Defend her honor!
I completely missed all the brouhaha surrounding NBA basketball players Carmelo Anthony and Kevin Garnett. Apparently Garnett lost his cool and made the ultimate low blow by making a disparaging remark about Anthony’s wife (side bar: honey nut cherrios? Seriously stop referring to women as food guys).
As any man would do, Anthony got angry and then confronted Garnett. It made me think about the many times I’ve been with a guy who sat by while I was being disrespected. Obviously I am not a wife, but when you are with a woman, is it wrong to expect the man to defend her?
What would you do if you found yourself faced with a situation that required you to speak up on behalf of your date? Would you do it without hesitation? Would it bother you if someone defended your honor?
I remember once I was on a date and this rude drunk kid said something insulting to my guy. Before I knew it, I was up in that kid’s face fully prepared for a smack down. I know, classy, right?! Anyway – my guy was NOT happy at all that I didn’t let him handle it himself. I practically broke a fabulous shoe and this ungrateful dude did not even give me credit for having his back!
Needless to say, I am way more careful how I defend a dude’s honor. I let him go first and I have his back ..at a safe distance. What do you think? Is it best to let men defend themselves?
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lee
January 10th, 2013
7:17 am
Diva you made your guy look like a wimp. I have had a guy defend me, it never made me mad. smh
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
7:46 am
Hey all
First of all, my honor doesn’t need defending by know on because I could give a rats a$$ what someone else has to say about me, especially a stranger.
I’ will defend any friends honor when it’s just words, now for me to defend someones honor up to the point of fighting, I don’t think so.
Exiled
January 10th, 2013
8:43 am
Wife, yes, you get in the middle and defend….Anthony did the right thing. Garnett is a punk azz!
A Date thats new new???….ummmm…dependes. It would be interesting to hear what dude is saying,trivial stuff or major beef about her shady prior deals…..with a new date u have to tread carefullly coz that may be a teacheable moment as far as knowing her real self is concerned.
You dont want to have a black eye over a scamming,gold digging ,men changing and swapping, derty down low low heiffer…and this info was unbeknown to you, prior
So chill and listen to get the sense of where this is going…
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 10th, 2013
8:52 am
Morning,
Trying to defend a guy before allowing time to do it himself, would seem as if you’re emasculating him. It definitely will not help his case because it’ll appear as if he is incapable of doing it himself. Where dey do dat at?
The only time a boyfriend or whatever had to ‘defend me’ was a situation where a drunk guy in the club go too aggressive with me. He started off trying to talk to me, while my bf at the time was right next to me. (which was nothing uncommon when I was going out) Anyhoo, after I let dude know that it was going to go down like that, he started trying to grab my arm and pull me to him. That right there was violation and the bf stepped in to take over.
Celisea
January 10th, 2013
9:14 am
Men can defend themselves…it’s what they do. As for me, nope NEVER been in a situation where something popped off and I needed backup.
disco
January 10th, 2013
9:15 am
good morning y’all.
ex – re garnett. I agree. and he’s ugly as all get out to boot. that’s why he’s always popping off at the mouth. it’s not like he’s worried about anyone messing up his pretty face. lol.
do I expect a man to defend my honor? no, not really. I got this. if we are out together and something pops off I would hope that he got involved but even if he didn’t I’m going to go for mine. he needs to try to at least do crowd control or something though. lol.
Roberto
January 10th, 2013
9:17 am
I’ve spent the better part of my life trying to avoid conflict. The last time I hit another person was when I was in the 2nd grade. Even confrontations with drunk people can be handled with class, not anger or fists.
An adult woman who was “up in that kid’s face fully prepared for a smack down” still has a LOT of growing up to do.
czBrat ♀
January 10th, 2013
9:23 am
morning,all. and HAPPY NEW YEAR!!
i don’t think my “honor” has ever been questioned or affronted. having said that, i was annoyed with s/o for not saying something to the drunken lout sitting behind us at the prince concert a few months ago. dude kept SCREAMING and jumping around with a beer cup in his hand. it would occasionally spill and barely miss me (stadium seating). s/o just kept rolling his eyes and i kept saying “uh-uh. this ain’t working for me!” finally, i chose to turn around and ask the guy if he could stop screaming in my ear and be careful with the drink. he apologized and cooled off a bit.
anyway … there’s my adventure. as for defending my man, absolutely! especially if the disrespect is coming from a woman, cuz you know a guy is gonna try to be gentlemanly about it.
i have no such constraints.
Exiled
January 10th, 2013
9:25 am
@Disco…actually i think somebody needs to smack his hammer head and long face,maybe that will re-configure his head for the better .
to think thetre is a womans out there that says,”I luv you Kevin”
…grrrrrrrrrrrr……
. i need a mouth wash.
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
9:25 am
right Roberto
Lets look at the example diva gives, something that happened on a BB court during a game, and to GROWN men want to fight over some words!!
A drunk kid says something to a date and a GROWN woman wants to fight him.
Nothing physical between either of them. Defending someones honor means only words have been said. When it escalates to something physical then its beyond defending honor.
MissMoni
January 10th, 2013
9:28 am
GOOD Thursday Morning MIA!!!
I agree that a lady should allow her man to defend himself as to not suggest that he isn’t capable of doing so. I like to feel protected and I want my man to have my back. When something is going down, that is not the time to be standing on the sidelines twiddling your fingers. Now, I’m a happy go lucky type, so it’s rare that something goes down to that magnitude. However, in the rare instance that it does, he should be right there beside me to correct any misunderstanding if need be.
Bluzgirl
January 10th, 2013
9:30 am
I think you should have each other’s backs, but no need to get violent with anyone. I should have known that the Ex and I wouldn’t last when I found out one of his closest friends said a lot of mean things about me and he didn’t defend me (claims he did talk to her about it, just not around me). After a blow up between me and her, he and I were out shopping…she called him and proceeded to talk about me and he never said he was in the car with me and tried to be discreet. I said very loudly that I will not accept being talked about right in front of me. Anyway…I was so upset that a) he answered the phone and b) he didn’t say a word about being with me and allowed her to go on and on. It was a good thing she lived in Valdosta…if she was local, I may have shown up to defend myself…
disco
January 10th, 2013
9:34 am
S/H – s’up buddy? I lump it all in the same category. defending with words or defending with fists. just let me know you are on my team. as for honor, I’m not even checking for honor. I’m talking GP here.
speaking of fists. how come my niece beat up a little boy on the school bus yesterday. she went over the seat on his behind and had him hemmed up against the window. lol.
MissMoni
January 10th, 2013
9:35 am
Bluzgirl- In the past I went through a very similiar situation, almost exact. However, I talked to my ex about his “bff” attempting to run my name in the ground and I also had a talk with her. I addressed to her how I felt and that I would not tolerate being disrespected by her or anyone else. It really says something about the person you’re dating when they just listen to someone talk negatively about you, as if you are some stranger on the street. That is a major pet peeve and as I said before, I don’t tolerate that!
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 10th, 2013
9:36 am
Random: I just ran across a person with the last name of Cumbass…It’s a good thing his first name wasn’t Richard
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 10th, 2013
9:39 am
Morning all,
The problem with this whole thing is that even before she was Mrs. Anthony, the woman in question was said to be pretty popular around NBA locker rooms….. From what I have heard, she has always been a fan of the game and the players were always fans of hers……
I guess the moral of the story is, Make sure the woman you choose to wife has not made the rounds in the circle that you travel. Now before I get my head blown off, I know everyone has a past and of course no one should be judged for it, but sometimes , just sometimes, there is some truth to the stories…….
Celisea
January 10th, 2013
9:40 am
And really, who goes around beating up folks for saying bad things about them? No one person can control what another does or says. It’s called freedom of speech in the free country where we reside. How about an “I could care less what you say about me” stance? IMO, it’s even an higher road to let folks talk….of course IMO
Like my mama instilled in me “sticks and stones baby, sticks and stones”
Bluzgirl
January 10th, 2013
9:43 am
MissMoni – It really is a shame how an S/O can be that way. After all of that, I had major issues with her and they started to talk less and less. Of course, right after the break up, they were back to being BFF’s and she tried trash talking me on Facebook when a friend of mine stepped up to stop it. She is a terrible person and it says a lot about him to be such close friends with her…
Anyway…I gotta stop talking about it…getting me riled up and I’m already in a bad mood this morning! LOL
Bluzgirl
January 10th, 2013
9:44 am
Slim – That’s hilarious!!!! I know someone who’s last name is Forsack and for some reason, I giggle every time I see or hear it!
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
9:44 am
Hey disco, doing okay, how you? I’m not a violent person, so it takes a lot take me over the edge. as children saying something about yo mama was fighting words, but as grown people I would hope we had grown up also. if all it takes is words to make us get violent, then why are we surprised every time someone does something crazy?
Take czbrat example that wouldn’t be defending honor, that would be as simple as asking the guy to keep it down so we can enjoy the concert also, if that didn’t work then get security, that’s there job, but nothing to start a fight about.
if it was me and Garnett, a simple man fu@k you would been my reply, but wanting to fight, going out to the bus after the game, seriously!
MissMoni
January 10th, 2013
9:45 am
Bluzgirl- Ok, definitely don’t want you to be in a bad mood, just know that I so feel you on this one! Perk up it’s Friday Eve!!!
