Hook up or relationship potential?
I know the feeling people get when they meet someone new and things are so..well NEW NEW. You aren’t sure if they like you the same way you like them. You don’t really want to show all your “cards” (emotions) first because that idea terrifies you. You basically want to figure out as soon as you can: am I a hook up or potential relationship candidate.
Maybe on some level, it doesn’t matter. Time usually reveals all, right? Is there a way to get a hint of which way it will go, though? The way we date these days makes it harder to gauge true interest. We definitely have to develop some skills!
How can you really tell if you are hook up or considered for a relationship unless you ask outright? Is it a good idea early on or can that backfire?
Do men usually take a long time to figure out if they are interested in a relationship versus just a hook up?
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Lady~Sunshine~
February 25th, 2013
8:19 am
Good MorningMIA & my buddy C~~~~~
A guy friend gave me this assessment and I have to cosign~ Honestly that’s something to be discussed before going out on the first date. Talking about what each of you are looking for is key. Don’t be afraid to pose open-ended questions. What youre wanting to know should be out in the open early. You’ll be able to tell how sincere the guy is if the convo moves to that. But also keep in mind that if you go seeking that too soon you may misconstrue that bc he wants something serious that it’s with you and may not or worse, that he identifies such early inquiries as though you’re attempting to define the course you’ll both take instead of it occurring naturally, which can be a potential turn-off. Just remember to ease into it, make him be a gentleman at all times and you’ll get your answers for good or bad.
I will pop back in later and see what the masses assess~
disco
February 25th, 2013
9:01 am
good morning. hook up or relationship material? I’m sure many hook ups turned into relationships but that’s neither here nor there. re showing cards first, that was a game I may have played in my youth but now, a chick’s too old for that. it’s time to show the hand and stop trying to keep aces up the sleeve. lol. do men take a long time to figure out what they want? let them tell it, women don’t know what they want. that would lead one to believe that men do. in this case, I believe they do. whether they share or not, are honest or not, I think they know what they want. the curveball in all this is that what a person wants does tend to change.
MissMoni223
February 25th, 2013
9:02 am
GOOD Monday Morning MIA!!!
Well, if you aren’t interested in just a hook up state that up front. That way if that is all the guy wants he can gracefully bow out before things go anywhere. He doesn’t get the option of either or when you let him know that his options are to have a relationship OR leave me alone. There is no hooking up!
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
9:11 am
How can you really tell if you are hook up or considered for a relationship unless you ask outright? Is it a good idea early on or can that backfire? You don’t necessarily have to ask outright. As the evening progresses, the tone of the conversation easily dictates which lane you’re in. If you don’t like the scenery, alter your course.
Morning!
disco
February 25th, 2013
9:14 am
miss moni – I hate that I always sound contrary. there’s just always so many angles. lol. one person can claim to want what the other one wants. you know how that game goes. many a folks have found themselves in pseudo-relationships getting caught up in that scam right there.
hey leggs.
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
9:27 am
Hey there, disco. Disco, did you have fabulous weather yesterday? It was absolutely GORGEOUS here yesterday!
Hi Lady, MissMoni223.
MissMoni
February 25th, 2013
9:28 am
disco- I totally understand where you’re coming from on this one. . .
Leggs- “If you don’t like the scenery, alter your course.” Very true, we all have choices.
MissMoni
February 25th, 2013
9:29 am
My birthday was Saturday 2-23, I am still in CELEBRATION mode!!!
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
9:30 am
Silly me, I read Lady’s last two word’s as masses A$$ess. Whew, I need a cup of coffee and I don’t drink coffee.
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
9:35 am
MissMoni, you are now added to by bday list.
Lady~Sunshine~
February 25th, 2013
9:37 am
Hey Leggs!!!! Been a minute sis! wishing you well!
Celisea
February 25th, 2013
9:38 am
Heeey Lady, just peeking in. I’m working from home today. I got a couple more things going on in the home, adding to the renovations done. I got contractors here.
I’ll peek in later.
Oh, I had such a nice nice nice time this weekend
MissMoni
February 25th, 2013
9:40 am
Thanks Leggs! I’m not a coffee drinker either, I feel like a real minority in my office, LOL!
disco
February 25th, 2013
9:42 am
leggs – re needing a cup of coffee and not drinking coffee. lately I’ve been saying I needed a blunt and I don’t smoke.
Celisea
February 25th, 2013
9:42 am
I guess I could have said something on topic….lol
In my opinion or mind (lol), most (not all) but the vast majority of men are looking for a hookup. IMO, if you sell yourself short, you got bought for mere pennies. I agree with Lady, make it crystal clear and stick with that. If you’re able to do hookups and get your dusting, with no issue and that’s all you’re looking for do you, but if it’s a relationship you want, be open and up front (don’t scare folks off) in exactly what you desire. Now, in not running folks off, I wouldn’t say say that the moment y’all shake hands or have your first sit-down, but I will say, before anything (i.e. clothes) comes off, make sure you both are on the same page or make sure folks ain’t pretending to be on the same page….lol
BBL…..maybe
Button
February 25th, 2013
9:44 am
How can you really tell if you are hook up or considered for a relationship unless you ask outright? There is really no other way other than asking, oh and then there’s the gut instinct.
Is it a good idea early on or can that backfire? It depends on the level of the relationship. What your connections are with each other. There’s really know why of saying it’s too early to ask where you are in the relationship. If it backfire then maybe its a relationship of convenience.
Do men usually take a long time to figure out if they are interested in a relationship versus just a hook up? NOPE!!! they know first hand.
Celisea
February 25th, 2013
9:55 am
most (not all) but the vast majority of men are looking for a hookup.
Did I do thaaaat….said like Steve Urkel…lol
Hazel
February 25th, 2013
9:57 am
Is it a good idea early on or can that backfire?
I agree with Celisea and others who are on the same page and me. Its a GREAT idea to let it be know early on! No point in wasting my time or yours. Lets be real. It may not work out most of the time, but you will appreciate it later on.
Exiled
February 25th, 2013
10:01 am
I would hazard to say that most men are driven by a lustful desire …….Meelo…
@Celisea..In my opinion or mind (lol), most (not all) but the vast majority of men are looking for a hookup
Yes Yes Yes…..!!!!
Good morning!
Slim Nu
February 25th, 2013
10:02 am
lately I’ve been saying I needed a blunt and I don’t smoke.
disco – Speaking of smoking, I actually smoked hookah this weekend for the first time.
!
February 25th, 2013
10:06 am
They are sheep in wolves clothing, so be careful whom you’re talking to and what you tell them. Demonic spirited people can also be-friend you then, try to harm you mentally…Bad diseases spread from one person to another. When God delivers you from certain people, shake yourself move on and don’t catch the disease again.
Button
February 25th, 2013
10:10 am
I can agree with you Celisea most men are looking for a hook up! When I was out there actively dating I would tell them upfront I’m not looking for a hook up or any other street jargon that’s out here nowadays. Better yet, don’t even use the word hook up with me. I can’t stand that word! Let’s hook up,…no thanks!
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
10:11 am
I’m good, Lady. Went on a semi shopping spree Friday and then again yesterday. Got some good bargains so I’m feeling special (lol). Just need Spring to get here so I can the garments (lol).
disco ~ speaking about blunts, I was watching Investigation Discovery and this grandma was meeting with an undercover cop she thought was a hitman to take out her two granddaughters and their mother. This woman is in her late 60’s saying she’s so nervous she wished she didn’t leave her joints at home. I cracked up. Cops in room next door and barge in guns drawn after she laid out the details. Why do people think they’re really talking to a hit man.
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
10:13 am
so I can WEAR…
disco
February 25th, 2013
10:15 am
leggs – what I want to know is what did the grandkids and their momma do to her? lol.
msjenkins8@gmail.com
February 25th, 2013
10:16 am
good deal Leggs~
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
10:17 am
Button ~ I told a guy a few months ago that I didn’t care for the word “hook up” when asking when can he see me. He would call saying “when can we hook up for a movie or something?” I asked that he simply asks when can we go out again, because “hook up” has a negative connotation to my hears.
Bluzgirl
February 25th, 2013
10:18 am
Morning!
I would think that you could tell pretty quick on a first (or second) date if it’s just a hook up situation. I was a little surprised when I went out with the Young One that he really wanted a relationship right away. It was just too quick for me! LOL! In the past, I went on dates where I could tell that it would have just been a hook up if I wanted it to be. The two terrible dates I had were practically drooling by the end of the night and I shut them down!
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
10:18 am
to my ears, my ears.
Dang, perhaps I smoked a blunt and didn’t know it (lol).
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
10:19 am
Well, no way I wouldn’t know it, but you know what I mean. Typing is way off this morning.
Exiled
February 25th, 2013
10:21 am
msjenkins8@gmail.com? whaat?
Is that a hook up?
Off Topic:
If that lil pouch that Halle has is not a new baby,then Damn Damn Damn….hope its a baby.
Lawd Have Mercy!
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
10:21 am
disco ~ her son molested his daughters and they were going to testify against him. Grandma, her son and his father thought it best if they eliminated the witnesses, the son would never stand trial…dumb clucks!!!
She said she loved her son so much she would anything, anything for him, even murder her grandchildren.
Personally, I think she’s been smoking for long and her brain is now a den of marijuana seeds.
disco
February 25th, 2013
10:29 am
I don’t think the term “hook up” itself bothers me. I think I use it generally too much. hook up with me, catch up with me, get with me, holler at me. all interchangeable in my world.
Button
February 25th, 2013
10:39 am
Leggs – good for you!
Exile – I was thinking the same thing. but naw I think she forgot to put on her spandex.
Ms J~
February 25th, 2013
10:43 am
no hook up~ lol
Ms J~
February 25th, 2013
10:46 am
awww snap I likes that better guess I can replace Lady to Ms lol yeah my womanhood is expanding~ I proud of where its going~ #random
disco
February 25th, 2013
10:46 am
okay. time for me to play devil’s advocate. since so many of the women folk are anti-hook-up I just have to go here. yeah, you may want a relationship but let’s face it. viable candidates aren’t always lining up the block. nobody here is going to admit to accepting a hook-up to at least take the edge off in the meantime? ijs. let’s keep it real up in here. lol.
Celisea
February 25th, 2013
10:50 am
Lawd Jesus…NO HOOK UPS means no hook up. Folks aint’ gotta lie. Taking edge off don’t always getting dusted…..lol Sometimes that means read a book, knit a sweater, have some coffee, take a swim, jog a mile….lololol
Back to work
Bluzgirl
February 25th, 2013
10:50 am
disco – you know I’ll admit that! There have been several times that all I wanted was a hook up!
disco
February 25th, 2013
10:56 am
bluz – I know that you and I are not the only ones. lol.
MsAtl
February 25th, 2013
10:56 am
Morning All!
I think for the most part, you can tell early on whether it is heading toward a relationship or is just a hook up. However, I believe it is best to keep it real and honest. If you are looking for a hook up and I am not, then I would rather not waste my time or yours.
Disco- you are right, viable candidates may not be lining up. You have to be okay with remaining single if you are a no hookup typr of person.
disco
February 25th, 2013
11:01 am
ms atl – viable hook up candidates are just as hard to find as viable man candidates. lol. for me they have to meet essentially the same criteria except that the hook up guy has to be on point physically whereas with the real man I might take a short here or there if it’s made up somewhere else. hook up man don’t get that luxury. he better be tight.
MsAtl
February 25th, 2013
11:03 am
Disco- Lol. So basically, the hookup man has to be Essence’s Eye Candy, huh?
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
11:09 am
disco ~ I’m going to keep it real for you. NOPE! If I need to, I’ll take the edge off myself. I’m the type that can’t sex another then go our separate ways. All to get the edge off…No can do.
disco
February 25th, 2013
11:13 am
ms atl – yep. hook up man has to be a bad boy. lol.
leggs – cool. I know everybody’s not “not doing” it just like I know everybody’s not doing it.
Button
February 25th, 2013
11:14 am
disco – only one thing comes to mind @ 10:46 shall I say woman thou art loose! lol
disco
February 25th, 2013
11:16 am
button – call it what you will but I know everybody’s coochie ain’t locked down waiting on mr. right or the man of their dreams or the knight in shining armor or to say “I do”. some may have low libidos, some may tend to the matter themselves, others go out there and make it do what it do. it is what it is.
MsAtl
February 25th, 2013
11:22 am
I say to each her own. Whatever you choose, keep it real with yourself and the other person. Because I choose not to hook up does not mean it is the way it should go or the right way.
Button
February 25th, 2013
11:22 am
disco – I don’t kinow what everybody else is doing, I just know what I’m doing and that’s really all that matters. Also just because everybody else may be doing it dosen’t mean I need to jump in and do it too. Another thing, even if I didn’t have men lined up at my door which I have experience what I call a drought doesn’t excuse me to spread eagle style and frlock my body to every tom duck or harry either.
Slim Nu
February 25th, 2013
11:23 am
Bluz – How was it seeing Mags over the weekend? Did you stay strong or did you go in for a ‘tune-up”?
Celisea
February 25th, 2013
11:25 am
Honestly, IMO it all just depends on your mentality and how you’ve operated. There are some folks that believe they absolutely cannot go without. There are some folks that believe mind over matter. There are some folks that can only relate to “slumming” (any ole get down with any ole thing….not saying anyone here…IJS), there are some folks that’s only dealt with certain kind or woman (or man) and will only deal with that kind, etc etc etc….. In essence, IMO whatever your lifestyle has been, naturally some folks can’t relate to something totally opposite and I would guess that could go for everyone. Not to say that one’s lifestyle over another is wrong, but it’s evident that folks relate to what they know and gravitate to what they’re accustomed. So, my point is that some folks would much much rather take a pass during the drought than than to dilly dally, just for the sake of, believe that.
disco
February 25th, 2013
11:25 am
button – let’s not get so defensive. I’m not calling anybody out. I agree with you. to each his own. none of my business. all I’m saying is I know folks are doing it. I don’t claim to know what “blog folks” are doing.
Celisea
February 25th, 2013
11:27 am
Also, from my experiences “in between” relationships with abstaining, I keeps (yep keeps) a clear head and ready when the right one does come along….believe that also
Button
February 25th, 2013
11:33 am
disco – not being defensive. I hope you don’t think that I’m taking jabs because I’m not. just stating that not everyone is out here getting a “trim”. Some people do respect themselves, I know I do. it would be silly of me to think that everyone is out there hooking up so I should too. I don’t want to be ran through, worn out because of that way of thinking.
Ms J~
February 25th, 2013
11:35 am
pretty much C~
disco
February 25th, 2013
11:36 am
button – cool. maybe some kind of way you got the impression I was saying that it’s what everyone should do. nope. definitely not what I was saying.
Dirty Bird is going to tell the truth! Yes I am
February 25th, 2013
11:45 am
Good Morning!
Wisa Diva I need your assistance, I am adding a new man law number 2,222. When Celisea states she is busy and will blog in later, I want a 1/2 time limit before she is allowed to post again.
@Disco…When folks were younger they were involved in a lot of hook-ups unless they were married at an early age. For some reason women have a tough time admitting the truth when it comes to having sex with man and the relationship did not last more the 1 to 3 months. Short term relationships are basically hook-ups. Yes they are!
