What makes a woman sexy?
After Beyonce rocked the halftime show at the Super Bowl, I have heard a lot of people comment about her sex appeal. It’s always so interesting to see what people classify as beautiful and sexy. Especially when it comes to what is sexy for women of color, the standard of beauty seems different.
Many people believe that attractiveness and beauty is subjective, but what about sex appeal? Have you ever met someone who just seem to ooze sex appeal? Something about the way they carried themselves or their confidence that grabs your attention.
What do you consider sexy? What makes a woman sexy? What makes a man sexy? Do you think there is such a thing as being too sexy? Too provocative?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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cba
February 7th, 2013
3:40 pm
roast red nutts =nutts on fiiiiiire???
Leggs
February 7th, 2013
3:42 pm
kimmie ~ Ex never jokes about pics. He’s serious. He wants to see something, anything.
Now the hook up requests I feel are jokey jokes.
kimmie
February 7th, 2013
3:44 pm
Kerry – I just don’t hear many MEN talking about “complimenting their skin tone”. I like a well-dressed man myself, not the bad-boy rapper thing, but at the same time I don’t want a guy that primps more than I do either.
M Kerry
February 7th, 2013
3:50 pm
By “complementing skin tone” I meant, for example, browns look good on a light brown skin tone like mine, that’s all. Obviously you got the wrong, unintended message… :=)
Exiled!
February 7th, 2013
3:51 pm
Leggs,I have actually send pics of me or and my family to some.
It has happened.
I have actually send a pic of me and Queen to Swiss and he has done same….
Dirty Birds I am rising up for BluzGirl!
February 7th, 2013
3:51 pm
M-Kerry… You have woke up Celisea she luvs a well dressed man, it smells of success to her. M-Kerry you will need to provide salary information to Celisea as well. lol
@BluzGirl…That would not be the route I would take, I would invite you to have a conversation with me first in order to get to know you. On the blog I like to make jokes,nothing serious. If I was coming after you my approach would be totalling different.
Button
February 7th, 2013
3:51 pm
no face, no thigh, no toe or thumb Exile.
Exiled!
February 7th, 2013
3:52 pm
Now uall other blog chics want to be undercover…
Come on man!
No hook ups yet Kimmie!
Leggs
February 7th, 2013
3:53 pm
cba ~ I’m sitting here saying “leave it alone, Leggs, leave it alone!” And here you come (lol).
disco
February 7th, 2013
3:53 pm
Kerry – not that we are tag teaming but it sounds like you are trying to go back and clean up. even knowing what you meant kimmie was simply stating that most men don’t even talk about such issues. I can’t even imagine hearing a man talking about he was going out looking for a shirt/tie/suit/whatever to compliment his skin tone. he might make sure it compliments his skin tone but he won’t be talking about it.
Leggs
February 7th, 2013
3:54 pm
I’m laughing that Kerry really thought he needed to breakdown what “complement skin tone” meant. That’s rich.
kimmie
February 7th, 2013
3:56 pm
Kerry – I was trying to show you the message THEY, the ladies you refer to, MIGHT be getting from the image you are putting out there. You sound kind of metrosexual, but these ladies seem to be looking for a rougher image.
Exiled!
February 7th, 2013
3:57 pm
Dirty B = Elijah
M Kerry
February 7th, 2013
3:58 pm
Way to get hung up on a small part of the post and ignore the rest of it. No worries. I was just making a light-hearted conversation anyway…
Celisea
February 7th, 2013
3:58 pm
Dirty Bird – Boy stop…lolol I’m vesatile! I loves a man in jeans and a tshirt.
Especially if he’s wearing it well, smelling good, clean shaven. See? 
Actually Dirty, I wasn’t luring and sleeping. I just got back and logged in. Now, I gotta run.
Night folks!
kimmie
February 7th, 2013
3:58 pm
disco – Right. They may say they are looking for a tie to “match” or “go with” a suit or shirt, but not “compliment my skin tone”!
disco
February 7th, 2013
3:59 pm
Kerry – you now how we do. lol.
