Is this a bad time?
I think many failed romances are a result of bad timing. You can appear to be very compatible and show great potential, but if the timing is wrong, it all falls apart. We don’t always realize that it is the wrong time, though. I believe we get caught up in attraction and end up realizing it way too late that it’s the right person, wrong time.
This is especially true when someone is nursing a heartbreak, mourning the end of a long relationship or marriage. I think people need to just have fun and let dating be about the “palate cleansers” to clear the lingering bad taste you may have from the ex. Even when we feel ready, it’s not until things get hot and heavy with the rebound relationship that we can see how important timing is.
Have you ever met someone really great at a really bad time in your life? How did you handle it?
I think if we were more honest with people we date about where we are – emotionally, it could save a lot of heartache. When you let folks know what head space you are in – you would be surprised at how understanding some people can be. Many of us have been there and know that it takes time to be in the right place to start something new.
How do figure out if it is a bad time to start a serious relationship? How do you let the person you just met know that? Is it fair to ask them to wait until the timing is better for you?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blof
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disco
January 30th, 2013
3:21 pm
sassy – don’t flat line. you know there’s some truth in it. I know there’s someone for everyone and all that but I always kind of feel bad for the big girls that have little tiny men (you see that a lot). I just don’t now how you are supposed to feel that strength and comfort from a guy when you are bigger than he is. just me though.
leggs – do I have to go to the corner? I already apologized.
Leggs
January 30th, 2013
3:25 pm
Yes ma’am. 10 mins!
Celisea
January 30th, 2013
3:28 pm
but I always kind of feel bad for the big girls that have little tiny men (you see that a lot).
Maybe it’s just a coinkidink but couples with big hers and lil hims always seems to be where she’s bossing him around and beating him up. She won’t let him speak unless spoken too either. I don’t frequent TrashMart, but the times I’ve gone in and got a glimsp of big her lil him love, that’s what I’ve witnessed. It ain’t funny but I’m laughing as I type this.
disco
January 30th, 2013
3:28 pm
leggs – aww man. that’s why I can’t stand her with her old scatter-eyed, pop bottle glass wearing self. this is all her fault. (mumbling as I make my way to the freaking corner. this is some bull).
Leggs
January 30th, 2013
3:29 pm
Bellies can be fixed, if the person wants to fix it. Crossed eyes, not so much! I don’t understand how all these pot belly, beer drinking, fat stomachs walking around can be comfortable. I always picture one pending over to tie his shoes and falling over like a weeble wobble. “Weeble woobles but they don’t fall down” unless they’re already down then they rock from side to side trying to gain footing.
Celisea
January 30th, 2013
3:30 pm
I’ve been feeling silly since I started blogging….with my first post of the day…rambling and stuff.
When I saw Court’s name a minute ago, I thought Little Red Rid’em then the song Naaaaasteee, nastee girl, don’t mean a thing…by JJ
Celisea
January 30th, 2013
3:36 pm
I feel cockeyed today….lol My contacts ain’t acting right. I think I have “dry eye”….by the time I get home they’re moving around. I fell asleep and one of those bad boys popped out on it’s own.
Leggs
January 30th, 2013
3:40 pm
disco ~ your time is up. I added a few minutes due to your mumbling out loud!!!
disco
January 30th, 2013
3:40 pm
leggs – see. you brought me back to wanting to be the fashion police. it all started innocently enough with “jeans day”. thing is folks assume that if they can wear jeans they can wear sneakers and I’m like that is so a violation. you still need to wear work appropriate footwear. lol. that led me to bring up the fact that the pregnant chicks, the injured and the overweight wear sneakers. I’m all for pregnant person and broken toe person wearing sneakers but I think the overweight should take their paycheck to the wide shoe warehouse and get some real shoes. just breaking dress codes all willy nilly. it’s wrong I tell you.
okay. somebody bring a topic. I’m starting to talk about people too much.
Celisea
January 30th, 2013
3:40 pm
I’m listening to a song titled “Imma stay saved” and ummm, it sounds like it should be played on the Vee
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 30th, 2013
3:43 pm
disco…. Why you gotta go and call teh dude “petite”….. Thats is an ego killer by itself!!! I have a that loves ,loves loves the big ones…He is a short dude… Like 5′5″, maybe 165 or so…. Says he is always looking for the next mountain to climb.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 30th, 2013
3:46 pm
Where is this ” wide shoe warehouse” you speak of???
Leggs
January 30th, 2013
3:46 pm
Anybody remember the song Soul Makossa? It just popped in my head. Michael Baisden has people calling in requesting old school songs. Rock Creek Park played a few minutes ago. Hadn’t heard that in years.
Leggs
January 30th, 2013
3:47 pm
Celisea
January 30th, 2013
3:48 pm
Most of the songs played on the gospel station almost make you feel like getting your freaky sneaky. Ain’t hardly no more soul stirring songs
Groin stirring maybe, but not soul stirring…lol
disco
January 30th, 2013
3:50 pm
courtside – he better seek a mountain. i weigh 165 and ain’t no way I’m playing with a little me-sized man. no way, no how.
courtside – I don’t know where the wide shoe warehouse is. I do know that it is way easier (and cheaper) to buy wide shoes than narrow shoes. my mom has narrow feet. I never thought much of it until I was on a quest to buy her shoes. I was like this is some bull for real. narrow shoes are hard to find and overpriced when you do find them.
Leggs
January 30th, 2013
3:52 pm
I felt that way when Kurt Frankin’s song came on at a club. Didn’t feel like it should be played in a club (lol). I know I couldn’t dance to it.
Celisea
January 30th, 2013
3:55 pm
Nearly all of KF’s songs seem more so secular than gospel. Even though I like him as an artist and feel he’s super talented (with his little bitty self), I can’t take him seriously as a gospel singer.
Celisea
January 30th, 2013
3:58 pm
There’s another I like God’s Got It, I think by J Moss. It’s very upbeat. I wanna wiggle when it’s playing in the car.
DuShawn
January 30th, 2013
3:59 pm
@disco….you got a slick azz mouth. You will cut a man deep with that tongue. Just think if she called you that in person ” ole petite, little me-size, pick-up stick, teeny tiny leg having azz” . A man would need therapy after that sh&^t to get his self esteem back.
Celisea
January 30th, 2013
4:00 pm
Alright, 1 hour. I’ve violated all kinds of rules. I’ve talked on here too much today. Tomorrow, I’m back to keeping with my work and blogging very little, unless someone comes again with some jokes…lol Hope I can get to the gym tonight…weather permitting I mean
Toodles
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 30th, 2013
4:02 pm
I just don’t now how you are supposed to feel that strength and comfort from a guy when you are bigger than he is. just me though.
No it’s not…that’s one of the reasons I don’t date short men…
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 30th, 2013
4:03 pm
Has anyone seen that show about the preachers’ wives here in the Atl…I think it’s called The Sisterhood or Sister-something…
disco
January 30th, 2013
4:04 pm
dushawn –I literally just had to stifle a giggle. lol. anyway, I agree with you. I am a mouthpiece. this is why I try to avoid men that will make me want to talk about them like that. my self control is limited sometimes. this is why I say I’m checking for the man that will say “disco hush” and instead of verbally assaulting him I will actually just pull back and hush.
sassy – thanks for your support.
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 30th, 2013
4:18 pm
this is why I try to avoid men that will make me want to talk about them like that. my self control is limited sometimes
Yep..been there and working on that. Sometimes it’s just too easy to go the hell off on a dude…too easy and that’s not a good thing when they give you ALL types of fodder and ammo to use. I’m a work in progress…
You’re welcome disco…we got to stick together in this thang..
disco
January 30th, 2013
4:32 pm
hmm. I guess the blog well done run dry.
Leggs
January 30th, 2013
4:39 pm
Anybody still here?
DuShawn
January 30th, 2013
4:53 pm
The three of us always end up together……don’t fight it.
disco
January 30th, 2013
5:02 pm
shut up dushawn.
Leggs
January 30th, 2013
5:04 pm
HUSH!
Exiled!
January 30th, 2013
5:55 pm
I know you can handle a 3 sum but a four seems like Rumble in the Jungle Big boy!
@DuDhawn
I wonder if Disco is greedy when freasky..hmmmmm