Dating: Are we too gullible?
There is a lot to be said for being cautiously optimistic. Actually, I think a healthy does of cynicism could prevent a lot of heartache for some of us. Those dating misadventures that have some sort of betrayal or deceit usually happen when people are way too trusting. I truly believe some of us are too gullible!
It’s the reason shows like Catfish exist. It’s why someone can have a husband/wife at home, while they date you. I get so fighting mad when people don’t think to ask the right questions. You don’t have to have an interrogation on a date, but if you feel something is off – why not just ask questions outright?
Why do you think so many people are gullible in dating? Are we so ready for a fairytale that we will buy any story that is sold to us?
How can you find a balance between being too gullible and becoming distrustful of everyone?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Exiled
February 22nd, 2013
12:55 pm
at some point those chicks ought to get entrepreneurial with it.
get ur paper on!
@Disco
Bluzgirl
February 22nd, 2013
12:56 pm
OMG…all because I said small minds are easily amused and said annoying. Wow! Two can play that game cowgirl…
Dirty Birds (Disco is my idol)
February 22nd, 2013
12:56 pm
@Slim-Nu that is hilarious, the church game unfortunately is the best pimp game going. Some Pastor’s are the biggest pimps going..
@Slim-Nu have you married dude yet? With your slim goodie looking self…
Celisea
February 22nd, 2013
12:57 pm
Dirty – I’m getting my noodles oodled! lololol
Alright 4 minutes and I’m out of here
Y’all have a fantab weekend!!
SlimNu
February 22nd, 2013
12:58 pm
O/T: I know we mentioned Bingo on here recently. There is an event for Booty Shaking Bingo next Wednesday if anyone is interested. See link below for details:
http://www.bluemarkstudios.com/event_calendar.html
Bluzgirl
February 22nd, 2013
1:02 pm
Thank GOD!!!!
SlimNu
February 22nd, 2013
1:04 pm
DB – No ring yet…we’re back to house hunting again at the present moment. I think that’s part of his deal as a man to get that done first. Believe me, if that happens yall will be on the list to know. (Maybe not the first, but certaintly not last lol)
Exiled
February 22nd, 2013
1:16 pm
I hope we not giving u pressure by continously aksing Slim?
u seem to have been down lately..u good!??
Dirtey and ur boy be looking out for ur best wishes in 2013….
stay away from the haters!
Leggs
February 22nd, 2013
1:16 pm
I had my Habachi today. Delicious.
Pimping, churching, scamming. Got it.
Dirty Birds (Disco is my idol)
February 22nd, 2013
1:32 pm
Ex..Slim-Nu is Fine, dude better marry her, Or Dirty B will be on the prowl….Oh Yes I will.
@Leggs…How are you feeling today?
SlimNu
February 22nd, 2013
1:33 pm
Ex – Yall aren’t putting any pressure on me at all…nor are yall the only folks asking. If anyone feels pressure, it’s him, not me.
As far as feeling down, I had been dealing with some things within the last few months or so but i’m getting back to me, slowly but surely. We fall down but we get up. Thanks for asking though….
Leggs
February 22nd, 2013
1:42 pm
I’m good, Dirty..
Button
February 22nd, 2013
1:53 pm
Good day! TGIF!! I’ve never been the gullible type which have had me labled as cynical at times. My moto is believe half of what you see and none of what you hear (from a guy) lol.
DuShawn
February 22nd, 2013
2:00 pm
Thinking of gullible reminds me of something my Dad often told growing up “If you’re gonna be Dumb, You better be tough. Cause life will whoop your azz.”
Exiled
February 22nd, 2013
2:00 pm
Derty, dont say that…!!
I really want that dude to put ring on her..i think he a good brother.
and he got good benefits Derty..Slim is gon be blink blink on her finger soon trust..
why u not prowling on Bluz…shes ready…just bring some good swiss game, u be alright…
u can ask Swiss if u want the vocab game to use on Bluz…”whats up shawrty?” wont cut it with white chics as it does wioth black ones…u dont want to mess a smashing opportunity
disco
February 22nd, 2013
2:04 pm
okay y’all. how come I called a cousin at lunch. she answered. I asked what’s up. she replied – and I quote – “I’m about to get some D”. I bust out laughing. she was like I started not to tell you but I like to respect the truth. we both laughed again. told her I hope it’s good and I’ll holler later.
dirty – how I get to be an idol? I’m not even a halfway decent role model. lol.
Button
February 22nd, 2013
2:06 pm
this is some serious spooning weather.
Slim Nu
February 22nd, 2013
2:07 pm
Ex and Dirty – Um, I can read yalls convo… it’s not like we’re all chilling at the bar and I got up to go to the bathroom.
Leggs
February 22nd, 2013
2:12 pm
Naw, Button. disco’s cousin is about to find out the true meaning of this type of weather!!!
Leggs
February 22nd, 2013
2:13 pm
Not true meaning, but you get my drift.
Slim Nu
February 22nd, 2013
2:13 pm
What girls respond to “Wzup shawty?”
disco – Ain’t nothing wrong with a little afternoon delight. The only thing is, you never want to go back to work afterwards. lol
Button
February 22nd, 2013
2:13 pm
LOL @ Leggs, I ain’t mad at her.
disco
February 22nd, 2013
2:16 pm
slim – my cousin don’t work. I don’t know about dude. maybe it’s his lunch hour.
Exiled
February 22nd, 2013
2:16 pm
this is some serious spooning weather.
@Button.u late on that. I said so this mornng when Leggs was pining for 65 degrees and up and doing the weather forecasting for saturday.
@Slim… I had to do eyeroll on Derty for wishing to prowl on u..if u were in the bathroom for sure, by the time u came back i wld have floored him with a hook for saying that..
Leggs
February 22nd, 2013
2:17 pm
SlimNu ~ I literally typed chickeheads and crackheads like to hear wassup shawty, then I deleted it (lol).
Leggs
February 22nd, 2013
2:19 pm
Ex ~ I wasn’t “pining” for 65. Was simply stating a fact when Celisea commented on the crappy weather.
disco
February 22nd, 2013
2:19 pm
is shorty still in rotation? I remember that song “shorty swing my way, sho look good to me”. lol. those were the scrub the ground days.
Exiled
February 22nd, 2013
2:21 pm
my cousin don’t work. I don’t know about dude. maybe it’s his lunch hour.
@Disco…
ohh, jesus,quick,short and timed (45 minutes) azz on company lunch hour is some of the bestet!
short, quick and sweet!
(15 minutes drive to and fro)
Disco,if u seeing cousin today, trust she gon have a new hair do! courtesy of dude!
remember what i said bout coochy leveraging?
Leggs
February 22nd, 2013
2:24 pm
I like that song, disco!
disco
February 22nd, 2013
2:25 pm
ex – please. you don’t know my cousin. new hairdo? that ain’t nothing if she’s about her business. we coming up on the first of the month. lol. last year on her bday her little dude took her shopping. she’s telling me he bought her this that and the other. about a month later it was his birthday. I asked what she was doing for his bday since he hooked her up. she cold smooth replied. “nothing. that ninja can have some azz. that’s it”. again, I bust out laughing. that’s my fam.
Button
February 22nd, 2013
2:25 pm
Ex – you sure did, we just used two different expressions.
Slim Nu
February 22nd, 2013
2:26 pm
disco – Alrighty then…welll she works, guess it’s just not a regular 9-5 job lol j/k
Ex – I would’ve come back asking where Dirty went off to?
Leggs – If you say “wzup shawty” or whatever to a crackhead or chickenhead, i’m pretty certain their first thought is that you have something for them.
Leggs
February 22nd, 2013
2:30 pm
No doubt, SlimNu. You spoke and she’s willing to break you off a piece to get some $$. First thought of a crackhead and possibly a chickenhead.
disco
February 22nd, 2013
2:33 pm
slim – it’s cool. you know our mantra “coochie ain’t free”.
Slim Nu
February 22nd, 2013
2:38 pm
disco – I wish for at least two weeks I could see what it’s like to be a man. I swear they act like it’s crack.
disco
February 22nd, 2013
2:39 pm
slim – I’m sure there was no pun intended. LOL.
Slim Nu
February 22nd, 2013
2:46 pm
abc
February 22nd, 2013
2:50 pm
I think you mistake the definition of cynic with that of skeptic.
You are correct, Slim: it’s good to be a man. I’d venture there is no such thing as a man that’d be curious as to what it’s like to be a woman for a couple of weeks.
Slim Nu
February 22nd, 2013
2:55 pm
abc – LOL I guess I can see your point….at least not for the getting screwed part but maybe to see how we think and the perks that come along with having boobies
Exiled
February 22nd, 2013
2:56 pm
I’d venture there is no such thing as a man that’d be curious as to what it’s like to be a woman for a couple of weeks.
@abc…had to laugh at that…
If he is there,he is a “thing” NOT Man
Exiled
February 22nd, 2013
2:58 pm
I know women hate the ovulation and attendant blooding……
Bluzgirl
February 22nd, 2013
3:03 pm
Dang…why does everyone want something done at the last minute on a Friday?!?!?!
abc
February 22nd, 2013
3:06 pm
Hard to trust someone that can bleed for a week and still live.
Exiled
February 22nd, 2013
3:09 pm
u a chauvinistic s^%$#$&%%! abc
i like dat
Exiled
February 22nd, 2013
3:12 pm
and GOD is HIM!
DuShawn
February 22nd, 2013
3:14 pm
“coochie ain’t free”…… yall kill me with that. This diznic ain’t free either. It’s equally as valuable.
DuShawn
February 22nd, 2013
3:20 pm
I told yall awhile back…..coochie prices are like the housing market. You can get something good for the low.
Exiled
February 22nd, 2013
3:20 pm
where can I legally get/buy deer meat?
any legal hunters in here…?
maybe Disco can bring me a deer shipment when she goes to TN to see that other boy.
abc
February 22nd, 2013
3:21 pm
The free isn’t what a man wants. A man wants the priceless, hopefully it’s a mutual sentiment.
abc
February 22nd, 2013
3:22 pm
Man, I’ve never eaten deer and I’m not really wishing for it either! No Bambi Fricassee, thanks very much.