Do women prefer to be dominated?
I once heard a woman say that dating a man that allows her to walk all over him can be a major turn off. While she wants a nice guy, she does not want a doormat. She prefers a man that can exert some dominance over her and won’t let her get away with anything.
I can see her point when she refers to not dating a doormat, but wanting a man to dominate you seems like a slippery slope. What kind of boundaries would you want to have? How do you know when the man’s dominance goes beyond a “healthy” dominance and gets eerily close to the scary kind?
I am not referring to the sexy Christian Grey/Anastasia kind of arrangement, here. (I am sorry for making a Fifty Shades of Gray reference, forgive me?) I am talking about having an adult relationship with one dominating partner – the man, having most of the power in a relationship.
Ladies, do you think that you prefer some degree of dominance over you? Would you get bored by a man that “let’s you walk all over him?”
Men – in your experience, do you get a favorable response when you exert your masculine energy in a relationship?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Sara
December 5th, 2012
6:10 am
I draw the line at a lil’ hair pulling….
Celisea
December 5th, 2012
7:14 am
Let’s just say this, aside from the kid’s dad, I’ve only date quiet natured gentile dudes….always. It’s what seem to connect with me. I’m fine with that, but just know that’s nothing to do with a no nonsense dude……which is my preference. No nonsense, yet sensitive and kind, possessing much backbone. Moisy, weepy, overly sensitive JUST IRKS THE HECK OUT OF ME!!!! That will get you X’ed with the quickness…..for real. So, dominating I don’t know so much, but manly and ALWAYS taking/carrying the lead? YEP YEP YEP…..all relationship long.
Alright. I’m working a half day and I’m off for vacay!
I asked my dude why he didn’t say something and y’all would trip over his little smirky remark. That’s okay….lol….he’s gon need
Celisea
December 5th, 2012
7:18 am
ooops….hit enter by mistake…
I was saying “he’s gon need something from me” lolol Something along the lines of had he spent the night…..blah blah blah….lol I’m soooooo fond of him!
lee
December 5th, 2012
7:21 am
I dont think anyone likes a doormat. Nothing wrong with a take charge kind of guy, i like that. I don’t want to be dominated like i don’t have a mind of my own.
i would make a list but i am out of time, time for work.ugh
oddmanout
December 5th, 2012
7:34 am
Morning!
This topic here….Here is the way I see it. If you want to be dominated by your man then let him dominate. You cant say “Oh, I want I dominate man, BLAH, BLAH, BLAH, BLAH” then turn around not like it when he dominates. Make up your mind.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 5th, 2012
7:58 am
Total domination over a woman is sissyfied to me, anyone dominating a weaker person no matter the gender is trying to hide their own weaknesses. Some women don’t do well without being controlled, some know how to push back. Nah I don’t need woman I have to tell when to sit down or be quite, just give me the same respect I give her.
Good Morning:
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 5th, 2012
8:17 am
Let me be PC when I mention sissyfied @7:58 I’m not referring to anyone in the GLBT community.
LeeH1
December 5th, 2012
8:32 am
Let’s turn this around- men like dumb and ignorant bimbos who are so stupid that the men can order them around, use them up then throw them away!
Sound sexist? Well, ladies, that is your problem. You want men to be less dominating and controlling, yet you still demand it of your partners and sons.
I’ll tell you what. Figure out what the hell you want from men, and then someday let us all know.
BTW, most women don’t really want men to be dominate. They only want them to take all the responsibility. No authority, just obligations. Jeez!
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
8:43 am
Hello All
She prefers a man that can exert some dominance over her and won’t let her get away with anything”.
What are we children, why is she trying to get away with something.
I’m going to be me, it is what it is. Don’t know if it comes off dominate, or wimpy.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
8:46 am
LeeH1 BTW, most women don’t really want men to be dominate. They only want them to take all the responsibility. No authority, just obligations. Jeez!
I’ll let you be in control when I want you to be in control!! So who’s really in control??
