Dating: Not a fan of kissing?
I thought I had heard it all when it comes to men, but this is a first: Men who refuse to kiss. Yes, apparently they DO exist – unlike the Keebler elves. These anti-kissers usually provide a laundry list of reasons why they don’t want to smooch their honeys.
I received an email from a woman who says her guy is not a fan of kissing. He downplays this as a hangup that she may have to “get used to” which means “this won’t change.” The phobia of kissing is called Philemaphobia and it is a real issue for some people.
I am a big fan of kissing and I can’t imagine dating someone who was not. I mean, what else are you supposed to do with your lips when you want intimacy? (Actually – don’t answer that). I honestly don’t know what advice to give the young lady! What should she do?
She is unsure if the issue is that her man doesn’t like kissing – or does not like kissing her. Would it bother you if the person you were seeing had some quirky hang up about sex or intimacy?
Have you ever had to tell the person you are dating that there is one thing that you simply refuse to do? Do you think certain hang ups are deal breakers?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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DuShawn
January 8th, 2013
11:08 am
- SlimNu- …….lol…you silly :0……All I can say is no real man wants to have d&ck breath.
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 8th, 2013
11:09 am
Leggs I watched it in bits and pieces. There’s a mostly new cast but the ratchedness is there and appears to be “turnt up” a notch. If you don’t have anything else to do then yeah give it a view but I wouldn’t go out of my way.
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 8th, 2013
11:10 am
All I can say is no real man wants to have d&ck breath.
Not even if it’s your stick?!…what’s the difference?…it’s YOURS so why not?
Leggs
January 8th, 2013
11:12 am
I thought as much, SassyMe. Figured while I’m home sick, viewing “ratchedness” will break up the monotony of regular morning TV viewing. Love and HH and Mob Wives.
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 8th, 2013
11:14 am
Sassy – I see you’re trying to change the subject lol…I watched it but I don’t think i’m really going to be able to get into this one. Just wasn’t feeling it but I will say that the Joe guy with the beard, reminds me of my ex….his co ck i ness, and thought of granduer and the beard
Leggs
January 8th, 2013
11:15 am
SassyMe ~ even if it’s their own stick, hope they don’t know how it tastes. The only person I’ve seen that can put their own in their mouth is that old, nasty, scary looking stripper shown on RHOA (Kandi’s bday party).
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 8th, 2013
11:15 am
Dus – If you chick goes down on you, something is really wrong if she actually has d breath
Bluzgirl
January 8th, 2013
11:17 am
Poor Leggs – Whatcha home sick with? The worst thing about being home sick is the junk on TV! Thank God for DVR!!!
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 8th, 2013
11:23 am
I see you’re trying to change the subject lol…
No not really Slim…shyyyd we could talk about this all day. The show popped up on another site I was on and I thought about it.
The only person I’ve seen that can put their own in their mouth is that old, nasty, scary looking stripper shown on RHOA
I saw that…but I was kinda hoping they would show a lil more of his…well I wanted to see it. Don’t judge me
Love and HH and Mob Wives.
I like Mob Wives,too. Which on is the one with the daughter by a Black Man?…I finally saw him on the repeats on Sunday and dude is FOINE!! Big Ang is a trip…she looked alot better before the plastic surgeries..IMO.
Into the Light
January 8th, 2013
11:24 am
Morning, all!
@Sassy: Yep. I’m in the been there, done that, will do it again club.
How’s everyone this morning?
Into the Light
January 8th, 2013
11:26 am
well I wanted to see it…..
I’ve seen it. It was disgusting and fascinating. But mainly disgusting. But kinda fascinating, too…..
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 8th, 2013
11:28 am
she looked alot better before the plastic surgeries
Sassy – Most folks do
Bluzgirl
January 8th, 2013
11:30 am
HEY ITL!!! How ya doin?
Celisea
January 8th, 2013
11:34 am
Aaaaaahhhh yeah, kissing. One of the most intimate, seductive acts, IF YOU KNOW HOW…IMO Yes, I’m a kisser, love love love kissing. When I go there, I like for nature to just take over…succumb to it. I admit, if it’s good, we’re good, things are good and the breath is good…I’m lost to it. I’m not “thinking” at that point. Oh, and I’m definitely not thinking to open my eyes and look at you. Shoot, like I said, I’m not even thinkink in that moment. If you can’t get “lost” to it wiht me, that kills the moment for me.
