Dating: Opposed to couples therapy?
I want to start off saying I fully support seeking therapy. I recommend it, even. However, if have just met someone and we are not exclusively dating, couples therapy should not be required. It would be odd and inappropriate. What sort of issues have you uncovered in a three minute, yet to be determined relationship?
I told my friend Vincent that his new love interest may be a little high strung because she wants them to go see her pastor for counseling. Couples counseling. Again, not opposed to seeking therapy, but couples therapy when you’re not a couple? RED FLAG. They only met a few months ago and she has issues with how he communicates already. I guess she is the type to be proactive?
What do you think? Has anyone ever asked you to go to therapy with them? If you had a new relationship and hit rough patch already, would you be willing to work things out with a professional?
Would it bother you if the person you were dating had a therapist or life coach?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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i'm swiss
December 20th, 2012
3:21 pm
Leggs — I think you forgot something. C’mon, you know you want to say it….
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 20th, 2012
3:22 pm
swiss – You’re going to get me in trouble or something. I can see myself at a drive-thru or store later making a purchase. Cashier asks me if there is anything else she can help me with and I respond, ‘No but can i help you with dem T!TTIES!”
Leggs
December 20th, 2012
3:22 pm
Bluz ~ in terms of your 3:12, girl like SlimNu said, pat yourself on the back. Pump yourself up. Don’t wait for anyone to do it for you AND, bump the weather. It’s gloomy only if you make it that way. So what it’s raining, you can still make it a beautiful day. Sitting on couch, nice book, chilled bottle of wine, nice music on in the background and rain pelting against the window pane. All that is a beautiful thing, chica (with or w/o someone)….stop getting things twisted!!
Sassy Me...I feel like bustin loose!! ;-)
December 20th, 2012
3:23 pm
Titillating T!TTIES to you & yours!
Swiss trust and believe me when I say, with my birthday being on Monday more than that’s going to be titillating around my house tonight(all over the house)…I’ve been naughty and promised a spanking…and I can’t wait.
Peace y’all
Leggs
December 20th, 2012
3:23 pm
swiss ~ i ain’t saying it (rofl)…HUSH!
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 20th, 2012
3:24 pm
the ies makes the dickies sound more like weenie-sized
DuShawn
December 20th, 2012
3:25 pm
lol..yall killin me with the T!TT!ES!!. I remember that was a chant the bruhs used to have “What kind of t!tt!es do you prefer”….. “I like my t!tt!es sweet as a sweet potayta… like the kind that belong to Delta Sigma Theta”….I was really a young fool back then.
i'm swiss
December 20th, 2012
3:25 pm
Sassy — Your b-day is Monday? That’s little SwissMochette’s due date.
Enjoy your spanking, you dirty, dirty girl, you….
Oh, and T!TTIES!
i'm swiss
December 20th, 2012
3:29 pm
“yall killin me with the T!TT!ES!!”
DuShawn — There are worse ways to go, my friend…
DuShawn
December 20th, 2012
3:31 pm
I used to beat it up back then, trajectory was so powerful used to leave nut stains on the ceiling, now when my old a$$ bust, a puff of white dust come out, like baby powder.
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 20th, 2012
3:31 pm
Happy Yule Tied T!TTIES!
MsAtl
December 20th, 2012
3:33 pm
Bluz- Lol @ Dickies. Like I say, I am strictly dickly.
Single- when I say I have “seen” , I’m talking about meeting or knowing therapists, not seeing in therapy, lol.
Swiss- congrats on the little one!
DuShawn- Enjoy your break. Be safe & watch your ankles.
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 20th, 2012
3:33 pm
Um…whew….cough cough….mmmm wow
disco
December 20th, 2012
3:34 pm
leggs – I know those words were meant to be encouraging to bluz but sometimes you don’t mind being alone and sometimes you do. sometimes all that enjoying your own company crap is just that, a bunch of crap. lol.
Leggs
December 20th, 2012
3:36 pm
I’ve always hear this talk about busting a nut and juice all on ceiling. I have yet to seen that theory in practice (lol).
swiss ~ congrats dude on the birth of your first child, a beautiful daughter!
Bluzgirl
December 20th, 2012
3:38 pm
LOL! I’m totally teasing! Just had to say something other than T!TTIES!!! Trying to get something for the girls
Leggs
December 20th, 2012
3:40 pm
Shet it up, disco!
In her case, you always have to flip the script of normalcy. So, being alone is usually not good!
i'm swiss
December 20th, 2012
3:40 pm
Thanks, MsATL & Leggs! And congrats to both of you on your…
T!TTIES!!!!!
Leggs
December 20th, 2012
3:41 pm
Shet it up, disco (lol).
In Bluz’ case, must flip the script on normal factor of spending time alone.
Of all records to play right now = Marvin Gaye “Get To This!”
Bluzgirl
December 20th, 2012
3:41 pm
Slim – I’m more ticked off than down about the whole bonus thing. Several of us feel that way. We just got our pay stubs about 30 minutes ago and I was hopeful for at least a letter to go with it…Oh well…what can you do?
