Dating: Love thy neighbor?
If you are lucky enough to live in an area of Atlanta that is teeming with good looking people, you probably have thought about dating a neighbor. It’s so tempting, right? With soaring gas prices, who is more geographically desirable than the hot neighbor? Well, as with all things, this decision should be made carefully.
You have to determine the risks and benefits: Are they insane? Would they stalk me if things don’t work out? Are they capable of property damage? Will I wake up to find my poor pet being harmed? I’m making light of it, of course, but I know there are some single people that can give you cautionary tales about dating their neighbors.
My friend Carla said that she would date a co-worker before she dated anything resembling a neighbor again. After things got messy with a fine, fine man in her mother’s neighborhood, she has to drive a decoy car to visit her mother. The fine man wasn’t worth it.
What do you think? Is it a good idea to use your backyard as your dating pool? Is it a recipe for disaster or simply smart strategy?
Have you ever dated someone who lived extremely close to you? Do you think it was a good idea?
Happy Tuesday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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193 comments Add your comment
Button
February 26th, 2013
11:05 am
Letter # 57—-I am in a long-term relationship with a wonderful and sensitive man. Recently we became engaged and are planning on getting married in the summer. My fiancé and I have always had an open relationship and explored our chexuol interests. However, since getting engaged, my fiancé no longer likes to participate in my chexuol interests. He says since we are getting married now, we should put our youthful fantasies behind us and be responsible. He says he cannot do such things with the woman he will be marrying and who will be the mother of his children. Although I love my fiancé very much, how do I make him understand that I need more than a vanilla future with him?
MsAtl
February 26th, 2013
11:06 am
Leggs- No eggs, it was a learning experience…
MissMoni
February 26th, 2013
11:06 am
-Leggs I won’t even start talking about some of the “SILLY” things I did in my 20’s!!! You live and learn.
-Courtside That is beyond crazy. . .
kimmie
February 26th, 2013
11:07 am
Leggs – What did you do that you think was foolish? You dated someone and fell in love, took him at his word and he proposed. Did you not ask the right questions so you could find out that he was separated?
Albert
February 26th, 2013
11:09 am
Transportation for me is more difficult than for most, so as far as I’m concerned, the closer the better.
disco
February 26th, 2013
11:11 am
leggs – and to think I read it all with a straight face all the way up to the end.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 26th, 2013
11:13 am
MissMoni,
She would raise all kinds of hell with me when she thought I was spending time with anyone else…. And we danced that game for like 13 or 14 months….. ( She was a real freak too…I think she was going thru a midlife crisis and I was her lab rat)
Leggs
February 26th, 2013
11:20 am
Button ~ most of the letters you post are crazy, but that one is just plain stupid. I can’t even imagine a woman trying to be so understanding. AND, for him to say she’s dead so no need for her to be jealous deserves a brick upside his head.
Leggs
February 26th, 2013
11:21 am
Because after he finishes mourning and heals his heart, he’s gonna find a replacement and it won’t be his wife!!!!
MissMoni
February 26th, 2013
11:23 am
-Courtside LOL! So you were OK with being her “lab rat”?
kimmie
February 26th, 2013
11:23 am
Leggs – Yeah, that’s a new player move right there – “yeah I messed around on you and got someone else preggers, but I can’t deal with that right now cause I’m grieving”! Get the heck outta here!!!
disco
February 26th, 2013
11:25 am
kimmie / leggs – and we all completely ignored the whole “quit his job” part of the letter. you mean you want to lay up in here and grieve AND you ain’t bringing in no money???
Leggs
February 26th, 2013
11:25 am
kimmie ~ I don’t know. I knew I felt used and foolish. He definitely was a playa! Like MsAtl stated, a learning experience.
disco
February 26th, 2013
11:30 am
leggs – well did you suck it up and charge it to the game or did you go tell his wife that she was married to your fiancée? i think i might have showed my azz.
Leggs
February 26th, 2013
11:30 am
Exactly, disco. You’re going to quit your job because the memories are too painful. The fact that you can twist your mouth to say all of those things to me, will have you sleeping at your dead mistress’ house. Break in, sleep on the back porch, I could give a rat’s a$$. Out of mine you will be.
MsAtl
February 26th, 2013
11:31 am
Disco- Please don’t put that visual in my head, lol. I am laughing at the thought of you banging on the door showing the wife your ring.