The other thing or issue for me though is when moving on from foreplay to the actual act, it’s too intense for me to keep kissing. I just can’t….lol After that it’s on…laidback love, slow grind, deep grind…whatevs. At that point though, it’s like talking and walking at the same time…..lol I’m not versatile like that….lol I’m can’t keep deep kissing during the act of. Like I said it’s too intense. Mr. (past) Kryptonite wanted to deep grind, kiss passionately and do acrobatics all at the same time. I would be thinking dude I’m at the point of stroking out almost and you still tryna stay lip locked?!?!?!
Leggs
January 8th, 2013
11:35 am
Home with The Flu! Nasty, nasty, nasty!
I thought it strange that one day he decided to see if he touch his own stick with his mouth…nothing fascinating about it for me. Love Mob Wives. Drita has been my favorite since day one!
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 8th, 2013
11:36 am
Yep. I’m in the been there, done that, will do it again club.
True! I’m sure Swiss would have something to add to this topic but he’s busy being daddy…how cute.
It was disgusting and fascinating. But mainly disgusting. But kinda fascinating, too…..
Into the Light
January 8th, 2013
11:37 am
Heeeeey, Bluz! Doing much better. And P is much better, too!
Into the Light
January 8th, 2013
11:39 am
@Leggs: Get well soon!!!
Bluzgirl
January 8th, 2013
11:41 am
So glad to hear ITL!!!
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 8th, 2013
11:45 am
Celi your first paragraph is me all the way. Kissing is SOOO seductive and after a while if you ask me my name I’d have to think about it and get back to you later…cause I’m lost in the sauce….head just gone.
The other thing or issue for me though is when moving on from foreplay to the actual act, it’s too intense for me to keep kissing.
If he’s hitting the right spot I’d be making too much noise to be able kiss…can’t do it. On a slow grind yeah but in the serious mix of the session…then no..
Celisea
January 8th, 2013
11:48 am
Sassy – We are here (seein eye to eye). I get’s “for real” with it…lololol
Also, what I find soooo funny is when I first kiss a dude they are knocked over. Guess being all reserved and stuff, folks don’t think I know how…lol I too, only kiss “boos” but EVERY boo has been PLESANTLY surprised.
That’s why you just let folks think what they think til we get down to the nitty gritty. Don’t talk much and don’t tell ‘me…..just unleash on ‘em!! j/k/b/n/r
Celisea
January 8th, 2013
11:50 am
Oh Albert, I see you. I moan too….while kissing. Can’t help it…just happens.
Okay, nuff of that from me….later folks!
Celisea
January 8th, 2013
11:51 am
In my 11:48….don’t tell ‘em……not don’t tell me
Have ya’selves a good one!!
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 8th, 2013
11:52 am
Wow…..The lost art of kissing…..Under the right circumstance it is the bomb!!! But if her skill is to far left of center, then just spin her around and reduce the chances of an sneak attack…
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 8th, 2013
11:53 am
Don’t talk much and don’t tell ‘me…..just unleash on ‘em!! j/k/b/n/r
Okay?!?! The element of surprise is a mutha…
Celisea
January 8th, 2013
11:54 am
Sassy – Girrrrrrrrrrrrrl
Into the Light
January 8th, 2013
12:04 pm
then just spin her around and reduce the chances of an sneak attack…
…..and ITL now cleaning tea off her monitor.
SlimNu - More of me, less of you
January 8th, 2013
12:11 pm
Leggs – Sorry to hear you’ve been under the weather. I heard that this has been the earliest flu outbreak in a long time.
I like to suck the bottom lip
Bluzgirl
January 8th, 2013
12:17 pm
Leggs/Slim – when I went to Walgreens the other day, they had a map that had GA listed as being in Code Red for Flu season. I’ve known too many people who have been sick in the past month, whether flu, pneumonia, bronchitis, etc…
Into the Light
January 8th, 2013
12:20 pm
@Slim re: your 12:11: Me, too. Sometimes, I like to nibble just a bit, too. Not painfully, just a little scrape of teeth…..
Is it just me, or is it hot in here?!?!??!?
Leggs
January 8th, 2013
12:27 pm
I knew when I woke up Friday morning, I may be getting sick. I could taste it in the back of my throat. Tried to get a jump start on it, but it knocked me down over the weekend. Body aches, deep congestion, unrelenting cough, can’t keep anything on my stomach has been annoying to say the least. Now, my biggest fear is taking lil leggs back to school this weekend and she turns up sick. I hope not.
DuShawn
January 8th, 2013
12:33 pm
Everybody is getting sick. My Dad and Wifey are down for the count. Just left a meeting, everyone was coughing and blowing their nose. On another note, My little man is getting braces today. He was so nervous last night. I had to tell him to “man up Dude”. He should be in the chair as I type this. I think Imma pick him up that Madden 2013 on the way home.
Into the Light
January 8th, 2013
12:36 pm
It is going around here, too….. I’m all about the Emergen-C and B-12 right now.
…….*sigh*…….could this blog day get any slower?!!!? And where did Court go?
Bluzgirl
January 8th, 2013
12:41 pm
ITL – I know, right? I thought it was gonna be a juicy blog day. I just gotta kill time until 2:45, when I go to the dentist to get a crown put on. Oh joy!
Leggs
January 8th, 2013
12:42 pm
DuShawn ~ he would love that, esp. since he was so nervous. Thank goodness the stigma that used to surround braces is gone.
I had a dinner date Friday evening that I had to cancel because I knew I didn’t have the level of energy I normally have. Told him I wasn’t feeling well and wouldn’t want to go out and infect him or others. I knew he got an attitude, but it was nothing I could control. I asked for a rain check and instead of saying “ok,” he said possibly. I knew then. Haven’t heard back from him. Would have been nice if he called to see how I was doing. New recruit so he didn’t have to, but would have been nice…oh well.
Into the Light
January 8th, 2013
12:46 pm
Bluz – we are on the same schedule. I’m not going to the dentist, but I do have a dr. app’t this afternoon. Hmph.
Into the Light
January 8th, 2013
12:47 pm
Speaking of dentists, has anyone used “Smile Brite” services for teeth whitening? I was thinking of buying today’s Groupon……
Sassy Me...Feeling like New ;-)
January 8th, 2013
12:51 pm
like to suck the bottom lip
Cosign!!…juuust a lil bit.
I’m all about the Emergen-C and B-12 right now.
I got a flu shot(the job gives ‘em out for free that’s the only reason I get them) and so far I’m good. Never had the flu but it sounds like pure D hell. Get better Leggs and get lil Leggs some preventive meds(emergen-C,etc.) just in case…revv her up so the “sickness won’t take holt”…like my granny used to say..
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 8th, 2013
12:55 pm
Ok….back in the mix….. What??? Did e’rrbody drop the kissing convo??? Sucking bottom lips is good….. nibbling on ears ans licking necks is even better!!!
Into the Light
January 8th, 2013
12:56 pm
(ITL pulling out the stool next to her at the bar) Court….have a seat. Set a spell….
Bluzgirl
January 8th, 2013
12:57 pm
Haven’t tried the Smile Brite, but curious about it. If you do it, let me know how it is…
Willie Dynamite
January 8th, 2013
1:01 pm
Afternoon all,
Leggs- hope u get better. IMO everything you take is just a bandaid until it runs it’s course. I’m a big baby when I’m sick so just give me enough drugs to knock me out, wakeup and repeat.
Topic- I am a fan of kissing but with rules. I remember I was 13 just starting puberty. I had a real good friend-girl round 17/18 or so. She noticed the change in me and took it upon herself to teach me how to kiss and feel up a girl the right way. Of course no complaints from me. Well long story short my older Bruh found out and he was 38 hot. He jacked me up and said listen “don’t be out here kidding on hoes. You do t need to know why just don’t be kissing on any and every ho”. Come find out later my lil friend girl was more than a good kisser.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 8th, 2013
1:01 pm
Sooooo……Into the Light…. I take it yo are a fan if lip service?!?!?!?!.
Into the Light
January 8th, 2013
1:01 pm
@Bluz: Will do. There’s one right down the street from Darwin’s….. Lawd knows my espresso shot addiction makes it hard to maintain the whitest white.
Into the Light
January 8th, 2013
1:03 pm
Oh yes, Court. Yes indeed.
Bluzgirl
January 8th, 2013
1:06 pm
Dang…just had a member inside the credit union I work at making a big old fuss over something stupid. All of us came out of our offices because he was very loud and arguing with one of the tellers. That can be a little scary, but the “fill in” supervisor grabbed him and brought him into her office to try to calm down the situation…
Dynamic
January 8th, 2013
1:09 pm
Have you ever had to tell the person you are dating that there is one thing that you simply refuse to do? ….This is the one I want ppl to answer….I have a few, wanted to c if I’m the only weirdo!
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 8th, 2013
1:11 pm
Well, Ms. Light…the only thing better than some slow lip is a fast tongue…..
( WOW!!! That was cheesy to teh highest level!!!)
Button
January 8th, 2013
1:13 pm
since I started a regimen virgin coconut oil in my diet, I haven’t had the flu since the winter of 1999. It’s also good for hair, nails, skin too, the benefits are priceless.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
January 8th, 2013
1:14 pm
Dynamic…Never had anything presented that I have not been willing to try……. Now there are one or two deal breakers, but as long as they are not presented, I am GOOD!!!