HST
December 5th, 2012
8:54 am
A man not letting a woman get away with anything is no different than a woman not letting a man get away with anything. Any mature person doesn’t want to dominate their partner, because it’s their character that they adore. Keeping each other in line is a healthy relationship.
It seems most of the examples used out here for topics of discussion are that of people with behavioral problems.
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
9:08 am
Sara ~ nothing wrong with a lil hair pulling, but I’ll draw the line at choking for pleasure.
I can’t imagine anyone wanting to be dominated by another. To give up your free will to another, who does that (absent jailbirds).
Morning!
Celisea
December 5th, 2012
9:14 am
I come back up in here and wow….is that testosterone I smell? LOL
I don’t know about the chick Diva is referring to but I like a leader, not a slave master or abuser or a dude dominating me.
Maybe Diva should have selected a different word. The word dominate seemed to have set of a round of fire this morning…whew!!
Button
December 5th, 2012
9:16 am
Good morning, to me domineering is when the guy take charge of the relationship -the head huncho. Nothing wrong with that in my book, he should lead as long as it’s going in the right direction. Some men are wimps when it comes to relating. They will say yes to everything just to appease the women and that’s not attractive in my book. Give me a man who’s yes is yes and his no is no and I’m good.
Recovering Unavailable
December 5th, 2012
9:18 am
I am a strong woman who lives alone and doesn’t mind it. However, I do seek advice often from friends and family and because my physical condition is a bit compromised I have to ask for help doing certain things that I cannot manage. I feel more comfortable with a take charge type, who has complete self confidence without rubbing my nose in it. I do not appreciate a man who is overly dominate in that I have to report every move I make and where I’ve been, and why it took me so long to call. That is smothering in my book. No thanks.
MsAtl
December 5th, 2012
9:23 am
Morning All!
Notwithstanding that I would not attempt to walk all over a man, I would not want a man that “allows” me to walk over him. That said, I want a nice, respectful gentleman. I have no desire for “thugs” or “roughnecks” and would not want a man to try to dominate me.
O/T- Today is my Friday. Woo Hoo!
disco
December 5th, 2012
9:24 am
good morning.
sara – hair pulling can be good. lol.
celisea – “fond”. lol. that’s so cute. how often do you hear folks say they are fond of someone.
on topic – I’m not ever going to be totally dominated. bump that. having said that, doormats need not apply. who really has time for a punk azz. I’m not rasputia and I’m not looking for norbit. I’ve always known that I needed a man that can check me and have me pull back and accept being checked. that’s not to say he’s regulating like I’m a 5 year old, just saying he knows how to reign me in. let’s face it. I’m a piece of work.
Celisea
December 5th, 2012
9:25 am
disco – Not sure how often you hear it, but you heard it today
MsAtl
December 5th, 2012
9:27 am
Disco- Thanks for the morning laugh (Rasputia)! I watched that movie a few weeks ago. I have no problem with, and in fact welcome, a man who can lead and take charge. In my opinion, there is a difference between taking charge and dominating.
Celisea
December 5th, 2012
9:29 am
I find it endearing (there’s a word for you), that you take the time to read my posts. Me? Some folks I skip over…..lol I might to back and read if what they posted sparks a drizzle of convo. Okay, let me fix that…some folks I’ll skim over and some folks, I find interesting and like to read their posts.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 5th, 2012
9:31 am
Leggs some women like those jail birds. I told ya’ll about the lady I was dating briefly who’s ex husband got out of jail. She flicked me to the side and brought him back into her home. Less than 2 weeks went by the dude was gone again, she then called me to see if we could continue dating. WTF!
disco
December 5th, 2012
9:33 am
ms. atl – I watched it when my niece was visiting so it was still fresh in my mind.
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
9:39 am
There is nothing wrong with a woman that wants to be dominated if thats what she wants……its a free country!
I have observed married men who seem like they are dominated by their women….not for me but if they like it..its all good.
Growing up,in my street,there used to be this family,mum was HUGE, with a booming voice that you would here boomeranging in the streets if she was talking some other person nearby…she was a dominating wife…..small husband..lol. Its life.
I would luv to be abused in bed…totally dominated and thrown about and ordered to do stuff..as long as im sticking it guuuud eventually….
Too bad Queen is such a cowering,doveish and expectant recepient in that department!!!
And oghhhh,Dominate me?..Your mother!
disco
December 5th, 2012
9:55 am
I finally saw flight last night. didn’t think much of the movie past the initial crash scene but denzel may have been on to something. the whole concept of coming to work under the influence doesn’t sound so bad. if I had a flask in my purse right now it would be on and popping.
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
9:56 am
whatchu fav drank Disco?
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
10:01 am
BF ~ I do remember that. That’s a special kind of women to swallow her dignity and call another man up after kicking him to the curb for another man.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
10:01 am
Ex, that’s the only dominating that needs to be going on
Button, is he a yes man because he’s afraid to say no, or is it because your request are okay with him and hasn’t felt a need to say no?
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
10:03 am
Leggs, she got back with her man that just got out of jail, what dignity does she have to swallow?
Sara
December 5th, 2012
10:03 am
Squeeze my tush, really no need to spank it….
disco
December 5th, 2012
10:06 am
ex – whatever has the highest percentage of alcohol in it.
S/H, leggs – I don’t think it was a dignity thing with old girl. she was just trying to keep a rotation going. she’s the type that will wait for her man while he’s locked up, she’s just not going to be faithful while she’s waiting.
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
10:15 am
Single ~ are you saying women who wait for their men to get out of jail don’t have dignity. Sounds like you’re implying they’re dumb for waiting for them.
I’ll stick with dignity/pride. To do what she did was disrespectful so she had to have known that and put herself out there to look like an idiot. To me, that’s throwing your dignity out the window.
disco ~ I got the impression she wanted to be with her man once he got out but he didn’t want to be with her.
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
10:17 am
The only time I will let a man dominate me is in the bedroom. There is no dominating me. A relationship is about equal partnership. No one should dominate the other.
As far as a doormat…can’t do that either. My ex fiance was a doormat and it got old. The Young One seems to be a doormat and that is a huge turn off for me. I want someone who will challenge me…not let me walk all over him.
Side note…every time I have typed doormat, I’ve had to correct it because I typed doorman! LOL
Button
December 5th, 2012
10:17 am
Oh Exile, you never miss a beat! lol
Single, I would hope he’s not afraid to say no but just saying yes because he’s okay with my request.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
10:20 am
Leggs, in my opinion, yes they are, unless they went on some false charges, not because they got “set up”. How many men do you see waiting for their woman to get out of prison? unless it’s their pimp. The man should care enough about his woman to go legit so he doesn’t have to worry about going to jail.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
10:21 am
Bluz, what are you doing to walk all over them?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 5th, 2012
10:22 am
disco you’re on to something there, that woman following me around town. She went to one of my friends house asking him had he seen me. I took a lot of ribbing from my friends over that woman.
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
10:22 am
“The only time I will let a man dominate me is in the bedroom. There is no dominating me. A relationship is about equal partnership. No one should dominate the other.”
Bluz ~ you need to print this in a bigger font, laminate it and tape it to your bathroom mirror!
Celisea
December 5th, 2012
10:23 am
told ya’ll about the lady I was dating briefly who’s ex husband got out of jail. She flicked me to the side and brought him back into her home. Less than 2 weeks went by the dude was gone again, she then called me to see if we could continue dating
As long as he’s in and out of jail, she’ll be in and out and between dudes….IMO Seems like that’s the kind of woman he’s got. There are plenty women that will run around on their men with the quickness. Especially if it’s a setup where she’ll NEVER be caught (i.e. him being incarcerated). Maybe it’s the inability to hold out, cause some just gotta have it or maybe it’s the wondering heart thing.
