Worried about married sex life?
One of many reasons I have heard single men site for their reluctance to marrying is the sex life of a married couple. Apparently, single men are having such great hot, frequent sex (pardon my sarcasm!), that once they marry someone, it will all go away. This is what grown men say they are seriously worried about?
I try not to knock them too much for this but it seems like yet another cop out men use as an excuse to stay single. I’m sure the sex for married people will differ from when you are single – heck, it should! I just don’t believe this automatically means boring or dull.
Is this a legitimate reason to avoid marriage? Maybe I am being too critical. Are women worried about this too?
If you are married, did you talk about how you would handle problems in your sex life? What would you do or say when your needs were not being met?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 12th, 2012
2:16 pm
Wow, guys are scared to marry on fear of not having sex. Remaining single doesn’t mean you have all the sex you want either somebody needs to check the mythometer. I like being single but I wont lie on the D and claim I’m having unstoppable sex. I know another thing I’m out dated on.
And To All A Good Afternoon:
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 12th, 2012
2:20 pm
Leggs sorry I didn’t come on your b’day. wer’e not another year older but a another year wiser.
kimmie
December 12th, 2012
2:20 pm
Leggs – Not always the woman that eases up. It’s a whole lot of the other way around, more than you think. They’ve had a lot on Michael Baisden to call in.
kimmie
December 12th, 2012
2:22 pm
Blackfoote – Good to read ya, and thanks for your honesty. I was wondering if a guy would come on and be real about the situation.
Leggs
December 12th, 2012
2:22 pm
kimmie ~ you’re absolutely correct. It’s not always the woman.
BF ~ it’s cool. I got my bday greeting (lol).
disco
December 12th, 2012
2:26 pm
swiss – re the war on drugs. I agree. it’s a scam and total bs. folks who want to get high will always find or make a way. shoot folks get high off of regular everyday household items. what the gubment going to do about that.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 12th, 2012
2:28 pm
Hey Kimmie, I hope all the men are being honest. Even Don Juan had to take a break every now and then.
disco
December 12th, 2012
2:31 pm
BF – you hope all the men are being honest? is that an oxymoron?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 12th, 2012
2:37 pm
Making love is more appropiate when I talk about married couples, sure there are couples out here biting the bullet, sulking, and withholding from each other. There’s one solution grin and bear it or get the courage to make a move toward freedom.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 12th, 2012
2:39 pm
LOL…….@disco
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 12th, 2012
2:43 pm
I remember vividly when I became divorced, every dream I fantasized about women I expected to come true. Well the truth hurts………LOL
Button
December 12th, 2012
2:45 pm
I prefer the word love making too instead of schexing…schexing seem so meaningless, cold and pay me afterwards – no feelings involved.
disco
December 12th, 2012
2:46 pm
O/T – we are usually talking liquor on here. I know a few of us recently had long island iced teas. I was just reading an article detailing the calories in certain drinks. the long island (8 oz) clocked in at 780 calories. a 10 oz margarita clocks in at 550.
kimmie
December 12th, 2012
2:47 pm
Blackfoote – There are people dealing (or not dealing) with all kinds of issues. You don’t know what folks are dealing with behind closed doors. For some there are health issues preventing them from physical intimacy. There are many cases of men getting married for show, but are secretly on the down low. In fact, alot of men. It seems to me when I watch or listen to shows that take on the subject of sexless marriage, more than often it’s a wife that has stuck around for 15 years without any. With men, it looks to me that they may complain but stick around if the sex is just not as frequent as it once was, but still good. He might get a supplement from an outside source. But I don’t see too many healthy men complaining and staying in a totally sexless situation for years on end. They just go on and make a move.
Bluzgirl
December 12th, 2012
2:50 pm
OMG disco – that means that Friday, I drank at least 2300 calories! I think the long islands were bigger than 8 oz also. No wonder it didn’t sit well on top of a huge Italian meal! LOL
disco
December 12th, 2012
2:52 pm
bluz – omg is right. had me thinking true alkies might be on to something. I mean if it ever comes down to eating OR drinking. lol.
Willie Dynamite
December 12th, 2012
2:56 pm
Sex during marriage is NOT always making love. I don’t know who said it and I won’t speak for anybody else. But, yeah I may be in love but sometimes heyal most of the time you getting it in.
DuShawn
December 12th, 2012
2:56 pm
It has been said that if you want to kill your sexual appetite, feed it wedding cake. There is an ebb and flow to marital intimacy. Not surprisingly, it’s somewhat contingent upon the other areas of the union. If life is good, the sex is often. If you’re bill battered and worry ridden, it’s much less frequent. When you’ve laid next to the same thighs 5000 nights in a row, it’s easy to fall into a mundane routine (i.e. Turn her on her side, tickle nipple, check moisture level, slip in, bust, turnover, begin snoring). You have to challenge one another to keep it new or it will surely dissipate. Few things are worst than having to lie next to some beautiful brown thighs, Diznick harder than Chinese arithmetic, and she says no. That’s like forcing a starving man to sleep in Golden Corral next to the buffet table, but not allowing him to feast. This is an inevitable torture that every husband will endure at some point. I just came back from lunch with wifey. We are celebrating yet another anniversary this weekend. I booked a suite at the Hyatt for Friday and Saturday. At the hotel, they are having an Old School Saturday party with Biz Markie on the one’s and two’s. I also got reservations at Sweet Georgia’s Juke Joint for dinner. After all these years, when me and baby party together we still turn sh&t out. So if you see two fly muffukas stumbling around downtown this weekend, it’s probably us.
Bluzgirl
December 12th, 2012
2:57 pm
Right?!?! Many years ago, I drank tequila sunrises quite often…then, I had problems with my triglycerides and had to cut down on the sugar. That’s when I switched to rum and diet coke.
abc
December 12th, 2012
2:57 pm
Married sex is better, to me. I mean, admit it: a lot of chicks are just not that good at it, nor very adventurous. You may or may not want to actually talk with them or even be around them much afterwards, which is a hassle. With my sweetie, everything’s awesome, copasetic.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 12th, 2012
3:03 pm
LOL…..@Kimmie, at the word supplement. Gotta have those vitamins.
kimmie
December 12th, 2012
3:05 pm
That’s like forcing a starving man to sleep in Golden Corral next to the buffet table, but not allowing him to feast.
Dushawn – You are a mess, but I like your style!!!LOL!!!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 12th, 2012
3:06 pm
Night folks have a great evening.
disco
December 12th, 2012
3:08 pm
what woman on the blog has not laid next to a man and left his behind laying on his side of the bed (begging) starving? on the flip side, what woman hasn’t just gone ahead and broken old boy off right quick just so he would be quiet and leave her alone?
kimmie
December 12th, 2012
3:11 pm
Bluz – Man, it’s been years since I had a tequila sunrise!!!
Bluzgirl
December 12th, 2012
3:17 pm
I think it was about 7 or 8 years ago when I stopped drinking those. Haven’t had one since. So sweet…
DuShawn
December 12th, 2012
3:18 pm
left his behind laying on his side of the bed (begging) starving?…….I remember when I was on puddy punishment, I couldn’t help but think of other women that would gladly suck the skin off the meat if given the opportunity……and yet I lay here and faithfully suffer.
Willie Dynamite
December 12th, 2012
3:21 pm
Per yesterday’s topic. 3:16 now that’s love. Hahaha
Willie Dynamite
December 12th, 2012
3:21 pm
3:19
kimmie
December 12th, 2012
3:26 pm
Bluz – I will get sick on any alcoholic beverage that is too sweet. Last time I had a sunrise was a few years out of college. It made me sick to my stomach and I had a horrible hangover. Just the thought of one makes me sick now, after all these years.
Leggs
December 12th, 2012
3:30 pm
Just had bday ice cream cake in conference with a bunch of folk. Love ice cream cake.
DuShawn ~ hope you guys have a blast. Heck with the hope. Sounds like you two are going to turn things upside down, including each other (lol).
Leggs
December 12th, 2012
3:31 pm
kimmie ~ I used to love a slow gin fizz. That would probably make me puke now!
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 12th, 2012
3:33 pm
disco – Well, I suppose i’ve been taking in a lot of calories…not long islands but my Goose and Cran stays on deck
Sassy Me...Ready for whatever ;-)
December 12th, 2012
3:35 pm
this day is sooo looong…
Bluzgirl
December 12th, 2012
3:36 pm
I can’t do straight tequila from getting sick when I was about 22-23. Ugh!
Bluzgirl
December 12th, 2012
3:41 pm
I agree Sassy!!! Feels like it should be at least Thursday! I’m so sleepy cause I didn’t get home from work until after midnight last night…
kimmie
December 12th, 2012
3:41 pm
Leggs – Same here with the sloe gin fizz! I have not had one of those in years either!
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 12th, 2012
3:44 pm
Bluz – Tequila is krytonite to me…the mere smell of it makes all the hairs on my body stand on end and give me body shivers. That is one of the worst lickkas to get sick off off.
How about we had an employee meeting today. So they gave out raffle tickets…please tell me why there were giving away fruit cakes and egg nog as prizes. The egg nog i could see but FRUIT CAKE. I don’ t know naaaqaaaan person that likes fruit cake.
Leggs
December 12th, 2012
3:46 pm
That is one of the worst lickkas to get sick off off.
And Jaggermiester is one of the worst likkas to drink, POINT BLANK, PERIOD!
Bluzgirl
December 12th, 2012
3:48 pm
Slim – I was sick for 3 days with my bad tequila experience. I’m sure I had alcohol poisoning. The smell makes me gag. I also can’t drink straight vodka. That was from an experience when I was 18. I’m 33 now and still can’t do it…
kimmie
December 12th, 2012
3:48 pm
Slim – You sound like my husband and the tequila! He said for him it is “mind altering” and won’t touch a margharita!
Sassy Me...Ready for whatever ;-)
December 12th, 2012
3:49 pm
Feels like it should be at least Thursday!
At least…
The egg nog i could see but FRUIT CAKE.
It was probable “re-gifted” from someone who’s trying to get rid of it…fruit cake is like that old candy in the bottom of granny’s purse…you just don’t want it…
Bluzgirl
December 12th, 2012
3:50 pm
Jager makes me crazy!!! I used to be bad about doing shots of that after I was already drunk and it would put me over the edge into psycho! No more of that. I did do one jagerbomb my birthday weekend, but that was the only thing I drank that night until we got home. I almost spit it out.
Bluzgirl
December 12th, 2012
3:51 pm
The fruit cake had to be a joke, right? Yuck!!!
kimmie
December 12th, 2012
3:55 pm
Slim – The company gave out fruitcake at another job I worked. There was one guy from the Carribean that loved it. Everyone gave him theirs!
DuShawn
December 12th, 2012
3:56 pm
Jagger taste lick scotch mixed with Nyquil cold medicine….yuck! On another note,
Anybody know of some nice, yet to be discovered night spots, in the downtown area? Preferably with a live band.
disco
December 12th, 2012
3:57 pm
bluz – bad tequila experience? is that another oxymoron?
DuShawn
December 12th, 2012
3:58 pm
“lick” should’ve been “like”….Freudian slip typo…Thinkin bout the weekend.
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 12th, 2012
4:02 pm
Leggs – I must admit I used to drink Jager bombs when I hung out with my other friends. They LOVEEEE that stuff. I would always spend the night but i’d have to dip out early the next morning because it always gave me the BG’s (bubble guts) YIKES!
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 12th, 2012
4:08 pm
Jagger taste lick scotch
DuS – When reading fast goes wrong…I surely thought this read, “Jagger tast lick crotch” lol