Dating: Don’t fall in the gift trap!
I have sent out PSAs before about picking the wrong gifts for the person you have recently met and started to date (Brief recap: Porn and lingerie won’t go over well). I feel the need to also warn single people of the gift trap.
People can sometimes place totally unrealistic, utterly silly expectations on a gift. What it means, what message is being sent, etc. It’s a gift trap, guys. The way to stay out of the gift trap is to first make sure you both are on the same page in terms of commitment!
You don’t want to be faced with getting an extravagant gift as you hand over a $5.00 iTunes gift card (Awwkwaaaard). You also don’t want to be the only one actually buying a gift. That will only lead to “Are they into me the same way I’m into them?” worries. This will kill any sexy time you have planned. It’s lose-lose, man.
Play it safe and avoid the pitfalls of the gift trap: Know your status. Clarify if a gift exchange is planned. Keep the exchange as even as possible as not to stir up unnecessary conflict.
Have you ever been caught in the gift trap? What is the best gift you ever had from someone you were dating?
Did you ever get an odd gift from the person you were dating? I still have this crystal unicorn statue thingy from a guy who was in hot pursuit of me. It took me 12 minutes to figure out what it was. Then another 18 minutes to determine if he thought I was some medieval, fragile creature that doesn’t talk much. See? Gift trap! I would have been totally fine with an iTunes gift card!
Happy Wednesday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Single and Happy
December 19th, 2012
7:54 am
Bah Humbug!!!
I guess I’ve been doing it wrong all these years, my first gift is always lingerie! If the relationship it that new then no gift exchange will be happening! I’m not one to give out gifts just because. No secret Santa, exchanging with coworkers, friends, or immediate family!
Yes I’m the grinch/scrooge!!
Celisea
December 19th, 2012
7:56 am
Well well well, ain’t this topic a coinkindink
BBL…..once I get to work!!!
Exiled!
December 19th, 2012
8:41 am
Cel..good morning….did you like the gift..and how did the vening go? hope fantab..to use ur lingo.
Gifts…yes, if i really wanted her..i wld gift her some lingerie…for me it was always about sending a message….the cost is not the issue….im not a cheapster if I want something for myself…even items of clothing….
I wldnt care less if she gave me a gift or not or what at what cost….not even an issue..because its me who wld be doing the pursuing and the cajoling…..
Females(Diva) dont understand how fun and exciting it is for some of us men with Big egos who luv to pursue women,live…..and watching as the woman’s interests seem to evolve to wanting you bad…and then bedding her!
And you know(Diva dont know this), the gift is part of the wooing process…it makes the woman, in some way,realise what type of man you are,even temporarily,if all you are angling for is the warm,rich,shimmy stuff!
Good morning MIA..kinda chilly!
Celisea......help me keep the keeper...lol
December 19th, 2012
9:10 am
Gooooooooooooood morning (officially)!!
Okay, so I run an errand and get home around 4:00 ish. I call, no answer so, I leave him a message (cause I’m all anxious and stuff). He doesn’t call me back but, just after 5:00 he texts me asking, “did you follow the instructions?” So, I open the box. In the box is a “gift box”….a beautiful box. On that box is a note that says “DO NOT OPEN, BE READY AT 6:00….lolololol When he gets there, I open……..
OMGoodness, there were all sorts of things in it….things he bought from his observation. From my soap and lotion to the candy I like to “thigh highs”, just all sorts of goodies. The best gift of all the chiffon robe. Absolutely exquisite! It was really done good taste… We left afterwards for dinner…..around 7:00 ish
Just soooo well done. Christmas is next week. After all this? What to do, what to do…..lol
disco
December 19th, 2012
9:16 am
good morning guys.
S/H – as usual, you tickle me. as I was reading the part about lingerie I was thinking that while it might be inappropriate and I might not be into dude like that, I most certainly wouldn’t have a problem accepting it. shoot, some of that stuff is expensive. the fact that dude wouldn’t get to see me in the lingerie he bought is his problem, not mine. lol.
celisea – I’m really feeling your “help me keep the keeper”. that’s what’s up. good luck with that. (btw, just in case it doesn’t read properly my good luck with not is not being said with sarcasm. I’m straight up this a.m.)
Celisea......help me keep the keeper...lol
December 19th, 2012
9:25 am
disco – I’ll take it!! lolololol
Celisea......help me keep the keeper...lol
December 19th, 2012
9:31 am
Honestly, I’m not cool with someone buying lingerie. I’m not. Not as a first gift anyway. Unless we start dating in January and you buy it as a “first gift” Christmas 11 months later….lol For me, it would send the wrong message. Especially if we start dating in January and it’s given for Valentine’s Day. Well, I guess by then, most folks have smashed.
Not knocking anyone else, but for me, that would seem inappropriate, as a first gift.
Bluzgirl
December 19th, 2012
9:35 am
It’s kind of nice that this year, I don’t have to worry about buying anything for a man. I like it! Money has been tight anyways and I’m not the best at picking out gifts. I did already know what I would get the Young One if things worked out, but they haven’t worked out, so I’m not gonna worry about it!
Celisea......help me keep the keeper...lol
December 19th, 2012
9:35 am
Oh, while I was running my errand waaaaay up in Marietta, I got turned around. I put the street name in my car’s GPS but failed to put the building number. I didn’t know where to go from there so, I flagged down a cop. Wouldn’t you know he was a brother…a nice looking brother…lol So, I asked him to point me and he does. Apparently I take what he says literally and turn right at the next street. So I’m driving about two miles off the main road only to come to an opening that appears to be some sort of training site. There’s a gun range that sits waaaaay back and about 5 buildings. As I’m turning around to pull out, feeling a little frustrated, who do I see pulling in? THE COP! He pulls up next to me and apologizes. Then he says, “follow me, I’ll take you there.” Mmm mmm mmm buddy shole was good looking.
Iyayayaya, if it weren’t for my gift box and my boo, I might would have asked him “what’s uuuuup?” I KID I KID, honestly, I was surprised that he made the extra effort.
Leggs
December 19th, 2012
9:42 am
That’s right, know your status = recently met someone = no need for gift exchanges. A holiday wish should suffice.
That was wonderful, Celisea!
Good morning!
Celisea......help me keep the keeper...lol
December 19th, 2012
9:46 am
Leggs – Thanks! I’m feeling
right about now.
Leggs
December 19th, 2012
9:48 am
Ex ~ just to let you know I have no ill feelings toward you. If you want to bypass my posts, I’m fine with that. Just wanted you to know I have anything against you. So, here’s my truce!
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
December 19th, 2012
9:54 am
Funny this should be the topic of the day……
This woman I have seen a few time recently asked to see my tablet… She pulled up a website and then just closed it out… She knew I would look to see where she went…I took the bait and did…
Two questions for the ladies…..
1st. What do you think of the bags?
2nd. Should i go with it and bet the gift she has set me up for????/
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
December 19th, 2012
9:57 am
Damn ….Forgot to include the link…..
Here we go…..
http://www.seatbeltbags.com/chestnut.html
Leggs
December 19th, 2012
10:06 am
Ummm????? Bags not my taste, but apparently they’re hers. If you want to spend that kind of money on someone you’ve seen a few times, you’re setting yourself up!
disco
December 19th, 2012
10:12 am
courtside – I feel two kinds of way about old girl’s move. on the one hand she did manage to show you what she wanted. on the other hand, she didn’t open her mouth and tell you what she wanted. she’s a grown woman. she ought to know the average man isn’t good with hints. lol. supposing, just supposing, you hadn’t bothered to check what site she looked at. she’d be azz out.
hey leggs!!!
Exiled!
December 19th, 2012
10:14 am
Cel…seems it was really nice..thats real good for u..seems dude is really feeling u like that…
since u asked,”what to do” …i guess u work it based on what ur desires are…either u want a long term relationship that goes all the waay or u you dont want to go all the way but want something concrete…he is grown..just let him know and let him handle it however way u spin it…
slow slow slow is good by me…as my sister….some of these men really go bust as welll after a period..so..slow and steady is good.
@Leggs…im not sure how to respond..honestly, i dont know who hates me or likes me but i really dont focus on that…i jus wanna contribute my way and disagree without acrimony with anybody…….
disco
December 19th, 2012
10:14 am
just looked at the bags. I’m not really feeling that either.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
December 19th, 2012
10:15 am
Leggs, She is all into living green and these bags are all made of recycled car seatbelts….. Not really sweating the cost cause she is cool enough but I do want her to know that if I go ahead and get one, its beacuse I wanted to, not because she gamed me…..
Exiled!
December 19th, 2012
10:20 am
Courtside…lol..im laughing..that was a hoe move……thanks for the link anyway..nice bags!
see…if she has to demand a gift,even subtly like that..for me, i may buy it..but its a smash,grab and run once she shows me that side of her.
hoe move…
For a steady chic, I. like more class than that!
Celisea......help me keep the keeper...lol
December 19th, 2012
10:20 am
Heeeey Meello – It was really thought out and well done. When I asked “what to do, what to do”, I mean in the terms of what to buy him for Christmas….lol Oh, he’s a keeper. I have no question or doubt about that. Grant it, we’ve been talking for months and just gone solid a couple of months. Remember, I wasn’t going to do too much for Christmas? That’s where I was leaning with that question. I think though, I’m sticking to my original plan of a “simple gift.” That was my birthday and I don’t try and outdo….not my thing. But, I appreciate you appreciating the steps he’s made so far. I sure do
Celisea......help me keep the keeper...lol
December 19th, 2012
10:22 am
meant not mean
disco
December 19th, 2012
10:23 am
celisea – just out of curiosity, are you walking around grinning in real life like your blog emoticons? if a theme song played while you walked, what would it be?
Celisea......help me keep the keeper...lol
December 19th, 2012
10:25 am
disco – LOLOLOLOLOL….yuuup
I’m walking on sunshine whooa-o, and don’t it feel good!! Aaah yeah now, and don’t it feel good!
Okay, Imma bring it down a notch….lololol
Leggs
December 19th, 2012
10:30 am
Ex ~ you don’t know to respond, cool! You came at me, just wanted to let you know I was putting it all behind me. “Just want to disagree without acrimony with anybody…….” then do that! No sweat!
Hello, disco! I thought the same in terms of why didn’t she just speak up. She could have taken the tablet then handed it back to him saying she likes this style of purse…something.
“…but I do want her to know that if I go ahead and get one, its beacuse I wanted to, not because she gamed me…..” Ok, how you gonna pull that off (lol)?
disco
December 19th, 2012
10:33 am
C – funny you picked that song. I had a co-worker that I swear had a sunbeams following her when she was engaged. it was like she didn’t walk, she skipped. her happiness was just overflowing. and, not to be all up in your business but these things are always interesting to me. do you have a special ringtone song for your fella? care to share? I may have mentioned on here before that whenever I call my brother he answers the phone cracking up. apparently his ring tone from me is some line from coming to America. I’ve never seen the movie so didn’t get the reference but it cracks him up.
Exiled!
December 19th, 2012
10:33 am
You came at me
@Leggs… maybe its me…i dont understand what u mean by “came at me”
Leggs
December 19th, 2012
10:36 am
Yes sir, it’s you. No longer important, Ex. It’s squashed! Let’s go forward and be productive residents of Blogsville!
Celisea......help me keep the keeper...lol
December 19th, 2012
10:39 am
disco – I’m happy that I had a really nice birthday…haven’t had one in a good while with a dude. Y’all know it takes me FO-EVA to get in that sort of arena. And there’s a bit of residual stuff happening this morning, but really, I’m more even keel than what you see. It’s just been a dern minute…lol With that being said, nope, I don’t do the ring tones stuff nor do I write my name and his last name….lololol
Exiled!
December 19th, 2012
10:40 am
I wasn’t going to do too much for Christmas? That’s where I was leaning with that question
@Cel….are u a Christmas giver or u not..generally?
I am not generally coz growing up, my folks did not celebrate births and xmas…so i am very timid and indifferent to gift giving at xmas but love the holiday spirit and food still..so my wife pulls the stops..gifting me..sometimes i dont even buy her a thang…she now understands….its not personal…its just my psyche..
If u digging this guy and are a gift giver..show him u digg him…if u not a xmas giver,then just do u..no need to set false expectations that u wont repeat down the road…
As a dude, i cant help musing to myself tho…if Cel digs dude,this gift has topped it….and… and if They have compromised already,she gon get him something Precious!
(maybe i asked the question indirectly) 
Celisea......help me keep the keeper...lol
December 19th, 2012
10:41 am
I should clarify, it takes me fo-eva to feel a dude, encounter a sincere dude, or believe one is sincere. There may have been some along the way, but if you ain’t will to show that your intentions are real, it just as well be a bust…for me. Not about me or me being all that or me being difficult. But, I need to know….I just do.
Single and Happy
December 19th, 2012
10:41 am
Disco, when I buy anyone lingerie I’m going to see you in it, because we will be at that point.If I don’t see you wearing that, don’t worry about me buying you anything else. I put a lot of time and effort into picking out gifts, because I’ll only buy them for someone special. And I have no problem with them returning it and getting something that they will use and enjoy. I’m not really into the wining and dining trying to woo someone, take me as I am, or don’t take me at all. Wooing wining and dining are GF privileges for me. If birthdays, or “special holidays” come up before we get to that point, If a simple dinner isn’t enough, oh well.
Celisea......help me keep the keeper...lol
December 19th, 2012
10:50 am
MMeello – You’re funny….I’m feeling your 10:40.
I’m a gift giver and not just to dudes. I should say, I’m not that woman that’s leaving notes around, writing poems, singing you love songs…all in an effort to constantly woo you. No need for that….IMO However, I am that woman that when I do something (not just limited to boos), I believe in doing it well. Sometimes that means spending and sometimes that means getting quality stuff for the low low. I don’t make it a practice to hit the clearance and sales racks when I’m purchasing for others, but I don’t snub it either. For anybody I’ve ever bought for, they can tell you, it’s gonna be 100….all the way. My mom is an old lady, for her, at this age where she don’t enjoy too much material and really can’t comprehend, she’s gonna “look” a million though…by me
Just how I am. So, I’ll get him something that will be oh so simple but very elegant. What that is? I don’t know yet…lololol
To your other “indirect” question….ummm, how about I take a pass on answering…lol
disco
December 19th, 2012
10:52 am
S/H – why that’s all fine and dandy. thing is we were talking about (or at least I was) guys that give lingerie before they are in a “lingerie place” with a chick. trust me I won’t feel compelled to model it just because some buster dude bought it. if I don’t like it I might tell him it’s too soon for that type of gift. if it’s kind of fly and I could see me in it, well, I’m just going to say thank you, accept the gift and keep on keeping on.
Celisea......help me keep the keeper...lol
December 19th, 2012
10:52 am
To clarify, when I say I’m not constantly “wooing”, IMO that’s the chick that feels she needs to keep relighting, reinventing. Do the dang thing once and let it evolve. lolololol
Exiled!
December 19th, 2012
10:53 am
I wanted to tell Disco this….met a lady at the train station on the platform…she asks me about the schedule etc(it was weekend) anyway..after a copule of minutes..she comes to me again,showing some on her phone..me trying to grab and have a close look, she pulls away saying,’oh,dont touch it”..anyway,she shows me a pic of her baby,then says,”Isnt she beautiful???”..
At that point, I thought of Disco….
All babies are cute anyway..so my answer was “Yes” nothing more……
somethig about the lady was just not right to me..why ask me the question…i dont know.
Celisea......help me keep the keeper...lol
December 19th, 2012
10:54 am
Awwww, my laid back dude here just gave me a “big ole thing of chocolate” and my dude in NC just sent me a Starbucks e/gift card…
Single and Happy
December 19th, 2012
10:55 am
Disco, I give no gift before it’s time (LOL) and you got to be special to me, and me to you before the first gift is giving.
Leggs
December 19th, 2012
11:00 am
“IMO that’s the chick that feels she needs to keep relighting, reinventing. Do the dang thing once and let it evolve. lolololol” – Every time I see comments like this, my brain automatically goes to Jackie Christie. It baffles me every year a wedding, but it works for them and they’re not concerned that I’m baffled (lol).
Celisea......help me keep the keeper...lol
December 19th, 2012
11:01 am
Leggs – That’s about the craziest thing….I agree
disco
December 19th, 2012
11:06 am
ex – what? the lady’s baby wasn’t cute? why else would you think of me?
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
December 19th, 2012
11:06 am
Whats wrong with relighting,or reinventing??? Why not put in teh work to keep it fresh so that we co not have to have the conversatin from yesterday……
Robert
December 19th, 2012
11:08 am
“Have you ever been caught in the gift trap?”
Ladies & Gentlemen, if you are having a hard time deciding on what to give your significant other I have a few good ideas use can use free of charge. After all the best things in life are free.
1. I.O.U’s – These are still very popular especially if experiencing financial difficulty. Men and women both love $$$ gifts.
2. Handyman/woman – We all need a good handyman/woman to fix and organize things around the house for free. I could sure use a handywoman to clean-up my house. My closet is a mess. I need to donate shoes and clothes I do not wear anymore.
3. Childcare – When was the last time you volunteered to babysit for free. Your BFF will appreciate your jesture.
4. Adultcare – Grandma/pa can sure use a night out on the town. Majic City here we come.
5. Doctor Care – Take your loved one to the doctor. Women love going to the doctor with their man so they can ask all the questions they want. When was the last time you and your mate had a physical exam? As a rule I encourage my women to go to the doctor with me so we both can be checked out for any and everything. You can not take going to the doctor lightly anymore especially if you are dating and are sexually active. Best gift idea ever.
disco
December 19th, 2012
11:09 am
leggs – who is Jackie Christie?
Single and Happy
December 19th, 2012
11:11 am
Ex, was like the Seinfeld episode with the ugly baby that was scaring everybody (LOL)
Disco saw that episode a few weeks ago, and thought of you also (LOL) “all babies aren’t cute”
Celisea......help me keep the keeper...lol
December 19th, 2012
11:12 am
IMO…and mine alone, that’s a sign of insecurity. There’s a difference in keeping things fresh, an intentional efforts from both sides versus a chick that going into overkill, all to impress. Where’s his/her effort (the person that’s on the receiving end of said notes and poems and writings and post its)?? lololololol
Celisea......help me keep the keeper...lol
December 19th, 2012
11:14 am
Soooooooooooo not happening. I’ve raised my kid and they should probably do the same. Can’t get away cause of the kid(s)? Well, such is life.
Childcare – When was the last time you volunteered to babysit for free. Your BFF will appreciate your jesture.
4. Adultcare – Grandma/pa can sure use a night out on the town. Majic City here we come.
Exiled!
December 19th, 2012
11:14 am
@Disco…coz u have mentioned ur indiffrence to women talking bout their babies at work…
Celisea......help me keep the keeper...lol
December 19th, 2012
11:15 am
Further to my “insecurity” definition, “constantly” stroking another ain’t necessary. Building your man/woman, supporting, being in their corner…yep all day long. Stroking your ego? Not so much
Leggs
December 19th, 2012
11:16 am
disco ~ too funny. Jackie Christie is on BBWives L.A. She’s married to Doug Christie. Been married 17 years I believe. She’s an emotional wreck, easy to cry, starves for attention, and hears what she wants to hears. I even think she makes things up in her mind. Nonetheless, she loves her husband. Her husband loves her too, but I would bet he’s afraid of her as well.
Courtside ~ nothing wrong with keeping your relationship fresh and exciting, that’s what couples should do.
Celisea......help me keep the keeper...lol
December 19th, 2012
11:18 am
Been married 17 years I believe. She’s an emotional wreck, easy to cry, starves for attention, and hears what she wants to hears
= (equals)
Post it notes, poems, writings, singing…..lololololol
Celisea......help me keep the keeper...lol
December 19th, 2012
11:19 am
Oh, I left off spending, buying friendship
disco
December 19th, 2012
11:21 am
ex – lol. yep. that would be me.
s/h – that would be me also. I was in the grocery store a few weeks back and I swear I saw a baby that was so daggone homely that I bucked back a bit and literally made a sound like “oooh”. I know. it’s wrong but it is what it is.
kimmie
December 19th, 2012
11:22 am
Hey Blog Gang!!
The direct approach is best, if your relationship is new. You are past the “no gift expected” stage, but before “nice gift expected”. In past cases like that, I baked dude cookies and put them in a nice tin, along with a card and called it a day.
I got my boo 3 nice “date night” type shirts. Fitted, tailored shirts that are nice, but not a dress shirt. He’s gonna look hot in them. I am getting him some of that new cologne by Chanel and a gift card for a massage.
I’ve never gotten lingere from a guy I dated, so I’ve never been in a position of awkwardness there. One guy gave me a VS gift card, and I got some nice items, but he never saw me in them, cause he showed his behind and didn’t earn that luxury! My hubs gave me a robe and slippers on our 2nd Christmas of dating, but it did not count as lingere.
I really never believed in spending a ton of money on gifts while dating. Nice stuff, yes, but I know folks who went over the top with it. Even if you got it like that, I just believe in showing a little restraint until you are married, but that’s me. The most expensive Christmas present I’ve gotten was my engagement ring!
disco
December 19th, 2012
11:24 am
kimmie – re engagement ring most expensive gift received. to that I say, “I should hope so”. lol.
kimmie
December 19th, 2012
11:27 am
I don’t care much for Courtside lady’s bags, but they are a unique idea. I guess I’m different, cause I would feel a little apprehensive asking a dude I was just seeing occasionally for such an expensive gift. But that’s me.
kimmie
December 19th, 2012
11:27 am
Disco – You right!!
Leggs
December 19th, 2012
11:28 am
I’ve received lingerie from a committee member I had to return.
I would imagine all that may be going on, Celisea.
Celisea......help me keep the keeper...lol
December 19th, 2012
11:30 am
Random
Off topic:
Have you ever just “known” something and went along? What’s the greater disservice, going along and allowing them to think they’re doing the dang thing or snatching the rug??
Don’t mind me, that was random and rhetorical….lolololol
disco
December 19th, 2012
11:30 am
courtside – where are you? (not that I really need you but I’m going to respond to kimmie’s post re your girl and her bag)
kimmie – I see several possibilities with that one. by the way how much were the bags? I looked but didn’t check prices. anyway, she could have it like that herself and thus expect others to have it like that as well. some folks are just like that. she could be the spoiled type that feels entitled to whatever she asks for. or, she could just be running game, putting it out there and seeing if some sucker (no offense courtside) bites. who knows? maybe she asked half a dozen guys for the exact same bag. lol.
Celisea......help me keep the keeper...lol
December 19th, 2012
11:32 am
Leggs – Yeah, I would imagine so. Po thang
Celisea......help me keep the keeper...lol
December 19th, 2012
11:33 am
One arm spinning a 10 armed wheel has got to be tiring…
Another random…
Off to work now
kimmie
December 19th, 2012
11:35 am
disco – None of the bags were under $100. But everything you mentioned is a possibiltiy, I agree.
Leggs
December 19th, 2012
11:37 am
kimmie ~ she should have shown him what she liked then let him ponder on whether he would surprise her by purchasing it. Not pulling up the site, then closing it and handing him back the tablet. She must be one powerhouse where she doesn’t even need to speak to receive such an expensive gift only after seeing him a few times (lol).
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
December 19th, 2012
11:38 am
disco, Right here in Duluth
.. I am pretty good when it comes to gift giving. I give freely to those that I deal with and do not usally expect much back ( Not in the way of presents that is LOLOLOL). The bags she pointed out top out at like $250.00 or so…. Not really that much but still……..
Robert
December 19th, 2012
11:38 am
@kimmie – “I’ve never gotten lingere from a guy I dated”
Most men like to see their woman wear their dress shirts and tee shirts while spending the night. The only time I see my woman in lingere (briefly) is if we are traveling out of town and staying in a hotel. I prefer if we both sleep naked (birthday suits) all the time.
kimmie
December 19th, 2012
11:42 am
She must be one powerhouse where she doesn’t even need to speak to receive such an expensive gift only after seeing him a few times (lol).
Leggs – Yeah. Pretty slick!!LOL!!
Most men like to see their woman wear their dress shirts and tee shirts while spending the night.
Robert – Gotta admit, that sounds pretty sexy.
Exiled!
December 19th, 2012
11:46 am
Disco..i had a workmate,back in the day ask me to buy her from a cataloque she showed me..as an Xmas present…but in exchange for a lay up….
we just didnt follow thru with it…scheduling conflict..
Dang she was nice!
disco
December 19th, 2012
11:52 am
ex – on the one hand, that’s messed up. on the other hand, I respect her game. you got to put in to get out. lol. by chance do you remember what she wanted you to buy her?
Leggs
December 19th, 2012
11:54 am
Courtside, first pic of bag topped out at $278.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
December 19th, 2012
12:13 pm
Leggs….same ball park….If I go that route, I will get one in the $100 to $150 range. Nice investment, but not TOO NICE….
Leggs
December 19th, 2012
12:17 pm
Courtside, so you’re looking for a return on that gift? I thought gifts were just that gifts (lol).
Leggs
December 19th, 2012
12:19 pm
Courtside ~ have you been away and recently moved back to the ATL?
Exiled!
December 19th, 2012
12:20 pm
No cant remember what she wanted, Disco…
chic even had a boyfriend, she told me…i had stepped to her but had been rebudffed..we became lunch buddies…..so we became more comfy with each other…
Xmas season rolls and we in the breakroom and she showing me stuff she likes….
so i threw in the bone,’ur guy is lame or he wld buy that!”….now All greedy heffas with expensive fashion sense/taste will lick their chops when they hear this…
she did bite…”so will u buy it for me Meeelo,plz”
I said, ‘uhu.uuu…when u wont even let me hit it?”
“U got it!”..she mutters..
That was set….but for my lack of follow thru…
I still think bout that chic..phine as chocolate
Bluzgirl
December 19th, 2012
12:21 pm
Also Courtside, there were several different bags on that page…it would be hard to know which style she would want…
Exiled!
December 19th, 2012
12:27 pm
Im sure the website wont mind anyone buying and returning for a similar prized bag…the heffa knows this already….
or she hustling…there is a recession..just get a good lady bag….re-sale it
If Courtside is new in Atlanta…yea,he may be taken as well
Lot of phine looking chics running game.
Jake-SPJTWB
December 19th, 2012
12:34 pm
Hey Good Peeps, how the hell are you?? Got this foot off my neck for a sec.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
December 19th, 2012
12:36 pm
Leggs, No, moved here to go to school in 2000… Like the city so much I stayed
Leggs
December 19th, 2012
12:40 pm
Hello, SPJ!
Tks for answering Courtside. How did your girl feel about being on the Kiss Cam?
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
December 19th, 2012
12:57 pm
LOL…..I was not caught on the kiss cam….Long story, but sad to say it was not me
Lee
December 19th, 2012
1:08 pm
I don’t worry about gifts if we are just dating, if we are in a relationship that is different story. I am a nice gift giver
so you are going to get something expensive, last gift i gave was to my X it was a receiver for the stereo.
As for Courtside– i would never do something so chessy as what she did.. i know plenty of chiks that demand a expensive designer bag –its part of their game if that is what you want to call it. I would wait to see how things went.
Bluzgirl
December 19th, 2012
1:12 pm
O/T – I had my Tarot cards read for the first time last night. Was pretty interesting and right on. Only thing is…a friend did them, so I’d be more interested to see how it would be with someone who doesn’t know me at all…
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
December 19th, 2012
1:28 pm
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wYh5pC6ETII
Ok…The finest, sexiest, most talented woman in the entertainment world……………
Leggs
December 19th, 2012
1:40 pm
Then that makes even more interesting Courtside! Spill the beans.
DuShawn
December 19th, 2012
1:48 pm
“I gotta f&*#kin problem”…. Man, I just saw finest Asian chick I have ever seen. She had on some jeans, a sweater and some boots, nothing fancy. She had a body like a sista and moved with such elegance. When baby walked in the room, it seemed like she was in slow motion and the wind was blowing thru her hair like in a music video. Every dude in the spot was in awe and watched her every step (with their mouths hangin open). Typically, this is the exact moment when I would bum rush and introduce myself, while other men are still trying to build their confidence, but I (like the rest of the busters) let her get away without giving her an opportunity to choose. Dayum, I’m slippin. I can’t get the vision of how her a$$ looked in them jeans out of my head. This chick was special.
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
December 19th, 2012
1:51 pm
Ok… At the Hawks game with my Buddy….we are siiting in the lower ring but not nearly the best seats in the house. My buddy and I are standing in line to get a couple of beers and we start to chat up these two ladies. They are laughing and having a good time and as we wait ( about 5 minutes) I feel like they might be game to hang out afterwards….. I ask and the older and sexier of the two says..” well lets wait and see” If we run into you guys on the way out, then maybe”… I get a bit hyped. and we go our separate ways, but of course we watch to see what isle they go down so that we can be ther after the game… Well, the third quater comes along anthey put the kiss cam up on the big board.To my horror, there she is… laying a Big ole wet one on some dude right in front of the whole damn place… My boys say I suffered a death by Kiss Cam. So now the running joke is when ever there is that out of reach girl that someone notices, Leave it alone..or she will put you on the Jumbo Tron kiss cam…..
disco
December 19th, 2012
2:09 pm
courtside – that’s funny. it’s funny that she was on the cam but it’s funnier that y’all were straight calculating how to be in their space after the game.
