2012 Dating Vent
The best part of having dating misadventures is the lessons learned and the wisdom that comes from them (see what I did there?). So as the year is nearing it’s final end, I think it is important to air out any dating grievances you have. That way you can clean slate your dating record and start out on a positive note.
It’s been a good year of single life and boo’d up life, some make ups and break ups. Currently in a holding pattern with my beau so I don’t have many grievances, thankfully, but I do have a few:
1. Why is it SO hard for people to be loyal? I know it’s human nature to be self serving jerks, but would it kill us to actually be reliable and loyal? Especially to the people that have been loyal to you. I won’t hold grudges but my memory is long.
2. Sometimes people talk themselves out of relationships, romance, or sex. Know when to shut up and learn to recognize body language and facial expressions. If you are mid-conversation and realize that someone is looking at you as if you have 3 heads, find out why. If you offended them, turned them off, apologize.
3. Focus! There are many single people that are focus challenged. They can’t focus on a particular person to pursue and date. Or worse, they can’t put their phone down and focus on the date. Major turn off. Who or what is so important that you have to ignore someone sitting across from you? FOCUS.
I feel better already! What do you want to vent about? What dating misadventures did you have this year that made you wiser?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Exiled!
December 21st, 2012
12:05 pm
if a he been withcha more than 5years and got multiple kids witcha, he need to wife you?
@Jake…the kids aint yours, u step dadding them…..so Slim buddy says, wife the mom + the kids…. ha ha ha
Sucker_2013!
thats Slim’s friend wish for ALL AA Men..
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 21st, 2012
12:09 pm
if a he been withcha more than 5years and got multiple kids witcha, he need to wife you?
Jake – Not saying that per say but why not??? Why keep having kids or what have you dangling the marriage carrot out in front, to just want to keep it status quo
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 21st, 2012
12:11 pm
I just don’t get what keeps you from going ahead to that final step???
Jake-SPJTWB
December 21st, 2012
12:11 pm
if they aint your kids, its different…if they are, quit holdin the chick hostage with the empty promises of a future if you are not going down that route.
MsAtl
December 21st, 2012
12:15 pm
Jake, I was hoping he would stay out of the pen too.
Jake-SPJTWB
December 21st, 2012
12:19 pm
Oohhh Slim…its many things that keep you from that final step, you said it, “THAT FINAL STEP”. There is a finality to that step that is psychologically challenging to man. You’ve seen the movie “Old School”, when Will Ferrell is in counseling and says, “I’m finding it hard to deal with the fact that I can only have one vagina for the rest of my life, I find myself wondering what type of panties other women have on”….Its funny because its rooted in truth.
Jake-SPJTWB
December 21st, 2012
12:21 pm
MsAtown-that first album was fantastic!!!
MsAtl
December 21st, 2012
12:25 pm
It really was Jake! I listen to that one more than any of his other stuff. Hope he gets it (and keeps it) together.
Jake-SPJTWB
December 21st, 2012
12:28 pm
lol!!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hV2om9YBADI
kimmie
December 21st, 2012
12:29 pm
Jake – I find it kind of funny that alot of the very dudes that just can’t seem to bring themselves to marry because they can’t deal with the thought of never being with another woman – ain’t exactly gonna win an award for Player of the Year. What I mean is they are not “out there” dating and messing with every skirt that walks by and probably couldn’t pull them if they wanted to. They been laying up under the same woman for however many years and ain’t going nowhere cause nobody else wants their sorry behind. I mean I really could see if they were actively dating multiple women and just couldn’t settle down. But they are not. And they actually are able to convince some of the women they string along that they best stick with them cause no other dude will want them and they can’t do any better. But hey, if dude wants to live that illusion in their minds that they are “all that”, be my guest. I just wish more women could see that and not run up behind such dudes.
Exiled!
December 21st, 2012
12:30 pm
“I’m finding it hard to deal with the fact that I can only have one vagina for the rest of my life, I find myself wondering what type of panties other women have on”
marriage with skrip club benefits would be good.
disco
December 21st, 2012
12:32 pm
kimmie – thing is almost every man is a player in his own mind. sure there might be a few that know their own truth but very few.
kimmie
December 21st, 2012
12:34 pm
thing is almost every man is a player in his own mind.
