Relationships: We’ve got to break up
Check out this video of a couple who ended their 5 year relationship with a song and video: If only every break up could be this creative!
They decided to part ways because he wanted children and she did not. I love how they are honest enough with one another about the kind of life they really want. They basically can now release each other to go find the right person for them. Do you think you would be able to do that?
I am wondering how they managed to stay in a long-term relationship for five years without being clear on having kids. When you are dating and things are new, do you bring up the topic of babies? Guys can easily get spooked if a woman so much as mentions her ovaries!
Most women I know who want children are not overly eager to talk about children too soon. What is the appropriate time to talk about having children? What do you do if you don’t want the same thing?
Happy Friday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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124 comments Add your comment
Celisea
December 7th, 2012
6:44 am
If there’s something you want that your SO cannot agree with, why would you settle with that? Why compromise?? No way would I “settle.” You may “accept” their answer of no, this or that doesn’t work (for them) and compromise, somehow though, resentment may become the eventual outcome. That would be the absolute worst.
Celisea
December 7th, 2012
6:45 am
JUST MY HUMBLE OPINION, of course
Exiled!
December 7th, 2012
6:50 am
Diva:Most women are not eager……of their children too soon.
I thought the dating stage is the time to hash things out. So admittedly as Diva observes,some play a cat and mouse game by being cagey with the truf.
Altho think it’s such an evil thing to hide your desires about kids just coz u want to show off a guy.
I have heard of chics that hide the fact that they do have kids,just so they look more ummmm,’________’ whatever they deem more appropriate.
But wasting 5 years is a damn long time!
Celisea
December 7th, 2012
7:01 am
Altho think it’s such an evil thing to hide your desires about kids just coz u want to show off a guy.
Exactly…..I can almost bet, eventually somebody won’t be happy. I wonder if it’s out of feeling desperate or believing your SO will later change their mind.
lee
December 7th, 2012
7:03 am
Exiled–How do the chics hide their kids? I never heard of that.
Sometimes people change what they want or their needs change with time, seems this couple was honest with each other and the split was a happy (lol) change, good for them. Hope they find what they seek.
Celisea
December 7th, 2012
7:14 am
There was an entire episode of a chick hiding the fact that she had a kid because she feared losing her new found love. She told the dude her kid was her niece. People do awful things when desperate. Unfathomable yes, but folks do crazy things.
Celisea
December 7th, 2012
7:15 am
On the Bert Show
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 7th, 2012
7:21 am
“When you are dating and things are new, do you bring up the topic of babies?
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No, bringing up anything long term is a no no, I don’t even know you like that yet. Just because two people want the same thing, doesn’t mean they want the same things.
Lee, those are my sisters kids, etc etc etc
Since they say they’re still in love, he thought she would change, 5 years isn’t that long if you’re just dating, everyone isn’t looking for someone to marry tomorrow.
What is the appropriate time to talk about having children?
When you start talking about marriage.
Celisea
December 7th, 2012
7:23 am
Awwwwww, I just teared up at the kid’s reaction on GMA that finally got the LEGO train set he wanted. His mom told him to save his money if he wanted to purchase, so he did. Well by the time two years had passed, it was discontinued. So he wrote LEGO. After searching they found him one and mailed. He wasn’t expecting. His reaction was truly one of a kid of yesteryear. Awwwwwww
Button
December 7th, 2012
8:39 am
5 years? at what age did they start dating, high school?
Do you think you would be able to do that? Yes, I would and have let go and have been let go because we wanted/needed different things out of life.
for me, babies are brought up from the very beginning of getting to know someone. Matter of fact this very samething happened to me with a guy I met who wanted to get married and have more children but since I’m not going to have anymore children we didn’t go any future with dating.
good morning
Button
December 7th, 2012
8:42 am
Ladies aren’t the only ones hiding kids, men do it too which makes it easier for a man to do it since he doesn’t have custody of the kids.
Button
December 7th, 2012
8:54 am
I can’t watch the video. I bet it’s cute though, just the thought alone sound so sweet. Good for them.
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 7th, 2012
9:25 am
Wow, 5 years does sound like a long time to just now come to the realization that they want different things as far as kids go.