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 10th, 2013
9:46 am
Bluz
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
9:47 am
Courtside, whether its truth the the stories or not, act like grown men!!
disco
January 10th, 2013
9:47 am
C – why did I just picture pee wee herman with that “i know you are but what am i”. lol.
personally I know I’m a piece of work and lean toward the confrontational side. I think I told y’all I’m pretty sure my neighbors are about ready to vote me off the block. I don’t necessarily need a man that’s as confrontational as I am, I just can’t tolerate a man that’s always trying to get me to let things go. talking about it’s not that important and always trying to calm me down. dude please. you knew I was wide open when you met me. lol.
Bluzgirl
January 10th, 2013
9:49 am
I’m just in a mood because my mouth still hurts from my dentist appointment on Tuesday. I thought it would be better today…Ergh! Oh well…you’re right…it’s Friday Eve!!!!!
czBrat ♀
January 10th, 2013
9:50 am
ooooh. moni reminded me of the infamous “meet my bff” experience. s/o so-called bff treated me like sh!t during a dinner party where i got to meet his friends. i had to pull him aside and ask him if i was interfering with something. he claimed he had no idea what her problem was. he says he spoke to her about it afterward and, basically, her behavior has damaged their friendship.
was a good thing she lived in Valdosta…if she was local, I may have shown up to defend myself…
i get your point, bluz, but frankly, i’d have dealt with the guilty party sitting next to me in the car.
abc
January 10th, 2013
9:50 am
Responding to a fool makes you a fool, too. Plain childishness. That it winds up in the media because a couple of pro athletes took part means nothing more than pro athletes don’t deserve the respect they seem to enjoy anyway. As to that, I say, be a more discerning audience.
So, if someone trash talks me or mine, I think the best course is just to ignore the fool. If it happens online, even less of a big deal — we don’t participate in any of that foolishness, anyway.
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
9:51 am
Disco, I can see it now dude trying to calm you down, now he’s got to fight you! (lol)
Celisea
January 10th, 2013
9:52 am
disco – lol
Why did the song “crybaby cry, wipe your weeping eyes……”, pop in my head? lololol The worst though, is a dude getting all bent out of shape over something said about him. C’moooon, can we say moist? I stay irked with moist dudes.
2CPTG
January 10th, 2013
9:52 am
Greetings, good people…..
Defend her honor? ummm, yeah, but to a certain extent;
MissMoni
January 10th, 2013
9:52 am
Ooooo czBrat, that sounds quite interesting. . . So WHAT exactly happenned when the guilty party was sitting next to you in the car???
czBrat ♀
January 10th, 2013
9:54 am
Disco, I can see it now dude trying to calm you down, now he’s got to fight you! (lol)
lmao. i see that too.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 10th, 2013
9:55 am
Single, I understand standing up for your mate, but if your mate jumps in the water, whe get made when someone points out that she is wet???? The whole point was to get his head out of the game….. Sounds like KG did that plus some!!!!
disco
January 10th, 2013
9:57 am
S/H – naw. it never came to dude having to fight me but he did have to get out of my face and leave me alone for awhile. you know I go into “you punk MF” mode. lol.
C – I remember that. wasn’t that one of the little “put your hands on your hip and let your backbone slip” games. shake it to the east, shake it to the west. funny.
2CPTG
January 10th, 2013
9:59 am
speakin of defending you rmate, wonder what if Kanye’s latest song is in defense of Kim K……he does mention that Humphries dude…..and dos tell folks to kiss his a$$……
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
9:59 am
Court, why does the other person feel the need to point out she’s wet, are we blind? A better response by Anthony would have been, man fu@k you, then shoot the lights out!! but instead 2 GROWN men want to fight over some words.
abc
January 10th, 2013
10:00 am
That’s an example of a fool defending a fool.
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
10:01 am
yea disco, either run or fight, (why am I so turned on right now) lmao
czBrat ♀
January 10th, 2013
10:02 am
moni, in my case i chose to talk to s/o about it first because he was the one trying to claim me in front of his friends. so if something’s amiss here, what YOU gonna do about it??? that’s when he said he had no idea why she was being such a b!tch. i accepted that explanation and decided to watch and learn.
took about a year to get to the truth that the two of them had … um … “considered” being a couple at some point in the friendship. she was obviously being pissy because she wasn’t happy about him dating; and he obviously knew that was the reason for her nasty attitude all along.
as far as i know, they’ve not spoken in about two years.
Celisea
January 10th, 2013
10:02 am
disco – Yep….lololol
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 10th, 2013
10:02 am
Speaking of Kanye…How is he gonna be mad when everybody in the world can check out his girls’ Porn Star Skills on youporn.com for free????
disco
January 10th, 2013
10:03 am
2 – imo, kanye has punk written all over him. he is one that definitely needs to continue having “word fights”. he looks like he’d get mopped up.
S/H – I know everyone is all mature and take the high road and what not but there is something to be said about humbling somebody with a solid blow to the mouth. take that.
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
10:05 am
yea disco there is, it’s called assault (LOL)
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 10th, 2013
10:10 am
The topic makes me think of a song:
Chick: Would ya k!ll for me?
Dude: Yeah if my lifes in danger too
Chick: Would ya steal for me?
Dude: Yeah if that sh!t belongs to you
Chick: Even feel for me?
Dude: Yeah if the way you act is true
DreamsMaterialize
January 10th, 2013
10:12 am
Hey everyone. Happy New Year.
There’s always a balance to defending honor. What is the situation, and what are the possible consequences? Also, what is it worth to the woman I’m with? If I defend her honor and get shot in the process, was it worth it? Is it worth it for me to get jumped on by ten guys? Cemeteraries are filled with “brave” people. Sometimes you just have to let it ride.
2CPTG
January 10th, 2013
10:13 am
yeah, it would be kinda hard to defend ya girl, when what they’re saying is the truth…..what can he possibly say to Ray J? “bet you didn’t hit it like this?”
Exiled
January 10th, 2013
10:13 am
Courtside Seats…i dont think its cool for grown men to laugh about someone’s ho their face.
I understand what you mean about the wife being an ex ho in the lockerooms..but guys will say stuff on the side,not to his face….
In any case, when i used to play sport,that stuff wld remain on the field,not come out to the outside..these younger players are so punkish…..
IF Anthony said anything demeaning bout Garnett;s square head, i can see how Garnett got him back by talking bout the ho wife….tit for tat…..low blow..but fair in war if u start the war….not a fair fight tho when u start talking bout wives and kids…grown men shldnt do that…
but these are boys….so
but leave that on the court.
czBrat ♀
January 10th, 2013
10:14 am
disco, imma be real honest with you right now. it irks me at times that as “mature adults” we rarely come across opportunities to just crack a bottle over somebody’s head. *sigh*
MissMoni
January 10th, 2013
10:15 am
-disco A solid blow to the mouth will definitely cause a person to think twice, LOL!
-czBrat Glad that worked out for you. I did the talk to both as well & that was just a forewarning of what was to come. Let’s just say that while my ex & I were dating he said there was absolutely NOTHING going on with the mother of his 11 year old son, they just had a good friendship. How about after we broke up, he proposed to her & they got married. It was a 2 year time frame between our breakup & their marriage, but still something had to be going on. Like seriously, it took you 11 years to figure out you wanted to marry her?
Lesson Learned: Don’t ignore the warning signs of s/o being really “good friends” with certain females giving off clues that they’re interested. . .
Exiled
January 10th, 2013
10:15 am
As for Kanye…..he is brave….
All i can say…your girl has been smashed on camera by another dude and u ..ummmm..
disco
January 10th, 2013
10:16 am
S/H – I’m just saying, sometimes assault is called for. case in point, I’ve mentioned a friend having issues with her adult children at home. last night they had a situation. grown son got a little fly, popped off at the mouth, threw something at his mom and hit her and then went to shove her down. her reaction was to call the police on him. I told her my reaction would have had him trying to get to a phone to call the police on me. I would have gone Bernie mac and hit that boy in the head with a hammer.
Exiled
January 10th, 2013
10:17 am
Hey 2C..whats up man?
MissMoni
January 10th, 2013
10:18 am
As for Kanye and Kim, they both LOVE attention and that’s exactly what they are getting. So, they achieved their goal.
2CPTG
January 10th, 2013
10:18 am
and it also depends on the setting in which you call yourself playing superhero; if you’re in a crowded environment and security is all over the place, you can come off like a beast….but let it be somewhere where the lights are dim, and you’re surround by thugs, then what you gon’ do?
Bluzgirl
January 10th, 2013
10:18 am
Brat – he definitely had to deal with me too…I was not a happy camper…
2CPTG
January 10th, 2013
10:19 am
Exiled, what’s up kinfolk……
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
10:19 am
Good morning, horrible night!
I think a guy should defend his date’s honor, his girl’s honor, his wife’s honor. Point blank, period. For a man to sit by while the woman he’s out on a date with is being disrespected is bothersome. Many fools walk among us and sometimes it’s best to just leave the premises and walk away. I don’t think men would take kindly to his woman jumping up defending him. It might make him feel like a punk/wuss.
Jeff
January 10th, 2013
10:20 am
I’m all for standing up for your partner, but if it’s a routine issue, maybe you should change your behavior and not constantly be in the middle of drama.
MissMoni
January 10th, 2013
10:21 am
Leggs- You hit the nail on the head, exactly my point!
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
10:23 am
Disco, your example is self defense, not assault, big difference.
2CPTG
January 10th, 2013
10:24 am
ladies, y’all like/want to feel protected, so if a dude stands up for you, tell me that ain’t an added plus???? and don’t let me take a punch on your behalf…….oh, we hunchin’ after that!
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 10th, 2013
10:28 am
“don’t let me take a punch on your behalf…….oh, we hunchin’ after that!”
