I had brunch with my friend David yesterday and we were catching up with one another about love, life, and the pursuit of happiness. David reports that he is in heavy pursuit of a really fantastic woman. I met her and she seems very nice. I did not get the sense that she was that crazy about him, though.
Although I supported him trying to start a relationship with her, I was bothered when he told me about a comment she made on Valentine’s Day. It was something about how he was wearing her down and really growing on her. Growing on her. Like a wart?
It didn’t bother him – so I didn’t dwell on it much. I just thought it was strange to describe a good potential romance in those particular terms. Maybe I am nitpicking but should someone have to wear you down? If someone who thinks you are awesome is pursuing you, at what point should you start to feel the same way about them?
I know not every romance is filled with passion, crazy chemistry and grand romantic gestures. However, is it indifference a bad sign of things to come? Is there a risk of someone being with you until the “right one” comes along? What if you are a seat-filler until the true star shows up?
When it comes to chasing women, do men think they have to work to wear a woman down? Is that different than winning her over?
How persistent should you have to be in a new romance? When does persistence becomes…well pathetic?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog