Waiting game is same as rejection?

Too Bad So Sad

January 31st, 2013
6:39 am

Tell him to stop Whining , thats his only complaint because she doesn’t want to be used just for sex. Poor him, awe .. may the world weep for his soul.

Single and Happy

January 31st, 2013
6:55 am

The same guy who was just whining about not finding someone he liked during the holidays, has decided that he is unsure of someone because she wants to wait for sex. Umm it’s only been a month since the holidays! Sounds like Bill really needs to grow up!!

“special” for a couple of weeks Seriously!! Sounds like he needs to slow down a bit.

Hey all

Exiled!

January 31st, 2013
6:55 am

For us mortal guys,sex affects how we proceed henceforth Forward(like Obama says). If the sex is bad,real bad,then there is no forward,never mind her good personality.

If the sex is good and her personality is the same,this thing may be extended assuming also that the vibe is good.

Waiting is a female strategy to reel a guy in. We are not saying jump into bed on day one. But there is no point in playing the waiting game and just telling ur friends u gots a guy when he ain’t been to ur epicenter yet! Not cool.

Give dude a chance to compromise u and u him declare a draw then let’s call this a flunk or go. Why the hesitation? What if he don’t like urs or u don’t like his pipe? U want to be with him adnauseaum yet there may be no future?

Afteall it’s not as if he takes the puddy away with him anyway!

Exiled!

January 31st, 2013
7:03 am

Wait for what Single?

I am sure she’s being entertained….yeah she wants a gentlemen..she wouldn’t date unless he’s a gentleman and a gentleman is spending his bread on her entertaining her…yeah yeah yeah but withholding her coochie which she knows,the moment he sniffs…he might walk coz it ain’t stella….this thing has miles…see…the chic is the smart one…thus far….unless dude gets a snif and knows what he is working with….and decides….

Go or walk….

Early smash is the best decision

Exiled!

January 31st, 2013
7:11 am

So verdict is unless it’s All Dutch henceforth,dude must stop the financial bleeding and walk….

It’s not as if hers is laced All around with diamonds anyway…

There is more puddy like hers around,if not better!

Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)

January 31st, 2013
8:16 am

I co-sign with Exiled on this one….
I wonder how pissed she would be if he had a cutbuddy on the side that was there no questions asked while she played the waiting game???? Does she forfiet the right to be upset if he is rabbit dancing whit someone else if she refuses to do the deed????

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 31st, 2013
8:21 am

I gotta agree with Ex

Obviously, males and females view sex differently. But if I’m feeling a young lady, the act – good or bad – tells me a lot about where the relationship is going.

And, the fact that we’ve been ‘dating’ for “a couple of weeks (however, long that is)” and she doesn’t want to show me any intimacy, tells me a lot too.

It’s just one of those moments in an interaction where how you all communicate means a lot going forward.

If she has her reasons for saying ‘no’, tell him. Conversely, if he wants to “express his emotions by sharing a physical connection” he needs to tell her.

disco

January 31st, 2013
8:59 am

good morning. sounds like to me poor bill is in a man drought and yeah old girl is special because she’s available now (or not so available – lol). a man who is getting some elsewhere is more likely to wait (maybe patiently, maybe not so patiently) for the new chick.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 31st, 2013
9:11 am

@Disco

Therein lies the messed up part.

How many ladies lament dating in Atlanta because ‘guys can’t wait” and “guys are messing with a bunch of other women”?

While I’m not advocating a male or female sleeping with everyone because they ask (or buy you things, treat you nicely, are cool people), at a certain point, doesn’t it come back to ‘making time and space’ for people you care about?

I guess where I’m going is, it can’t be both ‘(s)he needs to be celibate and wait til I’m ready’ and ‘I can’t trust him/her because I know I’m not the only person they’re seeing.’

Single and Happy

January 31st, 2013
9:18 am

Ex, if a woman you had dated for only 2 weeks gave up the panties, YOU would quickly put her in a certain category, and by what you’ve stated here I’m pretty sure it wouldn’t be in the special one. How much “bread” can someone spend it 2 weeks, and if it’s a large amount, then that’s on them!

disco

January 31st, 2013
9:23 am

dan – I won’t speak much to that game because I’m not the chick that plays it. lol. still I do think it’s relatively safe to say that most women do believe that a guy is already involved (physically) with someone whether she’s a serious contender or not. shoot, it’s equally safe to say that a lot of men believe women are getting it in too. it’s the world we live in. so the parties involved need to get past it the best way they know how. talk about it, determine what the hold up is, decide whether or not you are willing to wait. if not, go on about your business.

s/h – that there is one of those jacked up double standards. I know guys think if they got it that easy the next guy can too. yeah yeah yeah. I get it. still does your male ego never lend to you thinking that you got it not because she’s easy but because you (and only you) are the most special, sexy somebody in the universe? okay. maybe I went too far with that but still, you get it. why can’t a grown woman have an itch scratched by a grown man without a label attached? geez.

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
9:29 am

I just don’t get how men claim to want someone special yet are so quick to bail when she isn’t ready to hop in bed when he does. – I’ve experienced this on more than one occasion. Why is it that women are expected to show their interest and desire for a guy by quickly getting between the sheets with him? I don’t get it. To cop an attitude after only dating a short while (really getting to know each other), definitely puts it front and center what’s really important to him. Bye, bye…

“and a gentleman is spending his bread on her entertaining her…yeah yeah yeah but withholding her coochie which she knows,the moment he sniffs…he might walk coz it ain’t stella – Probably doesn’t even go down like that. I don’t know of any woman walking around thinking her sexual prowess isn’t good and that’s why she’s reluctant to go there. They’ve been dating a couple of weeks. That usually mean 2 weeks, which is a short time. His testicles are sweating because he’s a horndog not looking for a meaningful relationship. IMO, meaningful entails taking time to get to know one another outside of the bed.

And, there are many ways to show intimacy. Getting nekkid is just one way, not THE ONLY WAY!

MsAtl

January 31st, 2013
9:34 am

Morning All!

Single- I’m with you. I am not jumping into bed with someone after two weeks. That is not enough time to get to know someone and let’s not even get into the required testing that you will have to go through before we exchange bodily fluids. I think your friend could stand to slow down a bit MIA.

disco

January 31st, 2013
9:36 am

good morning leggs. I wasn’t even going to address dude acting like a whiny teenage boy because he didn’t get any simply because I know countless grown men who act that way whether with a new chick or with their main woman (even wife). some men are just beeyotches when it comes to their little man parts being neglected. I have witnessed full fledged temper tantrums from grown men behind them not getting any.

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
9:38 am

Diva, I most certainly how “Bill” is reading. I want to tell him for her to kick rocks! lol Seriously dude? Two weeks? Whoever said it said it right, you ain’t invested or done enough to feel some sort of obligation from her. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying you gotta be a cash cow ahead of getting the drawers. I’m simply saying she don’t know you after two weeks. What have you done that she should feel the need to oblige? If she’s willing that’s another thing, but for him to be thinking of dropping her because she ain’t easy just kills me. Chile please…nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Aside from assuming he’s getting it, she’s getting it, she’ll be considered a “hoe” the moment it’s done, she’s easy…blah blah blah, it’s her body and her God given right to decide what’s best for her. Cause no matter how much you watch their mouths when they say otherwise, most (not all), know dern will they’re gonna wonder if it was that easy for them, just how many others it was easy for? Not say she’s easy, I’m speaking to the mind of some men.

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
9:40 am

I wonder if she’s my kind of gal…lol I wonder if she knew what Bill was thinking, would she get the door for him?

disco

January 31st, 2013
9:41 am

good morning celisea. don’t you sound passionate this morning? lol.

fellas – where’d y’all go?

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
9:45 am

disco – morning disco! (see that exclamation point there)

Okay, it’s official…lol When I my year end last year, my manager’s manager said the same, I see you as “passionate”, etc etc etc. That was after all the ballplayer drama of course. My manager didn’t think so though. Of course in my annual review this year with her and sans her manager, she said the same thing. She listed it as positive things she’s learned about me. She didn’t have any negatives

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
9:47 am

Morning, disco. Seems what you won’t address, I tend to (lol). I feel ya!

Single ~ I started to say the same about the money he may have spent in 2 weeks. It’s all on him! If he spent a lot on her, it was only to get to the honey pot. She didn’t twist his arm, and now he’s squawking because his balls are hanging low….oh well!

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
9:50 am

Honestly, he probably ain’t spend jack (too much). He’s just salty because “getting it” without effort has been par for the course….for him. There use to be a time, a man would saddle up for the challenge. Not so much saddling up to “get it”, but saddling up cause she’s a philly and might be worth the time and effort. I ain’t talking about dudes that’s ego tripping and want to tear her and her dignity down all because she said no.

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
9:53 am

spent not spend, hope not how, and a nod for the other errors. I don’t feel like retyping…lololol

disco

January 31st, 2013
9:55 am

leggs – between the both of us I guess we do get the bases covered.

re sex and money I’m still amazed that folks act like there shouldn’t be a correlation. as long as I can remember knowing about sex I knew money was involved. lol. I remember my grandmother commenting that no woman should be with a man that wouldn’t or couldn’t do for her. I remember a cousin saying once that a dude might tell all his boys that he got some but she’d be right behind him telling his boys how much it cost him. I’m the one that’s always so put out when chicks (like the friend I mentioned yesterday) are getting the bottom knocked out but never have money. that’s just so wrong to me. lol. grown men know that they have to pay to play. and for the women who don’t want to feel like their prostituting themselves – the exchange doesn’t necessarily have to be monetary.

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
10:03 am

disco ~ I told this guy late last year that if he didn’t have any money to date, then he should stay home. Dating requires $$. Not meaning you have to have your wallet open all the time and spend big bucks, but dating requires you have money. AND, I believe in reciprocity, so I too will need some $$ to date. All dates should not fall on the man. If he won’t accept my money, that’s a different story, but I’m offering at some point.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 31st, 2013
10:11 am

First “a couple of weeks” is a saying and a standard deviation of time, but let’s not assume that they’ve only been seeing each other for 2 weeks as a fact.

Second, a truly confident dude doesn’t care about the past. So this whole “how many other guys got it this fast” is a female projection issue.

I never once assumed anything about a woman that I had sex with after knowing her a “short amount of time,” except that she liked me.

So far as I am, was, and will always be concerned, once we had our encounter(s), her past had nothing to do with me. That, and she’ll forever compare every dude henceforth to me.

Only ponks worry about the men in a woman’s past (that is, beyond the dude with herpesgohonnosyphariea)

Button

January 31st, 2013
10:11 am

Good morning,

Two weeks!!! wow where is the patience? I say ditch the guy for moving too darn fast! esp if the woman is not on the same page as he is. Entitled much! for taking her on a date. Some men!

I prefer a man who will wait until the both of us are emotionally ready to go that route, for me its months lol

I know most people (men) think that spending money equals sex but some women don’t feel that way. I know some women who have said he took me out so I have to give him some honey because he spent his money. I guess it’s just whatever mind frame you possess.

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
10:14 am

Off topic…for a sec (and since it’s quiet)…

I was watching the movie The Change Up with Jason Bates and Ryan Renolds and just realized it was THAT movie that was shot in our building. The backdrop is Atlanta. Well, when they did the scene where (JB’s) law firm was in mediation and they all walked out, THAT WAS OUR BUILDING. Y’all remember me saying sometime ago I was standing on the backside of the building looking out the window at him running up the stair, while tapping? Didn’t realize it was that movie

Back to work…y’all resume, well maybe not. No one is talking right now.

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
10:15 am

oops, my bad…nobody was talking when I started typing that post.

Button

January 31st, 2013
10:16 am

I agree with you Leggs @10.03

I clap my hands and do back flips for the guys who dissed me or felt rejected because I didn’t drop my panties when I turned down their requests! I question guys who move too fast. What’s the rush? To me those guys are dangerous. Walking STD.

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
10:17 am

First “a couple of weeks” is a saying and a standard deviation of time – True, but “couple of weeks” can mean just that, a couple of weeks, less than a month! If they were dating for even a month, he would have said a month. So, weeks is still a relatively short amount of time no matter how you slice the days.

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
10:18 am

stairs and taping…

Dan, I agree and good for you. As much as I hate to say it, even men “not so adolescent”, still think and act like that sometimes. Not all though.

Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)

January 31st, 2013
10:18 am

Leggs your 9:29 and Celi your 9:38 is totally on point. Two weeks?!…what’s he expecting after TWO weeks?

And if his self esteem is shattered that deeply to the point of him feeling insecure(after a whopping two weeks) then HE might have a high level of low self esteem or he just wanted one thing.

Another thing…had she slept with him I wonder what he would have thought about her then?…more double standards. Some guys are full of a bunch of self serving bullisht sometimes…

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
10:19 am

Bottom line, a woman should move at a pace good for her and where she’s emotionally ready. You don’t want that crazy chick to show up right? Okay then, be patience. Good things come to those who wait

Alright I’m out of here for now.

Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)

January 31st, 2013
10:19 am

I question guys who move too fast. What’s the rush? To me those guys are dangerous. Walking STD.

Cosign…

Button

January 31st, 2013
10:20 am

Hey Celisea, the king and queen building is in almost all the shows I’ve seen on tv that’s taped in atl. it’s right outside my window.

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
10:23 am

patient

Sassy – I don’t get all the whining…seriously?

Shoot, I can even see (not agreeing but can see), if they spent everyday together for two weeks. But when Diva says “seeing her for two weeks”, that’s what 2 or 3 dates, 4 at the most? How well does she know you after interacting 3 or 4 times? C’mon dude, slow your roll

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
10:25 am

Button – We’ve only had about 3 or 4 movies (scenes) shot here. I haven’t seen any movies where the king and queen towers were shot, but I believe you. I take that back, I probably have but didn’t realize. It just jumps out at me when I see my building… My sister worked in one of those buildings for years.

disco

January 31st, 2013
10:25 am

LOL. I’m laughing at the static that two weeks is getting. I’m not tripping so hard off of two weeks in itself as I’m tripping off of dude tripping. he’s the problem moreso than two weeks. again, it’s not always about falling in love or meeting the next love of your life or having some deep meaningful relationship. sometimes you are just trying to get it in. unfortunately for bill (was his name bill?) he didn’t pick a chick or get picked by a chick that was just looking to get it in right quick. boo hoo bill. just move on player. I think I told y’all I hit on a guy recently only to get the “I’m involved with someone” line. what dude doesn’t know is that in my mind I had already planned to be screwing him within the next 30 days. sometimes it’s just like that.

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
10:27 am

disco – I think it’s the timeframe AND him. Because for him, the timeframe is the issue. Yeah, his inability to excercise patience and see possibly a good woman is first on the the crap list, but I can’t dismiss the window cause that’s his issue, thus her issue.

Button

January 31st, 2013
10:28 am

The 3 date rule, 90 rule does not apply to me. What applies to me is having that emotional connection that surpasses just the physical.

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
10:31 am

What’s the rush? To me those guys are dangerous. – I feel the same.

21 day dude tried to get me to go out for drinks with him about 2 months ago. He wanted to further explain why he flipped out on me. He said if I didn’t call him, he would get the message. Silence speaks volumes! for all you inquiring minds, he popped up on a site I was on. I closed that profile as well because the site was full of nasty, horny, married idiots.

Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)

January 31st, 2013
10:34 am

I’m tripping off of dude tripping.

Exactly…that is some real moist-azz…b-i,b-i type behavior….kick rocks.

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
10:36 am

Button – Question for you….

I don’t set a rule either per se and my thing also is waiting until I feel ready but usually that’s well beyond 90 days. And yes, it can be done. A dude will be wiling to wait, if he thinks you’re a good enough investment. I said a few months back that my boo was super cool. I can’t say ending a date was his favorite part of the evening, but given the fact that he was man about it and didn’t throw a tantrum spoke volumes to me, of his character. Also, I have a kid, so becoming emotionally investment encompasses allllll of that and how I should deal with bringing everything into the picture and in to tow. And like I said….GOOD THINGS COME TO THOSE WHO CAN WAIT IT OUT….WAIT FOR YOU TO FEEL READY

Single and Happy

January 31st, 2013
10:37 am

Dan, when were the holidays? what is today’s date? so why wouldn’t you assume a couple of weeks to be 2 weeks??

Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)

January 31st, 2013
10:37 am

the site was full of nasty, horny, married idiots.

Yep…it seems as though nasty,horny,married idiots are EVERYWHERE…take yall’s a$$es the hell home…and pick the baby up from day care on your way..

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
10:37 am

in to…not in to tow

Button – You think you could become invested after two weeks? I mean truly emotionally invested. Not knocking, just asking.

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
10:39 am

take yall’s a$$es the hell home…and pick the baby up from day care on your way

Ut oh and lolololol and cosign!! Tainting the dang dating pool for the good brothers.

Single and Happy

January 31st, 2013
10:41 am

I question guys who move too fast. What’s the rush? To me those guys are dangerous. Walking STD. ROTFLMAO if only you guys knew, those are my initials

Button

January 31st, 2013
10:42 am

Celisea what’s the question?

Dudes that drive a van with a baby seat in tow trying to holla! lol

Married dudes on dating sites trying to holla! lol

Dude with the one rotating eye trying to holla! lol

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
10:43 am

Button – My 10:37 Just asking

Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)

January 31st, 2013
10:44 am

Tainting the dang dating pool for the good brothers.

True…and then there’s the flip side. Like Johnny Taylor said, “Who’s making love to YOUR old lady…while you’ve been out making love?”…oh wait…I think I just heard a muy fragile ego crack…

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
10:46 am

Sassy – I just LOL for real. Igg zackly! They better recognize. Ladies ain’t sitting it out like the ladies of yesteryear.

kimmie

January 31st, 2013
10:46 am

Morning All!!

Gotta say, I’m with Single and the ladies on this one.

A grown azz, mature man will not feel rejected because another grown mature woman he’s seeing wants to get to know him a little better before hoping in the bed. You wait on the moment that’s right for the both of you, whether it’s the first night or 2 months later. Period, point blank. As for either or both of them getting their needs met “elsewhere” until they decide to be exclusive, that’s on them. Unless the wait goes beyond a few months or one has straight up said they are celibate, I’ve always questioned that argument that someone inevitably brings up whenever we have this discussion. So every dude (or chick) is so hot in the pants that they can’t hold out awhile and get to know someone? They dangle that “if you won’t, someone else is & will” carrot? Really? LOL!! That’s pathetic!

That old double-standard is still out there, going strong, that if one is quick to hop in bed, they must be easy. You would like to think people are grown up and mature about things, but it comes up too many times to be totally dismissed. I agree with Dan in that mature men don’t worry about such, but there are alot of immature so-called men out there.

Button

January 31st, 2013
10:47 am

Celisea, I’ve never been emotionally invested in a guy after two weeks of knowing him, not saying that it’s impossible but just for me, I’ve never had that to happen. Dating is not a monolithic thing. You have some who fall inlove and have instant emotional connect off the bat while with others it takes time to build that connection. And you two should be on the same page as far as connection. jmo

Single and Happy

January 31st, 2013
10:49 am

Disco, I don’t believe in those double standards, We both had a part in it. so I wouldn’t think any less than someone than I did of myself.

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
10:50 am

Button – Understood

Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)

January 31st, 2013
10:51 am

Boy!! Blogs women are off the chain about this one!!!!

What this has shown me is that women have a ton of misconceptions about dudes and how and more importantly WHY we think and act the way we do….

1st. We really do not spend anythime thinking about what you did with anyone else before us.
2nd. If we are feeling each other and we move to take it to a physical level, playing the waiting game is more likely to send us down the road than keep us there.
3rd. While teh coochie is always golden, it is never the end all to be all. If you claim to be interested in a real realtionship, please know that sex is a part of it and should not be used as a carrot.

Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)

January 31st, 2013
10:51 am

but there are alot of immature so-called men out there.

True…

Ladies ain’t sitting it out like the ladies of yesteryear.

Okay?!…somebody better tell ‘em…

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 31st, 2013
10:51 am

@SH

The ‘holidays’ begin in November (when everyone starts to feel the pressure) and end NY day (cause you gotta go back to work).

So there could be more than a few weeks between November and now that they met, hung out, etc.

All I’m saying is assuming that a common phrase denotes a specific time period assumes too much. Plus, I sometimes think about people I haven’t spoken with/to in terms of a ‘few weeks/months’ and will look up and it’s been 6 months to a year.

Time flies…

kimmie

January 31st, 2013
10:52 am

Anyone been watching the new season of Millionaire Matchmaker?

I was watching it the other night, and one of the millionaires problem was that he always led with his wallet. Patty got him to cut that mess out. Plus, it wasn’t necessary anyway since, duh, he went to the “millionaire” matchmaker!!

disco

January 31st, 2013
10:54 am

courtside – of course you are speaking for blog men and I hate to bring it up yet again but we all know that the blog men are not representative of the general population of regular run of the mill busters, jokers, losers, whiners, crybabies, wusses, momma’s boys, etc. the blog men are exceptional to a fault.

hey kimmie!

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
10:54 am

playing the waiting game is more likely to send us down the road than keep us there.

And a misconception by men. Waiting does NOT, for mature women equate to “playing a game.” When we, or I say wait, I’m not playing. I’m dead serious and like I said, I have more to consider than a dude’s groing and him getting off. I know, for me, at that point I’m all in. My “waiting”, is to ensure you’re going all in with me and how my kid will fit into the equation. It’s not about making folks wait, just to be waiting….IT’S ABOUT GETTING TO KNOW YOU WELL ENOUGH TO TAKE THE DIVE. Of course we’ve been saying this all morning and it’s apparently falling on deaf ears.

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
10:55 am

Single, I knew those were your initials (lol).

Button

January 31st, 2013
10:55 am

It took eight months for me and my beau to get to the place where we were connected. The turn of events when a man goes from just dating you to really feeling you and placing you in a special place in his heart. When he’s calling you just to see how you are doing and not because you told him or expect him to. If he’s in the middle of a tornado he’s going to pick up the phone to call you to see if you’re ok and tell you baby I’m going to make it. Not even a tornado will keep me from you!

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
10:57 am

And again, if a dude can’t wait or thinks it’s a game, making him wait, he’s NOT the dude for me. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. I’ll get the door for ya!

Exiled

January 31st, 2013
10:58 am

@Single..in the grand scheme of things, for two people that just met and also have daily jobs,they may not have gone out together for more than twice, i wld think.

However, assuming this is different and these two have major attraction towards each other and have gon out a couple of times,even mid week, just coz this thang is Hot,then yeah, i wld summise there is grounds that the chic bring her goodies to the table….so that this thing gets tested.

For me,if this was a situation where im meeting chic fridays,then saturdays,possibly sundays as well..sunday hangout at the sports stadium with her,then yea, in three weeks…i have sampled and if a go..we are kinda going steady or i dropped out…..

I am not one for liking a chic, spending gentlemenly money on her,then get dragged out coz she’s not ready….

ummm…nah!

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
11:00 am

“While teh coochie is always golden, ” – Courtside, I may have you confused with another blogger, but didn’t you say a few weeks ago, coochie has no value??

kimmie

January 31st, 2013
11:00 am

We really do not spend anythime thinking about what you did with anyone else before us.

Courtside – Bull. You might not, but many of you guys do. This thing you claim is a misconception comes up entirely too much for it to be just a “misconception”. Entirely too much. Like when some silly dudes ask the “how many” question.

And yeah, the sex as a dangling carrot goes both ways – both genders use it as a bargaining chip, like dudes use the old “if she won’t, another will”.

disco

January 31st, 2013
11:00 am

celisea – I’ll have to defend the men folk in saying that sometimes “the waiting game” is just that – a game. sure not for everyone. some folks are mature enough to know what they want and what they need to do to go about getting it BUT there’s a whole slew of folks out there who are still going by what they were taught, or what they hear from friends, or what they read in these tired azz relationship books. some women are still overly worried about someone will think of her if she does this, wears that, says, this, whatever. very often it is a game. problem is the dude often knows the game better than the chick trying to play it. just disco’s opinion though. y’all know I almost always have an opinion.

DuShawn

January 31st, 2013
11:04 am

I believe most guys prefer to wait a reasonable amount of time if they value the female. Of course they’re going to try, but if they’re really feeling you, and could envision a future with you, deep down they hope you say no. If they have no plans for you, their patience will be short. Personally, I never used chronological time to dictate when I should get it in. I always counted the attempts. Usually, by the forth one you should be in there. An attempt is defined as when you’re making out and you try to touch it or release a nipple and she tells you “stop, it’s too soon”. It may take several weeks and multiple dates, just to get to that point. After three situations like that, she should be ready by the forth. Women should be mindful however, even if the dude really likes you, he will keep him some sure shot azz in the wings until you come clean. That’s the secret to our patience. That allows us to say things like: “Baby, there is no rush or pressure, when the time is right, we will both know.” Best believe as soon as you tell him no and send him home, he is calling Ms. Sure Shot from your driveway, “hey wuzzup, I’m coming thru.” It takes time to get in a Bently, until then imma put some more miles on this Hyundai.

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
11:08 am

Fickle dudes….too funy

disco – No matter. I’m defending any woman that wants to wait, whatever her reason. It’s her right. As we all know, chicks will get pegged and labeled for crazy if she smashes say week one and ready to take vows week two. Having said that, there are many benefits to waiting…lol

Serioulsy and for me, it’s not a game cause if I’m not feeling you we ain’t doing the waiting process. We’re waiting because I’m feeling you but want to be sure we’re on the same page. And again, it’s a person’s right to wait. Whether it’s old school, old rules, wanting to be sure, so forth and so on. You can’t call foul on that…lol

Exiled

January 31st, 2013
11:11 am

It takes time to get in a Bently, until then imma put some more miles on this Hyundai

disco

January 31st, 2013
11:11 am

C – I’m not calling foul. just pointing out that some chicks are playing the waiting game because they think it’s what they are supposed to do. they think it’s the societal norm and are worried about what other folks may think instead of knowing that what other folks think of you is none of your business. lol. in essence, they aren’t grown enough to make decisions for themselves.

disco

January 31st, 2013
11:13 am

dushawn – only you. back in the day, I was the “Hyundai”. by the time dude went through all he had to go through dealing with a janky azz Hyundai his chances with the Bentley were shot to heck. lol. I think I mentioned old boy whose car was stolen from my house not once but twice. once really stolen, once his “Bentley” came by and took it. boy that man went through some mess on my account. daggone fool he was. lol.

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
11:14 am

just pointing out that some chicks are playing the waiting game because they think it’s what they are supposed to do

disco – Even so, why can’t they wait if they’ve been drilled that’s the thing to do? Frankly that’s part of why I wait. Now I’m old enough and grown enough to put a filter on that and move when I see fit, but it was instilled in me, I live by it and it’s not failed me yet. I find no fault in that. IMHO, of course

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 31st, 2013
11:15 am

@Kimmie

Do I want to know about the last dude? Yeap

Do I want to know about the freakiest isht you did? Shole do! Then, I wanna know if you’re interested in doing it again and/or going further with it.

To the extent that I know you’ve dated/slept with other dudes – that’s a fact of life. To the extent that I think about you with other men beyond that.fact. (e.g. thinking about positions, who was better, etc.), that’s that weak minded dude.

So far as I’m concerned, we do what we do, I’m one of the best out there (period), definitely the best at what I do, and I’m not rating myself against any other dude. Nor am I concerned about being the ‘best you’ve ever had.’ Why? Because there will always be someone out there better than me at *something*, including sex. So the only thing I can do is be the best there is at what I do.

Any dude that don’t think like that ^^ is probably still single and wondering why.

And for the record, I don’t know many dudes that concern themselves who a woman has been with (beyond the STD/homeboy issue) – and yes I know I added one, because I forgot that part

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
11:25 am

And to being taught to wait, I know for me, my mama had only the best intentions and apparently knew something about men and women, that at a tender age, I didn’t know. I don’t think it’s wrong to be taught old school standards, as the intents behind is not trying to keep you from love but rather to prepare ladies/women for all that’s to come. And we all know for MOST women, love and passion won’t stop at two people reach theirs. It continues with women (and some men….men that are for real) and runs much deeper. So, someone trying to prepare you to not jump in so quickly because you need to be able to brace yourself and be able to handle all that comes with, IMO is not wrong. That’s how my mama laid it out to me. She didn’t say don’t wait cause you’ll be a slut, she said you need to wait until you’re able to handle love and it’s all emcompasing consumption self. Baby, it usually sweeps you in Yep, that’s how she taught and laid it out for me.

kimmie

January 31st, 2013
11:26 am

Disco – So what if they are playing a game? I don’t see the harm in it, frankly there are much worse games being played on folks out there. If they cannot or are not confident and mature enough to decide on their own what they want to do, frankly they have no business doing grown-folk things. If waiting is not working for them & their situation they will change it. The dudes(or women) they come across that can’t deal with waiting, can go on to the plentiful supply of folks out there they won’t have to wait on.

For me, when it came to stuff like this, the sooner the guy made me feel comfortable and connected, the sooner it happened. Some guys lucked out much sooner than others. Some never made it!

Exiled

January 31st, 2013
11:29 am

Personally i do not want to hear about ur last dude..if i were u, i wld try to actually make sure that i never hear about him nor let me see him…i am so vane that i might bench u on account of u having dated such kind of a dude, especially if i lay my eyes on him…unless if u two didnt go down like that……..

so on that score, im different to Dan….

I do not like to knowingly go for somebody’s trash.

disco

January 31st, 2013
11:31 am

dag. I must have used a bad word in my response. I’m not knocking the “game”. just saying play the game for you. don’t play it because you think you are supposed to play it even though you don’t even want to play. I’m not going to tell a guy I’m not sleeping with you today because my momma wouldn’t approve. it’s about being grown and calling your shots for you and not because steve Harvey said so. that’s my only point.

kimmie

January 31st, 2013
11:32 am

Dan – Totally feeling your post. It is one of a grown-up, which I relate to. Especially about the pure facts of life, like a person having a past before you came along. And my mom used to tell us all the time that there will always be someone out there better at something!

Your frankness and maturity is appreciated by me!

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
11:33 am

I do not like to knowingly go for somebody’s trash. – Really!!! You can play the mental games all you want, you already know you’ve been 2nd, 3rd even 4th!!! Quick playing.

DuShawn

January 31st, 2013
11:34 am

I was here thinking about me and wifey’s courtship. I’m thinking she should be a two week project. Imma keep hittin it until the thrill is gone and I’m out. Surprisingly, better yet shockingly, she wouldn’t give me any. Made me wait three months! She would often spend the night in my bed with only a T-shirt and panties on and not give in. In retrospect, her slick azz was preventing my sure shots from coming thru. Finally, she was ready, but said I had to take her to a special place. She didn’t’ want our first time to be in the same bed as all my other conquest. After I heard that, everyplace was special to me. We would be driving along and I would say “Have I ever told you how special the backseat of this car is to me” or at my office I would be like: “That sofa in the lounge is so special”. It was an ongoing joke that we still laugh about today.

Exiled

January 31st, 2013
11:35 am

Nah..not me Leggs….unless u talking play puddy

hazel1

January 31st, 2013
11:36 am

FOR WAITING.
While thats my preference, it doesn’t necessarily make or break a good thing. It depends individually. But like some guy said earlier, if you do get put in that catergory ( not the good one) then you can’t blame him or her. I made it clear that i was all for waiting and EVERYTHING will depend on when I’m ready and my husband respected that. And I respected him even more for respecting me. I even had a guy tell me on a 2nd date that he won’t see me again due to the waiting thing. I respected his choice.

Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)

January 31st, 2013
11:36 am

Leggs,
Yeah..you have me mixed with someone else….. In a nutshell, If we are consenting rational adults, I can not see thepurpose for having a predetermined wait time to engage in consenting adult behavior. The love of my life started as a one night stand… My dating antichrist was a take it slow chick and we did nothing past kissing for 5 or 6 months. I just believe that presetting wait times undermines legit organtic relationships….

kimmie

January 31st, 2013
11:38 am

. I’m not going to tell a guy I’m not sleeping with you today because my momma wouldn’t approve. it’s about being grown and calling your shots for you and not because steve Harvey said so. that’s my only point.

Disco – I agree, but who is stupid enough to do that? Whether you make the decision for yourself or you are doing it cause that’s the way you’ve been taught, how is the other person to know how you came to your decision or why?

Single and Happy

January 31st, 2013
11:41 am

Dan, from diva’s post, since she blogging to the masses and not her home girls, I interpret a couple to mean 2, over the holidays to mean the entire scope of the holidays, not individual holidays.

disco

January 31st, 2013
11:43 am

kimmie – that’s just it. there’s some dumb azz grown women out here. lol. would you believe some chicks are still falling for “let me just put the head in” or “let me just have a little bit”?

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
11:43 am

Cool, Courtside. Someone said it a few weeks back with was pure rubbish (lol).

Ex, if you say so!

DuShawn

January 31st, 2013
11:44 am

The love of my life started as one night stand @Court- I’m glad you wrote that. There is little correlation between puddy wait time and the quality of a woman. Queens have been conquered on first dates and Sluts have been known to make men wait.

Single and Happy

January 31st, 2013
11:45 am

I am not one for liking a chic, spending gentlemenly money on her,then get dragged out coz she’s not ready…. Then maybe this is something to think about before you spend “gentlemanly money”

Kimmie I must agree with courtside, we don’t spend time thinking about anyone before us! Until we run into ONE of her exe’s then we start to wonder (LOL)

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
11:46 am

disco ~ those were the dumbest words a guy could say to me. What’s that saying….something like letting a camel put his nose under the tent…what do you think is going to happen next??

Let me find the exact quote.

hazel1

January 31st, 2013
11:47 am

@ DuShawn

January 31st, 2013
11:04 am
Liked everything except the 4th try thing. but then read you latest comment and liked what i read. Obviously you waited waaay after the 4th try..im assuming.
You have to respect a woman for that. My husband didn’t bail out on me..and im glad he didn’t.

Single and Happy

January 31st, 2013
11:47 am

Leggs, how did you know my initials??

kimmie

January 31st, 2013
11:48 am

Dushawn – Your posts prove one of my earlier posts. I just don’t see a dude that has his supply of “sure shots” at the ready sweating the woman that wants to wait, like Bill in the topic. Looks like if anything, that would make the situation easier for him to handle “for a couple of weeks”!

kimmie

January 31st, 2013
11:50 am

Single – And I’ll tell you what I told Courtside, you don’t wonder about the past, but plenty out there do. I will agree that as many get older they outgrow that sort of thing, but alot never outgrow it.

Exiled

January 31st, 2013
11:51 am

Then maybe this is something to think about before you spend “gentlemanly money”

@Single…to not spend money..then ur date chances go down…All women want their attention “bought”..like Disco mentioned earlier..if u dont entertain and spend bread u wont play..and certainly no smash..U know that right?

Hot chics have high $$$ expectations…ask them..these blog chics..?

disco

January 31st, 2013
11:51 am

this whole thing got me thinking about all the times I heard “it just happened”. I’m like really? please. you either wanted it to happen or not. you either meant for it to happen or not. it sure as heck didn’t just happen. I’m not trying to hear that.

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
11:51 am

And if after all your waiting, you end up with a slut, well that’s on you….lolololol

Sounds like a smart slut to me…lololol She made you wait for nothing

kimmie

January 31st, 2013
11:53 am

disco – No doubt they exist, nothing surprises me. But I assume this is what your guy friends are telling you. Sounds like they need to upgrade their selection process then. Sucks to be those guys then!LOL!!

kimmie

January 31st, 2013
11:54 am

to not spend money..then ur date chances go down

Exiled – Don’t hate the player, hate the game. You win some and you lose some.

disco

January 31st, 2013
11:59 am

ex – don’t put spin on my words. sure you have to pay to play but that doesn’t necessarily mean a chick is walking around with a scanner setting up a “date me registry”.

Dirty Birds Rise-Up

January 31st, 2013
12:01 pm

Man Law- 1200 … A woman who gives it up in less than 2 weeks of dating will no longer be considered easy.
Women of the blog world you can no go out and get you freak on this week.

disco

January 31st, 2013
12:02 pm

kimmie – actually a lot of this foolishness is from females. this is why I say if you are going to play a game, play your game or at least play the game for you. some of these chicks are just simply what I refer to as “man dumb”. it’s amazing how many women still have sexual hang-ups. they feel like they have to be talked into it or seduced but they can’t just say they want it. I don’t get it.

kimmie

January 31st, 2013
12:02 pm

There is little correlation between puddy wait time and the quality of a woman

Court & Du – For you guys, maybe not. But these concepts did not just fall out of thin air and land on women. They’ve been out here since the beginning of time and still exist among many men, and get passed on from generation to generation.

Exiled

January 31st, 2013
12:03 pm

Kimmie..i ceratinly didnt hate the chics..i respected their game coz i know some played the game good…lunch on him,dinner on him,send him on errands…smile at him ALL the time..she will be radiant with a smile..available when he calls etc….except agreeing to a smash……and sometimes,even after doing All that…..chic wld come round…..’I LIKE U AS A FRIEND”…..all the while u thought it was gon happen…..there was another dude smashing while u were just used for to sponsor this or that….

I am not surprised some give up the land search and go look on the internet!

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 31st, 2013
12:04 pm

I’m definitely teaching my daughter to wait – in fact right now “boys are nasty”. She’s 12. If she’s still heeding those words at 22, great. If she’s using that time to figure out who she is as a person/woman, even better.

That’s when the convo’s will be “hey, I get that sex is fun. But make sure you’re: 1) protecting yourself at all times (physically and emotionally), 2) communicating your intentions with these dudes – no stalkers, and 3) doing what you feel (only) when you feel it.

Hopefully, by that time, she see how I’ve treated her mother, know what gentleman that loves and respects a woman looks/acts like, and when she finds that special dude, knows how she should be treated.

How she finds him at that point is on her. All I can do is tell her my opinion.

I said that to say, I always thought that woment that clung too closely to what they mama (or ’society’, often the same thing) said about life weren’t grown enough for me. I still do things my mom and grandma told me, sure, but I’ve also reconciled them with my own life experiences.

Single and Happy

January 31st, 2013
12:06 pm

Kimmie, I was joking

Ex, you said “gentlemanly money” like that is different from regular man money. And as far as I’m concerned there is no spending of a lot of money unless I want to, I don’t care what they expect. and I have no problem “smashing”.

kimmie

January 31st, 2013
12:07 pm

disco – Alot of men are “women dumb” too.

A lot among both genders have sexual hangups. A lot of it has to do with upbringing, past abuse, you name it. Stuff all the money and education in the world cannot buy. That’s why the best thing you can give a child is a healthy sense of self-image and self-worth, and the ability to think for themselves.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 31st, 2013
12:08 pm

@Kimmie

Those concepts “amount time/sex” came from women and men – as parents.

But once a man has had relations and relationships – enough to know the difference – that delineation doesn’t mean as much.

I’m telling you, that ‘like’ is a muthersucka

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
12:11 pm

What’s all the belly aching about. You dudes know y’all have bamboozled enough chicks in your lifetimes to afford one here or there, can’t you can’t dupe. So what, a chick wants to wait. Ain’t no sin or crime that happened. I’m standing strong with the sister in today’s post. To the crybaby that didn’t get it in two weeks, sux to be him!!!

As for the rest of the chatter, like I said, was I raised a certain way and I’m passing it on. When I became a woman, I started learning how to filter, how to live MY life, when to scale back and when to keep with that mama said!!! lololololol

Stop ya whining and belly aching. We’ve heard more nonscrupulous stories and ha ha ha’s of women getting used and sported. Can we just have this one please? Thank you!! Yeah, it’s “really she’s just a slut” and stuff when it’s leaning to the women

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
12:12 pm

Single ~ I pay attention. You gave your initials a long time ago when you gave your age. You can see why they were so easy to remember.

The camel’s nose is a metaphor for a situation where permitting some small, seemingly innocuous act will open the door for larger, clearly undesirable actions.

“If the camel once gets his nose in the tent, his body will soon follow” and all hell will break loose because we know a camel isn’t going to just let his nose get a whiff and stay standing there. Same as “just let me put the head in, I’ll promise not to go any further.” Any woman falling for that deserves any fallout that may or may not occur!

Ok, perhaps I went left, but that saying popped in my head with disco’s comment (11:43).

Dirty Birds Rise-Up

January 31st, 2013
12:13 pm

I believe if the women of the blog favorite movie star or athlete come calling those panties will drop in 1 to 4 hours. Why do the brotha on the street have to wait so long?

@Disco-Characteristics. Motivate to please the booty, Work hard at handling and pleasing the booty. Discpline to work for the booty, Fun loving to explore the booty.

kimmie

January 31st, 2013
12:14 pm

Dan – Beautiful. We;re doing the same with our little lady and gentleman.

I felt the same about mama’s boys too. Sure, listen to your parents, but learn some things and thnk for yourself as well.

disco

January 31st, 2013
12:18 pm

kimmie – a man being woman dumb? why that’s perfectly acceptable. lol.

kimmie

January 31st, 2013
12:19 pm

I believe if the women of the blog favorite movie star or athlete come calling those panties will drop in 1 to 4 hours. Why do the brotha on the street have to wait so long?

I’m actually dumbfounded someone went there!!

SMH

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
12:20 pm

I believe if the women of the blog favorite movie star or athlete come calling those panties will drop in 1 to 4 hours.

And on this note, I’m heading out for lunch….lolololol Fuuunnneeeee

disco

January 31st, 2013
12:20 pm

dirty bird – please. those athletes/actors are simply fantasies. I doubt that most of us would act upon them if the opportunity arose. I for one wouldn’t. shoot I might be like a dude all of a sudden having performance anxiety. lol.

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
12:21 pm

I believe if the women of the blog favorite movie star or athlete come calling those panties will drop in 1 to 4 hours. – Just goes to show how little you think of us. Just because your a movie star or an athlete doesn’t matter in the big scheme of things. We’re not looking for dick…we’re looking for substance. Movie star or average joe blow! Without out substance, you’re still a man w/a dick looking for a depository! Please excuse my bluntness.

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
12:22 pm

You got it, disco!!!

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
12:23 pm

You got it too, kimmie!

kimmie

January 31st, 2013
12:25 pm

And then the stupid athlete/actor is on tv whining about how he got got and owes a fortune in child support. Just cause he fell for every pair of panties dropped in front of him. Now who is the fool??

LOL!!!

disco

January 31st, 2013
12:26 pm

kimmie/leggs – not saying I don’t be at home looking at the tv going “mm mmm mmmm. what I wouldn’t do with some of that”. lol.

Exiled!

January 31st, 2013
12:26 pm

Gentlemanly money ain’t different from what u term regular money

I simply used the term gentleman coz blog chics have alluded that they like to date dudes who act like gentlemen,do demand to go Dutch nor whine about their money when they spend.

So dude is a gent and spending money like a gent should,blowing all the whistles and bells but then gets told,after a month of just dropping $$$$…baby,we gotta wait…!!

If u still apprehensive this much in the game does brother deserve a refund? Like these chics always say,they know when they see u first time that u goin get sum OR not….so if that true why not just decline his dates if u know dude ain’t getting it? See Simple,it’s a game they play.

Now if a dude ain’t looking out for hisself,u lose..coz chic will continue accepting dates but declining to take it to nuther level…
Game!

See

Exiled!

January 31st, 2013
12:27 pm

Don’t demand

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
12:28 pm

Nothing wrong with saying that, disco. (1) you know it’s not likely to happen and (2) you statement rests on skills, not how quickly you’ll give it up…big difference.

kimmie

January 31st, 2013
12:30 pm

Disco – Okayyyy!! Yes mame, nothing wrong with appreciating God’s creations!!

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
12:32 pm

“blog chics have alluded that they like to date dudes who act like gentlemen” – hogwash.

What do you think women want? I don’t think anyone is looking for a man that throws her down in her seat, drag her out of the restaurant instead of sitting back having a little chit chat at the table, throws her coat at her when time to leave.

No one is alluding to anything, it’s been outrighe stated!

daddy swiss

January 31st, 2013
12:42 pm

Howdy, folks! Looks like a lively discussion in here today… Nothing like a “how long should you wait for puddy” topic to spark some friction, I guess…

As for me, I say f__k that dude & his 2 weeks! Mofo, try having a d@mn baby! Lol. I haven’t had puddy in so long I would have forgotten what it looks like if it wasn’t for all the pics on my phone. Lol

Oh, and shout out to all the blogettes & blog bros. Hope you all are doing well.

Exiled

January 31st, 2013
12:47 pm

alluding was the wrong word then,…u got it..u want gentlemen..thats my point….

DuShawn

January 31st, 2013
12:48 pm

Im of the opinion that wait time and its signifance really is a discussion for younger daters.That’s one thing I luv about truly grown women. By the time a female reaches mid forties/early fifties, she will give you some the same day she meets you if she wants to or make you try for a year merely for her entertainment…..and won’t give a dayum how you, society or anyone else feels about it.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 31st, 2013
12:48 pm

@Cel

Bamboozling women.

Again, the lesson for my son(s).

“There’s going to be a time in your life when all you want, all you care about is getting ‘it’. And that’s fine. Go through that, do what you feel you have to, but remember a few things: 1) karma’s a fat woman that sits on your windpipe – she’ll take that air and won’t give it back/what goes around comes around, 2) think of your sister and mom, and how you would want her to be treated and how you’d feel if someone did to her what you do to women, and 3) at the end of the day, you have to live with the consequences of your decisions – no one else, so if you make a bunch of bad ones in pursuit of a status that matters only to people that won’t be in your life long, see number one.”

I did my share of the 4 F’s in this life, had fun doing it too. I also paid for those choices in ways that I didn’t like. But, I also understood that my actions have consequences when I made the decision – every.single.time – to do some dirty stuff.

At the end though, being honest, upfront, and communicative got me further than deception (and less consequences).

The girls your age may not get that, so deal with older women (for reasons that you’ll thank me for later in life), until they do.”

Now, go change the channel.

disco

January 31st, 2013
12:49 pm

dushawn – and that right there is what I’m talking about.

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
12:51 pm

Excellent post, Dan!!!!

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 31st, 2013
12:51 pm

@Daddy Swiss

Congrats to you and the wife my man!!

Exiled

January 31st, 2013
12:54 pm

@Disco…..older chics dont wait that long coz the puddy value has gone down…its a truism thats not often fully told.

Exiled

January 31st, 2013
12:55 pm

daddy swiss

January 31st, 2013
12:56 pm

Thanks, Dan. She’s a cutie.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 31st, 2013
1:00 pm

@Ex

I don’t know what older women you know, but the ones that trained me – out.fugging.standing.

And, when you’re young, the things they do to/for/with you…..makes up for any wear and tear, including what I put on it.

Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)

January 31st, 2013
1:01 pm

By the time a female reaches mid forties/early fifties, she will give you some the same day she meets you if she wants to or make you try for a year merely for her entertainment…..

Some of y’all are on some real dumb sh.it…once again painting an effed up picture using broad strokes and generalisms…

Hey Daddy Swiss!!!

Single and Happy

January 31st, 2013
1:03 pm

Well ex, I’m a firm believer in not starting something I know I’m not going to finish, so until we’ve been in a relationship for a while, the dates will be simple, no blowing of any bells and whistles. If the woman can’t be alright with that, then I know she’s not for me and time to move on. If someone can’t take we got to wait, then that’s something they should have thought about before the spent their money.

Exiled

January 31st, 2013
1:10 pm

makes up for any wear and tear, including what I put on it.

@Dan…some do make up for the wear and tear by trickin for sure but no doubt,like u say.the puddy has taken some beating by that point…..

cant value them the same way u wld with a young thouroughbred,though untrained,is very nimble and traineable…….these old heads think theirs is the truf..u cant change them….they might have stronger tongues,no doubt……

Willie Dynamite

January 31st, 2013
1:15 pm

Afternoon all,
Good discussion from the little I’ve read.
IMO a man will wait if he deems it worth waiting for. He may just see it as a challenge and before he knows it happily ever after happens. She could be a good woman or a slut (to someone) but that is neither here nor there. Women wait cause they can. Whining about it doesn’t accomplish anything so either wait, do better or k.i.m. If puddy didn’t have any value then what you whining for.

Soapbox- some y’all dudes kill me whining bout taking chicks out on dates and then still not getting none. Man up, learn the rules of the game. You gonna take plenty of L’s. That is a fact no matter how you spin it. The richest man in the world gets turned down, a dude serving life in prison can get some and even get married. What the heyal you whining bout?
Equal opportunity- I wanna say this as respectfully as possible. I think some of you upstanding blog chick get your own personal situations mixed up with what’s really going on out here in these streets. I’ll just ask you to think of 10 of your friends,relatives, coworkers etc. how many of those chicks are top notch upstanding like yourselves. I’m willing to bet at least 6 of them are clueless. Those the chicks men run across daily so of course they will stumble a bit when presented with quality.
At the end of the day tho Men should appreciate a chick that wants to wait for whatever reason. Find her and if she is waiting for you then you got you something to keep.

Dirty Birds Rise-Up

January 31st, 2013
1:15 pm

@Dushawn… U are 100 percent correct sir… That is why I am not sure why Leggs and Celisea are holding on so tight… Cobwebbs are forming! lol
@Sassy who u trying to fool…. Shame on you..

@Disco….. I like you style…

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 31st, 2013
1:16 pm

@Ex

That’s where you and I differ.

I never wanted to train a young chick. If anything, I wanted to experience new isht. And what is a young chick gone show me that I don’t already know?

Trickin was the least of it. Having someone tell you it’s okay to say what you feel like you feel it, having someone that has seen through other relationships how to treat a man, and someone that was confident enough to live life as they wanted without concern for the perceptions of friends and family.

all that ^^ meant more than the sex, money, clothes, or good food.

Exiled!

January 31st, 2013
1:20 pm

Single..I agree!

U gotta watch how u spend and with whom.

Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)

January 31st, 2013
1:25 pm

who u trying to fool…. Shame on you..

Don’t try to come for me Dirty…just do it. I don’t recall trying to fool anyone…I posted what I thought/think on the topic and some of the comments made.

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
1:27 pm

That is why I am not sure why Leggs and Celisea are holding on so tight… = Read between the lines. Both our posts speaks of “character,” which is very important to the both of us. I can get dick any day of the week. I’d rather have a relationship where the man is about something more than just a thick dick….

Nothing wrong with any woman keeping the chastity belt on if the men are less than suitable. I feel sorry any woman AND man who gets with someone for the hell of getting with someone!!!

Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)

January 31st, 2013
1:27 pm

all that ^^ meant more than the sex, money, clothes, or good food.

good point…

Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)

January 31st, 2013
1:28 pm

I can get dick any day of the week. I’d rather have a relationship where the man is about something more than just a thick dick….

Damn sure worth repeating…

DuShawn

January 31st, 2013
1:30 pm

@Sassy – “Some of y’all are on some real dumb sh.it…once again….”Every comment I make is generally speaking. From my experiences, and obviously others agree, I have found that as a woman matures the less likely she is to be concerned with certain societal stigmas (i.e. If I give it up too quickly, what will he think of me). Normally, when a female reaches that age, she is of the “Hey, my kids are raised, I have nothing to prove, love it or leave it alone, I’m doing me” mindset. Again, not all women reach that level of self confidence. The intention of my previous post was to commend those that do.

Robert

January 31st, 2013
1:36 pm

” Are women also bothered by men who prefer to wait? ”

This is a good question. Some women feel rejected if the man wants to wait a little while longer before they have sex. I can only speak for myself. Under what circumstances will I ask a woman to wait?

- Sex on the 1st date. Some women will drag you into the house.

- Sex in a car. My corvette does not have a back seat.

- Sex when little children are not asleep.

- Sex staying at Moma’s or another relative house.

Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)

January 31st, 2013
1:36 pm

Every comment I make is generally speaking.

I’ll keep that in mind…

The intention of my previous post was to commend those that do.

Okay..

daddy swiss

January 31st, 2013
1:36 pm

Howdy, Sassy.

Gotta run, have a good one peeps!

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
1:37 pm

Thanks, SassyMe! Amazing how men really think we are hard up, clueless, willing to fall on the first penis that points our way.

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
1:39 pm

I wouldn’t be bothered. Even if he’s “faking the funk,” he’s still waiting….

Willie Dynamite

January 31st, 2013
1:44 pm

Different dynamic when a dude decides to wait or just flat out turns down a chick. Most women (most I said) are not programmed to even think of that possibility. I’m sure it’s not many chicks that can even speak on a dude turning down sex. Maybe a dance, drink, number, date or something like that but not sex.

Exiled!

January 31st, 2013
1:48 pm

DuSh…some of these blog chics will give it to u during ur first week….as long as that deal is under wraps.

women don’t like their bizz in the streets..

I once got one popular chic laid in my car back in the day,then braved bout it to our mutual friends.

She flagged and subsequently benched me for that big mouth foul.

You keep on the low low, u win with lots of women.

….that’s the abc rule I have learnt.

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
1:50 pm

Some of y’all are on some real dumb sh.it…once again painting an effed up picture using broad strokes and generalisms…

Cosign annnnnd cosign That’s all Imma say on this.

Exiled!

January 31st, 2013
1:50 pm

bragged

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 31st, 2013
1:53 pm

@WD
‘
It’s the same conditioning that has them worrying about what “he (she, they) will think of her.”

A confident woman, like a confident man, will ask the questions and get the answers; then believe and wait, or not.

Leggs said penis…..heheheehehehehe

Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)

January 31st, 2013
1:55 pm

Amazing how men really think we are hard up, clueless, willing to fall on the first penis that points our way.

Yep and these men forget that they have daughters who could very well be in a situation juuust like that…hard up and clueless..probably being groomed by some old geezer who wants some new trainable p.u$$y…

Maybe a dance, drink, number, date or something like that but not sex.

That happens I’m sure…maybe in small numbers but it happens still.

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
2:02 pm

Dan. I thought the other word came across too harsly (lol). I usually say weenie, but that was too soft (lol). Penis fits the bill (lol).

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
2:09 pm

All I know is there are some fickle dudes on here. One day they’re St. Peter and kudos to chicks not passing it out. On the flip side (or another day…just depends), Sam the Slut Man and agreeing with any chick kicking the door open all eagle spread and stuff. And the biggest is Nosey Nate, cause you ain’t dropping all your business, the assumption is aligned to their experience….lack of experience (with anything but what they’re use to. And then there’s Billy the Baiter, cause he ain’t reaaal sure, he tossing out an accustion so you can refute with a “nuh uh….I am screwing” or “nuh uh, I’m not screwing”….soooo I’ve resolved to say what I gotta and leave it at that. Make or not what you will of it.

And funny thing, you don’t see NONE of these dudes posting true to life stories. None of their business is posted on the blog, so why should ours?

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
2:10 pm

But they want to sit back with tongues lapping waiting for the women to dish. Please, I think not! lolololol

Willie Dynamite

January 31st, 2013
2:11 pm

Dan – kinda sorta. A chick that’s made up her mind will shut it down until THAT dude comes along. A dude that’s made up his mind will still hit a random ratchet chick just cause until THAT chick comes along. Heyal even after for some dudes.

Sassy- I think that’s a really really small number. Unfortunately dudes ain’t wired that way, especially if we even put in a lil effort.

Exiled!

January 31st, 2013
2:13 pm

I don’t think men think women are clueless

Men value what they value and for good reason coz they normally strike first..never mind there may be a reject.

But uall must know,the longer u stay and ur name ain’t called ur value starts getting questioned,yr name getting whispered and doubting fingers getting pointed in ur direction.

That’s the reality of the dating market.

You can leverage puddy and put if on a holding platform only for so long.

If it ain’t snatched,either it’s a known stank,too pricey for its perceived wirth or it’s perceived a mystery fraud with a questionable track!

Men decide either way!

Exiled!

January 31st, 2013
2:17 pm

Worth

disco

January 31st, 2013
2:21 pm

willie d – re that 1:15 I know plenty of the chicks in my circle are clueless. they not be clueless all the way around but in some areas I’m always shaking my head at them. that’s not to say I think I know everything. there are certainly areas in which I am clueless. still this sex game ain’t one of them. lol.

leggs – re that 1:17 to courtside. I’ll claim the cobwebs. lol. not my fault though. the real life men don’t hold a match to the blog gents. lol.

okay back to catching up.

kimmie

January 31st, 2013
2:24 pm

Willie & Dan- You guys are BRINGING IT today!!

Great discussion in here, that’s what I like!!!

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
2:26 pm

the longer u stay and ur name ain’t called ur value starts getting questioned, – Had to laugh. What’s your spin on her name is being called, but she doesn’t want to answer.

It’s not always on the guy…women denounce the caller as well!!!

OSHH

January 31st, 2013
2:27 pm

No, waiting and actually wanting to get to know the individual is not the same as rejection.
Two weeks ain’t ish and most dudes categorize brawds way before smashing takes place, so even if the sex is exquisite, seldom do the women get out of the slot they been placed in initially, so all that talk about sex is used to gauge where the relationship goes is some str8 bs

disco

January 31st, 2013
2:30 pm

oops leggs had my time wrong.

sassy – I just told a chick the other day that she be checking for dirty Ds. she had the nerve to take offense but when I called out her track record she had to laugh at herself.

re all the dumb stuff going around. I’ll agree that a lot of it is straight foolish (courtside thinking we are all groupie chicks). still, I do understand where dushawn is coming from with his statement, general though it may be.

kimmie

January 31st, 2013
2:36 pm

I went back and re-read the topic. I am under the impression the time Bill spent dating wait chick is really a “couple weeks”, NOT including the holidays. I read it to mean he was complaining about not being able to meet anyone special around the holidays. So sounds to me he met chick AFTER the holidays.

He needs to sit his whiing punk behind down and look in the mirror. He just better be sure HE is worth the wait when & if chick decides to give him some! LOL!!!

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 31st, 2013
2:38 pm

Okay, logic question:

To those that would argue that 2 weeks is not enough time to have sex (from a woman’s perspective), please state 5 reasons.

I can show you where your logic fails

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
2:39 pm

Cracking up over here.

disco

January 31st, 2013
2:39 pm

kimmie – now that’s opening up a whole new can of worms. waiting and waiting and waiting and then he got a little one or he can’t get it up or it won’t stay up or he busts too fast. lawd talk about mad. lol. if you like him you might go through the “it’s okay” rigamarole but you are already working on your exit strategy.

Gerald

January 31st, 2013
2:40 pm

“The same guy who was just whining about not finding someone he liked during the holidays, has decided that he is unsure of someone because she wants to wait for sex.”

Crybaby! Male or Female if your partner isn’t ready for sex, RESPECT their wishes or move the fudge on, and yes this applies to females. Just because you’re hawking for some tail doesn’t mean he or she should drop their pants for you. Sex is a want not a need, people.

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
2:40 pm

1. Don’t think H.I.V stats get back that soon – that takes care of the other 4 (lol).

Exiled!

January 31st, 2013
2:41 pm

Men get rejected All the time..we get this

disco

January 31st, 2013
2:43 pm

leggs – since you gave a reason I’ll give a basic “I just don’t want to”. I don’t have to explain why or what for.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 31st, 2013
2:44 pm

@Disco

The smalles pebble can send a ripple in the ocean if it lands in the right spot

Exiled!

January 31st, 2013
2:45 pm

OSSH..ofcourse,if a chic has been labelled already the sex ain’t gon bring her outa ho dom if it’s exquisite.

The exquisite sex will validate the label.

U too funny!

U want sex to save a h o…maan!

disco

January 31st, 2013
2:46 pm

dan – I’ve heard that and all kinds of other myths, urban legends, fairy tales, fables, etc. to each his own but I can’t get down like that.

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
2:46 pm

Works for me, disco.

Dan, can you show her where her logic fails? (lol)

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
2:52 pm

disco – I think you should be the blog’s human mascot or I should say representative You are back and forth being team pink, team blug…lololol Just like a swinging pendulum. Funny girl/chick you are

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 31st, 2013
2:53 pm

@Leggs

I’m married, and I couldn’t even if it wasn’t; I’m ill-equipped to prove that theory

Willie Dynamite

January 31st, 2013
2:54 pm

Disco- re your 2:39. I agree with your point but it’s a flip side as well. Dude waiting and waiting and then when chick gives it up it’s just some regla ole puddy. Just like every dude ain’t packing, every chick can’t hula hoop or tie a cherry stem onto a knot with her tongue. Sex is a part of the equation but hopefully during the waiting period you find a whole lot more trump cards.

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
2:54 pm

That was a compliment BTW. You seem to represent both men and women very well. lol

Exiled!

January 31st, 2013
2:54 pm

Checking for derty D’s

that’s sum rep

That rep gets to get around Disco…

her tongue has licked all shades?

kimmie

January 31st, 2013
2:55 pm

Dan – I know this won’t answer your logic question, but I am answering it from a grown woman’s perspective.

The actual time passed does not mean anything. It’s how soon I feel comfortable going there with a man and how I gauge his maturity level. It could be several factors that determine whether something physical happens sooner or later. I’m always gonna protect myself physically and mentally.

Whatever reason a person gives for not wanting to share something so personal as their body defies logic, to me.

kimmie

January 31st, 2013
2:58 pm

“I just don’t want to”. I don’t have to explain why or what for.

Disco – That’s the number one best reason and covers all the rest for me!!LOLO!!!

Exiled!

January 31st, 2013
3:00 pm

Funny I was thinking bout how u so real Disco

ask me what I wanted to ask u if u got the nerve…

@Cel…Disco plays for blog menfolk sometimes Coz uall regular blog chics don’t normally cheerless for blog men. When blog men have a point but of urs is wrong u don’t hold her to the carpet..u go ghost…that’s uall mo

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
3:01 pm

Good answer, Dan. Your post “alluded” that you would be able to break down any 5 reasons a woman gave. I already knew that wouldn’t be possible (lol).

kimmie ~ yes, best answer to boot. I’m laughing because only a crazy man would date hold moot court on that issue!

Exiled!

January 31st, 2013
3:02 pm

Cheerlead

Button

January 31st, 2013
3:02 pm

SCHOOL SHOOTING AT PINE MIDDLE SCHOOL ATLANTA! PRAY FOR OUR KIDS!!! THE WORLD IS GUN CRAZY!

disco

January 31st, 2013
3:04 pm

C – you funny. I do go back and forth between teams because my feelings/thoughts/opinions are all over the place. some stuff I’m straight up for and some stuff I’m straight up against. some things I can meet in the middle on. lol.

willie d – I figured some guy (s/h – lol) would come back with that. I’ll make the argument that it’s generally a bigger letdown for us. I’ll make the argument based only on general, stereotypical character traits. women are likely more emotionally invested by the time they get to doing the do the first time. they may have higher expectations because during the wait while dude was being all gentlemanly her mind got carried away with hyping him up. she had fantasized and romanticized and all for nought. now do I really need to go into why it’s not as devastating for men? lol.

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
3:04 pm

Ex – let’s clean that up a tad bit. Many blog chics cheer many of the blog men on. You might not remember because it’s not always east to cheer you on (lol).

Exiled!

January 31st, 2013
3:04 pm

So Kimmie…has a dude ever sweetly cajoled u for sum….did u ever once or twice recapitulate after he sweated for it?

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 31st, 2013
3:04 pm

@Leggs, I still can, but I don’t want to.

@Kimmie – exactly.

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
3:05 pm

PRICE Middle School…

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
3:07 pm

Naw, you really can’t. But believe what you want (lol).

Button

January 31st, 2013
3:08 pm

CNN said Pine – it’s a tragedy.

Exiled!

January 31st, 2013
3:10 pm

Leggs..maybe so..but Disco cheers me on when she agrees…her rep hasnt been any less despite that.
But I must say that most of uall’s co-signs when they come with the disclaimers,’it’s funny I agree with ex etc’ make me laugh at the lameness.

Uall like to say ‘high school’ …that’s some high school grown women do on an anonymous blog.

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
3:12 pm

I never say high school, but I get your drift.

Exiled!

January 31st, 2013
3:13 pm

So Disco….be real…u ain’t brave?

disco

January 31st, 2013
3:15 pm

ex – what you talking about willis?

disco

January 31st, 2013
3:18 pm

am I brave? hmm. I’ve never pondered that. I know often I am too bold but I’ve never considered whether or not I was brave. probably not. I might be a little bit too selfish to be brave. brave usually involves heroics of some sort and I ain’t trying to be no hero.

Exiled!

January 31st, 2013
3:19 pm

I agree or like Kimmie’s 2:55 but Does Disco ever feel that way…as in protecting ur heart.

@Disco…have u ever had to protect ur feelings by withholding or have u ever felt for a man like that anyway?

Dirty Birds Rise-Up

January 31st, 2013
3:19 pm

Yea Right! U would not sleep with your favorite movie star or athlete….
@Disco what do you like to eat, we are going to do dinner, drinks etc..

@Leggs… What u talkin bout Willis…. Maybe at your stage of the game the gentlemen is ready to have a mature relationship, but first he needs to see how young the pootang is? U have a look of hang-ups, like no Male enhancement pills, um the real world is men who are over 50 have lost a lot of testerone and may need some assistance… Get with the program.

Falcons rise up!

kimmie

January 31st, 2013
3:21 pm

Exiled – I have never believed in teasing. So if something is telling me to chill and get to know dude better, I’m going to see to it there is not much opportunity to go there. I don’t believe in getting all hot & heavy and then in the middle of it, STOP. That’s high school girl stuff to me. Plus, not only is it frustrating for him, it’s the same for me too. I admit I do decide early on in my head whether or not I may go there with a dude, I just may not act on it right away. And yeah, some guys have been smooth and lucky rather early, but I didn’t do anything I didn’t want to do. I can honestly say I don’t regret any of my encounters. If something is holding me back, I follow my instincts and they have not failed me!

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
3:25 pm

@Dirty ~ let’s get this corrected once and for all. You say I have a book but can only name one. I don’t have a book of hang-ups. I have 2 “preferences.” I prefer no enhancement pills and no penis pumps. That’s all you hear from me so what are you talking about? If you’re going to quote me, please come correct.

I realize men over 50 have lost a lot of testerone. If I choose not to deal with someone who uses a penis pump that is my choice. And because of my age doesn’t equate that I will be with a 60+ yea old man.

You’d be surprise. I’m definitely with the program…my program and no one else’s.

Exiled!

January 31st, 2013
3:26 pm

U know Kimmie…u have grown to be some grown woman since ur marriage two years or so ago…

Re ur answer there is testimony.

U don’t get rattled like u used to back in the day..

U got some calmness most happy married women have.

Mr lawyer is doing sum right! Lol

Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)

January 31st, 2013
3:27 pm

Disco, your 2:30 was off swwetie, I did not come with the movie star athlete thing…..

disco

January 31st, 2013
3:27 pm

dirty bird – I guess she told you…..

kimmie

January 31st, 2013
3:28 pm

Exiled – I have always known my heart was something I had to protect. I am one of those females whose heart is in it when we do go there.

That’s why I could never go there with an athlete, like Dirty mentioned. Yes, alot of them at UGA were fine as good wine. Some did even go pro. I liked some of them and they liked me. But I also knew early on they were the biggest garden tools around. One of my best freinds dated one, transferred to UGA to be with him, he had been her high school sweetheart. She stayed in tears and all you heard about were his shenanigans all over campus. She dated a professional athlete later after we graduated. Same thing. I never had the heart or patience for that. Friends, cool, get me some tickets to the games, invite me & my friends to the parties, but that’s where it ends with me.

Exiled!

January 31st, 2013
3:29 pm

I say that coz most times I push the envelope but in fun

and I be laughing holding my blackberry

It’s just comedy for me

disco

January 31st, 2013
3:30 pm

courtside – well then my apologies. who was it? dirty bird? the same dirty bird that just got told? lol. (courtside would you believe I just typed courtside in both places I needed to put dirty bird. I wonder what’s up with that)

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
3:31 pm

Ho harm no foul, Dirty. I’m not one of those “stuck in the mud” type of women. I’m very aware of my surroundings and the pickings around me!!!

Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)

January 31st, 2013
3:32 pm

stepping back in…

Celi!!…your 2:09 was ON point and funny…after leaving the lab I needed that.

I’m definitely with the program…my program and no one else’s.

Church….

Exiled!

January 31st, 2013
3:32 pm

Kimmie

that’s why I almost punched Queen suggesting to sign up my daughter to be a cheerleader.

why sign for third fourth fifth best parading the skin for the ball players

Some things I don’t get.

Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)

January 31st, 2013
3:36 pm

disco, I think I might be heavy on your mind today!!!

disco

January 31st, 2013
3:38 pm

courtside – that or it just sounded like some foolishness you would say. lol.

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
3:38 pm

Sassy – Honey, I try to get on up in here early and say what I gotta. I know sometimes I’m off and sometimes a bit opinionated and sometimes just having fun with. But as soon as the sun rises good up in this piece, the shenanigans are bound to start….thus my cue to ease out…lol

And as you might have noticed, the Dirty Bird seems to have followed all of us (if you know about Leggs not digging penis pumps), he ain’t started blogging. So, for that I don’t respond to the jabs and jokie jokie, etc. I say shame on him for changing his name to say what he really feels….IJS Different year, same junk.

Exiled!

January 31st, 2013
3:39 pm

Court….the mo on this blog is to post ur email add just in case some female is feeling u..and wants to holla.

dudes who don’t close deals(this is a dating blog) don’t get invited to our MLB annual super owl party hosted by Diva and select few chics.

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
3:40 pm

And, for the record going forward, I’m not so much against Viagra, just against those taking it that have so many other medical issues. Like I said, I don’t want anyone stroking out while stroking me…that’s my hangup with the pill. Too many already sick older men.

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
3:41 pm

I’m done…brb gotta run to bank before it closes.

kimmie

January 31st, 2013
3:41 pm

Exiled – While I understand your hesitation with cheerleading, it is an entirely different game in and of itself. Cheerleading has become much more athletic, not like those NFL & NBA cheerleaders that are really “dancers” without the poles!

Is your daughter into gymnastics? Because alot of it is gymnastics and acrobatics now. I had a little cousin that got into the competitive cheering. Hubs oldest daughter was in it as well. When you get into it on the college level, it may as well be another sport. A lady I went to UGA with was one of 2 on the UGA squad. She is now an English professor at Emory and won a Pulizer Prize. So its not a beginning to a bad end.

But it gets extremely expensive!

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
3:41 pm

And for me, it ain’t the nasties or the religious stuff that’s a turn off, it’s folks playing games.

Alright, I have an appointment and I’m out of here

Toodles…same bat time, same bat chanel tomorrow

Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)

January 31st, 2013
3:43 pm

the Dirty Bird seems to have followed all of us… shame on him for changing his name to say what he really feels….IJS Different year, same junk.

Celi you’re alright with me chica.

Celisea

January 31st, 2013
3:46 pm

Sassy –

Alright gotta run at 4:00, need a few minutes to shut it down.

DuShawn

January 31st, 2013
3:49 pm

Disco & Leggs yall don’t go nowhere. You what we always do after everyone leaves

Exiled!

January 31st, 2013
3:50 pm

Kimmie…I have steered them in other sports,tennis,golf etc that if they are any good,they can play pros….
To be honest with u,being a guy,I know how the male sports athletes feel(entitled) for being fetted.

I wouldn’t want to set up my kids for anything close to those circle of knuckleheads if I can help it.

Altho I’m praying my son gets his bball on and joins their ranks.

Hopefully I can influence him to wear 3 cleats at once when packing heat coz he can’t run away from the gol digger chics.

disco

January 31st, 2013
3:50 pm

leggs – shall we simultaneously say “shut up dushawn”?

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
3:51 pm

1. 2. 3 =

Exiled!

January 31st, 2013
3:51 pm

Boone hosting super owl party blog peeps?

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
3:51 pm

Shet it up, DuShawn!

Exiled!

January 31st, 2013
3:52 pm

No one

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
3:53 pm

Who is Boone (lol).

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
3:54 pm

That’s why I’m laughing, figured you meant “no one” with the question mark.

kimmie

January 31st, 2013
3:54 pm

Exiled – I really don’t blame you. My mom was like that with me when it came to cheering, baton-twirling and the like. She said stuff like that was for those without brains and would not get you a scholarship or a job in the future.

It’s not the worst thing in the world, just not for us!

disco

January 31st, 2013
3:55 pm

okay I have a question that might straight up make some of y’all lose respect for me. here goes. who is playing in the superbowl? lol. no joke. I don’t even know. I know beyonce is singing. that’s all I know.

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
3:59 pm

49′ers and The Ravens

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
4:00 pm

I think it’s Pittsburgh 49′ers and somebody Cincinnati Ravens

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
4:01 pm

Cracking up, because I’m in the learning phase of learning football…I’ve come a long way (rofl).

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
4:02 pm

Oops, Baltimore Ravens and San Francisco 49′ers.. Back to the drawing board…

disco

January 31st, 2013
4:02 pm

leggs – thanks. now I know. I might not know tomorrow but I know today. lol. (and you wrong for playing with the teams like that. I might not follow sports but I suppose the teams – if not the players – have name recognition).

Leggs

January 31st, 2013
4:03 pm

Well I had part of the teams names right. Have to count for something.

Exiled!

January 31st, 2013
4:03 pm

Maybe we should start with Beyonce coz she’s getting bad rap for lyp singing at BO’s inauguration

@Disco…it don’t matter for u to know the teams..just attend the free parties and eat their wings,good and get wasted on free liqor.

Let’s party! Be happy!

Maybe u might get that itch scratched this weekend Disco!

u know dude who had that itch on lock is married

disco

January 31st, 2013
4:03 pm

oh snap. girl you weren’t playing? you were playing? right? yeah. you were playing.

disco

January 31st, 2013
4:04 pm

ex – again I ask “what you talking about”. you go off on some tangents and I just can’t always keep up with you.

Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)

January 31st, 2013
4:28 pm

Peace y’all…

Exiled!

January 31st, 2013
4:35 pm

Go party Disco

bottom-line

sHe-Devil

January 31st, 2013
11:08 pm

(Sigh) Pathetic little horny Bill. Suppose the woman is in the midst of a herpes outbreak or has a terrible case of the clap and thought perhaps she should wait until the ABT cleared it. But little horny Bill wants to bail because he didn’t get ‘it’ wet. If she is burning, she should given Bill what he longs for, throwing caution and precaution to the wind. His impatience will mock him as he observes the green ’sewage’ in his underpants.

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