Dating: Should you wear them down?
I had brunch with my friend David yesterday and we were catching up with one another about love, life, and the pursuit of happiness. David reports that he is in heavy pursuit of a really fantastic woman. I met her and she seems very nice. I did not get the sense that she was that crazy about him, though.
Although I supported him trying to start a relationship with her, I was bothered when he told me about a comment she made on Valentine’s Day. It was something about how he was wearing her down and really growing on her. Growing on her. Like a wart?
It didn’t bother him – so I didn’t dwell on it much. I just thought it was strange to describe a good potential romance in those particular terms. Maybe I am nitpicking but should someone have to wear you down? If someone who thinks you are awesome is pursuing you, at what point should you start to feel the same way about them?
I know not every romance is filled with passion, crazy chemistry and grand romantic gestures. However, is it indifference a bad sign of things to come? Is there a risk of someone being with you until the “right one” comes along? What if you are a seat-filler until the true star shows up?
When it comes to chasing women, do men think they have to work to wear a woman down? Is that different than winning her over?
How persistent should you have to be in a new romance? When does persistence becomes…well pathetic?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Exiled!
February 19th, 2013
6:31 am
‘It didn’t bother him’
‘Nuff said.
merning Folks and enjoy the wet,(yippie),.wet drive.
Single and Happy I Digress!!
February 19th, 2013
6:53 am
Hello all
Damn! I have to agree with ex!!
Lee
February 19th, 2013
7:01 am
I have nothing to add to this topic. Four more days until the weekend.
MissMoni223
February 19th, 2013
8:04 am
GOOD Tuesday Morning MIA!!!
I also find myself agreeing with Ex. . . Oh, well my birthday is in 4 days!!!
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 19th, 2013
8:18 am
“Sup” peeps…. Damn…Ex hit it out the park this morning….. Next topic……
SlimNu
February 19th, 2013
8:19 am
When does persistence becomes…well pathetic?
When you find yourself following her whenever she isn’t with you, just so you can see what she’s doing.
When you find yourself going through her trash just to see her favorite things she likes to eat, so you can surprise her and win her over.
When you find a way to sneak some spyware or gps tracking device on her phone.
When you find yourself saving all the loose strands of her hair to make a doll for you to sleep next to at night.
When you “like” every single post and picture she puts on her fb page.
When she has to end up filing a restraining/protective order.
When you steal all of her dirty panties and used sanitary napkins.
……..THEN that’s pretty pathetic. lol
Goooooooooooood morning folks!
Celisea
February 19th, 2013
8:41 am
Wearing folks down can seem desperate but I think it depends on the situation and how it plays out. Say a person has made it clear they’re interested, but due to situations (kids or finances maybe), can’t do at that time. Being willing to wait it out wouldn’t seem like wearing folks down, IMO. If you have no prospects and nothing but time on your hands, maybe it’s “potentially” a good situation waiting to happen, once y’all make it though that person’s issues. I’m not talking about folks already booed up, married, engaged, etc etc etc, and somebody is sniffing around for an opening…nuh uh.
Now, if it’s a situation where you’re hanging on to their ankles and they have another and made it crystal clear, “waiting folks out” is NOT a good look. Seems a bit desperate and even further, scary…lololol
I can’t necessarily say Diva should be offended because if David wasn’t offended and he’s willing to wait or “wear her down”, that’s his choice. They both are apparently available. The scales of “like” just seems to be tipped a bit. Even though David is relaying to Diva, his convo and it seems to be something Diva (and others), does NOT have an appetite for, it just may not be that bad to him. Heck, two of my LTR were with dudes I didn’t really have much interest in. Guess they wore me down….lololol Not saying anything negative on their part, but on the backside or flipside of “wearing folks down”, IMO, can also be called persistent. Sometimes persistence pays off and sometimes persistence becomes an irritant.
Is there a risk of someone being with you until the “right one” comes along? What if you are a seat-filler until the true star shows up?
disco? See? Remember the convo last week of “waiting it out, hoping to become ms right? LOLOLOLOL That’s the FIRST thing that popped up when I read that paragraph
Celisea
February 19th, 2013
8:44 am
And with that comment to disco………
remember the song, “you don’t have to be a star babeeeh to be in my shoooow” lol
disco
February 19th, 2013
8:50 am
good morning. my first thought upon reading the topic was steve urkel “I’m wearing you down baby”. lol. nicky parker was a close second with her professor oglevee. lol.
actually this particular situation doesn’t sound all that off to me. sometimes a person just doesn’t go in expecting much and is kind of lackadaisical about the whole thing. maybe, just maybe, her not being pressed about him or over him is what allowed her to pull back and see him for who he is. maybe, that’s what she means by he’s growing on her. growing on a person, in my opinion, isn’t necessarily a bad thing. it’s not always about some persistent stalker type trying to do too much.
