Stay away from my ex, dude
With so many people in this city, you would think that dating your friend’s ex would not happen often. Apparently, that whole birds of a feather can really backfire sometimes, no? A circle of friends will at some point have to face the dilemma of whether or not to pursue someone that has already dated a mutual friend.
What is the protocol, though? The older we get, shouldn’t we be able to be adult about this kind of thing? Would you really stand in the way of true love because you want to be territorial with your exes?
Do you believe that someone who has dated one of your close friends is off-limits to you? What would you do if a friend came to you and expressed an interest in someone you once married, dated, or hooked up with?
Should you ask for and get permission from your friend before you proceed?
Happy Monday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Single & Happy
January 28th, 2013
4:14 pm
Jira, no one said anything about going without. giving up the coochie will not change my mind, because if you don’t give it up, that doesn’t mean I’m going without!
Dirty Bird for life!
January 28th, 2013
4:18 pm
The importance of a woman’s jewel is a journey for men.
The importance changes as we grow older and we are better able to put the jewel into proper prospective. The JEWEL(FIRE) will stop holding the gravitational pull once a man realize there is plenty where that come from and it can be attained rather easy..
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 28th, 2013
4:18 pm
giving up the coochie will not change my mind, because if you don’t give it up, that doesn’t mean I’m going without!
How true…
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 28th, 2013
4:22 pm
I think the disconnect comes from women either being unable or unwilling to separate sex from everything else. As a guy, I can catch up with a lady sex all day and leave and not feel inclined to call or talk to her for whatever time period we go…Kinda like i can play golf with my dudes and when we are done, head to the house without feeling like I need to say anything when we are done. We are able to treat sex as a pyhsical thing and nothing else, which is why we can be cool with a lady, be friends with her and hang out , and be OK with rabbit dancing if thats where we end up and not have it change teh nature of the friendship…… I do not think MOST women hae that gene….
Jira
January 28th, 2013
4:26 pm
Inhale. Exhale. There there now…calm down darlin’.
I simply referenced your previous statement that na-na (or rather, fiyah na-na) can’t change a man’s mind. That was all.
As a matter of fact, last I checked it can change more than that. Just found humor in an untrue statement. Don’t worry, I took note of the disclaimer “LOL”.
And laugh out loud I did.
Kimmie
kimmie
January 28th, 2013
4:29 pm
Courtside – No disconnect, just the difference in MOST women to most men. It’s nature, yin and yang. Sex more often than not is tied to a woman’s heart. I know it is for me, that’s why it can never be casual with me. I don’t think that’s a bad thing either. Is that what most men truly want? For most women to think and act like men? I just don’t think its the natural order of things.
Single & Happy
January 28th, 2013
4:32 pm
Change more than that, now that depends on who you trying to change, haven’t changed anything here yet (LOL) wooooosaaaaaa
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 28th, 2013
4:43 pm
kimmie, I can’t say what most men want….But I can say that for me, I want to be able to have interactions with a woman that does not revolve around a lifetime commitment (or the pretense of one). Most of theime when I spend time with a woman, it truely is just about spending time with herr…enjoying her company and basking in the glow of the female auora. Now sometimes that means moving past her essence and getting to the physical and that should be ok too….
Jira
January 28th, 2013
4:44 pm
I’ll try to make this quick because I’ve got to run…
The best na-na has:
Brought love and war
Made a strong man weak and a weak man strong
Brought life and death
Destroyed marriages and revives them
Brought down powerful men
and convinced some to try and turn 0h’s into housewives
…not to mention countless songs and praises, shrines, etc…
And although it has the ability to both appreciate and depreciate over time – it seems to never truly lose its value overall.
All hail! The power of the P. (fist raised in the air)
Single & Happy
January 28th, 2013
4:48 pm
Damn, haven’t meet any of those nana’s yet (LOL) I haven’t meet one worth fighting over yet, let alone starting a war (LOL)
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 28th, 2013
4:48 pm
Jira….. wanna have a drink this week????
Celisea
January 28th, 2013
4:52 pm
All hail! The power of the P. (fist raised in the air)
Jira’s got girl power for real….I just cracked up at reading this…lol
disco
January 28th, 2013
4:54 pm
courtside – you dirty dawg. spent all day trying to get with me and now you all up in jira’s mix. the blog mimics real life. smdh. lol.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 28th, 2013
4:57 pm
lol…..disco, Not trying to get with Jira….But she seems to have some “insigh”t that might be of value to me someday…. Besides, You know you are the only blog girl for me!
Jira
January 28th, 2013
5:01 pm
“Damn, haven’t meet any of those nana’s yet (LOL)”
Single & Happy
I don’t know for your sake whether that’s a good thing or a bad one. LOL
May be it’s not to late to crack open a book on the history of some of the most influential women and their abilities to bring down some of history’s most poweful men and their empires. Google is also your friend as well.
Courtside
Nice of you to offer. How about you have one on me instead? LOL
Single & Happy
January 28th, 2013
5:01 pm
The power of the P goes along with the theory that everything has a price (LOL)
Single & Happy
January 28th, 2013
5:03 pm
Jira, I’m not speaking of history, only of me! While there are a lot of week folks out there, I just haven’t got there yet