Dating: Love thy neighbor?
If you are lucky enough to live in an area of Atlanta that is teeming with good looking people, you probably have thought about dating a neighbor. It’s so tempting, right? With soaring gas prices, who is more geographically desirable than the hot neighbor? Well, as with all things, this decision should be made carefully.
You have to determine the risks and benefits: Are they insane? Would they stalk me if things don’t work out? Are they capable of property damage? Will I wake up to find my poor pet being harmed? I’m making light of it, of course, but I know there are some single people that can give you cautionary tales about dating their neighbors.
My friend Carla said that she would date a co-worker before she dated anything resembling a neighbor again. After things got messy with a fine, fine man in her mother’s neighborhood, she has to drive a decoy car to visit her mother. The fine man wasn’t worth it.
What do you think? Is it a good idea to use your backyard as your dating pool? Is it a recipe for disaster or simply smart strategy?
Have you ever dated someone who lived extremely close to you? Do you think it was a good idea?
Happy Tuesday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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193 comments Add your comment
Bluzgirl
February 26th, 2013
2:59 pm
I’ve always been attracted to men older than me. I don’t know why…
I had a big crush on a younger guy many years ago and landed him in bed and was extremely disappointed! Not that I’m the most mature person, but I get along better with people older than me. People my age or younger tend to be a little too immature…
disco
February 26th, 2013
2:59 pm
kimmie – I kind of think anything from 0-5 in either direction is your own peer group range.
slim – you have to direct that one to those who have “the one”. let me know when we are discussing “I knew he/she wasn’t the one”. lol.
Celisea
February 26th, 2013
3:04 pm
Five years younger than me has been the youngest. That was the stockbroker. The kid’s dad, 3 years younger. Mister silk and smooth was 3 years younger. And my current love is younger as well
Sue me…lololol
I’ve NEVER dated a dude older than me but once. I was in the 11th and he was a junior at Morehouse, another Kappa Man. Those never lasted though (remember Kevin the Kappa), cause I was scary and hanging on to my “good girl, goodie two shoe” image. And really, those dudes weren’t playing during the “sowing seeds” years. It was like move out of the way or become a victim….lolol But it was funny watching them try…lol The Morehouse man was way too pretty for my mama. She couldn’t stomach him…lololol Really, that one was short lived. I was hired by the Atlanta Board of Ed (along with 21 other highschool/college kids) to tutor remedial students during summer school. That’s how we met. We dated just the summer and a bit into the school year. After that, I was in the wind and back to liking the boys at school. You know, the ones you liked as long as school as in session and forgot about during the summer….lololol
Alright, I’m getting out of here a bit early I think. Gonna wrap up my stuff and hit the road
Toodles!!!
Leggs
February 26th, 2013
3:04 pm
Courtside ~ not saying you need one, was commenting on you saying “There is very little that you can do that will surprise them or scare” away women over 40. I said, unless you have a penis pump! Was making a small joke.
disco ~ I would go as low as 40 and as high of 58.
Leggs
February 26th, 2013
3:05 pm
Bluz ~ same here, always dated guys older than me, but now that I’m older, I need someone not older than me (lol).
Celisea
February 26th, 2013
3:05 pm
Oh, I would say 38 is about as young as I’ll go and I’m not sure I can do up as high as 50. If I had to pick a number, it would be 50.
SlimNu
February 26th, 2013
3:06 pm
disco – Not ‘into’ youngun’s but did date a guy 4yrs younger than me when I was in my late 20’s. He was funny, full of energy, aimed to please, had just graduated school…..he ended up moving up north for a new job and we still kept up our communication. He came back here to hangout for a long weekend, went to a club, met a chick and next thing I know I call him back at home and a chick answers the phone. He got her preggo and failed to break the news to me of what happened. The eventually got married, separated, back together, separated and just recently finally divorced.
disco
February 26th, 2013
3:06 pm
my son is 23. said he was having lunch with a chick recently. said chick is 30. apparently she was sizing him up and was maybe feeling him. he mentioned plans for his bday and she asked how old he was. he says that when he told her her entire expression changed. lol. he said the conversation fell off and everything. he said he thought to himself “don’t be mad at me because you’re old”. I laughed because I can imagine exactly how she must have felt.
daddy swiss
February 26th, 2013
3:11 pm
I got an alert saying some of you blog ladies were looking for fresh meat?
Celisea
February 26th, 2013
3:12 pm
One more…Kevin the kappa was younger. Oh, I did date the 38 year old off and on but wouldn’t call that a relationship. And when I was about 25, I had a dude that was an account manager for the National Linen Service fly in for a conference. We met for dinner but that did it for me. Like I said, I was about 25 and I though HECK NAW!!! I thought, at the time, he was as old as Methuselah, when he was mid 30ish…if my recollection is on point. I remember him trying to hold my hand and I was holding back from barfing…..I’m laughing as I type this. What a silly girl I was
Innocence sometimes, is just a good thing to have and keep as long as possible.
Alright….Toddles…for real this time
Celisea
February 26th, 2013
3:13 pm
I was working for Dun and Bradstreet….during that time…with the mid 30ish geezer…yeah, I was green and silly
Leggs
February 26th, 2013
3:14 pm
Cracking up because if anyone got an alert for that, it would be you, swiss. How’s Ms. Swissmocha doing?
disco
February 26th, 2013
3:14 pm
swiss – what? you got a hookup with the butcher? (blog ladies – beware. he probably knows someone hustling horse meat out of his trunk).
