Dating ADD? It’s a thing
As fun as dating in Atlanta can be, there is a certain part of it that can get frustrating. You know how it is when you start to feel like you are going through a constant stream of dates. You’re meeting people, making pseudo-connections only to find that the interest and pursuit fizzles out faster than you can say …Peachtree.
Although some folks admit to being afraid of commitment, there are others who can’t manage to focus on one great potential romance longer than two solid weeks. I like to call that dating attention deficit disorder. With so many “choices” and distractions (strip clubs?) in this city, is it any wonder we get stuck in a revolving door?
How do you manage drown out all the distractions and really focus on someone who is potentially a good match? Do you think online dating, a good nightlife, and many eligible singles makes it difficult to overcome Dating ADD?
If you think of the last time you met someone you felt a deep connection with, how did you decide to tie up those “loose ends” and focus on that one person? Is it wrong to expect someone you date to be consistent if you both feel the same way about one another?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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102 comments Add your comment
disco
January 29th, 2013
2:22 pm
dirty – list 5 or 10 characteristics of yours and since I’m so picky I’ll shoot down 4 or 8 of them off the top. what you working with?
Leggs
January 29th, 2013
2:40 pm
disco
January 29th, 2013
2:46 pm
dang. I hate to bring it up but remember the good old days when we could fill pages simply talking about good times/james’ corduroys/florida’s fro/all of thelma’s fiancés?
Leggs
January 29th, 2013
2:49 pm
Perhaps many NYE resolutions were not to blog as much and actually do some work (it was one of the 2 I made).
disco
January 29th, 2013
2:51 pm
really? that’s kind of a janky resolution. lol. what was your other one leggs (or can you share)?
DuShawn
January 29th, 2013
2:56 pm
-disco & Leggs- Seems like I got both my blog ladies at the same dayum time……Yall kiss slowly and let’s get it poppin.
kimmie
January 29th, 2013
2:59 pm
disco – Remember Thelma’s African fiance’ Ebay?
disco
January 29th, 2013
3:03 pm
s’up d? how come I just saw me “kissing” the front of your head with a cast iron skillet and leggs “kissing” the back of your head with a cast iron skillet.
Leggs
January 29th, 2013
3:07 pm
Good one, disco!
I don’t usually make resolutions, but I did this year. The other one was to explore life more. I already enjoy it, just need to live it a little more. Get out there and have fun, that’s my reso.
Bluzgirl...soon to be Memphis bound!
January 29th, 2013
3:09 pm
Wow…barely on page 2…maybe the blog has slowed down because people have made resolutions to have less drama in their lives.
DuShawn
January 29th, 2013
3:11 pm
Girl please…..yall eva was to pull out a skillet in my presence, yall better be fryin me up some fish, with nutting but aprons on.
disco
January 29th, 2013
3:12 pm
leggs – this year’s resolution was to read one “black” classic per month. I just started Richard wright’s black boy. I haven’t read it in a very long time. bad azz kid. setting houses on fire, killing cats, hanging out in bars. he was getting it in. lol.
bluz – if this blog is the drama in someone’s life they truly have very little going on in their life. ijs.
disco
January 29th, 2013
3:14 pm
dushawn – your “girl please” made me think “honey boom”. lol.
Bluzgirl...soon to be Memphis bound!
January 29th, 2013
3:14 pm
I had some good fried fish for lunch today!
kimmie
January 29th, 2013
3:15 pm
Disco, why you igging me?
Bluzgirl...soon to be Memphis bound!
January 29th, 2013
3:17 pm
disco – I mean more about not having much drama in your life to post about. Like me…I’ve had a little drama, but haven’t let it get to me like I have in the past. Therefore, I haven’t really had drama to post about…The stuff with Mags could be drama, but I’m not letting it…
disco
January 29th, 2013
3:19 pm
I’m sorry kimmie. I got sidetracked. lol. yes. I remember ebay. they tried to portray Thelma as a “ghetto goodie goodie” (my son’s phrase for hoodrat chick with potential) but you couldn’t help but wonder.
kimmie
January 29th, 2013
3:20 pm
hoodrat chick with potential
Disco – LOL!!! Yep, that’s it!
disco
January 29th, 2013
3:21 pm
bluz – oh. I get it. girl you have to remember that a lot of folks keep their real drama to themselves anyway. blog anonymity or not, we ain’t big on putting our business in the streets. lol.