I want to hook-up with BluzGirl, Disco and Slim-Nu…Yes I do
lol
DuShawn
February 25th, 2013
11:48 am
I personally agree with a lot of the ladies comments. Because of my moral convictions, I don’t believe in just merely “hooking up”. The act itself without an emotional connection is hollow. She at least has to possess the potential to become a mistress with longevity. If not, I might as well go home to my wife.
Celisea
February 25th, 2013
11:48 am
Lady or I should say Ms. J, nice ring to that –
Ms J~
February 25th, 2013
11:49 am
Ms. J suffice C~ every two years I change the moniker to keep up chica! hahahaha!
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
11:52 am
“…can only relate to “slumming” (any ole get down with any ole thing…” – this cracked me up!
disco
February 25th, 2013
11:52 am
DB – I was sitting here wondering where the men folks were. would have assumed you all were off somewhere hooking up except for the fact that the “blog gents” are all so upstanding and whatnot. lol.
btw, a lot of chicks who do marry young and then divorce 10, 15, 20 years later find themselves out there hooking up too. of course “blog ladies” I’m certainly not saying any of you do or did that, just saying that some do.
Button
February 25th, 2013
11:54 am
Dirty – either it’s a hook up or dating/relationship. lol
how can you get a hook up out of a relationship?
Dating is getting to know someone – they want to get to know one another and there is the prospect of a future relationship- whether it be short or long term.
hooking up is just about gratification.
MsAtl
February 25th, 2013
11:55 am
DuShawn- You can go straight to the corner for using “moral convictions” and “mistress with longevity” in the same post…
For Real
February 25th, 2013
11:56 am
What blog fam!
On topic: Everything is a hook up until both parties decides otherwise. I’m sorry but it shouldn’t take an adult longer than 10 mins to know who they are dealing with.
Also, Why do some women believe having sex means they don’t respect themselves? You are an adult and it’s yours do what you want to do with it while someone wants to do something to it or you will be sitting all alone with your respect.
Button
February 25th, 2013
11:57 am
disco – how do you know?? lol
you say it as if it is true!
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
11:58 am
I kinda feel sorry for those women who feel then need a man under them to feel womanly. Out of one relationship and quickly jump into another one (sexual). Give your heart, body and mind time to heal. Unfortunately, some just don’t believe in this. Too many JLo’s walking amongst us.
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
12:00 pm
MsAtl ~ I was waiting on someone to touch that. I knew someone would (lol).
Button
February 25th, 2013
12:00 pm
For Real – I’ll sit in my corner with respect cold back chilling lol
For Real
February 25th, 2013
12:00 pm
Disco: The blog ladies are hooking too.
buttom: All relationships no matter their type are about gratification. Period!
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
12:02 pm
Also, Why do some women believe having sex means they don’t respect themselves? – I don’t think women think that. If some do, they’re having other issues. let’s turn that around, ForReal, women don’t believe in having sex with me who want them, but don’t respect them other than to have sex w/them. There’s the difference.
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
12:03 pm
sheesh…..w/men
Celisea
February 25th, 2013
12:03 pm
Heeeey, where’s my post?
Button
February 25th, 2013
12:06 pm
5^ Leggs!
In the words of Prince –
I guess I should’ve known by the way
You parked your car sideways that it wouldn’t last
See, you’re the kinda person that believes in makin’ out once
Love ‘em and leave ‘em fast
Everytime I hear hook up I think of little red corvette.
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
12:06 pm
Celisea ~ Dirty Bird may have eaten it.
For Real
February 25th, 2013
12:08 pm
Button: Am I to assume you have never had sex then?
Leggs: So women would prefer to have sex with men that respect them but don’t want them? Come Leggs that’s just “women speak” to make you feel good about yourself. You cannot remove attraction from the equation of sex. The day men stop wanting to have sex for the sake of sex is the day we become women which would fugged up!
For Real now wondering if women know the meaning of respect.
Bluzgirl
February 25th, 2013
12:09 pm
Slim – Sorry…I had to step away from my office for a bit.
So….Friday night, Mags and I acted like we didn’t know each other. I didn’t want to start anything, so I didn’t go up to him. Then again, I shouldn’t have to go up to him…he’s the one who said he would give me money next time we saw each other and he chose to not approach me. I was happy and had a lot of friends around and wasn’t sweating him at all! I looked at him and had zero attraction towards him!!! He just confirmed that I did the right thing by cutting him out of my life!
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
12:12 pm
ForReal ~ one thing you can’t do, is to call something women speak to make them feel better. You’re not qualified. Next, you can turn my statement around if you like, but women would prefer someone to respect them, want them, admire them, appreciate them for more things than just her body.
For the record, sir, we know the meaning of respect and that’s why some of you knuckleheads work as hard as some of you work.
Leggs now wondering if ForReal is for real……
disco
February 25th, 2013
12:14 pm
way to go bluz!!!
button – I say it as if it were true because if I know at least one person that backs up my statement of “some do” then that makes it true. plus while I know there are some unique individuals in the world, I doubt the ones that I know are all that unique.
Dirty Bird is going to tell the truth! Yes I am
February 25th, 2013
12:15 pm
@Button, I stated relationship because some want to call it a relationship, when something last for only a short period of time you are basically hooking up. Some women like to justify their action for some reason. Like that makes them feel better about their decision when they call it a relationship instead of hooking-up. Hooking up with someone does not always happen when you first meet someone. Often times you find not available at that time, then later you hook-up with that person for sex or possible a romance. Women need to be truthful about the sex capades to themselves. Know thy Self..
Who wants to hook-up First? lol
Bluzgirl
February 25th, 2013
12:15 pm
Dirty – Cracking up at your 11:45! You made my day! LOL!
Celisea
February 25th, 2013
12:17 pm
Why do some women believe having sex means they don’t respect themselves? You are an adult and it’s yours do what you want to do with it
IMO……..Because repeatedly giving yourself away (like government cheese) means you ain’t respecting your temple, and that behavior will eventually take it’s toll. Again, the vast (not all) majority of women are unable to give themselves sans emotions, heart and soul getting pulled in. Giving your all over and over only to get nothing in return will turn the insides black. That behavior will only have you coming up empty, eventually leaving nothing but a shell. The body was not intended to be a tool. Yeah, it’s yours to do what you please but misusing and mistreating will have unavoidable ramifications.
Celisea
February 25th, 2013
12:20 pm
Leggs – Celisea ~ Dirty Bird may have eaten it.
Doh
Dirty Bird is going to tell the truth! Yes I am
February 25th, 2013
12:22 pm
Quite Leggs, Celisea does not know I am collaborating with the Wise One regarding the 1/2 hour ban I instituting when she states she is busy and will blog later.
I would say quite a few women do not know what respect is, their is so much crazyness going on with relationships right now and women are right smack in the middle with their no respect knowing azzes. lol
Bluzgirl
February 25th, 2013
12:23 pm
I haven’t always respected myself, but have definitely come a long way. I feel, though, that if I want to just hook up with someone, I’m not disrespecting myself. I’m doing what I want to do…
Bluzgirl
February 25th, 2013
12:25 pm
Oh…thanks disco! I’ll bet folks thought I was gonna fall back into the trap! Even had he come up to me, I would have been nice, but would have made it know that he needed to KIM! LOL
DuShawn
February 25th, 2013
12:29 pm
“Because repeatedly giving yourself away …….”I think that’s taking it to an extreme. There is a huge difference between occasionally “hooking up” with a friend for some meaningless sex and defiling your temple with frequent multiple penises.
MsAtl
February 25th, 2013
12:30 pm
In my opinion, just because a “relationship” lasted only three months, does not convert it to hooking up. Hooking up is a mindset. You go into it wanting just the tail, nothing more. That is all you want and all you expect. If you go into something with the intent of having a relationship and the other person is deceitful and just wanted a hookup, that does not change your thoughts or feelings with respect to what it was no more than it does when one partner in a marriage cheats. That is why if you want a relationship, you should try to get to know the person and their intentions prior to jumping into bed. If you want a hook up, then by all means…
As far as respect, I know what it is; I expect it; and I demand it. If you cannot give it, then you will not be in my life.
Celisea
February 25th, 2013
12:40 pm
There is a huge difference between occasionally “hooking up” with a friend for some meaningless sex and defiling your temple with frequent multiple penises.
And again, back to one’s mentality because anything meaningless, whether ocassional or as a way of life, for me, is empty. I don’t do anything meaningless. That may sound all good too shoe-ish, but I don’t want you to waste your time and you dang sure ain’t gonna waste mine.
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
12:41 pm
Bluz ~ nice read. Ok, he owes you gas money! Chalk it up to game. It’s not like it’s a car note….what do I say….NEXT!
You got it, MsAtl. If you’re in a relationship for some time and it doesn’t last, doesn’t mean it was a hookup. It means you two realized, or one of you realized, you couldn’t continue with each other.
Celisea
February 25th, 2013
12:42 pm
Y’all ain’t gon believe how my hair looks…lolol This is week eight and touch-up time. I mean, I got home late and went to bed “as is.” Hot mess. I almost tempted to get out the straightening comb…lololol If I can juuuuuuust make it until Saturday. I think Imma wash and roller set it. That might hold me over a few days.
Slim Nu
February 25th, 2013
12:44 pm
Hi my name is Slim and I had a hook up pahtna back in school. We both knew what it was. We had fun together. There, now a blog chick has admitted to hooking up without a relationship or trying to justify it as something more….but we were friends though
Bluzgirl
February 25th, 2013
12:44 pm
Leggs – Yeah…it’s not like he owes me a couple hundred dollars like the Ex did (which I never got and gave up on)! Like I said in the past, it wasn’t about the money, it was about the principal. He went back on something he said he would do and then was disrespectful about it. Glad to be DONE!!!!
Slim Nu
February 25th, 2013
12:45 pm
Meaningless sex is an oxymoron isn’t it….otherwise, why do it? We have sex for pleasure so unless it’s forced upon you, it isn’t really meaningless, right?
disco
February 25th, 2013
12:46 pm
slim – since that sounded all like A.A. I’ll say “Hi Slim” (so you see I’m at the meeting too). lol.
disco
February 25th, 2013
12:47 pm
slim – I always say women have sex for either love, lust or money.
Slim Nu
February 25th, 2013
12:48 pm
Bluz – Yeah you need not let them few dollars get under your skin like that. If anything, think of it as payment for him to go away. POOF! lol
Bluzgirl
February 25th, 2013
12:49 pm
Hi Slim and disco! My name is Bluzgirl and I too have had hook up partners in the past!
It makes you wonder about all the people who act like they are holier than thou…it’s not a bad thing to just have a hook up here and there. I can see if you are hooking with a different person every night, but even then…no one should be judging…
Dirty Bird (Hook-Ups are good) Yeah!!!
February 25th, 2013
12:50 pm
That is true the body is a temple and we have to be careful what we put in it. What more important is how you think about yourself if your self esteem and confidence is high then making decisions such as hook-ups does not weigh you down mentally. Safe sex hook-ups can be very relaxing mentally and physically.
I’ve had a few women tell me I used their body up, I simply state, I wanted to get it ready for the next person. Now you may go out and spread good joy among the men population because now that body is ready! Yes it is….
Many women hook-up with their mate after they have broken up….Yes they do…It is still a hook-up…. Yes it is!
disco
February 25th, 2013
12:55 pm
DB – some years ago about 3 or 4 of my acquaintances were sleeping with their ex-husbands. I wondered if something was in the water? lol. one of them had an ongoing thing with the ex-hubs for years. they are still on again/off again and have been divorced close to 15 years. I think the others were just lonely and the ex was there.
Slim Nu
February 25th, 2013
12:55 pm
Bluz – No holier than thou over here….I mean, unless you are a sex addict and engage in high risk type activities, then I dont see the big deal in a hook up or two during a lifetime. If you’ve slept with all the men on your job, in your apartment complex, in your subdivision, all your friends partners etc…then you might, just might have a little problem lol
For Real
February 25th, 2013
12:58 pm
Leggs: I don’t need to be a woman in order to recognize BS. Chick may want that ish you mentioned but most chicks fail to realize respect and admiration is earn and not giving. Since you can’t see respect and admiration from across the room, I am going to go with what I can see which is your long leggs in that fitted skirt, greased up cleavage and that big bright smile. Cause I don’t know not nan dude that get sprung off respect and admiration.
Celisea: I think you would need to define “repeatedly” cause is if its 6 times then everyone chick you know is black inside.
For Real now making Leggs and Celisea a PB&J sandwich.
Button
February 25th, 2013
12:58 pm
disco – Dirty – For Real – yall are not going to make me side with you and your way of thinking! I stand firm in what I believe and will not faulter to appease to anyone. The same values I hold is the same values I’ve enstilled in my daughters and any child that come into my presence to not be a city with no walls!
Button
February 25th, 2013
1:04 pm
^% MsAtl – Celisea – Leggs
Bluzgirl if you want to hook up by all means continue if you see fit and it works for you, but calling someone holier than thou for not agreeing with you or doing the same is not good.
Why is there an arguement over who hooking up??
Button
February 25th, 2013
1:05 pm
oops that’s ^5 to MsAtl – Celisea and Leggs
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
1:07 pm
SlimNu ~ you have a point there re: meaningless sex.
Bluz ~ I understand the principal of it. Glad you’re willing to try other types of Trojans and putting Magnum back on the self.
For Real
February 25th, 2013
1:08 pm
Slim: We had a good time didn’t we?
For Real now remembering the good ole day with Slim and bag of salt and vinegar skins.
Bluzgirl
February 25th, 2013
1:09 pm
I’m not calling someone holier than thou…I’m saying that a lot of people act like they are holier than thou. If you don’t want to do casual hook ups, I have no problem with that. I’m not even calling out anyone on this blog. I’ve seen many women pass judgement on woman who hook up occasionally. Just because a woman wants sex, doesn’t make her a bad person. Come on…women are the first to call another woman a sl*t, wh*re, etc…
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
1:11 pm
Cause I don’t know not nan dude that get sprung off respect and admiration. – Cool, ForReal. No one mentioned gettng “sprung” and if you’re looking at the long leggs in that tight skirt and the cleavage, you’re at least sprung on the admiration part!
Slim Nu
February 25th, 2013
1:15 pm
For Real – I was just thinking about that the other day. We had a blast but I think I may have had way more fun than you. Speaking of which, i’m still missing my shoelace, velcroe strap and big can of squeeze cheese.
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
1:19 pm
Ut oh, whatcha doing with that velcroe strap???
Slim Nu
February 25th, 2013
1:42 pm
Leggs – I think he may have strapped everyone’s mouths/hands shut since it got super quiet in here. lol
For Real
February 25th, 2013
1:45 pm
Slim: Remember the shoelace broken when we you trying use it as pulley. As for the squeeze cheese i ate that up while performing a earmuffintechomy and the velcroe strap, well you know how strong your legs are when they start to twitch. What I want to know is what the hell happen to all those pop rocks and do you have my mustachifier?
kimmie
February 25th, 2013
1:47 pm
Hey Gang!!
Got my convertible Beetle on Saturday and it is BANGING!! I am in heaven!!!