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 7th, 2012
9:34 am
Oops, where are my manners….ahem, cough-cough, mi mi mi mieeeeeeeee
Gooooood morning ERRRRRYbody
In keeping with the topic, what do you do when your partner tells you they do not want to get married or have a kid as far as they can tell in the foreseeable future? Do ya move on as well?
Celisea
December 7th, 2012
9:35 am
Off topic….since it’s quiet
I just had a dude to ask me if he could ride with me…lol Why was I pretending I couldn’t hear him? lololol I kept saying “huh?” He finally asked, can I call you? I dunno, I instinctively lied and responded, “I’m married.” I felt bad after I drove off cause his expression showed disbelief…lol
Celisea
December 7th, 2012
9:54 am
Not ride as in getting a lift. He was working and in a utility truck. Bet he makes nicely
czBrat ♀
December 7th, 2012
10:00 am
what do you do when your partner tells you they do not want to get married or have a kid as far as they can tell in the foreseeable future? Do ya move on as well?
people, please, stop HOPING folks will change their mind, heart, plans, and/or desires if you just hang in there long enough. if y’all are not on the same path, part.
chances are you will find suitable mate(s) on your path as long as you’re travelling true to yourself and KNOW yourself.
if you do meet up again down the road and find yourselves heading in the same direction, great!
and yes, celisea, fine line between compromise and settling. resentment will make it’s appearance sooner or later.
HiYas!
Celisea
December 7th, 2012
10:04 am
and yes, celisea, fine line between compromise and settling. resentment will make it’s appearance sooner or later.
czBrat – Exactly. Delusional and denial…the worst
Celisea
December 7th, 2012
10:06 am
People will say “what they gotta” to keep it going, lock it in, seal the deal. But, being a woman, if having a baby is something so desired…especially from the man you love, not just having one but with him, she may suppress it but it won’t EVER leave….at least I don’t believe. She may eventually accept it but again, the desire will linger
Bluzgirl
December 7th, 2012
10:07 am
Morning all!
I got caught up with the ex, hoping he would change his mind about marrying. He said he would never get married again. Every once in a while, he would dangle the carrot of “you never know what will happen in the future.” I held out hope that he would eventually marry me because we “loved” each other enough and thought he would want to make me happy. He would say that he would commit to me forever, but not go through with the marriage. After two years, I’m glad I finally got the guts to break up with him because I knew he would never give me what I wanted and needed. Now, he’s engaged to the next girl and is supposed to get married in May…just over a year after our break up.
Lesson learned. I want to get married one day and won’t date another man who says they will never get married. At this point, I don’t want to have kids, but I’m not totally closed off to it if I find the right man. I would date someone who wants to have kids because I may decide down the road that I’m ready.
Celisea
December 7th, 2012
10:08 am
Running errands….toddles
Leggs
December 7th, 2012
10:19 am
Good morning.
Glad Diva posted that video. I saw it yesterday wondering why he stayed 5 years knowing she never wanted children. Pretty sure they had the convo over and over again. I was thinking it’s not always the woman who stays hoping he would change his mind. I think the best part of the song was telling their friends they don’t have to choose between the two and they can still invite them to events and they will deal with being in the presence of each other.
Celisea ~ I remember the storyline on The Bert Show. She was baffled as to why he didn’t want to continue seeing her after she told him the truth. Hell, to start out with such a huge lie like that, how can one trust you going forward.
I’m playing hooky today.
czBrat ♀
December 7th, 2012
10:22 am
c, can you run mine while you’re out?
please and thank you!
Celisea
December 7th, 2012
10:23 am
Leggs – No matter the situation (cause it may not be “considered” bad), you should always start off with the truth. You just never know how easily that’s digested versus someone finding out subsequently about all your issues…
Okay I’m gone for real…
Fantabulous Friday!!!
Celisea
December 7th, 2012
10:24 am
czBrat – LOL…sure Whatcha need?
BBL
disco
December 7th, 2012
10:31 am
good morning. I had to go back and re-read the topic. guess I missed the question. as for wanting babies or whatever I could say that you want what you want and all that but I’ll go further and say that as adults we know or should know that it’s not always about we want. I’m not saying you shouldn’t strive for what you want but sometimes in life you simply get what you get. if you are lucky/fortunate/blessed what you get and what you want turn out to be the same thing.
kimmie
December 7th, 2012
10:31 am
Happy Friday, Blog Gang!!
Unless they started dating in high school, 5 years is a very long time to date and not be on the same page about something so major. No, you don’t bring up marriage and babies on the first few dates, but I think it needs to be brought up rather early though. That should be one of those big, in general, things you throw out when getting to know someone and you think you’d like to pursue something further than a one-night or fwb thing with them. I don’t want to/can’t have kids, never want to marry, I’m ___ religion and not converting from it or I’m atheist, I’m an illegal immigrant, I’m HIV positive, I have ___ kids whether you have custody or not, I am ex-con – these are some of the biggies I think you ought to just throw out there and be upfront about.
I’ve been in the situation with someone who did not want kids and I did. He told me after we’d been dating a year and the day before he was scheduled to have a vasectomy, which he ended up not going thru with. It was heartbreaking, but I had to move on.
No, the person will not change their mind and yes, no matter how it’s handled, resentment will be there down the line if one party did not at least try to go for their heart’s desire.
kimmie
December 7th, 2012
10:33 am
Disco/Leggs – Did you watch Scandal last week and last night? Please say you did! If not, we can hold off our opinions until after the weekend!
disco
December 7th, 2012
10:42 am
kimmie – I did
kimmie
December 7th, 2012
10:43 am
Plus, depending on the age of the folks involved, mainly the lady, when it comes to having kids time is of the essence. Dragging her along while he makes up his mind about having kids or not is very selfish. She may get to where she either can’t conceive or it will be difficult.
kimmie
December 7th, 2012
10:47 am
Where is everybody???
disco
December 7th, 2012
10:50 am
kimmie – my take on scandal is two fold. the last really good episode was when the killers got together. last week’s shooting made me want to check back in but I admit I was disappointed with last night’s episode (and after I got off of a decent phone call and stayed up past my bedtime to watch it). I’m fed up with Olivia crying every episode too. I know that’s trivial but it bothers me. I’m still feeling the show but not as much as I was. I’m thinking I need huck and Columbus short (forget character name) to keep my attention. the chicks on the show mostly annoy me.
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 7th, 2012
11:02 am
Kimmie from my experience, while I didn’t have a problem with having kids (just was very very low on my list), I figured out after being with them awhile I didn’t want to have kids with them. Was accused of dragging them along.
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 7th, 2012
11:02 am
Slim raising her hand I’m is here, I’m is kind, I’m is smart, I’m is important
Leggs
December 7th, 2012
11:08 am
kimmie ~ I recorded it, will watch it later today.
kimmie
December 7th, 2012
11:08 am
I figured out after being with them awhile I didn’t want to have kids with them. Was accused of dragging them along.
Single – And this is a part of the game a person has to learn to recognize. Your example was with kids, but it could be anything, like marriage. Sometimes they do want to marry, just don’t want to marry YOU. The sooner one can recognize this in the other person and adjust, the sooner they can avoid being played and move on to someone they are more suited to.
disco
December 7th, 2012
11:09 am
slim – that line always makes me think “fat and ugly”. I know. I embraced the wrong message. lol.
kimmie
December 7th, 2012
11:13 am
Disco – The hollering has gotten old with Olivia, I agree. The minute she starts that trembling I’m like “here we go again”!!
Without giving away to Leggs, while last night was not as riviting as I hoped, I could appreciate the background info it provided on Olivia & the Prez relationship.
I got a question to ask you & Leggs after Leggs watches it, about Millie.
Bluzgirl
December 7th, 2012
11:14 am
Last night, I sat down with my DVR and watched the “Catfish” from Monday night. This girl had a “relationship” with a man, but all they did was text. He supposedly lived 15 minutes from her here in Atlanta. They only had two brief phone conversations. Come to find out, the person behind it was a woman who was trying to get her back for messing with her man a couple of years ago. It was crazy!!! That brings it back to…how can you have feelings for someone after just texting for 2 years?!?! SMH
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 7th, 2012
11:14 am
disco – Well fat and ugly don’t live here….anymore
Speaking of ugly, I brought in some old pics of me to work yesterday. Man oh man did i have that phase in my pre-teen age where I was like Ewwwwwwww. I can’t believe I used to look like that, metal mouth and all. 
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 7th, 2012
11:15 am
Kimmie folks do it all the time, meet up, talk about wanting to be married, wanting kids, then do it, and figure out later they really weren’t on the same page because their views were really different about the whole thing.
Exiled!
December 7th, 2012
11:15 am
I laugh when I hear anybody,women especially, say,”we luv each other”…..why speak for the other person even when they are ur current SO…worse when they are an EX….
If he says, ‘I luv you’ in your face,fine but dont be going out to the world and say,” we luv each other”
I just think its lame….
“Queen luves me”….
Quit that Meelo….
All i know is shes married to me and if she tells me she luvs me in my face…ALL good.
I aint gon Come here and say,Queen luvs me”…..why??
Hey…but hey,,what ever floats ur boat!
IJS……….
Leggs
December 7th, 2012
11:18 am
I have a friend who wants to marry, after being with her man for 11 years, 11 freaking years, he wrote her a letter saying he never wants to get marry and he wish her the best. I read the letter and there was no love in that letter, more like a business letter letting a partner go from the firm. She moved out because he told her he was selling the house.
Here’s the clincher, he lost the house and she let him move in with her because she didn’t want to see him on the street. WHAT!!! He’s a grown man. She’s a better person than I. That mo fo would have to sleep in his car before he moved in with me.
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 7th, 2012
11:22 am
leggs, her first mistake was moving in without getting married if that’s what she wanted. If she didn’t want to see him on the street, go in the other direction!!
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 7th, 2012
11:22 am
leggs, her first mistake was moving in without getting married if that’s what she wanted. If she didn’t want to see him on the street, go in the other direction!!
Leggs
December 7th, 2012
11:25 am
Had to laugh at “go in the other direction.” I wholeheartedly agree!!!
Exiled!
December 7th, 2012
11:26 am
I tink she is a bter person than throwing a man she was with for 11 years, ouit on the street. Wld throwing him out on the street atone for him not wanting to marry.
I would also hazard a guess and say that that was not the first time he disclosed his view to her..what happened after 1 year, 2 years,….5…let alone 11 years.
As long as she has accepted her portion of the blame in the whole 11 years of living together with him, she can easily take care of him as a friend or just another person,the same way she could if she felt that way for a stranger, untill he gets to grips with his situation.
Thrwing the man OUT on the street due to vindictiveness will chew her hurt more than it will heal it.
IJS….
disco
December 7th, 2012
11:27 am
leggs – re old boy sleeping in his car. to that I say “sho you right”.
s/h – I won’t necessarily call moving in her mistake. quite frankly I tell chicks all the time that if they have to shack they should move in with dude before they are so quick to move dudes in with them. seems like so many men move in with women and consistently move from woman to woman. I tell chicks all the time, these men aren’t the problem, the women who enable these men are the problem.
kimmie
December 7th, 2012
11:28 am
Single – Your 11:15, yep, that’s just part of the game!
Leggs – Have you spoken about Ms 11 years before on here? Lord, I wish I could grab her right now and shake the sh– out of her!!
Leggs
December 7th, 2012
11:30 am
kimmie ~ I going to watch Scandal right now and turn Jerry Springer off (lol).
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 7th, 2012
11:31 am
Disco, if you want to be married, which maybe she didn’t in the beginning, moving in is a mistake, unless you getting married next week. Most of the time they live together for years, and even if they eventually get married, it doesn’t last as long as when they were living together. Just like with children, if you know what you want and they’re not willing to give it to you, move along.
Leggs
December 7th, 2012
11:35 am
Ex ~ she didn’t throw him out on the street. He put himself there. She’s not his keeper. He’s a grown A man that didn’t handle his business. Not her fault.
kimmie
December 7th, 2012
11:36 am
Exiled – Form the way I understand Leggs story, they were already broken up and she had moved out of HIS house. He lost the house, and can back to her with his tail between his legs.
If I had been stupid enough to let him drag me along for 11 years, I would accept all the “blame”. They good & grown, and a person can only do to you what you allow. She been stupid all that time, so what’s more stupid gonna matter? It’s her life. Just glad it’s not me!
What would disgust me at this point is that this dude has such little pride in himself or respect for me that he would come dragging to me after he lost his house. It would turn my stomach that I even entertained wanting to marry such a sorry sack of ish. Cause personally if the shoe was on the other foot, I would literally live on the street before I went dragging back to him. Some might call me a proud fool, but so be it.
