Stevie Wonder holding onto those braids in the back of his head! He gets a pass because he can’t see his head (going to hell for that one, lol).
Disco- Laughing at you shaking your head to clear the image. Nothing wrong with admiring.
disco
February 27th, 2013
12:50 pm
ms atl – I have an uncle who held onto his curl way longer than the rest of the world held on to their curls. his was long and hung down his back. you couldn’t tell him nothing. he then started losing hair in the front/center but still kept that curl going. he eventually had a full fledged ball spot on top and still wasn’t ready to let go of the curl. he finally, only in recent years, shaved his head.
SlimNu
February 27th, 2013
12:54 pm
cool people
Someone rannnnnnnnnng?
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
1:02 pm
Hey Slim!!!! What’s “Nu”?
:roll: On the Prowl
February 27th, 2013
1:08 pm
Looking.
On the Prowl
February 27th, 2013
1:17 pm
shopping allowance
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
1:33 pm
I guess the blog has died for the day? I’ll check back in later…
Durty Bird ( I think Celisea wants me)
February 27th, 2013
1:33 pm
MsAtl- I am always up and I love a challenge..
SlimNu
February 27th, 2013
1:45 pm
Bluz – I have nothing Nu to report thus far…guess there isn’t that much gossip around town going on. I didn’t come to work last Wednesday, and the task that I normally do had to be done by 4 ppl while I was out. So today everybody kept telling me how bad and backed up things were and it made them appreciate when I am here. So that was a nice ego stroke for me today.
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
1:46 pm
Mrs SC ~ you definitely summed that up nicely.
DuShawn
February 27th, 2013
1:55 pm
zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz…….yawn………….fart. Damn yall boring.
SlimNu
February 27th, 2013
1:56 pm
MsAtl – I wonder the very same thing with regard to guys with corn rolls….or dreads. I have a guy friend from school that has locks but he’s balding at the top of his head and it doesn’t look that good. I wish he’d just cut it off. I mean, does it matter how long your hair is in the back it the top looks like shiny bowling ball?
SlimNu
February 27th, 2013
1:57 pm
DuShawn – You stank!
DuShawn
February 27th, 2013
1:59 pm
Has any one seen this movie “Snow on da Bluff”. I stumbled on to it last night on netflix. Man….it made me get up and make sure my back door was locked.
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
2:03 pm
Then that means I don’t need to see it DuShawn. I scare easily. My child surprised me with a home visit while I was cooking dinner. I’m so thankful my quick reflexes didn’t have me releasing the knives I had in my hand when she jumped into the house.
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
2:07 pm
Slim – It sure is nice when people miss you when you are out! Makes them see what all you really do!!!
I’ve been sick the past few days and haven’t been able to call out cause I’ve had too much work to do! Glad my doctor called in an antibiotic for me today. Can’t wait to get it started!
DuShawn
February 27th, 2013
2:08 pm
It wasn’t a horror flick. Just about some dope boy in Atlanta robbing people. I would recommend it. It’s a special film.
disco
February 27th, 2013
2:11 pm
I saw my little crush guy today y’all. I had a love and basketball moment. remember when old girl said she could just lick the sweat off of him. yep. that’s what I was thinking. shame on me. lol.
DuShawn
February 27th, 2013
2:14 pm
Lunch time observation: I went to Olive Garden for lunch. While people watching, I noticed this punk with a baby. It got me to thinking. Do you think two gay men raising a male child significantly increases the probabilty the he will be gay as well?
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
2:18 pm
I don’t think I’ve ever seen someone and thought I wouldn’t mind licking the sweat off him, BUT, I get what you’re saying (lol).
Got it, DuShawn.
disco
February 27th, 2013
2:20 pm
leggs – I don’t know if it’s good or bad. lol.
dushawn – no I do not have a problem with gays having/raising children but apparently a lot of folks do. recently on the radio, with the boy scout drama, they had a call in essentially asking how folks felt about gay men in “role model” positions. I wish I could say I was surprised at the number of people who felt like gay men shouldn’t have jobs. lol. okay, that’s not what they said but they shouldn’t be scout leaders, shouldn’t be teachers, shouldn’t hold church positions, the list went on and on. I just drove along shaking my head.
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
2:21 pm
disco – Just love those moments!!!!
Du – I don’t think it increases the chances of the baby being gay at all!!!
I’m crushing on a guy that I have to get out of my head!!! He and I would make a great couple, but he’s my friend’s recent ex boyfriend. He came out to see me play on Friday and that’s really the first time I noticed that I liked him! I’ve known him for years and always thought he was attractive. I guess we have recently talked a little more about personal things. I have to let him go, though. My friend is really in love with him…oh well…
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
2:22 pm
disco – it makes me mad that people think that way. Just because a man is gay doesn’t mean he’s going to be a pervert! I would be more concerned about a single man with no kids couching my kid over a gay man!
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
2:23 pm
I’ve thought that very thing before DuShawn, but I don’t think it will. Supposedly, you are either born that way or not and your environment doesn’t make you gay, unless the world consisted only of men.
But, was the punk guy gay or just a punk?
disco
February 27th, 2013
2:25 pm
bluz – you gotta get out of your circle. seems like you date too many folks within the same group. broaden your horizons girl. lol.
leggs – I completely ignored that. I don’t equate punk with gay. to me punk is just a soft buster no fight in him type dude.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 27th, 2013
2:26 pm
DuShawn,
I don’t think so…But I also believe that a most gay people are BORN that way…..
abc
February 27th, 2013
2:26 pm
DuShawn: yes, I think so. Representing homosexuality as a norm would make it more likely to become an adopted lifestyle.
I do not think that gay men should be allowed to be scout leaders. There was a gay scoutmaster when I was a kid; his son was in our troop; he molested perhaps 20-25 of the boys in the troop. Nature hikes. Sickening.
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
2:26 pm
Being gay is a choice. People aren’t born gay. God made them male and female.
MsAtl
February 27th, 2013
2:27 pm
Bluz- Step away from the friend’s ex…
DuShawn- I do not have an issue with gay people raising children; I have a problem with nincompoops, abusers, and druggies raising children. As far as teachers are concerned, as long as he or she knows how to teach, I don’t care about their orientation. It seems lately that the female teachers are the ones messing with the male students.
Disco- Lick the sweat off him? I’m cringing, lol.
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
2:28 pm
disco – I’m surprised at your response. Normally you’re are nails and pins and usually respond like a dude. A bit of softness, eh?
abc
February 27th, 2013
2:28 pm
Regarding being born that way or adopting the behavior somehow: I don’t think many DL men are gay before they are incarcerated.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 27th, 2013
2:30 pm
If that is the case, then we should not let men teach young girls cause they might moleste them or let women teach young boys because we have all heard of female teachers screwing 13 year old boys right???
disco
February 27th, 2013
2:30 pm
I know countless chicks who “went gay” after having had several kids. I know a few guys who were in gay denial, fathered some kids and then decided to respect the truth. I don’t think what or who they do necessarily affects their ability to parent. good parent or bad parent I don’t think being gay is what determines that.
celisea – gay men are still male. lesbians are still female. at least in most cases. sure don’t want to open up the whole transgender can of worms. lol.
ms atl – well do you at least remember the scene in the movie? lol. I’m seeking justification. that wasn’t my thought. I just borrowed a thought from a movie. a romantic comedy no less. I am on topic. lol.
DuShawn
February 27th, 2013
2:31 pm
I like to eat alone and observe people. I watched how he/she interacted with the child and concluded that person appears to be a good parent. I wondered however, how the child would end up. I learned how to be a man by watching and imitating my father and other men. If a kid grows up watching a he/she day in and day out, wouldn’t he be conditioned to emulate that example?
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
2:32 pm
disco ~ lust is good (when you can handle it). Not like Jimmy Carter feeling bad because he had lust in his heart and loins (lol)
SlimNu
February 27th, 2013
2:33 pm
disco/Leggs – I was just telling my coworkers yesterday that I saw this guy that was working for a amored car company. He came out carrying a money bag, all strapped in his bullet proof vest and what not…I felt like when I passed by him checking him out, that a fan was blowing my hair in the wind as we walked in slow motion lol He was a cutie pa tootie
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
2:33 pm
My brothers were Cub Scouts and Boy Scouts and there was a huge mess of molestation going on and this was in the 70s. Talk about my mama snatching them out. IMO, children getting molested happens at the hands of folks that lack morals, decorum and decency. Now you can be gay, straight….whatever.
DuShawn
February 27th, 2013
2:35 pm
punk, sissy, transgender whateva…..he was one of them.
disco
February 27th, 2013
2:36 pm
dushawn – I have a friend who is a gay male. he fathered a child before coming to terms with the fact that he was gay. when it came out his son’s mother was livid. she played the “you can’t see my son” games and all that for awhile. with time she came around. his son is now about 14 and is a fabulous child. trust me, if he was bad, ignorant, disrespectful, anything I’d call him on it. this particular gay friend is on the ball.
slim – not that your hair was “windswept”. lol. you go girl.
Bluzgirl
February 27th, 2013
2:38 pm
disco – I know girl…I know…At least this guy is a successful musician, has a full time job as an IT tech, has his own house and cars. It’s a shame cause he’s a cutie!!!
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
2:38 pm
disco – No can of worms here, but with being made male and female, comes the nature of male (within male) and the nature of female (within female). He got it right the first time
Celisea
February 27th, 2013
2:39 pm
I just want to know how a man gets it up for a woman, all while not knowing he’s gay and then when “realizes” he’s gay, can’t get it up for a woman but can for a man…..
Just things to ponder….
Back to lurking for me.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 27th, 2013
2:40 pm
I have a cousin… One of ten kids. 6 boys and 4 girls. All of the girls are strait and 6 of the boys are. He says he is as he has been for his entire life. No trama to send him there, no closet molestation… He is just who he is… and BTW, he has been in a commited relationship for nearly 25 years, and has twin ( adopted) sons that are strait and knocking down chics like bowling pins!!!
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
2:40 pm
“I watched how he/she…”
disco, that’s why I asked because for him to have the thought on gays suggested the punk guy was too effeminate. That’s how I read it.
Leggs
February 27th, 2013
2:41 pm
punk, sissy, transgender whateva…..he was one of them. – LOLOL