Dating: Don’t fall in the gift trap!
I have sent out PSAs before about picking the wrong gifts for the person you have recently met and started to date (Brief recap: Porn and lingerie won’t go over well). I feel the need to also warn single people of the gift trap.
People can sometimes place totally unrealistic, utterly silly expectations on a gift. What it means, what message is being sent, etc. It’s a gift trap, guys. The way to stay out of the gift trap is to first make sure you both are on the same page in terms of commitment!
You don’t want to be faced with getting an extravagant gift as you hand over a $5.00 iTunes gift card (Awwkwaaaard). You also don’t want to be the only one actually buying a gift. That will only lead to “Are they into me the same way I’m into them?” worries. This will kill any sexy time you have planned. It’s lose-lose, man.
Play it safe and avoid the pitfalls of the gift trap: Know your status. Clarify if a gift exchange is planned. Keep the exchange as even as possible as not to stir up unnecessary conflict.
Have you ever been caught in the gift trap? What is the best gift you ever had from someone you were dating?
Did you ever get an odd gift from the person you were dating? I still have this crystal unicorn statue thingy from a guy who was in hot pursuit of me. It took me 12 minutes to figure out what it was. Then another 18 minutes to determine if he thought I was some medieval, fragile creature that doesn’t talk much. See? Gift trap! I would have been totally fine with an iTunes gift card!
Happy Wednesday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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disco
December 19th, 2012
3:13 pm
dushawn – as one of the boring I take offense. lol.
Sassy Me...Ain't no future in your frontin' ;-)
December 19th, 2012
3:14 pm
Really Du?…you just noticed that? That’s generally how you come across…almost always…and you’re just noticed. Ummm okay….
#GTFOHWTBS
Sassy Me...Ain't no future in your frontin' ;-)
December 19th, 2012
3:14 pm
should’ve been *you just*
Willie Dynamite
December 19th, 2012
3:16 pm
Hahaha
Bluzgirl
December 19th, 2012
3:20 pm
dushawn – you bring some spice up in here!
disco
December 19th, 2012
3:21 pm
bluz – dushawn? he ain’t nobody. lol.
DuShawn
December 19th, 2012
3:22 pm
Sassy…Actually that’s been brought to my attention several times. I really don’t care how I come across. I have absolutely no concern with my reader’s reactions or perceptions. My participation in this forum is solely for time consumption. By the way, “GTFOHWTBS ” ……I’ve been getting that a lot lately…lol
-disco- You not boring. You’re the real one. We have things in common.
disco
December 19th, 2012
3:25 pm
okay – D. I’m not boring. my life is just a little bit boring right now. you notice all my good stories are from yesteryear as well. ain’t nothing popping off in the present. guess I got my work cut out for me in the new year.
Exiled!
December 19th, 2012
3:28 pm
DuShawn…don’t worry bout phine Asian girl…phine new chics vibe that way to All married men…,but if u realize that immediately after a nutt..it feels empty..u be str8.
Phoine Jump offs are just as good as Asian fast food..as soon as u trash the plate(condom)l,u still hungry if not angry u wasted ur money(swimmers)
Leggs
December 19th, 2012
3:29 pm
DuShawn ~ don’t matter. You’re stories are interesting even from yesteryear or from a corner of your brain resting on “wishful thinking.”
Leggs
December 19th, 2012
3:30 pm
O/T: To boss: Why give me Christmas card list now to mail. Just wait until next year!!!!
IJS...
December 19th, 2012
3:33 pm
Oh well daggg… That is truly hilarious. LMAO Definitely not what it used to be – a rebirth is long overdue. It’s no longer watered-down, just all dried up.
But admittedly there were regulars who frequently posted the details of their lives so vividly frank that you could recount their life stories better than they ever could. But at the same time you still looked forward to their input because it was off the cusp post that kept the blog literally alive. Miss reading them.
DuShawn
December 19th, 2012
3:33 pm
-Disco- you feel me. The reason I talk about the same wild sh&*t, is no one wants to read about my day to day. Go to the office, pick up the kids, take them to practice, eat dinner, go to sleep, turn off alarm, repeat. It pains me to type it. So when some freaky stuff does pop off or a distant memory surfaces….I want to share it…… (Figuratively and literally
Bluzgirl
December 19th, 2012
3:40 pm
disco – well, since I’ve backed off with my life, we need someone else with some stories up in here!
kimmie
December 19th, 2012
3:41 pm
Dushawn – I kinda figured. Don’t stop posting like you do! You are quite entertaining, and I’m like you, it helps past the time up in here. Plus, I got a feeling alot of dudes that read you are living vicariously thru you. I also love reading about your romantic excursions.
So keep em coming!!
Sassy Me...Ain't no future in your frontin' ;-)
December 19th, 2012
3:43 pm
My participation in this forum is solely for time consumption.
Me, too and I get not caring about how you come across or other people’s perception of said coming across. The blog makes the day go by faster for me when I happen to be in my office and not in the lab.
It pains me to type it.
No don’t do that..then you’d be like one of the boring muhfukkas and we don’t want that…nope shole don’t
i'm swiss
December 19th, 2012
3:45 pm
“So when some freaky stuff does pop off or a distant memory surfaces….I want to share it”
DuShawn — I know what you mean, dude. I can still close my eyes and picture one of my ex-girlfriend’s girlfriend licking my b@lls while I did ol’ girl doggie style, just like it was yesterday… For that matter, I can still close my eyes and remember when I still could get my b@lls licked by anyone, as opposed to just getting my ball licked.
Ah, memories!
Single and Happy
December 19th, 2012
3:47 pm
Du, sounds you’re like all of us as we get old, stories start with remember when, back in the day, when I was young!!
DuShawn
December 19th, 2012
3:47 pm
-Exiled- Man, I’m going hunting for that Asian girl. I’m going to the same area at every opportunity and post up, till I see her again. She gonna have tell me she ain’t interested. Granted, it will be a hard sell, because I’m not gonna lie to her. If I could get her to listen to my words, she’s mine. Bruh… Imma get to her to the big house in the country. The hardest ones to convince will be my kids….when I say “meet your new Aunti”…They gonna be like “Daddy..c’mon….seriously!.. First we were part Hispanic, then we had Indian in our family and now we’re Asian too!”……Yall go to your room.
Single and Happy
December 19th, 2012
3:48 pm
Man I can’t wait till I’m grown!!! If only we knew (LMAO)
disco
December 19th, 2012
3:48 pm
D – sho you right. it pained me to read it. lol. mine ain’t much better except I don’t have to play chauffer to any young’uns.
disco
December 19th, 2012
3:50 pm
S/H – hush. got me sitting here trying to think of some benefits to being grown. I know the other day I told someone that I sure appreciated that I didn’t get whoopings anymore but beside that. hmmm.
Sassy Me...Ain't no future in your frontin' ;-)
December 19th, 2012
3:50 pm
I can still close my eyes and remember when I still could get my b@lls licked by anyone, as opposed to just getting my ball licked.
Off topic: Today we played the white elephant game and I got a pair of red horns and a pitchfork…and an idea immediately came to mind
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 19th, 2012
3:51 pm
I have noticed a disturbing redundancy in my comments
And redundancy in Topics lol But don’t feel bad because I think we are all a little guilty of our need to share a wee bit too much.
Single and Happy
December 19th, 2012
3:52 pm
Disco, I can’t wait till I get grown so I can stay up late as I want to!!! (who knew that would be 10:00) LOL
Single and Happy
December 19th, 2012
3:54 pm
I can’t wait till I get grown, so I can get a job and move out of here (damn all these bills)
disco
December 19th, 2012
3:55 pm
swiss – well out of curiosity, did the surviving ball gain in super sensory powers to make up for it’s fallen comrade? if not, oh well. if so, then you broke even if one lick feels as good as two. lol. okay. sorry. I’m talking crazy again.
Exiled!
December 19th, 2012
3:57 pm
Swiss,u gon be on sexual sabbatical for a few weeks after wife pops and hole is hardening up..
So plz Don’t go on sexual relapse re:3:45
Hold on strong Swiss brother…that scene shol is tasty!
disco
December 19th, 2012
3:57 pm
S/H – I think the problem is that grown lasts too daggone long. maybe that’s why so many “grown” folks move back home with their parents. to break up the grown.
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 19th, 2012
3:57 pm
We didn’t do any secret Santa games here at the job but last week we did have a Tacky Christmas Sweater contest. It was super funny! Oh and today, one of my customers slipped me $40 for the holiday’s. Going to treat myself to a nice lunch somewhere
Bluzgirl
December 19th, 2012
3:57 pm
Just when I was thinking that the blog has been a little boring lately, the topic changes to licking a ball! LOL
disco
December 19th, 2012
4:00 pm
ex – you sure did make tasty sound like a nasty word. go figure.
bluz (and all blog ladies) – as a public service announcement I’ll say that the licking of one ball is only acceptable to a one-balled man. don’t try it at home with a two-balled man. okay. again. I’m tripping. my bad.
Leggs
December 19th, 2012
4:01 pm
disco, Dushawn, swiss, jake – you all have interesting stories…don’t stop sharing them.
Single and Happy
December 19th, 2012
4:01 pm
So swiss, how many licks does it take to get to the center of a. oh never mind don’t really want to know (LOL)
Sassy Me...Ain't no future in your frontin' ;-)
December 19th, 2012
4:02 pm
I think we are all a little guilty of our need to share a wee bit too much.
Slim…you ain’t never lied. Too many times I’ve erased posts and replaced them with milder versions minus some stuff…
Dynamic
December 19th, 2012
4:02 pm
I can’t wait till I get grown so I can eat wharever I want (Who knew I would have to work out twice as hard to loos the weight)
i'm swiss
December 19th, 2012
4:03 pm
disco — Actually, the licks feel just as nice with one ball as they did with two. But I have to admit, the visual was a bit better with both b@lls on her face vs just the one b@ll riding side-sadle on her nose.
Me.lo — Man, you don’t have to remind me. At least the Mrs is having a planned c-section, so the puddy won’t be getting mauled — well, not by anyone but me, anyway.
Sassy Me...Ain't no future in your frontin' ;-)
December 19th, 2012
4:04 pm
don’t try it at home with a two-balled man.
Maybe you could if you, hhhmmmmmmmmm…
Single and Happy
December 19th, 2012
4:05 pm
Yea disco, young last 18 years, then you’re grown for the rest of your life!! (LOL)
Leggs
December 19th, 2012
4:05 pm
disco ~ it would quite difficult to lick one ball on a two-balled man! Yes ladies, do not try that at home! You might get knuckled in the back of your head!!!
Leggs
December 19th, 2012
4:06 pm
“…better with both b@lls on her face vs just the one b@ll riding side-sadle on her nose.” I am crying from laughter!
Exiled!
December 19th, 2012
4:06 pm
Disco…sometimes I wish it were possible to draw a picture of the feeling H0rny!
….for each person
Shld be intersecting
Bluzgirl
December 19th, 2012
4:08 pm
LOL disco!!!! With a two-balled man, I know to spread the love!
Single and Happy
December 19th, 2012
4:08 pm
I can’t wait til I get grown so I can stay out late as I want too. (man I stayed out to late last night, I’m never doing that again!!)
Single and Happy
December 19th, 2012
4:10 pm
I can’t wait till I get grown, i’m going to have sex all the time (well hello mr. hand)
Exiled!
December 19th, 2012
4:11 pm
Are u gon try for one more?
@Swiss
Courtside Seats!!! Caught on the Kiss Cam :)
December 19th, 2012
4:11 pm
“I sure appreciated that I didn’t get whoopings anymore”
Damn….Getting a whoopin is the highlight of my weekend!!!
Jake-SPJTWB
December 19th, 2012
4:13 pm
Man, these folks really want me to work today.
disco
December 19th, 2012
4:15 pm
courtside – as long as your momma isn’t the one slanging the whip I guess it’s all good. lol. just jokes. I cosign that any weekend where your hiney gets a few good pops is indeed a good weekend. (I started to say licks but no telling where y ‘all would have run with that). to quote CC, y’all are a bunch of miscreants.
i'm swiss
December 19th, 2012
4:15 pm
Me.lo — We’ll play Russian roulette for another year or so & see what happens. If we end up with another, then we’ll take preventative measures after that. Or if we go more than a couple of years, then ditto. I’m to old to be having more babies too long from now…