Dating: He’s making her wait!
Just when I think I have heard it all before, I get a surprisingly candid email from a guy who has a dilemma about delaying sex. He asked his new girlfriend to commit to abstinence as he has. He explained his reasons (spiritual mostly) and expected her to be understanding. She was not understanding.
I was struck my his sincerity in trying to preserve the relationship because he has grown to care for her a lot. If she is unwilling to take the celibacy journey with him, does that mean she is not The One?
I believe that relationships are about compromise. I just don’t know if celibacy is something that can or should be compromised. I don’t think cooking is a deal breaker, but sex/abstinence is definitely an issue that can make or break people up.
The young man wants to know if he should give her a “pass” to get her needs met by someone else – and by pass, he means “don’t ask, don’t tell” me. Would that be a recipe for disaster or a viable option for you, personally?
Dating could be a lot simpler if the celibate people could find and date one another! It is helpful to disclose your celibacy early on. When would you mention that, though? It’s not like you can casually say, “Hey, buy me a cookie? Speaking of cookies, my cookies stay in the jar”. Then again, you can’t spring that on someone after they are practically ripping your clothes off at the end of the date, either.
What is the best way to gauge whether you are on the same page when it comes to sex or no sex?
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Celisea
February 21st, 2013
5:33 am
Diva, you KNOW I’m backing this brother…lolololol
I up this early for reason. I shole wasn’t waiting on the new topic. lol Just peeking in, since I’m up. Think I’ll catch a couple more ZZZZZs before I officially rise and shine.
BBL on topic!
Lee
February 21st, 2013
7:22 am
Valid request, sex is only one part of a relationship or life –if those are his beliefs and not hers –she needs to go. Now i hope his request is not for years, unless he is a teenager, asking an adult to wait until marriage is a stretch –a girl could pop!
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 21st, 2013
8:28 am
He can ask, and she may even agree to it for a time… But he might want to get ready for the day when he finds out that “Jody” has been putting in work at Miss Ladies house…….
Exiled
February 21st, 2013
8:52 am
What is the best way to gauge whether you are on the same page when it comes to sex or no sex
………..when she gently moves ur hand away as u try to roll the nice,pink flowery panties off her bountiful bootey….thats when u look at her str8 in the eye and say,”whats wrong?”, trying to feel her out..
Always go for the jagular because no way u gon know unless u try….
As for Mr Spiritual, its his fault because he got hisself into a minefield and its kinda hard now..and if he persists in denying her what she wants,he may as well remain in his ignorant bliss because shes gon get hers,Trust on that….u cannot tell a “run_thru” to now desisist ALL combat…her cat will start meow, meow, meow if it aint getting milk!
I think the chic should just dump dude..they are not equally yoked…
He can re-group and look for a girl in the church or some chriastian mingle circles…something along the same spiritual lines as himself.
Mama said “date who u know”…
True All the time.
Hey MIA
disco
February 21st, 2013
9:04 am
good morning y’all.
C – lololol is right though we are probably laughing for different reasons. I’m laughing because I’m happy to read it’s not just me. lol. I’ve run across/dated two celibate men and that mess just wasn’t going to work for me. I’ve had droughts and dry spells but I’ve just never ever just out and out elected to be celibate. uhn uhn. not the kid. to each his own and all but if you my man you need to be breaking me off.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
9:06 am
“If she is unwilling to take the celibacy journey with him, does that mean she is not The One? – YES!
“…should give her a “pass” to get her needs met by someone else – and by pass, he means “don’t ask, don’t tell” me. Would that be a recipe for disaster or a viable option for you, personally? – Why do people do this? If you want to give her a pass, then pass on the relationship. Emotionally how can she grow in your heart when you think she’s frolicking with someone else. Why on Earth would you even want your feelings to grow. You guys aren’t on the same page, a page that is part of the foundation of a healthy relationship.
If you want to abstain for spiritual reasons, how can you condone her having her “needs” met by another man. She’s not the one for you and you’re not the one for her….K.I.M.
abc
February 21st, 2013
9:12 am
There are really only 2 things that break up relationships: money and sex. A possible 3rd thing is lack of communication about those same things.
If she is unwilling to take the celibacy journey with him, does that mean she is not The One? Yes, that means she’s not the one. Likewise for her, he’s not the one.
The “don’t ask don’t tell” scenario is, likewise, certain disaster. Who would accommodate that?
The best way to deal with it all is to make your wishes known. Just talk, be real.
disco
February 21st, 2013
9:13 am
leggs – I almost (but not quite) detect that double standard in this situation. I don’t know that it’s necessarily proclaimed celibacy but I’ve seen and heard of countless cases where the chick stayed back in the cut remaining chaste while the object of her affections planted seeds all around town. she typically looked the other way and eventually married him. again, the situations aren’t quite the same but I guess I could see a female being more willing to permit outside action than a man. it just doesn’t even sound right coming out of a man’s mouth. you know how possessive those jokers can be.
Celisea
February 21st, 2013
9:26 am
Listen at all and all the chatter….lololol Let that man get his spiritual on!!! I see NOTHING wrong with that. If she can’t wait, as a chick would tell a dude, K.I.M., but there’s certainly nothing wrong with him taking that spiritual walk. And trrrrrrrust me on this, if Miss Hot Pants can’t hold off, there’s a plethora of women dying, wanting, waiting, seeking A GOOD MAN!! He will find another…no doubt!
BBL…need java
Celisea
February 21st, 2013
9:27 am
And guarantee, finding another will be willing to do whateva it takes, cause apparently good men are rare and a commodity these days
Now, I’m sort of cutting up but for real at the same time….lololol
Exiled
February 21st, 2013
9:28 am
no double standard unless chic is chained to remain with dude….if hes sowing and u dont like that…walk.
@Disco
disco
February 21st, 2013
9:29 am
C – not to be contrary but just cause he ain’t boning doesn’t mean he’s a good man. lol.
Celisea
February 21st, 2013
9:31 am
Diva – Tell him Celisea said, don’t get her a pass. He’s better than that. Like I said, there’s a woman just waiting to get wedded by him. Matter of fact, that might give them an incentive to do the dang thing…lol My old coworker, the one I saw coming out a his building a couple of weeks ago, was the only brother “saved” up in this camp amongst a gang of heathens (they were some cool brothers though). He met his girl at church and cause they were not only “in love”, they said but feeling some kind of way, they were married in six months of dating. Now, two babies a home and a ton of money later (cause I know what he does career wise), they’re seemingly (I use that lightly cause I’on know the inside) happy.
Celisea
February 21st, 2013
9:33 am
disco – You’re entitled
It’s not the “not boning” that I’m referring to him seeing the good in him, it’s the spiritual walk. What all that is for him, frankly I don’t know, but what I do know, an attempt at such a feat is commendable in it’s own right.
Exiled
February 21st, 2013
9:34 am
or I forgot to ask,”what city?’
If its in Atlanta, it maybe dude dont know hisself yet…that may be the problem.
Celisea
February 21st, 2013
9:34 am
don’t “give” her a pass not “get”…..he’s better than that.
disco
February 21st, 2013
9:35 am
since I don’t mind picking this thing apart diva did say “spiritual mostly”. anyone got any ideas what the rest of his decision could be based upon? you know we can have some fun with this. lol.
Celisea
February 21st, 2013
9:36 am
Let me go get coffee and hush up, with all my passionate hood ramblings….lolol
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
9:37 am
disco ~ I must admit I thought he may be telling her he’s celibate but depositing seeds around town. You’re right, it’s definitely a possibility. And, if it’s not, still, find someone who’s evenly yoked as he is. Plain and simple. I don’t get why people make the relationship more complicated than it needs to be. Adding unhealthy ingredients that can only lead down the path toward heartache. Why even tarnish the canvas before the picture even starts to form. People are stupid, point blank!
George P Burdell
February 21st, 2013
9:37 am
This is a serious topic? It’s over. Move on. Next topic.
disco
February 21st, 2013
9:37 am
C – I’m certainly not judging those that are on “true spiritual walks” but I certainly don’t deny that there is such a thing as what I refer to as “church game”. I don’t know anything about post dude just saying I’m not necessarily taking it at face value. after all, she did say “spiritual mostly”.
Celisea
February 21st, 2013
9:44 am
disco – Okay…..lololol I still find it commendable if he’s trying. As the good book says, a man will fall seven times. It’s not the falling or the hittng the ground, cause it happens to us all, it’s the getting up that’s commended. I went there did I?
I said all that to say if he’s trying to abstain for the sake of spirituality, heck yeah he’ll have a slip up. Spiritual walk does NOT equate to perfection nor error free nor free from jonesing nor free of wicked thoughts (or deeds)….well all have them. Spiritual or not! It comes with being human. It’s the effort that gets him the kudos. So, yeah let’s dissect, for me, I see but him trying…nothing else 
Celisea
February 21st, 2013
9:45 am
Alright….like I said, just convo mostly and funning….gone to get coffee for real this time
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
9:48 am
Hey all
I don’t get why people make the relationship more complicated than it needs to be. took the words right off my fingers!!
disco
February 21st, 2013
9:48 am
I’m going to play devil’s advocate this morning and talk about “spiritual mostly”. maybe he’s not a virgin and he’s got a really short member and is tired of being ridiculed and so he’s decided to abstain and try to trick a chick into marrying him before she finds out what he’s working with (or not working with). lol. OR maybe, to use a throwback term, he’s on the “down low” and just wants a chick to be his “beard”.
Exiled
February 21st, 2013
9:50 am
The only reason he could be hitting elsewhere around town but not tapping hers maybe because he finds her body(undressed) unattractive and downright foul but wont just tell her, ‘I aint feeling u like that.”….otherwise why go around town whilst evading what u already have but have not tappped….
Us men like New new…..this cat is supposedly fdresh and new to him, he aint messed with it yet..its the right opportunity to tap..especially when the chci is seething inside, literraly squirting on herself….
No way a dude wld just go out to sow elsehere just because…..
Disco..u right..the ptoblem is not dude….chci aint addressing the real issue and she proly knows it….u know how u chics play game…lying to ur selves..oh,hes spiritual, hes a church goes blah blah blah…
No baby..ur body looks horrible!
disco
February 21st, 2013
9:53 am
Ex – I was just about to go there (sort of). maybe he really does like this chick and he wants to come off as “holier than thou” and is fronting so he’ll seem like he’s a more faithful, responsible, disciplined type. meanwhile he’s hitting betty lou around the corner while leading old girl to believe she’s got a “virtuous” man. lol.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
10:00 am
“he asks his NEW girlfriend….” Diva, did he mention how long they’ve been together?
Single ~ I’m sitting here wondering where’s the dilemma. He needs to take his walk with someone else. NEXT….
disco
February 21st, 2013
10:03 am
leggs – I’m still playing devil’s advocate. maybe dude is married and likes feeling wanted but doesn’t really have what it takes to cheat. that’s what he means by spiritual mostly. he’s not trying to break his vows.
okay. I’m done clowning. I, too, will wait patiently for the next topic of discussion.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 21st, 2013
10:04 am
” It’s not the “not boning” that I’m referring to him seeing the good in him, it’s the spiritual walk.”
For the record…. Lots of folks takin’ that walk aint all that good….. Wolves in sheeps clothing I think they are called…….
Celisea
February 21st, 2013
10:04 am
I am eating hashbrowns, sipping coffee and literally burst out laughing at Mmeello’s 9:50 and disco’s “holier than thou” statement.
Hey disco, Imma keep humming in the background “we fall down, but we get up, we fall down, but we get up…..”, while y’all come up will all the “possibilities….lolololol
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
10:04 am
Me too leggs, me too (LOL) to me a lot of divas relationships topics deal with new one’s and I’m left thinking why not move on to the next one, what’s the problem??
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
10:09 am
disco ~ devil’s advocate – may not even be a dude that emailed her. Could be a woman wanting to see the reaction if she didn’t have sex with her new boyfriend.
Let’s talk about something else. He/she already know what they’re going to do.
Bluzgirl
February 21st, 2013
10:09 am
I don’t really get the issue here. Obviously, they are not compatible. It’s great that he wants to be abstain, but he needs to find a woman who shares in his beliefs. If he gives her a “pass,” then it’s for sure over. I don’t understand why he would even be considering that.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
10:10 am
I’ve been sick since Monday. My throat hurts so much. Drinking a delicious cup of tea, lemon and honey. YUMMY!
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 21st, 2013
10:12 am
I know a dude that told a chick he was engaged to that he was trying to get right with god before that got married and he wanted them to staop with the sexing….. Turns out he had gotten burned and was working on clearing it up before he passed it on. Imagine her surprise ( and his) when the Doctors office called to tell her she was on his partners list and needed to be tested……..
Exiled
February 21st, 2013
10:12 am
It’s great that he wants to be abstain
Bluz, I hate it when a white chic murders the english lingo….
its supposed to be: “its great that he wants to abstain….”
disco
February 21st, 2013
10:13 am
leggs – well I don’t have any relationship topics right now. did you watch disco on unsung last night? I was ready to get up and “shake my groove thang”. every time a song was sounding good to me they’d move on to the next one. it was a 2 hour show. I didn’t make it to the end. y’all know I can’t hang. lol.
Celisea
February 21st, 2013
10:20 am
Speaking of abstaining (lol)……
My beautician decided I’m going eight weeks as opposed to six, in between touch-ups. This is NOT fun. I know I’m sporting a fro of new growth.
Bluzgirl
February 21st, 2013
10:22 am
Wow – Ex calling out a typo?!?!?! Like you never make typos – RIGHT…Go back to your corner of the world…
Leggs – I’ve been sick since Monday also…took yesterday off and still don’t feel great today, but I’ll live.
Bluzgirl
February 21st, 2013
10:22 am
By the way Ex – It’s chick, not chic…
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
10:25 am
Ex ~ you are a straight clown (lol). That was funny.
disco ~ I was dancing most of the night. The memories. We partied at a club called Tribeca in Lower Manhattan. But, The Warehouse was THE place to be! House music, house music, loves me some House! My friends and I worked on Wall Street and we had the nerve to go dancing on our lunch hour at probably 3x a week at a place called 127. Man, we had a blast.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
10:27 am
Bluz ~ I worked half day Monday and Tuesday to medicate myself. It helped but this hacking cough and sore throat is no joke.
disco
February 21st, 2013
10:28 am
leggs – lucky you. last night I was wishing someone would throw a disco party. I was even planning in my head what I could wear if I had such a party to go to. (my sleeveless jumpsuit that I planned to wear on Halloween as Cleopatra jones). lol. I might have to get hold of a CIAA schedule and see what’s going on.
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
10:29 am
Disco, did you get a response from your travel agent?
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
10:30 am
I went to a disco party while I was pregnant. I wore white bell bottoms, a black and white Apple Jack, and black blouse, big hoop earrings. I was the only freaking sober person at that party. Interesting watching drunk folk while you’re sober.
Bluzgirl
February 21st, 2013
10:30 am
Leggs – I haven’t taken anything other than vitamin C cause I’m not sure exactly what to take. It’s weird…my head feels all stuffy, but yet, there’s nothing in my sinuses and I can breathe. I feel totally exhausted, though. I just need to be better for tomorrow night cause I’m sitting in with a band and playing bass on a couple of songs. Can’t miss that!
disco
February 21st, 2013
10:32 am
leggs – how come at one point while watching I pulled up itunes to see if they had a disco’s greatest hits or something. I was really feeling it.
s/h – yeah. I ain’t feeling her right now. lol.
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
10:35 am
why not disco, did she hit you with single penalty
Celisea
February 21st, 2013
10:37 am
Anyone talked to Blackfoote? He’s gone missing since Christmas. Miss him and his nice posts
disco
February 21st, 2013
10:38 am
leggs – I had planned to go to a Halloween party last year. had my jumpsuit, stiletto boots, scarf, fur coat, jewelry, all that and messed around and had a little mishap the day of the party and couldn’t go.
s/h – she just wasn’t suggesting things. sometimes she has great suggestions. other times she’s all “let me know what you want to do”. that’s not what I was fishing for hence why I said I ain’t feeling her right now. I get tired of making decisions. I could go for a mystery trip right about now. okay. maybe not mystery trip but I’m just not trying to figure something out right now.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
10:39 am
Blackfoote is doing good..hard at work. Hanging with his buddies acting a fool (lololol).
Celisea
February 21st, 2013
10:41 am
That’s great. Tell him we miss him! Someone mentioned party under the stairs. Thought maybe he forgot he was granted a reprieve
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
10:43 am
Bluz ~ try Mucinex or Alka Seltzer Cold Tablets (Orange Zest).
Button
February 21st, 2013
10:44 am
Good day! this is an easy one, if she can’t control desires then she should move on.
Button
February 21st, 2013
10:45 am
Letter 33 – I’m in my early 30s, and I’ve found the man I want to marry and start a family with. He feels the same way. We still live apart for one reason: my cat. My boyfriend is extremely allergic to cats and needs a fur-free home. I’ve had my 8-year-old cat his whole life. I love him, and this breaks my heart, but I am considering finding him a new home. The problem is my guilt, as well as the reaction of my animal-loving friends. They’re all completely incredulous that I would give up my pet. They say, “But he’s like your child!” and “You made a commitment to this animal.” To complicate the situation, I spend most of my time at my boyfriend’s place, so my poor kitty has been developing some behavioral problems because he’s frequently alone. I feel horrible. What should I do?
disco
February 21st, 2013
10:49 am
button – that letter just brought on the return of ex’s “eyeroll day”. really? chick that attached to her cat? she’s part of the reason why single women get labeled “cat ladies”. lol. and don’t get me started on folks acting like their pets are their children. I get that you love your pet and all but a dog is a dog, a cat is a cat, a bird is a freaking bird. a child is a child. okay I’m going to stop before my eyes get stuck like this.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 21st, 2013
10:50 am
Hmmmmmm……. Get married and start a family or keep the cat…Decisions decisions…….
There use to be a guy here a few years ago the always said the ladies would end up living with a bunch of cats……
Celisea
February 21st, 2013
10:51 am
But he’s like your child!” and “You made a commitment to this animal.”
Bluzgirl
February 21st, 2013
10:52 am
Button – If he really loves her, he will go to an allergy doctor and see if there are any meds he can take to reduce his allergy to animals. I know I’m probably gonna get slammed here, but I love animals way too much and the man for me will also love animals. I’m allergic to my cats, but I take zyrtec every day for it because I love them too much…
Button
February 21st, 2013
10:52 am
Disco – lol, I know right. all bets that she kept the cat and ditched the boyfriend.