Single and Happy Fantastic Friday
December 7th, 2012
11:39 am
Ex, people go for years making up excuses for why they can’t do something. “we can’t get married because we trying to save up some money, we can’t have kids because we saving for a house,” doing all this while living under the same roof!
Exiled!
December 7th, 2012
11:39 am
If the roles we reversed and a man threw a chic out on the street when shes desperate for help, after being with her for 11 years, but she didnt want any more with him relatiosnhip wise……but cant help her temporarily…he would be a Big loser.
Single and Happy Fantastic Friday
December 7th, 2012
11:40 am
Here’s the bigger question, he lost his house because he wasn’t making the payment! Why is he so broke that he has to live on the street!! what was he doing with his money?
Leggs
December 7th, 2012
11:41 am
kimmie ~ you read the story correctly. To top it off, she found out he has a small convenience store he’s trying to get up and running, but didn’t pay the mortgage. Once the electricity and gas was turned off at the house, he asked if he could stay with her. Me, he would live in the store he’s trying to get off the ground since apparently there’s lights and heat there! Not being vindictive at all. I don’t see what she sees in him, but we like who we like.
Single and Happy Fantastic Friday
December 7th, 2012
11:41 am
Ex, she didn’t throw him out on the street. But she should have left him out there.
Leggs
December 7th, 2012
11:45 am
There’s a huge difference being desperate for help due to no fault of your own, but to f…up things so badly due to your own bad decisions is another thing.
Personally, I was glad she was able to get her own apartment and has her own money!
kimmie
December 7th, 2012
11:45 am
Single – You right about all the excuses folk make. I know of people who have been seperated for years claim they have not gotten a divorce because they can’t afford it. Yet, every time you look up they have new cars, houses, take trips, etc.
disco
December 7th, 2012
11:46 am
S/H – I wasn’t even referring to the marriage part of their situation. just the shacking. I get sick of chicks taking in men. lol. not that men taking in women is necessarily better but the double standard is that I don’t mind men taking care of women nearly as much as I mind women taking care of men.
kimmie – dude likely went back to her because he knew she was caught up on him. he knew she wouldn’t turn her back on him. shoot, she might even be thinking this is her second chance.
Exiled!
December 7th, 2012
11:47 am
Some might call me a proud fool, but so be it.
@Kimmie.
I understand ur pride, that wld be understandable, but u have the option to seek help if u wnted to.
I would feel the same way because i thrive on being Independent.
I am just surprised that “declining to marry someone” however the circumstances, wld incite someone to forgo doing “Good’.
GOOD is not GOOD if it comes with conditions.
I support this lady in keeping her ex, albeit temporarily, as long as she not pining that he stil gon change his mind. That wld be hopeless.
kimmie
December 7th, 2012
11:47 am
. Me, he would live in the store he’s trying to get off the ground since apparently there’s lights and heat there!
Leggs – Exactly. In fact, a real man/woman would do just that.
Single and Happy Fantastic Friday
December 7th, 2012
11:52 am
Disco, I was speaking from both sides there shouldn’t be any shacking at all if marriage is what you want, nobody moving in with nobody. For me, if we aren’t getting married within a week, not going to happen.
Exiled!
December 7th, 2012
11:52 am
If someone needs help desperately and i know them,its not my place to find out how he got messed up….
He is a drug user and needs help…ofcourse he did that to himself…..
I cant use that and say i cant help u coz u occassioned ur own downfall…
Really.
People fall for whatever reason, either u want to help or u dont..
Period……..
disco
December 7th, 2012
11:52 am
ex – I can do good without inviting folks to stay in my house especially folks who put me out of theirs. yep. there are other ways of doing good. perhaps I would have given old boy a handful of granola bars and a few bottles of water as I wished him well and told him to get off my doorstep.
kimmie
December 7th, 2012
11:52 am
she might even be thinking this is her second chance.
Disco – Bingo!!
Exiled – Different things make different people mad. You might be ready to mess someone up cause they stole your car. You’ve heard that quote “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned”? Well even though a woman might have been stupid and allowed it, that’s enough for some to go slap off on a dude. You look back and see all your best, fertile, young & cute years are behind you cause you spent years waiting on this dude.