Disco –
Jake-SPJTWB
December 21st, 2012
12:35 pm
Kimmie- you are 100% correct, in most cases, the dude ain’t even a player, but that is the “Jedi Mind Trick” of Manhood in terms of dating/marriage. Real Players get tired and settle down with the woman who is there when the light bulb comes on. The cats who been hittin the same old piece of azz are holdin out hope for new azz, so they are fighting settling down.
Dynamic
December 21st, 2012
12:36 pm
Vent for 2012
#1 Take care of ALL of your children
#2 Stop Lying
#3 Know that women are worth more than just sex!
Happy Holidays!!
disco
December 21st, 2012
12:39 pm
jake – I love to hear men own the fact that often times when they are ready it’s whoever is available when they are ready. what amazes me is that they have decent viable options at the ready. shoot, if women married whoever was available when they were ready I’m sure we’d spawn a nation of new-fangled imbeciles and miscreants.
Bluzgirl
December 21st, 2012
12:39 pm
So…no bonus, but they bought us Shane’s Rib Shack for lunch…
kimmie
December 21st, 2012
12:43 pm
Jake – Thanks for keeping it 100!
kimmie
December 21st, 2012
12:44 pm
Disco – I guess timing is everything!LOL!!
Exiled!
December 21st, 2012
12:47 pm
I love to hear men own the fact that often times when they are ready it’s WHOEVER is available when they are ready
@Disco….flag on that!
WHOEVER maybe true if the man is waay late and old and he left with no choice……but u talking bout a man maybe in his late 60s maybe….
A man, even at late 50, can still snag a good upstanding late spring chcken thats used but not too bad!….
Men dont have that problem of going for Whoever when they ready…..that must only be true in small towns,where the women circulation is a tricke… if ever.
kimmie
December 21st, 2012
12:49 pm
Well Beaufiful Blog People, that’s gonna be it for me today! I am off and won’t be back until next Friday morning!
Please stay safe, but have fun doing it!!!
Peace and Happy Holidays!
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 21st, 2012
12:49 pm
kimmie 12:29 – EXACTLY!
Jake – I’m not sure what it takes to turn that train of thought around for guys…to not focus on that alone or FINALITY of it all. Why not see it it as a new chapter of things to experience together in the future..build together.
Bluzgirl
December 21st, 2012
12:52 pm
Merry Christmas kimmie! Hope you have a great one!
Jake-SPJTWB
December 21st, 2012
12:53 pm
Disco- There is a reason why when men announce that they are getting married, somebody responds…well who is the lucky lady; because it is luck to extent, here is how:
Men make a decision to get married, and it happens when it happens, there are many a beautiful, intelligent, perfectly suitable marriage mates out here for men, despite the high number of hoes mixed in, but; said man will not be getting married until he is ready to live that lifestyle, the lady he is dating at that time is, The Lucky Lady.
He likely has had other women who treated him just as she does, but he is actually ready when he pops that question.
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 21st, 2012
1:00 pm
Jake – BOOM there ya have it folks…no matter how great each women he deals with is, no matter the freshness each one provides, dude ain’t going on a knee unless he’s tying his shoes until HE’S in that mindset? Well, with that said, why even get involved in long-term relationships at all?? That’s where women get ticked off because by nature, we are nesters…so we see time spent, all activities included as INVESTMENT. We have to be more selective since normally we can only have one offspring at a time for a limited time, so in essence that time we spend with yall is valuable.
Jake-SPJTWB
December 21st, 2012
1:06 pm
Slim- its inevitable, a lot of things change with commitment, and all those things are not good. In order to have a good relationship, aman must be considerate, which just is not a natural strength. Case and point, check-ins, women love to know their man is safe, but he hates talking to you when he is out. He has been being “out” all these years safely, nothing has changed, its probably the same bar/club, whatever….but now he has to consider a mates feelings, which is all good, but bothersome as well.
Jake-SPJTWB
December 21st, 2012
1:19 pm
Slim- I will stand by 12:53PM..Its the Hotel Vacancy Theory….If that sign says No Vacancy (Not thinking about marriage), it doesn’t matter who you know in Management (Mama), who coming in 2nd Shift(bro & sis, extended family), there are no available rooms…If one becomes available (I am ready to get married)then the next guest gets the room.