Bluzgirl
February 21st, 2013
10:53 am
Only animal people can understand this woman’s dilemma…
disco
February 21st, 2013
10:55 am
button – I guess I should appreciate that at least her cat is at home alone. there are a few outside cats in my neighborhood that I wouldn’t mind seeing as roadkill one day.
bluz – you won’t get slammed. we know you love animals. even you have to admit though that some animal people go too far. shoot, as far as I’m concerned, some animal people border on crazy.
Button
February 21st, 2013
10:56 am
Courtside – for some it’s a tough decision. I had a neighbor who dumped her boyfriend because the dog didn’t like him. Everytime the bf visited the dog went on a bark frenzy, so she ended things with him to make her dog happy.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 21st, 2013
10:56 am
Whats her name again??? I want to check and see is she is scheduled to be on a future episode of Hoarders……
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 21st, 2013
10:59 am
Button, is your neighbor the lady we see letting the dog lick her in the mouth???
Button
February 21st, 2013
11:01 am
Courtside – that show is so fake! who lives in that much FILTH!!! clothes piled to the ceiling?? trash in the toilet?? in the tub? dead animals rotting under the rug? and the hoarders have grown azz kids at that! why o’why aren’t these grown kids taking better care of their parent? it’s staged! I can’t I won’t believe it!
Celisea
February 21st, 2013
11:01 am
BBL….after the animal convo.
Bluzgirl
February 21st, 2013
11:02 am
disco – yes…some people do go a little too far. To be honest, though, I love my babies too much and couldn’t give them up for a man. My luck…if I did give them up, then the man would dump me a month later!
disco
February 21st, 2013
11:02 am
once I went out with a guy a few times before I realized he had a cat. after finding out he had a cat I didn’t want to see him anymore. for one, a cat simply is not a manly pet. for two, I personally cannot stand cats. as far as I am concerned they are the devil.
Button
February 21st, 2013
11:03 am
Courtside – I’ve never seen her dog lick her in her mouth but I’m sure he has, she holds the dog like a newborn baby, the dog even has a stroller! It’s kinda creepy. I love animals but I’m not mistaking it for a human.
kimmie
February 21st, 2013
11:03 am
What’s up Blog Crew??!!!
On topic – If he’s really dedicated to his beliefs, he needs to go find someone on the same page. But really, the first thing I thought about when reading this topic is the girlfriend involved. It’s refreshing to me to hear about a woman owning her sensual side and looking after her own needs for a change.
Too much, it’s the other way around. If he sprung this on her months into the relationship, that’s really not cool or fair to her either. And she’s not a bad person because she’d rather not wait. I can also attest to the possibility that just because a dude might be strong in his spirituality it does not mean he’s a great guy. Jerks can come in all packages, I know from experience.
Button – I can understand her feeling bad about giving up a beloved pet she’s gotten attached to. She should deal with those feelings. As for what her animal-loving friends will think – bump them. If they love animals so much, let one of them take the cat. Then she’ll know the cat has a good home and she can concentrate on building a life with her man.
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
11:04 am
That letter reminds me of a friend who had a cockatoo, she got mairied and had a child, when she told me my first question was so what you do with your bird, she asked me, why I asked that. I told her that I know how those birds can be, when they’re not getting all the attention. She was like yea, he had to go (LOL)
Bluz, there isn’t enough allergy medicine in the world for that and trust me I know!! Hmm you’re allergic to cats, and you’re always sick??
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
11:05 am
Button, I’ve been in someones house that was like that, had an actual path through the house!!
disco
February 21st, 2013
11:06 am
button – I worked with a chick once who said that her husband said they should try to get on that clean house show with niecy nash. one day she came to work and was trying to borrow lunch money from co-workers claiming she couldn’t find her purse that morning. one must have a nasty azz house for real if you can’t find your own purse. another time she mentioned that her kids had to use the master bath because the guest bath was used for storage. I don’t watch hoarders. I don’t doubt that it’s staged but I do know there are some nasty azz folks in this world.
kimmie
February 21st, 2013
11:07 am
Button – Actually, if she’s been dating dude and is over to his place most of the time, no doubt she’s transferred a cat hair or two. I bet he may have built up a bit of a resistance to the cat and they have not even realized it! He really should see an allergist and maybe his allergy might be more manageable now.
Bluzgirl
February 21st, 2013
11:09 am
S/H – I’m not always sick…I’ve gotten sick more this season than other years because other people have gotten sick more and I’ve been around it more!
kimmie
February 21st, 2013
11:09 am
disco – I can say with 99.9% certainty there is no need for Hoarders to stage anything, because I have personally seen real-life cases. It is definitely for real.
Celisea
February 21st, 2013
11:11 am
Kimmie – Jerks can come in all packages, I know from experience.
Me too girl, me too! Some even repackage themselves…lol I sooo feel you here.
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
11:12 am
Why are kids always getting jumped on with “take care of their parents” everyone’s household isn’t the same, sometimes parents won’t let you take care of them!
disco
February 21st, 2013
11:16 am
kimmie – I know that nasty is real. I just don’t believe reality tv is real. so I wouldn’t be surprised if the producers brought in a few extra bags of nasty just for the added drama.
I went to a girl’s house in Richmond Virginia once. there was literally a gang of roaches (and by gang I mean a circle that was a good foot in diameter) on her door. the outside door in the hallway that you gained entry into the apartment. I stood in the hall like WTF???
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
11:16 am
Courtside ~ decisions, decisions (roflmao).
I worked with a lady who was so distraught her cat died she took all her food out the freezer and put the cat in until she could bury it. Now, that’s dedication and love. I feel for her, but come on now, you want to spoon your cat the rest of your life or do you want to spoon your man…decisions, decisions.
Button
February 21st, 2013
11:17 am
Kimmie – I’m with you on this letter, maybe she should consider giving her pet cat to her friends that way she can still see the cat and not jeapordize her relationship which seems to be serious also she’s admitted that the cat is spending a lot of time alone while she’s with her bf.
LOL @ disco, that’s nasty!
that’s like me wondering why people won’t replace the broken blinds at the window. Surely you see the same raggy blinds at the window I see so why not replace the darn thing??
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
11:17 am
Celisea ~ I wonder if she opened a 529 Plan for the cat since it’s “LIKE” her child. Good grief.
disco
February 21st, 2013
11:19 am
leggs – see? dead cat in freezer. that’s not love. that’s crazy.
kimmie
February 21st, 2013
11:22 am
disco – They might cause I don’t put it past them, but really, if you have seen what I’ve seen, one just this past Christmas holidays, you would know what I’m talking about.
Oprah started the whole thing when she had some hoarders on her show. I had Hoarders on when it first came on, and my hubs walked in and said that was nothing. He told me about a close family friend of his and I didn’t believe it – until I saw it with my own eyes!
Button
February 21st, 2013
11:22 am
Single because that’s the first thing that comes to my mind when I see the grown kids walking the camera thur their parents house and I wonder why did they even let it get to that point.
MsAtl
February 21st, 2013
11:22 am
Morning All!
Ex- Nah, I think Bulz is right on this one; it’s is correct as the short form of it is.
If he wants to abstain, that is his decision, but, why begin a relationship giving someone a pass to step out? If they are not compatible, they need to go their separate ways.
Celisea- You sound like you are jonesing, lol. I am 12 weeks out.
I’ve never seen Hoarders, but I can tell you that I had a client who “collected” cats. She had 27 when I represented her in an eviction proceeding. She told the court that her house couldn’t possible smell because she “MOPPED HER CARPET EVERY DAY!” Okay folks, who the heck mops a carpet? Not to mention, My eyes burned out of my head upon entering her apartment! I ended up entering into a deal where I found volunteers to adopt all but 2 of the cats and to replace her carpets and take the mountain of newspapers from her home. I heard that she got evicted a year later because she found more cats & had more than a dozen. Shame because she was in her eighties.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
11:22 am
Button, I’ve been in someones house that was like that, had an actual path through the house!!
Single ~ I’ve been in someone’s bathroom like that. That bathroom haunts me to this day. I had to go so badly, but seemed to be stopped up upon opening the bathroom door. I quickly changed my mind and left. Stopped at first fast food place I saw.
Button
February 21st, 2013
11:23 am
Dead cat in the freezer, reminds me of the episode on the Office. lol
MsAtl
February 21st, 2013
11:23 am
“possibly.”
Celisea
February 21st, 2013
11:24 am
Leggs – I’m not getting it…honestly…lol Shoot, there are folks that leave their inheritance to their pets
I know we’re in a time where folks feel “different” towards animals and long removed from the days of a fence, a doghouse and leftover bones for the dog’s dinner, and not allowed in the house, but I don’t get treating animals like humans. There is human, then there are animals.
IMO, it’s not intended for humans and animals to “mix” so to speak. But hey, I’m still back in the 70s, with “dog stay outside” mentality. I definitely though wouldn’t struggle with “what to do, what to do” between human versus animal. That cat would get dropped with the quickness…lolol
OAN: Lou Meyers passed yesterday
disco
February 21st, 2013
11:25 am
kimmie – I’ve been in some nasty houses. I’m related to some folks who keep nasty houses. one cousin we’ve nicknamed their baby “sticky”. now you can make your own assumptions about that one. lol.
Celisea
February 21st, 2013
11:26 am
MsAtl Celisea- You sound like you are jonesing, lol. I am 12 weeks out.
Really? Oh, okay.
Button
February 21st, 2013
11:26 am
I know there are hoarders out there but the show seems staged to me. I’ve seem the hoarder cars a few times, stacked with newspapers and other questionable things to the roof with just enough space on the drivers side. just sad.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
11:27 am
That’s an excellent point, kimmie. He may have built up a little resistance. Excellent point.
Button, finally someone has said it. I don’t understand the raggedly blinds either. Replace them.
disco ~ I agree, it’s crazy to us, but love to her!
Button
February 21st, 2013
11:27 am
Letter 55: I have been living with my boyfriend for six months and recently found out he was accessing my email account to read more than five years’ worth of my emails—from before we were a couple. I never gave him my password or permission to access my account, but thanks to the search feature, he was able to target words such as date, and schex. When I first questioned him about it, he denied reading them and confessed only when I showed him the computer’s history. Previously, whenever he wanted to talk about my past relationships, I would say I didn’t want to discuss it because none of it mattered and we’re both healthy and together now. Now, anytime we fight, which has been more frequently lately, he brings up things he read in my emails, implying that I was promiscuous and not who he thought I was. Yes, I had partners before him, but likely fewer than he had, since he’s older. Before all this happened, he was generally a kind, sweet boyfriend. Now, I feel extremely violated. Do you think we’ll move past the anger and distrust we both feel?
disco
February 21st, 2013
11:29 am
leggs – nope. it’s crazy period. that heffa knows you ain’t supposed to put no cat in the freezer.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
11:30 am
Celisea ~ I too do not understand leaving an inheritance to an animal, especially millions.
I heard about Lou Meyers. He was funny. I liked his voice.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
11:32 am
“…read more than five years’ worth of my emails—” – First off, is this normal???
Hell no they will not move past the anger and mistrust because he’s acting like a little beyotch!!
Celisea
February 21st, 2013
11:33 am
I can’t watch any shows with Hoarders. That mess makes me sick on the stomach and spoils my appetite.
MsAtl
February 21st, 2013
11:36 am
Celisea- My “jonesing” comment was in reference to your touch-up remark about having to go eight weeks. I have a friend who would try to get a touch-up every 4 weeks because she wanted her hair straight at all times.
Bluzgirl
February 21st, 2013
11:37 am
Hacking into email and reading 5 years worth?!?! That’s a little much, I would say. I don’t think I could move past that anger and distrust…
Celisea
February 21st, 2013
11:40 am
MsAtl – Oooooh, okay gotcha. Yeah, in that regard, I’m jonesing hard…lol I’m really thinking about going back in this weekend for my retouch. This is my second “8 week run.” The first time wasn’t too bad, but dang it’s so drawn up from the new growth. I’m just wearing pinned up. I’m tryna make it eight full weeks…lol
Four weeks is NOT good. Eventually that runs into being overprocessed.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 21st, 2013
11:42 am
Why the hell is she holding on to Five years worth of sexing e-mails from old boyfriends???
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
11:43 am
Button, so what are they supposed to do, when you have your own life and your own things going on, you can’t take care of everything and which may also be a loosing battle.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
11:47 am
My thoughts too, Courtside.
disco
February 21st, 2013
11:47 am
insecure is so not a good look on men. I don’t know why so many men feel comfortable trying it on. if anything she should dump him now not for snooping and tripping but for acting like a daggone whiny sissy boy behind it all.
Bluzgirl
February 21st, 2013
11:49 am
Ugh…I’m in a mood today. Don’t feel well…tired…cranky…
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
11:50 am
My thoughts too, disco…
I’m literally laughing out loud.
Button
February 21st, 2013
11:51 am
Single I know that but if you know your parent have mental issues you may want to keep an eye on them. it could be tiesome and stessful but what’s right is what’s right. Maybe the kids are in denial.
I know right Leggs! – to read 5 years worth of email is just plain ol crazy. He shouldn’t had gone snopping goody for him. For him to hold her accountable for things she’s done in her past is just crazy but some people do that. now he’s looking at her differently, well unless she painter herself as mother theresa then I can’t see why he’s looking at her sidways.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 21st, 2013
11:52 am
LOLOLOLOL
Its always funny when a lady refers to him as a ” whiny sissy boy”!!!
Button
February 21st, 2013
11:53 am
lol – maybe she loves going back down memory lane. Heck I have emails from over 5 years ago but I don’t go back to read them. I need to clean up my email.
Bluzgirl
February 21st, 2013
11:55 am
Maybe she didn’t even realize that she had emails that old. I’m bad about putting emails in folders and not going back to look at them or delete them. Although…after the Ex told me that he was engaged after only 4 months of being broken up, I went through my computer and deleted every single thing that had his name or picture!
disco
February 21st, 2013
11:55 am
leggs – so the other day I’m talking to a friend and she’s venting re her new man. the problem? he’s too sensitive and in her words insecure. she had me cracking up talking about dude had her questioning herself asking “is that how she used to be with her exes”. lol.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
12:00 pm
disco ~ sensitive and insecure makes for a drama-filled relationship. I couldn’t hang.
Button
February 21st, 2013
12:01 pm
Lunch time
disco
February 21st, 2013
12:03 pm
leggs – she insists it’s mostly good except that he tends to constantly ask where she’s going, who she’s going with, when she’s coming back and then he calls to confirm asking where she is, who she’s with and when she’s coming back. lol. they don’t even live together and he checking like that. I wouldn’t put up with it. she says she’s talked to him and he says he’s going to try to curb it. we’ll see how it plays out.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
12:10 pm
Why don’t he spare himself and simply implant a GPS system in her honey pot!
I wanted to use another word because I just got off the phone with my cousin, but it’s crude so I’m sticking with the sweeter version (lololol)
disco
February 21st, 2013
12:13 pm
leggs – better yet. he can stop being a whiny sissy boy. lol.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
12:15 pm
Yep, that would be better, disco!
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
12:17 pm
I want Habachi for lunch, but that’s a lot of food.
disco
February 21st, 2013
12:26 pm
aww leggs. you can handle it. besides, that’s what leftovers are for.
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
12:26 pm
once again, Why so much drama? Why do people feel they have to put up with such craziness to have someone?
Bluzgirl
February 21st, 2013
12:32 pm
S/H – After the last relationship, I decided that I just can’t put up with the drama/craziness anymore. That may be why I’m still single a year later! LOL! Really…I don’t mind being single at this point. I’d rather be single than be in another unhealthy relationship…
Bluzgirl
February 21st, 2013
12:35 pm
Any man who makes me feel like (or go) crazy is not the right one!!!
disco
February 21st, 2013
12:40 pm
s/h – what drama? where’s the drama at? who got drama?
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
12:43 pm
Disco, the letter with the snooping boyfriend, why???
Celisea
February 21st, 2013
12:44 pm
I am so torn. I’ve been checking out job postings and I would love to try my hand at something else. By the same token, I like how my job is carved but I don’t like everythig about it. I like the freedom and not being chained to a desk or my manager, I like the “limited” travel (I wouldn’t want to do it as much as some of the other roles have to do it), etc etc etc. I don’t like though the load of work sometimes piled on and the “bs” i.e. fakeness you have to keep checked. Oh, and the folks who make it their duty to mind their business and yours. Gotta be smart in how you get that handled. I mean, I’m more than grateful to have a job, but I don’t know if the risk of jumping in somewhere else, will be outweigh the reward. So, I’m not complaining….at all cause there are a number of folks on the team I came from 3 years ago that would kill for this spot, at the same time, I wanna grow and go in another direction. Then I could end up with a meanie for a manager. My manager ain’t exactly sunshine but she’s come around a whole bunch from the time she started. The only thing with that is she’ll flip the script on you in a minute, depending on whether or not it’s an issues that is going to eventually reflect on her. She says she still feels I don’t trust her. I’m working on it, but usually when folks show me they can be dirty, I usually hold to that opinion of them. Like I said, she’s made conscious efforts to blend in better with out team overall, but I can tell it’s an intentional effort and not the same or same level of “sweetness” the manager befor her possess. Too, the hiring process gets really competitive and can be grueling around here.
Just like the cat girl/lady earlier…decisions decisions.
disco
February 21st, 2013
12:44 pm
s/h – nothing. just thought we were past that. thought there was some fresh, new, exciting, entertaining drama and I missed it. I just wanted to make sure I was caught up is all.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
12:48 pm
disco ~ I wanted to invite a co-worker who’s husband is going thru some serious medical complications. She’s stressed, but can’t make it today. So, we will have Habachi tomorrow.
Celisea ~ I guess you needed to vent (lol).
Celisea
February 21st, 2013
12:50 pm
Leggs – LOL…that was a load off
Decisions, decisions. The last time I mentioned to my manager posting out, she caught herself. She was about to ask why, but I guess thought better. That’s one thing this orgazation promotes is moving up and doing better. Guess that would have seemed like her being opposed. She was saying “never mind” and I was like “naaaw, out with it, you can say it, it’s cool”…and she asked at that point “why, what’s wrong?” She can be cool sometimes.
Bluzgirl
February 21st, 2013
12:54 pm
I really should have stayed home today also. I feel like I’m not doing much here at work. My head is in a fog. Only problem is…if I was at home, I might fall into a depression because today is my “bad” day of the year. I’m handling it pretty well this year, though. My brother is taking me out to dinner tonight.
abc
February 21st, 2013
12:56 pm
Per snooping 5 years worth of girlfriend’s email: my view on communications mediums like email, cell phones/texting, IM, social media and so on is that of a parent. These are ways that children can communication without their parents’ knowledge. In that way they are very bad things. The corollary is that these are also ways that couples can hide communications from each other, also a very bad thing. Requiring privacy of communications in these areas should, in itself, be a huge red flag.
Such a history of emails with such content is analogous to a shoebox full of heated romantic letters, I imagine. Review of them certainly is a window into who she really is. That said, breaking into another’s email account is illegal and prosecutable.
Again, sex and money are about the only things that will break up a couple.
Scool
February 21st, 2013
12:58 pm
@bluz if the guy has a ‘magnum’ you’ll overlook his faults!
Celisea
February 21st, 2013
1:00 pm
I see a REALLY good and interesting position. It’s very similiar to my current role, is a bit more analytical and makes about 5 – 10 grand more. Where I lack is this position dabbles a bit in derivatives. I’ve “rubbed” up against that (and I use that loosly), but nowhere near proficient. Decisions, decisions. I tettering on applying. I have a lot of the other qualifications though the role is seeking.
Decisions decisions……..hmmmmmmm
Button
February 21st, 2013
1:08 pm
even non magnums wear magnums – such foolery
Button
February 21st, 2013
1:10 pm
Celisea whoosa!
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
1:16 pm
That said, breaking into another’s email account is illegal and prosecutable. Too funny, you went there. They’re lovey dovey, she’s not thinking of taking him to court, but that was funny.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
1:18 pm
Celisea ~ I think you need to reserve a conference room, get pad and pen and write out the pros and cons of applying for the job. We cain’t help you…(lol). Seriously, sit yourself down, quiet yourself down and think it through
Celisea
February 21st, 2013
1:21 pm
Funny blog…. Y’all want me to hush but AIN’T NOBODY TALKING!! And if so, no more than a post here or there. Oh, or cats and tryna decide if bf or cat??
Okie dokie then….y’alls wishes? Y’all got it!
Celisea
February 21st, 2013
1:22 pm
Oh, or Dushawn and the nasties. Nobody tells him to hush. Rather, he’s encouraged. But, um yeah, y’all got it!
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
1:23 pm
Button ~ give us another letter.
Bluzgirl
February 21st, 2013
1:29 pm
Good…..
Button
February 21st, 2013
1:33 pm
Letter 407 – About five years ago, I lost my wife after a lengthy illness. The first year was hard, but I got through it thanks to my in-laws, who never stopped letting me know that I would always be part of their family. (My parents are no longer with us.) Six months ago, I met a wonderful woman I love and want to marry. My problem is that she is very twitchy about my relationship with my in-laws. We call each other frequently and I visit them, and their extended family, a few times a year, including holidays. But any time I mention them or my former wife—such as saying something she enjoyed doing—my girlfriend gets angry or very upset. She accuses me of still being in love with my late wife and not letting go of the past. I’ve tried to reassure her, but I feel that I have to constantly censor myself to avoid setting her off. I don’t want to cut my late wife’s family out of my life, and they are very happy I’ve found someone, but I fear an ultimatum is coming. What should I do?
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
1:36 pm
Awww, my man Ja Rule (yeah I like him) left state prison only to be locked up again by the Feds for tax evasion. I many never get to hear my baby sing again (roflmao).
Button
February 21st, 2013
1:37 pm
lol Celisea who’s telling you to hush?
SlimNu
February 21st, 2013
1:39 pm
If it does get slow in here Celisea, do you feel pressure to fill the silence?
MsAtl
February 21st, 2013
1:39 pm
Wow! Hadn’t heard about JaRule. I like him.
Bluzgirl
February 21st, 2013
1:40 pm
Wow! Of course he still loves his late wife. It’s not like it was a divorce…she died! That girlfriend needs to get the F over it or she needs to go. I have a friend that lost his wife after a long battle with cancer and met his current wife within 6 months of losing her. People judged him, but after so many years of her being ill, he had to let go before. He will never stop loving her and his wife understands that. His wife also lost a previous husband to death, so maybe that’s why she understands. They both are still very close to the in-laws. This girl has some major growing up to do…
Bluzgirl
February 21st, 2013
1:42 pm
I’m feeling pretty sassy today! BUT…I’m still holding a lot of stuff in…
Off to lunch!
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
1:43 pm
First, he doesn’t need to be mentioning what his first wife liked to do to his new love interest. He could take a mental note and k.i.m. Tell her you do not take kindly to ultimatums, your in-laws will always be a part of your life, but will minimize the amount of time you spend with them. If you’re falling in love, then your holidays should be with your love interest, not with your late wife’s family. Times are now changing so you have to change your routine. Plain and simple.
DuShawn
February 21st, 2013
1:46 pm
“do you feel pressure to fill the silence?……” that’s funny, I was thinking the same thing. I think Celisea is cool (no longer square
), but she suffers from hand diarrhea. She can’t stop typing sh&^t.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
1:46 pm
Bluz ~ your approach is rather hard (lol). Why does the gf have to go. Apparently, it’s been 5 years and he’s looking to love again. In that vein, he can’t keep talking about his late wife. Doesn’t mean he needs to forget about her, but not cool to talk about her with that twinkle in your eye to your new love interest.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
1:46 pm
Not sure if she has some major growing up to do, but after only dating 6 months she shouldn’t be “twitchy!”
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
1:51 pm
http://www.nydailynews.com/news/world/woman-catches-philandering-fiance-map-app-article-1.1269633
There’s an app for that (lololololololol)
Exiled
February 21st, 2013
1:54 pm
Ja Rule,Really?
so overrated and overrpaid…and the money he got and mis-spend is enough…hes so late now.
@Letter407..why is he even getting married, six months after his wife’s death?
It is as if he killed her(wife) because he wanted to marry this new heiffer….its just too soon.seems devoid of any love and compassion to his in-laws either by just seemingly burying her and stepping NEXT….
The heiifer must also STOP biaatching and moaning….its dissresepectful…maybe shes just after his savings and retirement!
Robert
February 21st, 2013
1:55 pm
“Would that be a recipe for disaster or a viable option for you, personally? ”
Personally, I find that kind of “viable option” sexy and desireable. As a mature Man I can respect a woman who makes a decision about her body and life and will not settle for less. When I first met my fiance’ she told me on our first date what her expectations were. She had been married before and she wanted to take the time to get to know me. Like most women she had a plan and her plan included abstinance for atleast 3 months to really gauge my intentions. Her logic was sound. Her experience taught her if a Man can not wait he is not really serious about her and is only thinking about satisfying his own needs (selfish). She could easily walk away with no feeling hurt at any time during the 3 month get-to-know-you-better period.
Whether she knew it or not, it made me fall in love with her. I love a Woman who can stand for something and will fight for everything. She is my best friend.
SlimNu
February 21st, 2013
1:56 pm
Leggs – I agree with you, there is no need to keep brining up the late wife to the new girl, especially if he claims to care about her so much. There is no reason it’s needed unless they are specifically having a discussion about her at the time. And there is one thing as far as calling to chat with her family every now and then but hanging out and all that jazz is a bit much when you’re trying to move forward. My exes mom still calls me to this day but I do not go running to hang out with her. I wouldn’t like it if my beau did that to me. It’s just a matter or respect…How can you go forward if you have your skates on the wrong foot going in opposite directions.
Exiled
February 21st, 2013
1:58 pm
@Robert?
wld u have loved her still if you found out after the abstinence that her sex game was Real wacck?
I am talking about it being OFF…. wacck…..
Button
February 21st, 2013
2:06 pm
how long do you suppose he wait EXILE?
I’ve know of men marrying immediately after the death of a wife….like weeks, dirt haven’t even settled yet. I’m not to familiar with women marrying so quickly.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
2:11 pm
Ex ~ JaRule may be late, misspend his money like so man, I still like him. And the guy’s wife in the letter has been gone for 5 years, he met his love interest 6 mos. ago.
Robert
February 21st, 2013
2:13 pm
@Exiled – “wld u have loved her still if you found out after the abstinence that her sex game was Real wacck?”
If there was a problem with our intimacy as her best friend we should be able to talk about sensitive subjects such as sex. I am a good listener and sometimes that’s all your woman wants to do is talk. Communication is important in every relationship. That’s how you get to know about her. If she is comfortable talking about intimacy she will tell you exactly what is wrong and how to fix it. As a great lover I know how to make her relax and feel safe. Some Women are victims of abuse (physical, verbal, financial, etc.) and a Man must recognize how these tramatic events may have affected their Woman if he really cares for and loves her.
I am a great teacher, friend and lover.
Exiled!
February 21st, 2013
2:18 pm
Ok,Leggs I missed that 5 years part.
Button…two years minimum after spousal death is fair. Anything below 18 months,ummmm if I were a brother,father etc of departed,I would ask DA to do an investigation unless death was so obvious then.
Besides, remarrying anytime before 18 to 24 months just reeks of somebody who didn’t care for that departed person much. I wouldn’t do it.
I may smash,discretely..
but to be seen frolicking and marrying…hmmm,not a good look in my book.
Exiled!
February 21st, 2013
2:21 pm
@Robert..u got a woman?
u read like a prosperity gospel pastor.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 21st, 2013
2:23 pm
Robert, don’t take this the wrong way, but you sound like such a girl!!!!!
