Relationships: That’s not love?
If you have ever been in love before – you know the feeling of euphoria and butterflies in your stomach. It’s as terrifying and exhilarating as jumping out of an airplane must feel like. There really is no other feeling quite like that! Sadly, once you have had that intense emotion, you pretty much judge all relationships by that standard.
Do you think it is a good thing, though? What happens when we spend so much time chasing that same feeling that we had once before? Is it fair to compare to that time you fell so hard?
If you don’t feel that same kind of emotion and passion for someone, does that mean you are really not in love?
A lot of people are lucky enough to have had that feeling once. So how do you know when it’s not love just because you feel differently?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Exiled!
December 11th, 2012
2:27 pm
@Leggs
Cool
Game on then!
Leggs
December 11th, 2012
2:31 pm
Ex ~ I feel you got your knickers in a knot for no reason.
disco
December 11th, 2012
2:32 pm
cba – believe it or not I have a relatively drama free life. my life is so simple, smooth, easy going that some day’s I’d pay a dollar for some drama. thing is I’m often the soundboard for other folks’ problems and drama. thing is, most of it doesn’t have to be a problem. case in point, friend called me last week re her situation at home. in short, she’s got two adult children at home and the stress is getting to her to the point she doesn’t even look forward to going to her own home after work. my solution – put their grown azzes out. problem solved. of course, she doesn’t see it that way and so her saga will continue.
Delvon
December 11th, 2012
2:37 pm
I learnt long time ago…Love don’t love nobody. Nuff said
disco
December 11th, 2012
2:41 pm
delvon – song says it takes a fool to learn. naw… I’m not going there. lol.
Exiled!
December 11th, 2012
2:41 pm
Ur entitled to ur granny opinion
@Leggs
Comon Cents
December 11th, 2012
2:47 pm
disco~ You’re only if a fool if you keep going back and doing the same isht over and over… LOL!
Leggs
December 11th, 2012
2:47 pm
Oh so now we’re getting catty and I’m a granny…real smooth, Ex.
I tell you this, I’m one sexy ass, GROWN granny. And yes sir, this is my own opinion. But, if you need anyone to back me up, please believe I will have no problem rounding up supporters!!!!!
disco
December 11th, 2012
2:50 pm
hey CC!!!! who sings that song anyway? y’all see I can remember snippets of lyrics but don’t call me out on who the artist is. lol.
what? we bout to have another mini-blog fight?
ex – i’ve been supporting your statements today but if i’m forced to choose sides…..
Delvon
December 11th, 2012
2:50 pm
Disco…so true. Them words in them songs keep me grounded. i was raised Ole School listening to Ole School music.
Delvon
December 11th, 2012
2:54 pm
Folk run into in problems with love when they looking for “TV/Movie” love…that hsit aint real. Just my thoughts
Exiled!
December 11th, 2012
2:58 pm
Supporters?
U can have them.
I always ‘fight’ alone on the blog most times what’s new?
@Disco… Thnx for the support but u know when a man gets violated a man gotta stand for their self(lol)
Leggs
December 11th, 2012
2:59 pm
With love songs, don’t forget…I’ts a Thin Line Between Love and Hate.
disco ~ no mini blog fight taking off. This granny needs to hobble back to her chair. Wait, my song just came home. Let me drop it like it’s hot, break dance, and kick the podium off the stage.
kimmie
December 11th, 2012
3:01 pm
Delvon -Depends on what “movie” love you’re talking about. Are you talking “What’s Love Got To Do With It?” or “Love Jones”?LOL!!
Just kidding. To be honest, I’ve never heard anyone say they wanted love like they saw in a movie or a tv show. Not saying there are not some that have, it’s just never been said around me.
Exiled!
December 11th, 2012
3:03 pm
Hey Somebdyl..say something intelligent so we break this monotony
Leggs
December 11th, 2012
3:03 pm
kimmie ~ do you remember the scene in 9 1/2 weeks where they’re going at it in the alley (I think it’s an alley) and it’s raining outside. Man, I wouldn’t mind having it like that (lol).
disco
December 11th, 2012
3:06 pm
okay. here’s my afternoon silly kicking in. it’s song lyrics and maybe just intelligent enough to get ex’s approval. I just randomly thought “adding is putting together, adding is easy to do, if I had one cookie, and you had one cookie, together they add up to two. one cookie and one cookie makes two cookies” LOL. okay. I know that was totally stupid but y’all gotta know some sesame street songs.
oh and back to love songs. did anyone mention that love is a battlefield?
kimmie
December 11th, 2012
3:07 pm
Leggs – Yeah, that was pretty hot! And that can easily be had, no fairytale!LOL!!!
But I guess some might call that lust, not love. Nothing wrong with that either tho!
i'm swiss
December 11th, 2012
3:07 pm
The love stories that get me are the ones about the old couples who’ve been together pretty much their whole lives and then when one dies, the other dies shortly thereafter. Like they were each other’s reason for living. Sad and sweet, all at the same time…
kimmie
December 11th, 2012
3:10 pm
Disco – Here’s a “love” song I have not heard in awhile:
Computer Love!!
Leggs
December 11th, 2012
3:11 pm
kimmie ~ that was definitely LUST.
That gets me too, swiss. They were holding on for each other. It’s like you hang up, no you hang up, no you hang up. Someone has to go to let the other know you can no go and we’ll meet on the other side.
Leggs
December 11th, 2012
3:12 pm
you can now go….
