Online Deception: Catfish: The TV Show
Against my better judgment, I found myself sucked in to reality tv’s latest offering on MTV:
Catfish: The TV Show. The show originated from the documentary film, Catfish, about a guy who meets a woman online and falls for her, only to discover it was a all a hoax.
You would think with all of our daily use of technology, smart phones, video chats, etc. that it would be challenging to pretend to be somebody else. Sadly, the show seems to feature people who are really trusting, a little technologically challenging, and maybe a little gullible.
I couldn’t help but feel bad for the people who were faced with the revelation that the person who they grew to care for was either non-existent or misrepresenting themselves. How do you get past that kind of deception?
Have you ever experienced any Catfish situations online? Has anyone ever pretended to be someone else? If we continue to meet and interact online, what are tips we can use to navigate the shady and untrustworthy people?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog.
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Celisea......on vacay!!
December 6th, 2012
6:22 am
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Lady~it is what it is!
December 6th, 2012
6:42 am
guess I need to check the hype out. I have no clue! Morning C!
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
7:02 am
Oooops, not sure how that happened…I hadn’t started typing.
I have never signed up to become a member of a virtual dating site….not my thing. I have though, interacted virtually and have had about 5 guys to reach out in an effort to pursue something. Not my thing. Two, I sort of played footsies with. The rest, nooooo. Well let me tell you….
Both dudes I communicated with over a year but not at the same time. I will say the time though did overlap. The first dude wasn’t bad and probably more true to who he said he was than the second dude. I didn’t get the feeling of him trying to date several women or just being an out all liar. I acutally met the first dude who wasn’t bad….until he went moist. That’s the worst. But I don’t need to rant about that.
The second dude? OooooMGosh!! Talk about Catfish. I never met him and I’m glad it never reached that point, although we bounced around the idea. Nothing about him was real. To this day, I still believe he attempted on several women. It ain’t rocket science. You can “read” lies and hear untruths. I think so many depend on having that blindside and jump all over the opportunity to deceive in the dark world of virtual hooking up…lol Not only that, he got angry with me, had a trantrum and blabbed what he and I discussed in private. Yep, he spilled it…. shy of dropping my name. For me, all bets are off at that point. Ummmm, whose gonna deal with that?
That dude broke code by doing that. I even took the high road, cause he seemed to not be able to let go and reached out to make amends. He just took that another way. So, I finally came to the realization that maybe there was something mental going on and moved on away. He confirmed for me to NEVER do anything virtually. Noooo way. Buddy snooped more than once in emails to me, etc etc etc Yeah, I talked about him and his lack of character. You’re mad cause I talked about your lack of character but you’re in my emails under guise??? Ummm, okay then. I owed this dude nothing after all he did. Of course he would probably never see it that way. And although he adamantly denied having several women, it just wouldn’t have been like him to do otherwise.
Sure, in the virtual world you can hide and lie behind the screen. You can be Mr. Wonderful all the while lying. Who would really know?
Overall, that situation just confirmed for me what I always thought about the world of virtual dating. Lies and deception, most of the time.
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
7:02 am
Morning Lady!!
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
7:07 am
IMO, people that lie and deceive are drawn to these type places/sites. I’m not knocking it 100%, because I believe there are some folks out there really looking and looking to be truthful. And yes, people that are liars you meet everyday, I just think virtual dating is a breeding ground for people that spin webs, to get it done.
lee
December 6th, 2012
7:25 am
I never watched catfish really don’t watch tv. You can meet shady people anywhere and people lie all the time– they are everywhere. So the manner in which you first met means nothing. Its just easier for them to do it on-line, i see it all the time on face-book, people are trying to impress others how wonderful their lives are or poor me omg what am i to do.. boohoo, and their lives are fine they are looking for the sympathy vote… dear lord i have several. lol
Trust is earned not given- do not give it fully without knowledge that the person deserves it.
Ask questions if things don’t add-up, step away.
and some you can know a life time without knowing truly who they are inside.
i don’t know what happened to my first post… but ohwell
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
7:52 am
OOOOOOOOOMG, the Play of the Day on GMA was waaaay too cute. A baby and a man on the corner (peddling), I’m assuming. But the baby steals the show. There’s opera playing, the man lip synching (sp), I guess but the baby is singing the song and loud. Sooooo cute.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 6th, 2012
8:01 am
Has anyone ever pretended to be someone else?
I have known people to do this
Have you ever experienced any Catfish situations online?
No
If we continue to meet and interact online, what are tips we can use to navigate the shady and untrustworthy people?
Get to know people before going all goo goo over them. You should use the same precautions online that you use offline, for some odd reason we seem to forget anyone can lie to you, no matter where you meet them.
ou would think with all of our daily use of technology, smart phones, video chats, etc. that it would be challenging to pretend to be somebody else. Sadly, the show seems to feature people who are really trusting, a little technologically challenging, and maybe a little gullible.
the only difference with online is that people sometimes can lie about their appearance, for me if you don’t have web cam, or can’t send me several picture from your phone at several different times, we can’t talk.
Also, I don’t care where we meet, for the first 5 to 6 months, it’s all fluff, not going to really start paying attention until then.
Friends first
Relationship if it develops!
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 6th, 2012
8:08 am
Lee, it’s not just facebook, it just gave people a broader range of people to tell their stories too. Co-workers do it, friends do it, strangers will even do it. hell some even do it here!!
Lee
December 6th, 2012
8:40 am
Thats true Single, i was just using that as an example.
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
8:43 am
Online is for losers if u looking for a relationship coz a loser and failure in offline dating will get a hit.
A hit is good for females(I guess men too) coz it makes u feel like men like u. So who is not to hit u online if u show a 30 year old mag shot when u were trim and lean?
The taste of the visual is when u actually meet,then you’ll realize when this 350 pound Amazon says,’hello I’m Hazel’ 
That’s right!
So why waste ur time? Really!
Meet them at Publix live,at Kroger live,at Qt live,at the Mall live etc.
Then approach unless u are shy and a loser! Or u are female and not getting live hits…and I understand not every female gets hits.
Now,if it’s bootey u want then go Online!
@MsAtl.. How did the fish turn out? I ended up ovening(verb) ours coz Queen took a detour . Like a natural that Iam it was good. Not my best but waay better than most long nailed chics on this blog could muster!
@at u booed chics.. I need to buy Queen a Xmas present,what would you recommend. Some sexxy and reasonably priced. Don’t give me the ‘what she likes cop out’, I get that. Lol
U too Celisea..u booed up and what’s ur man getting u if he asked?
Hey MIA!
Button
December 6th, 2012
8:45 am
I watched tow episodes of that show and the lies lies lies that people tell. I going to go back on demand to watch any missed episodes.
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 6th, 2012
8:45 am
Good morning,
I’ve seen that Catfish show and I’m confused on why a person would spend as much time virtually interacting as they do. How can a person allow themselves to get emotionally involved with people they haven’t met in person, or at least Skyped with. That’s just insane to me. I don’t even like long distance relationships, let alone one solely based on a computer screen, keyboard and keystrokes…(physical strokes are soooo much more fun and enjoyable
)
Button
December 6th, 2012
8:46 am
Meant two episodes….
Good morning
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
8:49 am
Let me warn u ladies I got very good taste! Lol
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 6th, 2012
8:51 am
And for those of you who haven’t watched, one chick had been having an online relationship with who she thought was some model working on the Celsea Lately Show for at least 8/9 months. Come to find out she was talking and falling in love with a butch looking CHICK the whole time
disco
December 6th, 2012
8:54 am
good morning.
ex – hazel? now that’s funny. don’t think I ever met anyone named hazel.
re topic – I’m not an online dater or a reality tv watcher so I’ll wait for random conversation about something else to kick in.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 6th, 2012
9:06 am
Meet them at Publix live,at Kroger live,at Qt live,at the Mall live etc.
Yea cause there diffidently are any losers there (rotflmao)
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
9:14 am
Mmeello – You know, we haven’t discussed Christmas stuff yet
But I liked the sweater I posted here the other day from Brooks Brothers. You know, something not too over the top but oozing with class. It’s not been a full year so I don’t think we should be dropping a ton of money on gifts. We tapped around this thing for months and really just these last couple of month took a deep dive (no pun intended) 
A gift for Queen? You gotta tell us first what she has an appetite for
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
9:17 am
Sorry, I can’t do virtual…noooo buddy. I like meeting folks in person and that way you can at least have a jump on all the mystery that lies behind the person behind the screen.
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
9:22 am
I haven’t watched Catfish either but I got snippets of 20/20 or some evening show a couple of weeks ago that featured a reality show (and it could have been snippets of Catfish) where a dude work with folks in hooking them up with their online loves. Welll, this chick was all in love with some dude (they showed his pic…not bad) and was stoked to be meeting him after 8 months. Well, come to find out, there was a chick behind it all. The dude’s real gf used to bully (think that’s what the show said) the chick behind it all. In an effort to get back at the bully gf, she took his pic and built an online profile and had been communicating as this dude for about 4 years with several woman. When the cameras showed up, the chick behind it all was shocked and fessed up right there. That other chick was crushed. They did an update months later (same segment) and the chick crushed had finally met someone and said they’re were thriving.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 6th, 2012
9:22 am
I take the old route of meeting and getting acquainted personally. Although meeting in person doesn’t gaurantee a love affair will bloom it takes some guess work out of a blind circumstance. If you’re dating electronically proceed with caution as you would any place else. Making contact on a computer screen before meeting possibly makes it easier to meet in person.
Good Morning
Button
December 6th, 2012
9:23 am
a loser is going to be a loser whether online or offline.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 6th, 2012
9:27 am
Never seen Catfish, I haven’t heard of MTV in ages.
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
9:29 am
Well, skyping, sending pics, webcam…none of that takes the mystery out of it for me. So for me, having pics does nothing than if you didn’t…IMO For me, I want real live interaction. It’s all still a mystery unless it’s live and in living color
I actually met my boo at an event that I attended and I knew he was a good catch. Just took me a few months to get on board. I just teetered with the shifting and adjustments I’d have to do in making it work. That was my only drawback. Too, I didn’t want to miss out on potentially a good thing
Live and in living color and upclose and personal…lol
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 6th, 2012
9:29 am
@Button you sho is right about that. @9:23
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
9:32 am
MMeello – I always like “getaways.” Think you could give queen a getaway, maybe something different. Skiing or something like that? Something y’all could do after the holidays, maybe January but have the certificate or something to speak to it in a cute little box. Say a 3 or 4 day getaway and someone keep the kids? Y’all can snuggle and eat out and ski and have fun and gain weight…if you like
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
9:33 am
Celisea…I was thinking in the direction of lingerie or that plus some other stuff.
I don’t usually do clothes coz women clothing is just so difficult unless if it’s a pair of shoes or boots.
She is usually impressed by my choices tho coz I also got good taste tho.
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
9:35 am
Now yes Celisea she def likes travel and hotels and gateways even in Atlanta
She will digg that!
U got ideas?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 6th, 2012
9:35 am
Cely you’re a hands on lady, I like to feel the aura of the atmosphere in person. Like that live action.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 6th, 2012
9:37 am
Online dating just like everything else, is a new form of something old! Personal ads were in the papers for decades. If you’re looking for a job, do you look in the hiring section of the paper or do you go online? if you’re looking for a car do you look in the auto section or do you go online? When you’re shopping do you look at the sales adds or do you go online? People have been doing this things for years just in a different form! There’s nothing wrong with it because it’s not for you, everything isn’t for everyone.
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
9:38 am
MMeello – Colorado!! Or even the Georgia Mountains. But I like Colorado. That might get expensive though. Maybe leave a Thursday and come back Sunday or Monday. Get a nice cabin and maybe ski time (or lessons). Just snuggle and enjoy the scenery. Stay in a place with a restaurant or cafe so if y’all don’t to drive or venture out too far, you can have everything at your fingertips. Make sure there’s a fireplace
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
9:44 am
Blackfoote – Yep, I just feel better meeting people in person from the jump. It may not work out, but that’s just my preference.
Button
December 6th, 2012
9:45 am
Exile do you have soft hands or ol’rough hands? for some reason you I think you have the ol’rough rip ya stocking hands. LOL
Button
December 6th, 2012
9:47 am
right on Single, everything is not for everybody but you still have to be vigilant when doing so.
Leggs
December 6th, 2012
9:47 am
Never heard of Catfish. I don’t believe in virtually dating anyone.
Celisea ~ I saw the “Play of the Day,” and the little girl was too adorable.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 6th, 2012
9:50 am
LOL…….@Leggs
This word puts it all in perspective “virtually”.
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
9:50 am
Leggs – Glad someone else saw it. She was sooo cute, all nice and snuggly in her coat and stroller…lol
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
9:51 am
I just ate burnt raisin toast.
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
9:52 am
Scott Baio is 52!!
Button
December 6th, 2012
9:54 am
I did the online dating years ago following the trend against my better judgement I took the advise of a colleague who swore by it. She sold me on it and I thought what the heck, big mistake. Every guy I met had emotional problems beyond this world. I deactivated my account and washed my hands to online dating, it just wasn’t for me. It worked for my colleague and thousands of others who’s had success in finding love it just didn’t work for me. Everytime I see an ad for online dating I smh.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 6th, 2012
9:55 am
Button you have to be vigilant these days when meeting anyone anywhere, you never know what people of capable of!
the funniest thing to me, is some people still have a problem using their card online, but will hand it to anyone at any restaurant with out a problem.
I’ve never known anyone get taking for anything that meet online, but I do know several that meet “Mr. Right” in person and got taken for a lot. The only difference is that the media isn’t going to find much of a story in that.
DuShawn
December 6th, 2012
9:56 am
The closest I ever came to online dating was a couple of years ago, I started a facebook page. I was totally green to how it worked. I located an old girlfriend I hadn’t seen in twenty years. I contacted her and gave her my cell number and email. Unknowingly, I apparently posted the information to her wall.
She called and told me everyone in the world could’ve seen my correspondence. Literally about 20 min later, Wifey sends me a friend request and then text me and says “I see you reaching out to your old chickenheads”. Man, I couldn’t cancel that page fast enough. The funny thing is, Facebook had a lot of instructions on how to get started, but nothing on how to permanently delete you page. I had to call the 800 help number to get off that Sh*%t.
Button
December 6th, 2012
9:58 am
virtual daters fall inlove with the illusion. It’s hardcore head game, nothing different than phone schex jmo
Leggs
December 6th, 2012
9:59 am
Exactly, BF. We can talk online and find out things about each other, but I’m not putting much stock into all that you say until we meet. I’m not even putting stock in your picture posted on your profile.
Button
December 6th, 2012
10:01 am
online dating is big business, I need to start me a millionaire matchmaker online dating site.
Lee
December 6th, 2012
10:04 am
A g/f of mine met this well put together guy while waiting to get her car fixed. Nice car nice clothes nice presentation. She was so excited, come to find out he is a scam artist. The car was not his, and everything he told her was a lie. He didn’t even have a place to live. If it wasn’t for her telling another friend of her date, she would have been another victim. Everyone needs to be careful.
Michelle
December 6th, 2012
10:04 am
I’m kinda shocked that so many seem to be against online dating. It’s the same as meeting a new person in a store or a bar. You meet, exchange numbers, see if you have good convo, and then agree to meet/date. Simple. The people on Catfish are letting the whole online thing go way tooooo looong. 8 months???? Weirdo’s. I know plenty of people who have met their SO online are doing very well. You keep it simple. If it’s not right, keep it moving. That’s whether you meet them at Publix, a swanky buckhead joint, or online!
Button
December 6th, 2012
10:06 am
Did anybody see the picture in Jet of the same schex married couple? I must say I was shocked!
disco
December 6th, 2012
10:07 am
lee – I’ll bite. so exactly how did her friend discover the scam and save the day?
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
10:10 am
Head game all day long. It goes both ways. A dude can think he’s gaming you, but be careful cause a woman can use her honey versus vinegar skills for getting in or getting out of a dude what she wants. Head game just exists. Whether online or not. I bet you there’s plenty of 50 or 60 or even 70 something year old cats looking for love and picking up young chicks to fulfil and falling for the okie doke. Tell me chicks won’t scam? Mmm hmmm….head game
A playa is gonna be a playa, but I just believe most that are scammers take to the internet to breed that behavior.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 6th, 2012
10:19 am
On online dating do people meet in person and then go back to virtually dating that person? I have no issues with folks online dating just don’t have a problem with me because I don’t. Scammers will be scammers virtually or sitting in front of you.
Leggs
December 6th, 2012
10:21 am
I’ve tried online. It didn’t work for me. I’ve been told I’m mean (lol).
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
10:24 am
And if I must admit, I’ve played coy and turned it off/on for getting out of a dude what I needed. I don’t mean monetary at all. I mean, if a dude is mad or I know I snapped ahead of when I should have (say he’s scandalous) but I need more to confirm. Rather than going along to really see that I need to see so I can call BS, I’ve cut a dude off. But then I’ve wondered was it prematurely. I’ve been able to pull out the honey, rub up against him and vwalla, back in. So, head game falls to both sexes. Am I proud of that? Not really but I’m not ashamed either. It’s one of those attributes that falls under womenly wiles. Scamming ain’t always about a dude get booty quick or early. HEAD GAME IMO is working your magic on a person’s psyche. Now if we’re talking taking their money and stuff, then yeah. But cause you tapped it quick or early (and y’all know I’m not an advocate for that), that don’t necessarily make you “skilled.” Cause if what you’re doing, a ton of other cats can do as well, then apparently it ain’t that hard. But if you’re running game of a special brand and can take to heights and level unseen, THEN you should deem that as head game.
Okay, I’m rambling and gone on off of “virtual.”
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 6th, 2012
10:32 am
Head game all day long.
True alot of it is. I learned that when I tried Black People Meet for the first time and one other place. The one and only date I had from BPM turned out to be a bust b/c he misrepresented…no he lied about what he had going on. It was only one date and he paid so I wasn’t tripping…I had a good meal, nice drinks and the convo was umm something else. I knew as soon as we met that it was going to be a one time deal and that I’d never see him again….and I didn’t.
As for the other place I had my Catfish moment…well there were two guys that tried to get at me. One was crass to the point of being sexist, thought he was God’s gift to women and was FUGLY as all get out…eeewwww. The other one claimed to be a dapper, well dressed, learned man who was in actuality a fckn lame…all I could do was laugh.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 6th, 2012
10:33 am
Leggs that’s because you weren’t conforming so you have to a mean woman.
Lee
December 6th, 2012
10:33 am
disco- she was telling another friend of hers that she had a date with this guy, the other person knew of him and told her what he has done. And i guess the guy is really hot looking. and he likes both guys and gals ..
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 6th, 2012
10:34 am
“be a mean woman”
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 6th, 2012
10:35 am
I’ve been told I’m mean
No you’re not…you just have short patience for bullisht as wel as standards and expectations. You know what you do and don’t want and ain’t nothing wrong with that.
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 6th, 2012
10:35 am
I have not tried online dating even though I met the beau online. Does that make sense? lol
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
10:35 am
Every time I see lee/Lee’s name I think of 50 Ways To Leave Your Lover…lol
….just drop of the key Lee and set yoseeeelf free (ain’t those the lyrics)
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 6th, 2012
10:36 am
i guess the guy is really hot looking. and he likes both guys and gals ..
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 6th, 2012
10:37 am
LOL……@Slim1 how you manage that?
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
10:37 am
Exactly on the “mean” label. I so don’t mind getting called mean. All that does is make dudes bringing BS, to take another direction. Most should probably be mean….lol
Leggs
December 6th, 2012
10:38 am
SassyMe ~ BPM didn’t work for me either. Thought to try Ourtime.com to find out it’s the same as BPM, with the same matches so I didn’t subscribe. Was told about Tagged, but quickly found out there are a lot, I mean A LOT of married men on there looking for a discreet relationship. I was flabbergasted. I appreciated their honesty, but if they know about that site, what makes them think the wifey doesn’t know about the site??
BF ~ by George, I think you’ve got it!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 6th, 2012
10:38 am
Sassy/Leggs = BS breakers………LOL
disco
December 6th, 2012
10:39 am
thanks lee – I figured the friend had to know him to bust him out but I also figured what are the odds of the friend actually knowing him. guess it’s a small world after all.
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
10:41 am
I’m just happy with my boo. If online folks make it work, HAVE AT IT!! Too, when I told the virtual dude to kick rocks, all I could think was let him be somebody’s mental piece of work. One thing I believe, whichever way you are, is the way you’ll be. Dudes love to pull BS and say it’s you, the reason they’re stank. Nuh uh, if you’re stank you’re stank. Now, if you find a chick slow enough to accomodate you’re crazies, y’all knock yourselves out. I just the know the crazy, lies, untruths that I witness (virtually), was from that person’s character. No way you changing. I don’t care what chick you find to fit your mold. I’m all the better off…lol
Leggs
December 6th, 2012
10:43 am
You got it, Sassy! I had one guy demand that I meet him. Said he’s very intrigued with me and I’m to meet him in XXX mins at XXX. Ummm, NO!
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 6th, 2012
10:46 am
there are a lot, I mean A LOT of married men on there looking for a discreet relationship.
The two that tried me were married as well and I, for the life of me,can’t/don’t understand that. Take your azz on home and sit on the porch where you belong.
but if they know about that site, what makes them think the wifey doesn’t know about the site??
They’re so blinded by their greed in chasing tail they don’t care..then wonder how/why they get/got busted.
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
10:46 am
I dont have manual laborer(caperneter,auto mechanic,home builder ) type hands Button. My heads are just keaboard hands…
@Button..maybe i didnt understand the qstion.
@Celisea…Colorado seems nice ,maybe,actually thats a nice idea..i could work it out on exchange with my timeshare…lemme see..thats sounds real sexxy. Thnnx
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
10:46 am
my hands
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
10:48 am
Good deal MMello…..ain’t that right1!!
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
10:48 am
slim, it makes sense, because everyone that meets online aren’t out looking for anyone.
black, I meet my girl now, and my ex online. But I never go anywhere looking for someone to day, you meet people, get to know them and if it happens it happens, if it doesn’t it doesn’t.
8 months is too long to wait to meet anyone
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 6th, 2012
10:49 am
Said he’s very intrigued with me and I’m to meet him in XXX mins at XXX.
I wish a dude would try that on/with me…NO is exactly right Leggs.
Sassy/Leggs = BS breakers………
Well what can I say BF…my mommy taught me NOT to be any man’s doormat or fool…
abc
December 6th, 2012
10:49 am
I have zero interest in anything even resembling so-called social media, even less in reality TV — the thought of a reality TV show about social media is mind-numbingly yawn inspiring. Get a hobby or something. Life is too short to waste on stuff like that.
Robert
December 6th, 2012
10:49 am
“How do you get past that kind of deception?”
I love dating sites. People will pay for anything. For example most men do not know how to present themselfs in writing or in pictures. I charge a “fee” to provide this service. For example – (My name is Mike and I am 30 years old, single, no kids, college degree). I also prepare men to take pictures that portray a positive image. No tattoo’s, piercings, braids, blue jeans, baseball caps or sneakers. I want women to see them as real men worthy of a second look and a date. The holiday season is my busy time. I receive about 20 calls a day.
I have a service for women who choose to date online. I will pre-screen men based on their preferences (age, weight, height, education, marital status, income, etc.) and select a group of men worthy of a second look or date. I charge a “fee” for this service as well. Most women are very happy with my choices and recommend my services to their friends looking to maximize their online dating experiences.
I found a great business opportunity. I am a man who has a passion and desire for women. If you are a man or woman and you do not have alot of experience with online dating my business will help you find the right man or woman.
Guaranteed….Or Your Money Back…..
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
10:50 am
It’s one of those attributes that falls under womenly wiles.
Yea, some dudes know this….others dont..
Bluzgirl
December 6th, 2012
10:51 am
I’m hooked on the show Catfish. The thing I can’t understand is why these people didn’t at least Google their “love”! The one chick who ended up meeting her love and it was a woman was just dumb in my opinion. When they called the “guy”, I thought that it sounded either like a 12 year old or a woman. A lot could have been done to find out that this person was a fraud.
I’m skeptical of the online dating. I have an account with Plenty of Fish, but rarely check it. I just don’t trust the people on those sites. You can present yourself as anything. I know you can do that in person also, but online makes it easier.
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
10:51 am
Well what can I say BF…my mommy taught me NOT to be any man’s doormat or fool…
cosign
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
10:52 am
It’s one of those attributes that falls under womenly wiles.
some chics will get fed and entertained by one dude
But give the goods to another different cat..
Thats one of the wilest women plays out there……
Much as dudes will smash one chic,But never be seen in public with her…..
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
10:53 am
Slightly off topic, I heard a radio commerical yesterd that mentioned a restaurant in the skit called Bonefish
I burst out laughing and thought of the blog
abc
December 6th, 2012
10:53 am
Robert, that takes the morning’s award for horsesheeot of the day. It’ll be difficult to top.
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 6th, 2012
10:53 am
BF – Well I have never been on an official ‘dating site’ but we did meet through a particular social site. I was not on there looking to hookup with dudes or looking for mates. We started chatting for a LOOOOONNNNNG time and it progressed from there until we finally decided to meet up and voila, here we are
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
10:57 am
Real Bulldizzle Robert…..
and that validates my point that only failures go that route..
and ur customers are the real specimen of fools!
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
10:57 am
Alright…I have a lunch date with my mom and sister. Then I have to meet my boo a bit later. Maybe I’ll get a chance to peek back in. Think I’ll pick up something “special” for later
Toodles
Leggs
December 6th, 2012
10:59 am
Exactly on the “mean” label. I so don’t mind getting called mean.All that does is make dudes bringing BS, to take another direction. Some just want to see who’s a pushover and who isn’t. It’s established early through our convo that I will joke, laugh, be silly with you all day everyday, but I’m not one who lets BS go unchecked.
Bluzgirl
December 6th, 2012
11:01 am
Robert…Hmmm…maybe I need to hit you up to help me out! LOL! Also…what if I want to see the man’s tattoos and piercings. I might be more attracted to him…
Leggs
December 6th, 2012
11:01 am
It’s only 11:02 and I am famished!
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
11:02 am
Me either. Never have, never will and trust there’s a man out there that appreciates you, the authentic you for who you are. There’s man (cause I know), that will see as his “dime piece.” It doesn’t matter what or how the other thunderhead feels about you. When you find that dude that sees you as a gem, all that other BS falls back.
K…now gotta take a bath
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 6th, 2012
11:04 am
Sort of off topic – My cousin told me a dude on her fb page had put an announcement stating that he will be available for his escorting services for the holidays. Of course for a price and he went on to say he’ll follow whatever storyline the chick comes up with from engagement, boyfriend or whatever for the sake of having a dude on the arms of single chicks that have upcoming family or social holiday events. I was cracking up that folks will probably actually send him requests all for the sake of presentation. If i’m single then I really don’t give a flying flip about going to functions alone or with a close female friend.
Leggs
December 6th, 2012
11:04 am
O/T: Went to renew my tag and they’ve “retired” my license plate number and license plate design. Had to get another one (free), but I liked my old number. Going to play it in cash 3 this evening for the last time (lol).
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
11:05 am
A man that ask advice on what to get his wife for Christmas calls someone else a failure (oh the irony LOL) But to each their own.
Leggs
December 6th, 2012
11:07 am
K…now gotta take a bath – Girl, don’t you know you can’t post things like that. Ex probably just stapled his finger to the paper!
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
11:08 am
Robert, do you have good photographer? I’m available for the right price
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
11:09 am
Leggs – LOL and ewwwww. I say that cause I sort of see MMeello as my blog brother, if anything…LOL Hopefully he sees it the same way.
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
11:11 am
I went for the new tag and the “In God We Trust” sticker
Leggs
December 6th, 2012
11:17 am
I didn’t see a “In God We Trust” sticker?
He will tell you he only sees you as his big sister, NOT TRUE!
Robert
December 6th, 2012
11:17 am
@Single – “do you have good photographer? I’m available for the right price”
We can always collaborate. Call me 770-ROBERTS.
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
11:20 am
The lady asked me if I wanted “Fulton” county or “In God We Trust”…the county sticker was on there. She placed that one on top.
disco
December 6th, 2012
11:20 am
S/H – 11:05. now that’s funny.
Leggs
December 6th, 2012
11:21 am
Wished I was asked me!
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
11:23 am
ohhh..Single..its not personal! lol
Now u showing ur Napoleon Complex
Leggs
December 6th, 2012
11:24 am
Wish I knew how to form a sentence.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 6th, 2012
11:26 am
Single I’m sure there are some good hook ups and bad just like in the reality world. Good to know the chance you took sorta worked out for you.
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
11:28 am
well,its personal if its true..then..but no regrets…i punch the way i see it
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 6th, 2012
11:29 am
Thanks for the reminder y’all I got to get my tag in a couple of days.
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
11:30 am
Thumping Thunderous Thursday is underway
Look at me…lol Not sure yet the plans for tonight but I’m thinking 
I may as well enjoy these few days and GET A BANG out of being off cause when I go back I’ll be covering for folks for the next 4 weeks…even though the week of Christmas was suppose to be my vacay. Still, I’m working from home that week, so I’m sure I can make the best out of it…lol
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
11:31 am
MMeello – i punch it the way i see it
LOLOL
Albert
December 6th, 2012
11:50 am
Celisea, I have read that online dating is the fastest-growing way to meet people. I don’t have an active social life offline with people my age at all, so I’ve been wondering if online dating is the thing to try. I did get “Catfished” once, a long time ago, when I met a girl online in a disability chatroom I am disabled), and she actually pretended to have a medical procedure that presumably killed her. (She didn’t, and to this day, i don’t even know if she was really disabled.)
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
11:50 am
why uall quiet..LOL
DuShawn
December 6th, 2012
11:58 am
Cirque du Soleil’s TOTEM …has anyone seen this yet. im thinking about going next week. Any reviews?
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
12:02 pm
Albert – Wow, that’s awful. I just don’t believe the art of meeting people the old fashion way is dead or a thing of the past. I’ve read you before and read where you mentioned your disability. I know it might be easy for me to say but I think there’s someone out there for everyone. Sorry to hear about you being “Catfished.” Hope things work out for you
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
12:03 pm
K…gone for real….
Hope it’s thunderous and interesting if I peek in later…lol
DuShawn
December 6th, 2012
12:12 pm
- Exiled -Somebody mentioned they had SAP experience, was it you? Whomeva it was, we got a position opening up. Holla at me.
Delvon
December 6th, 2012
12:14 pm
What it do folk? Not one for online dating…too much left to chance. Facebook freaks have tried to gain access, but was denied.
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
12:15 pm
what type of SAP position Du?
I never got a shot with SAP but gave up after looking and interviewing plenty…
Is it a SAP FICO coz thats what I did…but I have given up on SAP…I am on Oracle BI now…
Bluzgirl
December 6th, 2012
12:21 pm
Now, ya’ll got me thinking about maybe getting my parents a weekend getaway in the mountains for Christmas…I’ve been struggling with what to get them…
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
12:25 pm
Funny u say parents Bluz coz u always talk bout ur mom..
I wanted to ask u on one occassion if u had a dad but tinkered and stopped coz its an unspoken blashphemy sometimes.
DuShawn
December 6th, 2012
12:29 pm
-Ex- It is SAP FICO, the financial module. I don’t know if you would be interested. One of the staff accountants/ Jr. Analyst is leaving. He did a lot material maintenance and production variance stuff.
I’m assuming he was making around 60k. I here talk that they may want to bring in a temp just to create materials within SAP (That’s typically around $25/hr.) The position will be vacated and we just made a new aquisition, so the will be looking to fill it permanently. I not sure how they will proceed.
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
12:35 pm
Ok DuShawn…not quite the same thing I wanted OR would do….I would do SAP FICO Implementation,not Accounting_Functional stuff.
But Thanx for looking out!.
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
12:47 pm
Ex, believe me I don’t take nothing personal, no kind of complex here.
Bluzgirl
December 6th, 2012
12:48 pm
I talk about my mom because I’m much closer to her. I am also daddy’s girl and he will do anything for me, but we don’t talk every day like I talk to mom…
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
12:51 pm
Albert, don’t go online just for dating, try the meetups you can find people that have some of the same interest
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
1:01 pm
ok..lemme go watch my Liverpool
wish me luck
Peyton tonite!
halo46
December 6th, 2012
1:12 pm
Good afternoon bloggies. Since I don’t do the club scene, how are you guys meeting people without online dating? When I am out and about, I can’t tell if someone is single, married, gay, straight, involved, attracted to me, etc. I get hit on occassionally when I am out running errands or at the mall, but mostly by crackheads or guys that are too young or too old or too broke. lol When I share with my closest friends that I do online dating, they just don’t get it. Online dating is easy for me because I know what I like. I mostly meet the person in the profile. Although I haven’t found the guy who is perfect for me, I have met guys that I can date for a few months and try to get to know better.
Bluzgirl
December 6th, 2012
1:20 pm
halo – That’s one thing I want to know is where to meet good, quality men. The last one I “dated,” I met in a bar and I’m seeing that he drinks or wants to drink too much…That makes me skeptical about meeting other men in a bar…
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
1:29 pm
Bluz, Halo, why the rush to meet someone to date, just meet people and enjoy their company, they may not be the one for you, but maybe they have a friend. Life is too short to hang your happiness on someone else, I’m not saying that’s what you guys are doing.
halo46
December 6th, 2012
1:30 pm
Bluzgirl, I lived in Atlanta, but now live in Virginia. Either I dated the military men whom I worked with on post, or I did online dating. There are a lot of nice guys online. My approach is to look at their profile photo and their income or profession. Then I read what their interests are. If you see someone with 4 kids and they live with him, then more than likely his wife is living there too. lol KIM
halo46
December 6th, 2012
1:32 pm
S/H. I agree. When I meet them and if they are not right for me, I would entertain a friendship. But most guys do not want to just hang around a girl as a friend, if they have an interest. Although I have a couple of just friends from the online sites.
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
1:44 pm
Halo, maybe you can find a meetup in your area so you can find people with like interest.
halo46
December 6th, 2012
1:48 pm
Yeah, I work as a civilian for the Army and most guys my age are either married or I am not attracted too. I’ve met a new guy recently (not military) and I took my profile down to see where this takes us. He is such a gentleman, yes, a gentleman (i think anyway). We’ve been dating for about a month, but no intimacy yet. He is taking it slow and I am going at his pace.
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
1:55 pm
Mighty quiet today, did everyone go home?
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
1:56 pm
Halo, slow and easy is always the best way to go.
Leggs
December 6th, 2012
1:57 pm
That’s refreshing to hear, halo46. I wish you the best.
Leggs
December 6th, 2012
1:58 pm
Exactly, Single! So many want to tear the draws off right out the gate…both men and women!
halo46
December 6th, 2012
2:01 pm
So many want to tear the draws off right out the gate…both men and women!
Leggs, that is sooo true. Here in VA, most start asking on the second date. At least in Atlanta, they would wait until after the third date.
Leggs
December 6th, 2012
2:04 pm
I was told women are “supposed” to have sex after the third date. What happens if you have 3 dates in 7 days?
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
2:10 pm
Even when it involves sex, no what both of you want in the beginning, while for some sex is essentially consummating the relationship, for others, it’s a quick fix but we’re still not there yet. Some first date sex has turned into great relationships.
Bluzgirl
December 6th, 2012
2:11 pm
S/H – I’m not necessarily looking for someone to date…it would be nice. I just want to meet new people. I really wasn’t expecting to meet the Young One when I did. I’ve found out that I only want a friendship with him. Maybe I’ll look into doing the Meet Up thing. I’m sure they have one for people who enjoy going to see music…
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
2:12 pm
Leggs, who told you that, a woman should have sex when she’s ready, whether it be the first day or the honeymoon!!
Leggs
December 6th, 2012
2:16 pm
I agree, Single. A male told me that (but of course) and he meant it. I told him if he keeps thinking like that he’ll be holding his own ding-a-ling a lot longer than he’s already holding it.
A man/woman has sex when they want to, not when they’re supposed to.
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
2:18 pm
Halo46 so offline these guys you are not attracted are not visible but once u go online BAM!!!
That’s hilarious!
U in Virginia so u sure going to find your ex home,online military Catfish there.
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
2:20 pm
Attracted to
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 6th, 2012
2:22 pm
LOL…….@Leggs at the 3 date rule, what if all three dates occur in the same day. Breakfast, lunch, and dinner dates that means it’s time to pay up…………LOL
disco
December 6th, 2012
2:23 pm
halo – not that you said crackheads were trying to holler. that’s funny. I run into my share of run of the mill ne’er do wellers but I don’t think (note I say think) I’ve run into any crackheads. lol.
S/H – re meeting someone and maybe they have a friend. I probably preach the “vessel” mentality more than I should. degrees of separation are a mother.
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
2:26 pm
Disco, what’s the “vessel mentality”?
disco
December 6th, 2012
2:27 pm
S/H – nothing more than what you said. the person/activity that you don’t want like may be the person/activity that leads you to the one you do. they or it is simply the vessel to get you where you are supposed to be.
halo46
December 6th, 2012
2:28 pm
Ex – I just don’t run into guys while I am out and about. I guess I go to the same places mostly around the same time of day. lol And they are not there. For example, the guy I met recently lives 40 miles from me. He and I joke if we would not have connected online, we would have never met. Like I said when I am out and about, I don’t know a man’s status. While online he finds my pic and introduces himself. I look at his picture, read his profile to see if he is single and looking for a relationhsip, and either I say hello back or just don’t respond.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 6th, 2012
2:29 pm
Dating rules, list, and crystal balls where do this stuff come from, anybody thought about using their mind. This aint coming from 20 somethings because I’ve asked some and they find it as strange as I do that people live by them.
Leggs
December 6th, 2012
2:30 pm
“…what if all three dates occur in the same day.” Breakfast, lunch, and dinner – if you didn’t drive over to have breakfast, perhaps sex already occurred and now it’s simply time to eat before round 2…
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
2:30 pm
Oh okay, you know how people are always saying you have to get out, their not going to come to your, door. How do you know it want be the cable guy, or the ups man. When it comes to meeting people, you can never rule out anything.
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
2:30 pm
Leggs I was thinking the same thing (LOL)
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
2:33 pm
Black, you know how some are about society, they need the validation that it’s okay with everyone else. Just like the stigma of online dating two people would meet, fall in love and get married, but lie about how they meet because of how it would be perceived.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 6th, 2012
2:34 pm
Single I was about ask was it still Wednesday for you?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 6th, 2012
2:36 pm
LOL……..@Leggs very conceivable.
LOL……..@Single
halo46
December 6th, 2012
2:37 pm
Black, I don’t really have dating rules. I like what I like. But the last person I would ask about dating advice is a 20 something year old. They are having babies just to keep a man. At 20 something i wanted a career, and having babies was the last thing from my mind.
halo46
December 6th, 2012
2:39 pm
What did Sheree say, ‘I got 99 problems, and a man ain’t one them’. lol Classic!!!
halo46
December 6th, 2012
2:40 pm
one of them’
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 6th, 2012
2:42 pm
Dating rules, list, and crystal balls where do this stuff come from, anybody thought about using their mind.
Nah, that’d be too much like right…plus the microwave mentality won’t allow it for some.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 6th, 2012
2:43 pm
That’s to good to hear halo, cause that’s what we all should do just like what we like. There’s too many variables to list through and when you do you still end up with an imperfect person male or female. That was the plan from the day we sat foot on earth.
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
2:44 pm
When u are up and about you don’t know a man’s status?
@Halo…if u knew u wld do what? Flash or moon him?
Wouldnt the men disclose their status if they were to talk to u? Or lie but still
So(trying to prove my theory here) your issue is failure to connect offline?
@Halo?
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
2:46 pm
Or wait u answered that already
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
2:48 pm
What’s groovy in here? Did Thunderous Thursday segue into Fantabulous Friday?
I haven’t met personally anyone that’s been successful with online date. But then too, I don’t really know anyone that dabbles into that. Not folks in my circle or folks I know. Wait, I should say…folks have disclosed. Could very well be and I just don’t know it.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 6th, 2012
2:48 pm
“plus the microwave mentality won’t allow it for some.”
Now that is funny Sassy………..LOL
halo46
December 6th, 2012
2:50 pm
Yes, Ex, my issue is failure to connect offline. If I saw a gentleman whom I was attracted to and I he was single and employed, then I would at least say something clever or even hello. But when I see men that I find attractive, either they are not attracted to me, assume I have a man, or they are married. I go to the gym alot, go running and exercising. I see guys looking but they don’t approach too often. And if they do, they seem awkward.
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
2:55 pm
There u have it Single!
Thank you Halo
cracking up Lol
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 6th, 2012
2:55 pm
halo you’re probably so fine they get choked up and lose their thoughts.
Robert
December 6th, 2012
2:56 pm
@Halo46 & Bluzgirl –
I have the perfect solution for your online dating challenges. Allow me to show you how to maximize your online dating experiences.
Willie Dynamite
December 6th, 2012
2:57 pm
Afternoon all,
Topic- I’m sure it has changed but I’ll comment on it anyway. I haven’t seen an actual episode but the wifey was explaining the premise to me. I get how you can be somewhat attracted to an online persona. What I don’t get is how you can put so much emotional weight into it before you actually meet that it’s considered love/heartbreak. I just don’t understand that.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 6th, 2012
2:57 pm
That’s normal for men, even though it’s unspoken.
Leggs
December 6th, 2012
2:59 pm
Celisea ~ I’ve met a few that are now getting married. It works for some and remains a dark hole for others.
disco
December 6th, 2012
3:00 pm
WD – I think that kind of caught up is prone to happen to folks who are in love with the idea of being in love. generally it doesn’t take much for that type of individual.
Leggs
December 6th, 2012
3:00 pm
“What I don’t get is how you can put so much emotional weight into it before you actually meet that it’s considered love/heartbreak. I just don’t understand that.” – Same here, WillieD.
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
3:00 pm
Meeting online took over the stigma that meeting in the bar, or the club used to have. Lets just go back to arranged marriages and forget the whole dating scene!
disco
December 6th, 2012
3:01 pm
I know folks who met online and married. I know folks who screwed on the first date and later married. I know a chick who bought a new house with her hubs, divorced her hubs and married the next door neighbor. everyone has a story.
halo46
December 6th, 2012
3:02 pm
Robert, I’m good.
Ex, that’s not the problem. Although it may be for the nerdy types.
ALL: I am outta here, the office gets an early day today. If I don’t say it later, Merry Christmas to you all. You guys have been very entertaining this year, forthcoming and I’ve learned some valuable lessons from your experiences. Peace.
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
3:02 pm
Willie, do you understand how someone can meet and in 3 weeks be married, or even six months?
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
3:04 pm
peace halo
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
3:04 pm
Leggs – Cool. I have yet to meet someone. But it could be the case where folks are ashamed to admit it.
I wonder if the stigma will ever be removed
Bluzgirl
December 6th, 2012
3:06 pm
My brother met his now ex wife online and she lied to her family the whole time about how they met. Unfortunately, she turned out to be crazy. The only good thing that came out of that is my wonderful nephew!
One of my old friends married a dude she met online and I didn’t like or trust him from the beginning. He was very controlling, but she was the type that would do anything for love. It hurt our close friendship. He didn’t want her to hang out with me because of the wild times we had together when we were both single.
I’ve also met people who were perfectly happy meeting their mate online. I’m not against it, but I’m just skeptical.
I reconnected with Psycho in Seattle over Facebook (didn’t realize how psycho he was). We fell in “love” while talking, skyping, emailing. I visited him twice. Then…his true crazy came out and he was emotionally abusive to me…
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
3:07 pm
I will say (at one time but no more to my surprise), I’ve seen over the last few years folks “get it” early and things work out. I think we’re in the time of this kind of stuff. I’m just an old fuddy duddy. I can’t really get with the “quick” love or the internet thingy
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
3:07 pm
Wait,Willie said ‘love/heartbreak’ meaning the person is already consumed and deeply invested in the other person before the meet.
It takes a ’special’ kind of mind to be worked like that.
I mean that negatively!
Willie Dynamite
December 6th, 2012
3:08 pm
Disco- I guess you right. Sad to me though. Shiiid use to I would trade even the thought of love in for a pack of now n laters.
SH – 6 mos maybe-maybe but even that is a stretch. I don’t have that kinda faith or trust in me.
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
3:10 pm
Bluz?
Did u meet him here,offline before going to Seattle?
….I’m feeling very fatherly,scared and shaking before u answer?
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
3:11 pm
Ex that’s the same kind of mind that meets someone today and they’re living together next week
Leggs
December 6th, 2012
3:12 pm
I wonder if the stigma will ever be removed – I don’t think the stigma is as strong as it used to be. It’s not uncommon for a couple to have met online anymore.
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
3:13 pm
Willie, it’s going to take me a year just to get to maybe being in love with someone.
Bluzgirl
December 6th, 2012
3:14 pm
Ex – we had met in person here many years ago. We developed a little bit of a long distance friendship for a while when he lived in Louisiana. We somehow lost touch. Got on FB and found each other and started talking a lot. We would stay on the phone for 7-8 hours. I’m glad I went to Seattle, but found out later that it could have gone the other way. After we broke up, his ex contacted me and said he was physically abusive to her. I was glad when I moved out of the apt I was in while we were together because I was afraid he would come to Atlanta and seek me out…
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
3:17 pm
Leggs the stigma comes in when you have folks calling them losers, or they’re adamantly against anyone meeting online, just like any other stigma. when you’re around open minded people, it’s not there. When people meet online everyone automatically assumes dating sites, when in actuality it could be a site just like this one.
DuShawn
December 6th, 2012
3:19 pm
I think its easier to meet people in person than it is online. It requires too much typing. I just met a bad chick at subway. All I did was held the door as she entered and said wuzzup. I must see at least 5 beautiful women daily. You can’t avoid them in Atlanta.
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
3:21 pm
Well now that’s kinda different Bluz coz u kinda knew dude somewhat altho still…after a couple of years,jail time,parole,folks become a different kinda animal.
U still young for that kinda desperation of dick traveling.
If u kinda fat Bluz admit to urself and just run on the regular. It’s cheap but good for your wellbeing
Get trim and leaner.
Self esteem shoots up
Dudes will follow
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
3:22 pm
Du, you meet a “chick” by saying “wuzzup” hmmm (LOL)
Bluzgirl
December 6th, 2012
3:24 pm
It was not desperation. I thought I loved him and was going to marry him one day. I was considering moving out there. So glad I didn’t because he got crazy.
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
3:24 pm
So ex, skinny women don’t have self esteem problems??
Leggs
December 6th, 2012
3:24 pm
Single ~ you’re right, the stigma comes from others degrading the concept of actually finding love online. There are far too many stories of being scammed, used, lied to, etc. than there are stories of love, nice way to connect. Another stigma is lonely, desperate, easily duped people are online!
Celisea
December 6th, 2012
3:28 pm
s/n: Me and my mommie are watching a pretty good movie Toe to Toe
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
3:30 pm
Leggs, but people get scammed used, lied to all the time that don’t meet online. but that’s not big news.
Leggs
December 6th, 2012
3:33 pm
Single, yeah, only big news cuz its online and people should know better. Now, for the same thing to happen to someone offline is met with “oh well, that’s the way the world turns.”
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
3:33 pm
Skinny women?
@Simple…some do but I didn’t ask Bluz to be skinny. I advised her to be leaner if she has extra extra fat issues.
