Dating: What happened to creativity?
One of the common complaints I hear about dating in Atlanta is the complete lack of creativity. From the way single people approach each other – to the first date and beyond – zero creativeness. Dinner and a movie- texting to ask someone out- do you think we get in a boring rut when it comes to dating?
A lot of guys tell me they don’t put a whole lot of extra effort in making an impression unless the woman has that special “something” about them. So if a woman wants creative dates, she has to show and prove a lot before a guy decides her worthy of that effort? Is that fair?
When was the last time you had a really creative date planned? What is the best creative date you have?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Page1908
January 16th, 2013
1:05 pm
OMG I am terrible at texting!!! I think that’s one of the things that is such a challenge for me because I am so big on communication when it comes to dating. I try to be as open as possible with letting the other person know that communication is my absolute number one priority, and although they sometimes say they feel the same way and agree, it only takes a short time to find out otherwise.
Into the Light
January 16th, 2013
1:06 pm
Here’s the “question”: If all the bloggers were single and all were equal in the looks and age departments, who would be your blog crush and why????
HST
January 16th, 2013
1:07 pm
Robert, I will not eat a crustaceans of any type. I’m not grossed out by them, but I won’t eat them. My GF loves all crustaceans, however, wherever we go she usually has a wide selection. Sushi is where we find a hurdle, but it’s rare we eat carbs like that anyways. Even though I don’t eat crustaceans, I’d love to do any fest. Low country boils in NOLA are a sure bet as well.
ITL, what is this activity?
HST
January 16th, 2013
1:11 pm
ITL, that’s pretty good.
Page1908, I think that the point of texting is just that – the facts, what you want, straight to the point, and such. I do enjoy texting for those aspects.
Into the Light
January 16th, 2013
1:12 pm
….or, conversely, if we were stranded on a deserted island (well, it’s not deserted anymore because the bloggers are there, but you get the point) – who do you think would “pair up”?????
Button
January 16th, 2013
1:13 pm
HST – you sound old school…..I dig!
Robert
January 16th, 2013
1:14 pm
Over the holiday’s I enrolled my woman in a “Ballroom Dance Class”. We both thought it was a good idea to learn a few new dance steps and brush-up on our stepping/hand dancing routines. I really enjoyed the classes. To my surprise my woman did not because she felt she was out-of-shape and could not keep-up with the dance instructor’s directions. We learned the “Fox Trap” and we are still practicing the “Jitter-Bug”.
Lee
January 16th, 2013
1:16 pm
My best dates i went on was: Went to a rib festival then afterward we went to StoneMountain and took the train and watched the fireworks… another one: Sat there playing games on xbox , i lost but it was fun (i couldn’t get my ninja dude to fight right, all those buttons to use at once) Lol
HST
January 16th, 2013
1:16 pm
Button, I am, but that isn’t to mean I’m not a modern man.
ITL, I wanna see others or your participation first.
Into the Light
January 16th, 2013
1:18 pm
HST: I will go first, but only if others want to play…..
Page1908
January 16th, 2013
1:19 pm
HST, I agree that is the point of texting, but anything more than basic stuff like, what time are we meeting, who’s driving, and other stuff like that, is too much for me, however, sometimes the other person doesn’t want to communicate verbally, so you’re pretty much left with no other option than to text, in which case, that is not someone I would continue to show interest it. Seems like a way of manipulation to me.
HST
January 16th, 2013
1:24 pm
Robert, your girl sounds like a spoiled brat. Quit worrying if she isn’t having a good time, because of her insecurities. I wouldn’t even acknowledge such behavior.
What in the h*** is going on with all the violent crime in GA? I got my GF a G27 last weekend so she can conceal carry better. I’ve carried open and concealed since I was 18. I’ve never felt nervous before, but I do now. Violent crime is happening every day in the metro area.
Mark Kerry
January 16th, 2013
1:27 pm
Conincidently, I found this article today:
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/01/13/fashion/the-end-of-courtship.html?src=me&ref=general&_r=0
DuShawn
January 16th, 2013
1:31 pm
I remember another date I went on that a woman planned. She scooped me up from the crib in a Limo. I had my younger cousin living with me at the time. When it pulled up, you know I had to flex, and told him to recognize my pimpin. Anyway, it really wasn’t all that. We had no destination! We just rode around in the South beach traffic having sex in this Limo. It was different and I appreciated her effort, but how many corners can you bend before it becomes redundant. Finally, I told the driver to hit the interstate. We drove 45 minutes south to Islamorada, got out walked on beach and looked at the water, then drove home. While I’m typing this I’m reflecting on that evening. I recall our vibe was slightly off that entire night. I mean, it was fun, but I grew tired of being in that dayum car for hours.
Robert
January 16th, 2013
1:38 pm
HST – ATL is DC 20 years ago. Their is no need to “fear” crime. The best advice I can give you is to “stay alert” and watch where you go. If you see something go the other way rather than in the line of fire. Law abiding citizens who carry guns will use them just like a criminal out of “fear”. Is it better to “shoot first and ask questions later” or “go the other way”? I choose to “stay alert” and go the other way. Live to fight another day.
DuShawn
January 16th, 2013
1:40 pm
@ITL,-who would be your blog crush and why????- I will bite. Imma get @disco, we think alike. Plus I bet she got that “Boiled Okra” down there.
HST
January 16th, 2013
1:45 pm
Page, I agree, and that’s 99% of my texts. The other, well…
Mark Kerry, I too read that article when it came out. I almost wondered if Diva used it as her muse for TOD. I completely agree with that article. I don’t do social media for those reasons and more. I couldn’t ever imagine asking a woman to tag along the way the article explains. One of my philanthropies is The Big Brothers & Sister’s Organization, and I teach these young boys how to be a gentleman and approach his interest. Usually lots of math and grammar as well.
abc
January 16th, 2013
1:49 pm
Atlanta was ranked the 6th most dangerous city with over 200K residents in 2012, in spite of murder and rape incidents at rate that are 50% less than 10-12 years ago — maybe even more than that. You think it’s bad now, it used to be much worse. Atlanta is on a major drug trafficking route. Don’t be where the drugs and druggies are, and chances are you won’t be in the line of fire. ‘Course, that might mean never going inside the perimeter, probably not a very practical option.
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 16th, 2013
1:50 pm
If all the bloggers were single and all were equal in the looks and age departments, who would be your blog crush and why????
Thinking…
HST
January 16th, 2013
1:55 pm
Robert, I fear nothing, and I mean it just like that. I said nervous, which means a heightened sense of awareness like you said. Really, it’s not even me I’m worried about as much as my GF. I am the only guy in my county who has registered protection dogs. My house is a compound – you’d have to be beyond bold to come here. I’ve even asked my GF to carry a lower profile purse lately. Everything I/we have is over insured, but some of our items are mementos of our time together, they’re irreplaceable. Also if someone draws on me – one of us or both is gonna die. I’ve almost died a thousand times being a hero, but I couldn’t die once being a coward.
Mrs. SexyCool
January 16th, 2013
2:03 pm
Happy New Year!!!!
Oh…wait…I’m all late and ish.
How y’all doin’?
Into the Light
January 16th, 2013
2:05 pm
Mine would be either Swiss (sense of humor and music) or Willie D…….
HST
January 16th, 2013
2:06 pm
SexyCool, it’s been a minute. Happy New Year to you as well.
I’m doing well, and you?
Bluzgirl
January 16th, 2013
2:13 pm
ITL – If I was into chicks, it would definitely be you!
As far as the men go, I think Single would be my choice…
Into the Light
January 16th, 2013
2:15 pm
Lol@Bluz.
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 16th, 2013
2:19 pm
For me it would be Infamous…I like the way he blogs. Plus his fashion sense it killer and he comes across as being on his grown man isht with regards to how he runs his house and treats his family.
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 16th, 2013
2:22 pm
Mine would be either Swiss
ITL Swiss sounds like fun,too. And the fact that he LOVES chocolate women ALWAYS got him major points with me…and he is sooo in love with his wife and daughter
DuShawn
January 16th, 2013
2:27 pm
On second thought, I would prolly try to convince disco to start dating Leggs…. I believe the three of us could have a real cool vibe.
Leggs
January 16th, 2013
2:30 pm
SassyMe, you done took my man, Infamous.
But, DuShawn intriques me too. I could learn some things from him.
Leggs
January 16th, 2013
2:31 pm
Oh snap!
@DuShawn!
disco
January 16th, 2013
2:33 pm
ahh geee – thanks D. I guess we are a blog match then because I would have picked you too. why? because you are almost like the male me. lol. now if only getting a real life match were this easy.
disco
January 16th, 2013
2:34 pm
see D, you had to go messing things up. I thought we were tracking. no offense leggs. lol.
Single and Happy
January 16th, 2013
2:35 pm
Blog crush, bluz, ITL and disco at the same time
Mrs. SexyCool
January 16th, 2013
2:44 pm
All is well. Just super busy with a lot of project that I’ve got my hands on right now.
Decided to take a minute and allow myself to be purposely distracted. #MentalBreak
Mrs. SexyCool
January 16th, 2013
2:45 pm
project(s)
disco
January 16th, 2013
2:46 pm
S/H – are you serious or joking? if serious, and I might regret asking, please explain. I so don’t see all that right there. again, no offense bluz and itl. blog men, why y’all putting this spin on things making me have to “no offense” everyone?
Bluzgirl
January 16th, 2013
2:51 pm
Looking through an article on 50 do’s and don’ts of dating and this is #17:
DON’T plan a complicated date. Start with the basics.
It’s tempting to be creative and plan a date that’s fun and outside-the-box. But don’t underestimate the value of the tried-and-true standards. Almaraz says, “While men like creative dates, they said they would prefer those types of dates later in a relationship.” Sixty-two percent of men polled for his WTF Are Men Thinking? book said they prefer dinner or a movie for a first date. One even said, “Dinner is always good as long as it’s relatively casual. I think going too fancy on a first date can reek of desperation to impress. You’re there to get to know the other person, not to get involved in activities that present opportunities to ignore each other.”
Leggs
January 16th, 2013
2:56 pm
None taken, disco!
kimmie
January 16th, 2013
2:57 pm
Robert – It sounds like you & your lady are not compatible.
Into the Light
January 16th, 2013
3:04 pm
And Court….. On the blog a week and he’s got my antennae up…..
@stamps, quit playing, man.
Leggs
January 16th, 2013
3:07 pm
To be honest, I like all the blog guys (absent the male trolls). Some shine brighter than others, but I like all of you.
Bluzgirl
January 16th, 2013
3:14 pm
#45:
DON’T text.
“Communicating by text doesn’t trigger the same responses in our brains as interacting face-to-face,” says Alexander. “Texting is less rewarding and provides less of the chemical reactions that lead to human bonding. It’s not like you shouldn’t ever text, like if you’re late or want to change plans, but if you’ve got anything important to say, including something seductive, texting isn’t the way to go.”
Single and Happy
January 16th, 2013
3:20 pm
Disco I need someone that will pull you off me when I say the safe word, not join in
on second thought, ITL will probably be laughing so hard she won’t here the safe word either (LOL)
DuShawn
January 16th, 2013
3:21 pm
(In my warped mind, this is how I envision that disco/Leggs scenario playing out)……”disco – Baby, I don’t want to ruin our thing. It was merely a suggestion. I meant no offense. I mean, you both have common interest; I just figured if yall hung out, you might discover you enjoy one another’s company. I gotta take care of some business. Here, take my card, yall go grab a meal and some drinks and get to know each other. What’s the harm in that? Best case scenario, you meet a cool chick and possibly make a new friend. Worst case, you ain’t feeling her and keep it moving. Matter of fact; buy each other something nice on me. (Then I would call Leggs and say) “Leggs, imma need you to handle that……bring her home to Poppi. Baby, you know what to do!”………..j/k ladies
Single and Happy
January 16th, 2013
3:21 pm
Awww look at legs being all PC
HST
January 16th, 2013
3:35 pm
Celisea, because she’s well read, and drives a car that I would.
Leggs, because all I think of is hosiery on long legs when I see her screen name.
disco
January 16th, 2013
3:39 pm
S/H – lol. if you need someone to pull me off of you when you say the safe word you might want to holler at one of the blog gents. how ‘bout that? lololol.
Leggs
January 16th, 2013
3:40 pm
Not PC, just speaking the truth. If I didn’t like you, I would blog with you.
Bluzgirl
January 16th, 2013
3:46 pm
S/H – I think I would probably join in instead of pulling disco off!
Leggs
January 16th, 2013
3:47 pm
wouldn’t….