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What makes a woman sexy?

After Beyonce rocked the halftime show at the Super Bowl, I have heard a lot of people comment about her sex appeal. It’s always so interesting to see what people classify as beautiful and sexy. Especially when it comes to what is sexy for women of color, the standard of beauty seems different.

Many people believe that attractiveness and beauty is subjective, but what about sex appeal? Have you ever met someone who just seem to ooze sex appeal? Something about the way they carried themselves or their confidence that grabs your attention.

What do you consider sexy? What makes a woman sexy? What makes a man sexy? Do you think there is such a thing as being too sexy? Too provocative?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Celisea

February 7th, 2013
6:57 am

Yes, I have definitely met someone that oooozed sex appeal!!! IMO, as it relates to sex appeal, looks sort of rounds it out last, but on top, for me would be confidence, how they carry themselves, how they hang a suite, chiseled, etc etc etc.

I know I’m not a man but IMO and as I’ve been complimented….even with all my squareness (ha ha ha)…..the same holds true for a woman. The walk, the talk, the confidence….so I’ve been told. Also, for women that possess sex appeal, I wouldn’t equate that to showing skin, again IMO. Being able to wear the heck out of that little black dress or suit is where it’s at (yes, “at”). IMO, t & a hanging out does NOT equate to sexy. But if that’s how you define sexy, do you :) And again, yes yes, I’ve seen a couple of brothers make me do the exorcist’s head spin (lol) cause they had going on….from the suit hanging just right, down to their shoes being on point (hitting the wrists just right, pants hitting the shoes just right), back up to the perfect hairline, to just being on top of theirs and how they handle their business….. Whew buddy and IJS lololol

Anyhoo, I have client visits today and need to grab a cab in about 45 minutes. I have to meet up with my portfolio team for heading out. I’z tired this morning but I’ll be alright. Had a blast last night. Annnnd I got in 3 miles on the treadmill when I got back to the hotel :) :) I’m excited about hanging out tonight. It’s gonna be fun!!!

Celisea

February 7th, 2013
7:00 am

suit not suite…

Whoever mentioned the Alofts, I couldn’t do it. It was a bit too “trendy” for my taste. There goes my squarenss again…lolololol Just funning.

Toodles!

LeeH1

February 7th, 2013
8:32 am

Energy and confidence are twos sexy attributes. Those women, whatever their color, who are energetic and confident are sexualy appealing. Those women who are depressed and lack energy, no matter how attractive, are not sexy. Beyonce is energetic in her movements, and confidence in the way she holds herself and her posture. That makes her, and any woman, sexy.

Exiled

February 7th, 2013
8:43 am

What makes a woamn sexxeeeey?

her dress(all her clothes fit her in some kinda sexxy way_undescribable),her walk,her ohh, soo sexxy figure,good, and measured booteey’ (not too much hanging out too bigg,like its contrived),…her demeanor…u lay eyes on her,u just wanna ugghhhh….say come her’ babey..lemme see ur…her back..ughh,my God…..a sexxy woman to me is that woman that seems toi have the right outfit in her wadrobe coz All the damn time is see her,she is on point…….!!

A non sexxy woman, seems to be dressed on a Recession budget most times! :lol: :lol:

IMissAtlanta

February 7th, 2013
8:47 am

Im not a man, but from my perspective and what my husband tells me.. its all about how you carry yourself. By showing clevage, one doesn’t become attractive. I feel attractive when I am feeling confident and feel that I look like I’m all that a bag of doritos. Mind you, Im not wearing a revealing attire necessarily.
There are times however, when my husband will ask me to wear “those” jeans that make my booty look great and wear a tank top etc etc.. when we are about to go hangout with his friends.

IMissAtlanta

February 7th, 2013
8:48 am

One more thing… a woman who can take care of herself is also deemed to be attractive

Button

February 7th, 2013
8:54 am

What makes a man sexy? his brains, his confidence, his culinary skills, and a goatee.

Do you think there is such a thing as being too sexy? never heard anybody complaining about that.