Button
February 7th, 2013
4:00 pm
T shirt with holes? like cigarette burn holes or knife holes? as for dressing to complement one’s skin tone (for a man) I’ve heard that more than a few times. Just because you haven’t heard it said doesn’t mean it’s not being said or done.
cba
February 7th, 2013
4:01 pm
Leggs~ if you only knew how hard I tried not to……just couldn’t…..maybe I’m sleep deprived
kimmie
February 7th, 2013
4:01 pm
Exiled – Elijah all the way!!!LOL!!!!
disco
February 7th, 2013
4:01 pm
all this skin tone talk reminds me of ced the entertainer talking about the power of the deep dark chocolate brother. lol.
Exiled!
February 7th, 2013
4:01 pm
Maybe Dwight(Atlanta housewives) told Kerry about that complementing of skin tone as he sat in Dwight’s chair?
@Leggs,Disco
Have u heard about this ex cop in L A killing folks coz he was fired and says L A cops are corrupt blah blah.
I am hoping they catch him and he agrees to go to trial
Leggs
February 7th, 2013
4:03 pm
Button ~ you’re mighty confrontational today (lol).
M Kerry
February 7th, 2013
4:03 pm
Sorry, Celisea. I don’t wear expensive, designer clothes, just ones that fit me well. My salary information may not impress you… :=)
disco, “he might make sure it compliments his skin tone but he won’t be talking about it.” What’s the difference between wanting to make sure something compliments one’s skin tone and talking about it?
The fact that he wants to make sure it complements his skin tone doesn’t make him metro, but talking about it does? Talking about it is just putting your thoughts into words. I wanted to give you guys the whole picture, which is why I “talked” about it… :=)
Button
February 7th, 2013
4:03 pm
Nothing like a well dressed man! @KERRY keep doing you and forget the nay sayers. You’ll find someone who will appreciate a well dressed man! I know I do!
disco
February 7th, 2013
4:04 pm
button – agreed but that fact alone may tie in to why these chicks are bailing. like kimmie said, it sounds metro. some chicks may take metro as a sign and dip.
Kerry – by no means am I implying anything. simply speculating. again, you know how we do. lol.
M Kerry
February 7th, 2013
4:04 pm
Button @4:00 pm. Exactly!!! Thank you, sir/ma’am!
Button
February 7th, 2013
4:05 pm
me confrontational @ LEGGS! lol
kimmie
February 7th, 2013
4:05 pm
Just because you haven’t heard it said doesn’t mean it’s not being said or done.
Button – That goes without saying. I can’t imagine a rough-around-the-edges type saying or worrying about such things as complimenting their skin tone, but hey, stranger things have happened!!
SMH
Button
February 7th, 2013
4:06 pm
I’m a MA”AM @ KERRY —-you’re welcome
disco
February 7th, 2013
4:07 pm
here’s a for instance. I know many men who get manicures. I don’t have a problem with men getting manicures. I would likely take issue with a man who was constantly talking about “needing to get his nails done”. lol.
Button
February 7th, 2013
4:08 pm
Imagine that @ KIMMIE it does happen!
Leggs
February 7th, 2013
4:09 pm
Ex ~ that cop is not going to trial. They are going to kill him. He snapped big time!
Leggs
February 7th, 2013
4:11 pm
kimmie
February 7th, 2013
4:11 pm
To be quite frank and honest, I was being nice in saying metro. You asked Kerry, sorry you didn’t like the responses! You wanted insight for why these chicks are bailing, I told you what I thought, just making convo, don’t really care. My man is well-dressed and professional, but metro he’s not, not that there is anything wrong with being metro or otherwise. Metro does come off as a bit effeminate to me, but hey, do you.
kimmie
February 7th, 2013
4:12 pm
I don’t have a problem with men getting manicures. I would likely take issue with a man who was constantly talking about “needing to get his nails done”.
Disco – BINGO!! Post of the day!!!!
Button
February 7th, 2013
4:13 pm
lol. men are people too! most men who take pride in their bodies/appearances and it doesn’t mean he’s metrosexual or any other negative tone if he does.
Leggs
February 7th, 2013
4:18 pm
Yeah, it does. A manly man will be a manly man, conscious of his appearance, but not running his mouth about it. A metrosexual will be concerned with his appearance like a woman would and getting bent out of shape about it!!!
disco
February 7th, 2013
4:20 pm
button – we get it. we do. (excuse me kimmie if I’m speaking for you). all we are saying is that even though men do take care of themselves and their appearance (and that is a good thing) there are certain aspects of that that men just do, they don’t discuss. now, if they do discuss them with friends, family, girlfriends, whatever. that’s all good. but there are some women (myself included and perhaps kimmie) that are going to side eye the fellow that is talking too much about his “fashion and beauty” habits. simply said, it’s not a good look.
Exiled
February 7th, 2013
4:20 pm
Queen actually sugested i go for a minucure with her..she said my hands were rough ..i was trying to get her into a sexual cramp when she felt my rough hands etc…..
I been to the salon with her and sat as the asian ladies did her nails and feet…
I dont see myseldf being in there for my feet though…..
@Leggs..i was hoping maybe we can have Tupac Shakur’s murder solved then…im deflated.
M Kerry
February 7th, 2013
4:20 pm
Ah, Button, I agree! Heterosexual men shouldn’t have to look like crap just because they are sterotyped as metro or gay (in media and in society in general).
kimmie, I just thought you just focused on that one phrase and missed the entire gist of my post, that’s all. By the way, I have never gotten a manicure or pedicure. I cut my own nails (now don’t tell me that’s metro lol)
Button, I haven’t followed your posts so I wasn’t sure if you were male or female, so that you, MA’AM!!!
kimmie
February 7th, 2013
4:23 pm
Well Kerry, with the picture you painted, we gave you what those chicks might be thinking. It sounds like you’re going beyond just taking pride in your appearance, to them. It’s to the point they are suggesting you go to the complete other side of the spectrum. Either that, or you need to upgrade your selection process and find ladies who can appreciate what you have to offer.
We’re pretty blunt in here!
M Kerry
February 7th, 2013
4:24 pm
disco, “there are certain aspects of that that men just do, they don’t discuss”. Those are called men who cannot communicate their thoughts, but I digress. Let’s get back to the topic “what makes a woman sexy”.
disco
February 7th, 2013
4:24 pm
ex – the only thing worse than an ashy, crusty foot is a BIG, ashy crusty foot.
Elijah (Dirty Bird Rise-Up)
February 7th, 2013
4:24 pm
@Exile and Kimmie snoop detectives, you two are funny!
M-Kerry… Dude stop with the matching skin tone comments. Now when you speak to the ladies of the ATL speak with a little force like u are going to make them smoke a cigarette after you bring the dizzle.
I dress well in the office at all times and I am a gentlemen at all times. But sometimes that fine one that likes to be spanked, U just let her know you will bring like no other! YEA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Button
February 7th, 2013
4:25 pm
@ disco who says so? you and kimmie? Is it written in stone anywhere that a man can’t talk about wanting his clothes to complement his skin tone without making him look/sound metrosexual?
kimmie
February 7th, 2013
4:25 pm
Disco/Leggs – You both said it just like I was thinking! Thanks blog sisters!!
Exiled
February 7th, 2013
4:25 pm
M Kerry
February 7th, 2013
4:26 pm
kimmie, wearing a clean white shirt and dark denim is going beyond taking pride in my appearance but wearing an old t-shirt with holes and jeans with holes is appropriate? Hmmm. Anyway, back to original topic…
disco
February 7th, 2013
4:26 pm
guess we are on two teams re this matter. personally, I don’t think it’s a communication issue though. just because a man doesn’t tell me about his “daily constitutional” doesn’t mean he couldn’t if he wanted to. lol.