Dating: Nothing good happens after 2am
Have you ever met someone, exchanged phone numbers and then launched a texting relationship? Weeks later and neither of you have made the move to set up plans for face to face time. Yeah. What IS that?
It’s funny because you have these “pseudo” conversations, in an email or through text messages, and it begins to become a deterrent! Is that a sign that there is no real attraction? I think when you start to get the sense that you are being “maintained” with half efforts, it’s time to cut your losses. If you do nothing and let things continue as is, one night, around 2:00 in the morning, you’ll get that random text: “What’s up? Are you busy?” We all know that nothing good happens after 2:00 am, right?
When should you put a stop to the text messages and emails as the sole means of communication? Do you think that getting to know someone via technology can lead you to a false sense of familiarity or security?
How do you handle late night text messages or phone calls?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Lee
February 5th, 2013
7:01 am
I will not answer, and if i do , get ready to be blasted if you ring my phone, texts maybe you might be lucky if i respond the next day..not sure.. but people need to learn manners.
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
February 5th, 2013
8:19 am
Depends…
It matters how you feel about the person. If you like them, you’ll answer and allay (some of) those doubts about their intentions.
If you don’t (like them), you’ll….have a different response.
As for text messages and emails as communication, I for one don’t mind it; again, depending on the circumstances. If the person is often busy or in a place where phone calls may not be appropriate vs a few [read: limited] texts would be permissible, then cool.
Context matters.
SlimNu - Out from under a rock
February 5th, 2013
8:42 am
Good morning,
I do not get late night text messages or calls…if I did, I wouldn’t answer them unless it was something I already had planned.
disco
February 5th, 2013
8:50 am
good morning. must say I’m a tad bit disappointed that today’s topic is supposed to be “grown folks’ conversation”. lol personally I think texting as a primary form of communication is on the juvenile side. sure adults can take advantage of the conveniences of text messaging they just shouldn’t be relying on it. of course, this is all just my opinion. I, for one, do not use text messaging at all. literally have incoming messages blocked. it’s amazing that I’ve had texting blocked for years, people who know me know this and yet I still am constantly told by this person or the other that they sent me a text. oh well. it’s in a text graveyard somewhere.
Button
February 5th, 2013
8:58 am
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Button
February 5th, 2013
9:02 am
Good morning, I just had this very conversation with my little sister this week about texting a new guy she met. Is this really acceptable way of communicating now? If I give a man my number I expect a phone call not a text. I can agree with Dan but only when a relationship has been established.
As for the 2 am phone call, no way. it will go to voicemail.
disco
February 5th, 2013
9:02 am
btw – the topic about after 2am reminds me of my grandmother. she used to always say “ain’t nothing open that time of night but legs”. lol.
Celisea
February 5th, 2013
9:07 am
When should you put a stop to the text messages and emails as the sole means of communication?
This is a behavior IMO, that should never be allowed in the first place. I always feel like you should set the tone from the beginning of what acceptable versus not. I’m irritated by folks that know how to do nothing but text. I get the purpose of emoticons, but all the smileys in the world won’t make me feel or see for that matter, emotions and expressions. Shoot, I’ve been known to stick a smiley, even at work, behind a sentence where I’m dying to get something said and leave the person wondering, did she meant it that way??? lol Or slap an “lol” behind somethng to take the edge off of it. Anyhoo, texting if it’s a matter of convenience and I need to get a quick message with no time to talk or I’m in a situation where I can’t talk at all.
And to Diva’s other questions, absolutely not, you cannot get to know someone behind the screen….of course IMHO
As for texting after 2:00, ummm you’ll get igged and eventually blocked.
Button
February 5th, 2013
9:09 am
When should you put a stop to the text messages and emails as the sole means of communication? If you have a problem with it, it should be addressed in the very beginning.
Do you think that getting to know someone via technology can lead you to a false sense of familiarity or security? Yes, and you can be catfished too. I think it’s pure laziness to send a text instead of picking up the phone and calling. I also think it’s a generational thing also. It’s just like sitting in the same room and sending a text instead of speaking to the person across the room from you. I’ve personally went through this. I was blown away.
Celisea
February 5th, 2013
9:10 am
I almost posted the “nothing open after midnight……….”, a coworker says, but I didn’t want to go there this early…lol
Button
February 5th, 2013
9:19 am
I don’t care for the 12 am text/call either.
Celisea
February 5th, 2013
9:20 am
My friend gave me three choices for dinner Thursday…..Cajun Queen, Flemings or McCormick & Schmicks. I’ve never had either.
Button
February 5th, 2013
9:26 am
Celisea I love McCormicks & Schmicks. They have the snug booth where you can close the curtians and it’s as if you have the place to yourselves.
Celisea
February 5th, 2013
9:35 am
Button – Cool! I was really leaning towards that place because like I said, I’ve never been. We have one downtown Atlanta that I’ve eyed but never made it there…lol Flemings is my friend’s first choice.
IMissAtlanta
February 5th, 2013
9:42 am
Never happened. But I would def let it go to vm and never communicate with that person again. Where is the respect here? Besides, I always made it clear that any calls after 10pm were considered to be late.
Bluzgirl...Suffering a blues hangover!
February 5th, 2013
9:43 am
Morning all!!! Anything happen while I was away?
If you don’t like the 2 am call, then you simply ignore it and continue to ignore the person afterwards. No big deal…
Robert
February 5th, 2013
9:46 am
” around 2:00 in the morning, you’ll get that random text: “What’s up? Are you busy?”
This texting problem is unacceptable. People have no respect and use texting as an excuse for their inappropriate behaviour. I will not date a woman is who constantly sending and receiving text messages. I think a man who is constantly sending and receiving text messages is acting just like a woman. Silly, immature, cowards afraid to say what they want.
Real Men do not send text messages. Only young, inexperienced men send text messages. If you see an older man texting, he is most likely gay. You can tell a Man who grew-up in a household without a real father because they will act just like their mother.
IMissAtlanta
February 5th, 2013
9:47 am
Do you think that getting to know someone via technology can lead you to a false sense of familiarity or security?
Not necessarily. Right now, technology is the best way to communicate. Texting, emails…. actually are easier then picking up the phone when you are busy working. Eventually, leading to phones calls later on. I don’t think thats leading on. Its part of dating in the current. Get used to it.
MsAtl
February 5th, 2013
9:57 am
Morning All!
Disco- I had to laugh at your grandmother’s comment because I used to say ain’t nothing open after midnight except legs and Crystal’s. Lol
I find nothing wrong with texting, but I would not accept it as a primary means of communication.
disco
February 5th, 2013
10:00 am
Robert – some days I do not know who is more off you or exiled. so far, today, you are winning. texting as girly or gay? really?
Celisea
February 5th, 2013
10:01 am
I will say though, texting has been the channel for me to get something off my chest, if I’m irked to no end but want to sound rational and not too abrasive. Not saying I haven’t gotten abrasive in a text cause I have. But, it’s been a means for me to lay it out there, chosing my words and calmly talk later. Don’t judge me.
Button
February 5th, 2013
10:09 am
mighty sexist of you Robert! texting = girly?
Button
February 5th, 2013
10:10 am
one might say a man who blogs is gay…now what Robert
Robert
February 5th, 2013
10:13 am
@disco – I can only speak for myself and I try to tell the truth about a real subject matter like “texting”. I am a Man and I do not use texting as a form of communication. I think texting is for women and not for men just like other things today that young inexperienced men do such as wearing earrings (2), sagging pants to show their underwear, multiple tatoos, etc.. I am surprised that women accept texting from a man as a proper form of communications or any other stupid things they do to their appearance that make them standout whether or not it is appropriate or not. Texting is for women not for men.
I am glad my woman would rather hear my voice and talk to me on the phone rather than read a text message from me.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 5th, 2013
10:16 am
Am I in a time machine or something????? Of course dating in todays world will involve texting and e-mails and whatnot…. Just like having a conversation about dating will happen on a blog or social media as oppsed to the lucnch counter at Mels Diner!!!! I for one have a busy life…. I do not have time to sit around on teh phone for extended periods having general conversations…. I text, make short calls, a quick e-mail or whatever……Social media of all types are a part of our world, I see nothing wrong with using it. Now if you get that 2am call, It does not matter what you think because the person on the other end has already put you designated you a botty call…He does not care what you think at that point anyway…….
disco
February 5th, 2013
10:20 am
Robert – I am a woman and I don’t text message either. did you not read the post where I indicated that I completely disabled the service on my phone? while I do think texting as a primary use of communication is for youngsters I understand that some adults use it for convenience. I also understand that some adults use it as a primary form of communication. personally I think that’s when “game” comes in. that’s when I suspect that half a dozen folks are getting that same “what’s up, thinking about you, what you doing” generic azz message.
robert – young men with tattoos ultimately become old men with tattoos.
courtside – did you say mel’s diner? dang.
in defense of the 2am calls. granted I understand the booty call concept but just for the sake of argument we’ll say that every now and again it really is just an “I miss you and I wanted to hear your voice” call. maybe, just maybe, it’s not an effort to swing by. maybe, just maybe, it really is an innocent call albeit in the middle of the night. lol.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 5th, 2013
10:21 am
Damn…sounds like Robert might have some questions about HIS manhood…. You need a hug bruh???
disco
February 5th, 2013
10:34 am
courtside – the fact that you are willing to hug a man who might be questioning his manhood indicates that you are either 1) confident in yours or 2) the gay texting brother with tattoos and sagging pants of which robert speaks. which is it? lol.
Robert
February 5th, 2013
10:40 am
@Button – I hope my comments about “texting” answer some of your questions about the differences between men and women and how we think about communications.
Why Men Do Not Text – Top 3 Reasons
1. Texting was invented for women. Just like birth control pills.
2. Texting is not masculine. No Man plays with their fingers. ADHD
3. Texting requires spelling. Men would rather say-it than spell-it.
disco
February 5th, 2013
10:44 am
robert – I have to ask if you are humoring us this morning? nothing like a good joke to start the day. lol. please. let’s face it. certain types of men absolutely love text messaging. they can tell all their women “happy valentine’s day” at the same time at the touch of a button. they can send their wife/wifey a message about working late while they are at their jumpoff’s house. texting invented for women? please. what for? so they can text hubs to pick up some milk on the way home? quit tripping dude.
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
February 5th, 2013
10:54 am
@Robert
Your logic is specious; a rebuttal
1. Texting prevents talking, what man wouldn’t like that
2. What woman doesn’t like a man with digital dexterity
3. A ‘grown’ man – nay, an adult – learns to spell things correctly, instead of coping out
Button
February 5th, 2013
10:55 am
Texting was invented for women. Just like birth control pills. lol @Robert you are entitled to your opinion for sure.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 5th, 2013
11:02 am
disco, Mornign sweetie
No problems with my manhood… Confident enough to hug it out when needed, smart enough to talk it out when needed and strong enough to …… well you get the picture
Robert
February 5th, 2013
11:02 am
The link below is an article about high school teenagers producing their own porno sex/texting.
http://www.washingtonpost.com/local/teenage-quest-for-fame-produces-scary-consequences/2013/02/04/6c6396f0-6f0a-11e2-8b8d-e0b59a1b8e2a_story.html?hpid=z4
disco
February 5th, 2013
11:03 am
the argument could be made that birth control pills were invented for men. gives them the opportunity to possibly get more cooter than they could get if old girl was worried about getting knocked up. not only that but the men are the ones that would be weeping and moaning and whining when the child support order was finalized.
what’s up dan with your superior self?
Bluzgirl...Suffering a blues hangover!
February 5th, 2013
11:05 am
Many times, I prefer to communicate via text. That is because I’m on the phone at work all day and don’t like to talk a lot in the evenings. I guess a lot depends on if I’m really digging the guy…
disco
February 5th, 2013
11:09 am
hey bluz – I guess your hangover comment is our invitation to ask how was Memphis. so, how was Memphis?
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 5th, 2013
11:11 am
Read the story Robert….. sounds like their little bad azzes were anything but gay….. What was your point????
Leggs
February 5th, 2013
11:18 am
When should you put a stop to the text messages and emails as the sole means of communication? Silly rabbit, when you realize that’s the only way you two communicate (and hopefully it doesn’t take long to realize this), bring to his attention. If he continues, you have only one choice, RUN FOR HILLS!
Morning….
Robert
February 5th, 2013
11:21 am
@Courtside – My point was texting is ruining our society. When I was a teenager I did not have a “beeper” or a cell phone. Know look at these high school teenagers destroying their lives before they get started, especially the girls who will have negative images of their bodies posted online.
disco
February 5th, 2013
11:24 am
robert – I recall once upon a time on the blog asking bluz if she found that people in her company shook their heads a lot. now I have to ask you the same. do you notice folks shaking their heads a lot during conversations with you? do they squint their eyes a little bit and look and one another before bringing their attention back to you? I’m just curious.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 5th, 2013
11:29 am
Come on Robert, The means and the availabilty is different, but when you were 16 years old you were swiping and sharing you uncles Penthouse mags and trying like hell to get some any which way you could… and then you were running a fast as you could to your buddy Man Man to tell him Shae let you put your fingers in it. My point is that this is not new. The message travels a whole lot faster, but even then, the same thing was going on…..
Single and Happy I tried, I really tried!! (LMAO)
February 5th, 2013
11:30 am
Hey all
Disco, I have to ask you, do you suffer from migraines? because if you don’t you will be soon (LMAO)
Falcon Fans Rise-Up
February 5th, 2013
11:30 am
Morning!
I can wait to here about Bluzgirl weekend in Memphis, she is one of a kind. lol
I am not big into texting, I do prefer to speak and hear a person voice on the phone. Listening to a person speak provides evidence regarding the potential 2pm that it might work. I really don’t see anything wrong with a booty call, it’s sex. Just enjoy it!
HALO46 from Virginia please come back!
@Whats up Ms. Disco?
Single and Happy I tried, I really tried!! (LMAO)
February 5th, 2013
11:34 am
and I’m going to jump right in, When I was a teenager I did not have a “beeper” or a cell phone. neither did I!! Oh wait nobody did because they weren’t around!!
@Robert, what is your age that would have made you have these things, it has to be younger than 40!
disco
February 5th, 2013
11:40 am
s/h – surprisingly I do not suffer from headaches or migraines. I like to believe it’s because I don’t hold much in. now, I wouldn’t be surprised if folks around me had headaches or migraines. I suppose I’m one of those folks that can just take you there.
s/h – by the way, what did you try? really try?
hey falcon.
abc
February 5th, 2013
11:40 am
When should you put a stop to the text messages and emails as the sole means of communication? One should NEVER use text messages and email as a sole means of communication. There are only 5 people who I permit to text me, and I only allow that because they’re my kids, my wife, and one other person.
Do you think that getting to know someone via technology can lead you to a false sense of familiarity or security? I don’t see how that could be possible. Unless you have an unrealistic view of what getting to know someone really is, or what real familiarity and security are.
How do you handle late night text messages or phone calls?
Bluzgirl...Suffering a blues hangover!
February 5th, 2013
11:41 am
Memphis was absolutely incredible!!! Words really can’t describe the fun we had. My voice still isn’t back 100%. Our solo musician won the competition, so that made it even more awesome. I feel like I’m getting old cause I’m still so tired, even though I slept most of the day yesterday! LOL!
abc
February 5th, 2013
11:41 am
How do you handle late night text messages or phone calls? It had better be for work, and even then it had better be really, really necessary.
disco
February 5th, 2013
11:52 am
s/h – for fun maybe we can list some of the things we did have as kids/teens since we didn’t have pagers and whatnot. I remember having starter skates. you know the ones where you wear your shoes and slip them into the skate? I then graduated to a pair of real skates. indoor/outdoor. white with a red and blue stripe. my brother had a pair that was blue with a red and white stripe. when I got older (old enough for the all night skating parties) I got some serious skates. the all white ones with the orange stopper and the big fuzzy think on the toe. oh. and because I didn’t have a cell phone I had dimes (yes dimes) to call for a ride from the skating rink.
abc
February 5th, 2013
11:54 am
Here’s the biggest difference between parenting kids these days and what our parents had to deal with: kids today have their own cell phones, texting, and email that parents don’t necessarily have access to — in most cases they have zero access, I’d wager — and that provides the kids a privacy in communication that didn’t previously exist. It’s a lot easier for kids, therefore, to lie to their parents about their activities and whereabouts.
I actually agree with Robert regarding women being more conducive to texting than men. I know many women for whom texting is a primary communications method — not the sole method, but a primary one. It’s to the point of my asking sweetie to turn off the dayum phone at night, I get tired of hearing it chirp.
disco
February 5th, 2013
11:56 am
as far as electronics go I remember getting my first polaroid camera and thinking it was all that. a few years later I got a Kodak disc. by then you really couldn’t tell me nothing. “I’m gonna get you with the Kodak disc”. lol. and since there was no gameboy or Nintendo ds I had the tabletop pacman and donkey kong games. I’m sorry y’all. I’m having fun with this.
Leggs
February 5th, 2013
12:03 pm
“When I was a teenager I did not have a “beeper” or a cell phone. neither did I!! Oh wait nobody did because they weren’t around!!” –
Well, when I was a teenager, beepers, carphones and cellphones were around. The big bulky ones you carried around like a man’s bag off your shoulder. You were THE man if you walked around with bulky arse cell phone. That was funny, looking back. There he goes ditty bopping down the street….
Late night texts aren’t responded to. Look at the phone, then read msg in the morning. It’s already late, or I’m sleeping, don’t have to be a rocket scientist to figure out what the text might say…it can wait….ZZZZZZZZZZZ!!
disco
February 5th, 2013
12:05 pm
then the sony walkman and eventually the discman. of course, we were poor, so we never had real sony. I think we had GPX but we still got it in. just last night I was telling someone that I had a trapper keeper and they were like for what. I got it as a gag gift a few years ago and just couldn’t part with it. shoot, once upon a time (long before ipad) the trapper keeper was an organizational masterpiece. one’s trapper keeper was their identity. lol.
okay. looks like y’all have dipped and I’m down memory lane all alone.
Button
February 5th, 2013
12:08 pm
Please share your thoughts——: I am a zaftig woman of 40 yrs. I recently met a man who asked me out on a date. We went to dinner and had a nice time, but during dinner he said that he was attracted to me because of my weight (he likes big girls) he asked me what size I wore and how much I weighed. I was put off by that and told him so, he blew it off like it was nothing. Now I think he has a big girl fetish and is not really interested in me. We have not been out since … I am skittish. Is this my issue? Is it any different if a man says he likes big breasts and only goes out with women with big breasts? Or am I wise to move on?
disco
February 5th, 2013
12:10 pm
button – I think old dude was okay until he asked for numbers. he likes big girls. fine. he can see you are a big girl. all good. but if he needs to confirm exactly how big you are (officially, technically, on paper) then I find it all suspect.
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
February 5th, 2013
12:19 pm
@abc
I not only read my kid’s cell phone, but I sporadically view her FB page as well and make her sit there as I do both.
Some of the things we ’suffered’ as children, we appreciate as adults. Hopefully, me caring enough to check on her safety is one of those things.
Bluzgirl...Suffering a blues hangover!
February 5th, 2013
12:23 pm
disco – I LOVED my trapper keeper! I forgot about those. Always had to have a funky colored one.
Button – Hmmmm…I think I would keep it moving just because he asked for numbers. That is just plain rude.
disco
February 5th, 2013
12:25 pm
bluz / button – yep. the fact that he asked for numbers (and on the first date) leads me to believe he is playing. making he and his boys have a big girl bet or something going on. like I said, the whole thing is suspect. later for him.
kimmie
February 5th, 2013
12:38 pm
Afternoon Gang!
Just popped in to say hello, not via text tho!LOL!!
Topic – It’s all about what you allow. Also, when you know better you generally do better. And some of both genders do not know any better. They never had anyone show or tell them that what they are doing isn’t acceptable. Some of the guys don’t understand to call a young lady and properly communicate and the ladies themselves don’t know to require it. After a relationship is established, sure a text every now and then is okay.
As for the 2am texts, it could be a booty call or not. Depends on what the texts says! Unless it’s an emergency or you are very familiar with each other, any calls/texts before 2am are not proper. You can tell those that have good home-training!
Tootles!!
Single and Happy I tried, I really tried!! (LMAO)
February 5th, 2013
12:41 pm
Disco, trying not to join this debate about men and texting
kimmie
February 5th, 2013
12:42 pm
Sorry, meant to say calls/texts before 8 or 9am!
disco
February 5th, 2013
12:43 pm
s/h – man please. I’m talking about roller skates, trapper keepers and walkmen. lol. so, did you figure out where to go on your trip?
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 5th, 2013
12:44 pm
Button, I think your issues with your size may have cost you and him a chance…… he is no different than the guy that only likes light skin chicks of the girl that only likes guys over six feet…..
Single and Happy I tried, I really tried!! (LMAO)
February 5th, 2013
12:45 pm
Disco the one thing I remember have as a kid was an imagination, could always find something to do. I had racing tracks, train sets, got a new bicycle every year.
disco
February 5th, 2013
12:49 pm
courtside – I disagree. like I said, I find old boy suspect. it’s okay if he likes big girls for him to tell her straight up that that is what attracted him. to be asking her what size she is and how much she weighs is off. granted, I’m the chick who would have just answered the question. I don’t care but most chicks do care. dude was crass and inappropriate (or I’ll toss him a bone and call him ignorant). either way, I think button should leave him to the next big girl.
Single and Happy I tried, I really tried!! (LMAO)
February 5th, 2013
12:50 pm
ABC, if you as a parent have no access to something you are paying the bill for, then that would be on you!
Disco, I’m going to Punta Cana DR
Button
February 5th, 2013
12:52 pm
the article is not about me, I wanted to share and throw something new in the mix…with today’s topic.
Button
February 5th, 2013
12:53 pm
Courtside I agree
Dynamic
February 5th, 2013
1:02 pm
I grew up with beepers and then cell phones being popular. I find that texting can be ok to use to commuincate. What I have a problem with is when we are texting and you call my phone w/o asking if I’m free to talk!
kimmie
February 5th, 2013
1:08 pm
Button- That’s one of those cases I refer to when I say some people lack finese. There is a smoothness, some class, that is lacking. I think it’s something you either have or you don’t. If you don’t you need to be open to learning. Not only is asking for exact numbers inappropriate, saying I am attracted to big, dark, light, long, anything is inappropriate until you are established with someone. That’s just me and how I was raised though. I mean, if she’s big she no doubt knows it already, so no need for him to point that out even though he may be attracted to it. Her “hangups” if she has them are hers alone. Throwing something up in someones face with no tact and saying “hey deal with it, I’m a straight shooter” is crass.
Button
February 5th, 2013
1:18 pm
Your thoughts??? Marriage (Married the Perfect Guy, but Maybe the Wrong Guy for Me): I am married to a kind, generous, attractive, wonderful man. The problem? I am not attracted to him. Actually, I am sometimes turned-off by him. I have battled these feelings since before we even got married. I think I married him because he is such a wonderful person, and I thought I would be blowing it if I passed on the opportunity to spend my life with someone who treats me so well. He knows that I have issues with attraction to him. Right now, I consider us great roommates and friends, but not lovers. The turn-offs? First, in the time that I have known him, he has become increasingly involved with transcendental meditation, spending hours a day on it, and traveling all over the country for extended conferences. He’s so sensitive that he won’t even kill a bug that’s indoors—he picks it up and puts it outside. How can I even think about leaving someone who is so good to me? Who does that? Help—I have a 90 percent perfect marriage, but that 10 percent that’s missing is killing me. Wanting 10 percent more.
Button
February 5th, 2013
1:19 pm
I co sign @Kimmie.
kimmie
February 5th, 2013
1:29 pm
Button – I hate it when I read about situations like that 1:18. Her first mistake was marrying him. He never should have married her either. Both are cheating themselves. Everyone has a right to have someone totally into them. They won’t have everything on your “list” because no one is perfect, but there is a perfect person for you. You won’t “learn” to love or be attracted to anyone. And you can’t “be nice” someone to death to make them love or be attracted to you. He knew she wasn’t into his “differentness”, but he didn’t have the self-esteem to go for someone that did. She didn’t follow her heart and is probably listening to others, telling her she would be crazy to give up such a “good” man. They both deserve exactly what they are getting.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 5th, 2013
1:36 pm
Button, She should take a loooooooong look in the mirror and really decide what she wants…. She can pack up and leave of she can look inside and see if what she currently has is worse than what she might be able to find. She claims that she has a 90% perfect marriage…. Is teh 10% enough to toss teh 90%??? I say you would be crazy to do so……
abc
February 5th, 2013
1:39 pm
I think if she’s not attracted to him, even turned off by him, and he knows it, they’re already done.
Single and Happy I tried, I really tried!! (LMAO)
February 5th, 2013
1:42 pm
Button, this is very simple! Who wants to be married to their roommate? if this is how she feels, she needs to leave so they both can truly be happy. from just that short know, she said he’s good to her, but only described something that turned her off! It’s like with everything else in life, when you don’t like something every little thing irritates the heck out of you!
Leggs
February 5th, 2013
1:42 pm
Button ~ very grave concern, and I wonder how such a little percentage carries the most weight in that relationship. She’s cheated herself out of the entire package. He’s kind to her, loves her, treats her like gold, but she in turn can’t do the same. She shouldn’t have married. Sometimes, you have to walk away from the good ones too!
And, not all bugs are worthy of being picked up and thrown outside. Sometimes you have to stomp them to death. I need a man that can do that cuz I can’t.
On top of that, with all of his traveling, knowing his wife isn’t attracted to him, does she really feel he’s being faithful. We all need to be shown appreciation. Someone else may be giving him that 10% she can’t.
kimmie
February 5th, 2013
1:51 pm
Leggs – I think she has the percentages wrong. Obviously what she wants is worth more than 10 percent. And you are certainly right about having to throw back the good ones sometimes. Being nice is not enough. People act like “nice” is such a hard quality to find, like you have to hold on to it no matter what kind of package it’s wrapped up in. Every nice person is not spouse-material.
Button
February 5th, 2013
1:52 pm
Sounds to me that the letter writer wanted the title and not the marriage and there were no one else offering a hand in marriage so she went with him. If she knew that she wasn’t attracted to the guy why accept his proposal and go thru with the wedding? She comes off as a selfish self-centered person.
Button
February 5th, 2013
1:56 pm
Being nice is hard to find Kimmie, at least from what I’ve seen. There are some very mean men out there. conniving and manipulating. I can see her sticking with the guy for his nice qualities but to marry him even when she knows she’s not attracted to him is just crazy. She should’ve reap the rewards of having a nice, generous & attactive friend.
kimmie
February 5th, 2013
1:59 pm
Button – Men like the guy she married irritate me as well, Button. He doesn’t get off scott-free in this either. A person can only do so much faking, so they know up front when a chick isn’t into them. Then as time goes on and things don’t get any better, they act like the victim “oh I was so nice to her, I’m a nice guy, why won’t she love me, women only want the bad guys, etc”. Naw, I want a man with a backbone and some self-respect!
Button
February 5th, 2013
2:01 pm
Back and Forth Boyfriend: I have a very nice guy who has been in and out of my life for a variety of reasons. He’s getting himself together, and we’re thinking about starting a romantic relationship again. The problem is my friends. They are all very intellectual and put a high premium on reading and knowing the current events of the day, as do I. He barely passed high school and has tried college several times. He’s so intimidated by my friends that he starts explaining the simplest concepts of whatever we’re talking about at the time, and he babbles on and on. I’ve tried tapping him on the shoulder or nudging him to let him know it’s time to let someone else speak or simply to distract him, but he doesn’t take the hint and consistently sticks his foot in his mouth and insults my friends by explaining common knowledge concepts to them. I believe he thinks it makes him sound intelligent. He thinks he is keeping up in the conversations, but I’ve had several people approach me asking why I’m with him and why I bring him around if he’s going to talk down to everyone. I’m not sure about where we are going romantically, but he is a very old friend and I want to include him in my life. What can I do to help him?
Button
February 5th, 2013
2:05 pm
@Kimme he’s aware that she’s not attracted to him as well. They both are in it for selfish reasons.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 5th, 2013
2:05 pm
Maybe if he walked in the house and “mushed” her in the face, or left his dirty socks in the living room. or pissed in the toilet, left the seat up AND did not flush, she would find a way to be attracted to him then……
kimmie
February 5th, 2013
2:06 pm
Button – Probelm is, everyones definition of “nice” is different. Some qualify anyone that’s doesn’t hit them and comes home every night nice. Or one that buys them anything they want. A lot of so-called nice guys can manipulate in so many different ways. And no they are not openly mean or nasty, but yes, there are a lot of them out there. No matter how nice there must be attraction.
Leggs
February 5th, 2013
2:07 pm
You said it right, kimmie!
kimmie
February 5th, 2013
2:10 pm
Button – They all know, thus my 1:59. He went into it eyes open, so I don’t feel a bit sorry for him.
Courtside – You sound like one of those dudes I describe in my 1:59. Playing the victim, saying women only want the bad guys.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 5th, 2013
2:12 pm
Button, this is the easist one of all…… Don’t take him around your “high Brow” friends…… If you guys are that close, talk him.. if all else fails…. Hang out with some of his dumb ass friends sometimes…..
Button
February 5th, 2013
2:16 pm
The letter writter for back and forth boyfriend seems to be slightly snobbish to her boyfriend and her friends as well are snobby. She should date someone on her level if she feels she need to monitor what he says around her friends.
Mrs. SexyCool
February 5th, 2013
2:17 pm
Hello, Folks.
I miss y’all.
Button
February 5th, 2013
2:18 pm
Trust Issue: I was in a 10-month relationship with a man I love very much. Never in my life have I ever felt loved by someone. I always imagined sharing my life with him. Being with him felt so right. However, I was getting frustrated about our situation—he is still married with kids but he and his wife are separated. I came from a conservative family where everyone expected that I would get married properly with someone who is single and stable. I love this man with all my heart and I know I would commit myself to him for a lifetime. But I started getting anxious and I wanted to know if I am missing out on having that cookie cutter relationship. So about a month ago, I registered in a dating website and responded back to a man’s invitation to chat. I didn’t feel anything for the guy the way that I felt for my boyfriend. All the text message I sent were all platonic, and four days ago I stopped texting him. The problem was my boyfriend found the text messages and was so angry—he thinks that everything is a lie from the beginning. He thinks I have been talking to other guys. He told me that he was committed to me 100 percent but I didn’t stay true to him. He also said that I made him a means to an end. And that I lied to him. I love him so much and I begged for him to take me back and forgive me. What do you think I should do?
kimmie
February 5th, 2013
2:19 pm
Button – It’s not her job to help him or take him on as a project. It would only take one time for him to act the fool around my friends. Sounds like she’s not accepting him for who he is and is trying to change him. It’s like she’s trying to mold him into her perfect man. Why not just be friends and find someone that can at least meet her at her intellectual level? Him constantly being intimidated and her molding him is only going to emasculate him, in my opinion. They are from 2 different worlds.
Mrs. SexyCool
February 5th, 2013
2:20 pm
Button – he is still married?
Button
February 5th, 2013
2:22 pm
@ SexyCool – still married but separated.
Mrs. SexyCool
February 5th, 2013
2:23 pm
Oh…so he’s still married. Okay.
Exiled!
February 5th, 2013
2:25 pm
Button there is nothing wrong with asking for ur weight digits unless u or him establish in ur mind that weight is a Negative.
If I say/tell chic I like them tall and ask her for her height,I don’t see the problem.
Now,if u think he does not mean it,then that’s different.
Trust ur own conscience.
Mrs. SexyCool
February 5th, 2013
2:25 pm
A married (but separated) man couldn’t make any demands on me. He is in no position to do so.
Bluzgirl...Suffering a blues hangover!
February 5th, 2013
2:26 pm
It can be very difficult to let the nice guy go, but I had to do that years ago. I was engaged to the nicest man, who loved me completely. He would have done anything for me. Problem was that I was becoming a social butterfly and he was happy just staying home all the time. I started to see that we wouldn’t be a great match. It took me a long time to break up with him because I didn’t want to hurt his feelings. To this day, he is the only man who truly loved me, but if I had married him, I would have been unhappy…
Mrs. SexyCool
February 5th, 2013
2:26 pm
And how does a person *find* your text messages?!?
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 5th, 2013
2:26 pm
Kimmie, I never said he was a victim… all I am saying is in most relationships to get 90% of what you want is pretty good.. In fact its great… just not sure if throwing it away to search for the other 10% is so smart…..
disco
February 5th, 2013
2:34 pm
courtside – I kind of agree. after all, you really can’t have everything. if anything I think old girl is just attention seeking and being childish about it in the process by putting old boy down. later for her. she ain’t nobody.
Single and Happy I tried, I really tried!! (LMAO)
February 5th, 2013
2:36 pm
Court, Disco, since she apparently never loved this guy, isn’t that the important 10%. And you know how some people let others influence their lives, never want to disappoint anyone.
Button
February 5th, 2013
2:36 pm
Exile the letter is not about me. I have no weight issues.
disco
February 5th, 2013
2:37 pm
s/h – depends on who you ask. I’m not a romantic so to me that part is not the most important part. old girl likely isn’t a romantic either or maybe she wasn’t when she decided to marry him. she got married on a practical tip and something changed and now she wants more. stuff happens.
kimmie
February 5th, 2013
2:38 pm
Courtside – That’s why I said I think she got her percentages wrong and attraction obviously is worth more than 10% to her. I bet it’s worth more than that to most people. Attraction affects too many other things in the relationship for it to have only a 10% weight. I bet if you took a poll of people that felt their marriage was happy, they would probably say they have at least 80% of the qualities they want in a mate. The 20% lacking is not something that’s a dealbreaker.
I didn’t say you said he was a victim. But saying he should be mean and abusive, thus a “bad boy” is victim mentality.
disco
February 5th, 2013
2:39 pm
button – in ex’ defense when you posted the first letter I did think it was a personal post.
Single and Happy I tried, I really tried!! (LMAO)
February 5th, 2013
2:40 pm
Disco, you could be with someone with out loving them? I mean she never loved him at all.
kimmie
February 5th, 2013
2:40 pm
disco – Romantic or not, attraction affects intimacy – SEX! I bet most will tell you that’s worth more than 10% of a relationship. It’s certainly enough to make you feel like something MAJOR is missing!
disco
February 5th, 2013
2:45 pm
s/h – kimmie – I’m just saying that a lot of folks marry for a lot of reasons that aren’t love. a lot of women latch on to men because they believe they will make good providers. when faced with the choice of man I love who might not be able to feed me and my kids and man I can tolerate who will, they go with the man that can feed them. sure I know that’s basic and there’s more to it than that. I’m just saying that I understand that love isn’t always an individual’s primary motivation. it doesn’t sound like it was old girl’s motivation. I’m thinking something changed in her life for her situation to all of a sudden be intolerable when it wasn’t that intolerable to begin with.
s/h – exactly what do you mean by be with? lol.
Single and Happy I tried, I really tried!! (LMAO)
February 5th, 2013
2:46 pm
So does love=romance?
kimmie
February 5th, 2013
2:46 pm
Single – Dang, at least some LUST gotta be there for me! Otherwise, we’re just roommates!! Yuck at the thought!!
Single and Happy I tried, I really tried!! (LMAO)
February 5th, 2013
2:48 pm
In a relationship Disco, get your mind out the gutter!! and on your marrying for other reasons, most of the time the end up in the same place as the person that wrote that letter.
kimmie
February 5th, 2013
2:52 pm
Disco – I agree a lot marry for different reasons. And alot of times in those instances people do grow closer to each other. I think about folks in arranged marriages. Or yeah, you are a single mother struggling and this nice guy comes along and you give it a shot. I’m just going by the limited info given. I’ve seen, and personally been in, situations where you think you can deal with it because the guy has great qualities. But something just isn’t there and time passing doesn’t help. In fact, everything they do starts to irritate you. She knew he traveled alot and was into that weird meditation when she hooked up with him. Now it’s grating on her nerves!
Exiled!
February 5th, 2013
3:01 pm
Disco..I think some get to love with time..a relationship growing on u…
So if u like a ‘provider’ who may not get uall goose bumped but he provides and u get to marry them and they are providing most of the time,I’m sure that will fire up the love.
What do u think??
disco
February 5th, 2013
3:01 pm
kimmie – this is why I say something must have changed for her. she knew what she was getting. she chose to accept it as it was. not saying there’s nothing wrong with him but he’s not the one writing letters complaining. she is.
Exiled!
February 5th, 2013
3:03 pm
Now…I ‘on know if Gold diggers Fall in love though or they just fall in love with the money,as long as it is available.
disco
February 5th, 2013
3:05 pm
ex – where I come from folks say if you feed a kid long enough he’ll start to look like you. some folks want to love who they want to love. others are willing/able to love the ones that love them. there are a lot of different kinds of people in this world. some women would be perfectly content in a loveless relationship with a man who was good to them. still other women are perfectly content in an abusive relationship with men who treat them like crap.
Single and Happy I tried, I really tried!! (LMAO)
February 5th, 2013
3:14 pm
Disco, I’ve heard that about a kid, and I know that’s a lie!! (LOL)
Exiled!
February 5th, 2013
3:17 pm
One woman’s crap is Another’s warm embrace and Ding dong at nite!
Usually and most times,the woman without, will recognize some other woman’s crap but not her own smelly crap thats keeping men away her.
Exiled!
February 5th, 2013
3:17 pm
from her
disco
February 5th, 2013
3:23 pm
s/h – that’s why it’s simply a figure of speech. still, I’m sure you get the meaning behind it.
Single and Happy I tried, I really tried!! (LMAO)
February 5th, 2013
3:25 pm
Yea disco, just another one of those dumb sayings
Dirty Burds Rise-Up
February 5th, 2013
3:30 pm
The scenerio about marrying the nice guy is BS. She knew he made a lot of money and could take care of financially. Dude did not know she did was not wowed by him. She led dude to believe she loved him I don’t buy dude knew I am sure quite a few gold diggers recognize dude was going to make a lot of cheese. Women like that do not deserve a good dude.
The snobbish women needs to get a new snobbish boyfriend. Dude should run right now. C’mon man!
kimmie
February 5th, 2013
3:33 pm
disco – I’ve heard that saying! LOL!!
I am a firm believer in keeping alot of things to yourself, and affairs of the heart are one of those things. I don’t want to hear anyone elses opinion about why I should or should not be with a certain man. Nobody knows what’s going on in your house or at least they shouldn’t. They don’t have to deal with the situation, you do. Nobody has anything to say about the countless folks in loveless marriages that choose to stay and stick it out. Everyone isn’t up to that, yet people are hard on them when they chose not to settle. Eff everyone else, until they walk in your shoes their opinion does not matter!
disco
February 5th, 2013
3:35 pm
dirty – I will say that it is quite likely that dude knew she wasn’t into him like that. sad truth is that a lot of guys don’t care. especially the guys that were down a little bit on the totem pole and never thought they had a chance at the “hot chick”. yep, those guys will go with the program because they feel like they finally have the prize. it’s like redemption. lol.
kimmie
February 5th, 2013
3:35 pm
Dirty – Can you tell when a woman is not into you, faking it?
Dude isn’t stupid, you can only fake for so long.
kimmie
February 5th, 2013
3:37 pm
Disco – your 3:35, real talk!
Dirty Burds Rise-Up
February 5th, 2013
3:43 pm
@Disco…Some women are great actresses. They have been told by momma and grandma get the with the one who will take care of you. She is trying to reduce her guilt. I bet she has cheated on dude already.
@Kimmie. Yes I can tell when a woman is not into me, that usually comes when we are about to break-up or I am about to leave. The dude is probably worrying now about how much money he has to pay this gold digger to get out of his life. His passion is insects not her, he just wanted a wife and he got a gold digger.
Exiled!
February 5th, 2013
3:44 pm
@Disco..it’s not that those dudes don’t care but that ‘hot’ chics who go for money will do thangs to ‘deficient’ dude,faking it, so much so that dude will see the performance as proof thst she lubs him.
When a gold digger sees money,she will leave ‘no ball unturned’ lol (that’s an original by the way)
Exiled!
February 5th, 2013
3:45 pm
@Disco..that’s to ur 3:35!
Celisea
February 5th, 2013
3:45 pm
Without having read since I left this morning, I’m guessing calling some woman (what woman, I don’t know), snobbish is more of a projection than fact. Whatever the situation is, I guess it’s okay to paint ideas and opinions on what you think happened but to not know and call a woman snobbish off the rip is, just wow. She’s probably a good woman and he’s probably an even better man….just a bad situation.
Celisea
February 5th, 2013
3:46 pm
I’m too lazy to go back and read…
disco
February 5th, 2013
3:46 pm
dirty – I had a grandmother (great-grandmother actually) who always said be with the man that wants to be with you as opposed to the one you want to be with. frankly, I wasn’t checking for that advice. the way I saw it, he was getting what he wanted and I might have been getting the short end of the stick.
dirty – quit trying to feel sorry for dude. I don’t think she played him. I think she went along with his program. he knew, just like she knew, what their relationship was based on. of course, this is just disco’s opinion. I don’t know these folks.
Celisea
February 5th, 2013
3:47 pm
They have been told by momma and grandma get the with the one who will take care of you. She is trying to reduce her guilt. I bet she has cheated on dude already.
Whoa and wow
kimmie
February 5th, 2013
3:47 pm
His passion is insects not her
Exiled/Dirty – I do not feel one bit sorry for dudes that allow themselves to get played like that!! Other than one of those dumb athletes or rappers, how can you be so smart in some ways and so dumb in others? They should be able to see that golddigger coming a mile away. They are usually so obvious to everyone but the bearer of the “gold”!LOL!!!
Celisea
February 5th, 2013
3:49 pm
I see I came back at a little past moist thirty…..lololol
Alright, back to work. My hair won’t hold up in moistness…lololol Just funning b/n/r
disco
February 5th, 2013
3:49 pm
ex – I beg to differ. a real hot chick who gets with a lower tier fellow really doesn’t have to bring her A game. dude is just happy to be with her and all she has to do is stroke his piddly little ego a bit. it’s kind of like the oldhead dude who lands a young girl. sometimes it’s just about the arm candy. he wants to show his boys (and convince himself) he can still pull. he doesn’t care that he has to pay rent and a car note for an apartment and a car that don’t belong to him. now a nice looking dude with some money and a run of the mill gold digger, sure, she might have to open a bag of tricks. I don’t think the situations are the same though.
Exiled!
February 5th, 2013
3:53 pm
Well I didn’t read the story lol I just jumped in
Now @Kimmie…why u say dude ‘allowed’ himself to be played. Was chic showing gold digger traits from jump?
kimmie
February 5th, 2013
3:59 pm
Disco – I have a friend who will give you the shirt off your back if you needed it – but is otherwise the very definition of high maintenance! She’s pretty, but the guy she married is probably the last one you would think she would be with. He’s nice-looking in the face, but very overweight and a bit on the country side. Dude is in computers and makes serious bank. He acts like he literaly struck gold with her, like he got something he was not supposed to have! She married him because I’m sure most guys would not put up with her high-browed demands, but he does and he’s the one that asked!
Exiled!
February 5th, 2013
4:00 pm
@Disco..a ‘real hot’ to me at least is a chic with beauty and mega watt brains…and brains that trump dude….that wld be my def of real hot.
Most hot chics are dumb by my intelligence..they are only hot in physical configurations…like blondes,if u will.
Now a hot dumb chic that has been in the game long,knows some tricks of the biaatch game can even fool me…ur not so dumb guy. Coz I ain’t game to ho tricks.
So I aint feeling u on that Disco.. Lol
Dirty Burds Rise-Up
February 5th, 2013
4:00 pm
@Kimmie…No you can’t see Gold Diggers coming from a mile away. Some Gold Diggers are hard to spot. She probably hid the fact about her gold digging was. Dude was busy studing beetles at the time. Now that is The President of Insects are Human too club she does not want him.
@Kimmie..U know why I say she faked him. We all know that some women fake orgasm, faking like she was in love with dude probably was 2nd nature. I bet she faked that too.
@Disco both men and women get tricked into believing they’re signification other loves me. Then when they find one little insect flaw and he cannot ignite the fire, then they start with, oh I am missing the 10 percent in my marriage.WTH
Hopefully he can get a good lawyer where he will not have to split his money with her gold digging azz.
@
Leggs
February 5th, 2013
4:02 pm
“…but he doesn’t take the hint and consistently sticks his foot in his mouth and insults my friends by explaining common knowledge concepts to them. I believe he thinks it makes him sound intelligent” – Guys like that start sounding like jailhouse babble. Always talking trying to come across as being smart with you wanting to flick them off like a gnat circling your ear…constantly running their mouths leaving people wondering WTH did he just say and why?
Button ~ tell him to relax when around your friends. He always wanting to “prove” something or another to them always has him coming across as weak, insecure. Tell him to take time to talk with his ears. Meaning, let someone else carry the convo and then piggy back on what he hears, not what he thinks they’re saying thereby undercutting them.
Hi Mrs. SC!. You’re absolutely right, a married, separated man is in no position to make any demands. I laughed at one just last week.
Now, you guys are running your mouth. I have to go back and catch up.
kimmie
February 5th, 2013
4:02 pm
Exiled – I’m just going by the story given – she said dude knew from jump she was not attracted to him and they had a problem in that area. That’s why I said allowed.
kimmie
February 5th, 2013
4:04 pm
jailhouse babble
Leggs – I’m thinking one of the Wayans on In Living Color!LOL!!
Exiled!
February 5th, 2013
4:07 pm
@Kimmie…I guess I can agree with u there.
I can’t see myself persisting with a chic that moufs in my face that ‘I ain’t attracted to u’
I will end it right there!
But I can see how a low on the totem pole dude(Disco expression) wld want to have a taste,for self esteem sake.
It’s like placing a short dude on a booster seat.
kimmie
February 5th, 2013
4:07 pm
Dirty – You are hilarious!!LOL!! President of Insects Are Human Too!LOL!!!!
Dirty Burds Rise-Up
February 5th, 2013
4:07 pm
@Kimmie…She is lying to make herself feel better. She wants some of those insects I mean assets from dude. If this was the case she would walk away no harm no foul. Then dude can married a hot scientist who is into insects. lol
Jake-SPJTWB
February 5th, 2013
4:08 pm
Wait, What?? Ya’ll stealing other blogs topics these days….how is everybooty, body?
kimmie
February 5th, 2013
4:11 pm
It’s like placing a short dude on a booster seat
disco
February 5th, 2013
4:16 pm
re booster seats. my poor mother is only 5 feet tall and we used to crack so many jokes about her “lift me up” tactics. for instance she has a pillow in her car (a booster seat of sorts – lol) and will go off if you move her pillow.
Dirty Burds Rise-Up
February 5th, 2013
4:21 pm
@Disco the scenerio you describe is on popping all over the ATL. I was out recently at this restaurant and saw this fine sista in a booth with a dude. I could not see dude at the time, I was like damm dude is going to ball tonight. They were drinking and dude was eating crab like there was no more crab left on the planet. By the was she had a roving eye. It was getting late and they were getting ready to leave, I spotted them heading towards the door, this fine-azz sista must have been about 5ft9/10ins tall and the guy she was with was maybe 5ft3-4ins tall, over weight and he had his around dat azz. I almost choked on my seafood. DAMM, DAMM, DAMM!
I was thinking to myself after was I just witness the ATL is the one of the greatest cities in America.
Yes it is!
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
February 5th, 2013
4:23 pm
Chick says she is not feeling dude now and I think its because she has stumbled up on some “new new” and she is trying to justify making the move…. If she was not down for all this time, why did she not make a move before??? Yeah, she is laying the groundwork for a bailout and is using the bug concern as an excuse…..
Leggs
February 5th, 2013
4:28 pm
kimmie ~ I was thinking the Wayans too while I typed that. That’s was a funny and sad skit because many talk just like that. A good friend of mine got out of a relationship a few years back. Her bf talked like the Wayans in jail all the time. Many times I told him to just shut up because he was making a fool out of himself…he kept on regurgitating pieces of information he gleaned from other places sounding like a complete idiot. I was so glad to see her dump him. I really was!
kimmie
February 5th, 2013
4:32 pm
Leggs – See, like I said he would have had one time to embarass me like that! Call me a snob if you want, I don’t care, cause you would not know what you’re talking about anyway. My friends are down to earth, but yes, they are intelligent. No need to try and put on a show, we don’t require you to front to be friends!!
kimmie
February 5th, 2013
4:35 pm
Yall dudes kill me taking up for Bug dude!!LOL!! Let that have been in reverse, and dude wasn’t feeling a Bug chick – you all would have been calling her all kinds of stupid!!
disco
February 5th, 2013
4:46 pm
kimmie – yeah. that’s that male solidarity kicking in. old girl is a faker, a gold digger, and some of everything else when in reality dude just played himself.
Single and Happy
February 5th, 2013
4:52 pm
Disco, Kimmie, are you guys trying to get a headache!! Stop beating your heads into that wall (LOL)
disco
February 5th, 2013
4:55 pm
s/h – obviously you missed the memo. we don’t get headaches. now, if by chance we are giving you a headache all you have to do is say so and stop beating around the bush. me and kimmie, we’re good.
Single and Happy
February 5th, 2013
4:56 pm
Naw I’m not getting one, I’ve learned to just let it go
sometimes there is just no point.
disco
February 5th, 2013
4:59 pm
s/h – yeah. especially when that point is talking about how a brother played himself. lol. so tell me about punta cana.
Single and Happy
February 5th, 2013
5:04 pm
I’ll be spending 6 days 5 nights lounging at this resort
http://www.iberostar.com/en/hotels/punta-cana/iberostar-bavaro
disco
February 5th, 2013
5:08 pm
s/h – you suck. lol. there is a Dominican restaurant here called punta cana. I guess I can go there, get drunk and pretend. lol.
Single and Happy
February 5th, 2013
5:11 pm
Disco you have a passport, get you some stamps
disco
February 5th, 2013
5:18 pm
s/h – don’t sleep on me. you know I be trying to make moves. I’m contemplating the next one. just not sure what it’s going to be yet. I still have a couple of months to try to make sao paolo happen but I’m not really checking for it. we’ll see.
Single and Happy
February 5th, 2013
5:20 pm
Disco, I’m supposed to be going somewhere in the Bahama’s again and Honduras in Nov