LOL…. If dude gets hit with a BOLO punch, His lady better appreciate it enough to pull something special out of the freak bag to show her appreciation!
:):)
MissMoni
January 10th, 2013
10:30 am
2CPTG- LOL at the hunchin’ comment, haven’t heard that term in a minute. To answer your question, that is an added plus, it says something about his character. However, an added plus in MY book does not equate to pre-marital sex.
disco
January 10th, 2013
10:30 am
S/H – had she assaulted him in the beginning it would never have become a matter of self defense. lol. still, at the end of the day whether you start it or finish it, blows are blows. you’re either swinging or you ain’t.
growing up I think my mother, like mothers everywhere I assume, always told us it was okay to hit someone back if they hit us first. turns out that every single fight I was ever in I passed the first lick. I didn’t start the issue but I always started the fight. funny thing, I never got suspended from school for fighting. I think it’s mostly because I was small, quiet, a good student and I was always fighting the louder, more rowdy girls who were always in trouble. I don’t know but I never even got detention.
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
10:30 am
Depends on how you take that punch, aint that right Disco?
disco
January 10th, 2013
10:32 am
2 / courtside – I’ll go along with that. you my man and you knock a ninja out for me. it’s on and popping later on that night (or after i bail you out).
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
10:32 am
Disco starting a fight
On taking a punch she aint hunching if ” you got knocked the fu@k out” LOL
Exiled
January 10th, 2013
10:33 am
oh, we hunchin’ after that!
and some women are just quarrelsome,period…..u dont want to take a blow coz of that one….they quarrel with guys,they quarrel with other chics..just embarrasing….
better to stay away from them rather than having to choose who to back…..
disco
January 10th, 2013
10:33 am
S/H – you see I put my own spin on it. I don’t want the fool that got knocked out. I might have to break up with him and holler at the other dude. lol.
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
10:33 am
disco he did say land the punch, he said take the punch! another big difference. ( you still turning me on) lmao
czBrat ♀
January 10th, 2013
10:36 am
and don’t let me take a punch on your behalf…….oh, we hunchin’ after that!
omg! you take a punch on MY behalf? papa, we don’t have to wait for “after”. just make it to the car!
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
10:36 am
Disco, break up and get with Dae Dae, yea I can see that happening (LOL)
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
10:36 am
czB ~ I remember you telling of the story with him and the sour faced girl at the gathering where you met his friends. For a woman to “diss” the woman of someone she “thought” about dating but never did is immature on many levels. All I can say is she was mighty thankful you didn’t have to pull her to the side.
If you get with a woman that’s “been around,” you should probably expect some talk from outsiders. Your real friends may make a comment, realize it’s your choice and leave it alone. Haters will always talk.
I’m not a hater, but Kanye and Kim looks absolutely ridikulos to me and the fact that they are going to pimp their baby is quite sad.
Hey there, 2CPTG/DreamsM!
Exiled
January 10th, 2013
10:36 am
does not equate to pre-marital sex.
@MissMoni
dont spoil the fun,its too early in the mrning
pre-marital sex?
we are in 2013 lady!!
pre-marital sex is now more common than polio and a lot of other germs..actually more common than the common flu
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
10:38 am
Cz dude TAKES the punch but cry’s like a baby, you still huching? dude TAKES a punch and acts like he needs life flight, you still hunching?
Into the Light
January 10th, 2013
10:40 am
Morning, all!
Heeeeeeey, Dreams and cz! Long time, no see.
On the “defending honor”, yes, had it happen several times. Not anything physical, just the man I was with letting the offending party know that he’d appreciate it if he would cease and desist.
DANG! cease and desist. I sound like the po po. LOLOLOLOL
MissMoni
January 10th, 2013
10:40 am
Exiled- Good morning to you & I don’t have a problem going AGAINST what is deemed normal in 2013! Just because something is common doesn’t mean that you have to go along with it. We all have choices.
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
10:41 am
disco ~ just saw your comment at the top of the page. I have to agree with you. I immediately pictured Mama beating my oldest brother with a broom stick for him raising his hand to hit her. I am my mother’s child and homey don’t play that. You’re right, you’ll be calling the cops on me.
and don’t let me take a punch on your behalf…….oh, we hunchin’ after that!
omg! you take a punch on MY behalf? papa, we don’t have to wait for “after”. just make it to the car! – Yes ma’am!
MissMoni
January 10th, 2013
10:42 am
Not at all knocking anybody that chooses to do things differently, just know that doesn’t work for me.
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
10:43 am
Dang I’m so glad I have my own life, people know to much information about all these other peoples lives (LOL)
Into the Light
January 10th, 2013
10:43 am
Completely O/T: Why is “Gett Off” by Prince stuck in my head????
let a woman be a woman and a man be a man……get off
2CPTG
January 10th, 2013
10:44 am
hey Leggs!!!!! you got over that flu bug yet?
DreamsMaterialize
January 10th, 2013
10:45 am
but let it be somewhere where the lights are dim, and you’re surround by thugs, then what you gon’ do?
2CPTG That was my point too. Long time bruh. What’s good with you?
Exiled
January 10th, 2013
10:46 am
just kidding MissMoni…I aint gon promote debauchery myself……..
Into the Light
January 10th, 2013
10:46 am
If dude gets hit with a BOLO punch, His lady better appreciate it enough to pull something special out of the freak bag to show her appreciation!
Like a trip to Home Depot to pick up Appreciation Supplies…..
DreamsMaterialize
January 10th, 2013
10:47 am
Hey Leggs, how’s it going?
What’s up, ITL. How have you been?
DuShawn
January 10th, 2013
10:47 am
More often than not, when a dude is disrespectful to a female it is in direct response to public rejection and perceived humiliation. Women could avoid a lot of these conflicts by dismissing pursuers honorably. Let them leave with their pride at least. I have heard several conversations that begin with “Excuse me Miss” and end with “Well F&*ck you then B*^tch!” When you have a fine lady, other dudes (and women) are gonna try to pull her, it comes with the territory. It’s really up to her to squash their advances. If she has to involve you, the line has already been crossed. Even then, I will explain to the offender how his behavior was disrespectful and ask him to apologize so we can keep it moving. How we proceed from that point is contingent upon his response. Personally, I’m at the stage in life where I don’t get angry over foolishness. I will apologize to a coward if it means me getting home to my kids without incident. Most grown men realize that they are not the only gorilla in the jungle and they treat each other with mutual respect. They have learned long ago the possible ramifications of disrespecting strangers.
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
10:48 am
Dreams, 2C you know everyone is all bad when they got back up (LOL)
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 10th, 2013
10:49 am
Would it bother you if someone defended your honor?
No it wouldn’t as it’s happened several times in the past. Each situation was different but never escalated to physical violence.
Is it best to let men defend themselves?
Against another man yes I would let him defend himself…and actually it’s not a matter of if I’ll let defend himself…he better knuckle up and do what he has to do regardless. Now if it was a chick, I’ve done it and I’d do it again if need be. There are ways to go about it without making a scene and thankfully the times I’ve done it, it worked out like that.
Sidenote: I took a kickboxing class last night and today I feel fan-freakin-tastic!!
Into the Light
January 10th, 2013
10:49 am
Hey DM! All is well here….just living the dream one day at a time.
How’s the princess? And how are you (other than busy!)?
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 10th, 2013
10:50 am
should’ve been *let him defend himself*
2CPTG
January 10th, 2013
10:51 am
Dreams, what’s up bruh? Still hustlin, and grindin’ in thee parts….
but yeah, any “square” can come off like a gorilla in the right setting, but put him amongst other beasts, and we’ll see what he’s made of…..granted, I don’t advocate violence, but to me, if you’re disrespecting my date, then you’re disrespecting me; cause you’re acting like I’m invisible…..and we sho’ can’t have that!!!!
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
10:52 am
ITL, Home depot, what appreciation supplies they sell??
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
10:53 am
This topic makes me think of “Everyday People” by Arrested Development:
“My day was going great and my soul was at ease
until a group of brothers started bugging out
drinking the 40 oz, going the nigga route
Disrespecting my black queen
holding their crotches and being obscene
At first I ignored them cause see I know their type
They got drunk and got guns and they wanna fight
and they see a young couple having a time that’s good
and their egos wanna test a brother’s manhood….”
Into the Light
January 10th, 2013
10:57 am
@Stamps: You know…..all kinds of little gadgets and gizmos and chain and fun stuff…..
MissMoni
January 10th, 2013
10:59 am
Leggs- That’s a classic example!
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
10:59 am
2C ~ not yet (unfortunately). Fever broke, having convos with the porcelain throne have ceased, but racking cough and congestion still lingers. I’m on the upswing (lol). Kind of you ask.
2C ~ your post at 10:51 is on point. Exactly, he’s disrespecting your date, and flicking you off too! Some jaws may be cracked. Act like a gorilla in an arena of mice, or act like a twit in an arena of hard bodied bouncers. Stand your ground no matter the size of your opponent. Remember, David wasn’t afraid of Goliath. Well he was, but even back then, never let them see you sweat (lol). I’m visualizing David hiding me a huge bolder wiping sweat trying to reload his slingshot. Ok, medicine still making me loopy.
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
11:01 am
ITL , which isle is that on? I like to get my chains from starship
or extreme restraints (lmao)
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 10th, 2013
11:01 am
“I might have to break up with him and holler at the other dude. lol.”
