Can you date someone without lying?
A lot of people become cynical about love and relationships because they usually bring some type of conflict. The way you handle that conflict lets you know a lot about your long-term potential. A common issue is honesty. That seems to trip a lot of people up.
Why is it so difficult to be honest and have full disclosure when you are dating someone? If you ask a question, why is it difficult to get a real answer? My friend Sean says that you can’t date someone without lying. Whether it is lying by omission, half-truths, or little white lies- it is something we just contend with in dating and relationships to make it work. Do you agree?
I have a hard time believing that a good relationship can operate with lies. I definitely don’t want a dating relationship to start based on lies! Maybe I’m being unrealistic? How hard is it to hear the truth?
Happy Valentine’s Day everyone!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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329 comments Add your comment
Leggs
February 14th, 2013
12:27 pm
We straight from the hip shooters don’t walk around being mean or rude. Like others have said, you get what you give. Generally, I’m a nice person (so I’ve been told), but come at me wrong, I can go toe to toe.
disco ~ exactly. Being a Yankee doesn’t mean you’re from one of the 5 boroughs!
disco
February 14th, 2013
12:28 pm
ms atl – I have to ask. where are those friends from? you just saw my post right? lol.
Leggs
February 14th, 2013
12:32 pm
Celisea ~ yes, I would love to see some of his work…thanks.
Exiled
February 14th, 2013
12:38 pm
why do Northerners not get nice when they have lived in the kind south for a long time?
do they remain rude to maintan a facade?
u Disco?
disco
February 14th, 2013
12:41 pm
ex – you hit a lick with eyeroll day. every time I hear someone on a vday spiel I roll my eyes. I just overheard someone wish a client happy vday on the phone. really? insert eyeroll here. lol.
Celisea
February 14th, 2013
12:48 pm
Leggs – Okay, he’s gonna send them to my phone.
MsAtl – That was funny. I’m not conscious but I probably did twist my lips….lol
Exiled
February 14th, 2013
12:49 pm
I just overheard someone wish a client happy vday on the phone. really?
@Disco..thats common lady…
but do u realise that Not having a vDay partner urwself tends to put a dark cloud and damper on ur own mood and feelings,let alone ur perceptions about folks in the moment,enjoying theirs??.
Are u looking in the mirror Disco…figuratively?
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
February 14th, 2013
12:49 pm
Generally, I’m a nice person (so I’ve been told), but come at me wrong, I can go toe to toe.
I hear you Leggs!! Gotta let ‘em know sometimes..
MsAtl
February 14th, 2013
12:52 pm
Disco- Yes, I did see your post, lol. I think they are all southerners.
Celisea
February 14th, 2013
12:53 pm
Coming back up from the cafe, I saw a chick that works on the floor where there’s a gang of folks (mostly women). I can just see folks now. It was a nice arrangement I must say. If there any group that does show and tell, it’s definitely that entire floor.
Leggs
February 14th, 2013
12:54 pm
I don’t recall hearing “make groceries.” Unless you have a farm and a butcher shed, I don’t get why some say “make groceries.” Much like “fixing to go,” I’m going somewhere or I’m about to go, I ain’t “fixing” nada (lol).
Leggs
February 14th, 2013
12:57 pm
“but do u realise that Not having a vDay partner urwself tends to put a dark cloud and damper on ur own mood and feelings” – you’re on a roll w/ur blanket statements today.
Definitely not true. Everyone not involved in a relationship is in a dour mood. It’s simply Thursday to them (lol).
Leggs
February 14th, 2013
12:58 pm
SassyMe ~ Exactly…gotta let them know.
disco
February 14th, 2013
12:59 pm
ex – naw. I don’t think that’s me reflecting my single-ness. I won’t say it’s inappropriate I’ll just say I don’t get it. coupled up or not I wouldn’t walk around wishing folks a happy valentine’s day. I’d be more likely not to acknowledge it at all. after all, it’s a personal holiday more so than a general holiday. I could see a co-worker on the phone wishing their S/O a happy vday but a client? naw. I’m not feeling that one.