Leggs
February 26th, 2013
11:32 am
disco ~ very rare for me to show my a$$. I’ve never acted a fool in public. I chalked it up the game, baby! All game.
DuShawn
February 26th, 2013
11:33 am
I dated a neighbor once. She would often come over and cook for me. Over time she left some cookware and plates etc. at my spot. One evening I had another date at the crib, beautiful Puerto Rican chic I had been pursuing for a while. I thru some steaks on grill, got the Isleys vibin, candles and wine. I’m about to close the deal for the first time. Then about midnight, neighbor starts bammin on my front door. Talkin about she want her pots, pans and plates back……..I guess it goes without saying, it was not a good look and I slept alone that night.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 26th, 2013
11:34 am
MissMoni, At the time yeah….. I was late 20’s and wide open!!! She was “Grown woman” fine and feeling experimental… Did not give thought to her husband or her colleg aged kids…. I was ate uo with herr being down and not having any strings attached! ( or so I thought)
kimmie
February 26th, 2013
11:34 am
disco – You right, I guess we were so focused on other ish we missed some ish!!LOL!!
disco
February 26th, 2013
11:36 am
leggs – at his house (him, you, her or just you and her) isn’t in public. lol.
Button
February 26th, 2013
11:36 am
crazy as it maybe Leggs I find it comical.
Leggs
February 26th, 2013
11:37 am
you got a point, disco. I guess making a scene anywhere other than my place is publix.
Leggs
February 26th, 2013
11:38 am
public….
Leggs
February 26th, 2013
11:41 am
What’s comical is that a woman may be going through this and wondering what to do.
Button
February 26th, 2013
11:50 am
lol Dushawn talk about a party pooper!
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 26th, 2013
11:51 am
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZMpR2MCNarU
Feeling some kinda way this Morning…….
MsAtl
February 26th, 2013
11:53 am
Courtside- Love that song! I would like to see Kem in concert this year.
Dirty Bird (Luvs neighbors and co-workers)
February 26th, 2013
11:54 am
I am always open to dating neighbors and co-workers. I was not always as opened about dating co-workers, until I went out for drinks with a co-worker and she confessed how muched she liked me and proceeded to give me an awesome lube job in the car…Yes she did! Blame it on the alcohol!
Alcohol is a great playa..It will get you the bootay without even trying… Yes it will!
disco
February 26th, 2013
11:55 am
leggs – well here is our good times tie in for the day. thinking about your post with old boy. I was thinking how you are the high road (don’t show out in public type) and I am the get some get back type. so I was thinking about the good times episode where james was ready to whoop azz and florida was talking about “vengeance is mine said the lord”. james responded with “I’m just trying to do the lord’s work”. lol.
Leggs
February 26th, 2013
12:01 pm
Now disco, to be honest, I do enjoy people watching and see some chick doing the lord’s work.
DuShawn
February 26th, 2013
12:01 pm
@Button – Neighbor lived a couple of houses down, she passed by, saw a strange car, prolley smelled the bar b que smoke, came to my door, heard the music and decided the next chic will not be eating off the plates she bought……and blew up my spot. The Puerto Rican chic concluded I was a playa and I never got another shot………..Madaline Arroyo…I still remeber her name twenty years later. Dayum I wanted that azz.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 26th, 2013
12:04 pm
LOL…. Yup Dushawn.. And I bet that would have been teh best azz eva!!!! LOLOLOL
Dirty Bird (Luvs neighbors and co-workers)
February 26th, 2013
12:06 pm
It’s time to rate the blog ladies as Dating your neighbor!
O.K. there would be no stalking, coming over late at night or walking by the house if I dated MsMoni, MsAtl or button as neighbors mainly due to they maybe a little stiff in the bedroom. With these fine ladies I would strive to remain friends be so from time to time I could come over for dinner,they throw down in the kitchen lukewarm in the bedroom.
Now Disco, BluzGirl and Slim-Nu I would install a hidden camera in the bedroom to see what new tricks they are performing with their new dates because ya’ll know they like to get busy…. Oh yes they do! lol
disco
February 26th, 2013
12:10 pm
D – that’s funny because I can imagine being both of them. I can see me as the chick talking about give me all my stuff and I can see me as the chick talking bout “naw fool. I’m out. I ain’t got time for this.”