On topic – I think most folks know what they want when they leave the house, though that can change. Some might go out thinking I’m not looking for anything serious, and then meet someone they think could change all that. The key really is finding someone on the same page, take them at their word, and be able to deal with it if your mind changes over time and the person’s doesn’t. Folks want guarantees and there just are not any. You are taking a chance when you put yourself out there.
We all may have found ourselves in a hook-up situation at one point or another in our lives, depending on what was going on at the time. No shame, unless it’s become your way of life. Then it’s just sort of sad, but hey do you.
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
1:50 pm
Possibly because it’s eerily quiet. All chatting stopped at once.
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
1:51 pm
Congratulations, kimmie…What color?
kimmie
February 25th, 2013
1:52 pm
Leggs – Thanks, powder blue with a black top and grey interior!
Exiled!
February 25th, 2013
2:01 pm
Women don’t have the power to call it a relationship by themselves. A lot if times two folks meet,they fugg,the relationship is not defined as exclusive at that point.
For guys,it is a hook up
For women,they usually just say ‘he’s my friend’ to their aquaintances. But she been f^gged already.
It’s a hook up. But she won’t admit it to herself,let alone to another.
So uall wasting ur time.
Yes Disco…blog women f^gg too!
Hook ups.
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
2:01 pm
Sounds super cute!
For Real
February 25th, 2013
2:02 pm
What up Kimmie. Um, powder blue? Your husband’s life is about to change.
Kimmie: Hey honey can you take my car to the shop and get the breaks fixed?
Sammie: No!
Kimmie: Why not? Come on baby.
Sammie: No! I told you not to buy that dayum car in the first place.
Kimmie: What’s wrong with my car? I love it.
Sammie: Yeah until I have to drive it!
Kimmie: What’s wrong with you driving my car? (Doorbell rings) Hello can I help you?…. Sammie Twan from Auto Zone is here!
kimmie
February 25th, 2013
2:03 pm
Leggs – It is!! The kids are thrilled they don’t have to ride in my hoopty to school anymore!!
Slim Nu
February 25th, 2013
2:03 pm
As for the squeeze cheese i ate that up while performing a earmuffintechomy
For Real – I guess that would explain why i had ritz cracker crumbs in my arse. I still have the mustachifier but I told you I was not giving it back until you bought me another industrial sized bottle of ky jelly. That was SOOO not funny when you poured the pop rocks in there and had my goods blowing up like a Fourth of July fireworks shows
kimmie
February 25th, 2013
2:04 pm
For Real – You and your skits – cute!
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
2:08 pm
SlimNu ~ you are good!
disco
February 25th, 2013
2:08 pm
button – re 12:58. ain’t nobody trying to convert you. do you miss.
kimmie – just remember to take your ski mask off when shopping. lol. oh wait. you are down south. never mind.
kimmie
February 25th, 2013
2:10 pm
It’s a hook up. But she won’t admit it to herself,let alone to another.
Exiled – That doesn’t make sense. If one is ashamed to admit it to others, then they’ve already admitted it to themselves!!
See a grown a$$ woman with any dignity about herself will own her hook up or whatever her situation is. A big part of growing up is not having the need to have your friends all up in your business! It’s nobody’s business but mine & who I deal with.
kimmie-Bugg owner!
February 25th, 2013
2:14 pm
Hey Disco!!!
Bluzgirl
February 25th, 2013
2:15 pm
Yay kimmie!!!! I know you’re happy and probably finding any reason to drive your car all over the place!
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
2:16 pm
kimmie ~ a big part of growing up is not having anyone up in your business. You and your mate. That’s all that matters.
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
2:17 pm
Gas on the chest….
kimmie-Bugg owner!
February 25th, 2013
2:18 pm
Bluz – Yep!!LOL!!
For Real
February 25th, 2013
2:20 pm
Slim: “That was SOOO not funny when you poured the pop rocks in there and had my goods blowing up like a Fourth of July fireworks shows” – Yeah but you got to admit it shoal was purdy. It made me all tinglingly inside. As for the ky, no,I’ll be at your office around 3 for your daily earmuffintechomy that should relieve the burning itchy sensation you feel. So bring my mustachifier and make sure you are sitting in a more sturdier chair this time. So when I strap your legs to the chair and tilt it back you will not break it.
For Real now pack
disco
February 25th, 2013
2:23 pm
kimmie/leggs/C – I stayed up past my bedtime last week to watch scandal and it only occurred to me over the weekend that y’all didn’t bring it up. lol.
Robert
February 25th, 2013
2:26 pm
From my experience I have heard a woman can tell if they are interested in a man by his body language (smile, eyes, smell, height, weight, teeth, etc.) in the first 5 minutes after they meet. I have heard women say “men spend all that time, efffort and money trying to convince her for nothing”. A woman already knows what she wants and how to get it.
kimmie-Bugg owner!
February 25th, 2013
2:27 pm
disco – I actually thought about that later myself! Let me ask you – it looks like the new dude is stalking for the Prez, but do you think he kinda likes her himself?
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
2:27 pm
For Real
February 25th, 2013
2:28 pm
Chapter 2
Welcome to Auto Zone my name is Antwone.
Sammy: Yeah I’m looking for some plugs
Antwone: Cool, what’s the make, model and year of your car?
Sammy: Um, it’s a 4 cyl
Antwone: Okay but Imma need the other info.
Sammy: It’s a 2010 powder blue Beetle.
Antwone: Oh my… okay i got your plugs right here Mr. Man.
Sammy: Don’t call me that Antwone.
Antwone: My friends call me Twone and I like your car.
Sammy: Well I ain’t your friend and it’s my wife car. I’m married.. to a girl too
Twone: How long you had that problem?
Sammy runs out of Auto Zone….
Twone: Handsome you forgot your plugs!!!!!
Exiled!
February 25th, 2013
2:30 pm
Kimmie..u and I are just outsiders looking in.
But from what I have observed and heard on here,women are more secretive about s e x stuff,even to their friends. Men..nope…if we hit it,we let others know unless if the chic has been upgraded,that’s when we don’t talk to our peers bout it. We are secretive when it comes to money issues.
Actually,if a chic wants to find out from a dude if she is hook up or serious stuff to the guy,she should find a guy friend who knows his friends.
If her layup business is an open secret with his folks,or he has indicated to them how many times he has slept at her house etc…she is a hook up.
Riding with my bro,taking him to the Airport as he was flying out,his phone rings. I could hear a female voice in the background. My son and daughter were sitting in the back. But I wanted to know who that chic was without letting the kids in on the discussion.
So I switched to Zulu. They don’t understand it.
So I ask:
Him. Or it’s some chic that lives in Lawrencville.
So what’s the deal,I ask…
And he broke it down,sexually as laughed and slept hands all the way to the Airport.
It’s a hook up.
I am never going to hear him say that he wants to marry her.
She should ask me.
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
2:30 pm
kimmie ~ I think the more he watches her, the more intrigued he’s become. He will either “deliver her from eva, I mean evil” or stomp her more into a foolish heap of snot!
kimmie-Bugg owner!
February 25th, 2013
2:31 pm
For Real –
Exiled!
February 25th, 2013
2:32 pm
we laughed
disco
February 25th, 2013
2:37 pm
leggs – I almost don’t remember the episode. I remember thinking they need to leave huck alone. they were acting like he smelled like hot garbage sprinkled with piss. lol. I remember thinking david (?) didn’t need to get caught up with abby again. I simply don’t like her and think he can do better. the president was smelling himself but I think last week’s episode reminded him that he really doesn’t know what the heck he is doing. (and I hope all “my thinks” are from last week. I could be mixing episodes).
Slim Nu
February 25th, 2013
2:38 pm
For Real – No worries on the chair. I found a gently used dentist chair on craigs list the other day. It came with a 2yr supply of dental floss, 3 tubes of fixodent and 12 mouth guards.
Exiled!