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 11th, 2012
3:12 pm
swiss – I have a co-worker that has a mother who has been sick since July. She discovered she has bladder cancer. But anyway, her parents have been married for YEARS and now her dad doesn’t know what to do with himself now that his wife has been in the hospital all this time. My co-worker said she’s never seen her dad cry up until now and he’s crying almost daily. I feel said for her and her father because it seems like he would be one that would ‘die of a broken heart’ if her mother were to die.
kimmie
December 11th, 2012
3:14 pm
Swiss – Those are sweet. I had an aunt and uncle to die within 2 weeks of each other. Granted both were sick, but it seemed like uncle was trying to hang for her. She went first.
Comon Cents
December 11th, 2012
3:15 pm
disco~ The Spinners sand that song. Sorry, I’m all late.
Popping in and out randomly.
Ex~ I think you may have bitten off more than you can chew in this particular dog fight… IJS
i'm swiss
December 11th, 2012
3:16 pm
Slim — Yeah, my dad was that way when my mom died. I think I may have told their whole story on here a long time ago.. But, yeah, if it wasn’t for my sister (who’s disabled and lives with my dad), I don’t think my dad would still be here. Now he’s got the little grand daughter to look forward to, also.
Delvon
December 11th, 2012
3:18 pm
Kimmie
Talking bout folk looking for fairy tale type of love. Love basically is finding someone whom you can mesh with and them with you. And from there building something positive.
Comon Cents
December 11th, 2012
3:19 pm
Uh oh… Leggs and kimmie trying to get there freak on on a Tuesday afternoon?!? WTF?!?
Y’all gon make me have to go home and watch 9 1/2 weeks again. However, having seen Mickey Rourke recently night just kill that for me…
disco
December 11th, 2012
3:19 pm
leggs – it’s been a long, long, long time since I’ve had one of those “no you hang up” phone calls. here lately I’m just holding the phone occasionally interjecting an “uh huh” or an “mm hmm”. there’s some boring jokers in my life right now. lol.
Delvon
December 11th, 2012
3:21 pm
Kimmie
I am talking bout fairy tale type of love. To me love is about finding someone who can mesh with you, accept all yo hsit and you accept theirs, no pretense, just doing the thang. And building from there.
czBrat ♀
December 11th, 2012
3:21 pm
um, all this “if you go, i go” talk is over my head.
i’m not even sure i luv my own kids quite that much.
brat’s having some mysterious swelling in the knee. gotta get someone to do a looksee.
ciao!
kimmie
December 11th, 2012
3:22 pm
Delvon – I agree. But I also think everyone can have their own version of a fairytale. What I wanted in a mate I had folks telling me I was looking for a fairytale. But what I wanted was, to me, very basic. And I got it.
i'm swiss
December 11th, 2012
3:22 pm
Comon — Man, back in the day ol’ Micky got all the good sex scenes. He was one lucky SOB. That one w/ Denise from the Cosby Show was prime spanking material for me in my pubescent years..
Leggs
December 11th, 2012
3:23 pm
Comon ~ wasn’t Richard Gere in 9 1/2 weeks???
Celisea
December 11th, 2012
3:23 pm
Finally out of the meeting.
It seems my mom and dad did really well off one another. Once my dad passed, my mom’s health has severly declined. IMO, I think the ying to the yang keeps things going
His dying words were….”take care of your mama”
Leggs
December 11th, 2012
3:24 pm
disco ~ although I wasn’t saying “uh huh” or an “mm hmm, I simply held the phone away from my ear = same thing (lol).
Comon Cents
December 11th, 2012
3:24 pm
swiss~ You’re talking about Angel Heart (and I agree that was hella hot!)
disco~ Nope. Mickey Rourke and Kim Bassinger in 9 1/2 Weeks.
Bluzgirl
December 11th, 2012
3:25 pm
swiss – That gets me too. After my grandfather passed, my grandmother developed Alzheimer’s within 6-8 months. I think her braid couldn’t take losing him. She did live another 10 years, but she was pretty out of it.
Comon Cents
December 11th, 2012
3:25 pm
sorry, Leggs not disco…
Celisea
December 11th, 2012
3:26 pm
My pops passed in 2009 but my mom’s Alzheimer has really kicked in.
disco
December 11th, 2012
3:27 pm
CC – I was going to let it ride. I’ve never seen the movie so I have no idea who is in it.
Delvon
December 11th, 2012
3:27 pm
Kimme
Alright Lil Mama, that’s what’s up.
Comon Cents
December 11th, 2012
3:28 pm
I mean, really?
http://imageocd.com/celebs/mickey-rourke-before-and-after-plastic-surgery-5
Why would one do that to themselves?!? And he was soooo yummy back in the day.
Bluzgirl
December 11th, 2012
3:29 pm
When my mom was diagnosed with kidney cancer last year and had to go through surgery, my dad would call me crying and talking about he doesn’t know what he would do without her. My dad is tough and rarely cries. It really showed me how much he loves her. Luckily, she made it out fine!!!
Delvon
December 11th, 2012
3:29 pm
Speaking of movies, what is with chicks and that Notebook movie?
Leggs
December 11th, 2012
3:31 pm
You’re right, Comon. I’ve always pictured Richard Gere when I remember that intense, libido pulsating scene (lol).
But, you’re right, seeing how he looks now has blurred what he used to look like (lol). Much like Nick Nolte. Thought he was hot in Rich Man, Poor Man. Now he looks like Rorke’s twin.
disco
December 11th, 2012
3:31 pm
delvon – I’m one chick who has never seen it so I can’t comment.
Delvon
December 11th, 2012
3:34 pm
Disco. that;s unusual.
Exiled!
December 11th, 2012
3:34 pm
Swiss..wldnt that be depression accelerating the death of the other
Sweet,yeah..seemingly
Bluzgirl
December 11th, 2012
3:35 pm
Delvon – The Notebook makes me cry every time!!! It’s a great love story