Bluzgirl...soon to be Memphis bound!
January 29th, 2013
3:22 pm
But real drama can be interesting for us to read about!
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 29th, 2013
3:22 pm
I might be the only one but I resolved to add some extra drama to my life this year…. I wanna have a bit more excitement poppin off in ‘13! I need to start by finding a couple of “friends with fewer inhabitions…..
disco
January 29th, 2013
3:25 pm
kimmie – my son coined that phrase way back in junior high. it came up recently because he went out on a date with a chick that he said was too saditty for him. he said he needs a girl that was brought up in the hood but wants to put in the work to not have to go back. that reminded me of his “ghetto goodie goodie”.
kimmie
January 29th, 2013
3:27 pm
Courtside – I too want to add some drama, but different from that you are describing.
The drama I want to add or create will be due to speaking my mind more on things at work and at home. I am tired of being the peacekeeper and the diplomat all the time. It’s time for folks to know what’s REALLY going on in certain situations. I am sure once I say what’s up, there will be drama, but they’ll be alright!
Bluzgirl...soon to be Memphis bound!
January 29th, 2013
3:29 pm
disco – admit it…even though you probably wanted to shake the isht out of me several times last year, I did keep it interesting on here when I had my drama!
Single and Happy
January 29th, 2013
3:32 pm
Disco, aww he want’s a girl like his momma
Leggs
January 29th, 2013
3:32 pm
Just watched “Life After” featuring Bernadette Stanis last week. I laughed when she said her father came downstairs and told the boys playing basketball that when they saw his daughter they are to ignore her and cross the street. She said no boy talked to her.
disco
January 29th, 2013
3:32 pm
what? kimmie trying to be a mouthpiece in 2013? lol. that’s what I’m talking about.
bluz – if you really want me to admit I’ll tell you that you got on my nerves most of the daggone time with that predictable mess. I mostly held my tongue because 1) I like you and 2) we really weren’t talking about anything else. this is the blog. I don’t have to read it. now, you and I as real life friends? I would only have put up with so much of your mess. it would have gotten real old real quick. I’m that one that goes there with my friends. I may have mentioned one particular chick and her problems on here before. fast forward x number of years and she still has the same problem. she called me this a.m. and I asked if she were up to a quick weekend getaway. she replied she didn’t know if her money was right. in general I can accept that but when a chick has a job, a husband and a boyfriend she simply should not be broke. I don’t understand some folks.
disco
January 29th, 2013
3:35 pm
s/h – yep. both my boys do (my youngest brother is my other son). lol.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 29th, 2013
3:41 pm
Kimmie, I have been a good dater for years….. never had alot of foolishness, or whatnot swirling around.. Now I do not want psycho stalker chick hiding inthe bushes, but I do want to push the dating envelope a bit more. Go to some of the more aggresive clubs in the metro, get out of the safelane and LIVE a little bit more. I think I have done nearly all I can do in this lane and it might be time for me to take off the training wheels and drive without a seat belt.
kimmie
January 29th, 2013
3:42 pm
when a chick has a job, a husband and a boyfriend she simply should not be broke.
Disco – Dang, you got that right!LOL!!!
I can see how Bluz was frustrating to read sometimes, but I can also see some growth in her. That’s the important thing to take away. There is a friend of a friend, an older lady about mid/late 50’s. Every now and then I ask my friend about her. Still the same after all these years, same mess. Broke, hates her job,manless not even an FWB err now and then, car & house broke down, mad cause her daughter is moving on with her life! Same stuff going on for I know the last 10 years no joke. My friend says she just holds the phone when she calls because every time she tries to suggest something to her, like look for another job, she goes off. What can you do with some folk?
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 29th, 2013
3:45 pm
“when a chick has a job, a husband and a boyfriend she simply should not be broke. I don’t understand some folks.”