February 25th, 2013
2:39 pm
I remember way back,nailing this chic inside my car,as it was raining,whilst parked at nite at her sister’s house. I really liked that ….in the rain.
We had mutual male friends and I let them know bout that experience.
How bout one of my buddies wanted her too but I beat him to it. And he called her…talkbout,’how u gon let Meelo nail u in the car like that’ …laughing etc.
She called me and told me to go to He ll
I was out of rotation.
Button
February 25th, 2013
2:40 pm
Kimmie you should be proud of your car and your hook ups. Any grown a$$ woman would be!
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
2:40 pm
Your thinks are from last week, but guess you forgot that Huck smells because he’s in shell shock. When he was captive, they waterboarded him. He’s scared of water. I think Abby is sneaky too, and the President is simply falling apart because he knows he doesn’t deserve to be President.
disco
February 25th, 2013
2:41 pm
slim – no you didn’t bring up the dentist’s chair… I remember telling someone once that the dentist’s chair was made for getting it on. lol.
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
2:41 pm
Oh, and when Olivia slapped the President while in the closet, she should have been turned off instead of turned on! She’s a twit….
kimmie-Bugg owner!
February 25th, 2013
2:42 pm
Exiled – Sound like some high school ish to me. But that’s why a lot of women(grown) are not sharing their business with everyone. Plus, I thought you dudes didn’t do such, you are always downing women for telling their friends everything. Now you’re admitting that’s not the case. Why would I need to run behind a grown man’s back and ask his friends about his escapades?
Personally though, that’s why alot of dudes miss out on more quality women. They are immature and have double standards. I know with me I have met guys where the chemistry between us was off the chain. But I still had to get to know him better and try to gauge his maturity level before I went there with him. Not judge me because things happened rather fast or throw me in the hookup catagory and call me easy.
disco
February 25th, 2013
2:43 pm
leggs – I caught on to why huck smelled. just don’t think they had to do him like that (like they ain’t never smelled funky before – lol). you know huck is my boy. I remember how he checked old girl for asking if he was alright.
Slim Nu
February 25th, 2013
2:47 pm
disco
For Real
February 25th, 2013
2:50 pm
Hey blog fam I’m looking for a cool after work spot for tonight near downtown. Anyone got any ideas?
For Real now conducting jaw exercises for his 3pm meeting with Slim aka Fi Dentist
Exiled!
February 25th, 2013
2:51 pm
Kimmie…when u are serious material to him..he ain’t doing that.
That’s what I’m telling u..
U don’t have to ask his friends…I was just saying..more often than not,his close friends know if u are hook up play material to him or u are being analyzed for starter position.
kimmie-Bugg owner!
February 25th, 2013
2:53 pm
Button – I don’t really get your post, but all I’m saying is nobody is obligated to put their business out there. Alot of times it’s not what you do but how you do it. I don’t have anything to be ashamed of because I own everything I am and what I did before I married.
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
2:56 pm
I like Huck the best, then I wouldn’t mind jumping the bones of the brother. I can never remember that Gladiator’s name??
Exiled!
February 25th, 2013
2:59 pm
Uall are funny!
@Kimmie and Button
So a hook up is respectable as long it’s a secret?
Women!
a hook up is good eve now and then Period!
kimmie-Bugg owner!
February 25th, 2013
3:10 pm
Exiled – I’m saying intimate activities are nobody’s business. With that being said, I don’t get into things I need to be ashamed of later. Whatever I did or didn’t do, I own it. I’m the type of woman that will catch feelings when things go there, but to say every time, every guy I’ve gotten physically involved with in the past was within a full-blown relationship would not be truthful. Everything has it’s circumstances. But that was not my way of life and so far removed from the woman I am or how I was raised. I’ve never been one that slept with a dude and wondered after the fact what the “relationship” is. At that point, it’s too late. You don’t shoot first and ask questions later. Woman-up about it.
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
3:12 pm
kimmie ~ before marriage I was doing my thing. I came into a new person while marriage and an even newer person after divorce (lol)
Dirty Bird (Hooking-Up who's first?)
February 25th, 2013
3:15 pm
@Button, I think you are throwing your convictions/morals value and judgment at folks, that’s probably why Bluzgirl made the statement (acting holier than thou). Folks are passing around too much judgment these days.
I was simply stating women have a tendency to try make something more than what it actually is!
Common sense should tell you after a person goes ghost it in a month or two it was basically about hooking-up. Just because you want to call it a relationship in your mind does not make it a relationship.
abc
February 25th, 2013
3:20 pm
Fun and games, eh. Hookups are a sin, ergo fornication, right? Everyone’s a sinner, whether acknowledged or not, and I’ve committed that particular one plenty of times. But that’s not to say it’s A-OK. Not especially interested in persuading anyone to think one way or another, just putting it out there.
Actually, the contents of anyone’s sins is kind of uninteresting to me — but I think it’s curious that so many people declare that some behaviors, identified specifically in the Bible as sin, aren’t sins at all.
Dirty Bird (Hooking-Up who's first?)
February 25th, 2013
3:20 pm
@Leggs….Dirty Bird Gladiator is the name and I am ready for you to jump my bones. lol
Huck needs a bath before he hooks up with the President’s wife again….Oh yes he did!
disco
February 25th, 2013
3:20 pm
DB – well technically since all interactions of whatever sort are technically some type of interpersonal relationship I suppose that technically someone could call an extended fling a relationship. ijs.
DuShawn
February 25th, 2013
3:25 pm
“I’ve never been one that slept with a dude and wondered after the fact what the “relationship” is. At that point, it’s too late”…..Preach sista! That’s real grown woman talk. I recognize it because I had the opposing agenda. It was my objective to keep her infatuated and get that azz a few times before we defined what the “relationship” was. If she was wise enough to have that conversation first, gotta respect that. I dayum sure wasn’t gonna bring it up.
kimmie-Bugg owner!
February 25th, 2013
3:27 pm
disco – Everybody has their own definition of everything, especially when they are playing games!
Heck, I dated a guy for a year one time that told me I wasn’t really his serious girlfriend! You know I told him he was full of ish!!
Bluzgirl
February 25th, 2013
3:33 pm
The guy I was in a long term relationship with years ago would tell people we were just “hanging out and having fun” for just about the whole first year. He changed his tune when I threatened to leave him. He decided then that we could be “dating.” LOL
disco
February 25th, 2013
3:34 pm
kimmie – I can just hear him now “you know you my girl and all. I’m just saying though. we been together this whole year. that ain’t serious to you? I mean it’s serious to me and all it just ain’t that serious.” lol.
Slim Nu
February 25th, 2013
3:36 pm
I think it’s curious that so many people declare that some behaviors, identified specifically in the Bible as sin, aren’t sins at all
abc – I think because it may be more known of many others doing it, in the mind folks take it as no longer a sin – acceptability I suppose. It’s no different than in prison where folks that are child molesters/sex offenders, get looked down upon by murderers, theives, etc. It’s like, I can steal, hurt or kill your whole family but the minute I put my finger on a kid I’ve somehow crossed a line that I hadn’t before.
Slim Nu
February 25th, 2013
3:36 pm
Bottom line is, people judge….in some shape, form or fashion.
DuShawn
February 25th, 2013
3:38 pm
hanging out, having fun, hooking up, dating…..It’s all the same thing. Only exclusivity elevates it to a relationship status.
Slim Nu
February 25th, 2013
3:39 pm
kimmie – Congrats on your new ride…my mom, to this day, still wants her one but she wants the old school kind. If ever i’m in a position to find and get her one, I will. I’m sure a museum somewhere will have one somewhere
disco
February 25th, 2013
3:40 pm
slim – lol. well actually I do believe there is a hierarchy in criminal activity. granted I’m not trying to push my hierarchy on anyone else. I do know growing up my parents/grandparents others had a list of offenses that they’d bail you out for and a list of offenses that if you did them you might as well not even bother to call home. for example for us growing up fighting was acceptable. stealing was not acceptable.