Not saying it’s right, just saying it’s understandable.
disco
December 7th, 2012
11:53 am
s/h – on the marriage point I agree.
Exiled!
December 7th, 2012
11:55 am
she might even be thinking this is her second chance.
Disco – Bingo!!
If thats her thinking, then i can understand why u get milked for 11 years…
Leggs
December 7th, 2012
11:55 am
I’d be damned if a man asks me to leave his home, writes me a letter basically denouncing all that we had, throwing me to the wind all the while wishing me luck in the future then turn around a few months later asking if he can move in with me.
HELL NO. Bitter, nope, eyes finally opened YES!
kimmie
December 7th, 2012
11:57 am
Bitter, nope
Leggs- Hell yeah, I would be bitter! Bitter with him and bitter with myself. I’m just putting it out there!!LOL!!
Leggs
December 7th, 2012
12:00 pm
Bitter is what dictates your emotions going forward and how you project yourself onto others. Pissed and upset at myself and at him, YES!
kimmie
December 7th, 2012
12:00 pm
Single – To your 11:52, I agree. In my case, it was a month before the wedding, but there WAS going to be a wedding, not hoping there would be one!!
disco
December 7th, 2012
12:00 pm
kimmie – and I chime in with “right right”. that’s some wish a ninja would stuff right there. that’s why this screams that this woman either has a heart of gold or she still wants this man. either way, to her I say, good luck with that.
kimmie
December 7th, 2012
12:01 pm
Leggs – I prolly still would be bitter, whatever the definition, for awhile anyway. I’m just sayin
Single and Happy Fantastic Friday
December 7th, 2012
12:01 pm
If someone needs help desperately and i know them,its not my place to find out how he got messed up…. I need to know, if it was something within your control, then you knew the consequences!
Leggs
December 7th, 2012
12:02 pm
O/T ~ loving that coat Olivia is wearing (lol).
disco
December 7th, 2012
12:03 pm
kimmie – re millie without disclosing any show details, I’ll say that I actually like her. she knows who she is, what she wants and is willing to do what she has to do to get it. I don’t agree with her 100% but I respect her game. she doesn’t irk me like those other tow chicks do. especially that ally/abby/aggie whatever the heck her name is. she one just bothers me.
Single and Happy Fantastic Friday
December 7th, 2012
12:04 pm
Kimmie with me, we would have had to do the courthouse first and the ceremony in a month.
Leggs
December 7th, 2012
12:05 pm
Single ~ I was thinking the same thing, it is my place to ask how you messed up so badly to be in whatever the predicament is that leads you to me. Hell, you could be running from the law and need a place to hide. I need to know.
Exiled!
December 7th, 2012
12:07 pm
IF u want to know defnition of bitter, look and John Mccain……..
he can couch his actions however way he wants..he is going to die a bitter man,not having had the opportunity to fly on Airforce One at his command.
Leggs
December 7th, 2012
12:20 pm
KIMMIE/DISCO ~ DVR STOPPED…DIDN’T RECORD LAST 3 MINS. WHAT HAPPENED???
kimmie
December 7th, 2012
12:25 pm
Single – I’m not mad atcha. At least you have principles!
kimmie
December 7th, 2012
12:29 pm
Leggs – Where did it cut off? Did you get to the part where they revealed the killer, which is Huck?
Disco(and Leggs) – Did you see that look Millie gave that guy when she & the Prez were posing for that picture at the Whitehouse? She was wearing a green dress and they were taking pics and it looked like a bunch of reporters. I’m just wondering what that was all about.
kimmie
December 7th, 2012
12:31 pm
Leggs – I love a lot most of Olivia’s wardrobe!! I know the coat you’re talking about too. A lady here at my job has one like it. I told her Olivia was wearing her coat on Scandal!
Single and Happy Fantastic Friday
December 7th, 2012
12:31 pm
Leggs, if you have xfinity, it may be on Ondemand
Leggs
December 7th, 2012
12:32 pm
kimmie ~ I thought the look she gave the guy was realizing he knew why he wasn’t wearing the flag pin.
DVR cut off with Huck picking up the bullets.
kimmie
December 7th, 2012
12:32 pm
Well maybe not killer, but the shooter, Huck.
