Dating: Don’t fall in the gift trap!
I have sent out PSAs before about picking the wrong gifts for the person you have recently met and started to date (Brief recap: Porn and lingerie won’t go over well). I feel the need to also warn single people of the gift trap.
People can sometimes place totally unrealistic, utterly silly expectations on a gift. What it means, what message is being sent, etc. It’s a gift trap, guys. The way to stay out of the gift trap is to first make sure you both are on the same page in terms of commitment!
You don’t want to be faced with getting an extravagant gift as you hand over a $5.00 iTunes gift card (Awwkwaaaard). You also don’t want to be the only one actually buying a gift. That will only lead to “Are they into me the same way I’m into them?” worries. This will kill any sexy time you have planned. It’s lose-lose, man.
Play it safe and avoid the pitfalls of the gift trap: Know your status. Clarify if a gift exchange is planned. Keep the exchange as even as possible as not to stir up unnecessary conflict.
Have you ever been caught in the gift trap? What is the best gift you ever had from someone you were dating?
Did you ever get an odd gift from the person you were dating? I still have this crystal unicorn statue thingy from a guy who was in hot pursuit of me. It took me 12 minutes to figure out what it was. Then another 18 minutes to determine if he thought I was some medieval, fragile creature that doesn’t talk much. See? Gift trap! I would have been totally fine with an iTunes gift card!
Happy Wednesday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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166 comments Add your comment
i'm swiss
December 19th, 2012
4:17 pm
disco — Please never use the words “hiney,” “licks” and “runs” in the same sentence again. Thanks.
Willie Dynamite
December 19th, 2012
4:18 pm
Du- you traded the playa jersey in for a Huxtable sweater that’s all. Fun and games replaced by mories and imagination. Such is the life.
disco
December 19th, 2012
4:18 pm
swiss – miscreant.
Exiled!
December 19th, 2012
4:18 pm
Just so u know Swiss I almost called fire Marshall and medic last Friday
i'm swiss
December 19th, 2012
4:22 pm
Me.lo — You lost me. What happened last Friday?
DuShawn
December 19th, 2012
4:23 pm
“And redundancy in Topics” ……I think I discovered this blog about six years ago. If you search the archives, I’ve probably told the same stories over and over. I only have so many, but they’re all true.
The ball licking reminds me of one of wifeys friends. When we were dating we used to vibe with this pretty red chick. The dingiest broad I ever met. She always used to ask my lady, “you mind if I lick DuShy’s balls (not a typo, she knew me for years and always mispronounced my name). She was a very respectful freak. She ended up being the Maid of Honor (no bullsh*&t). The toast she made at the reception was so crazy, everyone stopped in their tracks to digest what just happened. I remember looking around the room at the wedding party and thinking …..It’s some crazy muffukas in this room. (another memory I probably should’ve kept to myself).
i'm swiss
December 19th, 2012
4:23 pm
disco — Guilty as charged.
Leggs
December 19th, 2012
4:26 pm
PEACE!
Bluzgirl
December 19th, 2012
4:29 pm
Good night ya’ll!
Exiled!
December 19th, 2012
4:33 pm
Swiss..u said .too old..
Sometimes when u getting and creeping to too old stage,u know how to still…u got the play book,but u play a Lil slower…
I’m getting to that stage….I pounded it last Friday like I was 35….my whole body was floating and numb It almost felt unreal…my head was spinning almost like I had a cold…pleasure pain.
Need to pay cvs a vitamin tablet trip!
Exiled!
December 19th, 2012
4:35 pm
Du?
So the threesome stopped immediately after the wedding nuptials and reception?
disco
December 19th, 2012
4:37 pm
ex – once some years ago I told this guy he screwed like an old man. needless to say he was quite offended by it. fast forward 20 years and I get an actual old man under my belt and it was confirmed. dude from back when and I are still cool. you know I told him that I was right all that time I accused him of screwing like an old man. boy I bet he wanted to reach through the phone and strangle me. lol.
i'm swiss
December 19th, 2012
4:37 pm
Me.lo —
Ah, gotcha. Well, just to clarify, when I say I’m getting too old, I don’t mean too old to pound it like it’s 1999. I mean too old to change the diapers of the little cockblockas (© DuShawn) that come 9 months after. 
Sassy Me...Ain't no future in your frontin' ;-)
December 19th, 2012
4:38 pm
Alrighty blog have a great evening.
DuShawn
December 19th, 2012
4:39 pm
Exiled – After we got married we had three babies in the first four years, moved to a different state, a lot of things changed. We still have our moments on that level, but they are few and far between.
Exiled!
December 19th, 2012
4:49 pm
Lol
Uall fools!
Good nite!