My friend Brianna has dated someone for a couple of weeks and thought she had a “pretty good” sense of who he was. His personality, sense of humor, and his image was so attractive to her. It wasn’t long before she started getting those “butterfly” feelings about him.
This past weekend, she was introduced to his friends. Apparently, she was also introduced to a new side to her date. A side she had yet to see before now. The guy basically turned into a frat boy. Not in the good way, either. He was loud, obnoxious, a little misogynistic and nothing like the sweet dude she thought she was dating. She said even his voice sounded different!
When she pressed him later about his switch up in personality, he blamed it on the al al al chol (I’m sorry, I had to do it) and his boys. When they all get together, they kind of let it all hang out and let off steam.
I have seen men act differently around their friends, I’ve come to recognize this as some form of male bonding. I don’t know that it is necessarily a red flag. I can understand why Brianna was surprised, but should she be worried?
Do you change when you are around your close friends? Is there a side of your personality that only comes out around certain people?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog