Dating: What happened to creativity?
One of the common complaints I hear about dating in Atlanta is the complete lack of creativity. From the way single people approach each other – to the first date and beyond – zero creativeness. Dinner and a movie- texting to ask someone out- do you think we get in a boring rut when it comes to dating?
A lot of guys tell me they don’t put a whole lot of extra effort in making an impression unless the woman has that special “something” about them. So if a woman wants creative dates, she has to show and prove a lot before a guy decides her worthy of that effort? Is that fair?
When was the last time you had a really creative date planned? What is the best creative date you have?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
2:38 pm
Leggs, Slim just like everything else that all depends on who’s doing the buying!!
Leggs
January 17th, 2013
2:41 pm
“…it is annoying to be subjected to the nasty rants, accusations and B.S. as well as him talking badly about me to our son and posting things about me on Twitter.” = Your ex is an immature, self-centered, misguided PUNK. How immature it is to speak negatively about a parent to the child. Evil, hurtful, self-righteous PUNKS do that.
Keep walking on that high road. He’s baiting you, waiting to get you to type something out of anger only to use it against you. Refrain, Refrain, Refrain. Your son is now 18 years of age. Have a talk with him. He doesn’t need to know every thing, but assure him your priority is to see that he grows up to be a good young man. Just because the father bashes you, you don’t need to do the same, but I know it’s hard not to. He’s mad at himself because he let his ding-a-ling throw away a marriage, a family. It’s absolutely amazing how a person can bring strife into their lives and blame it on another as though they don’t have free will and sound decision making skills.
BTW, did I say you ex is a PUNK!?!?!
Leggs
January 17th, 2013
2:42 pm
Single ~ like I said before. That is true, so there’s always value there to someone!
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
2:44 pm
yes it is, now what was the name of that website again (LMAO)
MsAtl
January 17th, 2013
2:45 pm
Leggs- Lol, yes, you did say he is a punk. It has been nearly 2 years since I left him and his anger has only gotten worse. Thus far I have refrained. I tell you though, it was hard last month when he cut my license plate (personalized for me) in half. It was registered to him from when he bought the car and the tag office told him to sign it over since I paid off the car. I kept it together and just went & got a regular tag.
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
2:49 pm
Wow MsAtl! Sounds like he needs some serious therapy. So…he’s remarried and still treating you like that? Even though he cheated? I just don’t get some people.
One of my close friends has recently gone through a bad breakup. The guy didn’t cheat (as far as we know), but she was exposed to messages between him and another woman where he was trying to cheat. To me, that’s just as bad. Well, he has been absolutely awful to her! A couple of weeks ago, he was threatening to kill himself because she ruined his life by breaking up with him.
Leggs
January 17th, 2013
2:51 pm
That high road can be a beyotch, but you will feel better in the long run. And, things like cutting your license plate isn’t nothing. Let him have that or whatever else he does to get a rise out of you. Breathe, never let them see you sweat and keep stepping. Let him seethe in his own hate. You don’t need to join him! Keep smiling while taking the scenic route on the high road. Let him sling whatever bitter words he can sling. They’re just words….and if you know they’re untruthful why get bothered. Let him wallow in his own stench.
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
2:52 pm
Bluz, do they have any kids? if not why is she even keeping in contact with her?
Celisea......let it snow!!
January 17th, 2013
2:53 pm
They’re just words
Mmmm hmmm, I know some of y’all agree with some things I say….sticks and stones baby, sticks and stones
Is it snowing yet?
My coworker said he just say some “sprinkly stuff”
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
2:54 pm
MsATL you know how cheating men are, I don’t want you to be happy, unless you with me and letting me do what I want to do!!
Leggs
January 17th, 2013
2:55 pm
Let him kill himself, bluz!
Leggs
January 17th, 2013
2:55 pm
Let him kill himself, bluz!
Let a man say that to me. I’ll call his bluff and thank him for the heads up and let him know I will be at his funeral.
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
2:58 pm
Leggs, you’re a good one, I think I’ll be busy that day
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
3:02 pm
S/H – no kids, but were living together. She is only keeping in touch until he gets his stuff out.
Honestly, he’s such a jerk that it wouldn’t have bothered me if he had done it. I haven’t like him for the 3 years they’ve been together. The night he was threatening like that, she came to my house and turned her phone off so she wouldn’t have to deal with it. She told his mom and dad to take over. He disappeared for the night, but my friend said she didn’t even care where he was. This isn’t the first time he’s threatened. He has severe issues…I’m glad she is finally done with him…now, to just get all of his things out of her house (including his mother).
Leggs
January 17th, 2013
3:04 pm
And there’s that route, Single!
MsAtl
January 17th, 2013
3:10 pm
Bluz- Funny thing is, he was in therapy when he began sleeping with his patient whom he was counseling she and her husband in their marriage. Book deal anyone? (I kid, I kid)
Single- It didn’t work. I am happy. I don’t want him interfering with my peace.
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
3:14 pm
MsAtl…I don’t even know what to say about that one. Just keep on keeping cool and don’t let him see any reaction. Since your child is 18, the contact will become more and more limited with him.
disco
January 17th, 2013
3:15 pm
S/H – 2:58. that makes two of us. you go right ahead and kill yourself. hope your momma ‘nem got enough money so you don’t have to lay out too long. lol.
and why do fake azz attention seeking so called suicidal folks always want to advertise their intentions? don’t talk about it, be about it. do your thang. quit trying to make other folks feel some kind of way because you ain’t right. worrisome azzes.
disco
January 17th, 2013
3:17 pm
why folks always breaking up and somebody leaves but their stuff doesn’t leave??? that irks me. when you get out, get your stuff out. you are not coming back for it and don’t be asking me about it. not to mention it’s just game. folks leaving stuff on purpose so they have a reason to continue to communicate. gone head with all that.
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
3:18 pm
Disco, tru that, people that are going to do it, hear about it, not hear it from them
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
3:19 pm
The worst part about that night was that he involved a lot of people in his drama. If he wanted to do it, he would have just done it. Not talked about it for 5 hours before he disappeared. He was just trying to get her to say “don’t do it…come back to me.”
About 5 years ago, she lost her sister-in-law from a suicide threat…she took some pills and drove somewhere. Didn’t actually take enough pills, she just wanted attention. She got tired and pulled the car over. She was so disoriented that she fell into a ditch full of water and drowned.
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
3:22 pm
Bluz, Disco, if you leave your stuff there why do we have to communicate?
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
3:24 pm
disco – the night she told him he needed to be thinking about leaving is the night he pulled all the drama. They wanted to get him to his dad’s house for safe keeping before worried about his stuff. They’ll get it out soon, I’m sure…I told her I’d come help box it up!
MsAtl
January 17th, 2013
3:25 pm
Leggs, Single & disco- Y’all posts had me thinking of Morgan Freeman in “Lean On Me” when he told the kid “if you want to kill yourself, don’t f**k around; do it expeditiously!.” lol.
Bluz- Your 3:19: the devil on my shoulder wants to laugh at the irony, but that will just put me one step closer to hell as my niece would say.
Leggs
January 17th, 2013
3:25 pm
disco ~ you’re right, just another mechanism to have contact with you. Take your stuff with you, don’t need to set up dates and times for you to come by. If you want your stuff, take it with you. Otherwise, you’ve abandoned them.
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
3:26 pm
When I kicked the Ex out, we communicated very little…it was only about when he was going to get his stuff out. He flaked a few times and I finally had to tell him that if he didn’t get there on a certain day, I was going to take care of his things myself. He knew that wouldn’t turn out well.
disco
January 17th, 2013
3:28 pm
s/h – you know the game. calling talking about I want my stuff. this is why you take it with you or forget it’s yours. I’m not playing that game but you see it all the time.
ms atl – I mentioned on here before that one of my cousins was on some fake suicide mess. going to try to hang herself from a shower curtain rod but it wasn’t even affixed to the wall. one of those spring-latch type rods. really? that’s the best you could do? she got some attention all right. we talked about her like a dog.
MsAtl
January 17th, 2013
3:44 pm
Okay Disco. I had to laugh at that story. Bet she won’t try that again.
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
3:51 pm
Before therapy, I used to threaten, but never actually did anything or meant it. It was all for attention. I’ve learned that is not the way to get attention!!! When I was a teen, I came close to doing it, but never told anyone before…I was serious about it back then…
disco
January 17th, 2013
3:55 pm
ms atl – she did not try that again. she did still meet with an untimely death but it wasn’t at her own hands. I mentioned another chick on here (cousin of a friend of mine) that called herself going to OD but all she took was her kid’s chicken pox medicine. I’m like really? all the Clorox, Lysol, drano etc under the sink and you swallow the chicken pox medicine. gtfoh.
MsAtl
January 17th, 2013
4:14 pm
Sorry Disco. Okay, I don’t like the taste of shoe leather (open mouth, insert foot). I am going back to work…
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
4:14 pm
Dang…did I silence everyone with that post?
DuShawn
January 17th, 2013
4:17 pm
My whit boy co – worker in the neighboring office is cool as hell. He just came over and said DuShawn don’t forget to take you laptop home. You may wake up in the mornig and decide you want to work remotely, but let’s act like we never had this conversation. Meaning, that’s what he’s gonna do, so don’t come into the office. I’m thinking bet, cause it’s bout to be a long night……Ten minutes later I get an email from my boss asking to meet in the AM regarding a report that have yet to start. Dayum….Imma have to stall him and work on it this weekend.
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
4:20 pm
I’ve had 3 friends that actually did it, all blew their brains out over a woman
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
4:26 pm
Dang S/H – I’ve only had one friend do it. He was bipolar and none of us knew it. I kind of knew he had issues with drinking. We went on one date and decided we were better as friends. A couple years later, I found out from facebook that he shot himself in the head in his car…
abc
January 17th, 2013
4:31 pm
It may sound extremely harsh, but this is what my football coach said about that, and I still tend to agree: “anyone who commits suicide just lacks the guts to deal with their own life”.
MsAtl
January 17th, 2013
4:32 pm
Wow Single! I don’t know anyone that has actually committed suicide. The ex threatened it when I was getting suspicious about his affair, so I asked him to make it look like an accident so the insurance would pay. That didn’t go over too well, lol.
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
4:32 pm
Here’s something eerie…as I typed about my friend, a song from the band he used to play in came up on my iPod. Maybe he’s saying hello.
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
4:33 pm
I was a pallbearer at the first one’s funeral, I was like if you want to go, we’ll drop you off
disco
January 17th, 2013
4:34 pm
abc – that’s just a spin on saying folks that commit suicide are cowards. frankly, I disagree. I might take a knife and cut someone else but I’m not trying to cut me. I may fire a gun and shoot someone else but I’m not trying to shoot me. I might shove someone else off a bridge but I’ll be danged if I jump. I think it takes mad courage to self-inflict that kind of pain. of course, this is for the folks who go out hard. not the sleeping pill kind of folks.
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
4:34 pm
Suicide it the most selfish thing you can do, because you leave to many people wondering what they could have done to stop you.
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
4:37 pm
The saddest part about most suicides is that it is an extremely mentally ill person who just doesn’t know how to live. It is very selfish, but I wonder if most people who do it, do it so that the people around them don’t have to deal with them anymore. In a way, I guess they may think it’s selfless…
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
4:39 pm
I can say the couple of times I was serious about it…the thing that stopped me was my family. I couldn’t handle how it would affect them, especially when they saw my body. I could never hurt them that badly.
Leggs
January 17th, 2013
4:40 pm
disco~ your post comes across as another form of being cowardly. Why inflict your pain/harm onto others just because your at your wit’s end about something. Reminds of the woman who got on 285 going the wrong way on purpose to have a head-on collision with someone. The unsuspecting person died, but not the wrong way driver. If you’re hurting, then hurt yourself not someone else!
disco
January 17th, 2013
4:44 pm
I don’t automatically think mental illness when I think suicidal people. (not saying it’s never an issue just saying I don’t think it’s always the issue). it’s easy to blame mental illness or use it to justify. why can’t someone just say they’ve had enough and they want to check out? it could be a perfectly rational, well thought out decision on their part. what do we know? re the people left behind. so what? they deal. that’s all they can do. I think their bigger issue is dealing with the stigma attached to suicide moreso than the loss. if the person was killed in an accident or died of illness/disease or whatever they’d still deal but there wouldn’t be the stigma. I know I come off as harsh but bury them and get on with your life.
disco
January 17th, 2013
4:46 pm
leggs – not to crack a joke but haven’t you ever heard the expression “hurt people, hurt people”. lol.
still, I know I would not tolerate constant whining and threats from someone about “oh I’m going to hurt myself, oh I’m going to kill myself”. to all that I say “oh shut the eff up”.
Bluzgirl
January 17th, 2013
4:53 pm
What a way for us to end such a gloomy day! LOL! I’m out ya’ll…gotta hit the grocery store. Ugh!
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
4:54 pm
You know they’ve got a mental illness for every dang thing any one does, it’s never the persons fault, but the fault of others who wouldn’t get them some help. some people are just crazy, and can’t be helped, and I’m not talking mental crazy
Single and Happy
January 17th, 2013
4:57 pm
Speaking of checking out, did anyone read the story about the deaf twins that were euthanize, because they were going blind and couldn’t stand the thought of not being able to see each other anymore?
disco
January 17th, 2013
4:58 pm
“speaking of checking out” for whatever reason made me think of that song “cashing out”. lol.