I was asked to weigh in on some dating advice that a young lady received from a male friend: dress more provocatively. Now, it’s no secret that men are visual creatures who respond to pretty things. Obviously, women want to be attractive to men, but does the way she dresses – or how little she covers up, make any difference to most men?
I ask because men have approached me fresh off a run, looking a hot mess in sweats and a baseball cap with zero skin showing. How would a change in clothing really impact a person’s chances in attracting someone they actually are interested in?
I am not a fan of changing up who you are or pretending to be something that you are not just to get the attention of someone. If a woman is comfortable dressing conservatively, she should continue to do so. While there is nothing wrong with mixing things up, it is not beneficial to completely switch up your style of dress in hopes of turning a head or two. What happens when you revert back to the style you are more comfortable wearing – the real you – clothes?
Guys, who are you more likely to approach: A scantily clad woman showing all her goodies? Mostly covered up and somewhat classy woman? A totally covered up conservative woman? Do you think it is possible for one woman to embody these at different times?
Would you advise a single woman to show more skin in order to score more dates? Is that a little demeaning or am I being too critical? I would be shocked if anyone ever suggested this idea to a man. Why are women always advised to objectify themselves in order to get men?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
102 comments Add your comment
Raqi
January 23rd, 2013
4:18 pm
Whatchutalkinbout Willie? LOL
In all seriousness though, it’s all good. You win some, you lose some. That’s what marriage is all about.
Albert
January 23rd, 2013
9:42 pm
I don’t want my date to look like a hooker, but I would rather she wear something revealing than wear something that makes her look like a nineteenth-century grandmother.