Leggs
February 26th, 2013
3:17 pm
horse meat out of his trunk just made me think of nasty junk secreting out of his trunk…..
Leggs
February 26th, 2013
3:19 pm
sorry….
disco
February 26th, 2013
3:21 pm
leggs – sorry for what? having crazy thoughts? lol.
Leggs
February 26th, 2013
3:22 pm
yep (lol).
Leggs
February 26th, 2013
3:22 pm
didn’t want my visual to make anyone queasy.
daddy swiss
February 26th, 2013
3:31 pm
First of all, there has never been, nor will there ever be, meat of any kind in my trunk. Swissy don’t play that.
Second, Little SwissMochette is doing great. Spoiled rotten already, but she’s healthy as can be and quite possibly the cutest little baby ever born (in my totally unbiased opinion).
How’s everybody in Blogville?
Sassy Me...Make it do what it do ;-)
February 26th, 2013
3:31 pm
beware. he probably knows someone hustling horse meat out of his trunk).
I wonder if that’s the same guy IKEA got theirs from for their meatballs…
Sassy Me...Make it do what it do ;-)
February 26th, 2013
3:33 pm
Little SwissMochette is doing great. Spoiled rotten already
Awwwww how sweet swiss!
Leggs
February 26th, 2013
3:34 pm
Glad for the update on Little SwissMochette. Can’t speak for all the bloggers, but I’m doing well.
SassyMe jumps in. No peeping through the blinds, BAM, here I is.
disco
February 26th, 2013
3:34 pm
sassy – the horse meat in the news is why I went with horse meat? lol.
sassy – you thought how sweet. I was thinking they better stop before they can’t find anyone to babysit. lol.
kimmie
February 26th, 2013
3:39 pm
Hey Swiss!! I know your little baby lady is adorable!!! It’s something very special about baby girls!
Leggs
February 26th, 2013
3:55 pm
Enter your comments here
Leggs
February 26th, 2013
3:56 pm
“Sucker Tuesdays” on Michael Baisden…interesting stories of getting got!
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 26th, 2013
3:58 pm
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JodY-LQJ_rQ
I know I said that was it, But this is my jam……..
Button
February 26th, 2013
3:58 pm
disco – my youngest buck was 12 years my junior, other than that 7 years my junior seems to hold steady.
disco
February 26th, 2013
4:00 pm
yay!!! y’all are still here.
daddy swiss
February 26th, 2013
4:01 pm
Howdy, Leggs, Sassy & kimmie!
disco — Did I hear you offer to babysit?
disco
February 26th, 2013
4:03 pm
swiss – I don’t know what you heard. lol. I just had a conversation with a friend re babysitting. essentially my rule is if I can’t hit your kid, I can’t watch your kid. your kid is still not hitting age so I guess I won’t be babysitting.
Sassy Me...Make it do what it do ;-)
February 26th, 2013
4:13 pm
Heeeeey daddy swiss!!
Sassy Me...Make it do what it do ;-)
February 26th, 2013
4:14 pm
essentially my rule is if I can’t hit your kid, I can’t watch your kid. your kid is still not hitting age so I guess I won’t be babysitting.
Well damn….
daddy swiss
February 26th, 2013
4:17 pm
disco — You’re not secretly this guy are you?
disco
February 26th, 2013
4:28 pm
sassy – what? I think that’s a good babysitting rule. lol.
Dirty Bird (Blog Ladies have been holding back)
February 26th, 2013
4:38 pm
Well, well, well looky here, MsAtl and Button have dipped into young dizzle and with Ms. Button seems to have a regular attraction for young dizzle.
@Slim-Nu I know you invent something new in the bedroom everytime you start a new relationship. U GOT skill sexy Slim-nu..
@Disco I am in the right age range for you , in addition I have the body to match since you like the physical look first.
@Leggs….You are too funny Penis Pump….You need a sign stating, If you need a Penis pump, enhancement pills, viagra pills, etc do not apply… lol
Leggs
February 26th, 2013
4:43 pm
It’s the tag line on my personal email, Dirty!
Dirty Bird (Blog Ladies have been holding back)
February 26th, 2013
4:44 pm
The wrap -up:
We find the blog ladies likem young except BluzGirl who wants experience over youth/drilling.
disco
February 26th, 2013
4:45 pm
dirty – why don’t you tell me my age range and physical preferences? go on. I won’t call you out if you are way off. lol.
Dirty Bird (Blog Ladies have been holding back)
February 26th, 2013
4:46 pm
@Leggs you are too funny! These old dudes in the A cannot handle you…
Dirty Bird (Blog Ladies have been holding back)
February 26th, 2013
4:50 pm
@Disco your age range would be 40 to 50 yrs old You want a man who can hold his own financially and you believe that age range should be where a man should be stable. Your physical preference I would say since you are 5ft would be from 5ft9 to 6ft4 medium build, well built arms and legs.
disco
February 26th, 2013
4:53 pm
DB – I think a man should be stable by 30 (and that’s being generous). I think 5’9” is short. heck, regardless of what the “averages” are I think anything under 6 feet is short, anything over is tall. medium build is elusive. sort of like athletic build. what does that mean? built like a jockey? a linebacker? a sumo wrestler. nice try but if you are going to bring it, bring it. lol.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 26th, 2013
5:34 pm
I but disco would really put a hurting on a dude if he did not come correct…. Have his azz hiding in the pigeon coop like Chris Tucker……