DB – that little “oh yes they do” at the end sounds retarded. lol. it sounds like you are playing with a baby or a puppy. “you’re a good boy. oh yes you are”.
Leggs
February 26th, 2013
12:13 pm
kimmie
February 26th, 2013
12:19 pm
Leggs/Disco – I am like you Leggs, the no-drama chick, but before I met hubs and got married I said if the next dude I met pulled some foul mess on me I was going to turn into that crazy, bust-the-windows-outcha-car chick, just one time! Just do something totally out of character for me!!LOL!!!
disco
February 26th, 2013
12:24 pm
kimmie – you crazy. don’t ask me why (lol) but to this day I keep a brick in the trunk of my car. don’t judge me. you never know when you might need a brick. and for the record, I’ve never cut a tire or bust a car window (though I have … well, never mind). lol.
kimmie
February 26th, 2013
12:27 pm
disco – I used to keep a bat by my bed. Imma find that bat and keep it in my trunk!LOL!!
Bluzgirl
February 26th, 2013
12:30 pm
Good afternoon all! I came in late to work today cause I’m sick yet again! Ugh! I had to come in cause I knew I had work to do…And…I have to work tonight at the Gwinnett Arena.
Anyway…I do have a pretty fine neighbor, but not sure I’d want to do that. We say hello every time we see each other, but we don’t cross paths that often. I know his roommate has a girlfriend, but not sure if he does. I do think it would be awkward, though, if things didn’t work out. At least I know he’s a renter and I’m an owner, so if things got ugly, he could move easily! LOL
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 26th, 2013
12:31 pm
Got a crazy chick story for ya…..
One of my lodge brothers was dating girl..they were cool enough that she had a key to his place…. Well he was one of those dudes that always had to have a side piece on call and he would hit her up sometimes to make sure she was in play. Well, at the begining of the fall last year he had to go out of town for some business and he had teh side girl take him to the airport. As they were leaving his driveway, Main chick drives by and he does not even see her, But she sees him. She is pissed and to get back at him, she goes inside his house and calls and has a locksmith come over and change all of the locks….. Then she unplugs the fridge and leaves the door open and turns on the heat….. he comes back in town and can’t get in… He breaks a window to get inside and his house is hot as hell and smells like spoiled seafood. Smelled so bad he even had to replace the carpets to get rid of the odor!!!
DuShawn
February 26th, 2013
12:33 pm
Disco- I’m re-living that evening now. I hadn’t thought of it in years. I’m trying to handle neighbor outside, and then go back in and act like everything is cool. I remember when the PR chick was about to leave she said, “As long as she don’t touch me on my way out, I’m cool.” Meanwhile the sista is skraight clowning. As they passed one another on my porch, surprisingly they had a meeting of the minds, a brief woman’s bonding moment, I recall vividly how they shared a knowing glance……..they were both in agreement………that I wasn’t sh&^t.
MsAtl
February 26th, 2013
12:34 pm
Dirty- I do throw down in the kitchen. However, I am so far from stiff. I will just say don’t get yourself hurt and leave it at that, lol.
DuShawn
February 26th, 2013
12:35 pm
Court…dayum..”hell hath no fury………”
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 26th, 2013
12:41 pm
Yeah. Du…. Stank building up in his crib for like 8 days!!!! Hot outside and the Heat on!!!
disco
February 26th, 2013
12:41 pm
kimmie – I used to keep a small souvenir bat in my car. I think somebody jacked me for it.
court – I have to ask though it seems apparent. did old girl already know about the sidepiece? why automatically jump to the conclusion re seeing him in a car especially since she likely knew he was going to the airport that day. even if she didn’t know that’s one heck of a conclusion to jump to without already knowing something. everyone woman knows that every man has an extraordinary number of female cousins. lol.
Leggs
February 26th, 2013
12:41 pm
kimmie ~ I have a bat by my bed, a box cutter in the window, and a knife under the mattress. I’m cracking up. My child was home sometime ago and we were in my room when we heard something fell. She quickly said “mommy, one of your weapons fell.” We both cracked up.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 26th, 2013
12:42 pm
” I am so far from stiff. I will just say don’t get yourself hurt and leave it at that, lol.”
Not sure why my heart just started beating a little faster………
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 26th, 2013
12:44 pm
disco, Not sure if she had an idea, but she went atomic on his ass from the rip……
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 26th, 2013
12:47 pm
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P0UYrhYm2Rc