Relationships: We’ve got to break up
Check out this video of a couple who ended their 5 year relationship with a song and video: If only every break up could be this creative!
They decided to part ways because he wanted children and she did not. I love how they are honest enough with one another about the kind of life they really want. They basically can now release each other to go find the right person for them. Do you think you would be able to do that?
I am wondering how they managed to stay in a long-term relationship for five years without being clear on having kids. When you are dating and things are new, do you bring up the topic of babies? Guys can easily get spooked if a woman so much as mentions her ovaries!
Most women I know who want children are not overly eager to talk about children too soon. What is the appropriate time to talk about having children? What do you do if you don’t want the same thing?
Happy Friday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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124 comments Add your comment
Robert
December 7th, 2012
2:22 pm
“Guys can easily get spooked if a woman so much as mentions her ovaries”
Yes, this is a true statement. I do not date women under 35 with no children because I do not want anymore kids. Women under 35 have a sense of urgency to have children because their biological clock is ticking and they feel compelled to expedite the process before they are too old to have children.
I have discussed this matter with several women who are know ready to have children. For whatever reason they choose to postpone having children until they have completed their education, started their business careers and purchased a home. They thought it was in their best interest to be financially secure. They did not feel they were ready to take care of children. Know they want a family regardless of a man or husband. Were they selfish?
I know I sound selfish but atleast I am honest about it.
Single and Happy Fantastic Friday
December 7th, 2012
2:24 pm
I wonder did anyone get sick off that water
i'm swiss
December 7th, 2012
2:28 pm
S/H — Let’s just say I’m not a believer…
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 7th, 2012
2:28 pm
Robert – I wanted to be married first before having kids…it just hasn’t happened yet so no kids. (34yr over here)
Single and Happy Fantastic Friday
December 7th, 2012
2:32 pm
Understand swiss,
Slim You’re selfish (LOL) How dare you put marriage before kids (lmao)
Single and Happy Fantastic Friday
December 7th, 2012
2:35 pm
Robert, if you don’t want anymore children, have you done something to take care of that?
Robert
December 7th, 2012
2:38 pm
@Single – ” if you don’t want anymore children, have you done something to take care of that?”
Yes. I have stock in “Magnum Condums” and I believe “spit” does not make babies. I practice safe sex.
Single and Happy Fantastic Friday
December 7th, 2012
2:43 pm
No vasectomy yet, condoms break
Sassy Me...Ready for whatever ;-)
December 7th, 2012
2:43 pm
They thought it was in their best interest to be financially secure. They did not feel they were ready to take care of children.
Umm selfish no…responsible maybe? Selfish would be to have babies and expect someone else(like the state) to foot the bill…selfish would be to keep doing it and abusing/using the system….IMO
abc
December 7th, 2012
2:45 pm
Regarding whether people are selfish or not for waiting, into their 30’s and even 40’s, to marry and have kids: perhaps, but more than that, I think it shows a lack of thinking ahead. I married quite young, my first child was born when I was 22; but, now with all the kids out of the house, it’s almost like a 2nd youth, only I have more means and time now to do what I want. That compares with being 60 when your kid(s) graduate high school, approaching 70 when they finish college. I’m glad I didn’t wait.
But then, marrying young was a lot more common back then. It’s what people wanted to do. These days, a lot of people have a tough time getting their 20-something kids to even move out of the house and be on their own. People mature more slowly these days, I think.
Single and Happy Fantastic Friday
December 7th, 2012
2:45 pm
Yep sassy that is selfish
abc
December 7th, 2012
2:49 pm
Expecting government sponsorship is more prevalent in urban areas and all across the South than in other places. It used to be a natural progression to get married young, have kids, and figure it all out as you went along.
Single and Happy Fantastic Friday
December 7th, 2012
2:49 pm
divorced and didn’t know it
http://www.cafemom.com/articles/in_the_news/146893/womans_dead_husband_divorced_her?utm_medium=sem2&utm_campaign=prism&utm_source=outbrain&utm_content=0
Single and Happy Fantastic Friday
December 7th, 2012
2:51 pm
Married to you own father and not know it
http://articles.nydailynews.com/2012-09-22/news/34026514_1_cnn-dna-test-three-children
Bluzgirl
December 7th, 2012
2:59 pm
I have made the decision to not have kids because I am selfish. I still have a lot I want to do with my life. I don’t want to give up my “me” time at this point. I think it’s better to admit that I’m too selfish at this point in my life. Now, I have said that I give myself until 35 to change my mind (only 2 years away). I don’t want to be an old mom. My mom had an older mom and it was tough.
Bluzgirl
December 7th, 2012
3:26 pm
Dang…did everyone leave?
S/H – I can’t see the first article you posted, but the one about the woman marrying her father…that’s messed up right there!
czBrat ♀
December 7th, 2012
3:43 pm
I have made the decision to not have kids because I am selfish. I still have a lot I want to do with my life. I don’t want to give up my “me” time at this point. I think it’s better to admit that I’m too selfish at this point in my life
this is what i want for my kids.
which is a different kind of selfish, i guess.
Bluzgirl
December 7th, 2012
4:00 pm
Yeah…I think this is a good selfish. I recognize that I like to go out and do what I want and sleep as late as I want. I’d be afraid that I’d be calling on my parents too much to babysit. Not that I wouldn’t be a great mother and change my lifestyle…I just don’t want to. Also, I’m so glad to not have had a baby with ANY of the men I’ve been with in the past!!!
Willie Dynamite
December 7th, 2012
4:15 pm
Late afternoon all,
I was very selfish as far as not wanting to change my ways. That is until the crumbsnatchas start showing up. Made me a better more responsible person. Without kids I’d prolly be a 40 y/o whoremonger with a nice bachelor pad living the life. Naww I wouldn’t trade (dayum who have I become).
Bluzgirl
December 7th, 2012
4:33 pm
I guess everyone else has signed off, other that you and I Willie! I guess I’ll go ahead and log off of here as well. Have a great weekend!
czBrat ♀
December 7th, 2012
4:36 pm
wd, reminds me of the very early days with my ex. we would run to macy’s to shop for new outfits rather than do a load of laundry. lmao.
yeah, thing 1 put an end to that. forced a whole new way of life upon us.
Willie Dynamite
December 7th, 2012
4:42 pm
Brat- I still had the selfish streak somewhat. Just change to buying a pair of Jordan’s and baby Jordan’s hahaha.
Willie Dynamite
December 7th, 2012
4:48 pm
Kinda sorta relating to the topic- I’ve always been accused of being a better Father than mate.
Have a good weekend folks.
czBrat ♀
December 7th, 2012
4:55 pm
Just change to buying a pair of Jordan’s and baby Jordan’s hahaha.
now that ^ right there describes my xmas shopping.
ciao!