Dating: What happened to creativity?
One of the common complaints I hear about dating in Atlanta is the complete lack of creativity. From the way single people approach each other – to the first date and beyond – zero creativeness. Dinner and a movie- texting to ask someone out- do you think we get in a boring rut when it comes to dating?
A lot of guys tell me they don’t put a whole lot of extra effort in making an impression unless the woman has that special “something” about them. So if a woman wants creative dates, she has to show and prove a lot before a guy decides her worthy of that effort? Is that fair?
When was the last time you had a really creative date planned? What is the best creative date you have?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Single and Happy
January 16th, 2013
7:32 am
Hey all
I don’t know about that special something, but I at least have to know what you like before I can be creative with dates. so that would be well beyond the first few dates.
My most creative date, was a simple one, a dinner cruise, and limo ride to see the lights of Waikiki.
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 16th, 2013
8:02 am
Good rainy morning,
I do not have much to contribute to the topic but I must say this, Househusbands of Hollywood SUCKED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Button
January 16th, 2013
8:41 am
Good morning,
I haven’t run across too many creative guys when I was out there. I remember going on a date where we made pottery and another date where we went moon light horseback riding, that was so much fun. Fast forward the beau is not that creative in my eyes, his creativity is trying out different restaurants around Atlanta and going to the movies. Maybe I can get him to shake it up a bit.
LeeH1
January 16th, 2013
8:43 am
Boring people have boring dates. A good way to see if someone is compatable is to do something different with them, and then see if they like it or they don’t. Regretfully, too many women want bragging rights afterwards with their girlfriends, and put down guys who are out of the ordinary. Outdoors activities from fossil hunting and shark’s teeth searching is a good example- many women would not want to go out in the open and really do something different- their idea of a date is when someone else waits on them and pays for everything. The idea of doing something new, different and creative, or God forbid. learning something new, is abhorrent.
Ditto with a classical music concert, or dinner and a library discussion group. “Something new is something bad.” Sigh.
halo46
January 16th, 2013
8:44 am
Good Morning All, IMO if a guy doesn’t even try to impress you on the first or second date, then he loses brownie points. And he probably will not be given a chance to make a second or third impression with me. I will immediately place them in the friend zone. You see, women have to know they are worth being impressed. But that’s just me. I know, I know…all my friends say I need to bury the rule book. lol
Button
January 16th, 2013
9:00 am
I agree SlimNu Hollywood husbands sucked monkey balls!!! I bailed 5 mins into the show.
LH1 it’s not only most women, there are some men who is not up for venturing out either. I’m an outdoorsy person. I like hiking, camping, mountianing, canoeing and such. Most guys, heck all of the guys I’ve dated wouldn’t budge to do anything outside of the normal dinner and movie, well except for snorkoling.
disco
January 16th, 2013
9:03 am
good morning all. like most, I would truly appreciate a creative date. also, like most, I recognize that it’s not the date so much as the company. let’s face it, the most creative date ever with someone you only moderately like isn’t nearly as great as a simple, no fuss date with someone you are head over heels for. there are always going to be some variables.
since Vday is coming up I’ll use the topic to ask folks (especially you fellas) what kind of dates/gifts they’d like for the holiday.
Samonia
January 16th, 2013
9:06 am
Good Morning All,
There is a conference on February 9th at the Atlanta Marriott called From A Man’s Perspective Conference for all of the ladies who would like to hear from a man’s perspective on things. The cost is only $75. You can find more information at http://www.fromamansperspective.eventbrite.com. It looks and sounds like its going to be a really good conference!!
Bluzgirl
January 16th, 2013
9:51 am
Morning…notice I didn’t say “good.” This weather is really getting to me. This is why I couldn’t live in Seattle. When you have depression, it is hard to deal with several dreary, rainy days in a row…
Anyway…I can’t really think of any dates that stand out. They seem to have been standard dinner/movie/drinks. When I was seeing The Young One, I got frustrated because he couldn’t come up with things to do. I tried to give him a break because he was still new to Atlanta, but there is always Google…
MsAtl
January 16th, 2013
9:55 am
Morning All!
While dinner and a movie is fine for a date, I wouldn’t want that to be the standard. I like experimenting and doing different things and I like creativity. Some memorable dates have been ziplining and go kart racing. I would appreciate a man putting some thought and creativity into planning and carrying out a date. It could even be so simple as planning a picnic with food and wine and scooping me up to enjoy a day in the park or fishing or something elaborate like an evening with Kem.
Button- Monkey balls? (howling)
Leggs
January 16th, 2013
10:01 am
Good rainy morning.
People should put their best foot forward on all dates, first date to 100th date. If you’re asking her out, that means there’s already something special enough about her.
SlimNu ~ the show sucked beyond suck! I know they’re making fun of reality tv, but what a waste of air time!
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
January 16th, 2013
10:07 am
“Creative” can be code for: “distracting us from having to have a conversation” or “something I always thought about doing, but never wanted to pay for/do alone”, or “a place to go to/event to attend that has more to do with social standing than fun or enjoying your company.”
Had everyone those (kind) of dates and while they were ‘creative’, they sucked.
Oh, I went back to the museum, racetrack, rock climbing wall, restaurant by myself or with someone else, but rarely with the person that attended the ‘creative’ date.
My best dates involved talking and shutting down the restaurant (wait staff glaring at you as they ‘ret to go’) because we lost track of time.
Getting to know someone should come first, IMO. If for no other reason than crafting a ‘creative’ date based on something you two have never done (separately or together) and want to do.
Plus, too much creativity and you lose the reason to be out with the person in the first place, e.g. “getting to know” that person.
morning
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 16th, 2013
10:10 am
Morning ladies…..Looks like the floor belongs to you this morning….
I will say this though, while i do not go out of my way to make every first date something special and out of the box, women would get a lot more of that from most guys if they would
* Drop some of the pretense.
* Forget about the dating rules
* Not treat every encounter likle a job interview
* Disregard what your friends may think
I promise, You will open up alot of new doors if you do…..
MsAtl
January 16th, 2013
10:10 am
Bluz- I will say it for you; Good Morning! More rain through tomorrow, but Friday should bring you sunny skies. Hang in there!
Yes, you can always Google to find something to do or go to Access Atlants for weekend happenings. There are ways of finding something; you just have to exert a little effort. If I am not worth a little effort, then….
Bluzgirl
January 16th, 2013
10:18 am
Hopefully, we’ll at least see some snow flurries tomorrow and that always helps to brighten my mood! I’m really looking forward to the weekend and having sunny skies. Got lots to do this weekend!
When a guy always seems to suggest a bar…there are problems…
Celisea
January 16th, 2013
10:20 am
Getting to know someone should come first, IMO. If for no other reason than crafting a ‘creative’ date based on something you two have never done (separately or together) and want to do.
Plus, too much creativity and you lose the reason to be out with the person in the first place, e.g. “getting to know” that person.
I actually agree with this. I think “creative” is relative. I mean just because you like skydiving and I don’t play with my life like that, won’t necessarily say I’m not creative. I agree wholeheartedly. Get to know the person and get a feel of their likes versus dislikes. You can do something all out but if it clashes with their personality, then IMO it’s on you more so rather than on them.
Also, go with compatibility. If you’re a nature guy and she’s not or vice versa, then IMO it would make sense to find a happy medium in the realm of creativity. Again, don’t go picking something to do that’s a spin-off from your likes and then say she’s not open to creativity. Save the creativity for after you’ve gotten to know a bit about the person. IMO, dinner is a good idea for when you want to have an opportunity to chat it up and find things out one another.
Single and Happy
January 16th, 2013
10:21 am
So ladies, what are some creative dates that you have come up with?
disco
January 16th, 2013
10:23 am
re changing things up. I remember my cousin was married to his first wife and she complained constantly (well not so much complained as cracked jokes) about his unwillingness to try new foods. she said that he had one go-to entrée at every restaurant and he would not vary in his choices. one day she literally ran down all the restaurants and all his choices and my cousin was sitting there like “yep. that’s what I like. I get what I like”. it was kind of funny.
DuShawn
January 16th, 2013
10:23 am
Why does the onus always fall on the man to make the plans? When was the last time one of you ladies took a guy out on a creative date? We appreciate that as much as you do. I remember dating this chick, she told me not to make plans for the weekend, and then sent a printed invitation to my office asking me to join her. She had an entire itineray laid out, including a suite at the Intercontinental (with the rose petals, strawberries, etc.). We rode Jet Ski’s in Key Largo, had some great meals and did some Deep Sea fishing. That still ranks in my top 5 best weekends ever and she planned the whole thing.
Into the Light
January 16th, 2013
10:26 am
Morning, all.
Heeeeeey, Court. I like your post.
abc
January 16th, 2013
10:29 am
If you’re bored I doubt it’s due to the nature of specific activity, but rather due to the personality of your company, or you yourself.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 16th, 2013
10:29 am
Morning Ms. Light….. How are you this rainy day?
disco
January 16th, 2013
10:29 am
D – I don’t think it always falls on the man. I think that most women would prefer that men took charge of such things but I also think that most women know that most men won’t. lol. it almost seems like to me that women have to specify what they want, how they want it and then the man will go along and make it happen. a lot of men really don’t want to be bothered with planning. please note I said a lot, not all.
Celisea
January 16th, 2013
10:32 am
Creativity falls on both sides. I, personally was speaking towards the man because initially setting up dates (in my experience) has been something he took on.
Celisea
January 16th, 2013
10:34 am
I am DEFINITELY NOT bored. So far, I’d say I’m having a blast. Just enjoying living in the moments we’re creating
How that for Harlequin romance….lol
Bluzgirl
January 16th, 2013
10:34 am
I have dated broke men in the past and always suggested going to a picnic in a nice park…never had it. When The Ex and I first got together, I took him to a nice park and we took the acoustic guitar and sat by the water and he played and we sang together. That was wonderful. I just grabbed the guitar and told him I wanted to take him somewhere special to me. It was a park that I grew up going to right along the Chattahoochie river.
My ex fiance and I used to make a trek up to Helen at least every two months. That was a nice thing that we did. We would try to do different things each time. In fact, that is where he proposed to me.
Single and Happy
January 16th, 2013
10:35 am
Disco, do we have to take charge all the time?? What’s wrong with a woman taking charge sometimes like in Du’s case.
MsAtl
January 16th, 2013
10:38 am
Single and DuShwn- The ziplining was actually my plan (and payment). I have also planned Nascar racing and some other things because I like to do things out of the ordinary sometimes. Now I am eyeing a skeet shooting Living Social deal. (go ahead Single, let the comments fly, lol. Change of topic coming up).
disco
January 16th, 2013
10:38 am
S/H – don’t start with me this morning. y’all don’t have to take charge all of the time. there is nothing wrong with a woman taking charge like in D’s example. thing is I think a woman taking charge like in D’s example is probably leaning towards common, you know with the emasculation of today’s male and all. blog men excluded of course.
Button
January 16th, 2013
10:39 am
LOL @MrsAtl
Into the Light
January 16th, 2013
10:39 am
@Court: I’m good. Dreaming of beaches and fruity drinks….and oil rubbed on my toes…..
Into the Light
January 16th, 2013
10:42 am
I’ve done the picnic in the park. We stopped and grabbed a pizza, went to the pavilion at the park, then I pulled out a basket I had packed with a blanket and candles. Had a great convo and dinner, and a little sumthin’ sumthin’ on the picnic table.
disco
January 16th, 2013
10:43 am
ms atl – I am a big groupon/living social person. one of my “resolutions” this year was to purchase more activities and less restaurants.
Into the Light
January 16th, 2013
10:43 am
As a matter of fact, I’ll never forget the way he looked at me across the table and said, “Have i ever told you how beautiful you look in the candlelight???”
Cheesy? Yep. Did it work? Yep.
Bluzgirl
January 16th, 2013
10:44 am
When I am with someone, I’m always on the lookout for inexpensive, creative things to do. I sign up to Groupon and Half Off Depot…whether it’s for food or something fun. Unfortunately, I haven’t found the right person to actually do them with. I once bought a half price gift certificate for me and the Ex to go to the Melting Pot and mentioned to him that I would like him to plan the date and time. Needless to say, we never went and it expired. I could have pushed more to go, but I put it in his hands and he failed. Surprise, suprise!
Single and Happy
January 16th, 2013
10:46 am
MsAtl after yesterdays blog I thing we all wanted some form of skeet shooting somewhere (LOL) ohhhh you meant with a shotgun (LOL)
Disco, why you keep thinking I’m going to start with you, what did I do (LOL)
Single and Happy
January 16th, 2013
10:47 am
ITL where you had to go there with the beaches and fruity drinks
kimmie
January 16th, 2013
10:47 am
Morning All!
I agree with Dan and abc.
I think that, especially for the first few dates, while nice it’s really not about the “creativity” of the date, but the 2 involved. Get to know each other. So you may be an adventurous type that likes skydiving. I am afraid of heights so that would not work for me, but bikeriding or skating or a cooking class would appeal to me. It does not mean I’m not creative or adventurous because I don’t want to go along with your skydiving idea. But how would we even know that if we don’t know each other and have not really sat down and talked and found out each others likes and dislikes? Sitting down to a nice “boring” meal or 2 can accomplish that. Like Dan said, nothing like realizing hours have passed and the place is shutting down because you’ve gotten so caught up in each other!
As a woman, I really don’t mind and have planned fun evenings. But that’s only after I’ve gotten to know a guy some and feel he’s really interested in pursuing something with me. I don’t blame anyone for not wanting to go all out and plan nice things with someone they feel is just passing the time until someone they think better comes along.
Bluzgirl
January 16th, 2013
10:47 am
ITL – Now, that’s what I’m talking about!!!
Into the Light
January 16th, 2013
10:49 am
@Bluz: The beach or the picnic???? LOL
kimmie
January 16th, 2013
10:51 am
Another thing, why folks always slamming dinner and a movie? A great meal, a great movie, what’s not to like? Maybe you need to upgrade the movies you go see and the restaraunts you are going to!!
Bluzgirl
January 16th, 2013
10:55 am
Actually…BOTH!
Bluzgirl
January 16th, 2013
10:55 am
Dinner and a movie is fine…just not all the time.
disco
January 16th, 2013
10:58 am
S/H – I would say that I’m just generally a defensive person but I really do think that you be trying to start something. if you would just agree with me all the time it wouldn’t have to be that way. lol.
hey kimmie!!!
kimmie
January 16th, 2013
10:59 am
Bluz – I get not wanting to do it all the time, that’s called being in a rut whatever you do. It just always seems to get slammed on forums like this. I am a foodie so I love trying new and different restaraunts and my hubs is a movie buff. But I would not say either of us lacks creativity, especially me!
kimmie
January 16th, 2013
11:02 am
Hey Disco!
Single – Just don’t become bitter like LeeH1 !!!LOL!!!
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 16th, 2013
11:05 am
Funny this should be the topic of the day……. A member of my social circle is planning a scaveneger hunt around Atlanta this weekend…. It is supposed to be centered around the birthday of one of our friends. I am thiking of asking this new person that I have been making small talk with if she cares to join me….. Problem is it is set to last the entire weekend and I am not sure about asking a first timer to commit a weekend to skipping around the city looking for gods knows what……
MsAtl
January 16th, 2013
11:07 am
Disco- I’ve used Groupon/Living Social deals to go rock climbing, indoor scuba diving, the aforementioned ziplining and Nascar racing. I bought one for pole dancing, but the place shut down. I plan to do something new/different/exciting at least every other month and that is a good way to try new things.
Single- I knew you wouldn’t let us down, lol.
Into the Light
January 16th, 2013
11:08 am
@Court: I would, but I have plans. LOLOLOLOLOL
Into the Light
January 16th, 2013
11:15 am
Ummmmmm, I was just kidding…..didn’t mean to silence the blog…….
Bluzgirl
January 16th, 2013
11:18 am
Now, I’m looking all through Groupon for fun things to do, even if I have to do them solo!
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 16th, 2013
11:19 am
Awwwwwww…… Guess I will have to find someone else..
And this is might even involved some foot rubbing and toe sucking…. DAMN!!! 
Bluzgirl
January 16th, 2013
11:20 am
Court…I’m game! LOL
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 16th, 2013
11:22 am
Bluzgirl, Oh really???????? Hmmmmmmmmmm…………..
Into the Light
January 16th, 2013
11:23 am
well darn.
Bluzgirl
January 16th, 2013
11:23 am
Actually…I would love to do something like that, but I have plans on Fri night, Sunday night, and Monday morning…
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
January 16th, 2013
11:26 am
Oh, and go to a cooking class and *not* be able to boil water (even with instructions)….
You wouldn’t see the D again (in fact, it has happened)
Button
January 16th, 2013
11:27 am
I agree @Bluzgirl @10:55
Into the Light
January 16th, 2013
11:27 am
Okay, I’m out. Y’all have a good afternoon.
kimmie
January 16th, 2013
11:29 am
MsAtl – We are talking about dating because this is what the blog is about, but alot of folks have gotten into somewhat of a rut in their everyday life. Then that just naturally spills over into dating with some. If you don’t infuse something creative or different into your life from time to time, why would one expect your outlook on dating to be much different?
Kudos to you for making the effort! I am going to do better myself!
Single and Happy
January 16th, 2013
11:30 am
Disco, most of the time we do agree, seems we are one. Most of the time I’m trying to open eyes to a different point of view just like my eyes are open alot
MsAtl where did you go scuba diving? Did you enjoy it?
Kimmie life is to short to become a bitter bobby (LOL)
Bluzgirl
January 16th, 2013
11:31 am
Awwww ITL – See ya!!!
disco
January 16th, 2013
11:32 am
Dan – an ex with a spoiled grown daughter who still lives at home (I digress – that’s not my point. lol). anyway, said friend was telling me that his daughter who was 20 something at the time had to make 3 attempts to boil eggs. first time she forgot about them and they exploded, second time she didn’t cook them long enough and they weren’t done. she finally got it right on the third try. I’m like really? and you are telling me this? me? the one who already thinks your daughter is worthless? lol.
kimmie
January 16th, 2013
11:33 am
Dan – LOL!! That is funny!!
I CAN boil water, so a cooking class for me would be one that exposed me to something different that what I ordinarily cook, like an ethnic cuisine. That would be the “fun” of it. If I couldn’t cook, such a class would be too “advanced” for me!LOL!!
MsAtl
January 16th, 2013
11:37 am
Single- I went to the Dive Shop in Marietta. I enjoyed it, but it took some getting used to since you are mouth breathing. It was different and fun. I would try it again, but this kind of gave me an idea that maybe I wouldn’t want to do it out in the middle of the ocean.
http://www.diveshop1.com/
Single and Happy
January 16th, 2013
11:43 am
MsAtl, I did mine in the ocean what a rush
, If you enjoyed it in a pool then went in the ocean you would be hooked. If I had went in a pool I probably would not have gotten certified.
Leggs
January 16th, 2013
11:46 am
Court ~ ask her. It’s local, you don’t have to rent a hotel (unless you wanna).
I think a cooking class for a date is a great idea. I remember when I was learning how to cook, I burned rice all the time. Either burnt, gooey, sticky, clumpy, or still taste like uncooked rice. Now, my food will melt in your mouth.
kimmie
January 16th, 2013
11:51 am
Leggs – Rice (not the Minute kind or Roni) is still somewhat of a problem for me, though I can throw down on most anything else!!!
disco
January 16th, 2013
11:53 am
leggs – one of my cousins was fussing recently about her daughter boiling the potatoes to make potato salad. she said the girl had the potatoes on a low simmer. lol. she said they would have been waiting until the next week for those potatoes to get done. I was tickled to death.
I’m all for trying things. to me cooking is a chore. a means to an end. I don’t know that I’d be overly thrilled about a cooking class. some of my friends that are into cooking are always encouraging me to watch this or that cooking show. I always tell them that I watch the eating shows (triple D, man vs. food etc), not the cooking shows. lol.
Leggs
January 16th, 2013
11:54 am
Rice definitely wasn’t easy to master, kimmie. It will come. Just have to know the amount of rice to the amount of water used. Since we don’t measure a damn thing, it’s a hit or miss (lol).
kimmie
January 16th, 2013
11:59 am
Am I the only one that does not give a ish about this Lance Armstrong mess?
HST
January 16th, 2013
12:00 pm
Today’s social media and technology has taken away a lot of traditional ways. Is witty text not the way to play in the 21st century? I’m still fond of speaking to someone on the phone, but really it isn’t a standard anymore and may even be antiquated. I feel it’s more of let’s talk face to face, and play social media together.
I do no social media, posting here is about as far as I go. Seriously, no FB, Instagram, Twitter, myspace, or whatever on my part. If we’re in contact then you’ll have my number, e-mail, or address. I do hop on car forums, so that I know where to meet for drives, track events, or rallies, but I never post. Personally, I like to get out, do things, and enjoy my time outdoors. My GF does all social media, and IMO, it takes time from what she could be doing. Instead, she’s commenting on what basically a stranger is doing. Ergo, this is why I feel the decline in creative dating is happening. Everything is virtual, so desensitized, and bogged down from social media and 21st century communication.
I combat routine by doing these things with my GF. After 13 years there isn’t a lot we haven’t done together. I have to surprise her like I said earlier. She likes that that I put the effort in more than anything. As a man whom cares, I realized that women want to be fussed over and feel wanted. It’s that simple, other than being able to support yourself.
We (GF & I) do 4 activities a week. We do most of them twice, and there isn’t much we don’t do together. I am always trying to figure ways to surprise her. I like surprises, and I like seeing my GF surprised even more. Our staples are…
1. One nice dining experience. I look out here and everywhere to find new places to go. We have our normal dining places that we enjoy, and those fill the other days.
2. One activity. The Gardens, Museum, Play, Movie (very rare), bar-night, and etc. Never twice in a month for any one for the most part.
3. One driving event. OK, I push for more, however, what girl doesn’t want to get dressed up, and ride around in a hot car.
4. Shopping. I am always shopping, and love to hit the malls. We have the best time being catty, and seeing what we don’t have and want.
The trick is spontaneity, manners, and making each event different no matter how many times we’ve done it. HA! That’s a good double entendre.
Robert
January 16th, 2013
12:02 pm
“When was the last time you had a really creative date planned?”
Most women will not try something diferent or be creative when on a date. For example I love going to the beach. I know a place you can pitch a tent and camp out on the beach and watch the pony’s swim in VA. I took my woman on a surprise date to see if she liked it or not. To my surprise I found out she was not the “outdoor type” person and really prefered the comfort of a 4/5 star hotel rather than sleeping on the ground in a tent.
HST
January 16th, 2013
12:06 pm
Robert, there’s two thing my GF and I don’t enjoy together. The outdoors and the gym, she does neither. I’m a huge gym rat, and love hiking, but my GF would rather starve herself and get a facial. The only way she gets out is to take the hounds to the park for a walk.
Leggs
January 16th, 2013
12:06 pm
disco ~ I love Top Chef. Wish I could cook like them, and as fast as they do.
O/T: I had a huge problem I had to solve. Sweated over it for the past 4 days, even cried over it. I resolved it about 10 mins. ago, and if I knew how to do a freaking cartwheel, I would. I’m overjoyed so that calls for me to have my favorite comfort food on Earth = Pizza! I am my own strength, along with my Faith all things are possible! You gotta believe.
Ok, back to creative dates, lumpy rice and slow cooking potatoes.
disco
January 16th, 2013
12:07 pm
kimmie – I am not checking for lance Armstrong
hst – re what girl doesn’t want to get dressed up and ride around in a hot car. generally I’d say that doesn’t sound so appealing then I saw the movie la mission with Benjamin bratt where they go low riding every weekend. I do not deny that watching that movie made me want to get dressed and roll out.
Bluzgirl
January 16th, 2013
12:09 pm
I wouldn’t mind going to a cooking class, just because I don’t cook well. My brother is going to teach me about some healthier cooking. Mags taught me how to make a good dish the other night. I just never have had anyone around to teach me. I can follow a recipe and whatever I make turns out great. I think it’s more of me not liking to cook…
HST
January 16th, 2013
12:10 pm
Good for you Leggs.
I can’t eat pizza anymore without heartburn. It is one of my favorite foods, and I’m sad about that. Maybe, if I ate less pizza it wouldn’t happen, but that’s an impossibility.
Leggs
January 16th, 2013
12:13 pm
kimmie ~ I could care less too. I do watch the Tour de France but come on now. He’s been stripped of 7 jackets, he’s been doping, sports world tainted…what’s new?
Page1908
January 16th, 2013
12:20 pm
Dating can be boring, but it doesn’t have to be. I’m so all over the place in my everyday life, and my dating life reflects that in a good way, I think. The issue really is to find someone that has similar interests or at least willing to do things out of the norm. I absolutely love dating and have no major complaints about it, however, things can become challenging sometimes.
HST
January 16th, 2013
12:20 pm
I saw it mentioned earlier, and my GF loves Groupon. It’s an easy way to try something new, and if it s***s at least we didn’t pay full price.
Bluz, I dislike cooking and so does my girl. I put some meat on the grill and cut veggies, and that’s the extent of my cooking. Maybe it’s not so much the cooking as the cleaning, but I never go further than above cooking. By the time you buy everything, waste stuff, use the dishwasher, and clean it’s almost just as cheap to eat out.
Leggs
January 16th, 2013
12:21 pm
HST ~ because I’ve put on a few pounds (just a few), I had to make a gigantic effort toward not eating pizza the way I used to. I love, love, love pizza. Even have a sticker on my fridge that says “Life w/o Pizza is a Hardship.” So, I eat it every couple of months now instead of every other day like I used to.
BTW, HST, I’m not fond of witty text as a form of dating…please pick up the phone and let’s speak. Yes sir, I still believe in the purpose of Graham Bell’s discovery. Texting is ok to a point, but not a means to having an actual convo. I know a guy who loves to text. Took me a minute to figure it out so when I would call he always said he was doing something but would text me a little later. Got to the point where he kept texting and I stopped responding. We get carpal tunnel syndrome from using our keyboards too much. Soon people are going to be walking around with thumb casts.
DreamsMaterialize
January 16th, 2013
12:22 pm
Afternoon Everyone.
Creativity is relative, and every woman is different. Many women claim to want the man to take charge, plan things, and “surprise” them. I’ve had this work out great, and I’ve had it crash and burn. If a woman really is open to new things, then the “surprise me” approach is likely to work well, but if they aren’t, then chances are you’ll choose something that they won’t enjoy. I prefer to just talk to the woman and find out what types of things she likes. Nothing worse than putting in lots of effort to plan something out, just to see the scrunch look on her face when you get there. Also, I’m with kimmie and Celly Cel on dinner dates. I enjoy different cuisines, and a person who also likes that would be thrilled at dinner for a date.
kimmie If you’re into measuring things, then rice is two parts water, one part rice. Put rice in water, bring to a boil, lower temp to med, cover tightly and let cook for 15 to 20 min. Turn off heat and let sit covered for another 5 minutes. Avoid the temptation to take the lid off and “see” if it’s cooking right. You let the steam escape when you do that. Also, do not stir. If you’re not into measuring things, then put the rice in the pot and fill with water. You’ll know it’s enough water when you can stick your pinky in, touch the rice and the water comes to the first line on your pinky. Then let cook the same way. If you’re cooking rice and peas or jambalaya, then there’s a little more of an art to that.
kimmie
January 16th, 2013
12:23 pm
To my surprise I found out she was not the “outdoor type” person and really prefered the comfort of a 4/5 star hotel rather than sleeping on the ground in a tent
Robert – How long had you been dating? Because unless it had not been long, it should not have been a surprise.
In my experience, I think alot of folks would just like to see that you are a good sport and will at least try something once.
Leggs
January 16th, 2013
12:25 pm
“use the dishwasher,” – ummm, that’s reserved for big meals like Thanksgiving, Christmas (lol).
Leggs
January 16th, 2013
12:27 pm
Hello Page1908. Two old heads in one week.
kimmie
January 16th, 2013
12:29 pm
Dreams – Thanks!! Being a baker, you have to be precise, so I am into measuring! The only things I don’t have to measure are things like seasoning meat and vegetables and stuff I know like the back of my hand. Baking or things I’m not sure about, I measure. I will do exactly what you said!!
disco
January 16th, 2013
12:29 pm
dreams – while I like a take charge man I am so NOT the surprise me type. I’m all for him taking charge but I would kind of still like him to run the idea by me first. lol. I have friends who go on and on about loving surprises. guess I’m too much of a control freak for that.
kimmie – you are right. some times folks are looking to see if you are a good sport and some times they are just inconsiderate and selfish and want to push their likes on you. like the date I was on where the guy insisted I had to try his favorite Chinese restaurant after I told him I wasn’t a fan of Chinese food. lol.
kimmie
January 16th, 2013
12:30 pm
Hey Page!!!
Page1908
January 16th, 2013
12:30 pm
Hi Leggs!! (((hugs)))
Page1908
January 16th, 2013
12:31 pm
Hi Kimmie!!
Bluzgirl
January 16th, 2013
12:32 pm
Now I’m craving Pizza! LOL! You go on Leggs…have a slice for me!!!
Re: texting…I’m a big texter just because I’m on the phone all day at work and don’t necessarily want to be on the phone all night. Now, if I am digging you, I would like to talk to you every couple of days. One thing I really didn’t like about The Young One was when I went to Charleston for the weekend before my birthday, he called me every day and I didn’t call him back. I was like…”dude, I’m on vacation and don’t want to be bothered with Atlanta!”
Leggs
January 16th, 2013
12:36 pm
Bluz ~ that’s horrible! Just another indicator you weren’t into him because if you were, you could be anywhere and want to hear from your man who’s still in Atlanta!
Single and Happy
January 16th, 2013
12:39 pm
Kimmie a rice cooker works wonders
Bluzgirl
January 16th, 2013
12:39 pm
Leggs – Like one of my friends said…If I was really into him, I would have tried my best to get him to go with me to Charleston. I really tried with him. Too bad he ended up being clingy, needy, whiney, and boring! LOL
HST
January 16th, 2013
12:55 pm
Leggs, I’d prefer talk as well, but it seems text is the new talk. I am a traditional southern man (other than religion), and prefer human interaction rather than texting. I have grown to love English and its rules – I never use to many acronyms or “text talk.” I feel it’s rude to not use good grammar when addressing someone.
disco, my GF is a control freak. I think she like that I can’t be controlled and that I’m usually out of control. however, I know d**n good and well where the line is and what she’ll put up with. I can only surprise her with things she likes or it’s gonna s**k.
All the pizza talk made me have to have some burgers (no bun or cheese). I splurged and used low-carb ketchup, because it was red like tomato paste. I haven’t had 100 carbs in 4 days – I’m dying for carbs. I have to diet, diet, diet to have all my abdominal muscles show.
Robert
January 16th, 2013
12:57 pm
Another good example is food. I love seafood (oysters, clams, crabs, squid, shrimp, fish, etc.). I took my woman to an all-you-can-eat crab feast in MD last summer. She has never been to a crab feast and was surprised that people really cleaned the guts out and ate crabs with their fingers. She thought it was disgusting. She also did not like eating raw seafood (oysters). I love raw oysters. I can eat them by the dozen.
Into the Light
January 16th, 2013
1:00 pm
Too bad he ended up being clingy, needy, whiney, and boring!
Bluz, I can see the last two being over the top, but I would have thought you would have liked the “being needed” part. I mean that as a compliment. You are always volunteering to help others, I would have thought you were a nurterer type.
Exiled!
January 16th, 2013
1:00 pm
So it has to be the man planning the date???
Lazy umm!
Into the Light
January 16th, 2013
1:03 pm
So…. I had an idea for a rainy-day blog activity…….
Page1908
January 16th, 2013
1:05 pm
OMG I am terrible at texting!!! I think that’s one of the things that is such a challenge for me because I am so big on communication when it comes to dating. I try to be as open as possible with letting the other person know that communication is my absolute number one priority, and although they sometimes say they feel the same way and agree, it only takes a short time to find out otherwise.
Into the Light
January 16th, 2013
1:06 pm
Here’s the “question”: If all the bloggers were single and all were equal in the looks and age departments, who would be your blog crush and why????
HST
January 16th, 2013
1:07 pm
Robert, I will not eat a crustaceans of any type. I’m not grossed out by them, but I won’t eat them. My GF loves all crustaceans, however, wherever we go she usually has a wide selection. Sushi is where we find a hurdle, but it’s rare we eat carbs like that anyways. Even though I don’t eat crustaceans, I’d love to do any fest. Low country boils in NOLA are a sure bet as well.
ITL, what is this activity?
HST
January 16th, 2013
1:11 pm
ITL, that’s pretty good.
Page1908, I think that the point of texting is just that – the facts, what you want, straight to the point, and such. I do enjoy texting for those aspects.
Into the Light
January 16th, 2013
1:12 pm
….or, conversely, if we were stranded on a deserted island (well, it’s not deserted anymore because the bloggers are there, but you get the point) – who do you think would “pair up”?????
Button
January 16th, 2013
1:13 pm
HST – you sound old school…..I dig!
Robert
January 16th, 2013
1:14 pm
Over the holiday’s I enrolled my woman in a “Ballroom Dance Class”. We both thought it was a good idea to learn a few new dance steps and brush-up on our stepping/hand dancing routines. I really enjoyed the classes. To my surprise my woman did not because she felt she was out-of-shape and could not keep-up with the dance instructor’s directions. We learned the “Fox Trap” and we are still practicing the “Jitter-Bug”.
Lee
January 16th, 2013
1:16 pm
My best dates i went on was: Went to a rib festival then afterward we went to StoneMountain and took the train and watched the fireworks… another one: Sat there playing games on xbox , i lost but it was fun (i couldn’t get my ninja dude to fight right, all those buttons to use at once) Lol
HST
January 16th, 2013
1:16 pm
Button, I am, but that isn’t to mean I’m not a modern man.
ITL, I wanna see others or your participation first.
Into the Light
January 16th, 2013
1:18 pm
HST: I will go first, but only if others want to play…..
Page1908
January 16th, 2013
1:19 pm
HST, I agree that is the point of texting, but anything more than basic stuff like, what time are we meeting, who’s driving, and other stuff like that, is too much for me, however, sometimes the other person doesn’t want to communicate verbally, so you’re pretty much left with no other option than to text, in which case, that is not someone I would continue to show interest it. Seems like a way of manipulation to me.
HST
January 16th, 2013
1:24 pm
Robert, your girl sounds like a spoiled brat. Quit worrying if she isn’t having a good time, because of her insecurities. I wouldn’t even acknowledge such behavior.
What in the h*** is going on with all the violent crime in GA? I got my GF a G27 last weekend so she can conceal carry better. I’ve carried open and concealed since I was 18. I’ve never felt nervous before, but I do now. Violent crime is happening every day in the metro area.
Mark Kerry
January 16th, 2013
1:27 pm
Conincidently, I found this article today:
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/01/13/fashion/the-end-of-courtship.html?src=me&ref=general&_r=0
DuShawn
January 16th, 2013
1:31 pm
I remember another date I went on that a woman planned. She scooped me up from the crib in a Limo. I had my younger cousin living with me at the time. When it pulled up, you know I had to flex, and told him to recognize my pimpin. Anyway, it really wasn’t all that. We had no destination! We just rode around in the South beach traffic having sex in this Limo. It was different and I appreciated her effort, but how many corners can you bend before it becomes redundant. Finally, I told the driver to hit the interstate. We drove 45 minutes south to Islamorada, got out walked on beach and looked at the water, then drove home. While I’m typing this I’m reflecting on that evening. I recall our vibe was slightly off that entire night. I mean, it was fun, but I grew tired of being in that dayum car for hours.
Robert
January 16th, 2013
1:38 pm
HST – ATL is DC 20 years ago. Their is no need to “fear” crime. The best advice I can give you is to “stay alert” and watch where you go. If you see something go the other way rather than in the line of fire. Law abiding citizens who carry guns will use them just like a criminal out of “fear”. Is it better to “shoot first and ask questions later” or “go the other way”? I choose to “stay alert” and go the other way. Live to fight another day.
DuShawn
January 16th, 2013
1:40 pm
@ITL,-who would be your blog crush and why????- I will bite. Imma get @disco, we think alike. Plus I bet she got that “Boiled Okra” down there.
HST
January 16th, 2013
1:45 pm
Page, I agree, and that’s 99% of my texts. The other, well…
Mark Kerry, I too read that article when it came out. I almost wondered if Diva used it as her muse for TOD. I completely agree with that article. I don’t do social media for those reasons and more. I couldn’t ever imagine asking a woman to tag along the way the article explains. One of my philanthropies is The Big Brothers & Sister’s Organization, and I teach these young boys how to be a gentleman and approach his interest. Usually lots of math and grammar as well.
abc
January 16th, 2013
1:49 pm
Atlanta was ranked the 6th most dangerous city with over 200K residents in 2012, in spite of murder and rape incidents at rate that are 50% less than 10-12 years ago — maybe even more than that. You think it’s bad now, it used to be much worse. Atlanta is on a major drug trafficking route. Don’t be where the drugs and druggies are, and chances are you won’t be in the line of fire. ‘Course, that might mean never going inside the perimeter, probably not a very practical option.
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 16th, 2013
1:50 pm
If all the bloggers were single and all were equal in the looks and age departments, who would be your blog crush and why????
Thinking…
HST
January 16th, 2013
1:55 pm
Robert, I fear nothing, and I mean it just like that. I said nervous, which means a heightened sense of awareness like you said. Really, it’s not even me I’m worried about as much as my GF. I am the only guy in my county who has registered protection dogs. My house is a compound – you’d have to be beyond bold to come here. I’ve even asked my GF to carry a lower profile purse lately. Everything I/we have is over insured, but some of our items are mementos of our time together, they’re irreplaceable. Also if someone draws on me – one of us or both is gonna die. I’ve almost died a thousand times being a hero, but I couldn’t die once being a coward.
Mrs. SexyCool
January 16th, 2013
2:03 pm
Happy New Year!!!!
Oh…wait…I’m all late and ish.
How y’all doin’?
Into the Light
January 16th, 2013
2:05 pm
Mine would be either Swiss (sense of humor and music) or Willie D…….
HST
January 16th, 2013
2:06 pm
SexyCool, it’s been a minute. Happy New Year to you as well.
I’m doing well, and you?
Bluzgirl
January 16th, 2013
2:13 pm
ITL – If I was into chicks, it would definitely be you!
As far as the men go, I think Single would be my choice…
Into the Light
January 16th, 2013
2:15 pm
Lol@Bluz.
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 16th, 2013
2:19 pm
For me it would be Infamous…I like the way he blogs. Plus his fashion sense it killer and he comes across as being on his grown man isht with regards to how he runs his house and treats his family.
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 16th, 2013
2:22 pm
Mine would be either Swiss
ITL Swiss sounds like fun,too. And the fact that he LOVES chocolate women ALWAYS got him major points with me…and he is sooo in love with his wife and daughter
DuShawn
January 16th, 2013
2:27 pm
On second thought, I would prolly try to convince disco to start dating Leggs…. I believe the three of us could have a real cool vibe.
Leggs
January 16th, 2013
2:30 pm
SassyMe, you done took my man, Infamous.
But, DuShawn intriques me too. I could learn some things from him.
Leggs
January 16th, 2013
2:31 pm
Oh snap!
@DuShawn!
disco
January 16th, 2013
2:33 pm
ahh geee – thanks D. I guess we are a blog match then because I would have picked you too. why? because you are almost like the male me. lol. now if only getting a real life match were this easy.
disco
January 16th, 2013
2:34 pm
see D, you had to go messing things up. I thought we were tracking. no offense leggs. lol.
Single and Happy
January 16th, 2013
2:35 pm
Blog crush, bluz, ITL and disco at the same time
Mrs. SexyCool
January 16th, 2013
2:44 pm
All is well. Just super busy with a lot of project that I’ve got my hands on right now.
Decided to take a minute and allow myself to be purposely distracted. #MentalBreak
Mrs. SexyCool
January 16th, 2013
2:45 pm
project(s)
disco
January 16th, 2013
2:46 pm
S/H – are you serious or joking? if serious, and I might regret asking, please explain. I so don’t see all that right there. again, no offense bluz and itl. blog men, why y’all putting this spin on things making me have to “no offense” everyone?
Bluzgirl
January 16th, 2013
2:51 pm
Looking through an article on 50 do’s and don’ts of dating and this is #17:
DON’T plan a complicated date. Start with the basics.
It’s tempting to be creative and plan a date that’s fun and outside-the-box. But don’t underestimate the value of the tried-and-true standards. Almaraz says, “While men like creative dates, they said they would prefer those types of dates later in a relationship.” Sixty-two percent of men polled for his WTF Are Men Thinking? book said they prefer dinner or a movie for a first date. One even said, “Dinner is always good as long as it’s relatively casual. I think going too fancy on a first date can reek of desperation to impress. You’re there to get to know the other person, not to get involved in activities that present opportunities to ignore each other.”
Leggs
January 16th, 2013
2:56 pm
None taken, disco!
kimmie
January 16th, 2013
2:57 pm
Robert – It sounds like you & your lady are not compatible.
Into the Light
January 16th, 2013
3:04 pm
And Court….. On the blog a week and he’s got my antennae up…..
@stamps, quit playing, man.
Leggs
January 16th, 2013
3:07 pm
To be honest, I like all the blog guys (absent the male trolls). Some shine brighter than others, but I like all of you.
Bluzgirl
January 16th, 2013
3:14 pm
#45:
DON’T text.
“Communicating by text doesn’t trigger the same responses in our brains as interacting face-to-face,” says Alexander. “Texting is less rewarding and provides less of the chemical reactions that lead to human bonding. It’s not like you shouldn’t ever text, like if you’re late or want to change plans, but if you’ve got anything important to say, including something seductive, texting isn’t the way to go.”
Single and Happy
January 16th, 2013
3:20 pm
Disco I need someone that will pull you off me when I say the safe word, not join in
on second thought, ITL will probably be laughing so hard she won’t here the safe word either (LOL)
DuShawn
January 16th, 2013
3:21 pm
(In my warped mind, this is how I envision that disco/Leggs scenario playing out)……”disco – Baby, I don’t want to ruin our thing. It was merely a suggestion. I meant no offense. I mean, you both have common interest; I just figured if yall hung out, you might discover you enjoy one another’s company. I gotta take care of some business. Here, take my card, yall go grab a meal and some drinks and get to know each other. What’s the harm in that? Best case scenario, you meet a cool chick and possibly make a new friend. Worst case, you ain’t feeling her and keep it moving. Matter of fact; buy each other something nice on me. (Then I would call Leggs and say) “Leggs, imma need you to handle that……bring her home to Poppi. Baby, you know what to do!”………..j/k ladies
Single and Happy
January 16th, 2013
3:21 pm
Awww look at legs being all PC
HST
January 16th, 2013
3:35 pm
Celisea, because she’s well read, and drives a car that I would.
Leggs, because all I think of is hosiery on long legs when I see her screen name.
disco
January 16th, 2013
3:39 pm
S/H – lol. if you need someone to pull me off of you when you say the safe word you might want to holler at one of the blog gents. how ‘bout that? lololol.
Leggs
January 16th, 2013
3:40 pm
Not PC, just speaking the truth. If I didn’t like you, I would blog with you.
Bluzgirl
January 16th, 2013
3:46 pm
S/H – I think I would probably join in instead of pulling disco off!
Leggs
January 16th, 2013
3:47 pm
wouldn’t….
Leggs
January 16th, 2013
3:51 pm
DuShawn ~ you are not kidding.
Single ~ I was thinking along those lines when you said disco and ITL. Honestly, I thinking you were afraid to handle disco alone (lol).
Single and Happy
January 16th, 2013
3:53 pm
K leggs
Disco seriously though, you because you’re ret to go
ITL because we could laugh alot
And Bluz because she’s a nurturer
and I could name more.
Single and Happy
January 16th, 2013
3:55 pm
Leggs, I think me and disco could stay in the same house, not speak for weeks, and not even notice it (LOL)
Single and Happy
January 16th, 2013
3:58 pm
Bluz I was kinda hoping you guys would (LOL)
disco
January 16th, 2013
3:59 pm
S/H – I’m ret to go where? lol. okay. I get it but just so you know I don’t like to share and I have a difficult time getting along with others. frankly your evening might not go as you envision it in your mind. it might go way left. lol.
S/H – when my son was in high school folks looked at me sideways when I’d say I hadn’t seen him in days. he left for school before I got up for work and he had a part-time job after school. in short, we were living life “see ya when I see ya”.
Bluzgirl
January 16th, 2013
4:01 pm
DuShawn
January 16th, 2013
4:05 pm
I was just thinking who I probably would be the least compatible with….That dayum Celisea. I’m sure she’s prolly a sweet girl in real life, but on the blog, she’s long winded as hell. If she talks half as much as she types……hayalll nawww!… I’m dippin.
Single and Happy
January 16th, 2013
4:05 pm
Disco, now I know you didn’t get this note sent home “she doesn’t play well with others” (LOL)
Single and Happy
January 16th, 2013
4:07 pm
Uh oh
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 16th, 2013
4:09 pm
you done took my man, Infamous
My bad Leggs…ummm we can share can’t we
I’ll take him on the odd days and you get him on the even ones…
disco
January 16th, 2013
4:10 pm
D – aww snap. I’m a mouthpiece for real for real. that’s the number one complaint I get from males in general. “disco is nice, disco is cool, disco is this, disco is that BUT SHE TALKS TOO DANGED MUCH”. lol. a dude just told me that the other day. I think the real issue isn’t that I talk to much, it’s that those fools know I be calling them out on their mess.
S/H – actually in school I did everything that I was supposed to do. sort of like work, I do what I’m supposed to do. it’s at home that I’m a force to be reckoned with. all that being good during the day has to work itself out of my system sooner or later.
Celisea
January 16th, 2013
4:11 pm
Okay, I’ll take bait
HST – For choosing me, if you didn’t have a girl and I wasn’t booed, I’d send you a snapshoot of the thigh highs I’m wearing today (since you dig hosiery). They have about 4 inches of black lace around the top
Oh, and I’d give you a ride…since we like the same type cars 
Dushawn – No comment. You and your diatribes of mishaps would make me say the same….heyal naaaaws (yep “naws”
Celisea
January 16th, 2013
4:13 pm
Night folks!
Celisea
January 16th, 2013
4:16 pm
Dushawn, I meant to put a smiley emoticon behind that. Nothing deep or serious dude. Enjoy life the way you see fit.
I’m out of here!!
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 16th, 2013
4:16 pm
You and your diatribes of mishaps would make me say the same….heyal naaaaws
Celisea
January 16th, 2013
4:17 pm
Oh…one more, we wouldn’t be compatable but it wouldn’t be because of the long posts….IJS
DuShawn
January 16th, 2013
4:17 pm
C – I feel you ma….. “diatribes”…….see there, you too smart for me anyway. Thank God there is sombody for everybody.
Single and Happy
January 16th, 2013
4:17 pm
Disco I just got my annual revue, I was told I need to change my attitude, I replied I’ve gotten the same revue for 34 for years, do you really think that is going to change. and i just can see you being long winded.
Leggs
January 16th, 2013
4:20 pm
SassyMe ~ not sure why I just felt like Sug and Whoppi (Color Purple).
Bluzgirl
January 16th, 2013
4:27 pm
S/H – That sounds like my review every year! Just because my boss doesn’t like me, she says I have an attitude problem. BUT…I’m still here!
Single and Happy
January 16th, 2013
4:30 pm
Bluz I do have and attitude problem, I have a picture in my office of a guy standing in front of his bosses desk, the boss is saying “I hear you have an attitude problem” the guy is wearing a tie that says fcuk you. everyone that walks in says it fits me (LOL)
Bluzgirl
January 16th, 2013
4:34 pm
LOL! I only really have an attitude when my boss tries to act like I don’t know what I’m talking about or she micro-manages, or she ignores me…come to think of it…I may have an attitude problem also, but it all stems from her! I never got that complaint before she became my boss.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 16th, 2013
4:37 pm
“or, conversely, if we were stranded on a deserted island”
Hmmmmmmm….. let me see…… Into the Light has sexy antennae( lol) , I wonder if she wants to walk around and see what kind of trouble everybody else is getting into…….
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 16th, 2013
4:38 pm
not sure why I just felt like Sug and Whoopi
Geeze Leggs…now that you posted that, I guess they did come to an understanding in that movie. Ain’t no way in the hell I’m going to tell my husband’s side h* it’s alright if she sleeps with my husband…
Single and Happy
January 16th, 2013
4:42 pm
Okay let’s flip ITL scenario, your STUCK on a island with one blog member, the nearest Island is 50 miles away, through alligator, shark, sea urchin infested waters, and you can’t swim. Who would make you take your chances of making it to the that island ……………………………………………………………. …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….oh wait, don’t answer that, I’m just kidding LOL
Bluzgirl
January 16th, 2013
4:49 pm
S/H – I think some may be able to guess my answer to your question! LOL! I’m not gonna go there with naming anyone!
I’m about to head out. Ya’ll have a nice evening. It’s my dad’s birthday and we’re going out to eat…
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 16th, 2013
4:50 pm
Love,Peace and Hair grease y’all!!
Single and Happy
January 16th, 2013
4:51 pm
Have a good evening bluz, have a good time with your dad
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 16th, 2013
4:53 pm
Back to Into the Lights original question……
Since I am fairly new here, and do not know the back stories of most of the others, I will say, If i had to pic a deserted island flame to repopulate the earth with, Raqi was on F I R E with her stories yesterday…… I recall she talked about her hubby and I am glad for him but Girl can for real spin a tale!!!!!
Honeyamber1
January 16th, 2013
7:49 pm
Even though I don’t get to play on the blog with you all everyday, I do get to read you all.
My choice for blog boos would be a combination of Dreams, Infamous and DuShawn. Put them all together and I would have the perfect man.
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 17th, 2013
8:54 am
Well, is this Free For All Bootlegg Blogging Day?
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
9:16 am
Please tell me there will be a new topic today!!!
Celisea
January 17th, 2013
9:19 am
Lookie lookie….coming in through the backdoor
I guess for current topic I said it yesterday….lolololol….get it?
Anyhoo, I decided it was time (yesterday) to get off my bum and get back in the swing of fitness
Soooo, I decided to check out the YMCA that my nephew and his friends attend, as well as my niece. Well what did I stumble on if not a gem. I dunno, I guess the last time I stepped in the “Y” was as a kid and I envisioned so late 70s early 80s set up…lol Well to my surprise it’s a huuuuge center, nearly all glass so you can see “stuff” going on. There was karate, a daycare (visble from the street), indoor swimming, an aerobics class (with I’d guess about 50 or 60 folks), a packed gym and a basketball court. I was warmed (yeah I said it), seeing kids sitting alongside the walls on laptops with books open. Soooo, I hit the treadmill while I watched a movie and did half an hour, gotta work back up some endurance. But, I think I’ll go again when I leave here.
Dushawn, hows that for longwinded
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 17th, 2013
9:19 am
Bluz – There will be if you come up with one…Soooo whatcha got?
Celisea
January 17th, 2013
9:21 am
This was the YMCA of Buckhead. Didn’t realize it was considered “Buckhead” as I know in that area there’s a line where Buckhead picks up. That’s even better though because it’s on Moores Mill Rd. witch is like what 8 – 10 minutes from my house.
Celisea
January 17th, 2013
9:23 am
which not witch….maybe I was subconsiously thinking of someone…lololol
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
9:24 am
Slim – It’s too early for me to think of anything. Maybe once I’ve finished my first cup of coffee!
I hope others come in here…
Celisea
January 17th, 2013
9:25 am
I have my year end review today….ugh…it’s been a good year but you just never know with folks…IJS
Oh, I gave myself a two from my contacts but I have them in today
It was much easier tis morning. The challenge will be getting those mugs out.
Yeah, I’m chatty this morning….getting it all out before the crowd gets in. I don’t do well in crowds….lololol I’ve always been sort of “standoffish.” I’m like that here. I mean I do okay and will speak and/or chat…for a minute….but they know not to expect too much more out of me than that.
Alright, I got “stuff” to do today and before my team meeting as well as my 1:1 with my manager soooooo, with that I’ll say TOODLES!!!
Celisea
January 17th, 2013
9:26 am
a two day break….which is what I meant
I’m listening to Mary Mary’s “Good Morning”….LOVE this song!
Heeeey Lady, if you’re reading.
Okay, now I’m out!
Celisea
January 17th, 2013
9:27 am
And Dushawn, you must know me. You guessed it right, I am a sweet girl….IN REAL LIFE!!!!
For real, bye (for now maybe)!
Celisea
January 17th, 2013
9:30 am
Oh….one more while I’m thinking…for those of you that can’t make the Inauguration in person, find a livestream. I’ll be watching!!! Gooooooooooooooo OBAMA!!!!
disco
January 17th, 2013
9:31 am
good morning fellow backdoor bootleg bloggers.
celisea – I’m a Y member. currently getting in 4-5 days a week. alternating between running (indoor track) and yoga/stretch.
why are my co-workers walking around all excited in anticipation of snow. I told them to gone head with that foolishness.
Celisea
January 17th, 2013
9:32 am
disco – I forgot the indoor track…thanks for that! I’ll be making my way there (hopefully) at least 3 times a week
Okay, I’m gone for real…for real this time
Celisea
January 17th, 2013
9:33 am
I’m hope we get a ton of snow dropped on us. Like I told my coworker right after I get to the grocery store and home. Then clears up before my hair appointment Saturday
I won’t say it again, Imma just stop talking
Heeeeey Dushawn!!!
Leggs
January 17th, 2013
9:37 am
♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO DARLING, KIMMIE!♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
9:39 am
I sure wish we were getting real snow and could get tomorrow off! We’ll be lucky to see a few flurries…our HR person sent out our winter weather call list just in case we do get black ice in the morning and delay opening. We are expected to have black ice in the morning. It would be nice if they would go ahead and say “let’s open at 10″ instead of us waiting for the phone call at 6 am…
Lady~it is what it is!
January 17th, 2013
9:39 am
C~ let it snow bc I am ready to go and a 4 day weekend will set the tone!
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
9:40 am
Happy birthday to Kimmie!!!!!
Celisea
January 17th, 2013
9:40 am
Lady – Girrrrl, it better not snow!! Imma be working from my bedside and sipping coffee
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 17th, 2013
9:54 am
Wow Chatty Celisea….how many cups of coffee, red bull, Monster etc have you had this morning?
HAPPY BORN BUCKET NEKKED DAY KIMMIE!
Celisea
January 17th, 2013
9:59 am
Slim – I left already….so I can’t answer or respond……lolololololol
disco
January 17th, 2013
10:24 am
uh oh. things are slowing down. what’s up? so here’s a funny (to me) story. I know a dude. he’s married with small kids. like a lot of dudes that are married with small kids he tries the old tactic of not going straight home from work. his thing is he goes to the gym after work and by the time he gets home dinner is cooked and the kids are on their way down. he gets away with this for X amount of time but recently he and the missus were having an adult moment and he apparently finished too soon. he told her he was just tired. she came back with “all that working out at the gym and this is all the strength, endurance and stamina you’ve got”. he says he never imagined she would attack him with his own game. I thought it was hilarious.
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 17th, 2013
10:28 am
disco – I never heard that a dude that frequents the gym prolongs his stamina…maybe endurance but no effect as far as when he ‘arrives’.
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
10:28 am
I just have to say that I’m so disgusted with Lance Armstrong. I have to admit that I am recording the Oprah interview. It’s just a shame that someone could do what he did. So may people looked up to him and were inspired by him and he’s just a fraud.
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
10:31 am
disco – that is pretty funny!!! I think it’s even funnier that he admitted to finishing too soon!
abc
January 17th, 2013
10:36 am
It’s not going to snow. Extreme N. GA., sure maybe. Metro Atlanta, no way.
Folks love the snow hysteria round here!
disco
January 17th, 2013
10:37 am
slim – I don’t think that matters when you have an unsatisfied ticked off wife lying next to you.
Leggs
January 17th, 2013
10:39 am
disco ~ that was funny.
Bluz ~ he didn’t have to “admit” to finishing soon. Proof is in the pudding, baby!
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
10:39 am
Morning all, and you blog crushes
Leggs
January 17th, 2013
10:40 am
I’m with you abc, no snow! You jokers will be at work tomorrow!
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
10:43 am
Leggs – I meant that he admitted it to disco…
Morning S/H –
I wonder if we will get some kind of big ice or snow storm this winter since we got lucky last year with such a mild winter…
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
10:43 am
So who all is going to make that infamous milk eggs and bread run today (LOL)
disco
January 17th, 2013
10:44 am
random: I am wearing a watch and three bangles on my left wrist. how come I love the sound my bangles make every time I raise/lower my arm. it’s a wonder I’m not walking around shaking it like a tambourine up in here.
oh. and i’m on team no snow.
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
10:48 am
S/H – The bad thing is that I really do need to go to the store to get milk today! I would wait, but my kitties need food also…maybe some beer as well!
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
10:52 am
Bluz, you’re to young to be the neighborhood cat lady
and I cant resist this one, I thought your kittie got feed the other night (LOL)
DreamsMaterialize
January 17th, 2013
10:53 am
They told me if I go ‘roun back, knock on the do’ 7 times, and ask for Big Tiny, I could find some moonshine at the Bootleg Blog. Is this the right place?
Hey ladies!
Happy birthday kimmie.
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 17th, 2013
10:55 am
abc – I was just having that same convo yesterday when folks around the office were talking about snow. I always roll my eyes because of the hysteria, as you said, grows out of mere mention of ‘wintery weather’. I want to say GET A GRIP!!!
Leggs – Mentioning ‘fininshing too soon’ and ‘pudding’ just gave me the
face 
SH – And why do folks always go for milk and bread anyway. If i’m snowed in, i sure as hell don’t just want to be eating milk and bread lol We need to be buying some chicken, soup, beer, wine, goose, rice, eggs, bacon, sausage, beef etc…fugg just milk and bread.
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 17th, 2013
10:58 am
disco – If you were working in the office with me, i’d be rolling my eyes at you every time you moved those loud as bangles. ijs lol We had a chick who worked here VERY BRIEFLY but she wore a thousand bracelets. And the bad thing about it, she wore them on the same arm she uses to work the mouse. So just imagine that sound scrapping, banging, hitting the desk every damn time she moved her arm to move the mouse.
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
10:59 am
LOL S/H! It’s now my brother’s fault that I’m a cat lady cause he brought another cat when he moved in! I always thought I’d only have 2 cats, and now there are 4 in my house!
And…yes…the kittie was fed very well the other night…
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 17th, 2013
10:59 am
disco – I’d probably have a secret voodoo doll of you in my desk drawer stabbing it throughout the day
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
11:00 am
Slim – I always joke that people buy milk, bread, and eggs so they can make french toast! Only problem…what if the power goes out?
Leggs
January 17th, 2013
11:06 am
disco ~ I wear my silver bangles all the time and I too love the sound of whenever I raise or lower my hand. Sometimes I walk the halls jingling them on purpose. I’ve had these bangles since I was 17. I had about 20, but now only have 4 left.
Ok, seem like SlimNu would try and trip me as I walk by her office/cubicle.
Celisea
January 17th, 2013
11:06 am
Folks love the snow hysteria round here!
What’s the harm in wanting it to snow??? Just wow….sending sunrays to those that could use a little sunshine this morning
MsAtl
January 17th, 2013
11:07 am
Morning All!
Happy Birthday Kimmie! Enjoy!
Disco- your story was funny. Slim- ditto re finishing too soon and pudding.
I doubt we will have snow in the Atlanta area. I will be at work tomorrow.
Bluz- Exactly! If the power goes out, the milk will spoil. Not to mention, how long do you think you will be snowed in? I have seen folks with their carts full of water, bread and milk. If I had to go food shopping anyway, I would make a run to the store, otherwise, make do with what’s in the pantry.
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 17th, 2013
11:07 am
Bluz – Well if the power goes out, then it’ll be an issue if you have an electric stove. Back in 94ish, we had a big snow storm and my house was the only one (out of our friends and relatives) that had a gas stove. We a whole fried chicken dinner lol And we were able to heat the living area with the oven open at night
Now if you DON’T have a gas stove but you have a small grill, better light that sucka up and have grilled french toast 
disco
January 17th, 2013
11:09 am
slim – my bangles are not on my mouse arm. lol. also, I’m relatively segregated from the rest of the co-workers. they can’t hear me. these ones are plastic and have a nice little clink. I’ve got some wooden and metal ones that even get on my nerves. bracelets are my thing. I always have on earrings and bracelets. don’t do necklaces much.
slim – re the voodoo doll. ouch..
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
11:11 am
I’m wondering if when I go to the store today the milk shelf will be empty!
2 years ago, when we were iced in for several days, I was glad that I lived about half a mile from Kroger. The Ex and I didn’t really take it seriously…we had some food, but then ran out of tasty stuff, so we walked to the store. Also, we would walk to the store just out of boredom and I liked to be out in the snow!
Celisea......let it snow!!
January 17th, 2013
11:12 am
I think if we get ANY precip to the slightest, I’m packing it up early, heading to Publix and heading home
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
11:15 am
Grilled french toast sounds interesting…I’d like to try that actually!
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 17th, 2013
11:16 am
Celisea – No harm in wanting it to snow…what i’m referring to the craziness that ensues at the mere mention of a flake, flurry, black ice etc when you know doggone well it ain’t gonna happen. It’s one thing if it’s been confirmed that we will have some substantial inches/feet of snow. But folks love to go all crazy for no reason. Then when the morning comes and there isn’t any snow on the ground, you would’ve went into panic mode for no reason.
Leggs – I may not trip you up but i’ll probably just make TWO voodoo dolls as opposed to just one lol
Celisea......let it snow!!
January 17th, 2013
11:20 am
Just got an email from manager telling us to take our laptops home tonight!!! :mgreen:
Celisea......let it snow!!
January 17th, 2013
11:21 am
Slim – Well, folks do go crazy. I think mostly though out of excitement because it’s such a rare treat for us. And you know…folks that get to call out or kids get a day out of school. I think it’s cool
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 17th, 2013
11:22 am
I think if we get ANY precip to the slightest, I’m packing it up early, heading to Publix and heading home
Cosign…I’m off tomorrow and am itching to get out of here…
Celisea......let it snow!!
January 17th, 2013
11:23 am
Sasssssssssssssssssssssssyfrass…….meeeeeeeeeeeee tooooooooooooo
Snuggle weather
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
11:24 am
I’m relatively segregated from the rest of the co-workers NAWWWWW
I don’t get snowed in, my four wheel drive works wonders (LOL)
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
11:25 am
I would like it to really snow, but unfortunately, since I’m not up in the mountains, it ain’t gonna happen. I hope to at least see some snow flakes that will melt as soon as it hits the ground. I just worry about there being black ice in the morning and driving…hope it’s ok
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 17th, 2013
11:26 am
Umm since we’re bootleg blogging…and it’s still raining outside…we gone Zane today?
I’m bored so I asked..no biggie just thought I’d throw it out there for later on..
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
11:26 am
From DJ Rick Party ” I don’t understand why people in the south rush to the grocery store everytime they mention snow, If you don’t have 2 to 3 days of food in your house, you have bigger problems than snow!!”
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
11:28 am
S/H – when we did get snowed in, I owned a Mustang at the time. There was no way I was going to attempt to drive that on snow and ice!!! Wouldn’t have even made it out of the parking lot. The Ex had an old BMW that was a 5 speed, so when I did have to get back to work, he took me and picked me up since there was still snow and ice on many roads…
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 17th, 2013
11:28 am
Snuggle weather
Indeed Celi…indeed
Mr. Bermuda is my human Snuggie
Celisea......let it snow!!
January 17th, 2013
11:32 am
Sassy – Ahhhhh yeah, human suggies are the best!
He’ll get the movies and I’ll get the groceries and hopefully my kid will want to be with my sister’s kids, AT THEIR HOUSE….lolololol
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 17th, 2013
11:36 am
Bluz – The beau and I got snowed in together and he lives fairly close to Publix…so we took the slippery slide to the store and got some groceries. I think we ended up grilling out and drinking lol
Celisea – You’re right, folks look for any reason to not have to go to work. I’m thinking of a reason to leave early today. cough cough….feeling sorta icky
Leggs
January 17th, 2013
11:36 am
Now, I’ll know who to blame when I feel these tiny pangs of pain that come out of the blue!
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
11:38 am
Slim – I remember drinking a bit during those few days and going out in the parking lot of the apt complex I lived in and “ice skating.” It was a blast!
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 17th, 2013
11:45 am
Bluz – we had a snowball fight and when I was trying to duck one coming my way, I slipped and fell down the hill.
DuShawn
January 17th, 2013
11:45 am
I’m supposed to be going to this Black Ski Weekend in Tennessee tomorrow. Some of my closest Dogs are flying in this afternoon from the MIA. They already got housing and ground transportation. All I got to do is get in the car. The responsible and righteous thing to do would be to bring my a$$ to work tomorrow and hang out with my family this MLK weekend (that’s the angel on one shoulder). Me and these wild Ques, out of town, without our wives, surrounded by chocolate snow bunnies, and a lot of cognac …..whew, inevitable debauchery! (That’s the devil on the other shoulder). I still haven’t decided.
Ironically, I read this passage during my morning meditation. “Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled.”
disco
January 17th, 2013
11:52 am
D – the one in Gatlinburg? I was supposed to go. one of my homies is driving a bus load of folks down. I’m going to texas instead.
disco
January 17th, 2013
11:55 am
as a full fledge northerner who walked X number of blocks to school up hills (yes hills – plural). as a girl who has been body slammed in the snow by little ignorant mannish boys more times than I can count. as a chick who has lost gloves/scarves/hats and had no shame in my game going to collect something out of lost and found to make it home in – I don’t know why in heck folks get excited about the snow. I hate the snow. lol.
abc
January 17th, 2013
11:59 am
Icing is extremely unlikely. Rain has stopped in the metro, next 3-4 days show 0% chance of precipitation.
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
12:02 pm
Du – if you go, you best behave!!! LOL!
disco – whatcha going to TX for? I was born in Houston…
DuShawn
January 17th, 2013
12:02 pm
Disco – this one is in Pigeon Forge. I’m leaning towards curling on the bruz. I may just be out with them tonight at the pre- party and tell them to catch me when they get back to the “A”, and we will do the Ques tailgat at the dome….that’s gonna be off the chain. BTW, I didn’t see snow until I was an adult. It was always summer. So you know I don’t know how to ski, none of my potnahs do.
MsAtl
January 17th, 2013
12:05 pm
Disco- I’m with you. We had to go to school in a foot of snow in NY. I don’t even want to think about when I lived up in Watertown NY. We had 36 inches of snow in one day! One year our last blizzard was on Mother’s Day and the snow finally cleared from the ground in June. No thanks! I can do without all the “pretty” snow.
DuShawn- I think we can all see a story coming from you next week???
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 17th, 2013
12:06 pm
Dus – So after reading that passage, has that deterred you from dipping off to the mountains?
kimmie
January 17th, 2013
12:07 pm
Good Afternoon Gang!!
Thanks for the Birthday wishes everyone!!!
Why it gotta be bootlegg on MY burfday, Wise???
Whatchall talking bout??
Celisea......let it snow!!
January 17th, 2013
12:13 pm
It’s gonna snow!!!
DuShawn
January 17th, 2013
12:14 pm
SlimNu – That scripture does play into my decision. On top of that, I’m beat. Due to the weather, I have been having 2 hour commutes each way everyday this week. After I hang out tonight, I will be thru. My energy level is low.
But who knows, once I get around my Dogs, I will be hyped. We haven’t hung out in a while.
Celisea......let it snow!!
January 17th, 2013
12:15 pm
That was for abc!!! LOLOLOLOL
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
12:17 pm
kimmie – not talking about too much! You got any good topics for us today?
DuShawn
January 17th, 2013
12:22 pm
I guess Diva said, She is wasting her time coming up with new topics daily. We rarely discuss them for very long. She prolly said fcuk it, let them talk amongst themselves. That’s all they do anyway.
kimmie
January 17th, 2013
12:23 pm
Bluz – Nothing I can think of fun to talk about.
I am doing a half day today and off Friday & Monday, so my long weekend is about to start up in about 45 minutes!!!
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
12:26 pm
Good for you kimmie!!! Enjoy that long birthday weekend! Any big plans?
MsAtl
January 17th, 2013
12:26 pm
DuShawn- All because of a little rain? It has taken me 1 1/2 hours average to get to work this week and I only work 19 miles away.
disco
January 17th, 2013
12:28 pm
bluz – just going to hang out for a few days. no specific plans. just making it do what it do.
D – oh. well there is another ski weekend over that way the first weekend in February. don’t ask why ski trips are on my radar. lol.
ms. atl – yep. snow, even in small amounts, is some bull. I don’t mind cold but I like to see the ground.
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
12:32 pm
I have never been skiing…I’d like to do it one of these days…
disco – If you’re gonna visit TX, now is the time to do it! In about 3 months, the heat will become unbearable!
kimmie
January 17th, 2013
12:34 pm
Bluz – My boo gave me some nice white gold hoop earrings! I love white gold and I am hooked on hoops right now! The kids gave me a Starbucks card. We are going out to dinner tonight to a little neighborhood Italian spot and then boo is going to take me out for a grown & sexy dinner Saturday night with another couple!
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
12:39 pm
Sounds nice!!! Good for you!!!
kimmie
January 17th, 2013
12:39 pm
I hate snow! I like to see pics of it and that’s all. It’s just a pain, even if they shut down my job, I still have to see that the work gets covered. If the kids have to miss school, we end up getting on each other’s nerves and they probably will have to make up the days if it’s more than one or 2. Yall northerners can keep that ish right up there.
Only place snow was cool was when I visited Denver. It was a pretty layer of it on the lawns, but it was sunshine and the streets were dry. Beautiful!
Leggs
January 17th, 2013
12:42 pm
I hate snow, don’t miss the snow, could care less about those pretty, hazardous snowflakes.
disco/MrsAtl ~ nothing closed in NY for any of the many blizzards I lived through. Snow up to my kneecaps, everything covered but my eyes. Snow and then have to fight with The Hawk made for some absolute miserable commutes to and from work. I live here and first snowstorm leaves me stranded for 3 days at a co-worker’s home. That never would have happened in NY (lol).
kimmie
January 17th, 2013
12:48 pm
Leggs – See, I hate either scenario – the paralysis here or the “deal-with-it” there!!
Celisea......let it snow!!
January 17th, 2013
12:51 pm
Let it snow!!!
kimmie
January 17th, 2013
12:59 pm
Denver really was incredible though. Mountains surrounding, the snow and the sunshine, clean and dry streets, absolutely beautiful!
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
1:00 pm
I’m anxiously awaiting getting my pay stub…my check already went down due to the increase in SS tax…our HR person sent out an email about the tax tables changing. I wanna see if it affects me or not. She wasn’t sure how it would affect people…
disco
January 17th, 2013
1:00 pm
kimmie – I’ll take the paralysis any day. all I can think is “I hate the snow”. one of my cousins was raised in hawaii and came to PA for the first time during the winter when I was in the 5th grade. of course she had never seen snow and was all excited. the grown ups made us go outside with her to play in the snow. talk about ticked. they sitting in the house all warm and cozy and we have to go play with a cousin we just met in the snow. to this day we still tease her about that.
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 17th, 2013
1:11 pm
I’m all for Team snow only when it’s actually going to snow…but i’m not going to start stock piling food and supplies at the mere mention of some falling white substance. Hell, that could be a dandruff storm for all we know. Ain’t nobody got time for dat (lol)
kimmie
January 17th, 2013
1:16 pm
disco – LOL!!!
Willie Dynamite
January 17th, 2013
1:24 pm
Afternoon all,
Bootlegging it hunh. What you good folks got going on? Any topic?
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 17th, 2013
1:25 pm
For all you snow buffs, my sister just texted me from Montgomery to say that have snow flurries now.
Leggs
January 17th, 2013
1:25 pm
WillieD ~ we’re talking about snow while DuShawn is contemplating what to do with the snow bunnies.
kimmie
January 17th, 2013
1:30 pm
I’m out!
Holla at ya from home tomorrow!!
Be careful out there, snow or not!!
Celisea......let it snow!!
January 17th, 2013
1:32 pm
Well, I got my review and my manager ain’t happy. It was all good ratings (from my team), but she didn’t appreciate some things I was candid about. I told her I too think it was a good year, but what other time to be frank than then? All she took out of it was I don’t think we (or I) can depend on her
Oh well, hope it won’t screw up my bonus…lol She can’t though change how I was rated…which is what determines it. I don’t think though I’ll get 5 figures….lololol
Willie Dynamite
January 17th, 2013
1:33 pm
Oh ok lemme add my thoughts.
Snow- don’t matter but I do want it just for the lil ones. They don’t get it often do I just like to see them play in it and be amazed.
Du – go have fun with your potnahs. Opportunities for all y’all together together like that are dwindling. Go have some fun.
Celisea......let it snow!!
January 17th, 2013
1:40 pm
Now she’s sent another planner to have “Year End – Part 2″ Dernit, I should have smiled and nodded and got on off the phone. IJS I think that’s the way she thought it was gonna flow
abc
January 17th, 2013
1:44 pm
“An important social fabric is broken in our society (when) individuals are taught to fend for themselves once they turn 18,” Brandon Wade, the website’s founder & CEO, said in a press statement. “We can no longer depend on our government or our parents for our education.”
So he starts a web site where college students can solicit sugar daddies to finance their education in exchange for their ‘companionship’. Georgia State has the most so far.
News, doing for yourself when you turn 18 or graduate high school has been going on forever, with some respite from that through the 90’s up to now. Is it just me, or does this sound like an entitlement-minded kid who thinks they are somehow owed a college education?
What’s more, there’s not more than 20 – 30% of high school graduates that even resemble college material. The rest just flunk out, anyway.
abc
January 17th, 2013
1:45 pm
Oh yeah, link: http://money.msn.com/now/post.aspx?post=e1abc132-f496-4ee2-b683-c618532d39d1
Page1908
January 17th, 2013
1:48 pm
Wow, I didn’t realize that the blog still has it’s bootleg days. LOL Good afternoon all.
Leggs
January 17th, 2013
2:15 pm
I see you still know the tricks, Page!
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 17th, 2013
2:18 pm
abc – Looks as if you scared some folks away but I did read the article and I was not aware of such website. I was chit chatting earlier with a friend who has been stressed about the costs of college education fees. And one student stated, who wants to have that much debt after they graduate…Those debts do not go away, they follow you to the grave lol I’m not certain that I would go so far as to have ‘business relationships’ aka a sugardaddy in exchange for school. I’m not sure I could deal with my dignity or even feel too good about myself having done that. It’s cool for some folks but just not for me. But it looks like puddy is still a hot bartering commodity lol
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
2:19 pm
Just got my pay check and the new tax table gave me $0.75 extra! LOL! Although, SS tax brought my check down by $30…
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
2:21 pm
Glad I qualified for the HOPE scholarship and my schooling was paid for…
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
2:22 pm
Kimmy, Happy Bday, did you go into the mountains of Denver? It really beautiful up there
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 17th, 2013
2:25 pm
Bluz – I had Hope too but it only gave me enough for a book allowance. I believe my Pell kicked in first. Whatever was left to pay was funding via a loan. I always joke around and tell folks that even if you die, they’ll be sending the past due bills to your grave site.
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 17th, 2013
2:26 pm
Thank the LAWD they finally turned the heat on round here. They still had the ac on here at the job up until 5 minutes ago
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
2:26 pm
abc, it’s not just you, but most of these kids get it from their parents.
Page1908
January 17th, 2013
2:26 pm
LOL Leggs, I guess so.
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
2:28 pm
Shoot…we all have had our space heaters on in here lately, even when it’s warm outside. The temp outside has dropped 7 degrees in just last hour!
MsAtl
January 17th, 2013
2:28 pm
Since conversation seems to have died down, I will seek comments on a new subject.
The regulars here know that I divorced my ex because of his affair. Specifically, he had an affair with a patient, which yielded kids ( 1 1/2 while married & 1 7 months after the divorce). When all was said and done, he lost his license and his career and she lost 2 children to her ex (they divorced 2 months ago). She and my ex married last month. He is still completely pissed that he lost his license and she lost her kids and they blame me and her ex for that.
The issue- We only communicate by email. However, every time we have to communicate concerning our son, it results in half-crazy rants and nastiness. Since our son is 18, it is only every so often, not even monthly. still, it is annoying to be subjected to the nasty rants, accusations and B.S. as well as him talking badly about me to our son and posting things about me on Twitter. The latest rant was a week ago when we had to discuss our son’s tuition. I didn’t even respond to his last email because he has to get the last word and would have just sent yet another rant. I have told him to grow up, recognize how his actions led to his situation, get rid of his anger, and focus on his new marriage, but that is not going to happen. He is miserable and still angry at me for leaving and for all that happened since then. I have moved on and just want to remain at peace without having to come out of a bag on the fool. This taking the high road thing is really getting to me. But I know better than to write something I would not want the judge questioning me about…
Celisea......let it snow!!
January 17th, 2013
2:29 pm
Yaaaah…come on snow!!!
Page1908
January 17th, 2013
2:29 pm
OMG its super cold today. It’s definitely boo up season.
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
2:29 pm
Bluz our great gov fixed the hope so that those that need it the most don’t qualify for it!
Leggs
January 17th, 2013
2:33 pm
“But it looks like puddy is still a hot bartering commodity”
SlimNu ~ just last week it was stated that puddy didn’t have any value (lol).
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
2:38 pm
Leggs, Slim just like everything else that all depends on who’s doing the buying!!
Leggs
January 17th, 2013
2:41 pm
“…it is annoying to be subjected to the nasty rants, accusations and B.S. as well as him talking badly about me to our son and posting things about me on Twitter.” = Your ex is an immature, self-centered, misguided PUNK. How immature it is to speak negatively about a parent to the child. Evil, hurtful, self-righteous PUNKS do that.
Keep walking on that high road. He’s baiting you, waiting to get you to type something out of anger only to use it against you. Refrain, Refrain, Refrain. Your son is now 18 years of age. Have a talk with him. He doesn’t need to know every thing, but assure him your priority is to see that he grows up to be a good young man. Just because the father bashes you, you don’t need to do the same, but I know it’s hard not to. He’s mad at himself because he let his ding-a-ling throw away a marriage, a family. It’s absolutely amazing how a person can bring strife into their lives and blame it on another as though they don’t have free will and sound decision making skills.
BTW, did I say you ex is a PUNK!?!?!
Leggs
January 17th, 2013
2:42 pm
Single ~ like I said before. That is true, so there’s always value there to someone!
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
2:44 pm
yes it is, now what was the name of that website again (LMAO)
MsAtl
January 17th, 2013
2:45 pm
Leggs- Lol, yes, you did say he is a punk. It has been nearly 2 years since I left him and his anger has only gotten worse. Thus far I have refrained. I tell you though, it was hard last month when he cut my license plate (personalized for me) in half. It was registered to him from when he bought the car and the tag office told him to sign it over since I paid off the car. I kept it together and just went & got a regular tag.
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
2:49 pm
Wow MsAtl! Sounds like he needs some serious therapy. So…he’s remarried and still treating you like that? Even though he cheated? I just don’t get some people.
One of my close friends has recently gone through a bad breakup. The guy didn’t cheat (as far as we know), but she was exposed to messages between him and another woman where he was trying to cheat. To me, that’s just as bad. Well, he has been absolutely awful to her! A couple of weeks ago, he was threatening to kill himself because she ruined his life by breaking up with him.
Leggs
January 17th, 2013
2:51 pm
That high road can be a beyotch, but you will feel better in the long run. And, things like cutting your license plate isn’t nothing. Let him have that or whatever else he does to get a rise out of you. Breathe, never let them see you sweat and keep stepping. Let him seethe in his own hate. You don’t need to join him! Keep smiling while taking the scenic route on the high road. Let him sling whatever bitter words he can sling. They’re just words….and if you know they’re untruthful why get bothered. Let him wallow in his own stench.
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
2:52 pm
Bluz, do they have any kids? if not why is she even keeping in contact with her?
Celisea......let it snow!!
January 17th, 2013
2:53 pm
They’re just words
Mmmm hmmm, I know some of y’all agree with some things I say….sticks and stones baby, sticks and stones
Is it snowing yet?
My coworker said he just say some “sprinkly stuff”
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
2:54 pm
MsATL you know how cheating men are, I don’t want you to be happy, unless you with me and letting me do what I want to do!!
Leggs
January 17th, 2013
2:55 pm
Let him kill himself, bluz!
Leggs
January 17th, 2013
2:55 pm
Let him kill himself, bluz!
Let a man say that to me. I’ll call his bluff and thank him for the heads up and let him know I will be at his funeral.
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
2:58 pm
Leggs, you’re a good one, I think I’ll be busy that day
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
3:02 pm
S/H – no kids, but were living together. She is only keeping in touch until he gets his stuff out.
Honestly, he’s such a jerk that it wouldn’t have bothered me if he had done it. I haven’t like him for the 3 years they’ve been together. The night he was threatening like that, she came to my house and turned her phone off so she wouldn’t have to deal with it. She told his mom and dad to take over. He disappeared for the night, but my friend said she didn’t even care where he was. This isn’t the first time he’s threatened. He has severe issues…I’m glad she is finally done with him…now, to just get all of his things out of her house (including his mother).
Leggs
January 17th, 2013
3:04 pm
And there’s that route, Single!
MsAtl
January 17th, 2013
3:10 pm
Bluz- Funny thing is, he was in therapy when he began sleeping with his patient whom he was counseling she and her husband in their marriage. Book deal anyone? (I kid, I kid)
Single- It didn’t work. I am happy. I don’t want him interfering with my peace.
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
3:14 pm
MsAtl…I don’t even know what to say about that one. Just keep on keeping cool and don’t let him see any reaction. Since your child is 18, the contact will become more and more limited with him.
disco
January 17th, 2013
3:15 pm
S/H – 2:58. that makes two of us. you go right ahead and kill yourself. hope your momma ‘nem got enough money so you don’t have to lay out too long. lol.
and why do fake azz attention seeking so called suicidal folks always want to advertise their intentions? don’t talk about it, be about it. do your thang. quit trying to make other folks feel some kind of way because you ain’t right. worrisome azzes.
disco
January 17th, 2013
3:17 pm
why folks always breaking up and somebody leaves but their stuff doesn’t leave??? that irks me. when you get out, get your stuff out. you are not coming back for it and don’t be asking me about it. not to mention it’s just game. folks leaving stuff on purpose so they have a reason to continue to communicate. gone head with all that.
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
3:18 pm
Disco, tru that, people that are going to do it, hear about it, not hear it from them
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
3:19 pm
The worst part about that night was that he involved a lot of people in his drama. If he wanted to do it, he would have just done it. Not talked about it for 5 hours before he disappeared. He was just trying to get her to say “don’t do it…come back to me.”
About 5 years ago, she lost her sister-in-law from a suicide threat…she took some pills and drove somewhere. Didn’t actually take enough pills, she just wanted attention. She got tired and pulled the car over. She was so disoriented that she fell into a ditch full of water and drowned.
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
3:22 pm
Bluz, Disco, if you leave your stuff there why do we have to communicate?
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
3:24 pm
disco – the night she told him he needed to be thinking about leaving is the night he pulled all the drama. They wanted to get him to his dad’s house for safe keeping before worried about his stuff. They’ll get it out soon, I’m sure…I told her I’d come help box it up!
MsAtl
January 17th, 2013
3:25 pm
Leggs, Single & disco- Y’all posts had me thinking of Morgan Freeman in “Lean On Me” when he told the kid “if you want to kill yourself, don’t f**k around; do it expeditiously!.” lol.
Bluz- Your 3:19: the devil on my shoulder wants to laugh at the irony, but that will just put me one step closer to hell as my niece would say.
Leggs
January 17th, 2013
3:25 pm
disco ~ you’re right, just another mechanism to have contact with you. Take your stuff with you, don’t need to set up dates and times for you to come by. If you want your stuff, take it with you. Otherwise, you’ve abandoned them.
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
3:26 pm
When I kicked the Ex out, we communicated very little…it was only about when he was going to get his stuff out. He flaked a few times and I finally had to tell him that if he didn’t get there on a certain day, I was going to take care of his things myself. He knew that wouldn’t turn out well.
disco
January 17th, 2013
3:28 pm
s/h – you know the game. calling talking about I want my stuff. this is why you take it with you or forget it’s yours. I’m not playing that game but you see it all the time.
ms atl – I mentioned on here before that one of my cousins was on some fake suicide mess. going to try to hang herself from a shower curtain rod but it wasn’t even affixed to the wall. one of those spring-latch type rods. really? that’s the best you could do? she got some attention all right. we talked about her like a dog.
MsAtl
January 17th, 2013
3:44 pm
Okay Disco. I had to laugh at that story. Bet she won’t try that again.
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
3:51 pm
Before therapy, I used to threaten, but never actually did anything or meant it. It was all for attention. I’ve learned that is not the way to get attention!!! When I was a teen, I came close to doing it, but never told anyone before…I was serious about it back then…
disco
January 17th, 2013
3:55 pm
ms atl – she did not try that again. she did still meet with an untimely death but it wasn’t at her own hands. I mentioned another chick on here (cousin of a friend of mine) that called herself going to OD but all she took was her kid’s chicken pox medicine. I’m like really? all the Clorox, Lysol, drano etc under the sink and you swallow the chicken pox medicine. gtfoh.
MsAtl
January 17th, 2013
4:14 pm
Sorry Disco. Okay, I don’t like the taste of shoe leather (open mouth, insert foot). I am going back to work…
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
4:14 pm
Dang…did I silence everyone with that post?
DuShawn
January 17th, 2013
4:17 pm
My whit boy co – worker in the neighboring office is cool as hell. He just came over and said DuShawn don’t forget to take you laptop home. You may wake up in the mornig and decide you want to work remotely, but let’s act like we never had this conversation. Meaning, that’s what he’s gonna do, so don’t come into the office. I’m thinking bet, cause it’s bout to be a long night……Ten minutes later I get an email from my boss asking to meet in the AM regarding a report that have yet to start. Dayum….Imma have to stall him and work on it this weekend.
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
4:20 pm
I’ve had 3 friends that actually did it, all blew their brains out over a woman
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
4:26 pm
Dang S/H – I’ve only had one friend do it. He was bipolar and none of us knew it. I kind of knew he had issues with drinking. We went on one date and decided we were better as friends. A couple years later, I found out from facebook that he shot himself in the head in his car…
abc
January 17th, 2013
4:31 pm
It may sound extremely harsh, but this is what my football coach said about that, and I still tend to agree: “anyone who commits suicide just lacks the guts to deal with their own life”.
MsAtl
January 17th, 2013
4:32 pm
Wow Single! I don’t know anyone that has actually committed suicide. The ex threatened it when I was getting suspicious about his affair, so I asked him to make it look like an accident so the insurance would pay. That didn’t go over too well, lol.
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
4:32 pm
Here’s something eerie…as I typed about my friend, a song from the band he used to play in came up on my iPod. Maybe he’s saying hello.
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
4:33 pm
I was a pallbearer at the first one’s funeral, I was like if you want to go, we’ll drop you off
disco
January 17th, 2013
4:34 pm
abc – that’s just a spin on saying folks that commit suicide are cowards. frankly, I disagree. I might take a knife and cut someone else but I’m not trying to cut me. I may fire a gun and shoot someone else but I’m not trying to shoot me. I might shove someone else off a bridge but I’ll be danged if I jump. I think it takes mad courage to self-inflict that kind of pain. of course, this is for the folks who go out hard. not the sleeping pill kind of folks.
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
4:34 pm
Suicide it the most selfish thing you can do, because you leave to many people wondering what they could have done to stop you.
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
4:37 pm
The saddest part about most suicides is that it is an extremely mentally ill person who just doesn’t know how to live. It is very selfish, but I wonder if most people who do it, do it so that the people around them don’t have to deal with them anymore. In a way, I guess they may think it’s selfless…
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
4:39 pm
I can say the couple of times I was serious about it…the thing that stopped me was my family. I couldn’t handle how it would affect them, especially when they saw my body. I could never hurt them that badly.
Leggs
January 17th, 2013
4:40 pm
disco~ your post comes across as another form of being cowardly. Why inflict your pain/harm onto others just because your at your wit’s end about something. Reminds of the woman who got on 285 going the wrong way on purpose to have a head-on collision with someone. The unsuspecting person died, but not the wrong way driver. If you’re hurting, then hurt yourself not someone else!
disco
January 17th, 2013
4:44 pm
I don’t automatically think mental illness when I think suicidal people. (not saying it’s never an issue just saying I don’t think it’s always the issue). it’s easy to blame mental illness or use it to justify. why can’t someone just say they’ve had enough and they want to check out? it could be a perfectly rational, well thought out decision on their part. what do we know? re the people left behind. so what? they deal. that’s all they can do. I think their bigger issue is dealing with the stigma attached to suicide moreso than the loss. if the person was killed in an accident or died of illness/disease or whatever they’d still deal but there wouldn’t be the stigma. I know I come off as harsh but bury them and get on with your life.
disco
January 17th, 2013
4:46 pm
leggs – not to crack a joke but haven’t you ever heard the expression “hurt people, hurt people”. lol.
still, I know I would not tolerate constant whining and threats from someone about “oh I’m going to hurt myself, oh I’m going to kill myself”. to all that I say “oh shut the eff up”.
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
4:53 pm
What a way for us to end such a gloomy day! LOL! I’m out ya’ll…gotta hit the grocery store. Ugh!
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
4:54 pm
You know they’ve got a mental illness for every dang thing any one does, it’s never the persons fault, but the fault of others who wouldn’t get them some help. some people are just crazy, and can’t be helped, and I’m not talking mental crazy
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
4:57 pm
Speaking of checking out, did anyone read the story about the deaf twins that were euthanize, because they were going blind and couldn’t stand the thought of not being able to see each other anymore?
disco
January 17th, 2013
4:58 pm
“speaking of checking out” for whatever reason made me think of that song “cashing out”. lol.
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
5:05 pm
Must be time for everyone to check out except me