C – as per usual. you are funny girl. I haven’t seen “the object of my affection” but I still think I’m moving forward with “the waitlist plan”. as I told my real-life friends, I deserve some of that. lol.
Celisea
February 19th, 2013
8:54 am
I cannot lie, I almost typed as well, that Steve Urkel’s saying came to mind…lolol
disco – I was only funning. Do you boo
I did think about it though.
Celisea
February 19th, 2013
8:56 am
I met her and she seems very nice. I did not get the sense that she was that crazy about him, though.
That’s not a bad thing. Sometimes situations like this turn out to be great romances.
David, if you’re reading, hang in there my man. I know from experience and more than once, that persistence and patience is attractive and sexy!
Celisea
February 19th, 2013
8:57 am
Alright, I been here since 8:00 (I’m not believing that either) and I need coffee and I’m feeling burned out already….lol
BBL….gotta work
Celisea
February 19th, 2013
9:00 am
Lord, our annual MANDATORY training curriculum is out there. Just dang sheesh. Some of that stuff seems like it takes a life time to read through. I’m always one of the last one getting it done. Johnny come lately, eh?
Alright, I’m out of here for now.
disco
February 19th, 2013
9:00 am
C – go ahead. make fun. I’m good. certainly not too sensitive to take a jokey joke or two. one of my homeboys this weekend got funny (or thought he was being funny) by saying something about me checking for white boys in tight jeans. I had to tell him I’d take tight jeans over 8 kids, 2 ex-wives and 6 baby mommas any day. that shut him up. lol.
Celisea
February 19th, 2013
9:02 am
disco – I’m only funning. I’m living life to the fullest, enjoying EVERY BIT OF IT and feeling quite fulfilled and happy. I would only want everybody else to indulge in the same
No way I would want anyone to deny one’s self of total happiness, anyway you gotta get it.
SlimNu
February 19th, 2013
9:09 am
In many relationships/courtships, there is usually one person that is into the other waaaay more than the other. Or maybe just has different ways of showing it…
disco
February 19th, 2013
9:20 am
well dang. we hit a wall quick this morning.
Lady~Sunshine~
February 19th, 2013
9:37 am
Good Morning MIA & Waving @ C~ Chuckle too see just interesting~
Celisea
February 19th, 2013
9:42 am
Lady – Hey girlie! Waving back…and yes, interesting indeed
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
February 19th, 2013
9:44 am
I’m sure there have been some signs of reciprocity – least, I would hope so.
Chasing/wearing anyone down that doesn’t want to be had is a futile effort ultimately.
And, “growing on” someone isn’t a bad thing.
disco
February 19th, 2013
9:46 am
Hey dan.
s/h – you still around?
DuShawn
February 19th, 2013
9:51 am
Persistence beats resistance.
MsAtl
February 19th, 2013
10:03 am
Morning All!
SlimNu- I would have to say that is so far worse than pathetic. Crazy, stalker, scary (hiding my trash). Wow!
Diva- I think if she is not into him, then she should be honest and upfront and it is up to him to accept that. If someone shows you who they are or tells you what they want, believe them.
Single and Happy I Digress!!
February 19th, 2013
10:09 am
I am now disco
Leggs
February 19th, 2013
10:10 am
Maybe I am nitpicking but should someone have to wear you down?M/em> – Sometimes, it takes just that. Persistence! Going after what you want and turning the other person’s feelings about you around. Doesn’t have to be an annoying thing. If you’re being persistent and she’s continues to frown and shoo you away, then you’re a bother. Other than that, if she’s welcoming your persistence, hang tough. Go for it.
disco
February 19th, 2013
10:11 am
here’s another aspect to “wearing down”. I remember once many years ago when I was dating this “older” guy. funny, older was like mid 30s. lol. anyway, he was square and I was wild and while I kicked it with him and spent his money and all I wasn’t serious. I told him that he’d probably be a good man for me after I’d been through a little bit more. it wasn’t so much that he had to grow on me. I liked him well enough. I suppose had he waited on me to go through a little bit more that could have been seen as him “wearing me down”. either way, he didn’t wait. went and married some chick his own age.
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
February 19th, 2013
10:12 am
Hi there Disco
disco
February 19th, 2013
10:13 am
s/h – with all your trips to all-inclusives, how are you getting around the double occupancy surcharge?
Celisea
February 19th, 2013
10:14 am
discco – I see you’re digging the word “square” as well
I love being a square, whatever that means…lol
Celisea
February 19th, 2013
10:22 am
I think disco’s example falls under being mismatched. I can attest (and I’m sure others), where there’s someone you’re digging well enough but just not enough to lock it in. Sometimes there are variances that sets the two of you too far apart of do the dang thing.
I’ve dated only once, a guy about 10 years older. Y’all remember him. He was too dang grouchy for me. I was 28 he was 38. He spent money, owned his own business, pretty much settled. He only had one son, 21 and gone…even better..lol There’s was just “something” there where I liked him enough to hang out but nothing beyond that. That was off and on for about 4 years. He never “grew” on me….not to that point. I think had he not been so “fussy”, I might would have been interested to go further. I couldn’t deal with the gouchies and frowning and fussing all the dang time. That would work my nerves and caused me many dates, to ask him to take me home. I mean I didn’t say THAT, but I would come up with a reason to cut it short. Don’t judge me.
Single and Happy I Digress!!
February 19th, 2013
10:22 am
Disco what double occupancy surcharge? The one I’m going to in Punta Cana I didn’t see that. The only ones I’ve see that require 2 are the all adult ones. What you may be looking at is the way the show it as per person is split between 2, but what they really are doing is charging one price for the room and then adding the second person for just the all inclusive part. You know instead of saying the first person pays 350 per night and the second pays 50 it’ sounds better when you say 200 pp
disco
February 19th, 2013
10:28 am
C – whatever that means? please. you know exactly what it means. at least you know what it means when someone says it to you personally. lol.
s/h – I’ve got a call in to my travel agent now. I haven’t checked lately but in the past I’ve noticed that there was definitely a markup for one guest versus two. straight discrimination I tell you.
Celisea
February 19th, 2013
10:30 am
disco – Square is relative and a person’s perception. Cause I’ve seen many cake daddies thinking they’re doing the dang thing and I’m SMH…lol
What’s the matter? You don’t read like your chipper self this morning? Okay, moving along until you get more sunnier
Single and Happy I Digress!!
February 19th, 2013
10:35 am
Disco, you know since most don’t vacation alone, they advertise it that way. When I usually pick out places to stay it’s right from their website, and even though they always put 2 in for occupancy I change it to one and price usually drop a few hundred depending on the length of stay. and since I’m usually footing the bill, never paid any attention the per person price.
Travel agent?? you mean there are still some of those around
disco
February 19th, 2013
10:38 am
C – chipper? me? almost never that. I only meant that if a person is insulting you, you generally get the insult. well, I guess some folks don’t get it but those folks are special. lol. that’s my only point. someone call you something, you have an understanding of what they mean.
s/h – yep. I have a travel agent. sometimes I go in the office just to see where she and the other travel agents have been lately. I emailed her yesterday but she was out. I told her I have X amount of money, where can I go? since yesterday I’ve been thinking I should probably just go visit my grandparents. still, I’m interested in what she comes up with.
disco
February 19th, 2013
10:39 am
C – although I didn’t understand ratchet. only just got hip to that recently. I was like hmmm. I think I like that one. it has a nice ring to it too. ratchet azz trick. lol.
Celisea
February 19th, 2013
10:42 am
disco – I got the point. And just because someone insults in a round about way, again FROM THEIR PERSPECTIVE AND OUTLOOK, don’t make it true. In those instances, it merely rolls off….lololol I just found it funny that you used “square” cause you made mention of it when I went into “seemingly” overkill using it. I dig being squared. I didn’t find it an insult. A bit of ignorance maybe, tryna get a read on someone from bits and pieces of their life and a screen. That’s the part that was funny to me, but yeah…naw nowhere near slow. I got your point.
Cheer up!!
SlimNu
February 19th, 2013
10:42 am
To add to the ‘wearing someone down thing’, soma ya’ll like the attention and persistence of a guy vying for your affection. You can’t tell me it isn’t an ego boost because if a dude was checking for you that you REALLY didn’t want attention from, i’m sure you’d let it be known. “Back up dawg, give me fifty feet!”
Celisea
February 19th, 2013
10:43 am
disco – You are one funny gal! I used ratchet, but honestly, I try not to even dabble where I have to use it. Ut oh, there I go again being square….lolololol I just find it slightly beneath if I have to result to calling folks that or names really. I got you though
Single and Happy I Digress!!
February 19th, 2013
10:44 am
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disco
February 19th, 2013
10:46 am
slim – back in the day it was an ego boost. way way back in the day. like back when you competed to see who could get the most phone numbers. back when you and your boyfriend wore matching outfits. back when fat laces were popular. now, not so much.
SlimNu
February 19th, 2013
10:49 am
disco – I’m happy to say, i’ve never wore matching outfits with any boyfriend. lol And on when laces were in, velcroe is about to be that new new
Single and Happy I Digress!!
February 19th, 2013
10:52 am
what does wearing someone down consists of, cause I’ve got a couple I need to try it out with
disco
February 19th, 2013
10:54 am
C – cheer up is almost like a dude saying “smile”. lol. as far as name calling, that’s just how I (most of my friends and family) talk. it’s all love. lol.
slim – Velcro is making a comeback? I recently saw someone on the elevator who had on Velcro shoes but I assumed it was because that person was overweight and may or may not have had a hard time getting down there to tie his shoes.
kimmie
February 19th, 2013
10:57 am
Hi Gang!
I guess there is a fine line between persistance and stalking!LOL!! There are many occasions where you like someone enough, but it wasn’t exactly fireworks in the beginning. But with a little time and getting to know them, you find yourself falling for them. That can work – IF it doesn’t take you a long time to get on the same page. I don’t see a problem with a few months, but if it takes you a year or more to start feeling something – just give it up. Might be nice, just not right for you.
I can kinda see where Diva might be coming from too. While I don’t see anything wrong with a little persistance, you shouldn’t have to MAKE someone love you. As long as that is not happening, go for it David!
Celisea
February 19th, 2013
11:02 am
disco – I guess (shrugs). As far as name calling, I guess I’m busy trying to teach my kid that that’s not acceptable, so no family tradition or not, I won’t be dabbling in that sort of thing. Chile, I just don’t think things get that deep where I’m calling folks names and stuff. Unless of course some squared scrub try to take it there…lolololol
BBL….
Bluzgirl...ugh...
February 19th, 2013
11:05 am
Dang it! My post got eaten by the blog monster. Not sure what I said…
Anyway…having someone grow on you or you growing on someone is not necessarily a bad thing.
I’m so not feeling well today and couldn’t stay home because we are already so short staffed here. Had an eventful weekend and didn’t get to rest much, so I guess the illness just set in. I just want to curl up under my desk and sleep…
disco
February 19th, 2013
11:10 am
hey kimmie. what are your favorite go-to mac eyeshadow colors?
Celisea
February 19th, 2013
11:11 am
One last one for now…
Speaking of ratchet and name calling, I had to hold my kid a couple of weeks ago. There’s a chick at church tried to rub up against her bf. Good lawd, she let “freak” roll off her tongue like air and WHILE SITTING IN THE PEWS. I had to tell her, HOLD UP HONEY, WE’RE AT CHURCH!!! So, you see why I’m working the other side of “name calling?” My kid is a F I Y A H C R A C K E R!! I think more than I was at that age. Whew buddy. I thought I had a temper. It’s coming out too… That’s neither here nor there with me though, cause I’ll just look at her to SHUT IT UP!!! She “fiiiinds” herself at that point.
disco
February 19th, 2013
11:22 am
C – lol. that’s funny but it’s not. naw. our name calling ain’t like that. it’s just conversational until we get in straight trash talk mode, then the (abrasive/insulting/fighting words) names do fly.
on topic, family members can grow on you too. I swear I had some little cousins that I just out and out didn’t like and made no bones about it. as they got older they were a lot easier to accept and get along with. now we kool and the gang. then they were just like “uggh”.
kimmie
February 19th, 2013
11:27 am
Disco – I am just getting into the MAC eyeshadows, so I don’t have a favorite yet! I do have some that I got recently that look like a few different colors swirled – one has a mixture of purple, blue and silver and the other is a bronze/gold/brown/silver mix. I am into their powder, base and lipsticks.
Speaking of MAC, how about a friend has a hookup that can get me MAC for 60% off!! I’m never buying full price again!
Bluzgirl...ugh...
February 19th, 2013
11:47 am
Dang…everyone abandoned ship, huh?
O/T – remember back in October when I had to take my rat to the vet? Well…she died yesterday (or rather, overnight Sunday night). Please no jokes about it. No matter what kind of animal she was, she was still a pet…I’m bumming…
disco
February 19th, 2013
11:56 am
bluz – no jokes? now that’s a bummer as the blog seems to be in a general slump. some good jokes might do us all good.
Bluzgirl...ugh...
February 19th, 2013
11:59 am
Joke about anything else!
Here’s a new topic…I’m sitting in with a band on Friday night to play a couple/few songs on bass. I practiced with the band on Saturday. How about yesterday, I find out that Mags is also sitting in with the band?!?! I really don’t want to see him, but I’m not gonna let him ruin my good time!!! I’ll have several friends there, so I’m not worried about it. It’s just my luck…
Celisea
February 19th, 2013
12:05 pm
Criticality..is that a word?
Someone just used on a conference call I’m on.
Lady~Sunshine~
February 19th, 2013
12:07 pm
lol C~ I have heard worse lol
Celisea
February 19th, 2013
12:08 pm
I guess it is, I just googled it
Lady~Sunshine~
February 19th, 2013
12:08 pm
its nippy and time is moving too slow~ sigh lol #readytogo
Celisea
February 19th, 2013
12:08 pm
Lady – I googled it and it came up. It just sounded weird in the context he used.
Celisea
February 19th, 2013
12:09 pm
Lady – Me too. How about I watched Skyfall for the first time last night, via Xfinity. It was pretty good. I tell you, that Daniel Craig ain’t the prettiest but he sho is fine
abc
February 19th, 2013
12:11 pm
You can change the way someone thinks, if you’re persuasive enough. You can’t change the way a person feels, though, they have to do that for themselves. So, do you want her to think you’re just swell, or do you want her to have those other kind of feelings for you? You might be able to ‘wear her down’ enough to wear it out a few times, and hey, maybe that’s enough for you. Otherwise, do whatcha do.
Lady~Sunshine~
February 19th, 2013
12:15 pm
oh my!
Celisea
February 19th, 2013
12:16 pm
For some reason I like Judy Dench as an actress. I think she’s good!! Except for the one movie where she was digging this woman that was married and made a pass at her. At that point their friendship fell apart. That was just plain nasty and gross….lol Otherwise, I guess it was time for her to “retire” that role. I’m digging the new “penny money” who is now “moneypenny” and a black chick. YOU GO GIRRRRRRL!!!!
Dirty Birds (Rising-up,up,up)
February 19th, 2013
12:26 pm
Good Afternoon!
That is funny David is using the persistance wear her down approach. Nothing wrong with that as long as she is allow the pursuit.
I think Diva may want to wear/out David. Here’s the plan Diva, go out for drinks and dinner on a Thursday, take David to your place and commit to 3 different kamasutru positions for the rest of the night. Call off work for Friday, give david the cowgirl ride while sending in the MIA blog topic for Friday. Make breakfast while feeding and riding David and blogging with the blog faithful. David will then make lunch and cook dinner for the next 3 days. Keep this up until Sunday and you will have your husband in 6 months. YESSSS that will work
@BluzGirl …If you need some eye candy for the jam session, I am at your service. I bring tulips and biceps…lol
Leggs
February 19th, 2013
12:26 pm
Bluz ~ I know you loved that rat, so I hope you feel better soon. Did you say the rat had arthritis or something wrong with its heart, or perhaps I made that up. Nonetheless, hope you feel better soon.
Jessica
February 19th, 2013
12:28 pm
I think it reaches pathetic if he’s the only one calling, the only one initiating contact….if she is feeding it, there is likely something there for her, but it doesn’t quite feel like love for her yet.
Perhaps they will end up as friends…perhaps your friend is someone who people need to get used to and know before they fall for him..
www,datingisdangerous.com
Bluzgirl...ugh...
February 19th, 2013
12:28 pm
Leggs – she had a tumor. She did live a good 4 months after the tumor started growing. I think she was happy up until the death. My sweet daddy burried her for me. My first pet to be buried in my first back yard…
Dirty – you funny…
Leggs
February 19th, 2013
12:29 pm
Nothing wrong with that as long as she is allow the pursuit. – And that’s the bottom line. It’s like the fine guy being pest and she allows it, but with a less than visually attractive male does the same, she’s quick to holler him away. It all boils down to what she allows, not what he’s doing.
SlimNu
February 19th, 2013
12:29 pm
Bluz – Sorry but I have not being “in the know’ on the blog lately. Did something happen tween you and Mags recently? I thought yall were back cool again, especially after that recent session went swell???
Celisea
February 19th, 2013
12:31 pm
Sometimes persistence is due to maybe a person just not being “aware” of you and your feelings or how something is viewing or thinking of you…”in that kind of way.” I don’t think it’s “changing” their mind per se….again, just my opinion. So, if you’re just not “aware” a person is interested, naturally it might take a minute to see if you’re open to something more.
Celisea
February 19th, 2013
12:31 pm
someONE not someTHING
Leggs
February 19th, 2013
12:32 pm
oh, tumor, ok.
You’re “first pet to be buried in…first back yard” reminded me of Pet Semetary.
Bluzgirl...ugh...
February 19th, 2013
12:34 pm
Slim – Yeah…he’s not worthy…I shouldn’t have given him another shot. Long story short, we carpooled to a gig of his and he said he’s pay for gas (since I was broke, I wouldn’t have gone without his offer). I forgot to get the money from him (after a few beers) and he “forgot” to give it to me. I then texted him a few times that weekend and had no response. I sent him a Facebook message telling him that it wasn’t cool that he couldn’t even respond to me and that I will not be disrespected. Well…he wrote back a mean comment and instead of replying, I unfriended him and deleted his phone number. I gave him another shot at just a friendship and he’s just not worthy of it. Done!
Bluzgirl...ugh...
February 19th, 2013
12:35 pm
Leggs – LOL! My dad asked if I wanted him to dig up my old pets that are buried in his yard and I drew the line there. No thank you!
Leggs
February 19th, 2013
12:37 pm
Celisea ~ if a person is being persistent and isn’t aware of how the other is reacting, then the person is quite self-centered. If you’re being persistent and not paying attention to how you are being received, then there’s a problem. If the woman is jolly and still has the come hither, then he’s not being persistent. If she’s balking at the sound of his voice, his presence and he’s not aware, there’s a problem. Either way, he has to be aware of her reactions to his presence, his requests, his voice.
Leggs
February 19th, 2013
12:38 pm
Whew, thank goodness, Bluz! I’ve never buried a pet, but moving from yard to yard isn’t something I would want to do. Weird suggestion, but that’s a father’s love (lol).
SlimNu
February 19th, 2013
12:44 pm
Bluz – Oh okay, sorry to hear that but i’m curious….you texted him and sent him a fb message but did you ever just try to CALL him? lol
Bluzgirl...ugh...
February 19th, 2013
12:46 pm
Slim – I did call him once, but didn’t leave a message because he’s admitted to not listening to the messages. Text is a better way to get in touch with him…
Celisea
February 19th, 2013
12:47 pm
Leggs – What I’m saying is all too many times a person can be “feeling” another person, well before they’re aware or pick up on it. Sometimes, they like you….from a distant, simply because you aren’t aware. I’m just saying a dude can be feeling you and holding back, BECAUSE you’ve not picked up on it yet or not sure if what you’re reading is them being friendly or a bit more. Remember blog dudes saying just because a dude is friendly or polite, to not assume they’re trying to hit on you? So, my thing is once the courage presents itself to make it known, at that point it’s on her. But just because someone makes it known the’re feeling you, it shouldn’t be considered rejection if that person don’t instantly respond. If you step to me and I wasn’t “checking for you” like that, then yeah it’s gonna take a minute to think through whether or not I want to pursue something, or I should say a minute to grow on me.
The stockbroker’s and me, was a situation like that. I worked with him, NEVER gave him a second thought. That’s not to say anything negative on his part. Just wasn’t “checking for him.” Well, we went to pick up lunch for the department and he said it to me then. He said “I’m digging you.” And I responded, I think you’re cool too. And he reiterated, with emphasis “I’m REAAALLY digging you” and I stopped and looked at him for a second and said….”ooooooh”, cause I didn’t see it like that. Now, truthfully speaking, a couple of times I caught him looking but shrugged it off, because I didn’t want to assume anything. From there he asked could we meet for dinner and talk more. I didn’t just fall all in at that point, but I was open and thought, “hmmmm, he’s not a half bad person….maybe”
Celisea
February 19th, 2013
12:49 pm
The stockbroker’s pursuit or the stockerbroker and me (blog slang) is what I was thinking. I mixed the thoughts.
Leggs
February 19th, 2013
1:17 pm
The only variable I was using was “knowing” they’re interested in you. That’s what the topic was about this morning. Not pursuing someone and they’re don’t know they’re being pursued. Of course if one isn’t feeling you doesn’t equate to being rejected if you don’t “instantly” respond. Only rejection when you flat out say “not interested.” But wasn’t even talking about rejection.
On that note, going home…bye!
Bluzgirl...ugh...
February 19th, 2013
1:25 pm
Bye Leggs!!!
Celisea
February 19th, 2013
1:58 pm
I was speaking, using generalities, and you spoke from my post. So, I clarified…USING MY EXAMPLE. Naturally we can always spin things, as we always do on the blog. By midday, often we are longer speaking on the topic. Again, I was speaking in general and varied a bit from the topic. MY situation and example. There are many variations we can talk from a post any given day, any given topic. Don’t make it wrong cause we ain’t on topic. That would contrast how the blog normally flows, to say “it’s not on topic.” What (ever) is…on topic?