Leggs
December 20th, 2012
3:41 pm
swiss ~ I’m looking down at my cleavage smiling!
i'm swiss
December 20th, 2012
3:42 pm
Man, I’ve got to be careful. I’m sitting here on a conference call and I’m gonna slip up and yell “T!TTIES!!!” if I’m not careful… lol
DuShawn
December 20th, 2012
3:43 pm
“I’ve always hear this talk about busting a nut and juice all on ceiling. I have yet to seen that theory in practice….”.- Leggs – you will never see it hit the cieling if the back of your throat keeps getting in the way.
Bluzgirl
December 20th, 2012
3:43 pm
I have no problem being alone. I really don’t mind if Magnum and I don’t get together tonight and I can just curl up on the couch, watch Christmas movies, and wrap presents. I’ll be in a MUCH better mood as soon as 5:00 gets here. I know I will…
Single and Happy
December 20th, 2012
3:43 pm
see there’s that disco therapy
MsAtl
December 20th, 2012
3:48 pm
DuShawn- D’oh! (covering my face at your 3:43.
Swiss- I second Leggs’ 3:41
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 20th, 2012
3:48 pm
DuS – DAYUM!
Leggs – It is not a myth, i’ve been privy to this phenomenom. You have to be careful because they could be misidentified as water stains
Leggs
December 20th, 2012
3:49 pm
DuShawn ~ I’m cracking up…Touche, touche!!!
Leggs
December 20th, 2012
3:51 pm
MsAtl ~ umm are you meaning my 3:36, not 3:41
i'm swiss
December 20th, 2012
3:54 pm
” umm are you meaning my 3:36, not 3:41″
Leggs — No, she means the 3:41. MsATL is rightfully proud of her T!TTIES!
i'm swiss
December 20th, 2012
3:56 pm
Or maybe she just likes your T!TTIES, Leggs?
i'm swiss
December 20th, 2012
3:58 pm
Either way, I’m smiling.
T!TTIES!
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 20th, 2012
3:59 pm
If I were to have this thing yall refer to as ‘cleavage’ where would I find it? lol
i'm swiss
December 20th, 2012
4:00 pm
Slim — I hear you can find it at Pin-ups.
i'm swiss
December 20th, 2012
4:01 pm
Allegedly
i'm swiss
December 20th, 2012
4:01 pm
T!TTIES!
Leggs
December 20th, 2012
4:05 pm
swiss ~ forgot about that 3:41. I was looking at the 3:41 to disco.
Leggs
December 20th, 2012
4:07 pm
“If I were to have this thing yall refer to as ‘cleavage’ where would I find it? lol”
SlimNu ~ you may have to endure like I did for a few decades, then POOF, first weight gain is in the mammary glands! Such a beautiful sight (lol).
i'm swiss
December 20th, 2012
4:08 pm
Slim — You just need to get knocked up. It’s like Miracle-Gro for T!TTIES.
i'm swiss
December 20th, 2012
4:09 pm
I wonder how many times I can say it before my azz gets banned?
Leggs
December 20th, 2012
4:11 pm
BTW, not sure if any you have heard, but it was asked on GMA that people wear white and green tomorrow as a way of showing support for those suffering through the tragedy of Sandy Hook Elementary. Green and white are the school colors.
DuShawn
December 20th, 2012
4:12 pm
it’s a trip. I be hyped to tear out this muffuka. Then after the 400, 285 and then 20 whoop my a$$, I don’t want to do Sh&*t but lay down when I walk in the door. This Atlanta commute is crucial.
DuShawn
December 20th, 2012
4:15 pm
SlimNu- If you got some yarn, chicken grease and two clothes pins…..I could make you grow some
t!tt!es in 57 days.
Leggs
December 20th, 2012
4:16 pm
Sounds like it DuShawn if you have to get on all 3 of those highways! One more day to vac…one more day. I have the Christmas gift cards for people sitting in my area and I can’t find nare one of them. If they don’t come in tomorrow, they will be S.O.L and will receive their cards on 1/2/13 because my desk will be locked while I’m gone!
Leggs
December 20th, 2012
4:17 pm
Reading that DuShawn, doesn’t warrant one thinking of growth, just lots of PAIN!
Exiled!
December 20th, 2012
4:19 pm
Du…work over there on I-20 for less $$$
Cones to bout the same after gas
Into the Light
December 20th, 2012
4:21 pm
Lawdy mercy…. some people. I just look at them and think (in the words of Ronnie from Lizard Lick Towing): One million sperm, and you were the fastest???? smh….
Okay, commentary on some not-so-bright bulbs I’ve encountered today. How are y’all this afternoon?
Hey Bluz! Hey Leggs!
Swissykins, I will hit you up on FB. I can’ t wait to see Diva Mochette.
MsAtl
December 20th, 2012
4:22 pm
Lol- talking about my own, not Leggs’.
Into the Light
December 20th, 2012
4:22 pm
just lots of PAIN!
…..depends on what you’re doing with the clothes pins…. IJS.
Exiled!
December 20th, 2012
4:25 pm
U wldnt want the slower fat sperm would u?
&@ITL