Leggs
December 7th, 2012
12:35 pm
Yeah I can catch it OnDemand, but just need to know what happened the last 3 mins (lol).
kimmie
December 7th, 2012
12:37 pm
I thought the look she gave the guy was realizing he knew why he wasn’t wearing the flag pin.
Leggs – Okay, that makes sense. I’m overthinking it.
He picks up the bullets and then the camera zeros in so you clearly see who it is. That’s how it ends. Then they show scenes from next week. Now that we know who it is, the question is WHY.
Leggs
December 7th, 2012
12:44 pm
Ok, I saw all that. What I want to know is why Olivia and Huck drugged the newbie a few episodes ago. She still doesn’t know it was them. Did they erase her memory?
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 7th, 2012
12:50 pm
he lost the house and she let him move in with her because she didn’t want to see him on the street. WHAT!!!
That’s just sad…but yeah he would’ve been sleeping in his car or a shelter before I let him move in with me. Plus after 11 years of living together and he STILL hadn’t asked her to marry him….chile please.
Leggs
December 7th, 2012
12:53 pm
Back to topic: bottom line is not to stay in a relationship where both parties are not on the same page. When there are important issues such as children and marriage and only one person wants this, time to unblock your blessings and move on.
Single and Happy Fantastic Friday
December 7th, 2012
12:55 pm
Today is a day that will live in infamy, a moment of silence for those that died on this day.
i'm swiss
December 7th, 2012
1:28 pm
Are we still in the moment of silence?
Well, I guess now that I’ve ruined it… Off topic:
http://www.cnn.com/video/?hpt=hp_c2#/video/world/2012/12/07/india-weeping-jesus.cnn
So, let me get this straight. A catholic church in India is having parishioners drink the “miracle” water from a Jesus statue, but when a dude points out that the source of said water is actually a sewer leak underneath the statue, he’s the one who’s charged with a crime?
Ah, religion…
Leggs
December 7th, 2012
1:42 pm
Ok, moment of silence has been broken by swiss.
Leggs
December 7th, 2012
1:48 pm
Hope everyone has a fabulous weekend.
Going to get my hair did.
Celisea
December 7th, 2012
1:54 pm
Slow day I see……lunch at Copelands, DELISH
Have a fantab weekend!!
Single and Happy Fantastic Friday
December 7th, 2012
2:03 pm
Swiss, do you have something against religion, even though I agree, they’re just mad because he made them look stupid.
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 7th, 2012
2:19 pm
That is funny swiss….sewage water, YUCK!
Robert
December 7th, 2012
2:22 pm
“Guys can easily get spooked if a woman so much as mentions her ovaries”
Yes, this is a true statement. I do not date women under 35 with no children because I do not want anymore kids. Women under 35 have a sense of urgency to have children because their biological clock is ticking and they feel compelled to expedite the process before they are too old to have children.
I have discussed this matter with several women who are know ready to have children. For whatever reason they choose to postpone having children until they have completed their education, started their business careers and purchased a home. They thought it was in their best interest to be financially secure. They did not feel they were ready to take care of children. Know they want a family regardless of a man or husband. Were they selfish?
I know I sound selfish but atleast I am honest about it.
Single and Happy Fantastic Friday
December 7th, 2012
2:24 pm
I wonder did anyone get sick off that water
i'm swiss
December 7th, 2012
2:28 pm
S/H — Let’s just say I’m not a believer…
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 7th, 2012
2:28 pm
Robert – I wanted to be married first before having kids…it just hasn’t happened yet so no kids. (34yr over here)
Single and Happy Fantastic Friday
December 7th, 2012
2:32 pm
Understand swiss,
Slim You’re selfish (LOL) How dare you put marriage before kids (lmao)
Single and Happy Fantastic Friday
December 7th, 2012
2:35 pm
Robert, if you don’t want anymore children, have you done something to take care of that?
Robert
December 7th, 2012
2:38 pm
@Single – ” if you don’t want anymore children, have you done something to take care of that?”
Yes. I have stock in “Magnum Condums” and I believe “spit” does not make babies. I practice safe sex.
Single and Happy Fantastic Friday
December 7th, 2012
2:43 pm
No vasectomy yet, condoms break
Sassy Me...Ready for whatever ;-)
December 7th, 2012
2:43 pm
They thought it was in their best interest to be financially secure. They did not feel they were ready to take care of children.
Umm selfish no…responsible maybe? Selfish would be to have babies and expect someone else(like the state) to foot the bill…selfish would be to keep doing it and abusing/using the system….IMO
abc
December 7th, 2012
2:45 pm
Regarding whether people are selfish or not for waiting, into their 30’s and even 40’s, to marry and have kids: perhaps, but more than that, I think it shows a lack of thinking ahead. I married quite young, my first child was born when I was 22; but, now with all the kids out of the house, it’s almost like a 2nd youth, only I have more means and time now to do what I want. That compares with being 60 when your kid(s) graduate high school, approaching 70 when they finish college. I’m glad I didn’t wait.
But then, marrying young was a lot more common back then. It’s what people wanted to do. These days, a lot of people have a tough time getting their 20-something kids to even move out of the house and be on their own. People mature more slowly these days, I think.
Single and Happy Fantastic Friday
December 7th, 2012
2:45 pm
Yep sassy that is selfish
abc
December 7th, 2012
2:49 pm
Expecting government sponsorship is more prevalent in urban areas and all across the South than in other places. It used to be a natural progression to get married young, have kids, and figure it all out as you went along.
Single and Happy Fantastic Friday
December 7th, 2012
2:49 pm
divorced and didn’t know it
http://www.cafemom.com/articles/in_the_news/146893/womans_dead_husband_divorced_her?utm_medium=sem2&utm_campaign=prism&utm_source=outbrain&utm_content=0
Single and Happy Fantastic Friday
December 7th, 2012
2:51 pm
Married to you own father and not know it
http://articles.nydailynews.com/2012-09-22/news/34026514_1_cnn-dna-test-three-children
Bluzgirl
December 7th, 2012
2:59 pm
I have made the decision to not have kids because I am selfish. I still have a lot I want to do with my life. I don’t want to give up my “me” time at this point. I think it’s better to admit that I’m too selfish at this point in my life. Now, I have said that I give myself until 35 to change my mind (only 2 years away). I don’t want to be an old mom. My mom had an older mom and it was tough.
Bluzgirl
December 7th, 2012
3:26 pm
Dang…did everyone leave?
S/H – I can’t see the first article you posted, but the one about the woman marrying her father…that’s messed up right there!
czBrat ♀
December 7th, 2012
3:43 pm
I have made the decision to not have kids because I am selfish. I still have a lot I want to do with my life. I don’t want to give up my “me” time at this point. I think it’s better to admit that I’m too selfish at this point in my life
this is what i want for my kids.
which is a different kind of selfish, i guess.
Bluzgirl
December 7th, 2012
4:00 pm
Yeah…I think this is a good selfish. I recognize that I like to go out and do what I want and sleep as late as I want. I’d be afraid that I’d be calling on my parents too much to babysit. Not that I wouldn’t be a great mother and change my lifestyle…I just don’t want to. Also, I’m so glad to not have had a baby with ANY of the men I’ve been with in the past!!!
Willie Dynamite
December 7th, 2012
4:15 pm
Late afternoon all,
I was very selfish as far as not wanting to change my ways. That is until the crumbsnatchas start showing up. Made me a better more responsible person. Without kids I’d prolly be a 40 y/o whoremonger with a nice bachelor pad living the life. Naww I wouldn’t trade (dayum who have I become).
Bluzgirl
December 7th, 2012
4:33 pm
I guess everyone else has signed off, other that you and I Willie! I guess I’ll go ahead and log off of here as well. Have a great weekend!
czBrat ♀
December 7th, 2012
4:36 pm
wd, reminds me of the very early days with my ex. we would run to macy’s to shop for new outfits rather than do a load of laundry. lmao.
yeah, thing 1 put an end to that. forced a whole new way of life upon us.
Willie Dynamite
December 7th, 2012
4:42 pm
Brat- I still had the selfish streak somewhat. Just change to buying a pair of Jordan’s and baby Jordan’s hahaha.
Willie Dynamite
December 7th, 2012
4:48 pm
Kinda sorta relating to the topic- I’ve always been accused of being a better Father than mate.
Have a good weekend folks.
czBrat ♀
December 7th, 2012
4:55 pm
Just change to buying a pair of Jordan’s and baby Jordan’s hahaha.
now that ^ right there describes my xmas shopping.
ciao!