Would you relocate without a proposal?
If you were barely at the year mark of a new relationship, would you relocate to another city if they asked you to go with them? Allison is facing this exact situation. She did not hesitate to say yes and was excited at the idea of moving to a new city with her new man. It wasn’t until she started hearing opinions of friends and family that she second guessed her decision.
She says she is unhappy at her job, loves her new guy, and is not worried about moving with him without a marriage proposal. She has heard all the common reactions “why buy the cow” or “playing house” but it only makes her more confused. Should she require a ring in order to move with him? Does the fact that he asked her to go with him show commitment to their relationship?
Is it wrong to rearrange your life or consider the person you are dating when making a major life change?
Have you ever relocated for love? Did you regret it? Do you think we generally don’t take risks like this when it comes to love?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Bluzgirl
January 11th, 2013
3:18 pm
ITL – maybe next time, call and ask him why he called you instead of asking if he did call you? I’m thinking he may not call again…could he have drunk dialed?
Single and Happy ROLL TIDE #1
January 11th, 2013
3:18 pm
hmmm when you butt dial someone isn’t it usually the last person you called?
Into the Light
January 11th, 2013
3:18 pm
@Stamps: No booty call here. Those days are LONG gone and not even up for discussion.
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 11th, 2013
3:20 pm
But hey…I know you’re probably busy tonight and tomorrow, but can I call you Sunday?”
ITL?!…he said that?..just like I said he wanted to somehow get your attention and didn’t have the cajones to just call you like a man…that game-like tactic alone would get him the side eye.
Your 3:14…too funny.
Into the Light
January 11th, 2013
3:24 pm
@Bluz: Drunk at 7 pm???? Maybe, but I don’t think so…..
@Sassy: Oh, girl. He got the side eye….
(head thunk) DANG, Stamps. I didn’t even think of that……
I did have one more idea, though. Maybe he has a new chick who’s calling to investigate his numbers?!?!?!??!
DuShawn
January 11th, 2013
3:26 pm
ITL – Your Ex is about a month out from gettin back in your panties. You must still like dude. Why else would you block his calls so he can’t contact you and then you contact him and say “Me: Hey, did you call me last night?”. Not to put homeboy game out there, but he is saying to himself, “yeah, it worked…..I got her to start calling me again. it won’t be long now till I have them leggs in pretzel”
Leggs
January 11th, 2013
3:29 pm
DuShawn ~ when talking about other people legs, you must, I repeat must, use one”g”…thank you kindly.
Bluzgirl
January 11th, 2013
3:29 pm
Hmmmmm…may go out tonight after all…my friend is playing at Hottie Hawgs and when I mentioned being low on funds, he said he would buy me dinner and pull me up to play the one song I know on bass. Tempting…
Into the Light
January 11th, 2013
3:29 pm
@Du: Honestly, my first assumption was that he had a new girl and she was running down his contacts. I called back to let him know because while I am a nice girl, my kindness is not weakness. I will cuss a nosy a$$ heffa out.
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 11th, 2013
3:30 pm
Maybe he has a new chick who’s calling to investigate his numbers?!?!?!??!
No I doubt it..otherwise she would’ve said something OR would’ve asked who you were and let you know that she was his “oman”. Had he only done that once that’d be different but the fact that he did it twice..as I’ve said he wanted your attention but didn’t know how to go about it…
Leggs
January 11th, 2013
3:32 pm
DuShawn’s 3:26 makes a lot of sense. He baited you, ITL, and you eagerly ate the bait.
kimmie
January 11th, 2013
3:33 pm
kimmie read it 2x with head cocked to the side wondering if the post was true
Leggs, girl, you know me too well!!LOL!!!
Into the Light
January 11th, 2013
3:36 pm
@Sassy: But with his number being on reject, it won’t ring on my end or allow access to voicemail.
@Leggs: Double damn. I hope not.
Leggs
January 11th, 2013
3:39 pm
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 11th, 2013
3:39 pm
ITL the next time he calls what are you going to do…cause he’s trying you right now and he’s winning.
DuShawn
January 11th, 2013
3:43 pm
Leggs – I did that subconsciously, I must be still thinking bout your throat
Into the Light
January 11th, 2013
3:44 pm
@Sassy: I’m ignoring it. Best thing to do.
Leggs
January 11th, 2013
3:46 pm
DuShawn ~ HUSH!!!!!
Into the Light
January 11th, 2013
3:47 pm
I know I told him it was okay to call, but I think it best to ignore his call. There is no way I want to even put a pinkie toe on the slippery slope to believing in him again.
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 11th, 2013
3:48 pm
That’s a way to send a message ITL…I’m sure he’s going to call you again.
Leggs
January 11th, 2013
3:49 pm
It’s so thick in the back of my throat that swallowing is difficult. Seriously. BUT,
1…2…3
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 11th, 2013
3:49 pm
I know I told him it was okay to call, but I think it best to ignore his call.
Okay I’m confused..but either way you do what you think is best.
Into the Light
January 11th, 2013
3:49 pm
Thanks, Sassy!!!
On a happier note, in 25 minutes I’m gone, baby, gone!! Yippee for Friday!
Into the Light
January 11th, 2013
3:52 pm
@Sassy: I meant today when he called I told him it was okay to call me on Sunday, but if he does I will ignore it. No need to give false hope where there ain’t none (to him, I mean).
Leggs
January 11th, 2013
3:53 pm
SassyMe ~ I read it too wondering. Back and forth, back and forth, but our new motto for the blog is:
HEADACHES DO NOT RESIDE HERE!!!
Into the Light
January 11th, 2013
3:55 pm
Y’all hush. I didn’t mean to confuse anyone. Bottom line: I is smart….I is kind….I is important.
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 11th, 2013
3:55 pm
Okay wait, if ultimately you’re going to end up iggin him on Sunday,why even tell him that today at all?
Still, you do what’s best for you and I sincerely hope it works out for the greater good for all involved.
Leggs
January 11th, 2013
3:55 pm
He may not call, ITL. He wants the power of knowing you’re expecting his call Sunday. He still has the upper hand so don’t be surprised if he doesn’t call. You put the ball back in his court.
Leggs
January 11th, 2013
3:56 pm
when it should have stayed in your court.
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 11th, 2013
3:56 pm
Okay Leggs…as long as I wasn’t the only one reading it like that.
I is smart….I is kind….I is important.
Yes you are baby gurl
Into the Light
January 11th, 2013
3:57 pm
I read it too wondering. Back and forth, back and forth
It’s your meds confusing you!!!! And besides that, Fluella DeVille – you the one tryna to bait folks today. Oooooh, I’m using my pancake mix. Oooooh, stuff in my throat is too thick to swallow. 3, 2, 1….
DreamsMaterialize
January 11th, 2013
3:58 pm
Countdown to tequila. Yeah I think I’m going that route tonight.
Into the Light
January 11th, 2013
3:58 pm
Okay wait, if ultimately you’re going to end up iggin him on Sunday,why even tell him that today at all?
Because I didn’t realize that I was gettin’ gamed until I said (typed) it out loud and then saw y’alls responses. What can I say? Sometimes I is not smart. But I still is kind and I is important.
Into the Light
January 11th, 2013
4:00 pm
Countdown to tequila. Yeah I think I’m going that route tonight.
For the love of all that is good and Holy, slide one down the bar to me, Dreamy. No training wheels, just straight.
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 11th, 2013
4:03 pm
What can I say? Sometimes I is not smart. But I still is kind and I is important.
No worries chica, that’s what we’re here for…now you know and knowing is half tha battle…
DreamsMaterialize
January 11th, 2013
4:04 pm
For the love of all that is good and Holy, slide one down the bar to me, Dreamy. No training wheels, just straight.
ITL Training wheels? Blasphemy! lol
DuShawn
January 11th, 2013
4:04 pm
-On the topic of Butt Dialing- For a man that is doing dirt, it’s a helluva panic infused feeling when you happen to look at your phone and see an outgoing call to your girl that lasted 38 minutes that you butt dialed. You immediately start recreating in your head the conversations you had and the people involved. The only thing worse is when you’re out there tricking, done bust a big one, go to bathroom to take off the condom only to discover that sh&t done broke and is wrapped around the base like a rubber band. Talk about panic! You start thinking about diseases and begin to scrub your meat profusely with superhot water and try get soap all in the pee hole, like that’s gonna wash away HIV. Then it hits you like a ton of bricks……..Oh Sh^&t! I just nutted in this trick. (Fellas I know I’m not alone, we have all been there.)
DreamsMaterialize
January 11th, 2013
4:05 pm
now you know and knowing is half tha battle…
Yooooooooo Joe!
Into the Light
January 11th, 2013
4:07 pm
No worries chica, that’s what we’re here for…now you know and knowing is half tha battle…
Thanks, Sassy!
@Dreams: Sometimes I do get wheels…..I even get the tequila chilled.
Leggs
January 11th, 2013
4:09 pm
ITL ~ yes ma’am. Bluz asked to spice things up, so I tried (lol).
Into the Light
January 11th, 2013
4:12 pm
You did good, Leggs!!!
Leggs
January 11th, 2013
4:12 pm
I am medicated, but still have a sense of humor.
Into the Light
January 11th, 2013
4:13 pm
@Leggs: I’m still gon’ call you Fluella DeVille, though, because it makes me giggle.
And you know how much i love to laugh and joke.
Bluzgirl
January 11th, 2013
4:15 pm
45 more minutes…I don’t think I can take it!!!!
Into the Light
January 11th, 2013
4:16 pm
Okay, I’m out. Y’all be sweet.
Blog love and kisses. xoxoxoxo
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 11th, 2013
4:18 pm
Yooooooooo Joe!
America’s favorite Hero…G.I. Joe is theeeeere!!
Leggs
January 11th, 2013
4:19 pm
Hardy har har, thanks, ITL!
Bluzgirl
January 11th, 2013
4:19 pm
By ITL! If you go see TRY tonight, let me know how it is…
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 11th, 2013
4:21 pm
Okay I’m out…y’all have a good weekend!!!
Bluzgirl
January 11th, 2013
4:23 pm
You too Sassy!!!