I have sent out PSAs before about picking the wrong gifts for the person you have recently met and started to date (Brief recap: Porn and lingerie won’t go over well). I feel the need to also warn single people of the gift trap.
People can sometimes place totally unrealistic, utterly silly expectations on a gift. What it means, what message is being sent, etc. It’s a gift trap, guys. The way to stay out of the gift trap is to first make sure you both are on the same page in terms of commitment!
You don’t want to be faced with getting an extravagant gift as you hand over a $5.00 iTunes gift card (Awwkwaaaard). You also don’t want to be the only one actually buying a gift. That will only lead to “Are they into me the same way I’m into them?” worries. This will kill any sexy time you have planned. It’s lose-lose, man.
Play it safe and avoid the pitfalls of the gift trap: Know your status. Clarify if a gift exchange is planned. Keep the exchange as even as possible as not to stir up unnecessary conflict.
Have you ever been caught in the gift trap? What is the best gift you ever had from someone you were dating?
Did you ever get an odd gift from the person you were dating? I still have this crystal unicorn statue thingy from a guy who was in hot pursuit of me. It took me 12 minutes to figure out what it was. Then another 18 minutes to determine if he thought I was some medieval, fragile creature that doesn’t talk much. See? Gift trap! I would have been totally fine with an iTunes gift card!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog