Dating: Not a fan of kissing?
I thought I had heard it all when it comes to men, but this is a first: Men who refuse to kiss. Yes, apparently they DO exist – unlike the Keebler elves. These anti-kissers usually provide a laundry list of reasons why they don’t want to smooch their honeys.
I received an email from a woman who says her guy is not a fan of kissing. He downplays this as a hangup that she may have to “get used to” which means “this won’t change.” The phobia of kissing is called Philemaphobia and it is a real issue for some people.
I am a big fan of kissing and I can’t imagine dating someone who was not. I mean, what else are you supposed to do with your lips when you want intimacy? (Actually – don’t answer that). I honestly don’t know what advice to give the young lady! What should she do?
She is unsure if the issue is that her man doesn’t like kissing – or does not like kissing her. Would it bother you if the person you were seeing had some quirky hang up about sex or intimacy?
Have you ever had to tell the person you are dating that there is one thing that you simply refuse to do? Do you think certain hang ups are deal breakers?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Leggs
January 8th, 2013
1:21 pm
This the first year I haven’t done the flu shot. My job gives them out, but I missed the deadline. Now, here I is miserable.
I’m pumping medicine in lil leggs as well hoping to ward it off. She’s been a great nurse attendant.
Into the Light
January 8th, 2013
1:23 pm
LOL@Court. Cheesy, maybe. But true.
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 8th, 2013
1:33 pm
I’m pumping medicine in lil leggs as well hoping to ward it off. She’s been a great nurse attendant.
Aww then…Mommy’s baby is taking care of her
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 8th, 2013
1:42 pm
So is anyone going to spill the beans on what they wouldn’t do? I’m not into feet so don’t ask. lol
Leggs – I hope I don’t put my foot in my mouth but I really feel some kind of way about the flu shot. I probably have not had a shot in over 15years. So far so good, but with it spreading like it has, I pray it skips over me.
Into the Light
January 8th, 2013
1:46 pm
So is anyone going to spill the beans on what they wouldn’t do?
The only salad I’m tossing is in a bowl on the dinner table. IJS…… blech.
cba
January 8th, 2013
1:47 pm
Leggs~ I could have sworn I read a couple of months back that you took the shot……I was just wondering what the purpose of the shot. Get better soon. Speaking of aching, a friend told me last week he felt like a run away slave that was caught a beaten.
There was a nurse with 22 yrs exp at the same hospital that was fired last week for not taking the shot.
DuShawn
January 8th, 2013
1:48 pm
I was just thinking about when I first started kissing. In middle school, there was a poorly lit area by the locker rooms and gym. We called it the “Dark Hall”. If you were cool, between classes you would take your little girl friend there and “tongue her and bone.” If you had a little fast girlfriend, you might even get you some stank finger. Dayum…..my little girl will be in middle school next year.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 8th, 2013
1:54 pm
SlimNu, Not into feet??? If her toes are cute and her feet are well taken care of, I can work with that… The number one “OH HELL NAW” for me is anything that involves penetrating me!!!!
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 8th, 2013
1:59 pm
“The only salad I’m tossing is in a bowl on the dinner table”
Hmmmmmmmm……..Whats wrong with tossing salad??? As long as everything is fresh and clean, that is a sure fire toe curler…….
DuShawn
January 8th, 2013
2:00 pm
So is anyone going to spill the beans on what they wouldn’t do?……
I won’t do anything that makes me feel like the chick. Don’t suck my nipples, squeeze my a$$, or try to put your finger in my booty. Now, I don’t eat a$$ purposely, but my aim has been off from time to time. It’s only about a half inch of separation clearance (let’s be real fellas). I may give a toe job, if she got pretty feet and her ankles are next her ears.
Lee
January 8th, 2013
2:01 pm
What middle school did you go to Dushawn? dang… Did not know a thing during that time, never would of thought going with a boy into a dark area.. never mind anything else. smh
Leggs
January 8th, 2013
2:01 pm
cba ~ I was scheduled to take it, but missed my appointment. Remembered the day after. People think the shot is a strain of the flu, but I’ve also heard on GMA, Dr. Richard Belzer, say it’s not. It’s components help ward off the flu. Nonetheless, many still get sick after taking the shot. I never have. But now, w/o taking one this year, I’ll probably not miss another shot going forward.
DuShawn ~ real talk here, be more afraid of middle school than high school.
Bluzgirl
January 8th, 2013
2:01 pm
ITL – I’m with you on the tossed salad. No poo’ing or pee’ing on each other either! Ugh!
Into the Light
January 8th, 2013
2:06 pm
@ Bluz: GROSS!!!
MsAtl
January 8th, 2013
2:06 pm
Wow! I come back from lunch and y’all are talking about salad, lol. Bluz, I’m with you. No necrophilia, coprophilia, urolangia. You can keep that!
Willie Dynamite
January 8th, 2013
2:08 pm
Slim- no penetrating or restraining me period.
Du- dude I’m really really trying to catch up on my karma tab because my daughter is a pre-teen and will be entering middle school next year.
Leggs
January 8th, 2013
2:09 pm
I won’t suck a guy’s toes. I just can’t imagine putting someone’s feet in my mouth. If he wants to, that’s on him.
Bluzgirl
January 8th, 2013
2:11 pm
Leggs – I’m not into sucking a guy’s toes either, but I like mine to be sucked!
Exiled!
January 8th, 2013
2:16 pm
So kissing/licking Him (Big Dong) when he just popped outta the salad bar (back oven) is out or In, Ladies?
wldnt refuse that equate to self loathing?
Bluzgirl
January 8th, 2013
2:18 pm
Ex – NO WAY!!!
Exiled!
January 8th, 2013
2:19 pm
I don’t eat a$$$$
Du…wld u stick it and let her kneck u soon after?
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 8th, 2013
2:19 pm
Bluz – I’m with ya on the golden showers or chocolate drops
Willie Dynamite
January 8th, 2013
2:20 pm
Really it’s mostly mental for me. If I second guess or have to stop and think bish u nasty then I might be done.
Exiled!
January 8th, 2013
2:20 pm
@Bluz …uuhu!
(crawling stealthily back to my work)
Into the Light
January 8th, 2013
2:22 pm
If I second guess or have to stop and think bish u nasty then I might be done
If I have to stop and think, better catch up with your shoes and keys….’cause they just went out my front door.
Into the Light
January 8th, 2013
2:24 pm
la la la la la laaaa, la la la la laaaaaaa……
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 8th, 2013
2:26 pm
Last year our company went on one of those team bukliding retreats…. There was this cutie that worked in our corporate office that came to participate. on the last night as everyone was kinda hanging out I coming out of the shower ( It was one of those campground places)… I talker her into hanging with us for a bit. She had on flip flops and I noticed she had the cutest little toes, and her ankles were the perfect size! Long story short, I told her I would give her afoot massage and when I was convince it was feeling good to her, I kissed, licked then sucked her toes….. DAMN!!! She was only about an hour out of the shower, in open shoes, and her feet tasted like Sweet pickles!!!! Killed the mood on the spot……
Leggs
January 8th, 2013
2:26 pm
chocolate drops? Oh my…
I have a friend who loves the back door, but I can’t even imagine fun there. All I can think of pain. I love sweet pain, but that right there seems like pure d pain!
Exiled!
January 8th, 2013
2:31 pm
Please….
Smh
So….Courtside?
Bluzgirl
January 8th, 2013
2:31 pm
There was only one guy I would let in the back door because he was really small! I’m not a fan…maybe on a special occasion, but I have to be really, really gone!
Exiled!
January 8th, 2013
2:35 pm
ITL?
Forget chocolate drops coz I’m sure u clean very well..no residue there after a shower and u smelling sparkling clean with that dove soap…
And ur guy sticks it there…..
U going to ask hom to wipe it clean?
@msAtl as well?
ComeOn ladies!
@Slim,ur azz is small,why chocolate drops,clean it good.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 8th, 2013
2:37 pm
Exiled…Yeah???
disco
January 8th, 2013
2:38 pm
I hate to sound all prudish but y’all blog folks are nasty. who knew y’all would still sort of kind of be on topic. lol.
Leggs
January 8th, 2013
2:40 pm
Too funny, Courtside. You sucking on stranger toes is a big chance to take. Hell, wait until you know her. Put on Michael Franks’ “Popsicle Toes” then go to town (lol).
O Ren Ichii
January 8th, 2013
2:41 pm
One thing I refuse to do…..anal. Ouch!
Willie Dynamite
January 8th, 2013
2:42 pm
ITL- I hear you. Honestly I’m selfish and a bedroom bully BUT I pay attention and will not cross the line. I may slyly try to erase the line and redraw but nothing over the top until you look back on it realize that we went there. Not You but per se.
Exiled
January 8th, 2013
2:44 pm
O Rein..u tried it..
O Ren Ichii
January 8th, 2013
2:51 pm
Exiled – Yes with the ex husband. I literally cried after….felt violated. Maybe that’s why he’s now the “ex husband!” Hahaha…..
DuShawn
January 8th, 2013
2:52 pm
.-Courtside- sucking strange toes, mess around and get athletes tongue. Be brushing your teeth with Desenex.
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 8th, 2013
2:57 pm
Ex – I just referred to pooping on another as chocolate drops…I didnt meant DINGLEBERRIE’S…there is a difference
Into the Light
January 8th, 2013
2:57 pm
ITL?
Forget chocolate drops coz I’m sure u clean very well..no residue there after a shower and u smelling sparkling clean with that dove soap…
Actually, it’s Olay.
But I’m not into the backdoor game. If I’m really into it, the line might get a little blurred (as WD said), but in general unless it’s just a slip of the grip, I don’t want you in there. Thanks, but not thanks.
Exiled!
January 8th, 2013
2:58 pm
ComeOn Ren u lube it!
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 8th, 2013
2:59 pm
LOL….DuShawn, But she was sooooooo fine!! and like I said, fresh out of the shower!! You could tell she had her toes done just before the trip…the polish was fresh and well done…..feet were soft to the touch…. The jacked up part is, they did not SMELL like pickles, just tasted like them…..
smh…she could have been the one……..
Into the Light
January 8th, 2013
2:59 pm
@Court – were they painted purple!?!?!?!?!?
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 8th, 2013
3:06 pm
Ms. light, no..they were pink with a cute design on the big toe…
O Ren Ichii
January 8th, 2013
3:15 pm
Exiled – ain’t that much lube in da world. And what is the benefit from it…for the woman? On topic, kissing is a must.
MsAtl
January 8th, 2013
3:23 pm
Ex- I’m not a fan; that is an exit. And if I did, heck naw I’m not licking you after! I’m with O Ren- I don’t see the benefit for me.
Single and Happy ROLL TIDE #1
January 8th, 2013
3:26 pm
Okay, sucking toes, dingle berries ugghhhhhh!!
things I wouldn’t do, have a threesome with another man, suck on toes, toss salad, (at least not knowingly) (LOL)
Exiled!
January 8th, 2013
3:27 pm
lol
these blog ladies are so vanilla
Leggs
January 8th, 2013
3:28 pm
Cracking up at one who reluctantly goes down calling you guys vanilla (lol)..yep, you guys
