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Best (worst) online dating profiles

A reader of our blog decided to give online dating a try. He is brand new to the whole process and wants to know what women notice as good, bad, or ugly. It’s been a hundred years since I’ve tried it, so I’m admittedly a tad rusty. Maybe you could give some tips to help the brave man?

I remember thinking that half the men on dating sites were likely married, living with a woman, or in federal prison. Sometimes these types get bored and starved for attention. Therefore, if there was no picture, I bypassed immediately. I don’t care how witty the profile was, either.

I think that trying to be too funny or verbose can come across kind of dull. You can’t be Seth McFarlane in a dating profile. Leave the comedy to the professionals, please. A sense of humor is great, though! Wait. I don’t think I’m helping much, here!

What are the best and worst online dating profiles you have seen?

What would make you take a closer look at one? Do women have to be virtually buttnaked and wearing heels to get a response? Do men have to flaunt their success and rave about wealth to keep a woman’s attention? (I know. Totally stereotyping genders – you get my point, though!)

Should you include pictures of your children?

Other than a boatload of patience (Carnival cruise, anyone?) and great internet connection, what will you absolutely need to manage online dating?

HAPPY FRIDAY!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

127 comments Add your comment

Single and Happy I Digress!!

February 15th, 2013
7:47 am

Hey all

It’s just like real life, be yourself, list somethings you like to do, an please have someone take a recent picture, not one holding your phone at arms length, or in the mirror!

Should you include pictures of your children? seriously!! Why??

Also be aware of the professional looking pictures. some are FAKE FAKE FAKE but there is a way to check them.

http://www.google.com/insidesearch/features/images/searchbyimage.html

Hazel

February 15th, 2013
8:40 am

My husband once told me about this profile he had came across when he was dating and said that she sounded very bitter. Evreything she said came across as she was very negative and said things like, ” so and so, need not apply” etc. Your online profile should be pleasant and should make someone want to meet you, given that you are not lying about whatever is that you shared.

Button

February 15th, 2013
8:50 am

TGIF! for starter list your correct height!! Please, if you are 5′6 don’t say you’re 5′9! just be honest about who you are and you should fan well. I agree with Single, recent pictures are a huge plus too.

I’m on the fence about adding pictures of the kids. I’ve seen profiles with kids on it and I felt a certian kind of way about it. I would never do it but if you feel comfortable about doing it and you thing it will increase your chances then go for it. Just be careful.

Bluzgirl

February 15th, 2013
8:58 am

Morning!

S/H – Thanks for sharing that link. I’ve seen them use that feature on Catfish and wondered how to do it.

Definitely have a RECENT picture, preferably by yourself so no one has to guess which one is you. Any time I’ve dabbled in online dating, I would skip right past profiles with no pic.

I’m with Hazel…be pleasant and upbeat…not acting like your friends forced you to make a profile.

Anyone have any experience with OK Cupid? One of my best girlfriends and I talked about making profiles after VDay…

Celisea....post VDay :) :)

February 15th, 2013
9:04 am

I know absolutely nothing about online dating. Not interested!

Single and Happy I Digress!!

February 15th, 2013
9:08 am

Bluzgirl

February 15th, 2013
9:16 am

No pics of children…state that you have children, but in this day and age, you don’t want anyone to see your kids without knowing them well…

Leggs

February 15th, 2013
9:18 am

First and foremost, use a current picture. Don’t embellish who you are. What perturbs me with online dating profiles are pictures of their cars, their bedroom, their furnishings, their pets. Pictures of you enjoying life is all that’s needed. Don’t need to see you and a family reunion of pics.

Be honest, show a little wit and be approachable by what you say in your online profile. And, don’t post a dissertation of who you are. No one wants to read all of that. Leave something that can be discussed among the two of you when a connection is made.

Good morning.

Button

February 15th, 2013
9:19 am

There are so many dating sites out here! Bluzgirl, I’ve heard of OKCupid but never visited the site, I used match and zoosk(?). The experience was not bad but not good either. I figure they all are the same, I’ve see the same faces on each site.

Leggs

February 15th, 2013
9:22 am

Dang, just meant the first sentence to be bold.

disco

February 15th, 2013
9:23 am

good morning all. I don’t do online dating (apparently I’m not doing any dating but that’s neither here nor there). no reason other than I’m simply not interested. I know of some success stories (marriages) and some horror stories (drama). it is what it is.

Celisea....post VDay :) :)

February 15th, 2013
9:26 am

It’s soooo pretty outside! I’m gonna walk down the street in a bit.

SlimNu

February 15th, 2013
9:29 am

Morning all,

I’m not on the up and up with regards to online dating. I can only contribute what i’ve heard other’s say about it.

Current pics
Correct height and body type
No skanky pics
No shirtless pics

Leggs

February 15th, 2013
9:33 am

Good tip on shirtless pics, SlimNu.

Celisea....post VDay :) :)

February 15th, 2013
9:33 am

We’ve hashed this topic out before. Online dating just seems creepy. Yes, there are creepy people everywhere, but IMO (cause I’m not the expert), those vehicles seem to breed crazy.

Celisea....post VDay :) :)

February 15th, 2013
9:34 am

Heeey, where my post

Celisea....post VDay :) :)

February 15th, 2013
9:34 am

Ohhh, there it is….lolol I hit submit and didn’t see it.

Celisea....post VDay :) :)

February 15th, 2013
9:35 am

I’m gonna work for real today. I’ve got a boatload of stuff to do. BBL….probably

SlimNu

February 15th, 2013
9:43 am

Leggs – Even on regular social networking sites, when random guys would send me messages but had no shirt on, I would just delete them and not respond. There is no reason I should know what your chest looks like before even knowing your name UNLESS i’m cruising for some wang. lol In addition, it makes me feel like they are only looking at me for a hook up to if I were to respond

disco

February 15th, 2013
9:45 am

not that I’m online dating but as a female I’m not totally opposed to a male with a topless pic. what better/easier way to separate the “shirts” from the “skins”. lol.

Exiled!

February 15th, 2013
9:52 am

Y A W N ..Belch!

Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)

February 15th, 2013
9:54 am

No shirtless pics

I can deal with that but pleeease no more Eddie Long bathroom mirror pics….seriously. I know folks have mirrors in other rooms or their homes.

Online dating is definitely a mixed bag…

SlimNu

February 15th, 2013
9:56 am

what better/easier way to separate the “shirts” from the “skins”. lol. :lol:

Is that the go ahead to get Freak Friday underway? :oops:

Leggs

February 15th, 2013
9:58 am

Guess that’s why Ex is yawning, SlimNu. He’s waiting…

disco

February 15th, 2013
9:58 am

slim – that wasn’t necessarily my intention but I make no bones about being shallow and totally opposed to dudes with the jacked up torsos. lol. jacked up torso can be beer belly, man boobs, bird chest, you name it.

SlimNu

February 15th, 2013
9:59 am

I know folks have mirrors in other rooms or their homes

Sassy – Well i know folks take pics in the bathroom for the mirror but I think the lighting in there is also key. There’s nothing like that bathroom light :lol:

SlimNu

February 15th, 2013
10:05 am

Correction: FreakY Friday not Freak Friday….I’m sure there are none of those on here today lol

disco – Any guy that i’ve seen that had man boobs, it was easy to tell that without them taking their shirt off. Unless of course, they were wearing ace bandages to strap them down like some of the studs do.

Leggs

February 15th, 2013
10:07 am

If they need more than one ace bandage, they’re already in trouble…IJS

disco

February 15th, 2013
10:08 am

slim – yeah. most times you can tell what’s up under there but sometimes they trick you. you know the average man wears hella layers. tshirt, button down, sweater vest, jacket. now all that might not hide the belly or man boobs but it might cover up the little barney fife chest which is indeed a violation.

Leggs

February 15th, 2013
10:12 am

or a taco meat chest. I like hair on the chest, but not droplets of nappy hair here and there.

Hazel

February 15th, 2013
10:15 am

@ Celisia.. “creepy”? man thats harsh. Only because thats how I met my hubby. He turned out to be handsome, smart and from a prestigious family. i do agree that there are more crazy even creepy profiles and good ones out there, but I guess I was just sick of the wannabe’s at Twist 6 years ago and jumped on the online boat. My hubby was busy with with work and felt the same way.

Lee

February 15th, 2013
10:18 am

I agree, No shirtless pic’s , first off most don’t even look that good. so keep the clothes on and make sure they look clean, so many look like they took the shirt out of the hamper. lol… No other chick arm around your neck but you cut out her body,just tacky. No kids in the pictures, not sure if i want to know you yet never mind the little ones. :/

disco

February 15th, 2013
10:19 am

hazel – for years my friends have been trying to get me on the online bandwagon. talking about try something different or you aren’t going to meet anyone at home. one got fly with me recently talking about I wasn’t going to meet anybody at the goodwill (I like thrift shopping – lol) or the library/bookstore (I like reading). I’m just not in an online frame of mind right now. I’ll either run into him or I won’t.

Celisea....post VDay :) :)

February 15th, 2013
10:22 am

Hazel – Now you know my comments are nothing for that fantab hubs you landed. That’s just MY personal feeling about it. I don’t doubt there are happy endings all over the place and probably from each dating engine out there. Still, with all the positive results, there are still creeps on there…lol IMO and for me, it seems creepy. Like Sassy said it’s a mixed bag. :)

SlimNu

February 15th, 2013
10:22 am

Leggs – When disco was stating the chest violations, taco meat was at the forefront of my mind. I saw a dude online that looked like he had a bunch of muddy rolly pollies on his chest. Yall remember those bugs as a kid? :lol:

Exiled!

February 15th, 2013
10:22 am

Can we PLEASE CHANGE the subject?

:lol: :lol:

this her’ is really painful for some of us men. :lol: the thought of hiding in some virtual space then waiting to see who comes in there to bite……seems like virtual female gamer(Trap)

My biggest and best Trap yet is my mouf..face to face with a chic at Publix/QT…etc..

I think i got a thought…

u know how musicians(some) just write and sell lyrics…..i think im gon get entrepeneaurial and compose Pick up lines and sell them to some of these online male jokers…coz thats exactly the problem they face….Lack of face to face Confidence to step to a seemingly nice,well dressed confident chic!

How u think my business will do?

Celisea....post VDay :) :)

February 15th, 2013
10:23 am

I’ll either run into him or I won’t.

This has always been my feelings.

disco

February 15th, 2013
10:25 am

Ex – the online fellas don’t need the pick up lines. it’s the in-person dudes that can’t seem to come up with anything to say. remember my tirade re grocery store dude asking what I was cooking. or how about gym dude talking about “so you got your workout on huh”. dude I’m dripping sweat and my hair is sticking to my forehead but that’s all you can think to say. and poor fat boy at the bookstore never did get the courage to speak. he just followed me around from section to section. if you are going to run with that business I say you take it to the streets.

Celisea....post VDay :) :)

February 15th, 2013
10:26 am

F E E L I N G….without the “s”

Celisea....post VDay :) :)

February 15th, 2013
10:33 am

I bet a whole bunch of “thick” dudes are online requiring fine chicks…lol Shoot, in-person dudes ain’t nowhere NEAR fine, and require fine chicks. Sometimes I wonder if the see what we see? :shock: I’ve haven’t sat across from too many thick ‘ems, but for those that I have, they’re the main ones wanting a fiyaaaw…lol

Y’all made me thing of this when y’all mentioned man boobs…lol The Bert Show talked about this one day this week. How sooo many men are overweight and it seemingly never dawn on them that they’re SOs ain’t exactly skipping about it. That women are more nonverbal (versus men) about it. Shoot, a dude will tell you reeeal quick or get turned off, all the while sporting a preggo belly….lol and IJS

Naw, can’t do online anything…lol

disco

February 15th, 2013
10:39 am

C – trust me I’ve been hurting quite a few feelings here lately. I’ve been popping off at the mouth about how fellas aren’t aging well. boy there’s a few cats mad at me right now for calling them out. but they know how I do. you ask, I tell. talking about why you ain’t got no man? I ain’t got no man because these dudes walking around looking all helter skelter. at the end of the day I really don’t care how good you look in your clothes if you look jacked the eff up when you take them off. I ain’t sleeping with that. lol. now, I feel like my isht is tight so I can talk the talk. if I was a funny shaped, reverse muffin top chick with stab wounds and stretch marks myself I’d keep my mouth shut.

Celisea

February 15th, 2013
10:40 am

The ballplayer is a thick ‘ems but he SWEARS he’s all that and a bag of chips. He just walked past me.

Exiled!

February 15th, 2013
10:42 am

How sooo many men are overweight and it seemingly never dawn on them that they’re SOs ain’t exactly skipping about it. That women are more nonverbal

@Cel…if the women aint satisfied but they aint verbal about it,for whatever reason they offer their goods elsewhere, rather than cause a scene and confrontatio nwith that fat hubby.

Being fat as a man has very negative sexual consequences…..U cant pack Heat! :lol:

disco

February 15th, 2013
10:44 am

Ex – I’d be willing to be that those women chose security over physical attraction. don’t know that I’d make that choice with an overweight, out of shape man though I might be willing to make it if dude were simply not that easy on the eye. I have a high tolerance for ugly if a guy is bodied up. hence why I have a rapper crush on 50 cent and got so much love for ving rhames. let’s face it, they are not lookers.

Celisea

February 15th, 2013
10:45 am

disco – That’s funny. You said that last part with force!!!

I think someone tried to take a dig at me, tombout stretch pants….ha! That was funny and probably some dude guessing or hating…lololol I’m wearing a sized “small” vest, “medium” shirt and “medium” skirt. I found it funny….lololol

For me, the thing to remember is as we get older, we ain’t gonna look like teenagers embarking on puberty. I don’t try to hang on to that, nor do I require it. Neither am I gonna kill myself trying to hold on to “youth”, like that. Imma age gracefully :) I’m just speaking mainly to folks that require perfection but is lightyears away from it themselves….lololololol

Exiled!

February 15th, 2013
10:48 am

@Disco….Ex – the online fellas don’t need the pick up lines..

Agrree..because having the online profile is the pick up line.

@..and poor fat boy at the bookstore never did get the courage to speak…did u not feel sorry for dude

u couild have offered dude a lollipop or doughnut…infact,if my Pick up store was up and running,u could just flirt with him but say,” I work at “Meelos’_Hook Me Up”@ 4525 Peachtree street , u wanna meet me there Big Boy, tmrw lernch time.”

Maybe he could go in there, browse my collection of tit bits and help hisself!

Leggs

February 15th, 2013
10:49 am

Would consider a picture taken a year ago current??

Celisea

February 15th, 2013
10:50 am

On the reverse, I think it’s plain silly to be wanting to require a model or model type and both of y’all is nearly half a century old or approaching the mark…lol Neither will I be bothered with a dude that’s gonna harrass me or become disrespectful. There’s just some stuff I ain’t gotta or gonna tolerate. Nuh uh! I’m NOT one for holding my tongue when it comes to this kind of stuff. A dude insulting me will get it coming back times 50 from me. I don’t take too well to that kind of behavior.

But, there are some really great dudes in the same place and practice the same train of thought.

Lady~Sunshine~

February 15th, 2013
10:51 am

Howdy C & MIA!!!!! What’s poppin’?!?

Celisea

February 15th, 2013
10:53 am

Heeeeeeeeeeeeeey Lady, I was beckoning for you yesterday :) What’s crackalackin. Glad you popped in today :)