I’m out of here today!!
kimmie
February 19th, 2013
2:01 pm
Celisea – Feeling ya on Daniel Craig!! He’s one hot Bond!! Agree with all you said about Judi Dench too, including that creepy movie!!
disco
February 19th, 2013
2:09 pm
umm. did I miss something? is there some globally accepted get out of work free card going around? where do I get one?
Bluzgirl...ugh...
February 19th, 2013
2:17 pm
I wish! I’m just trying to make it until 4:00…Can’t leave before then. That’s the bad thing about my boss letting too many people have the day after a 3 day weekend off…I feel like dirt and have to stay…
Exiled!
February 19th, 2013
2:20 pm
Wearing her down?
The only wearing her down I can think of is of her puddy.
If it wears off like that,kinda like J-Lo’s then we got a problem!
Am I even on topic?
disco
February 19th, 2013
2:20 pm
bluz – re feeling like dirt all I could think was “god made dirt and dirt don’t hurt”. lol.
SlimNu
February 19th, 2013
2:22 pm
I’m still around…but i am surely ready to go! I can tell ya that much
disco
February 19th, 2013
2:25 pm
ex – what do you know about j-lo’s cat?
Bluzgirl...ugh...
February 19th, 2013
2:30 pm
lol disco! I sure wish this didn’t hurt! Getting the body aches now!
Bluzgirl...ugh...
February 19th, 2013
2:43 pm
Doesn’t anyone have anything interesting to talk about?
disco
February 19th, 2013
2:45 pm
bluz – I think everyone went home (trifling so and so’s – lol). might just be us. I’m reading these jacked up “race” stories. the man slapping the kid on the plane and the other man telling the hospital he didn’t want any black nurses handling his baby. all you can do is shake your head and say what you would do if it happened to you. boy oh boy.
kimmie
February 19th, 2013
2:50 pm
Disco – Well, I have something interesting going on, at least to me. I’m getting the wheels in motion to get my Dream Car! A powder-blue convertable Beetle! I am getting what I want versus being practical and sensible! Well, I’m still doing that cause I found a great deal on a used one. But I got preapproved for financing today!
kimmie
February 19th, 2013
2:51 pm
Sorry Bluz, talking to you too!!
Sounds like you could use some sunshine!
Bluzgirl...ugh...
February 19th, 2013
2:51 pm
I heard about the hospital, but not the man slapping the kid. There are still a LOT of crazy folks in this world. I don’t understand it…
Bluzgirl...ugh...
February 19th, 2013
2:53 pm
kimmie – Awesome!!! Good for you for getting what you want! I did that in 2005 when I bought my Mustang. I traded it in last year for a more practical car that would save on gas mileage (Kia Soul). Getting a new car is so exciting!!! I hope you’re getting a great rate…rates are very low right now…
disco
February 19th, 2013
2:54 pm
congrats kimmie – nothing like a new (even new to you) car. go ‘head. a friend of mine bought a pilot last year. she told me the whole thing was exciting because it was the first time in her life she was able to buy the car she wanted as opposed to the car that she could live with and afford. shoot, I’m still trying to get there myself.
disco
February 19th, 2013
3:02 pm
bluz – is the kia soul the one with the hamsters/gerbils/whatever?
Bluzgirl...ugh...
February 19th, 2013
3:06 pm
Yep – that hamsters! I LOVE this car! It zips around town and has much better mileage than the ‘Stang. I’ve put almost 13,000 miles on it since April of last year!
Exiled!
February 19th, 2013
3:14 pm
@Disco..the hollyweird inside scoop on J-Lo’s stuff, as is on Halle, is that that the pudy itself is whack,never mind the holders look pretty(to some).
I dont know if u know All the categories of pudy Disco…..has any of ur male friends broke it down for u?
kimmie
February 19th, 2013
3:15 pm
Bluz – One of my coworkers has a cute Soul and she loves it!! It’s white and she got a thin pink stripe painted on it! I love that commercial, by the way!!
Exiled!
February 19th, 2013
3:15 pm
Bluz..so when a pet rat(hamster) dies, do u wear black?
Dirty Birds (Rise-Up)
February 19th, 2013
3:16 pm
Note to self..Scratch BluzGirl off the list because she rides around with hamsters/gerbils and rats.
@BluzGirl ..Sorry to hear about your lost, but you did good to get rid of the other rat…
@Disco.. I knew you did not retire, just planning covert operation on catch da MAN!
@Kimmie…Good for you! I likes me some Kimmie
disco
February 19th, 2013
3:18 pm
ex – it’s a slow day. you are more than welcome to break it down if you feel compelled to. personally I won’t feed into it. I’ve never cared for j-lo and I’ve always thought halle was a bit off but that’s just my opinion. as for what’s going on in there pants – absolutely none of my concern. and since you are talking about a breakdown. one thing I’ve always heard is that crazy chicks have that bomb stuff hence why dudes put up with the crazy. I’m just a crazy chick though so what do I know? lol.
DuShawn
February 19th, 2013
3:18 pm
There is a fine line between persistent pursuance and persistent annoyance. It’s all contingent upon how one’s advances are being received. I can remember this one young lady, from the moment I saw her, I had to have her. We lived in the same building. She was a few years younger than me and was still in school. I would watch her entering the building and literally run to the elevator to make it stop on my floor just to get an opportunity to speak to her. In the mornings, I re-arranged my schedule so we would leave at the same time. I would catch her walking to the bus stop and offer her a ride to class. She never accepted. It didn’t take long before she realized our coincidental encounters were obviously orchestrated. She was very conservative and showed absolutely no interest. She never attempted to engage me in conversation and typically answered my questions with one word…..No! This went on for at least four months. Finally, she was late one morning, it was raining and she accepted my offer for a lift to school. About two months and 17 No’s later, I got her to enter my Condo. Mind you, she lived two floors up. The rest is history, we dated for five years, were engaged and I almost married her. None of that would’ve happened if I had not been persistent…….or if she would’ve told me to leave her the hell alone.
disco
February 19th, 2013
3:21 pm
DB – trust. I’m in retirement. having a few umm we’ll say “financial” difficulties which might force a sister back to work. lol.
Bluzgirl...ugh...
February 19th, 2013
3:25 pm
Dirty – I don’t ride around with them…I just had two pet rats…now, down to one.
kimmie – mine is the army green color. It’s amazing how roomie it is even though it’s so small!
Ex – no
Bluzgirl...ugh...
February 19th, 2013
3:30 pm
Du – nice to hear a story of persistence paying off!!! Why didn’t you marry her?
disco
February 19th, 2013
3:35 pm
bluz – why didn’t dushawn marry old girl? she woke up one day and remembered he was a pest. lol. just kidding D. lol.
Bluzgirl...ugh...
February 19th, 2013
3:36 pm
LOL!!!!!
Dirty Birds (Rise-Up)
February 19th, 2013
3:39 pm
@Disco…With Great power comes great responsibility in your case with great puddy comes great satisfaction, so we need you to get back in da game. P.S. it does reap good financial benefits….Yes it does!
@BluzGirl …O.K. u are back on the list, I cannot have little Jerry attacking me when I am squeezing you in da car…
DU-Persistence was strategic like a ninja sniper…That is how you do it?
kimmie
February 19th, 2013
3:41 pm
Bluz – I took yours and hubs advice and joined a credit union!
Bluzgirl...ugh...
February 19th, 2013
3:43 pm
Good for you kimmie!!!!! They almost always have the best interest rates! We are doing as low as 2.25% for used cars and 1.75% for new!
disco
February 19th, 2013
3:46 pm
DB – just so you know, financial was simply a euphemism since I was using retirement. I’m not about to start tricking. lol. (not necessarily screwing for free but won’t be running an escort service either). lol.
DuShawn
February 19th, 2013
4:07 pm
“why didn’t dushawn marry old girl?”…..When we met she was 20 and I was 25. We moved in together in year five of the relationship. I believe living together made us realize we weren’t ready for marriage. Besides she was too square
and I had some more playing to do. She was a great woman. Whomever ended up with her was lucky.
kimmie
February 19th, 2013
4:12 pm
That’s still a sweet story, Du.
disco
February 19th, 2013
4:22 pm
dushawn – your story ties right into my story. she woke up 5 years later and realized you were a pest. lol.
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
February 19th, 2013
4:26 pm
she woke up 5 years later and realized you were a pest. lol.
DuShawn
February 19th, 2013
4:26 pm
disco……pretty much…lol !
Single and Happy I Digress!!
February 19th, 2013
4:27 pm
1.25% dang I should have came to see you bluz
Bluzgirl...ugh...
February 19th, 2013
4:29 pm
Yep…you should have!
Well…I think I’m gonna head home and go hop in the bed and hope to feel better. If you don’t hear from me tomorrow, that means I stayed home sick! Have a good evening ya’ll!