Best way to break up?
I saw a really sweet video of a couple who broke up, wrote a song about it, then filmed a music video about it. This is Breaking Up 2.0 people. The mature, totally hip and cool way to end a relationship, complete with a video that goes viral.
If only all break ups can be so thoughtful and coordinated. I’d settle for just making it mutual! There really is no right or wrong way to break up a relationship. There is a way to make it as painless as possible, though. Clearly, sleeping with someone else or sending a random text message does not qualify as painless. Yet, I know two people who were dumped in this way recently.
Breaking up is hard to do, but does it really have to be? What is the most humane and kind way to dump someone? Should the length of time you were together make a difference in how you should end things?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Leggs
February 6th, 2013
2:22 pm
Bluz ~ we know women can have multiple O’s, but 7. I doubt it! Some of those O’s are FAKE!
Button
February 6th, 2013
2:22 pm
you must be rawed out for sure! not trying to be funny but I’m just saying.
Leggs
February 6th, 2013
2:23 pm
Too funny, I see you guys are saying the same. Had to go back to page 2 to see what I missed.
kimmie
February 6th, 2013
2:23 pm
Courtside – Maybe they are quick fake O’s!! LOL!!! Cause now I’m wondering how she can last long enough to fake it that much. If it’s real, it’s all good. Faking for long lengths of time sounds painful!!
disco
February 6th, 2013
2:24 pm
in bluz’s defense (and I don’t know your situation bluz) I have heard of chicks that get there not just from doing “it” but from other forms of stimulation as well. you get in one or two from each “gotcha point” and seven is quite doable.
Bluzgirl
February 6th, 2013
2:25 pm
Court…now, now!
When I first talked to my friends about sex, I thought it was normal to have many in a session, but found out that I was the exception and my girlfriends are jealous. I know how lucky I am…It’s funny, though, that the guys think it’s all them. Nope…that’s just how I am!
Button
February 6th, 2013
2:25 pm
there are bursts of feeling good and then there’s an O those are two different things, heck if I count the burst of feeling good then I can count multiples but when I’m in the “mood” I can’t concentrate on counting anything. my mind is on what’s going on. Who does that anyway?
Leggs
February 6th, 2013
2:27 pm
“I’ve counted double digits many times.” – Bluz, that means 10+!!! Are you kidding me. What damn kind of sex are you having? But let me ask you this, and I’m not trying to be funny. If you’re having that many, do you know what an O really is?
Bluzgirl
February 6th, 2013
2:27 pm
I swear that I can keep going and going until the guy runs out of steam. It doesn’t take much for me…
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 6th, 2013
2:28 pm
LOL…Dude must spend his off time training with Lance Armstrong!!!!!
Bluzgirl
February 6th, 2013
2:29 pm
Leggs – I promise that I know what an O really is. Most of them are tiny ones, but I’ll have a few big ones. A couple of exes used to like to keep count because they were amazed.
Leggs
February 6th, 2013
2:29 pm
And I ask that because all the oo’s and aah’s don’t mean you’re having an O.
kimmie
February 6th, 2013
2:30 pm
Who does that anyway?
Bluz – Those that are faking it!LOL!!!
It’s funny, though, that the guys think it’s all them.
Bluz – It’s not just funny, it’s hilarious!!!
Disco – You are right, it’s doable in different ways, but it does depend on the woman and how “excitable” she is. I just can’t see how you can fake it THAT much and dude be that oblivious to think he’s knocking it out the park!!
Bluzgirl
February 6th, 2013
2:31 pm
Oh no…I know the feeling very, very well…
Button
February 6th, 2013
2:32 pm
lol @ Leggs….I am about to get into trouble over here.
Bluzgirl you need to make a video or conduct a class.
disco
February 6th, 2013
2:34 pm
kimmie – yeah. I had to lend some credibility to bluz because in my youth I was that chick (hot in the azz as my momma used to say). lol. I was getting it in. I, like bluz, was shocked when talking to other chicks and they weren’t getting it like I was getting it. still you hear some say they can only get it this way, that way or the other way. imagine being the chick that can get it all those ways. it’s on and popping. lol.
Bluzgirl
February 6th, 2013
2:35 pm
LOL Button! I don’t think I have much to teach…it just is what it is. I don’t know how I got this way, but have always been this way.
Button
February 6th, 2013
2:36 pm
Bluzgirl — testing your skills—does it shake, clap, rattle, or yank?
Dirty Birds Try to Rise-up
February 6th, 2013
2:36 pm
@Leggs it really is a disservice to the kids. Leggs I started coaching football last year and in order for little Ricky to get playing time, the mother, auntor female friends who is going to take one for little Ricky will have to performed at a SuperBowl level in the Bedroom or little Ricky will continue to ride the bench.
So that’s the secret to Mr. Ex having a stronghold on BluzGirl heart, he is the multi-O maker. lol
I thought all a dude had to do was play an instrument, well I guess I don’t need these Guitar lessons anymore..
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 6th, 2013
2:37 pm
Ok…OK….Since Button asked…I will break down and record it….. (The things I am willing to do for the blog)
Bluzgirl
February 6th, 2013
2:40 pm
Button – Shake, Quiver, and Yank! LOL!!!
Dirty – Mr. Ex doesn’t have a stronghold on my heart anymore. To be honest, I’ve had better in bed…
Button
February 6th, 2013
2:40 pm
one thing about having an “it” no body knows except the woman. since so many women fake it all the time, men can’t tell so she can say she had 20 and he’ll think he’s doing the darn thing.
Bluzgirl
February 6th, 2013
2:41 pm
Dang…I need to go find me a new FWB!!!
Button
February 6th, 2013
2:42 pm
uh huh really so why do I clap then? hmmm everybody knows the wall clap!
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 6th, 2013
2:44 pm
Hey Bluz….
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hpdurzHfpNY
Bluzgirl
February 6th, 2013
2:44 pm
I believe every woman probably experiences different sensations…
All I know is that I will see stars several times if the man is really good, or my body will go numb for a minute, until I’m ready to keep going…
Bluzgirl
February 6th, 2013
2:44 pm
Court…can’t watch Youtube at work…
Button
February 6th, 2013
2:45 pm
lol @ Courtside
disco
February 6th, 2013
2:45 pm
I’m always amazed to hear tales of faking. in the discussions I have with my circle there’s not much faking going on. now, we may grant the occasional “freebie”. you know when you tell dude to hurry up and do him but out and out faking to stroke an ego? never that. i might just have to pat dude on the back and tell him better luck next time.
Bluzgirl
February 6th, 2013
2:46 pm
I only faked with one guy because he was really tiny. I just couldn’t get there cause he couldn’t hit the spot. I was over it, so I faked, jumped off, got dressed, and left!
Leggs
February 6th, 2013
2:46 pm
Ok, Bluz. It’s your body and you know when you’re having convulsions…You are the exception (lol). I hope you don’t flood the bedroom.
Dirty ~ well, you too are doing a disservice. What a horrible thing to. Why you put the kid on the team if you had no intention of playing him?
Button
February 6th, 2013
2:46 pm
Ok Bluzgirl I’m going to let you have it. I rest my case. But I still want to see pictures, video or a class
Button
February 6th, 2013
2:50 pm
disco not every woman can even have an “it” some reasons are genetics others are psychological. Count youselves special if you can get an “it”.
Bluzgirl
February 6th, 2013
2:51 pm
LOL! I know there’s a video out there somewhere…the ex fiance probably still watches it all the time!
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 6th, 2013
2:52 pm
Bluz…can you squirt????
Leggs
February 6th, 2013
2:53 pm
Definitely O/T and I don’t mean to offend, but do men suffer with “penis envy?”
Women don’t suffer with vagina envy, but you know you have a pencil d…, or a stubby one, or a numb. I’ve always wondered if man felt bad (cuz we do).
disco
February 6th, 2013
2:55 pm
leggs – of course they feel bad. thing is they can’t admit to feeling bad because then they’d have to admit to the deficiency and you know they aren’t trying to do that. lol.
Celisea
February 6th, 2013
2:57 pm
Lawd, what in the heck did I just walk in on????
Didn’t we have UGA guy to come on and talk about hitting up the little leaguers mommies? SMH
Alright, I’m back out of here…y’all have a blast!! lol
Bluzgirl
February 6th, 2013
2:57 pm
Ok Court…I’m not answering that one. Some things can be left private!
Dirty Bird (FWB) for BluzGirl
February 6th, 2013
2:58 pm
@Leggs…. I make sure all the kids play. The league I coach in we advocates everyone plays. The women just want to come over and go over the plays I will run for their kids. lol
BluzGirl might be having an O right now! lol
Note to self… Disco is in toon with her inner-self….Nice,very nice!
Bluzgirl
February 6th, 2013
3:00 pm
Dirty – you crazy!!! LOL
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 6th, 2013
3:01 pm
Leggs, since it looks like I am teh only guy here today, i will speak and say I imagine some do….but I don’t…. Since I am not running around doing ding-a-ling checks, I can not speack to what somebody else is packing, but I am awfully proud of mine…I always stand tall when requested and have never failed to bring the rain when it was time to perform!! ( Plus, I gots that killa tongue action!!!)
Dirty Bird (FWB) for BluzGirl
February 6th, 2013
3:02 pm
Court of course BluzGirl is a squirter, slapper, spanker etc..
@Leggs sometimes you run into a huge cavern and there is nothing you can do with it, but get yours and keep it moving. Unless she gives great u know what then u comeback a few more times.
Button
February 6th, 2013
3:03 pm
I remember reading an article were this woman said she had 100 “it’s” a day without any help. She had a dysfunction that when the seam touched it she automatically had one. Good grief I would be just TIRED!!
Button
February 6th, 2013
3:04 pm
that’s what you say Coutside, but that’s not what I heard LOL
Bluzgirl
February 6th, 2013
3:05 pm
Button – I could NOT handle having that dysfunction. Some people probably think that would be a dream, but no thank you! I stick with what I got in the bedroom!
Leggs
February 6th, 2013
3:11 pm
Celisea ~ I thought of UGA with Dirty’s post. Dirty has a fitting name!
Button
February 6th, 2013
3:13 pm
Dirty bird you forgot spitter
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 6th, 2013
3:14 pm
I promise….I can work the “Button” like there it’s the las supper!!!
Leggs
February 6th, 2013
3:17 pm
Button ~ I remember reading an article about a woman who had the dysfunction of having countless O’s all day every day. It ruined her life. She committed suicide about 2 months ago. Maybe a little longer than 2 months ago.