Button
February 21st, 2013
2:23 pm
so you’re supposed to put your life on hold? for two years? what will constitute waiting two years? and if the inlaws have a problem well then they are the ones with a problem. you’re not dead, you’re still alive! Putting you life on hold will not bring that person back. till death do yo part. I don’t want to come off cold but life is for the living.
disco
February 21st, 2013
2:23 pm
Leggs – I remember you mentioning liking ja rule. I thought he was a little frail though I did like his music. now ignant azz mystikal was more my type. lol.
dushawn – 1:46. you crazy.
button – you know men got it like that when it comes to marriage. much easier for a man to find a woman to marry when he’s ready than a woman to find a man to marry when she’s ready.
ex – 18-24 months might be reasonable when you are younger. folks might not be spring chickens anymore. you gotta make that thang do what it do. if you grown and know what you want and you know it only 3, 6, 9 months then have at it.
Celisea
February 21st, 2013
2:24 pm
Well suh, I go to lunch and come to….
SlimNu – If it does get slow in here Celisea, do you feel pressure to fill the silence
No, just doing the same thing you do when you notice those dragging ass days. I just don’t do the farting and wiener analogies….lol
DuShawn – I think Celisea is cool (no longer square ), but she suffers from hand diarrhea. She can’t stop typing sh&^t.
Honestly, I think you’re the biggest sh&^t (like this version, I notice you and MMeello uses) shaker on here….lol It’s cool though, I guess (shrugs), seeing I’m no longer square….lol I thought that was funny as heck.
MsAtl
February 21st, 2013
2:26 pm
I am not saying that I would do it (it would depend on the circumstances), but I would not judge someone who married 18-24 months after a spouse passed. Nor would I presume to judge them and say that they could not have cared for their deceased spouse.
Courtside- low…
Exiled!
February 21st, 2013
2:27 pm
On taxes,Ja Rule owes bout 2 mil,Kelly Rowland 750k,Chris Tucker,I think 10 mil or so…he’s in trouble this one.
Ja Rule just looks like a fool to me,even without his tax issues
just looking at him.
I was praying one time that if 50 wld just smack him Shut him TFU!
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
2:28 pm
Don’t sleep on Robert. He’s been preying on this blog for quite some time.
Button
February 21st, 2013
2:29 pm
Letter 1005 – I love my girlfriend very much and at the age of 27 feel like I’m finally with somebody who I could spend my life with. I have been supportive of her naturalist attitude regarding hair removal and even find her hairy pits, legs, and other parts sexy. The trouble is that she also has scattered hairs growing across her chest and about a dozen long ones around each baby feeders. How can I explain to her that although I support her natural ways and was well aware of her preference going into things, that a little bit of removable would go a long way? It’s the baby feeder hair that really throws me. When I’ve brought it up she’s acted offended and explained to me that it’s natural for women to get hair all over. She says she could pluck them but they will just grow back. I’m really falling for this girl but am fearful that as we age it’s going to become more and more of a turn off until our chex life is dead
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
2:30 pm
“… now ignant azz mystikal was more my type.” – You labeled him correctly, and I like him too. Don’t know what the hell he’s saying,but I like him.
Exiled!
February 21st, 2013
2:30 pm
U are cold Button!
disco
February 21st, 2013
2:30 pm
ex – now 50. that’s my man 20 grand right there. I think I lo-o-o-o-ve him. lol. I remember when 50 and kanye were beefing. I remember thinking kanye looks like he can’t beat a cold. he better leave 50 alone. now, ja. he’s funny looking but he might have a little squabble with him. I’m sure he can whoop kanye.
disco
February 21st, 2013
2:32 pm
button – another stupid letter. dude is a grown man and he knows and understands that you get what you get. he’s got a hairy woman. if he stays with her he’ll continue to have a hairy woman.
Robert
February 21st, 2013
2:34 pm
@Courtside – One day you will mature and understand how a mature Woman thinks and what she needs from a mature Man. Ask any mature Woman and they will tell you communication (listening, talking, etc.) is the most important thing in their relationship. Without communication you can not develop a lasting meaningful relationship.
I have been called many things in my life, and being compared to a “girl” is a compliment if it means I have accomplished my mission which is to have a successful relationship. I have learned “humility” is good.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
2:34 pm
“I’m really falling for this girl but am fearful that as we age it’s going to become more and more of a turn off until our chex life is dead” – that’s because as you age and become elderly, you will find you’re living with Cousin It!
MsAtl
February 21st, 2013
2:34 pm
Button- I don’t know about this one. I’ve said more than once that I would have an issue with hair growing out of a man’s ears and nose. I’ve seen a woman with chest hair sticking out of a low cut top and let me tell you, it was not pretty. IJS…
Bluzgirl
February 21st, 2013
2:34 pm
Leggs – Maybe a little harsh, but do we know he’s talking about her constantly? The part about the in-laws is that he said they became his family. I didn’t go back and read the letter before writing this, but didn’t he mention that he didn’t have family of his own? She can’t be offended that he keeps in touch with them and still visits them. If it was a divorce situation, then maybe it would be different…
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 21st, 2013
2:35 pm
Ok….. I might be in the minority here, but I happen to find a bit of hair on a woman sexy….Not armpit bushes our beards like the Amish, but in general, some well trimmed hair is to my liking… Now I have not come across any hairy udders, so I can see where that might be a problem…..
disco
February 21st, 2013
2:36 pm
robert – while I agree that communication is important I for one (and I know a lot of other women as well) do not want to hear a man whining about his feelings all the daggone time. say what you gotta say and be done with it. don’t be lenny Williams or keith sweat all day every day.
Button
February 21st, 2013
2:36 pm
I’m not cold Exile just being realistic. you still haven’t answered my question, what will waiting 2 years constitute?
kimmie
February 21st, 2013
2:36 pm
Button’s letter about the widower is something I can speak to. My husband met me 2 years after he lost his wife to cancer. The children were 4 & 6 when she passed.
Because of the children, we make sure they keep in contact with her family. They have a grandfather that comes thru from time to time. They have an uncle that lives here with his wife and they adore the kids and spend time with them and take them on trips. They took them to their family reunion. We didn’t attend the reunion with them, but I have no problem having their grandfather and uncle over at all. It’s no threat to me.
I agree with Leggs – it is disrespectful to keep bringing up the deceased wife. He can make a mental note, but that’s enough to make even the most secure woman feel uncomfortable. And still hanging out with the wife’s family, especially if no kids were involved, is not cool either. He doesn’t have to cut them off completely, but he needs to pull back and move on.
Everyone grieves differently though.
cba
February 21st, 2013
2:37 pm
@Ex 2:27- you left out Mary J…….just damn!
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 21st, 2013
2:39 pm
Surprise Robert… It is completly posssible to be in a sucessful relationship and fuction as a healthy full grown adult male without coming across as a …. ( what was the term again disco????) Oh yeah….a whiny sissy boy
Robert
February 21st, 2013
2:44 pm
@Courtside & disco – “a whiny sissy boy”
Those are fighting words and I do not think either one of you “bama’s’” want a part of this real mature Man. That is how I separate the “wheat from the shaft”.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 21st, 2013
2:46 pm
lol……Settle down little lady!! No need to get your panties in a wad! Besides, what goes on between you and whomevers shaft is your business…………
disco
February 21st, 2013
2:47 pm
okay robert. we don’t want a blog fight. pump ya brakes homie. I said whiny sissy boy way back however long ago. now if you feel some kind of way just from reading the words then that there sounds like a personal problem to me. I didn’t call you anything and how you gone call somebody bama talking about wheat and shaft? that’s pure country. LOL.
MsAtl
February 21st, 2013
2:47 pm
Wait! All these years, I thought it was the wheat from the chaff?
Button
February 21st, 2013
2:49 pm
lol
kimmie
February 21st, 2013
2:51 pm
Mary J & her hubs ought to be ashamed of themselves.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
2:51 pm
Oh boy, wheat is being separated from the shaft…
disco
February 21st, 2013
2:51 pm
kimmie – why? what they do?
Exiled!
February 21st, 2013
2:51 pm
Celisea…I think DuShawn,Disco and urs truly we some of the coolest realest folks on the blog especially if u get to know us in person.
One thing I don’t like is fake people who act like they don’t shy^t…as in baring All to dump…like they don’t wipe azz
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
2:53 pm
It is chaff, MsAtl.
disco
February 21st, 2013
2:53 pm
leggs – no, somebody is a little sensitive today. somebody on here used to say “a hit dog will holler”. I guess courtside or I hit a dog. can’t speak for C but I wasn’t trying to hit nothing.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 21st, 2013
2:54 pm
Leggs, MsAtl, If Robbie prefers the shaft, let him have it…..
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
2:55 pm
Ex, you’re not one of the coolest on the blog. You don’t even represent yourself (lol).
disco
February 21st, 2013
2:55 pm
I’m just on here typing, funning, clowning and minding my own business. get dragged in some mess and called a bama to boot. I’m a yankee by golly. we ain’t no bamas. lol.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
2:57 pm
Ex ~ I was really thinking in terms of your Id and your Superego, but I digress because they are part of you, so perhaps you are representing yourself (unfortunately…lolol).
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
2:58 pm
Hey disco…pssst….not many Yankees use the word “golly,” IJS…..
Exiled!
February 21st, 2013
2:58 pm
Waiting 2 years is symbolic!
Ever heard that?
It just means at least u took some time to process
U didn’t just come back from the graveyard and said,’so who am I taking out tonite,instead?’