Dirty Bird ( Happy- V-day BluzGirl)
February 14th, 2013
1:00 pm
Enter your comments here
Leggs
February 14th, 2013
1:03 pm
I’m with you, disco. My neighbor’s husband text me with a Happy Vday wish. I know it wasn’t just too me, but it’s still weird.
Exiled
February 14th, 2013
1:06 pm
Disco..i hear it all the time, i say it myself….and the folks who say it to me dont even know if i deserve it,have vDay partner or am non-chalant about it. It just rolls off..its like good morning! Unless somebody insists, like that other lady, that i reply a ceratain way…its happy folks going about their business…..
U cant see happy if u aint happy..i doubt it…
U becaome cynical..
What hole u live in?
and where at?
Leggs
February 14th, 2013
1:07 pm
Bday is a couple’s holiday, not a general holiday. Yes ma’am.
Leggs
February 14th, 2013
1:08 pm
Vday…
Bluzgirl
February 14th, 2013
1:16 pm
Dirty – Happy V Day to you too!
Leggs
February 14th, 2013
1:18 pm
U cant see happy if u aint happy..i doubt it…
of course you can…why you think the adage “misery loves company” exists (lolol)?
Exiled
February 14th, 2013
1:26 pm
misery loves company…?
that seems,to me at least, buttress what im saying….u happy,move with happy people
u married, befriend married folks….
single folks, maybe unhappy themselves, looking at married folks doing their thing put an unhappy cynic spin on what, to married folks looks like happy play…happy valentines day..
thats what misery loves company means there….
Exiled
February 14th, 2013
1:27 pm
they cannot see happyiness
they see eye roll!
get it?
Bluzgirl
February 14th, 2013
1:28 pm
It has been weird having customers tell me Happy VDay…I say it back, but it’s not really something I think should be said to random people…
Exiled
February 14th, 2013
1:34 pm
weird having customers tell me Happy VDay
Weird???
trust me,if Mag had put it a smile on u last nite, u wldnt feel that way!
u wld be ear to ear, smiling right now.
SlimNu - Happy xoxox
February 14th, 2013
1:39 pm
There is a chick in my office that is miserable and she purposely wore black today so she could BAH HUMBUG all day long. This is the same chick that tried to convince another co-worker to leave her hubby and allow her to move in with her so they could start going out together. lol
Bluzgirl
February 14th, 2013
1:39 pm
I’m smiling today anyways…I really don’t care about not having a valentine this year. And Mags will never put it on me again!!!
Bluzgirl
February 14th, 2013
1:45 pm
Slim…that was me last year, but I had just gone through a rough breakup…this year…it’s just another day! I’m actually proud of myself for not being bummed today!
Celisea
February 14th, 2013
1:47 pm
Lawd, they make everything difficult. Now we’re having to write out half our midyear and yearend reviews…shoot Are we not already swamped???
And we just segued into “audit”….this kind of stuff makes me grouchy….lolololol
Exiled
February 14th, 2013
1:48 pm
This is the same chick that tried to convince another co-worker to leave her hubby and allow her to move in with her so they could start going out together. lol
@Slim..misery loves company…ALL Day!
wearing black on Vday???
now thats extreme…….even Disco would not go there!
Is it a funreal really?
LOL
Celisea
February 14th, 2013
1:49 pm
My manager just said “repetition beats omission”
I kind of like that…can we tie into today’s topic?
Celisea
February 14th, 2013
1:54 pm
I tell y’all, there are the pros and cons to being in a “self starter” role, where your managers is miles away and you can pretty much come and go as you please. You better be dern straight that you’re accountable for EVERYTHING.