Too provocative? yes I call it as being sleazy.

disco

February 7th, 2013
9:12 am

good morning.

celisea – I didn’t think aloft would suit you. lol. you are right it is trendy. extremely trendy. almost to the point of being young and hip hop-py. I think that’s why they can get away with those microscopic rooms. they make it up for it with happy hour and pool tables and karaoke, etc.

on topic – I knew confidence was going to get put out there early and while it plays a part I always think of that overly confident somebody who ain’t got a daggone thing going on but still you can’t tell them nothing.

button – is there such a thing as too sexy? heck yeah and I have met it. too sexy is a dangerous thing. too sexy might make you ignore a whole bunch of bells and whistles that you might not ordinarily ignore.

Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)

February 7th, 2013
9:13 am

Morning peeps….

What makes a woman sexy….. lets start with her walk…Then her voice…Eyes are cool too, but the walk and the voice tells me right away if I am prepared to take a shot at her….

SlimNu - Out from under a rock

February 7th, 2013
9:14 am

Button – I was reading your list of what makes a man sexy and I didn’t see that last one coming, Goatee.lol But my oh my, do I love a man with a goatee :lol:

disco

February 7th, 2013
9:17 am

slim – re the goatee. in general I can take it or leave it but for some reason a sexy Puerto Rican or Dominican man with a goatee… ooh-wee. those men most def rock the goatee like nobody’s business.

Bluzgirl

February 7th, 2013
9:22 am

I agree that confidence (but not over confidence) makes a person sexy. I’m not the most attractive woman, but the nights that I’ve felt super confident are the nights I’ve gotten the most attention, whether dressed up or just in jeans and a t-shirt…

Bluzgirl

February 7th, 2013
9:24 am

I love a nice goatee on the right man…for some reason, I tend to gravitate to bald men with a goatee!!! The ex had long hair and just didn’t look right with a goatee…I should have known then! LOL!

SlimNu - Out from under a rock

February 7th, 2013
9:38 am

A goatee with a little salt-n-pepper going on is quite nice too ;-)

Now as far as sexiness for a woman, showing all your goodies or wearing stuff CLEARLY too small for you or not age appropriate is sooooo not sexy to me. Take Keyshia Coles mother for instance, I think she dresses too young looking for her age.

disco

February 7th, 2013
9:43 am

slim – don’t get me started on a list of “NOTS” this morning. lol. you know that’s right up my alley.

Button

February 7th, 2013
9:57 am

lol @disco I haven’t seen too sexy, my eyes might can’t handle it.
^5 for the goatee! it’s so masculine and sexy, double trouble for me.

SlimNu - Out from under a rock

February 7th, 2013
9:59 am

disco – lol

disco

February 7th, 2013
10:08 am

button – let me tell you about too sexy. the guy that recently advised me that he has a girlfriend is too sexy. so sexy that I’ve even pondered encouraging the man to go home, start a fight and break up with his girlfriend for two days. just two days. lol. granted I’ve said nothing but the fact that I’ve contemplated it indicates that he is just too sexy.

slim – well since things have fallen off let’s talk about what’s sexy and what’s not.

tattoo on a nicely muscled bicep – sexy. tattoo on one’s face – not sexy.

pretty, straight, white teeth – sexy. scattered, crooked, chipped, missing teeth – not sexy.

kimmie

February 7th, 2013
10:08 am

Morning All!!!

Yes, I love confidence and dare I say it, swag, in a man. Some just have a presence about them that I cannot describe. They may not be considered handsome by most standards, but it’s all in how they work with what they have. They command respect yet at the same time put everyone around them at ease. Part of that self-confidence is not making the women they deal with feel they have to dumb themselves down to build him up or stroke his ego. I love intelligent men. They know their stuff, but they don’t talk down or make others that might not be as knowledgable on something feel bad.

I love muscular arms and chests on men. Where you can see the rips under a well-tailored dress shirt! Like my hubs! :)

disco

February 7th, 2013
10:13 am

smelling fresh like soap and a good masculine fragrance – sexy. smelling like what my grandma used to refer to as simply “outdoors” – not sexy.

being caressed by strong hands – sexy. being cut up by hard, calloused hands – not sexy.

SlimNu - Out from under a rock

February 7th, 2013
10:16 am

On the topic of tattoo’s, I do not dig the neck tattoo’s or being covered in them. Don’t dig the long finger nails on a dude, holding onto cornrolls at this day in time, or looking unkempt in general

Leggs

February 7th, 2013
10:25 am

Morning.

I’ve been told I’m sexy by the way I walk, my confidence, the way I wear my clothes and it helps that I’m cute (lol). Yeah, I said it.