Slim Nu
February 25th, 2013
3:41 pm
DuShawn – Some would even look down on relationships, for the simple fact that it isn’t marriage.
kimmie-Bugg owner!
February 25th, 2013
3:42 pm
Slim – The guy that cleans our carpets has one that’s a 1970 he tools around it, but he said he’s going to get it fixed up. Mine is not brand new, a 2006, but low miles and excellent condition and great price.
Slim Nu
February 25th, 2013
3:43 pm
disco – My mom definitely didn’t go for stealing. I told yall about the time my sister came home with colored chalk she stook from her classroom. When my mom found out she tore her butt up and made her return it to the teacher, acknowledging what she did and an apology to boot. lol Sure chalk is small time but either way, it was not hers to take.
disco
February 25th, 2013
3:44 pm
slim – my most recent ex is big on old school bugs. he finds them, rebuilds them and prefers riding around town in his VW over his new acura. bugs are his thing. apparently there are lots of old school bug enthusiasts. they even have car shows and rallies and whatnot.
Exiled!
February 25th, 2013
3:47 pm
Look down because it isn’t marriage?
@Slim??
Really??
Slim Nu
February 25th, 2013
3:47 pm
kimmie – Hey, it’s new to you! ….
But I think i’d be scared to sit in the 70’s models…you could feel all the hard springs under the seats in those things
kimmie-Bugg owner!
February 25th, 2013
3:47 pm
disco – Same here with my family. My dad told us he’d come bail us out of pretty much anything and get us the best lawyer possible UNLESS it was drug related. Working down at Grady in the emergency room he saw the worst there is to see. If one of us got caught up in dope, may as well rott!
disco
February 25th, 2013
3:48 pm
slim – my brother stole a transformer was the store when he was in elementary and got a ride home in the police car. even as a kid I remember thinking the police might want to wait and save themselves a trip from having to come back and get my momma. we still tease one of my cousins about stealing a hi-c drink box (back when they first came out – lol). she stuck it in her pants and it fell out her pants leg.
abc
February 25th, 2013
3:49 pm
An acquaintance pulled up in his new Tesla S yesterday — now, that car is totally da bomb. If I wasn’t so cheap, I’d get me one of those. That’s a car that could conjure up all 7 deadly sins in just 2 people — the guy that has one, and the guy that doesn’t.
kimmie-Bugg owner!
February 25th, 2013
3:50 pm
Slim – It starts with small stuff, so your mom was right to take action immediately!LOL!!
disco – I had a buddy in college that was a bugg enthusiast! He had 3 he fixed up and would ride around campus in. I wonder if he’s still into them.
Slim Nu
February 25th, 2013
3:51 pm
Ex – Yes, there are folks in the world that feel that way….especially folks that have only been with their husbands and married when they were 9yrs lol….
Ladies – I’m curious, if you could go back and do this aspect of your life over, would you want/prefer to with only one guy and that guy being your husband??? Would you want to be a die hard ‘virgin until married’ chick?
Exiled!
February 25th, 2013
3:52 pm
Criminality??
Funny how the Roman catholic bishops are getting away with murder really for molestation. It’s a tip of the ice berg.
More need to go in
But that won’t happen because that Church is an authority unto itself
Which is a shame because I think that church is just Satan reincarnated.
So powerful and influential
So Immoral
Slim Nu
February 25th, 2013
3:53 pm
disco – So what happened when your brother got home?
Slim Nu
February 25th, 2013
3:54 pm
abc – How much do those cars run?
abc
February 25th, 2013
3:56 pm
Top of the line, around $120K, with a $15-20K discount you get back in the form of a tax break for buying an electric car. I think you can get in an entry level (if you could even call it that) for around $75K, maybe $80K.
kimmie-Bugg owner!
February 25th, 2013
3:56 pm
Slim – No. If I could do it all over, the only thing I probably would change is meeting my hubs earlier so we could have some kids. Otherwise, I’m okay with my experiences and the men I’ve met and loved along the way.
abc
February 25th, 2013
3:57 pm
but, here’s some actual info: http://www.teslamotors.com/models
disco
February 25th, 2013
3:57 pm
slim – not me. I respect the whole virginity thing but I, for one, would need a test drive before committing. bump that. for better or for worse should not include peter problems right out the gate. lol.
slim – my brother just got the standard issue butt whooping. probably an extension cord. to this day I still tease him about how much he cried, hollered, begged when getting whoopings. I was too stubborn to cry. of course, I didn’t realize then that I probably got beat worse for not crying. oh well.
Slim Nu
February 25th, 2013
3:58 pm
Even if I had that kind of money, I’m not too sure I’d feel good spending that much on a car. However, if I won at least 30mil, then I’d have to rethink that lol
Exiled!
February 25th, 2013
3:58 pm
Def not waiting for marriage to get azz
Bluzgirl
February 25th, 2013
3:59 pm
Slim – That’s a tough question, but I don’t think I would want to go back and change things to only have been with one man my whole life. I never really thought about being a virgin until marriage. I honestly think that it’s important to see how you mesh in bed before getting too serious. Sex may not be the most important thing, but it is important in a happy, healthy relationship. I may have some regrets about men I’ve chosen, but for the most part, I’ve learned a lot by having different partners in my life…
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
4:01 pm
kimmie/SlimNu ~ you know what I did with Lil Leggs when she stole books from Publix. I marched her right in front of the police offers having lunch and scared the heebee jeebees out of her.
Slim Nu
February 25th, 2013
4:04 pm
disco – I have a cousin that told me their dad would not quit until tears were shed. I guess it infuriated him even more for them to just stand there trying to take it. Now me on the other hand, I’d be jumping, hooping and hollering all over the room like someone was killing me. lol
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
4:04 pm
disco ~ I didn’t cry either, but I did a lot of jumping and scooting and running in circles. I eventually realized if I cried sometimes, the whooping wouldn’t be as long.
abc
February 25th, 2013
4:08 pm
Sort of ‘try before you buy’ I suppose. People say things like that about living together before marriage, but statistics are that those that do are more likely to divorce. I think we sell ourselves a bill of goods in subscribing to contemporary conventional wisdom, shaped by societal norms, almost by pop culture — for instance, things are a lot different now than, say, 30 or 40 years ago. People are different. Their choices are different; not necessarily better, as rationalized by currently accepted norms, just different. Go back 100 years, QUITE a bit different. But better? I kind of doubt it.
disco
February 25th, 2013
4:09 pm
slim/leggs – uh uh. not me. I was not going to give my tormenter the added pleasure. boy I used to have welts and knots and bruises all over the place. still, a whooping only hurts as long as it lasts. lol. shoot eventually my parents retired the beating accessories (belts, switches, extension cords) and just went at me bare handed. my mother hit me in the head with a beer bottle once. she now has selective memory and doesn’t recall the incident.
Slim Nu
February 25th, 2013
4:10 pm
Leggs – In the back of your mind were you glad it was at least books she stole and not eye liner or something stupid like that? j/k lol
Button
February 25th, 2013
4:10 pm
Dirty when did I throw my morals/judgement around? I simply stated that I’ve never had a hook up and was bashed for not doing so. My bad, maybe I should’ve lie about having one. We don’t live in a monolithic society.
kimmie-Bugg owner!
February 25th, 2013
4:13 pm
Slim/Disco – It would have been just my luck to wait until marriage, only to have some major issues to deal with, something even weird, that I would not have been able to deal with!
Button
February 25th, 2013
4:13 pm
abc @ 3:20 sin is transgression of the law. the Law being the 10 commandments.
daddy swiss
February 25th, 2013
4:14 pm
Howdy, folks. I know we’re not still on topic at 4:15, so what are we talking about?
DuShawn
February 25th, 2013
4:15 pm
“mother hit me in the head with a beer bottle once……..” that explains a lot.
Bluzgirl
February 25th, 2013
4:15 pm
Button – Just to be clear…I was not at all bashing you. I didn’t feel like you were pushing your beliefs on us. There are many people who do try to push their morals and judgement on people and it makes me wonder about them.
kimmie-Bugg owner!
February 25th, 2013
4:16 pm
disco – After a point, my parents retired the whuppings and started the punishments and taking away privledges. We realized then we’d rather have the beatings cause it would be over and done with!LOL!!
daddy swiss
February 25th, 2013
4:18 pm
Uh oh. Talking about sinning, eh? Yeah, maybe I should dip out… lol
Dirty Bird (Hooking-Up who's first?)
February 25th, 2013
4:20 pm
Disco and Leggs you ladies really showed your parent showed tough you were by not crying during the wooping huh? I bet that extra beat down was enjoyable…Yes it was!
disco
February 25th, 2013
4:22 pm
kimmie – my folks never did punishment. they didn’t want to enforce it. they’d much rather beat us and send us outside. we were “blowing their high”. lol.
dushawn – what might that explain? I was some kind of embarrassed going to school with a big bruise on the side of my head. my momma was wrong for that. oh shoot D. you might be on to something. in 5th grade I had a little incident with a brick that had me bandaged up in the middle of my forehead. I still remember the names of the boys who teased me that time. hmmm. I’m trying to recall if I took any other blows to the head. lol.
Button
February 25th, 2013
4:24 pm
we’re cool Bluzgirl
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
4:24 pm
disco ~ I was fortunate, if one can even use that word talking about whoopings, but I never had the “accessories” used on me. I was too frail. Just the belt.
Beer bottle….ok, I now understand (lolololol).
SlimNu ~ not only was I glad it was books and not eyeliner, I was also glad she was only 7. Got her back on the right path early (lol).
Button ~ you threw your judgments around with your 2:40 at kimmie. That post was full of mockery.
Button
February 25th, 2013
4:26 pm
oh my gosh, I remember granny used to make us get our own switch! I always try to get the smalles one and she’d make go right back and find the long sloppy one. lol
disco
February 25th, 2013
4:26 pm
DB – I don’t know if you know that I have an aversion to tears. I didn’t cry as a child either. well, I cried but I cried in private. I was not/am not one to break down and let someone see me cry.
DuShawn
February 25th, 2013
4:27 pm
“if I took any other blows to the head……” I don’t how many you have taken, but I bet you can give some good blows…….to the head…;)
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
4:28 pm
Dirty Bird ~ YEP! Sometimes being young and stupid is just that, young and stupid.
Leggs
February 25th, 2013
4:28 pm
disco ~ are you saying your mother hit you with a brick???
disco
February 25th, 2013
4:29 pm
button – I never cut my own switch. ever. I refused to go get the belt, extension cord, phone cord, whatever. it’s bad enough you are going to whoop me but I’ll be darned if I help you. again, I’m sure that also has a lot to do with why I stayed whipped up.
Button
February 25th, 2013
4:29 pm
Leggs – how is me repeating what she said throwing judgment?
disco
February 25th, 2013
4:30 pm
leggs – no. I’m just saying I had a little incident with my forehead and a brick. I still have a tiny faded scar in the middle of my forehead to this day.
Button
February 25th, 2013
4:30 pm
lol, @ disco, my granny had a switch tree.
Slim Nu
February 25th, 2013
4:30 pm
my mother hit me in the head with a beer bottle once. she now has selective memory and doesn’t recall the incident.
disco – I’m sorry disco but this made me snort on this one. I just really wasn’t prepared to read that at the time. lololol WOW!
It would have been just my luck to wait until marriage, only to have some major issues to deal with, something even weird, that I would not have been able to deal with!
kimmie – Like a micropenis?
Dirty Bird (Hooking-Up who's first?)
February 25th, 2013
4:31 pm
@Mrs. Button….Playback of today… Disco asked a question about the possibility of having maintenance man, you replied (woman thou art loose. lol)
You made another statement that a person does not have respect for themselves if they are hooking up…
@Disco NOW WE KNOW! Oops upside your head, Oops upside your head!
Button
February 25th, 2013
4:34 pm
Dirty – that’s not throwing judgement that is FACT! lol
Also I’m not the only one who mentioned respect.
Button
February 25th, 2013
4:36 pm
also the woman thou art loose was not directed to disco.
Dirty Bird (Hooking-Up who's first?)
February 25th, 2013
4:37 pm
A MiniMicro-Penis will not work for Slim-Nu, BluzGirl and Disco they require Magnum size only! Yes they do!
@Button it’s all good…
Slim Nu
February 25th, 2013
4:40 pm
disco – So did you have that “I don’t fight, I don’t argue. I just hit dat beaya beeya in the head with a bottle” as your ring tone?
I hope that didn’t bring back back flashbacks or anything. Just ‘funning”.
Leggs – I only got whipped with a belt, hose pipe cut to size and switches. No extension cords, bottles or other misc items. I did get a shoe thrown at me but I ducked in the nick of time. lol
disco
February 25th, 2013
4:43 pm
slim – girl no flashbacks. it’s just a funny story now. one of the ones that gets thrown out during our “remember when” sessions. girl, we got some beatings growing up. just over the weekend a cousin and I were reminiscing on the time when 3 of us got a whooping by an aunt who was probably 7 or 8 months pregnant at the time. you’d think we could outrun a 4’10 pregnant woman but, no lie, my auntie was literally jumping over beds to get at us.
Button
February 25th, 2013
4:45 pm
my auntie didn’t beat, just pinched the heck out of you or twist your ear.
my bestie mother use to bite her. bad thing about it, she had dentures and it came off one day she was bitting my besties arm, so she went to gumming her lol
DuShawn
February 25th, 2013
4:50 pm
That’s the great thing about Self Respect. Only one person can bestow it or deminish it………yourself.
Exiled!
February 25th, 2013
4:51 pm
Disco..proly ur parents made u worse by disturbing ur brains
Slim Nu
February 25th, 2013
4:55 pm
Dirty – Magnum size is not a requirement for me….i’m cool with average to medium large. I’m not experienced enough for the donkey di-cks ride.
disco – The one time I got a group whooping was when we called ourselves (my sister, two cousins and myself) doing gymnastics on the bar in the closet. We took all the clothes and hangars out and started swinging upside down on it. That thing broke out of the wall and left a HUGE hole….yup, my dad tore us ALLLLLL up. No one made it out unscathed.
abc
February 25th, 2013
4:55 pm
Button, lots of New Testament passages defining what’s a sin, too. Here’s a striking thing about sin as defined in the Bible: it’s not ranked, as in one is more or less serious than another.
disco
February 25th, 2013
5:00 pm
slim – we got so many group whoopings it ain’t funny. when sleeping over with my grandparents my grandfather made it clear that if he had to come up the stairs everybody up there was getting it. he’d whoop the kids that were sleep in case they were pretending to be sleep. most of us cousins hung out in groups and usually whatever went down we all paid for it. when I mentioned getting a whooping for getting hit by a car on here I’m not sure I mentioned that we all got whooped for it. lol.
Bluzgirl
February 25th, 2013
5:09 pm
Dirty – I’m with Slim…doesn’t HAVE to be Magnum sized…that’s just the latest one that I experienced! LOL! As long as it ain’t tiny and the guy knows what to do with it…I’m good!
On that note, I’m outta here. Talk tomorrow