Would you relocate without a proposal?
If you were barely at the year mark of a new relationship, would you relocate to another city if they asked you to go with them? Allison is facing this exact situation. She did not hesitate to say yes and was excited at the idea of moving to a new city with her new man. It wasn’t until she started hearing opinions of friends and family that she second guessed her decision.
She says she is unhappy at her job, loves her new guy, and is not worried about moving with him without a marriage proposal. She has heard all the common reactions “why buy the cow” or “playing house” but it only makes her more confused. Should she require a ring in order to move with him? Does the fact that he asked her to go with him show commitment to their relationship?
Is it wrong to rearrange your life or consider the person you are dating when making a major life change?
Have you ever relocated for love? Did you regret it? Do you think we generally don’t take risks like this when it comes to love?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Single and Happy ROLL TIDE #1
January 11th, 2013
2:21 pm
disco same ole stuff different day
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
January 11th, 2013
2:21 pm
‘ Sup!
And happy New Year everybody!
kimmie
January 11th, 2013
2:22 pm
maybe this man is the vessel to get her the one she’s really supposed to be with.
Single – Very well could be. That’s why I learned not to totally discount something that on the surface might not seem practical or logical. You never know how the pieces of the puzzle are going to come together.
Single and Happy ROLL TIDE #1
January 11th, 2013
2:23 pm
Disco, pet smart?? do they sell whips?
disco
January 11th, 2013
2:26 pm
dan – what’s up? you still happy new yearing folks? lol. did you take your tree down yet? lol.
s/h – I don’t know what they have in petsmart. seems like they should at least have a dog collar and a dish though. I suppose she can improvise with her whip. besides, he might be a good doggie and she won’t have to whip him. just rub him on the head and say “good boy”.
DuShawn
January 11th, 2013
2:27 pm
It’s good to be me today. Got some good luvin this morning and Wifey drove all the way from Conyers to Sandy Springs and took me to Olive Garden for lunch…….. and she paid. Afterwards, I thanked her for the meal and she responded “Yeah, I want to make sure nobody else is taking you to lunch”…..translated that means “yeah, I know your sweetheart b*^tch lives around here somewhere, when I see her a$$, imma split her sh&t to the white meat”.
Single and Happy ROLL TIDE #1
January 11th, 2013
2:27 pm
shooooot disco, if whipping aint involved aint no fun (LOL)
Single and Happy ROLL TIDE #1
January 11th, 2013
2:28 pm
Leggs, Cliff/Claire (LMAO)
kimmie
January 11th, 2013
2:30 pm
You guys are cracking me up!!LOL!!
(But giving me some good ideas!! :blush: )
disco
January 11th, 2013
2:31 pm
S/H – dag. you hardcore. seems to me that wearing a collar would be demeaning enough. dude gotta get whipped too?
dushawn – do you ever get caught up in being the “new you” and then get hemmed up by wifey being the “old her”?
Bluzgirl
January 11th, 2013
2:32 pm
They do have leashes at PetSmart…those can be used to either pull him around or to whip him…
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
January 11th, 2013
2:32 pm
@Disco
Naw, first time on (this year), thinking manners
Single and Happy ROLL TIDE #1
January 11th, 2013
2:34 pm
Kimmie I like those spiked dog collar from starship, just tight enough that when you pull back it chokes a little, (hmmm one of those shock collars from petsmart would be interesting) (LOL)
disco
January 11th, 2013
2:34 pm
well hell kimmie since we are running with this you gotta get the brother some kind of Scooby snacks. some snausages, kibbles and bits or something. of course, I don’t want old boy eating real dog food so you can make do with goldfish crackers or hershey’s kisses or something.
Single and Happy ROLL TIDE #1
January 11th, 2013
2:36 pm
Disco, the other night a friend was over and I said something smart to here and whacked me across the but, it took her 3 whacks before she realized there was a pattern (LOL)
disco
January 11th, 2013
2:36 pm
I’m so not embracing the whip thing. kimmie – swat him across the rear a few times with a rolled up newspaper. put his nose in “it”. LOL.
y’all crazy.
Single and Happy ROLL TIDE #1
January 11th, 2013
2:39 pm
Disco, will you relocate for me (LMAO) don’t forget your paper
Leggs
January 11th, 2013
2:40 pm
Come on guys, you do know none of that is true. I’ve been too sick to even think about making a booty call.
Bluzgirl
January 11th, 2013
2:43 pm
Leggs – I gotta admit that I was a little surprised, but was hopeful it was true!!!
I gotta get me a good booty call…
Single and Happy ROLL TIDE #1
January 11th, 2013
2:43 pm
Don’t try to clean up now leggs, the cat’s out of the bag, and it’s out in the ally sing loud (LOL)
kimmie
January 11th, 2013
2:46 pm
disco – We have some Lil Smokies left over from when I made pigs-in-the-blanket for NYE!
kimmie
January 11th, 2013
2:47 pm
Leggs – Hey, I’m on here preaching TAKE A CHANCE today, so stranger things have happened.
I was thinking “hey, she got over her flu I guess”! LOL!!
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 11th, 2013
2:50 pm
He’s willing so ‘m going to have a wild night of sex tomorrow evening.
Bomp-chicka-wahh-wahh…that’s what I’m “tawkin” ’bout Leggs
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maybe go home and put a dog collar on your hubs and make him eat out of a bowl on the floor.
Hmmmm…I wonder if Mr. Bermuda….
disco
January 11th, 2013
2:52 pm
s/h – I’m’a need an advance on my relocation expenses. you can send the money western union care of jane doe. password disco. lol.
kimmie – child I do believe you getting ideas for real. aww sookie sookie now.
leggs – I don’t think a little cold will stop many fellas from getting in there. lol.
Leggs
January 11th, 2013
2:52 pm
You guys are crazy.
kimmie ~ no doubt stranger things can happen, but that’s not my speed (you know that…lol). Still sick, just not as bad. Whew, I’m laughing, so that’s a good thing.
Single, cat still muffled in bag (lol). Bluz wanted a shakeup, thought lots of comical posts would come.
DuShawn
January 11th, 2013
2:54 pm
@disco – do you ever get caught up in being the “new you” and then get hemmed up by wifey being the “old her”?-……… Not really, we’re pretty much on the same page. We are still a wild pair, but now we have to pick our moments. For example, tonight is date night, We gonna hit the Mexican Spot by the house for the pre game warm up, Kill a pitcher of Margarita’s, then hit Cafe Circa for dinner and music, I’ll prolly blaze up a stick from the Cigar Bar. Then we might hit Strokers and look at some ho’s. Then go home, watch some porn and F*&ck till we pass out. In the morning, when the kids wake up, Mommie’s gonna be cooking Pancakes and Imma Washing the cars and Cleaning the Garage Just like Cliff and Claire.
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 11th, 2013
2:55 pm
I was a little surprised, but was hopeful it was true!!!
Me,too….but Leggs does have to mend n heal from her recent illness. Buuut I have heard that sex can help you feel better b/c of the release of feel good chemicals the body has(endorphins)….
Leggs
January 11th, 2013
2:55 pm
disco ~ this little cold of mine is better known as The Flu and has many in emergency rooms. No one should take a chance to meet up with a person that has a “little cold.”
Leggs
January 11th, 2013
2:57 pm
Sassy ~ makes me think of The Green Mile. My germs flying from my mouth into yours.
Leggs
January 11th, 2013
2:59 pm
I mean into his….
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 11th, 2013
2:59 pm
We have some Lil Smokies left over from when I made pigs-in-the-blanket for NYE!
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Itty bitty weenies..how cute
Into the Light
January 11th, 2013
2:59 pm
Dang…. collars and leashes and treats….oh my!
Single and Happy ROLL TIDE #1
January 11th, 2013
3:00 pm
Disco, I use moneygram, it’s cheaper
go check at your nearest office 
Dang leggs, you know us too well (LOL)
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 11th, 2013
3:01 pm
Leggs that was a hell-uva funny analogy!
However, per our blog topic the other day…umm y’all ain’t gotta kiss..ijs
DuShawn
January 11th, 2013
3:02 pm
Leggs – I read that semen is good for a sore throat. If need be, I could stop by and bring you that medicine. Just let me know, I’m here to help.
Bluzgirl
January 11th, 2013
3:02 pm
I gotta confess that I’ve been wanting to hit up Mags for booty, but he’s been sick for about a week and a half. Don’t know what he’s got, but I don’t want it!!! Hoping he feels better this weekend and is game, but not counting on it…he’s not reliable booty…
Single and Happy ROLL TIDE #1
January 11th, 2013
3:02 pm
Hey Du, I’ve seen that version of Cliff and Claire, “not the Huxtables) Lmao
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 11th, 2013
3:05 pm
That was some out of pocket bullsh.it…
Chitty Pants
January 11th, 2013
3:07 pm
Let’s see, I have a great job, own my own home, on cruise control till retirement. I wouldn’t relocate even if God came down from heaven and said this is the one, I just cannot fathom the thought of having to start over,and find another good job like I have now. That’s a BIG hell naw!
Into the Light
January 11th, 2013
3:07 pm
FOUL! FOUL! FOUL! Unnecessary Gross-ness. 20 minute penalty.
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 11th, 2013
3:09 pm
20 minute penalty.
cosign…might even need to be 30 for that infraction…
sidenote: It’s raining…mi wan go home
Leggs
January 11th, 2013
3:10 pm
Dang leggs, you know us too well (LOL) – And I see you guys don’t know me (lol). Well, Bluz was surprised, SassyMe was hopeful, and kimmie read it 2x with head cocked to the side wondering if the post was true (rofl).
DuShawn
January 11th, 2013
3:12 pm
“Unnecessary Gross-ness. 20 minute penalty”……Are you referring to the semen comment? What?….
it’s gross to see the words typed, but its cool when yall actually do it..Go figure. Let me guess the next response…..none of the blog ladies swallow……yeah right.
Into the Light
January 11th, 2013
3:12 pm
OAN, I do have a question for the blog……
Two nights in a row – TWO – I have gotten a call from the ex’s phone. I had him on the reject list, so it doesn’t ring on my end, and doesn’t allow him to leave a message. Soooooo,
(yesterday call at lunch)
Me: Hey, did you call me last night?
Him: No ma’am.
Me: Ummmm, okay then. Have a good one.
Him: You, too, baby.
Me: (hangs up phone and starts muttering): Baby???? Baby??? Who The Hello he think he callin’ baby?!?!?!?!?!??
(today – call and he answers)
Me: Hey, did you call me last night?
Him: No ma’am.
Me: Ummmm, okay then. But someone is calling me from your number
Him: I don’t know what to say. My phone hasn’t been away from me…..
What in the world!?!?!??!
Single and Happy ROLL TIDE #1
January 11th, 2013
3:13 pm
Leggs we just trying to keep hope alive (LOL)
Into the Light
January 11th, 2013
3:14 pm
@Leggs: I did a herky and a toe touch and hollered, “YAY LEGGS!!!!” (Well, I did on the inside anyway)
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 11th, 2013
3:15 pm
ITL he’s trying to be subtle and coy but doesn’t really know how to go about it. He wants your attention that’s all…
Into the Light
January 11th, 2013
3:17 pm
@Sassy: I think you might be right, because he said “My phone is in my pocket….it must be dialing you on accident. But hey…I know you’re probably busy tonight and tomorrow, but can I call you Sunday?”
Single and Happy ROLL TIDE #1
January 11th, 2013
3:17 pm
ITL Booty Call I mean butt dial
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 11th, 2013
3:17 pm
geeze…where is all this smoke and wind coming from?..it’s starting to blow up my azz and it’s kinda irritating…lemme investigate.