Celisea
February 21st, 2013
2:59 pm
Mmeello – Honey, let me tell you, it’s 2013, no way in da heyal I’m getting my blood pressure up over sugga’d up comments from folks behind the screen OF A BLOG! Nuh uh. I will exit left and come back later. Oh, neither do I don’t feel the need the “unload”, cause it ain’t that deep to me…nor will it get that deep. It’s 2013…keep it happy snappy!
MMeello – For fake folks, let them be. It’s what they do
disco
February 21st, 2013
3:01 pm
leggs – and goodness knows I’ve never used it. well, no. I do sing betcha by golly wow.
kimmie
February 21st, 2013
3:02 pm
Disco – She got hit with a 900K tax lien. Not the first time she’s had money troubles. And, supposedly she may be hit with foreclosure cause she’s missed some payments. Her hubs is supposed to be her manager!
Exiled!
February 21st, 2013
3:03 pm
Leggs..u funny!
Celisea..never have blood pressure,not good.
Just laugh.
I like to laugh at ualls reactions
disco
February 21st, 2013
3:03 pm
ooh. why did I say that? now I’ve got betcha by golly wow on the brain. lol.
Celisea
February 21st, 2013
3:06 pm
Mmeelloo – When I say I’m over here rollng or laughing at something, that’s exactly what I’m doing and all I plan to do. Anything aside from that, I can’t do it this year. Life is good and rich and sweet. I can’t do bitter nor bitterness
Too, I have a couple of other blogs I like to read. Nice flow and none of that “other stuff.” I can easily read in other places.
and with that….
I’m out, Toodles, Holla!!
disco
February 21st, 2013
3:07 pm
kimmie – I listened to some cuts off the what’s the 411 album while jogging the other day. that was a nice little blast from the past.
Bluzgirl
February 21st, 2013
3:10 pm
Trying so hard to bite my tongue and not say something smart…
disco
February 21st, 2013
3:11 pm
c’mon bluz. better to say something smart than to say something stupid.
Bluzgirl
February 21st, 2013
3:11 pm
I think some folks just like to hear (type) themselves talk…
Exiled!
February 21st, 2013
3:16 pm
if u biting ur tongue maybe u don’t have some smart to say then
@Bluz
Say it!
I know I’m smart
kimmie
February 21st, 2013
3:18 pm
Betcha by golly wow
you’re the one that I’ve been waiting for
Forever!
SlimNu
February 21st, 2013
3:20 pm
Button
February 21st, 2013
3:21 pm
LOL..it’s a BLOG why so uptight?
IF it’s stupid then don’t read it, simple!
Exile if you say so.
Bluzgirl
February 21st, 2013
3:22 pm
Ok…I can’t stand the word “Toodles” and have ya’ll noticed how many times it gets used by the same person on a daily basis?!?!
disco
February 21st, 2013
3:22 pm
kimmie – I can’t carry a note if you put it in a bucket but I just be singing my little heart out. lol.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
3:23 pm
disco ~ I started singing it as I read that.
disco
February 21st, 2013
3:25 pm
toodles always makes me think smooches. I don’t say either but it doesn’t really bother me. I think I’ve mentioned before that the word awesome outside of church irks me.
I’ll tell you another song I’ve been hearing on the radio a lot lately and I always hate when it goes off. “let’s do it again”.
Exiled!
February 21st, 2013
3:25 pm
Kimmie…that’s not a manager that one…
That’s her toy!
@MaryJ
DuShawn
February 21st, 2013
3:25 pm
“IF it’s stupid then don’t read it, simple!……”
how would you know if its stupid, unless you read it…..
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
3:26 pm
Random: I so love chewing ice
Bluzgirl
February 21st, 2013
3:27 pm
I think it’s more of it being said over and over during the day…wouldn’t bother me if it was a one time thing…
Exiled!
February 21st, 2013
3:27 pm
Bluz u can’t say her name?
(me instigating-I luv a female fight)
Exiled!
February 21st, 2013
3:28 pm
That’s a drug code,chewing ice?
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
3:28 pm
disco ~ I often speak on how that word grates my nerves. Retire it, PLS!
disco
February 21st, 2013
3:31 pm
ex – you supposed to be the one with the stick that draws the line in the dirt and tells whoever is bad to step over the line? or did you let the parties hit you and pass the licks back and forth? tell us about your instigate game.
Button
February 21st, 2013
3:32 pm
the stuggle
@Dushawn
SlimNu
February 21st, 2013
3:32 pm
how would you know if its stupid, unless you read it…..
Yall going to make me cry laughing and my head is already hurting as it is.
Button
February 21st, 2013
3:32 pm
meant struggle…carry on
Button
February 21st, 2013
3:34 pm
my head is hurting too SlimNu…ouch!
disco
February 21st, 2013
3:34 pm
dushawn – I was once told that if you are stupid and you know you are stupid that makes you kind of smart. at least smarter than the person who is stupid and doesn’t know it.
kimmie
February 21st, 2013
3:34 pm
I’ve gotten to where I can’t stand to hear people say “amazing”!!
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
3:36 pm
dang, I missed all the fun (rotflmao)
Exiled!
February 21st, 2013
3:37 pm
U distracting me Disco,I’m watching a soccer game.
But I know Bluz will get beat if she thinks she can start a fight
Even with Button on her side in a 2 against 1
Bluzgirl
February 21st, 2013
3:37 pm
Ex – no point saying a name…I think everyone knows already.
Bluzgirl
February 21st, 2013
3:38 pm
I’m not starting a fight…just stating some feelings…
Button
February 21st, 2013
3:39 pm
a guy friend of mine closes his text messages with smooches…I feel a certian kind of way about him.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 21st, 2013
3:39 pm
I am sensative and mature, and I can’t stand to hear what other people can’t stand……
I think I need a hug )(
disco
February 21st, 2013
3:40 pm
button – tell us how you feel.
ex – I guess your instigate game ain’t all that tight. lol.
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
3:40 pm
I’m a little late, but have to comment on this one
Waiting 2 years is symbolic! now correct me if I’m wrong, but doesn’t the marriage vows and the bible say until DEATH do you part??
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 21st, 2013
3:41 pm
smmoches..REALLY?????
Button
February 21st, 2013
3:41 pm
Ex – I’m not a fighter. Bluz can handle her own affairs.
Exiled!
February 21st, 2013
3:41 pm
Ooohh,Bluz u going to get beat
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
3:42 pm
2 more over used words, “basically and literally!!”
Exiled!
February 21st, 2013
3:44 pm
Untill Death do us part
@Single
Using ur interpretation that nite after burial,u be atop some other heifer,fgging??
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
3:44 pm
That’s a drug code,chewing ice? – HUH?
disco
February 21st, 2013
3:45 pm
ex – now that was funny. not because you are clowning bluz but because I could hear a little no good kid saying that trying to get somebody pumped up. lol.
Bluzgirl
February 21st, 2013
3:45 pm
Ex – I really don’t care today! Told y’all I was feeling sassy today! Lol!
DuShawn
February 21st, 2013
3:45 pm
@Court- I read what you wrote to Robert…..that was funny. That man prolly done punched a hole in his monitor tryin to snatch you azz thru the screen…lol
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
3:46 pm
Single ~ by you putting the “t” in roflmao makes you uppity!!!! IJS…
kimmie
February 21st, 2013
3:46 pm
Isn’t it weird, though, when you see men choose women that look alike? I’ve seen it happen plenty times – dude gets divorced or widowed and the new woman looks eerily like the prior one.
I had an uncle that did just that. He & his wife divorced and about 5 years later he was engaged to another. His nephew gave them an engagement bbq so she could meet everyone. When we walked in my said “what’s his ex doing here?”. She had just glanced quickly as we walked in. Come to find out it was the new fiance’!
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
3:47 pm
Ex that’s not an interpretation, that’s stated FACT!!
Class is honoring the person while they are alive by keeping your vows, not trying to live by others standards after death!! But I forgot, Ex’s world Ex’s rules!!
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 21st, 2013
3:49 pm
DuShawn…. Right…. He needs to stop playing with the shaft first…. LOLOLOL
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
3:49 pm
kimmie ~ that has always been weird to me. He likes the look of the woman, but wanted someone with basically the same face, but different habits.
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
3:50 pm
@leggs huh (rotfmfao)
disco
February 21st, 2013
3:51 pm
random – when was the last time any of you said “yo momma” to someone for real? not just yo momma jokes playing but a straight up “yo momma”?
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
3:52 pm
Ok, what does that stand for, Single (lolol)?
It’s rolling on floor laughing my a$$ off, not rolling on THE floor….
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
3:53 pm
disco, I did 6 years ago….
disco
February 21st, 2013
3:53 pm
leggs – do you remember why? the circumstances?
Exiled!
February 21st, 2013
3:54 pm
Ex world Ex rules?
Really? That’s an inferiority complex
I just state my opinion buddy,why u feel I rule unless u don’t think ur own opinions count for anything!
Lol
Button
February 21st, 2013
3:55 pm
I need a kiss….smooches not allow
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
3:56 pm
Leggs in my english class you didn’t “roll on floor” you roll on THE floor laughing my f@%king a$$ off (LOL)
MsAtl
February 21st, 2013
3:57 pm
Leggs- A true pagophagiac knows that QT crushed ice is the best. Although it isn’t really crushed, but it is soft. Also Sonic ice and hospital ice.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
3:57 pm
disco ~ I most certainly do. My then husband told me I was a worthless piece of isht and after everything was said and done, I said Yo Momma and filed for divorce the next day.