Now, Beyonce is very sexy and a beautiful woman. Her marketing team is on point marketing her that way. However, she’s a wife and now a mom. IMO, she needs to tone down the puddy thrusts!

SlimNu ~ forget about Keyisha Cole’s mom, look at Jim Jones mother! I think his first name is Jim (Chrissy and Mr. Jones)

Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)

February 7th, 2013
10:27 am

being caressed by strong hands – sexy. being cut up by hard, calloused hands – not sexy.

True!! :lol:

kimmie

February 7th, 2013
10:34 am

smelling fresh like soap and a good masculine fragrance – sexy.

Amen Disco!!

Bluzgirl

February 7th, 2013
10:40 am

I think I’m one of the few people who didn’t think Beyonce looked all that great. I really don’t think her outfit flattered her. She looked huge next to her dancers and the Destiny’s Child girls…Just my opinion

Leggs

February 7th, 2013
10:40 am

I agree disco!

Bluzgirl

February 7th, 2013
10:41 am

Now…the hard, calloused hands may not feel good, but it can be sexy to be with a man who works hard with their hands!

SlimNu - Out from under a rock

February 7th, 2013
10:44 am

Leggs – Yeah, I forgot about Jim’s mother….she sounds like Weezie from the Jefferson’s to the 10th power

Button

February 7th, 2013
10:45 am

Not a fan of tattoos, look dingy dirty.

I agree Bluzgirl Beyonce is not sexy, she’s an entertainer who throws her waist around gyrating like a wilderbeast. not sexy at all. to me she tries too hard jmo.

disco

February 7th, 2013
10:46 am

bluz – I did not watch the superbowl or the halftime show and have yet to even see any clips but the fact that you thought beyonce looked huge is one of those cultural things. you know (generally speaking I know there are exceptions) our folks go more for thick. the guys want thick and the girls want to be thick. here I go with my momma-isms again but “nobody wants a bone but a dog and even a dog wants a little bit of meat sometimes”.

hey leggs. kimmie.

Leggs

February 7th, 2013
10:49 am

Bluz ~ you are the epitome of what’s wrong with people. To even use the word “huge” in describing how she looked next to anybody is blasphemy.

Bluzgirl

February 7th, 2013
10:50 am

I get it that she’s thick and generally looks pretty good, but the outfit she was wearing wasn’t flattering in my opinion. Some think it was super sexy. She does have a nice body, but what she was wearing made her look bigger than she is, I think…

Leggs

February 7th, 2013
10:51 am

“… throws her waist around gyrating like a wilderbeast.” – Now, that was funny.

HEY DISCO!!

Button

February 7th, 2013
10:53 am

Letter from a guy — My girlfriend and I have been seeing each other for four months. When we started dating she told me she usually doesn’t go for guys as physically attractive as me, which I found odd. She is very cute but not the hottest girl I’ve dated. Her intelligence, personality, and character are why I’ve fallen for her. Things have been great until the last two weeks when she started becoming more distant and less affectionate toward me. Last weekend she went with her single girlfriends to the Caribbean for a brief vacation. I barely heard from her the week after she got back, but we both have demanding jobs. I ordered flowers to be delivered to her office. She then called me and said she no longer wants to be in a relationship, and that I’m way more attractive then her previous partners. I asked had I done anything wrong and she replied I’ve been perfect. But she said while on vacation she barely missed me. She said she fears if we continue, I’ll find someone better looking, or worse cheat on her like her last boyfriend. I asked her to reconsider since a weekend of no communication is too short a time to make such a huge decision and she agreed. I feel like I am being dumped based on my looks. I don’t want to lose her but I wonder if it’s worth it to get back together if she reconsiders. Do her girlfriends have something do with this? What should I do?

SlimNu - Out from under a rock

February 7th, 2013
10:54 am

Bluz – She’s a curvy woman….not every chick is meant to be rail thin like Michelle lol

disco

February 7th, 2013
10:55 am

leggs – what was wrong with bluz saying huge? I’m not agreeing that beyonce is or looks huge but goodness knows there are some folks out there that I have called huge (and worse).

Button

February 7th, 2013
10:55 am

I see wherer Bluzgirl is coming from, I said the same thing to myself. She has some huge hips/thighs and her outfit didn’t do her any justice. Maybe she was going for that look for all we know. it is what it is.

Bluzgirl

February 7th, 2013
10:56 am

Many folks would call me huge…I’m not saying that Beyonce is huge, but the outfit made her look it…

kimmie

February 7th, 2013
10:57 am

Disco – I agree, cultural.

Beyonce is all that and a bag of chips to me! I can appreciate what she offeres in her own right. Her tunes are catchy and hip-hop and fun. I like the fact that she’s empowering by hiring women musicians and yeah, she’s sexy as H and I’m straight as they come! I hate when folks try to compare her to others, especially singers in a totally different musical category. It’s room at the top for many different kinds.

SlimNu - Out from under a rock

February 7th, 2013
10:57 am

gyrating like a wilderbeast :shock:

I enjoyed the half-time show…The way ticket prices are for concerts and such, I wouldn’t regret paying to see her because I know she’s going to go hard the entire show. I this isn’t on the same level but I paid to go see Mike Epps and once to see Kevin Hart and I felt jipped. The shows started late but ended early for the next show. Then he has the nerve to be back in the A already??? Guess he figures he came up pretty good from getting over us suckers just a few months ago. Not falling for that okie doke again.

Button

February 7th, 2013
10:58 am

I did a lil dabb in the fashion industry and there are tricks that you can do to alter your appearance. Take for instance drag queens. They can make a little strony (sp) hip look curvy, and let’s not forget cleavage.

disco

February 7th, 2013
10:59 am

button – dude is a buster. first off I don’t think his letter is legit. I think he’s tooting his own little horn and wanting to gas himself up. perhaps it’s the opposite. perhaps he’s not the most attractive guy she’s ever dated but the least attractive guy she’s ever dated. perhaps she figured she’d give it a shot but decided later for that. perhaps while on vacation she realized she could do better. LOL.

Dynamic

February 7th, 2013
10:59 am

sexy on a man- dress shirts, good credit, the right cologne, a fresh hair cut

Bluzgirl

February 7th, 2013
11:00 am

Button – Wow…that girl has some serious self esteem issues. I’m sure it can be a little difficult to date an extremely attractive man (I don’t know first hand), but sheesh…be excited that he chose you! I had a girlfriend a few years ago who ended up marrying a gorgeous model. He made every woman’s heart skip a beat. She is cute, but they were kind of an odd couple. She had some trust issues because every girl and guy would stare at him when they went out together. She did feel like people were thinking to themselves “what is he doing with her?”. Eventually, she started cheating on him and they lived in separate apartments. I haven’t talked to her in about a year and a half, so I don’t know where they stand now…

kimmie

February 7th, 2013
11:03 am

Slim – My neice went to see her up in VA and she said her show was off the chain.

SlimNu - Out from under a rock

February 7th, 2013
11:07 am

kimmie – I’ve never seen her in concert but when I think about folks that actually entertain during a show, Janet & Michael Jackson rings up there with Beyonce. I’m sure there are others but they come up first for me. Too bad i’ll never see Michael perform…and what’s up with Janey these days anyway?

Leggs

February 7th, 2013
11:09 am

disco ~ what I felt was wrong with it is not necessarily with Bluz but how people tend to focus on a person’s size. The media rips people apart and our children listen to this and take one’s “physical image” to be the end all of everything. Anorexia, Bulimia, Suicide. Words cut deep and although I realize Bluz wasn’t saying that, that is in fact what I heard and felt.

disco

February 7th, 2013
11:10 am

kimmie – speaking of folks comparing beyonce. the other day on the radio someone said she is the modern day tina turner. thinking about it I said I can get with that comparison.

slim – B is supposed to tour this year. I’d always heard mike epps wasn’t worth the money. surprised to hear that about Kevin hart.

Button

February 7th, 2013
11:11 am

Bluz I don’t know the guy. It’s a letter I got from another site.

kimmie

February 7th, 2013
11:12 am

Girl, when it comes to shows, I only go top shelf unless I am going to something at a smaller venue, like a jazz show at Chastain. I saw MJ 5 times, 3 with his brothers and it does not get any better! You got every last penny worth, like a 2 hour long video, dancers, stage show, sound on point, the whole nine! Same goes for Janet, Prince & Sade. Jill Scott & Maxwell were good too. I judge all shows on those standards now, so Beyonce is the next one I see that could bring it.