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 19th, 2012
2:10 pm
Afternoon folks,
I have NO earthly idea what to get the beau for Christmas and whenever I ask what he wants, the answer is I DON’T KNOW…welll, I don’t know either
I’m really not in the mood for this holiday anyway..
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
December 19th, 2012
2:12 pm
disco…yeah…classic case of putting the cart before the horse…LOL
DuShawn
December 19th, 2012
2:13 pm
Courtside….So what happened? Did you still follow up? She might not have been with dude or did the manner of the kiss leave little doubt
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 19th, 2012
2:14 pm
I have not read any comments yet so lemme try to catch up
Leggs
December 19th, 2012
2:16 pm
Courtside ~ you got it disco. He’s up their plotting, and she’s sending a msg “don’t even bother” (rofl).
kimmie
December 19th, 2012
2:18 pm
DuShawn – Are you married or not???? If you are, then you’re not slipping, just honoring your wedding vows!!
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
December 19th, 2012
2:22 pm
DuShawn, When I was younger and a bit more Hawkish, I would a have said “F**K it and took the shot anyway, but at this point my eyes are open enough to know when to take it to the hole and when to stand on the bench and cheer like M.L Carr…towel waving and all……
DuShawn
December 19th, 2012
2:29 pm
I would’ve gone right around to her section and posted up, trying to get some eye contact. In my warped mind, I would’ve been thinking….”She’s probably not with dude…they didn’t even tongue….I may still have a chance…we shared a special moment at the concession stand…..f&*k it I’m going over there”
-Courtside- I’m just tripping, you got to know when to fold them.
-Kimmie- I was just typing what I was thinking. I wouldn’t be dishonoring any vows by having a conversation with that one!
Willie Dynamite
December 19th, 2012
2:39 pm
Afternoon all,
Gift trap, what is that? Luckily I have not been in a position where is caused me angst. Then again it was probably lack of care. The only time I ever cared about what kind of gift to give was with wifey. That was another sign I guess that she was the one.
What else you good folks got going? Let me read a lil.
Sassy Me...Ain't no future in your frontin' ;-)
December 19th, 2012
2:46 pm
I have NO earthly idea what to get the beau for Christmas and whenever I ask what he wants, the answer is I DON’T KNOW…
Mr. Bermuda says the same thing but I pay attention to what he says in passing or shows an interest in and try to go from there. So far I’ve been doing pretty good. This year he wants to do something different so we’ll see what happens…
Our office Christmas was slammin today…it’s all quiet n stuff now cause folks are either in a food coma or gone on holiday leave…
Bluzgirl
December 19th, 2012
2:54 pm
I’m so sleepy today and have to work the Carrie Underwood concert tonight. Blah!!!
Single and Happy
December 19th, 2012
2:59 pm
Robert, Kimmie, umm no one sleeps in lingerie (LOL)
DuShawn
December 19th, 2012
3:05 pm
(Just another random thought, to make these last couple of hour go by faster) I have noticed a disturbing redundancy in my comments. Either I am describing some wild event from the past or divulging too much personal information on my marital situation. Neither of which has anything to do with the dating scene. It just dawned on me, I haven’t dated since the f&*kin nineties. So I’m really clueless and have very little of value to add to most discussions. Often I just lurk, and think dayum these muffukas are boring. Let me tell them this crazy sh&*t that happened to me twenty years ago, or the unbelievable events that took place the other night. I would never tell any of my friends some of the things I share here. It would be disrespectful to the participants. As a matter of fact, if wifey ever stumbled upon this blog and read how much of our business I have written for the world to see, she would bust my forehead to the white meat with this very laptop.
disco
December 19th, 2012
3:13 pm
dushawn – as one of the boring I take offense. lol.
Sassy Me...Ain't no future in your frontin' ;-)
December 19th, 2012
3:14 pm
Really Du?…you just noticed that? That’s generally how you come across…almost always…and you’re just noticed. Ummm okay….
#GTFOHWTBS
Sassy Me...Ain't no future in your frontin' ;-)
December 19th, 2012
3:14 pm
should’ve been *you just*
Willie Dynamite
December 19th, 2012
3:16 pm
Hahaha
Bluzgirl
December 19th, 2012
3:20 pm
dushawn – you bring some spice up in here!
disco
December 19th, 2012
3:21 pm
bluz – dushawn? he ain’t nobody. lol.
DuShawn
December 19th, 2012
3:22 pm
Sassy…Actually that’s been brought to my attention several times. I really don’t care how I come across. I have absolutely no concern with my reader’s reactions or perceptions. My participation in this forum is solely for time consumption. By the way, “GTFOHWTBS ” ……I’ve been getting that a lot lately…lol
-disco- You not boring. You’re the real one. We have things in common.
disco
December 19th, 2012
3:25 pm
okay – D. I’m not boring. my life is just a little bit boring right now. you notice all my good stories are from yesteryear as well. ain’t nothing popping off in the present. guess I got my work cut out for me in the new year.
Exiled!
December 19th, 2012
3:28 pm
DuShawn…don’t worry bout phine Asian girl…phine new chics vibe that way to All married men…,but if u realize that immediately after a nutt..it feels empty..u be str8.
Phoine Jump offs are just as good as Asian fast food..as soon as u trash the plate(condom)l,u still hungry if not angry u wasted ur money(swimmers)
Leggs
December 19th, 2012
3:29 pm
DuShawn ~ don’t matter. You’re stories are interesting even from yesteryear or from a corner of your brain resting on “wishful thinking.”
Leggs
December 19th, 2012
3:30 pm
O/T: To boss: Why give me Christmas card list now to mail. Just wait until next year!!!!
IJS...
December 19th, 2012
3:33 pm
Oh well daggg… That is truly hilarious. LMAO Definitely not what it used to be – a rebirth is long overdue. It’s no longer watered-down, just all dried up.
But admittedly there were regulars who frequently posted the details of their lives so vividly frank that you could recount their life stories better than they ever could. But at the same time you still looked forward to their input because it was off the cusp post that kept the blog literally alive. Miss reading them.
DuShawn
December 19th, 2012
3:33 pm
-Disco- you feel me. The reason I talk about the same wild sh&*t, is no one wants to read about my day to day. Go to the office, pick up the kids, take them to practice, eat dinner, go to sleep, turn off alarm, repeat. It pains me to type it. So when some freaky stuff does pop off or a distant memory surfaces….I want to share it…… (Figuratively and literally
Bluzgirl
December 19th, 2012
3:40 pm
disco – well, since I’ve backed off with my life, we need someone else with some stories up in here!
kimmie
December 19th, 2012
3:41 pm
Dushawn – I kinda figured. Don’t stop posting like you do! You are quite entertaining, and I’m like you, it helps past the time up in here. Plus, I got a feeling alot of dudes that read you are living vicariously thru you. I also love reading about your romantic excursions.
So keep em coming!!
Sassy Me...Ain't no future in your frontin' ;-)
December 19th, 2012
3:43 pm
My participation in this forum is solely for time consumption.
Me, too and I get not caring about how you come across or other people’s perception of said coming across. The blog makes the day go by faster for me when I happen to be in my office and not in the lab.
It pains me to type it.
No don’t do that..then you’d be like one of the boring muhfukkas and we don’t want that…nope shole don’t
i'm swiss
December 19th, 2012
3:45 pm
“So when some freaky stuff does pop off or a distant memory surfaces….I want to share it”
DuShawn — I know what you mean, dude. I can still close my eyes and picture one of my ex-girlfriend’s girlfriend licking my b@lls while I did ol’ girl doggie style, just like it was yesterday… For that matter, I can still close my eyes and remember when I still could get my b@lls licked by anyone, as opposed to just getting my ball licked.
Ah, memories!
Single and Happy
December 19th, 2012
3:47 pm
Du, sounds you’re like all of us as we get old, stories start with remember when, back in the day, when I was young!!
DuShawn
December 19th, 2012
3:47 pm
-Exiled- Man, I’m going hunting for that Asian girl. I’m going to the same area at every opportunity and post up, till I see her again. She gonna have tell me she ain’t interested. Granted, it will be a hard sell, because I’m not gonna lie to her. If I could get her to listen to my words, she’s mine. Bruh… Imma get to her to the big house in the country. The hardest ones to convince will be my kids….when I say “meet your new Aunti”…They gonna be like “Daddy..c’mon….seriously!.. First we were part Hispanic, then we had Indian in our family and now we’re Asian too!”……Yall go to your room.
Single and Happy
December 19th, 2012
3:48 pm
Man I can’t wait till I’m grown!!! If only we knew (LMAO)
disco
December 19th, 2012
3:48 pm
D – sho you right. it pained me to read it. lol. mine ain’t much better except I don’t have to play chauffer to any young’uns.
disco
December 19th, 2012
3:50 pm
S/H – hush. got me sitting here trying to think of some benefits to being grown. I know the other day I told someone that I sure appreciated that I didn’t get whoopings anymore but beside that. hmmm.
Sassy Me...Ain't no future in your frontin' ;-)
December 19th, 2012
3:50 pm
I can still close my eyes and remember when I still could get my b@lls licked by anyone, as opposed to just getting my ball licked.
Off topic: Today we played the white elephant game and I got a pair of red horns and a pitchfork…and an idea immediately came to mind
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 19th, 2012
3:51 pm
I have noticed a disturbing redundancy in my comments
And redundancy in Topics lol But don’t feel bad because I think we are all a little guilty of our need to share a wee bit too much.
Single and Happy
December 19th, 2012
3:52 pm
Disco, I can’t wait till I get grown so I can stay up late as I want to!!! (who knew that would be 10:00) LOL
Single and Happy
December 19th, 2012
3:54 pm
I can’t wait till I get grown, so I can get a job and move out of here (damn all these bills)
disco
December 19th, 2012
3:55 pm
swiss – well out of curiosity, did the surviving ball gain in super sensory powers to make up for it’s fallen comrade? if not, oh well. if so, then you broke even if one lick feels as good as two. lol. okay. sorry. I’m talking crazy again.
Exiled!
December 19th, 2012
3:57 pm
Swiss,u gon be on sexual sabbatical for a few weeks after wife pops and hole is hardening up..
So plz Don’t go on sexual relapse re:3:45
Hold on strong Swiss brother…that scene shol is tasty!
disco
December 19th, 2012
3:57 pm
S/H – I think the problem is that grown lasts too daggone long. maybe that’s why so many “grown” folks move back home with their parents. to break up the grown.
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 19th, 2012
3:57 pm
We didn’t do any secret Santa games here at the job but last week we did have a Tacky Christmas Sweater contest. It was super funny! Oh and today, one of my customers slipped me $40 for the holiday’s. Going to treat myself to a nice lunch somewhere
Bluzgirl
December 19th, 2012
3:57 pm
Just when I was thinking that the blog has been a little boring lately, the topic changes to licking a ball! LOL
disco
December 19th, 2012
4:00 pm
ex – you sure did make tasty sound like a nasty word. go figure.
bluz (and all blog ladies) – as a public service announcement I’ll say that the licking of one ball is only acceptable to a one-balled man. don’t try it at home with a two-balled man. okay. again. I’m tripping. my bad.
Leggs
December 19th, 2012
4:01 pm
disco, Dushawn, swiss, jake – you all have interesting stories…don’t stop sharing them.
Single and Happy
December 19th, 2012
4:01 pm
So swiss, how many licks does it take to get to the center of a. oh never mind don’t really want to know (LOL)
Sassy Me...Ain't no future in your frontin' ;-)
December 19th, 2012
4:02 pm
I think we are all a little guilty of our need to share a wee bit too much.
Slim…you ain’t never lied. Too many times I’ve erased posts and replaced them with milder versions minus some stuff…
Dynamic
December 19th, 2012
4:02 pm
I can’t wait till I get grown so I can eat wharever I want (Who knew I would have to work out twice as hard to loos the weight)
i'm swiss
December 19th, 2012
4:03 pm
disco — Actually, the licks feel just as nice with one ball as they did with two. But I have to admit, the visual was a bit better with both b@lls on her face vs just the one b@ll riding side-sadle on her nose.
Me.lo — Man, you don’t have to remind me. At least the Mrs is having a planned c-section, so the puddy won’t be getting mauled — well, not by anyone but me, anyway.
Sassy Me...Ain't no future in your frontin' ;-)
December 19th, 2012
4:04 pm
don’t try it at home with a two-balled man.
Maybe you could if you, hhhmmmmmmmmm…
Single and Happy
December 19th, 2012
4:05 pm
Yea disco, young last 18 years, then you’re grown for the rest of your life!! (LOL)
Leggs
December 19th, 2012
4:05 pm
disco ~ it would quite difficult to lick one ball on a two-balled man! Yes ladies, do not try that at home! You might get knuckled in the back of your head!!!
Leggs
December 19th, 2012
4:06 pm
“…better with both b@lls on her face vs just the one b@ll riding side-sadle on her nose.” I am crying from laughter!
Exiled!
December 19th, 2012
4:06 pm
Disco…sometimes I wish it were possible to draw a picture of the feeling H0rny!
….for each person
Shld be intersecting
Bluzgirl
December 19th, 2012
4:08 pm
LOL disco!!!! With a two-balled man, I know to spread the love!
Single and Happy
December 19th, 2012
4:08 pm
I can’t wait til I get grown so I can stay out late as I want too. (man I stayed out to late last night, I’m never doing that again!!)
Single and Happy
December 19th, 2012
4:10 pm
I can’t wait till I get grown, i’m going to have sex all the time (well hello mr. hand)
Exiled!
December 19th, 2012
4:11 pm
Are u gon try for one more?
@Swiss
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
December 19th, 2012
4:11 pm
“I sure appreciated that I didn’t get whoopings anymore”
Damn….Getting a whoopin is the highlight of my weekend!!!
Jake-SPJTWB
December 19th, 2012
4:13 pm
Man, these folks really want me to work today.
disco
December 19th, 2012
4:15 pm
courtside – as long as your momma isn’t the one slanging the whip I guess it’s all good. lol. just jokes. I cosign that any weekend where your hiney gets a few good pops is indeed a good weekend. (I started to say licks but no telling where y ‘all would have run with that). to quote CC, y’all are a bunch of miscreants.
i'm swiss
December 19th, 2012
4:15 pm
Me.lo — We’ll play Russian roulette for another year or so & see what happens. If we end up with another, then we’ll take preventative measures after that. Or if we go more than a couple of years, then ditto. I’m to old to be having more babies too long from now…
i'm swiss
December 19th, 2012
4:17 pm
disco — Please never use the words “hiney,” “licks” and “runs” in the same sentence again. Thanks.
Willie Dynamite
December 19th, 2012
4:18 pm
Du- you traded the playa jersey in for a Huxtable sweater that’s all. Fun and games replaced by mories and imagination. Such is the life.
disco
December 19th, 2012
4:18 pm
swiss – miscreant.
Exiled!
December 19th, 2012
4:18 pm
Just so u know Swiss I almost called fire Marshall and medic last Friday
i'm swiss
December 19th, 2012
4:22 pm
Me.lo — You lost me. What happened last Friday?
DuShawn
December 19th, 2012
4:23 pm
“And redundancy in Topics” ……I think I discovered this blog about six years ago. If you search the archives, I’ve probably told the same stories over and over. I only have so many, but they’re all true.
The ball licking reminds me of one of wifeys friends. When we were dating we used to vibe with this pretty red chick. The dingiest broad I ever met. She always used to ask my lady, “you mind if I lick DuShy’s balls (not a typo, she knew me for years and always mispronounced my name). She was a very respectful freak. She ended up being the Maid of Honor (no bullsh*&t). The toast she made at the reception was so crazy, everyone stopped in their tracks to digest what just happened. I remember looking around the room at the wedding party and thinking …..It’s some crazy muffukas in this room. (another memory I probably should’ve kept to myself).
i'm swiss
December 19th, 2012
4:23 pm
disco — Guilty as charged.
Leggs
December 19th, 2012
4:26 pm
PEACE!
Bluzgirl
December 19th, 2012
4:29 pm
Good night ya’ll!
Exiled!
December 19th, 2012
4:33 pm
Swiss..u said .too old..
Sometimes when u getting and creeping to too old stage,u know how to still…u got the play book,but u play a Lil slower…
I’m getting to that stage….I pounded it last Friday like I was 35….my whole body was floating and numb It almost felt unreal…my head was spinning almost like I had a cold…pleasure pain.
Need to pay cvs a vitamin tablet trip!
Exiled!
December 19th, 2012
4:35 pm
Du?
So the threesome stopped immediately after the wedding nuptials and reception?
disco
December 19th, 2012
4:37 pm
ex – once some years ago I told this guy he screwed like an old man. needless to say he was quite offended by it. fast forward 20 years and I get an actual old man under my belt and it was confirmed. dude from back when and I are still cool. you know I told him that I was right all that time I accused him of screwing like an old man. boy I bet he wanted to reach through the phone and strangle me. lol.
i'm swiss
December 19th, 2012
4:37 pm
Me.lo —
Ah, gotcha. Well, just to clarify, when I say I’m getting too old, I don’t mean too old to pound it like it’s 1999. I mean too old to change the diapers of the little cockblockas (© DuShawn) that come 9 months after. 
Sassy Me...Ain't no future in your frontin' ;-)
December 19th, 2012
4:38 pm
Alrighty blog have a great evening.
DuShawn
December 19th, 2012
4:39 pm
Exiled – After we got married we had three babies in the first four years, moved to a different state, a lot of things changed. We still have our moments on that level, but they are few and far between.
Exiled!
December 19th, 2012
4:49 pm
Lol
Uall fools!
Good nite!