Dating: Should you wear them down?
I had brunch with my friend David yesterday and we were catching up with one another about love, life, and the pursuit of happiness. David reports that he is in heavy pursuit of a really fantastic woman. I met her and she seems very nice. I did not get the sense that she was that crazy about him, though.
Although I supported him trying to start a relationship with her, I was bothered when he told me about a comment she made on Valentine’s Day. It was something about how he was wearing her down and really growing on her. Growing on her. Like a wart?
It didn’t bother him – so I didn’t dwell on it much. I just thought it was strange to describe a good potential romance in those particular terms. Maybe I am nitpicking but should someone have to wear you down? If someone who thinks you are awesome is pursuing you, at what point should you start to feel the same way about them?
I know not every romance is filled with passion, crazy chemistry and grand romantic gestures. However, is it indifference a bad sign of things to come? Is there a risk of someone being with you until the “right one” comes along? What if you are a seat-filler until the true star shows up?
When it comes to chasing women, do men think they have to work to wear a woman down? Is that different than winning her over?
How persistent should you have to be in a new romance? When does persistence becomes…well pathetic?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Exiled!
February 19th, 2013
3:14 pm
@Disco..the hollyweird inside scoop on J-Lo’s stuff, as is on Halle, is that that the pudy itself is whack,never mind the holders look pretty(to some).
I dont know if u know All the categories of pudy Disco…..has any of ur male friends broke it down for u?
kimmie
February 19th, 2013
3:15 pm
Bluz – One of my coworkers has a cute Soul and she loves it!! It’s white and she got a thin pink stripe painted on it! I love that commercial, by the way!!
Exiled!
February 19th, 2013
3:15 pm
Bluz..so when a pet rat(hamster) dies, do u wear black?
Dirty Birds (Rise-Up)
February 19th, 2013
3:16 pm
Note to self..Scratch BluzGirl off the list because she rides around with hamsters/gerbils and rats.
@BluzGirl ..Sorry to hear about your lost, but you did good to get rid of the other rat…
@Disco.. I knew you did not retire, just planning covert operation on catch da MAN!
@Kimmie…Good for you! I likes me some Kimmie
disco
February 19th, 2013
3:18 pm
ex – it’s a slow day. you are more than welcome to break it down if you feel compelled to. personally I won’t feed into it. I’ve never cared for j-lo and I’ve always thought halle was a bit off but that’s just my opinion. as for what’s going on in there pants – absolutely none of my concern. and since you are talking about a breakdown. one thing I’ve always heard is that crazy chicks have that bomb stuff hence why dudes put up with the crazy. I’m just a crazy chick though so what do I know? lol.
DuShawn
February 19th, 2013
3:18 pm
There is a fine line between persistent pursuance and persistent annoyance. It’s all contingent upon how one’s advances are being received. I can remember this one young lady, from the moment I saw her, I had to have her. We lived in the same building. She was a few years younger than me and was still in school. I would watch her entering the building and literally run to the elevator to make it stop on my floor just to get an opportunity to speak to her. In the mornings, I re-arranged my schedule so we would leave at the same time. I would catch her walking to the bus stop and offer her a ride to class. She never accepted. It didn’t take long before she realized our coincidental encounters were obviously orchestrated. She was very conservative and showed absolutely no interest. She never attempted to engage me in conversation and typically answered my questions with one word…..No! This went on for at least four months. Finally, she was late one morning, it was raining and she accepted my offer for a lift to school. About two months and 17 No’s later, I got her to enter my Condo. Mind you, she lived two floors up. The rest is history, we dated for five years, were engaged and I almost married her. None of that would’ve happened if I had not been persistent…….or if she would’ve told me to leave her the hell alone.
disco
February 19th, 2013
3:21 pm
DB – trust. I’m in retirement. having a few umm we’ll say “financial” difficulties which might force a sister back to work. lol.
Bluzgirl...ugh...
February 19th, 2013
3:25 pm
Dirty – I don’t ride around with them…I just had two pet rats…now, down to one.
kimmie – mine is the army green color. It’s amazing how roomie it is even though it’s so small!
Ex – no
Bluzgirl...ugh...
February 19th, 2013
3:30 pm
Du – nice to hear a story of persistence paying off!!! Why didn’t you marry her?
disco
February 19th, 2013
3:35 pm
bluz – why didn’t dushawn marry old girl? she woke up one day and remembered he was a pest. lol. just kidding D. lol.
Bluzgirl...ugh...
February 19th, 2013
3:36 pm
LOL!!!!!
Dirty Birds (Rise-Up)
February 19th, 2013
3:39 pm
@Disco…With Great power comes great responsibility in your case with great puddy comes great satisfaction, so we need you to get back in da game. P.S. it does reap good financial benefits….Yes it does!
@BluzGirl …O.K. u are back on the list, I cannot have little Jerry attacking me when I am squeezing you in da car…
DU-Persistence was strategic like a ninja sniper…That is how you do it?
kimmie
February 19th, 2013
3:41 pm
Bluz – I took yours and hubs advice and joined a credit union!
Bluzgirl...ugh...
February 19th, 2013
3:43 pm
Good for you kimmie!!!!! They almost always have the best interest rates! We are doing as low as 2.25% for used cars and 1.75% for new!
disco
February 19th, 2013
3:46 pm
DB – just so you know, financial was simply a euphemism since I was using retirement. I’m not about to start tricking. lol. (not necessarily screwing for free but won’t be running an escort service either). lol.
DuShawn
February 19th, 2013
4:07 pm
“why didn’t dushawn marry old girl?”…..When we met she was 20 and I was 25. We moved in together in year five of the relationship. I believe living together made us realize we weren’t ready for marriage. Besides she was too square
and I had some more playing to do. She was a great woman. Whomever ended up with her was lucky.
kimmie
February 19th, 2013
4:12 pm
That’s still a sweet story, Du.
disco
February 19th, 2013
4:22 pm
dushawn – your story ties right into my story. she woke up 5 years later and realized you were a pest. lol.
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
February 19th, 2013
4:26 pm
she woke up 5 years later and realized you were a pest. lol.
DuShawn
February 19th, 2013
4:26 pm
disco……pretty much…lol !
Single and Happy I Digress!!
February 19th, 2013
4:27 pm
1.25% dang I should have came to see you bluz
Bluzgirl...ugh...
February 19th, 2013
4:29 pm
Yep…you should have!
Well…I think I’m gonna head home and go hop in the bed and hope to feel better. If you don’t hear from me tomorrow, that means I stayed home sick! Have a good evening ya’ll!