See that’s who i am lloking for!! ( Minus the broke part)
disco
January 29th, 2013
3:49 pm
kimmie – a friend and I have a mantra every year. this year it’s EAC-2013. it means elevate-accelerate-compensate. elevate means taking things to another (higher) level. accelerate means making it happen, not waiting on it to happen. stop talking about it and being about it. compensate is self explanatory. stay on your money game.
courtside – hush.
kimmie
January 29th, 2013
3:53 pm
Disco – EAC, I like that!! Mind if I use it with some of my friends?
Bluzgirl...soon to be Memphis bound!
January 29th, 2013
3:54 pm
I think this blog helped me to grow some. I think back to all my messes last year and think “how the heck did I make it?” LOL! I’m not putting up with the BS anymore. I think it helped me to be able to talk through my issues and have people tell me what I didn’t want to hear. I actually feel good about not giving Mags the power to know he upset me this weekend. As a matter of fact, I’m no longer even upset about it. He said something rude via a Facebook message and I almost went off on him. Instead, I waited and said nothing and just unfriended him on there. I’m proud of myself for that!
Trust me…that was big. I wanted to get in the final word and fought myself, but I let it go!
Bluzgirl...soon to be Memphis bound!
January 29th, 2013
3:56 pm
I like EAC also!!! I think I’ll use that!
disco
January 29th, 2013
3:57 pm
kimmie – if I was being all selfish with my mantra I wouldn’t have put it out there for everybody. have at it. of course, if you/your friends get compensated for it I expect a cut. lol.
Leggs
January 29th, 2013
3:57 pm
L.I.G.K.M – Let it go, keep moving.
That’s growth, Bluz!
Bluzgirl...soon to be Memphis bound!
January 29th, 2013
4:07 pm
L.I.G.K.M. is definitely my new mantra! Thanks Leggs!!!
Less than an hour and I get to leave work and won’t be back until Tuesday!!! I have so much to do tonight to get ready for my trip, but I don’t mind cause I’m so excited!
Leggs
January 29th, 2013
4:12 pm
Stay excited, be cognizant of your beer intake!!!!
Bluzgirl...soon to be Memphis bound!
January 29th, 2013
4:15 pm
I can’t promise that Leggs! LOL! It’s gonna be a party on Beale Street all week! I really have to be more careful about the amount of money I spend…will probably be sneaking in bottles!
Celisea
January 29th, 2013
4:17 pm
Life is too short. Grudges are a waste of perfect happiness. Laugh when you can. Apologize when you should. Let go of what you can’t change. Love deeply and forgive quickly. Take chances. Give everything and have no regrets. Life is too short to be unhappy. You have to take the good with bad. Smile when you are sad. Love what you got. Always remember what you had. Always forgive and learn from your mistakes. People change and things go wrong but always remember, LIFE GOES ON!!
Someone sent this to me some years years ago. For every move I’ve made I’ve carried with me.
Celisea
January 29th, 2013
4:18 pm
Thought that was befitting for where y’all are now. Even though it’s just on page two…lolololol At least it’s better than this morning. Too, y’all just shooting the breeze…sooo, here you go…
Toodles….back out of here and on home
Bluzgirl...soon to be Memphis bound!
January 29th, 2013
4:19 pm
I posted something similar to that on Facebook just yesterday…
Leggs
January 29th, 2013
4:22 pm
That’s on you , Bluz. You should promise yourself that because you know you act a fool when you have beer. Don’t promise me, promise yourself.
Celisea
January 29th, 2013
4:22 pm
I will say this…2013 is buh bye to drama….any and all
Woosah and let it go. Where it’s boo drama (ain’t got none..just saying), kid drama, work drama….all of it. 
I can use my energy on the good stuff 
Celisea
January 29th, 2013
4:24 pm
Whether not where….
kimmie
January 29th, 2013
4:24 pm
Disco – Cool. I didn’t want you to sue me later for copyright violations when I start selling T-shirts and coffee mugs with it on them!LOL!!!
DuShawn
January 29th, 2013
4:31 pm
“Every day we should hear at least one little song, read one good poem, see one exquisite picture, and, if possible, speak a few sensible words..”-Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Bluzgirl...soon to be Memphis bound!
January 29th, 2013
4:40 pm
Leggs – I’ll be good…I can handle myself better when surrounded by happy, good time people. I know we are all going to have a blast!!!
Leggs
January 29th, 2013
4:48 pm
Enjoy…