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
3:58 pm
yea Ex, we all know you have an inferiority complex, you don’t have to state to obvious (LOL)
disco
February 21st, 2013
3:58 pm
s/h – in my English class the teacher consistently told the class that we were “rude, crude and ignorant”. fast forward and one of my son’s teachers said the class was “sad, sick and sorry”. lol.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
4:00 pm
Single ~ all well and good, but in the land of text, proper English isn’t usually allowed.
Also, Single, you typed rotfmao. Not sure what you’re doing on the floor, but it isn’t laughing…(lol).
disco
February 21st, 2013
4:00 pm
leggs – when you said six years ago I knew you knew exactly who, what, where, when and why. lol.
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
4:00 pm
Lmao @Leggs, did his jaw drop?
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 21st, 2013
4:00 pm
Button…. A real grade A Man Woman kiss, or a soft peck on the lips shy boy smooch???
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
4:01 pm
Right on, Ms.Atl, Right on. I was just standing at the elevator talking about hospital crushed ice…too funny!
Exiled!
February 21st, 2013
4:01 pm
@Single..ur momma is so shot that’s why u 5 feet 0 inches tall
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
4:02 pm
Leggs it’s force of habit to many years of having it drilled in (LOL) Didn’t know you were the text grammar police (lmao)
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
4:03 pm
See ex, there you go showing how you feel inferior, so you have to try a put someone else down!! (LOL) glad I could make you feel better
disco
February 21st, 2013
4:04 pm
ex – you been chewing crushed ice today? (this is not directed at the regular crushed ice chewers, only ex). lol.
MsAtl
February 21st, 2013
4:05 pm
Leggs- When I was in Cleveland I could not find a Sonic, so we stopped by a hospital. My daughter went in and said we needed ice for an injury. She came out with an ice pack and a sour stank look on her face. We went to another hospital and this time went to the maternity ward and scored a pitcher, which we shared in the car. Not our finest moment, but I tell you we had the shakes for real.
Exiled!
February 21st, 2013
4:05 pm
Ur momma is so fat that’s why u like fat women
Ur momma is so fat that why her email address is XX.com
Exiled!
February 21st, 2013
4:06 pm
disco
February 21st, 2013
4:07 pm
ex – you been crushing and snorting ice today? LOL.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
4:10 pm
Single, basically, then the pleading. When a woman is done, please believe she’s DONE! We’re great friends now because I worked on it (we’re parents) but mates we could never be again.
Button
February 21st, 2013
4:10 pm
Courtside – maybe he don’t want to come off as flirting. playing it safe.
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
4:11 pm
Leggs, I know from experience of what you speak (LOL)
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
4:12 pm
Single ~ I’m not the text grammar police, but when acronyms are used I simply want to know which each letter stands for. That’s all.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
4:13 pm
That is definitely a first, MsAtl. Definitely a first.
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
4:15 pm
Leggs, I’m just joking with you about the grammar police
) this is all in fun. It’s getting to much like Facebook up in here (LOL)
disco
February 21st, 2013
4:16 pm
s/h – how is facebook? I really don’t know.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
4:17 pm
Not FaceBook, Single, it’s FB (rotflmfao)…By George, I’ve got it…
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
4:18 pm
I figured you were joking, Single but wanted to give a truthful answer.
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
4:21 pm
Disco, people posting about their lives, having senseless arguments (yea I’m the one to talk) (lmao) getting upset when others opinions don’t agree with theirs (LOL)
Leggs okay FB (LOL)
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
4:23 pm
Disco, 3 more days
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
4:24 pm
Single I just got a text asking if this is the weekday I get on FB. Yeah I’m on about once a week and I don’t post much. I know one who posts every freaking thought in her head. Good grief….
disco
February 21st, 2013
4:28 pm
s/h – shut up. some folks are just always popping off at the mouth. lol. pfft…3 more days. don’t nobody care. lol.
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
4:31 pm
Leggs, I don’t post, but I keep up with a lot of scuba stuff and my scuba club, and I like to play poker on there also. I have several that post everything from the time they wake up until they go to bed, and even when they can’t sleep
I have to check myself at times to figure out what’s worse, them posting it or me reading it (roflmao) 
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
4:32 pm
Disco, what’s wrong, want me to be your travel agent (lmao)
Exiled!
February 21st, 2013
4:35 pm
Liverpool are winning uall
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
4:36 pm
disco
February 21st, 2013
4:37 pm
s/h – you like being told to shut up don’t you? there’s all kind of fetishes I suppose but I never heard of a shut up fetish. lol.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
4:38 pm
I have to pull out my laptop, turn it on, and sit there. Naw, I’m on this computer all day, don’t need to be glued to another when home. Hence, I’m not a daily FB user.
disco
February 21st, 2013
4:39 pm
LOL. I just laughed imagining a shut up fetish. how many ways can you tell a person to shut up? shh, hush, be quiet, shut your mouth and keep your teeth.
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
4:42 pm
Disco, yea that turns me on, (a sexy woman telling me to shut up, then using one of 3 things to make me shut up) (LOL)
Exiled!
February 21st, 2013
4:43 pm
Facebook is for women
Lol
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
4:44 pm
Leggs, I have to admit, I’m addicted to technology, but not all the social networking stuff.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
4:45 pm
clutching my pearls, Single…
Ex ~ it’s also for birly people who spy!
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
4:46 pm
Not a bad thing to be addicted to.
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
4:47 pm
Leggs, clutching your pearls
disco
February 21st, 2013
4:49 pm
random – y’all I’ve been off jack daniels for a minute. I think it’s time for me to get back on. I been chilling with tito lately but jack is my main man.
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
4:50 pm
Disco, have you ever had lynchberg lemonade?
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
4:52 pm
Single ~ meaning I was thinking of the 3 things that can make a man shet up. Had to clutch my pearls (lol) on my risque thoughts.
disco
February 21st, 2013
4:53 pm
leggs – were the three things duct tape, a baseball bat and a brother named deboe?
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
4:54 pm
Anybody had Fireball Cinnamon Whiskey? Really good for shots at a party.
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
4:54 pm
Leggs, clutch your pearls and squeeze your legs together (LOL)
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
4:54 pm
I’m crying, I laughing so hard at you disco!
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
4:55 pm
Disco, only you would pull that out of the closet (LOL)
Bluzgirl
February 21st, 2013
4:56 pm
Have a good night everyone! I’m off to have dinner with my brother!
Toodles! LOLOLOLOL
disco
February 21st, 2013
4:59 pm
s/h – I’m in a baseball bat/duct tape frame of mind. hence why I said I needed to holler at my boy jack.
bluz – you off.
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
5:01 pm
Leggs, I must say my thought about you clutching your pearls was that you were moving them out the way so I wouldn’t drool all over them (LOL)
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
5:02 pm
Disco, you need a vacation
disco
February 21st, 2013
5:04 pm
SHUT UP SHUT UP SHUT UP SHUT UP SHUT UP.
never mind. don’t shut up. I’m calling my brother. “Deeeeeee – Boooooeeeeee”
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
5:04 pm
You got me on that one, Single!!!
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
5:05 pm
I thought Deboe got knocked the f@#k out (LOL)
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
5:05 pm
Enjoy your dinner and time spent w/your brother, Bluz!
disco
February 21st, 2013
5:05 pm
yeah. but you ain’t craig. lol.
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
5:06 pm
disco, you have to just do it, stop procrastinating and waiting on others.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
5:07 pm
That was Pacquio, Single!
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
5:08 pm
don’t have to be craig, deboe lost his street cred, aint nobody scared of him nomo (LOL)
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
5:10 pm
Pacquio?? took me a minute to get that one leggs, I haven’t seen a boxing match since Ali/Forman (LOL) and the ropadope (LOL)
disco
February 21st, 2013
5:10 pm
s/h – I know you don’t know me so you can’t possibly know that I NEVER wait for others. i’m just not motivated right now.
alright street cred. who I need on my team? ex? I gotta call ex? LOL.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
5:13 pm
Hope you’re not talking about Ex on this blog…he doesn’t fight! He’ll run, leaving you right there.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
5:14 pm
Single, all that matters is that you got it. No timer here (lololol).
disco
February 21st, 2013
5:15 pm
leggs – that was the joke. LOL. girl I’m tired. besides, push come to shove, single is little. I’d fight him myself. lol.
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
5:15 pm
Ex (roflmao) see disco, I’m almost knocked out
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
5:16 pm
Disco, mmm will you now:-) you making me blush
disco
February 21st, 2013
5:16 pm
s/h – you crazy. you being on the floor is half the battle. now I’m sitting here giggling for real.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
5:17 pm
Got it, disco. I was slow that time. Didn’t even sense the facetiousness in your post.
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
5:18 pm
But I did think you probably could take him on yourself. You are your own bodyguard!
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
5:21 pm
yea Leggs, she could
then probably would walk away talking about you better not look at my butt (lmao)
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
5:23 pm
Naw, she wouldn’t say that. You’ll have 2 black eyes so she knows you won’t be able to see a darn thing.
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
5:24 pm
Leggs with that big a$$ toothless grin that would be on my face, yes she would (LOL)
Leggs
February 21st, 2013
5:27 pm
You got it, Single.
Nite.
Single & Happy
February 21st, 2013
5:29 pm
nite leggs