Fat women usually have self esteem issues.
and dates become a challenge coz most men want some lean cleavage on their arm…
but big women are really nice a lot of times tho
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
3:34 pm
People will give you all this flak about meeting someone online, but meet someone where ever, give them your number, let them walk you to you car, sometimes in a large parking lot or a parking garage. Now they have your name, number, what kind of car you drive, you tag number. and can follow you home if they so please. but some don’t think twice about that ! HMMMMM
Bluzgirl
December 6th, 2012
3:36 pm
S/H – I know several skinny women with self esteem issues. I’ll admit that I have a little meat on my bones, but I’m not too big. I’m a cute girl. I have had self esteem issues all of my life (even while I was pretty skinny). I’ve been working on it and it’s getting better and better!
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
3:37 pm
Who are these women you know, most of the time it’s the other way around, lean trim always worried about their looks
Bluz just needs to learn to love herself, if you don’t love yourself, how can you expect anyone else to lof you.
Leggs
December 6th, 2012
3:40 pm
Great point, Single!
Leggs
December 6th, 2012
3:40 pm
Great point, Single at 3:34.
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
3:42 pm
Leggs, so they should have known better to trust someone like that because they meet online?
Ex, what does it say about your self esteem when you have to change people names or call them losers, do you feel the need to put others down to make yourself feel better?
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
3:43 pm
Single,I wouldn’t give anybody flak for meeting somebody online if they did.
I would not look down on the encounter
However I would not advise somebody to go online if they asked me.
Lightning does strike some people and others do win the lottery
If one wants to play the lottery go head.
But the odds for online bootey are better than online matrimonial bliss.
It’s like fishing for Tilapia in s bullfrog mating pond.
Leggs
December 6th, 2012
3:47 pm
Single, I’m in your corner, piggybacking on your analysis. I was just giving examples on what people seem to be saying. Sentiment I thought I was conveying was the close-mindedness of others.
Bluzgirl
December 6th, 2012
3:47 pm
Totally agree S/H and I’m learning it more and more every day!!!
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
3:48 pm
the odds for online booty is only greater because it can be done anonymously, you can meet get what you want and send them on their way. Now if this same woman meet a man at the club, went at got what she wanted she would be labeled a hoe! Maybe online gives some people the opportunity to live their lives.
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
3:50 pm
Single?
Change people names? I don’t get that.
Call people losers? I did not.
I said online dating is for offline dating losers.
Coz folks who go there feel the other method ain’t working.
Now that’s a general statement right.
I can understand how someone can feel personally aggrieved but the point ain’t a personal attack
Ian sure I’m doing justice to he topic,right?
I got good self esteem by the way.
U prefer I personally coddle some adults here to make them
Feel good?
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
3:51 pm
oh okay leggs
That’s good bluz
For anyone, until you learn to make yourself happy, nothing will make you happy! Not a new house, car, job, person or more money, as soon as the newness wears off you will be back with the same ole feelings.
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
3:52 pm
3:48 I take it that’s agreeing with me
@Single
Bluzgirl
December 6th, 2012
3:54 pm
Ex…you shouldn’t assume just because someone has self esteem issues that they are morbidly obese…or that they can’t find a good mate…or are desperate…
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
3:54 pm
Ex, no folks who get there don’t feel the other way is not working, they’re just trying a different avenue! Has nothing to do with being a loser.
No ex, you don’t have to coddle, but you also don’t have to put people down to get a point across.
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
3:56 pm
Exercising is luving urself!
It’s proven medically that it improves circulation and self esteem
Meeting more men for Bluz would be a positive byproduct not the sole reason to exercise.
It’s certainly better than diabetes and meds or getting psycho counseling and spending money
Is this any argument?
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
4:01 pm
If is not an assumption Bluz
I said ‘if’
@Single
I did not put anybody down, I discussed the topic….in general
Now if U took a personal problem with it for whatever reason that ain’t my problem
U not the first to go moist on here
Remember u took a shot at me for asking Xmas gift advice and I just took that on the chin like Ali!
ManUp
Bluzgirl
December 6th, 2012
4:03 pm
You are extremely judgmental Ex. How do you know whether or not I exercise? You don’t. Also…I’ve explained on here about the mental issues that I have and I prefer you to not say I’m getting psycho counseling. I’m not psycho…the chemicals in my brain don’t always work right. Meds help get those chemicals working well.
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
4:04 pm
Ex, you have to get up to exercise, you have to love yourself before you can love your body, I’m talking the mental not the physical. YOU have to look mirror and decide you don’t like what you see and want to change it, not look at what you see and get depressed
Once again, bluz doesn’t need more men, bluz needs to keep down the road she’s headed on, taking care of bluz!
Bluzgirl
December 6th, 2012
4:05 pm
Ex – you seem to assume that I’m a huge girl. You’ve mentioned that several times on this blog. That, to me, is you putting me down.
Bluzgirl
December 6th, 2012
4:07 pm
Thank you S/H. I don’t need more men. I am taking care of myself. At some point, I will want another man, but I sure don’t need one!!! I know that 100% now!
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
4:08 pm
LOL ex, oh as if you and others have never taking a shots at me because of what someone else thinks, do you guys really thing I’m that naive (rotflmao)
Moist, really lmao
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
4:09 pm
Bluz doesn’t need my advice Single
I gave it she can leave it
She is free to do whatever she likes
So do you…
Does anybody feel I got them encumbered coz I express my damn opinion?
U kidding right…
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
4:11 pm
ex having a discussion that’s all
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
4:12 pm
Single I don’t have an issue with u taking shots at me
But I didn’t take a shot at u
Why, do I know ur MO?
So u saying u a Big time online dating paramour?
Albert
December 6th, 2012
4:19 pm
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday . i don’t. I’m online a lot just for fun. But now that I’ve read up on online dating, I’ve been considering it.
disco
December 6th, 2012
4:24 pm
did I miss a mini blog fight? now that I mention it, there haven’t been any “blog fights” lately. go figure.
Bluzgirl
December 6th, 2012
4:25 pm
disco – Maybe that’s because I’ve been happy and doing well lately! LOL!!!
Leggs
December 6th, 2012
4:25 pm
it was teeny tiny, disco.
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
4:27 pm
Albert try the meetups, if you can’t find something that interest you, maybe you can start one of your own
http://www.meetup.com/cities/us/ga/atlanta/
Ex I’m not saying I’m anything
Time to ride out, everyone have a nice evening.
Single and Happy Thunderous Thursday
December 6th, 2012
4:28 pm
disco, no fighting here, too old for that
Bluzgirl
December 6th, 2012
4:29 pm
Have a good one S/H!!!
Exiled!
December 6th, 2012
4:45 pm
I don’t think Bluz is a Huge girl
Never said it on here
Hey Disco u were so quiet today
Bluzgirl
December 6th, 2012
4:52 pm
Good night to anyone who’s left on here!
Leggs
December 6th, 2012
4:53 pm
Good night