Damn….talking about having a bad day…… You paid for a high dollar dinner, then got knocked out by Peanut cause he said something sidways to Chica, and to top if off, she saw that your hand game was suspect and she ran off with with him…….
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
11:03 am
Not hiding “me,” hiding “behind” a huge bolder…
Celisea
January 10th, 2013
11:06 am
Remember, David wasn’t afraid of Goliath. Well he was,
Actually he wasn’t, it was the rest of Israel that was. God sent him there to show that “this is how you do the dang thing” Actually he was more irked than anything cause Goliath had the audacity to go there.
Exiled
January 10th, 2013
11:06 am
Courtside..thats common in Disco’s hood..
@she saw that your hand game was suspect and she ran off with with him…….
disco
January 10th, 2013
11:06 am
courtside/fellas – how would that work in reverse? you watch your girl get beat down (by another woman of course). how does that make you feel? I remember once back in the day this guy pumped his current girlfriend up to fight his ex. he drove the new chick to the ex’s house to fight. ex came outside and laid the smackdown on the girl in front of all the nosey project people (me included). after the fight dude picked his bruised, battered, embarrassed girlfriend up and put her back in the car. folks were straight clowning.
Into the Light
January 10th, 2013
11:07 am
Stamps, there is a fine line between pleasure and pain…..I like to tiptoe right up to it and teeter. LOLOL
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
11:11 am
Celisea ~ as soon as I typed that, I felt a correction coming on from you (lolol). Thanks, not afraid, “irked” was more like it.
Into the Light
January 10th, 2013
11:11 am
And on that note, I will excuse myself before I do any more damage.
See y’all after lunch…..
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
11:13 am
disco ~ both of them deserved each other. I wish a so-called man would pump me up AND escort me to his ex’s place to fight. Not going to ever happen!
Exiled
January 10th, 2013
11:15 am
Not going to ever happen!…
u scared Leggs?
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 10th, 2013
11:15 am
Disco, I hope to never be in that situation…. I just do not see how anything good can come from it….. if my girl loses teh fight then teh night / date is ruined because her head all swollen like Martin when he got hit by Tommy Hearns; If the folks show up, then I gotta come across with a couple hundred dollars for bail…Hell, even if she scores a quick knockout, the mood is gonna be shot and there will be no romance after that…..
Exiled
January 10th, 2013
11:16 am
@Disco..if my talkative,loud mouthed girl loses a fight when i was remonstrating with her to stop it..
she deserves the beat down.
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 10th, 2013
11:17 am
he drove the new chick to the ex’s house to fight.
The new chick is stupid to even go over there..let alone fight. And what kind of punk a$$ dude drives one woman to another woman’s house for a fight anyway?…does his ex mean that much to him still? That’s the question the new gf should’ve asked him before they even got in the car. All of that was childish…IMO.
czBrat ♀
January 10th, 2013
11:18 am
c’mon now, single. y’all know how i feel about tears.
leggs, she and i eventually had our heart-to-heart too. bottom line: you didn’t make something happen before i came along. door is wide open anytime he wants to walk, but he’s made his choice. where’s the riddle? this is not complicated! he’s told you twice; i’ve told you once. next time you will be deeply embarrassed.
hey, light!
Celisea
January 10th, 2013
11:19 am
All of that was childish…IMO.
cosign….
Leggs, I was actually skimming cause I’d popped off of here and saw that. lolol
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
11:20 am
Ex ~ YEP! All the fights I’ve been in I was scared. However, never scared enough to runaway from the fight (well only once, but I still fought). The way we fought, it’s best to be scared. Razors under the tongue, in the hair, lots of biting and pulling off bras, etc. Yeah, man, I was scared.
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
11:24 am
No cz I don’t know how you feel about tears, but I’m willing to bet they don’t make you wet (LOL)
On another note (having to agree with someone else) if you’re with someone that has to confront every situation, or always somewhere that is is neccesary maybe it’s time to rethink YOUR life and YOUR choice in relationships. I cant remember the last time I even felt the need to confront someone.
disco
January 10th, 2013
11:30 am
sassy – I don’t deny that it was childish. this was 20+ years ago. all involved were late teens, early 20s. personally, I went to two different chicks houses to fight them. three really but the third one wouldn’t come outside. lol.
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
11:32 am
Courtside ~ that scene of Martin’s face should go down as one of the best laughs in sitcom history. I was beside myself with laughter.
czB ~ exactly, where’s the riddle. Amazing how people don’t want someone until they get with someone else and now you think you want him wondering if you still have a chance, walking around plotting with a pissy attitude. There’s a reason “cold cocked” exists.
czBrat ♀
January 10th, 2013
11:33 am
death, single. death is the only allowance i make for male tears.
…but the third one wouldn’t come outside.
bwahahahaha!!!
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
11:36 am
disco your story reminded me of a situation that happened to me.
I was having dinner with my ex and our kids at her place, we had finished dinner. She got a call, and few minutes after getting off, she suggested we go get some ice cream. we ended up staying out about an hour and a half, I thought nothing of it. Later on she told me that it was her ex on the phone and he was coming over to get something and insisted he was coming right then, so to avoid a confrontation she opted to leave it outside for him and not be there when he came.
Exiled
January 10th, 2013
11:38 am
so Disco…u think u need rehab?
LOL
u popping off as a teen..and now ur neighors cant stand u…
whats up with that…..?
dont u think u need peace….and a man?
u deseve a man,right? 
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 10th, 2013
11:40 am
all involved were late teens, early 20s.
Oh okay that makes sense. If that’s the case then I’m guilty as well b/c on graduation day my cousin got in a fight with this girl and the chick ran(drove really) to her aunt’s house and we followed(about two car loads) and went INSIDE the house after her…the young lady got beat down some more but sadly her mom and aunt were collateral damage ’cause they got some,too. I know, I know….I was 18..don’t judge me..
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
11:40 am
Dang CZ, what about pain
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
11:42 am
Damn sassy, I guess you guys picked the right house, cause had it been mine, shoot first, ask questions later (LOL)
czBrat ♀
January 10th, 2013
11:43 am
people don’t want someone until they get with someone else and now you think you want him wondering if you still have a chance
i say work that sh!t out on someone else’s time. it’s like rebounding too quickly after a breakup. why you gonna expose somebody else to your inner mess? clean it up! smh.
anywho.
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
11:43 am
disco, why do your neighbors hate you?
czBrat ♀
January 10th, 2013
11:48 am
what about pain
what’s that?
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
11:49 am
CZ, was all the blame on her, or was some of it on him. Why would anyone take there new S/O around someone that they know they had a thing with and still have feelings for them?
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 10th, 2013
11:49 am
CZ Brat, So the only time you can accept a dude crying is when someone dies???? Damn!!! What about that scene in “The Vow” when dude realizes that she is never gonna remember him, and he decides to start dating her all over again???? That isht touched my heart man……. :’(
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
11:51 am
Physical pain, pain so much that morphine, is the only thing that can relieve it. Heart break is the only thing that can make cry, so I feel you, but IJS
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
11:58 am
disco’s neighbors don’t like her cuz she tells all of them what the real deal is, no sugar coating, lets them watch her back as she’s walking away with them still in mid sentence, looking out her peephole when they knock on her door and never open it to them. Doesn’t care to mingle when they have their neighborhood greets at each other homes, will only wave at them with that crooked smile of hers (lol).
czBrat ♀
January 10th, 2013
12:02 pm
all the blame on her? not at all. i’m just feeling leggs’ comment because there is much truth to it. as i said, door was wide open for dude to walk if he was having second thoughts about what could have been. and we did have the convo about not bringing someone new into unresolved sh!t.
not much i can do if he swears he had ZERO interest and thought she was over it too. like i said, watch and learn. he has proven right by me, but there are reasons i’m so slow to accept the rings.
i’m a brat. not a sap.
cs, we watched “the vow” together. i had to fight to keep my lunch down.
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
12:03 pm
The real deal, (LOL) sounds more like the crazy cat lady in the neighborhood (LMAO)
abc
January 10th, 2013
12:03 pm
I think there’s a bit of posturing going on with some of these comments. Either you’ve never been in such a position as to have to decide whether to take action or not, or you’re a future felon, or what? Something like that.
It reminds me of a lesson I learned in my youth: I was out and had picked up some trick floozy azz ho, who then proceeds to get in a fight in the parking lot with some other chick trick. Mine is getting her head beat against a car fender when I turn to the other trick’s dude and say “Do you think we should stop them?” “Heck no,” he said. “Mine’s winning!”
Lesson learned: don’t hang out with floozy azz trick chick ho’s. If fact, just stay away from where they go. Chances are, if you encounter a scene like that yourself, you left yourself open for it by being where you shouldn’t be, doing what you know you probably shouldn’t.
czBrat ♀
January 10th, 2013
12:08 pm
and for the record, there is a part of me that suspects he just wanted to rub her nose in his new-new. maybe he thought it would be a feel good and move-on kinda thing but he ended up head over heels.
and that ain’t my fault. i’m just being me.
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
12:10 pm
Single ~ cats are afraid of disco!
I haven’t seen The Vow, but want to. Speaking of movies, I got the DVD Magic Mike as a Christmas gift. I was eager to see it cuz I like dirty dancing. WTH did Matthew McChougny (sp) do to deserve an Oscar nomination. He best not win a damn thing and I like him A LOT!!!
“…you left yourself open for it by being where you shouldn’t be, doing what you know you probably shouldn’t.” – Not at all. You left yourself open by being with a trick and a ho. Nothing but nastiness follows that…
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
12:13 pm
ABC I would have broke the fight up, then drop ole trick off, I may have slowed down long enough for her to get out. (LOL)
abc
January 10th, 2013
12:13 pm
Actually, I was young enough that I spent a LOT of time in clubs, playing and working if not being a patron. In my opinion, there’s not much there besides trick ho’s. The high value women don’t go there. Which was my take-away: to avoid people’s bad behavior, avoid the bad people; to avoid the bad people, avoid the places they frequent.
Bluzgirl
January 10th, 2013
12:14 pm
I have The Vow at home from Netflix. I was super disappointed in Magic Mike! If they’d had at least 5 more dance scenes, then it would have been ok…
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 10th, 2013
12:15 pm
I guess you guys picked the right house,
Single it didn’t matter that day b/c we had “heat”,too. Looking back at it I know full and well that some of us could’ve lost our lives righ before we graduated highschool…
Sometimes I laugh at it and when my cousins and I get together and re-tell that story we count our blessings…and laugh some more.
Jake-SPJTWB
January 10th, 2013
12:15 pm
what up folks
DuShawn
January 10th, 2013
12:16 pm
I recall an incident that happened within the last year or so when I disrespected this chick in front of her date. A potnah of mine had a birthday party for his lady. They rented a party boat on lake Allatoona. It was about 20 of us. We all had rooms at the same hotel. While on the boat, this one female was sitting next to wifey. They were talking and seemed to be hitting it off. I don’t remember how it started, but she said something slick to me and I responded slicker and it was on. I didn’t know her or who she was with. Unbeknownst to me, it was the dude driving the boat. I found out later, he lived in Chicago and was just hittin her while in town. Anyway, our slick conversation escalated to a full fledge argument/cuss out. Her Dude looking like “This girl and her dayum mouth” and my lady looking at me like “DuShawn, just walk away and leave the girl alone.” I should have, but she was shining on me. She called me a “old cotton d&*ck a$$ ninja” and the whole boat started laughing. Man….I had to go in. I remember I said “Look at your toes, you foot draggin skank! You couldn’t spell pedicure if I gave you a dictionary” Our exchanges got so brutal (but I never called her a B&*tch) the entire boat got quiet, changed the whole vibe. Ironically, later on that night at the hotel, we ran into each other and apologized. I shook hands with her dude and the four of us had a few more drinks together. She even rode back to Atlanta with me Wifey.
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
12:19 pm
“Single it didn’t matter that day b/c we had “heat”,too.” I laugh when people use that line, unless you had yours out when you walked in the door, you’ll just be dead with heat (LOL)
ABC are you saying high value women don’t go to clubs?
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 10th, 2013
12:22 pm
unless you had yours out when you walked in the door,
Umm yeah we got down like that…we weren’t about to fall up in there empty handed.
Just like Notorious B.I.G said, “Kick in the door wavin the .44″…
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
12:25 pm
Sassy, when did you get out? cause I know you went to jail (LOL)
Exiled!
January 10th, 2013
12:26 pm
It’s never a good thing either to break up a fight unless it’s someone u really care for.
I know a dude who tried that,outside the parking lot of a nite club.
One of the parties shot him.
He paid with his life!
That’s why in some respects I respect those who pack heat legally.
Knucklehead wants to fight you:?
Boom boom..puff!
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 10th, 2013
12:27 pm
No I didn’t go to jail….afterwards I went home, took a shower and graduated from high school…in the top 10% of my class at that….(LOL)
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
12:31 pm
Sassy once again, you picked the right house (LOL)
EX if she was with ABC then he should have tried to break the fight up.
Exiled!
January 10th, 2013
12:34 pm
trick hos.
to drank they trick
to talk to her,they trick
to take her outside the club they trick..’oh buy my friend a drank’
to ride her,they trick,,’can I have cab money’
trick hos
Exiled!
January 10th, 2013
12:38 pm
Single I think I agree with abc…on one thing:to break a fight the person gotta be worth it.
Any trick,just coz she’s with me? I don’t think so..
A lot of times,those argumentative types are some frinch hos you should have picked up in the first place. Now they argue and want to fight,showing their real colors.
Just leave her to get her dues.
Exiled!
January 10th, 2013
12:39 pm
shouldn’t
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 10th, 2013
12:41 pm
Single..it is what it is and that’s the way it went….LOL
disco
January 10th, 2013
12:44 pm
ex – I don’t need rehab. I just feel things need to be dealt with. granted in my youth I went straight to fight mode. as an adult I try to be reasonable and talk things out but as I’ve stated before sometimes you have to go into angry black woman mode to get results. all three of my neighbors had it coming. one was too nosey. I didn’t mind him being in everyone else’s business but he was going to stay out of mine. he was doing stuff like telling folks what time I left, when I might be back home. he was out of line. second neighbor I had issues with her not picking up after her dog. I’ve never owned a dog and I’m not about to be picking up dog poop because the dog owner won’t do it. third neighbor was on some racist stuff and I called her out on it.
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
12:45 pm
EX, he asked her out, he took her there! Ladies I guess that answers the question about defending someones honor. you get in a fight, and he just leaves, saying oh well trick hoe! Has nothing to do with worth, because regardless of how it ends, I’ll never see her again.
For me it would go, leave that mess alone and lets go, grab her and try to leave the situation, if she insists on staying there then you will be there by yourself. But I’m not going to stand around and watch her get her head beat up against a car. while asking ole boy isn’t he going to break up the fight.
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
12:47 pm
Okay Disco, all your reason are understandable, but who was your neighbor telling all your business to??
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
12:52 pm
Bluz ~ I was highly disappointed in Magic Mike too.
DuShawn ~ you definitely look bad in that situation simply because you’re the man, you’re there with your wife, playing dozens with someone you already considered beneath you. You stooped and almost got stomped on (verbally).
disco
January 10th, 2013
12:54 pm
leggs – re my neighbors looking at my back. I laughed because I cursed the male neighbor out (after many many reasonable convos that must have gone over his head) on a Sunday morning before he went to church and then I told him “now go pray on that”. lol. the chick with the dog, I threatened her and her dog. told her if she kept playing with me her little dog’s picture was going to be posted on the mailbox and if I caught her dog in my yard again it was going to be me and her. and then I turned and walked off her porch.
s/h – my neighbor is the neighborhood busybody. so not a good look on a man. he’s into any and everything that happens. he’s always watching who’s coming and going and commenting on folks’ habits and activities. I told him that it’s okay to notice things. we all notice things but it’s not okay to be running around like a little beeyotch running off at the mouth about what you notice. I was meeting a guy for dinner one night and the guy beat me to my house and had to sit outside and wait for me. my neighbor had the nerve to go up to dude’s car to tell him when he expected me home. not cool.
deep-end
January 10th, 2013
12:55 pm
Some chicks are all drama, always putting me in situations where I have to defend their honor. Act like a lady and you’ll be drama free.
abc
January 10th, 2013
12:56 pm
I did break them up after another minute or so. Chick could have been seriously injured.
Yes, SH, I’m saying that if you want to meet a woman of high value, worth your time, likely to bring something to your life that you’d appreciate, a club is absolutely the wrong place to look.
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
12:57 pm
Damn disco, was his last name Cravetts (LOL)
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
1:00 pm
Okay ABC (not getting a headache today) LOL
Deep end if women are always “putting you in these situations” maybe you need to reevaluate yourself and the type of women you date.
czBrat ♀
January 10th, 2013
1:00 pm
my neighbor had the nerve to go up to dude’s car to tell him when he expected me home.
i’m. on. the. floor!!
DuShawn
January 10th, 2013
1:05 pm
Leggs – That was not a good look. It started out jokingly and then took a turn for the worse. I don’t even argue. I don’t know how I got pull into that one. I think the people watching took it more seriously than she and I did. We laughed about it later. She ended up being pretty cool.
Into the Light
January 10th, 2013
1:09 pm
Afternoon, all!
Dang. I’m reading some of these stories like
Exiled!
January 10th, 2013
1:09 pm
Single..u say ‘let’s go’ but she keeps running her mouf at the other party..reminds of dude in the reality tv hip hop Atlanta/new York,not sure…his two tricks just running moufs and scrambling at each other.
What man got time for that nonsense?
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
1:10 pm
disco ~ I have a neighbor (male and married) who constantly watches my house. Just this week, he saw our old neighbor’s car (one who moved out of the house after 11 years) in my driveway. He rang my doorbell to ask why she never comes to visit him and his wife because this is not the first time he’s noticed her car in my driveway. WTH, I cussed his a$$ out in my raspy, horse voice telling him to never ring my bell again asking my company why this, why not that. Not the first time he’s commented on my driveway. Too many times he sees me drive on my driveway, he’s running over saying “you sure stay out a lot, I never see you or your car!” I’ve repeatedly asked him to stop minding the activity of my driveway and perhaps he should sneak home and canvass the activity of his own driveway! That shut him up.
Same neighbor I pushed down after trying to grab my breast and kiss me after borrowing a cup of sugar a few years back.
Bluzgirl
January 10th, 2013
1:13 pm
“I’m saying that if you want to meet a woman of high value, worth your time, likely to bring something to your life that you’d appreciate, a club is absolutely the wrong place to look.”
Judgemental much? What about you hanging out at the club? Does that make you low value, waste of time, bring nothing to other’s lives?
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
1:13 pm
abc ~ Single doesn’t want to get a headache and neither do I so I will say this and leave it alone. There are a lot of quality, highly valued people that go to a club. Not everyone goes to a club for a hookup. Some go simply to have a night out dancing, another form of socializing with friends.
Exiled!
January 10th, 2013
1:14 pm
true @deep..
A classy guy deserves a lady
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
1:15 pm
Ex did you read what I wrote?
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
1:15 pm
DuShawn ~ one thing I do like about you is your honesty and you have always “owned up” to whatever dastardly deed you’ve done. That’s a good look!
Into the Light
January 10th, 2013
1:18 pm
@ Du – yep. what Leggs said.
Anybody know a good accupuncturist and/or reflexologist?????
Exiled!
January 10th, 2013
1:19 pm
U read what abc said,it’s fundamentally correct never mind that me,your high value guy have been inside clubs or that some of uall ladies been there too.
But clubs ain’t high value coz there is lots of low hanging fruit most times compared to high value.
So Whatchuall having nagging headaches for?
What abc said It’s the truf!
Exiled!
January 10th, 2013
1:20 pm
Lol single..I skim u coz u always wrong
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
1:25 pm
Ex even though I may disagree with what some say I still try to read and understand before responding.
We aint even going to go into it about the headache.
time to run some errands, lata peeps.
DreamsMaterialize
January 10th, 2013
1:26 pm
Right time, right punch, and anyone (yes anyone) can get knocked out. We all saw what happened to Pacquiao. So, if a chick gets into a sticky situation because she doesn’t know when to stop running her mouth, then she’s on her own. You need to know your limits.
cba
January 10th, 2013
1:28 pm
@Leggs 1:10, please say this is a story due to the meds you are taking or bru-man has a steel plate in his head from being kicked by a mule as a child. (lol) You and disco should take pics of them and compare; might be twins
MsAtl
January 10th, 2013
1:29 pm
Afternoon All!
Just getting on, so I have no idea what happened earlier.
In certain circumstances I would expect a man to defend my honor. That said, I don’t go looking for fights and there are some situations where it is better to just leave the situation than argue.
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
1:35 pm
cba ~ true story!!
@ might be twins! My neighbor looks like a black Barney Fife and Peg Legs. Anybody remember Peg Legs???
Into the Light
January 10th, 2013
1:38 pm
Peg Legs????? Is he related to Tink Tink?????
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
1:45 pm
ITL ~ off to the corner!!!
kimmie
January 10th, 2013
1:51 pm
Afternoon Gang!
Looking rather lively in here!! I got no comment on the topic. I just trying to live a drama-free life.
As for clubs, I stopped going to them long ago. But when I did, it was just like Leggs said, to dance and hang out with a few friends. I stopped going because we all were in new places in our lives. Husbands and kids, careers, moving to other places, life just got in the way. The few times we would meet to catch up, dudes would get mad because we were not there to pick up men! I can’t tell you the last time I went to a regular dance club. I’ve been to comedy clubs or to hear music, but that’s all and were with dates, or groups or my husband. So not saying you could not meet a nice person at a club, but it has to be in the right circumstances.
Into the Light
January 10th, 2013
1:53 pm
Sorry…..
(ITL now in corner, nose in the circle Leggs drew on the wall)
Into the Light
January 10th, 2013
1:58 pm
la la la la la laaa, la la la la laaaa…….la la la la la laaa, la la la la laaaa
DuShawn
January 10th, 2013
2:02 pm
“-…..always putting me in situations where I have to defend their honor-“ Embarrassingly, I can recall another incident when I had a check a trick in front of her man. I truly lost my temper this time. And this was my sister-in-law (My sister’s husband’s brother’s wife). I never did dig this chick too much. Every time she gets a few glasses of wine in her, she thinks she can say anything to anybody. This happened in 2000. My sister had a New Years party. Wifey was pregnant with our first child. I had recently got jammed up, and had some pending litigation that could’ve gone either way. When I saw her at the party, she gave me a hug a said happy new year, then she follows me in this room and continues to converse. We were cool until she begins to discuss my situation, saying things like “I don’t know why you keep doing this to your parents”……”your sister ain’t bout nothing either, she think she all that” and all type of out of order sh*%t. I’m like “B*&tch you done bumped your mafuggin head.” This discussion escalated to the point that I wanted to whupp her a$$. People would hear the commotion, open the door, see the intensity and close it right back. I disrespected her so viciously; I wished her husband would’ve defended her honor. I told her to go get him. Somebody needed to get this a$$ whuppin that she deserved. It might as well be her man. I don’t think I have ever been that mad at a woman. The party ended and her husband left her there. My brother-in-law apologized to me for her behavior. He said every time she drinks, she starts some sh&^t.
abc
January 10th, 2013
2:07 pm
Headaches from thinking too hard maybe? This isn’t really that complicated, seems to me. Too difficult to deal with differing points of view? Could be, could be. I can appreciate that.
At the time, Bluzgirl, I took to only being in clubs when I was playing; these days I won’t even play in clubs. Besides, I made more playing in clubs 25 years ago than the poor guys playing in Atlanta today. It’s even worse in some towns; in Athens they have to pay the club, as in rental, and then make whatever at the door. Same in Austin. Pretty sad. The musician’s equivalent to clubs (as they used to be) these days is on cruise ships. I figure there must be 10-20 times more ships as there were 20 years ago. I should look that up.
Now, I’d venture to say that anyone actually interested in dance — not shaking your bootay to some hip hop, I mean dancing — can find suitable dance venues that are not some skanky club.
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
2:15 pm
ITL ~ time’s up.
abc ~ you mixed up the meaning of playing.
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
2:19 pm
My mistake, abc, I read your post wrong. I had the frame of mind of going to the club to play on the women, but you were talking about playing your instrument at the club. To come think about it, same thing (lol).
Bluzgirl
January 10th, 2013
2:21 pm
abc – Since you’ve played at many clubs, you have to admit that there are several high quality women and men as well as the skanky ones. I’m one who goes to clubs to hear live music, which is my all time favorite thing to do. I don’t know what kind of places you’ve played at, but I am a high quality woman and I’ve met many, many people at clubs who are the best people on earth…
IJS that you can be quite judgemental…
Into the Light
January 10th, 2013
2:22 pm
WOOHOO!!!! I’m out of the corner!
Exiled
January 10th, 2013
2:23 pm
can find suitable dance venues that are not some skanky club.
@abc..now u talking of old,crwalling,creaky folks dancing…ur age is showing.
These in here are young folks..for the most part.
Exiled
January 10th, 2013
2:24 pm
gime a sip of that moca ITL….
as we watch together..Single ready to swing..
Into the Light
January 10th, 2013
2:25 pm
I must be skimming too quickly. I thought y’all were talking about skrip clubs, not music clubs……
Into the Light
January 10th, 2013
2:27 pm
@EX: I already drank it.
And it was an americano, with whipped cream on top.
@Bluz: I talked to your boyfriend, Boogie Man, last night.
abc
January 10th, 2013
2:31 pm
Not really, Exiled. Check out the salsa club, beautiful people dancing quite nicely, but nobody’s cruising for the opposite sex much, thus a higher caliber of customer; or any of the ATLX swing dancing parties, they are phenomenal dancers, and about half of them are still in college.
Not so much, Bluzgirl. In fact, I’d say that the musicians are often among the lowest lowlifes there! Of all the clubs I’ve been in, I don’t think I ever met one single person that I still knew the next year, maybe the next month, maybe week.
‘Course, folks often meet up with friends there, right? Chicks travelling in packs, several couples with the men eyeballing trick candy, then everyone drinks and drives. Not my scene.
Bluzgirl
January 10th, 2013
2:31 pm
ITL – LOL!!! He’s probably forgotten all about me!
Exiled
January 10th, 2013
2:32 pm
ITL..uall having some real guud stuff…dang…anyhoo,im out here tmrw,on the road, so ima have some cupfulls of revenge coffee binge..
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
2:36 pm
When a person’s picture has been distorted for so many years, no sense in trying to iron out its wrinkles. Lost cause.
Exiled
January 10th, 2013
2:36 pm
salsa dancing….@abc? my word!
havent u heard: ‘dancing is the vertical expression of a horizontal desire”
Women do that for self esteem and boosting confidence.
Men? the agenda is less homnorable.
Salsa dancing!
Challpee
January 10th, 2013
2:37 pm
Ok, curious minds have to know, how do you “Axe” a question? Do you write a question down on a piece of paper and then hit it with a axe? Or, do you wait till someone is in the middle of asking a question and hit them in the mouth with a axe, I would like a answer to this.
abc
January 10th, 2013
2:38 pm
Tell that to a bunch of Puerto Ricans. I don’t think they’d take too kindly to criticism of something they consider almost a cultural sacrament or something. In fact, it might make for a confrontation worthy of your girl having to stick up for you! Kidding, kidding.
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 10th, 2013
2:39 pm
IJS that you can be quite judgemental…
cosign Bluz…
It’s funny how some folks use their experiences to define the whole situation for hundreds of thousands of people ALL around the world. Talk about painting with a broad brush…but oh well everyone’s opinion is just that…theirs and you know what they say about opinions.
Exiled
January 10th, 2013
2:41 pm
ok they like it but u know Mexicans and folks of their ilk hunch a lot…
catholics..no birf control…plenty kids..
so i aint too far in my analysis
@abc.. no offense to my puerto rican fo
Bluzgirl
January 10th, 2013
2:41 pm
Hmmm…never met one person that you knew the next year. That says more about you, I think.
I met several of my closest friends at the clubs I used to frequent. The ones I’ve know for over 10 years (heck, even the ones I’ve met within the past year) are very genuine, good hearted, and would do anything for the people they care about…
Jake-SPJTWB
January 10th, 2013
2:42 pm
they eating my posts today
Jake-SPJTWB
January 10th, 2013
2:44 pm
Anyway…good women/and skankers are everywhere…in same places…you just gotta choose appropriately
Exiled
January 10th, 2013
2:47 pm
does withdrawal ever work…..for some..??
i cant imagine a dude taking it out when the guud is getting sweeter.
@Catholics
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
2:48 pm
Challpee ~ we already know the answer. You may be the only one left curious.
DuShawn
January 10th, 2013
2:50 pm
I’m still on the topic of defending a women’s honor. I could remember in high school I used to date this pretty little dark-skinned cheerleader. We broke up my senior year. I went away to college and a friend of mine started dating her. When I came home on breaks, I would still hit her. Some of our mutual friends knew, but kept their mouths closed. One afternoon, I’m knockin her down at her moms house, her brother was on the porch, and my buddy pulled up and asks if she was home. The brother covered for me and told her boyfriend she wasn’t there. About an hour or so later we finished up, showered up and I’m in the kitchen eating the lunch she prepared. By this time her brother had gone, my buddy pulls back up, sees us in the kitchen thru the screen door, comes in the house looks at me and immediately grabs her by the throat and slams her back against the refrigerator. I jumped up…walk towards him…..and said “playa that’s between yall I’m out”…….As life would have it; they ended up getting married and are still together today.
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 10th, 2013
2:51 pm
good women/and skankers are everywhere…in same places…you just gotta choose appropriately
My point exactly Jake…
MsAtl
January 10th, 2013
2:52 pm
Challpee & Leggs- Right, because one of those is attempted murder.
abc
January 10th, 2013
2:52 pm
That doesn’t surprise me, Bluzgirl.
Now, ex, you should check it out — first time I was in the middle of it was on a cruise ship that ported out of San Juan, a mostly Puerto Rican populated vessel. The salsa band on that boat was incredible! Until you’ve seen a room full of Puerto Ricans tearing it up with an awesome band, you haven’t seen salsa dancing. It motivated me and my wife to take some lessons and join them. They thought it was unusual to see us out and among them.
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 10th, 2013
2:52 pm
yawn…
Bluzgirl
January 10th, 2013
2:54 pm
What do you mean by that abc?
Du – you should write a book with all your stories!
Exiled!
January 10th, 2013
2:54 pm
What is Chapelle aksing actually…
me no get it
Challpee
January 10th, 2013
2:55 pm
Hey, all I wanted to know is how to Axe one….
Exiled!
January 10th, 2013
2:57 pm
@abc…I know,when in Rome do them (I’m giving u the Negro version of it)
U and wife were gracious and kind!
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
3:00 pm
Sassy, my point too.
Challpee ~ all you want to do is start trouble!
Ex, don’t worry about not getting this one!!!
Exiled!
January 10th, 2013
3:00 pm
@Du…So the brother was on the porch,looking out to wad off enemies?
and u smashing sis? Daaamn!
that’s gutter!
I doubt they do that even in Disco’s hood!
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
3:03 pm
Seems like many men will walk away while a woman gets snatched up by her man. I understand the beef may be between the two of them, but how would you really feel if him snatching her up got out of hand and he murdered her. Would you feel bad you didn’t step in…seriously, not looking for humor here.
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 10th, 2013
3:12 pm
Would you feel bad you didn’t step in…seriously, not looking for humor here.
Leggs I wonder what the blog men will have to say to that…
DuShawn
January 10th, 2013
3:14 pm
I’m sitting here thinking about life and the Journey of the people in that last story. My pretty fine 18 year old cheerleader is now overweight, in her mid forties with three kids. Her husband, my buddy, got shot in the head in 2004. He survived, but it’s like he had a stroke, permanently disabled. She spends most of her day taking care of him, I respect her for that. Her brother, who covered for me, got killed in a motorcycle accident about 15 years ago. Whew…….Sometimes I truly wonder why God favors me so.
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
3:17 pm
Sometimes Karma hits the wrong target before finding the intended target.
Not saying I want anything to happen to you DuShawn, but man seems you’ve dodged an arsenal of fire power!
Raqi
January 10th, 2013
3:24 pm
Alphabet man, I agree with you on the dancing. Salsa as well as swing dancing is not only invigorating and good exercise, it provides great opportunity for couples to communicate and touch incorporating coordination and trust while having fun. Not to mention Salsa is a very sexy dance.
Challpee
January 10th, 2013
3:24 pm
Anyway, did yall know airplanes are very, very, very poisonous?????? All it takes is a drop and you’re a gonner. Man I am on a roll, no seriously I am sitting on a roll left over from dinner toady. Trouble? me? never!
Exiled!
January 10th, 2013
3:24 pm
Leggs…u call the popo…
snitch on him.
But I ain’t gon go in between unless I pack heat myself to back me up.
America is full of crazy folks with guns,unfortunately
kimmie
January 10th, 2013
3:31 pm
Hey Raqi!!
What’s going on lady?? Long time, no read!! How are the kiddies & hubs? How are you?
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
3:31 pm
Ex ~ fair enough, call the po po. Sounds like many simply walk away and what happens, happens.
Good to see you Raqi (if you’re real).
Who didn’t see he wanted to start some isht, literally?
Exiled!
January 10th, 2013
3:32 pm
Wrong target before intended target
@Leggs..seems u guilty of instigating to God or Satan here.
What if Du is truly different but jest re-telling a story?
Actually,karma is a human figment. Nothing Godly bout it.
It ain’t real.
Otherwise I need a bible authority to convince me bout that.
I know ‘u reap what u sow’
But then there is repentance!
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 10th, 2013
3:34 pm
Who didn’t see he wanted to start some isht, literally?
Okay?!
get better honey boo boo…
Exiled!
January 10th, 2013
3:35 pm
Another shooting at a school
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
3:35 pm
I’m back, Leggs, what you suggested actually happened in Carollton I think, a “couple” was in the parking lot “aruging” and people just walked by the girl was crying and people just walked by, the man dragged the girl away and people just walked by. A few days later they find the girls body!
It’s funny how some folks use their experiences to define the whole situation for hundreds of thousands of people ALL around the world. Talk about painting with a broad brush…but oh well everyone’s opinion is just that…theirs and you know what they say about opinions. = HEADACHE (LOL)
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
3:35 pm
kimmie ~ I’m always leery now (lol).
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
3:39 pm
Ex ~ then I came across wrong. Not wanting it to find “intended” target. Wrong choice of words on my part. Instigating??? Naw, nor am I praying to God or hissing at Satan!
Raqi
January 10th, 2013
3:39 pm
Defending someone’s honor and fighting their battles are two totally separate events IMO. Grown folks shouldn’t be fighting.
As an adult, until the attempt of hands being laid on me or mine, any and every situation while with my mine, of verbal attacks is merely cause for removing ourselves from the hostile environment.
I truly feel that the best Defense of Honor is when someone, mainly friends and/or family, get out of pocket with their words about “mine” when he is not present. See if he is there he will be the man that he is and speak for himself. But when it’s someone getting sassy or rude and he is not around, I will speak highly on his behave and keep it moving.
And this goes for even if I mentioned or said something to you negatively about him on a previous occassion, that does not give you permission to take shots or verbally attack him.
Raqi
January 10th, 2013
3:41 pm
Hey, Kimmie. All is well with my clan. I hope you and yours are doing well also.
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
3:41 pm
A bible authority
is there such a person?
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
3:42 pm
BTW, Ex, no one said anything about Karma being Godly or Karma being a real entity. It is a superstition passed down over the centuries.
DuShawn
January 10th, 2013
3:43 pm
u call the popo…
snitch on him.
What’s a trip, when my man got shot, I was living in Atlanta. I must’ve had about 14 messages from my potnahs at the crib. One of them, whom has yet to grow up, was like “man I heard who did it, we need to mask up and go handle that.” I’m like that’s exactly why I moved away to escape that negative sh&^t.” Another one of my friends with sense said “Man…..we are grown with families now. Those days are done. If you know who did it, tell me and I’ll tell the police. Call me a snitch or whateva you want to.” Dayum…now that I think about it, my potnah “lil pop” said that. He died in 2010.
-As far as the Karma- If one was to consider my total life’s work. I have done far more good than bad. My good deeds are less interesting, so I tend not to share them in this forum.
Raqi
January 10th, 2013
3:44 pm
LOL Leggs. It’s me.
Has someone being trying to pass themselves off as me?
Girl you know can’t nobody top this fabulousness that exude. There is only one Radiant, Ardent, Quaint, Intense one. LOL
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
3:44 pm
Raqi, when someone defends you honor when you’re not around because they will never mention it. Only people that want to start some mess come back telling you what others have said. My response to anyone that wants to tell me what someone said about me is if you can’t tell me what you said then don’t tell me anything at all because I really don’t care.
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
3:46 pm
No such thing as karma, life happens it’s how you handle it that makes the difference.
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
3:47 pm
Good to read you Raqi. You cross my mind often. Glad you and your family are well.
Tks Sassy.
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
3:47 pm
I mean you will never know, because they will never mention anything about it.
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 10th, 2013
3:50 pm
You’re welcome Leggs..
Raqi
January 10th, 2013
3:50 pm
Single & Happy, I don’t quite understand your statement.
All I am saying is defending my honor is not letting someone talk crap about me when I am not around. See that’s when it matter the most because it’s then when you are not trying to just impress, but truly defend.
There are a lot people that will sit back and allow crap talk about someone when that person is not there to be offended by their silent betrayal. However on the other hand will seek to impress in your presence possibly hoping for a payoff or payback later down the line.
Raqi
January 10th, 2013
3:51 pm
You too Leggs.
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
3:51 pm
Ok, Raqi’s in the house. Nobody has tried to come as you, but people do try to come on as others. Just checking to make sure. I sure was going to ask a question that only Raqi would know.
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
3:54 pm
. Raqi I’m agreeing with you about the defending honor. usually most people don’t sit back they either defend, or join in
Celisea
January 10th, 2013
3:55 pm
Catching up……..I see y’all still going. lol
For the troublemaker, someone please just let me know they’re being reported to Diva??? While Challpee tryna be funny with the “axe you a question” statement, he/she should know it’s “an answer” not a answer. Usually I’m the last to point out that kind of stuff cause it’s just a blog and should be laid back, but if you’re picking and poking, make sure your stuff is all good.
I say we leave sh!tstarters and trouble makers back in 2012. The blog seems to have gotten off to a decent start this year. How bout we keep it this way.
Celisea
January 10th, 2013
3:56 pm
but people do try to come on as others.
So, I’m not crazy huh? Yeah, that’s been going on for sometime now. I say leave all shenanigans back in 2012 and let the blog flow.
Raqi
January 10th, 2013
3:57 pm
The BEST friend that you will ever have is that person that stands up for you in your absence. Risking all while you haven’t the faintest clue of what’s going down.
Celisea
January 10th, 2013
3:59 pm
And with that I’m out! Just peeking back in before rolling out of this mug.
Exiled!
January 10th, 2013
4:01 pm
There is Karma in some ‘grave’instances of misdeeds but it may not be called that.
Shedding another man’s blood and walking away reaps havoc on the pepetrator…..I don’t care u white brown or black or yellow persuasion.
ALWAYS!
You will get Heat in your life after some time,as long as you are alive.
You may live,troubled and die a very miserable life.
For example,I think OJ dodged uncle sam’s chains but God’s long hand of Karma led him the way he went to his demise.
Murder/shedding blood is the ultimate sin!
kimmie
January 10th, 2013
4:08 pm
Raqi – All is well with me & mine. Great to read ya!
Into the Light
January 10th, 2013
4:10 pm
Have mercy. Somebody left the gate open and a troll snuck in. Wish it was one of those we used to put on the end of our pencils…..the kind with the crazy hair. We’d roll those pencils back and forth and get that troll looking crazy. Ahhhh, the innocence of youth…..
Where did Jake go??? Heeeeeeeey, Jake.
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
4:16 pm
“God’s long hand of Karma” – Ex. You just said Karma doesn’t have anything to do with God.
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
4:18 pm
Leggs, no headache remember (LOL)
Raqi
January 10th, 2013
4:19 pm
And another thing, do not let your significant other owe money to your friend’s significant other for that ring you are wearing and flashing while letting your SO get sassy with your friend about money matters. Else you do know everybody in ear range will know yalls business.
Don’t give me that “please don’t embarrass us” plea look and not check your mate.
Check.
(I love the marido has taught me to play chess. LOL)
Yes I have been known to speak out of turn at times but I know just how far to go.
Nice to read you all. Happy New Year and all that.
Bluzgirl
January 10th, 2013
4:19 pm
ITL – you just made me flashback to my youth with those troll dolls.
Exiled
January 10th, 2013
4:20 pm
@Leggs..thats ur fault..the word was in my brain..
retribution then…i do know if God knows retribution either…maybe just HIS way of spanking.
Exiled
January 10th, 2013
4:21 pm
Dont
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
4:23 pm
so ex OJ’s stupidity had nothing to do with it? it was just karma!
Into the Light
January 10th, 2013
4:23 pm
@Bluz: I loved those things. Everytime I watch “Living Single” with Synclare and her troll dolls, I flash back.
Into the Light
January 10th, 2013
4:23 pm
I’m ret ta go…..
Exiled
January 10th, 2013
4:25 pm
death sentence is Murder…..
somebody has to inject the killing agent….
I pity those who suffer from PTS……coz of uncle’s directives
im drifting also like …like Raqi…
somebody moon me. to grab my attn……..ITL ,Bluz?
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
4:26 pm
Single ~ I’m keeping that in mind (LOL).
Raqi
January 10th, 2013
4:26 pm
Oh yeah, Kimmie do you watch Scandal? Lovez that show. I just hope Pope and POTUS do not end up together. I’m hoping that entire story line goes away and the show moves on to other equally scandalous matters. LOL
DuShawn
January 10th, 2013
4:26 pm
I’ve often thought about writing an autobiography. I enjoy writing and it will probably be therapeutic (possibly get rid of some demons). Some of the things that happened on my journey are unbelievable……..literally. A lot of my experiences some would say, hell naw that couldn’t have happened. Imma start it this year and see where it goes.
Bluzgirl
January 10th, 2013
4:26 pm
I’ve been ready to go ever since I got here today. Just been in a mood all day…
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
4:28 pm
Single ~ read your post at 4:18. Stay focused….
Happy New Year to you too, Raqi!
MsAtl
January 10th, 2013
4:28 pm
I believe that what you do will usually come back on you in some way. You can call it karma, payback, reaping, whatever. I think if you make it your life’s work to do dirt, sooner or later it will come back on you with a vengeance.
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
4:31 pm
Leggs, I’m trying also, but they make it so hard (LOL)
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
4:32 pm
Raqi ~ so many are looking forward to Scandal this evening. Almost like the Superbowl of a drama series.
DuShawn
January 10th, 2013
4:46 pm
“Else you do know everybody in ear range will know yalls business.” That reminds me of my potnahs Bop and them. When I went away to college, those fellas were gettin there hustle on. When I came home they would have stacks of Polo’s and the latest designer gear. Since I was the only one in school, they would be like Dushawn you want some of these shirts, take some jeans too. Brand new gear tags still on them. I’m looking Dope boy fresh. Then they would catch me round some chicks with the sh&^t on and be like “Ain’t that the shrit I gave you man?”
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 10th, 2013
4:49 pm
Have a great evening blog
Peace
DreamsMaterialize
January 10th, 2013
4:50 pm
Hey to the ladies.
kimmie how have you been?
Celly Cel how goes it?
Raqi long time. Hope all is well.
Into the Light
January 10th, 2013
4:55 pm
Why is the blog monster eating my posts!?!?!??!?!?!?!?
Into the Light
January 10th, 2013
4:56 pm
Dang.
Is it just me, or do y’all think it would be kinda cool to be able to overhear what readers of MIA say (if anything) and what they think each of us is like???
MsAtl
January 10th, 2013
5:05 pm
Du- re: your 4:26, I have been told that I should write a book because some of the things are unbelievable, but I have refrained. It would have to have one of those disclaimers that all characters are fictional and any resemblance to persons or activities living or dead are strictly coincidental, lol.
ITL- I thought some of the blog folks did that before?
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
5:06 pm
ITL, some things are best left alone and unheard (LOL)
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
5:07 pm
Another person here that should write a book is SlimNu!
Into the Light
January 10th, 2013
5:07 pm
@MsAtl: They did? How?!?!? Did they put a survey out?
Into the Light
January 10th, 2013
5:09 pm
She totally should, Leggs! I’d buy it.
And For Real should write sketch comedy. Speaking of, I miss him and his chicken bologna eating self.
Into the Light
January 10th, 2013
5:10 pm
And $2 gas cards. LOL
Single & Happy
January 10th, 2013
5:13 pm
ITL haven’t you meet a few off the blog? I could just see the fights, I mean meet and greet happening (LOL)
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
5:13 pm
kimmie should write a book on patience, discipline and a quiet but loving force to be reckoned with
Raqi should write a book on insight, a purposeful life, compromise and love and respect
Leggs
January 10th, 2013
5:23 pm
For certain, ForReal too.
Into the Light
January 10th, 2013
5:26 pm
LOL@Stamps. I’ve met some folks. COOL folks. Drama-free.
Into the Light
January 10th, 2013
5:27 pm
Okay, I’m out! Y’all be sweet.
MsAtl
January 10th, 2013
5:31 pm
ITL- No, I thought I faintly remember one day we were handing out nicknames. Maybe that was one of my foggy days during depositions.
Honeyamber1
January 10th, 2013
8:40 pm
@ITL to answer your 4:56 ? I’ve commented on here before about what I think some of you all are like just by reading comments everyone makes. My favorite ladies to read are Leggs – she is of my age group and I like her style (I could see myself hanging with her). I think Kimmie is the girlfriend every woman would love to have in their corner. I think Disco is so real and honest with her comments, she says what everyone else may be thinking, but really wants to say. I think Slim is a serious artist, she is a great poet and comedian. I feel she has a very sensitive soul. Sassy and Czbrat both bring the fire (which I love to read). ITL – your wit always makes me laugh. And Bluzgirl for some reason reminds me of a younger me. The guys have opened my eyes on views of women. There are alot of double standards, but I knew that. Some of the men seem very chauvinistic (Exile and abc). Dreams seems like he is a catch and a nice guy. The married guys, Swiss, Jake and Willie drop alot of wisdom. I’m sure in their single days they were hell on wheels. Dushawn has the most interesting stories and he keeps it real. Exile – even though you read a certain way, sometimes I get what you’re saying.
I so look forward to reading you all each day I come to work. Over the years I have read some very interesting comments that have really made me think about some of the things I’ve done in my life. All I can say is that I’m a work in progress.