There is soooo much information downstreamed to us as a team and it’s almost information overload. And trust me, my manager will call you on it and give you a handslap if you can’t answer or don’t sound like you know what you’re talking about. This company is so big, most time looking for polices and stuff is sometimes like looking for a needle in a haystack. Most times though, for the job, you need to have the policies handy. Pros and cons folks, pros and cons. Right now, listening, I’m feeling all cons….lololololol
It’s all good, I’m grateful to have a job
Celisea
February 14th, 2013
1:55 pm
I have spent a couple hours before looking for documents and links. That frustrates me something awful. Usually though, we as a team bounce off each other for that kind of stuff.
SlimNu - Happy xoxox
February 14th, 2013
1:55 pm
Bluz – Maybe that’s why that’s her this year because her and her hubby have been separated for quite some time and now she’s close to losing her house.
Celisea
February 14th, 2013
1:57 pm
One last……
And my manager is sooooo not about coddling. Sink or swim. She gets aggitated if you ask her too many questions. Cause she feels like, for the role you ought to know where you’re going or at least how to get yourself there.
She’s young too! John Hopkins grad
Celisea
February 14th, 2013
1:58 pm
Okay, back to listening. I can’t afford to miss NATHEN (nothing)!!!! I need to be in the know.
Bluzgirl
February 14th, 2013
2:05 pm
Slim…sounds like she is having a rough time, so she’s allowed to be miserable today! Who knows…hubby may have gone all out in the past and this is part of her new reality…
Celisea
February 14th, 2013
2:07 pm
Hahahaha…just had a coworker to IM me, asking for clarification and said she hated to ask because she thought she would feel dumb.
Told ya. It’s fast pace and fast moving and you better keep up.
Celisea
February 14th, 2013
2:08 pm
Is the blog VDay over?? I’m looking forward to getting off work
disco
February 14th, 2013
2:15 pm
ex – hush man. hush.
ex – I would wear black before I wore pink or red. as it stands I don’t own anything pink or red. lol.
Bluzgirl
February 14th, 2013
2:15 pm
Had to laugh at all the men in front of the gas station buying flowers!
disco
February 14th, 2013
2:17 pm
well I’m hoping for some discussion up in this camp or else I’ll have to start responding to ex. lol.
kimmie
February 14th, 2013
2:18 pm
Disco – Have you seen the show Justified? It comes on FX if you haven’t. It’s one of me & hubs favorite shows. For some reason you came to mind when we were watching it the other night, Tuesday. I think you would like it.
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
February 14th, 2013
2:18 pm
This company is so big, most time looking for polices and stuff is sometimes like looking for a needle in a haystack. Most times though, for the job, you need to have the policies handy.
Chile talk about policies…we have to have one for everything as well….either a policy or a protocol and if there is no protocol you’d better get with your team and come up with one…our accreditation is crucial so we’ve definitely got to dot our i’s and cross our t’s…
disco
February 14th, 2013
2:19 pm
kimmie – no. don’t think I’ve ever even heard of it. what’s it about?
Celisea
February 14th, 2013
2:19 pm
I guess VDay has passed….lol
Bluzgirl
February 14th, 2013
2:20 pm
kimmie – I keep meaning to check out that show and keep forgetting!
disco
February 14th, 2013
2:22 pm
C – yep. vday is so much hype that it fizzles out fairly quickly. lol. now eyeroll day? that has some staying power. lol.
Celisea
February 14th, 2013
2:22 pm
either a policy or a protocol and if there is no protocol you’d better get with your team and come up with one
Okaaaay, I’m so glad you understand. Some days it’s brutal up in here, in this regard. Cause clients LOOOOOOVE to drop, “where’s it written.” So, before you do, transact, act, state, imply….you better be dern sure.
Exiled!
February 14th, 2013
2:23 pm
Bluz..u know me I’m as real as Disco in some of this superflousness and artifialness of contrived ‘celebrate day’s but I had to spend 56$ on a whim when I went to Publix dis mrning.
Seeing Publix all decked up in Vday goods I just had to represent ,buying a heart shaped box set of chocolate and champagne for Queen, just becoz!!