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 21st, 2012
1:24 pm
Jake – I like that analogy..usually it’s the taxi reference lol
Celisea
December 21st, 2012
1:36 pm
Nothing much happening in here I see….
Nothing on topic. No venting here. I’m good! I’m all topic’d out anyway….lol
Love love love love Kelly Price’s rendition of Ava Maria….love love love it!! Listening now.
Celisea
December 21st, 2012
1:37 pm
Sang it gurl!!!
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 21st, 2012
1:44 pm
Yall think we’re going to have some new refreshing topics for 2013? And now that I think about it, I wonder if MIA ever goes back to read our daily comments or does she just post a topic and keepit moving?
MsAtl
December 21st, 2012
2:01 pm
Have a great holiday break all! See you after Christmas…
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 21st, 2012
2:09 pm
Dang, I see everyone jumping ship…I have another 50 minutes to go and I need a nap sooooo bad
Leggs
December 21st, 2012
2:12 pm
I’m still here, unfortunately. Let me go back and read the few posts I’ve missed.
disco
December 21st, 2012
2:21 pm
i’m still here too.
Into the Light
December 21st, 2012
2:21 pm
I’m here, too! Supposed to be off today, but needed to finish up some projects….
Into the Light
December 21st, 2012
2:22 pm
Heeeeey, Slim, disco, and Leggs! We hangin on like a hair in a biscuit….
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 21st, 2012
2:25 pm
ITL – Not to take it there but when I read, hanging on like a hair in a biscuit, I immediately thought of a dingleberry
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 21st, 2012
2:25 pm
A delinquent partial turd which grasps anal shrubery causing brownish crust to accumulate in ones boxers.
My wife tells me that I need to wipe my ass better because my dingleberries are making my underware a nasty mess
Leggs
December 21st, 2012
2:28 pm
SlimNu ~ what’s wrong with you (lol)?
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 21st, 2012
2:33 pm
Leggs – The mind is a mysterious thing…that definition was from the Urban dictionary
disco
December 21st, 2012
2:33 pm
leggs – I’m just glad slim answered the question “what’s a dingleberry” before I had to ask.
Single & Happy
December 21st, 2012
2:34 pm
Hey all
No dating issues here, it is what it is
Happy Holidays to everyone
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wipeZxxBi4c
disco
December 21st, 2012
2:34 pm
certain family members of mine used to have their little boys refer to their man parts as “goober candy”. don’t know where that one came from.
Leggs
December 21st, 2012
2:39 pm
I am so, so bored. People are vacating the premises left and right.
Into the Light
December 21st, 2012
2:40 pm
Goober candy?!?!??! That’s a new one on me. And I’ve heard a lot of them…..
Which reminds me, what is it with men giving their junk a name? “Hi, I’d like you to meet Sterling. Sterling, ITL…shake and be nice…..”
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 21st, 2012
2:40 pm
See, it wasn’t in vain afterall…thanks disco
Single & Happy
December 21st, 2012
2:42 pm
So the world is supposed to be ending today? That’s sad. I never found out who let the dogs out, the way to get to Sesame Street, why Dora doesn’t just use Google maps, why we don’t ever see the headline “Psychic Wins Lottery”, why women can’t put on mascara with their mouth closed, why “abbreviated” is such a long word, why lemon juice is made with artificial flavor yet dishwashing liquid is made with real lemons, why they sterilize the needle for lethal injections and why do you have to “put your two cents in” but it’s only a “penny for your thoughts”? Where’s that extra penny going to? Why did Joanie love Chachi? Can a hearse carrying a corpse drive in the carpool lane? Does the alphabet song and twinkle twinkle little star have the same tune? Why did you just try to sing those two previous songs? And just what is Victoria’s secret?
disco
December 21st, 2012
2:42 pm
ITL – I don’t know why the man parts get a name. perhaps because he/it has a mind of it’s own he/it is treated as a separate entity. I wonder how funny it would be at a party to go around the room and ask all the men what they call him/it? lol.
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 21st, 2012
2:42 pm
I would not want to use any candy reference in naming private parts in children. Surely do not want to give them that distorted imagery.
Stranger: Hi there little man. You want some candy? I have a whole lot of it in my truck
Lil Kid: Ewwwwwwww Mr. Man, you are nasty. I already have one in my pants and why do you have so many in your truck? You cannot have mine (boy runs away holding his wee wee)