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
10:25 am
It’s your opinion, Single, so I can’t dispute it. And, there are probably men who wait on their women too. Don’t care about the percentage, but bet it happens!
Celisea
December 5th, 2012
10:27 am
I said…. Especially if it’s a setup where she’ll NEVER be caught
Honestly, there are so many that won’t ever get caught and nope, they’re dude ain’t locked up. Sometimes “game” tips in favor of the woman cause many expect it from men.
Button
December 5th, 2012
10:28 am
Dominate and submit are curse words when it comes to relationships lol
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
10:29 am
S/H – I wouldn’t say I’m doing anything to walk over them. I guess they are more of “yes” men. I remember trying to get my ex fiance to fight with me, just to see how we fight…he would always agree with me. I know I could walk all over the Young One, but I’m not going to. I’m not that type of person…
Leggs – I know, right? LOL! Let’s just say that I’m not the same woman I have been. I will no longer tolerate a man who tries to walk all over and use me. Nope…never again!
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
10:30 am
Morning All!
Don’t like the word DOMINATE at all! Having said that, I have never liked weak doormat men, or the female equivalent of that as friends. Some men are not suited for a leadership/head of household role and that’s fine, just not for me. My husband is the head of our home. He also respects me and my opinion. We have a happy home.
A dude never LET me do anything once I grew up and my daddy finished raising me.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
10:31 am
Leggs, my thing is, Woman lives with a drug dealer, they have children. The excuse for it is, he’s doing what he’s got to do to take care of his family. He gets locked up, they take everything, he’s gone for 10 years, who’s supposed to take care of his family then? Now she waits on him. and sometimes it’s a never ending cycle.
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
10:34 am
S/H – Funny you say that example. A friend of a friend was recently locked up on serious drug charges. He has a wife and a baby at home. She didn’t mind what he was doing because he made a lot of money and she had a nice lifestyle. BUT…he got caught. Will be interesting to see if she waits for him. She did stay with him when he cheated on her with my friend for a couple of years. She probably will wait, but she’ll b*tch and moan about not being able to live the same way while he’s locked up.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
10:35 am
Bluz, I’ve been with someone that would start arguments just for the sake of starting them, that isht gets old real quick.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 5th, 2012
10:35 am
Leggs correct he didn’t want no more to do with her than have a good meal and place to sleep at night. What pissed me off she knew I was coming over and didn’t bother to call and say her ex husband was there. (This was before cell phone popularity) She could have called my house phone and told me and I wouldn’t have wasted time and gas or looked stupid standing at her front door………..LOL
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
10:38 am
Bluz real life, seen it happen plenty of times.
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
10:39 am
Dominate and submit
@Button…either u or me dont know the bible..Celisea wil tell us…but
I think Submit is in the bible as an “instruction” to women to submit to ther mens.
Wrong?
Now I know, some new age women is gon come behind me and say this is the what century..blah blah blah….and the bile is old…
It says Women obey your mens as well….
Men got this!
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
10:40 am
I understand your example, Single. In that case she may be foolish for waiting, but it’s her choice. To me, she would look more foolish if she remained faithful to him while waiting. Now, that’s crazy. I’m just saying some good men get caught up, being in the wrong place at the wrong time. I’ve never dated anyone in jail so I’m simply talking out the side of my neck. Everyone in jail is not a bad seed.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
10:43 am
Yea legs, I would say 80 to 85% of those in jail deserve to be there.
The other thing that gets me, the one’s I’ve known to wait always say these are good men
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
10:43 am
S/H – that was the only time I ever tried to start an argument. I kind of thought that if we were going to get married, I’d like to know how he fights. I think that is important to know. He just always agreed with everything I said and did. When we would go out, it was always up to me to decide because he wanted me to be happy. Looking back, he was the only man who truly loved me. It was just the wrong time. I was too young to get married. I was turning into a social butterfly and he was more than happy just chilling in his room, watching movies or playing video games.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 5th, 2012
10:46 am
Single dude was a career criminal with no way of finding a job now her she work at AT&T 18 years. I can relate when love trumps all things and she was married to the dude. He provided nothing to the family except himself which probably was all she wanted.
Celisea
December 5th, 2012
10:46 am
Mmeello – Yes, it says submit as the husband is the head….as Christ is the head of the church. We can all identify with having a man and knowing him or wanting him to take his rightful place…THE LEAD/HEAD. Well, most of us women do, not all. Even so, nowhere in the bible does it indicate abuse or to misuse the role of the lead or be selective in certain areas, thus pushing the role to her….in some instances. That, IMO (of course), is the biggest way for a man to lose his woman’s respect…IJS Keeping in mind, the woman too was given as the man’s helpmeet/mate so, yes there are roles and both can’t lead and submission is a must if a relationship is going to thrive, but all done with reason and lovingly. Again, not using the “lead” as an advantage or misuse and abuse. And as the woman should be subject or submit to the man, the man should honor his wife.
God’s glory is man
Man’s glory is woman
Woman’s glory is her hair
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
10:46 am
Ex, if you’re going to put it out there, put all of it out there
Ephesians 5:22-33
New International Version (NIV)
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[b] 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
10:46 am
I would say 80 to 85% of those in jail deserve to be there. – OK, I rest my case.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
10:48 am
Black, love triumph for her, not for him (LOL)
Button
December 5th, 2012
10:51 am
Exile, I know what the Bible says about wives submitting to your own husbands
Yeah what Single says @ 10:46 even though I perfer using the KJV
Celisea
December 5th, 2012
10:52 am
Mmeello – I just spoke to it, cause it’s in me and I was raised in it. No need for me to copy and paste.
Too, Mmeello, I’m a KJV gal…ALWAYS
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
10:56 am
Thank you Celisea and Single….
Now…
I was JS
Sara
December 5th, 2012
11:05 am
Squeeze my nip, no biting…
disco
December 5th, 2012
11:05 am
leggs – I’m totally caught up in stories of wrongful conviction. it’s jacked up that some states absolutely refuse to compensate folks once their convictions are overturned.
Button
December 5th, 2012
11:06 am
My guy is not the domineering type, his no’s are no and his yes is yes and with some persuasions I can turn the no into a yes. whoppee, Me on the other hand, I’ve been accused of being a domineering person all my adult life, but I’m learning to shave back some now that I know it just aint worth it.
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
11:13 am
Sara …Squeeze my nip, no biting
how bout a lil biting on ur inner, upper thigh?
@Button
I’ve been accused of being a domineering ..
thats a veiled admission of guilty of being a dominnering person…..
how does ur man take it…
I think women who know they are dominnering carefully target their targets……well,it goes without saying anyway….
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
11:21 am
disco ~ I too am caught up on the wrongfully convicted stories. Some are compensated reasonably while others are not. That’s one of my points that not everyone in jail/prison is a bad seed. The injustices/corruption of the law is prevalent and much goes unchecked. To have those come out without bitterness flowing through their veins is remarkable and not sure how much of that is true once the cameras are turned off. Nonetheless, some are worthy of someone waiting for them…
Robert
December 5th, 2012
11:28 am
“Men – in your experience, do you get a favorable response when you exert your masculine energy in a relationship?”
lol…I have met women who are passive and aggressive. For example “passive” women are submissive and enjoy the sexual sensation of a dominating man (hair pulling, butt slapping, etc.). Passive women will cooperate. “Aggresive” women want to dominate their man. For example “aggressive” women have a very high sex drive. They want “bigger and better” and “deeper and deeper” every single time. Thank God for Viagra. I love “aggressive” women in the bedroom. They drive me wild.
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
11:33 am
They want “bigger and better” and “deeper and deeper” every single time
Amen..halleluah Robert!
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
11:35 am
Leggs, did you hear the Strawberry Letter today?
Button
December 5th, 2012
11:43 am
oooh Robert I can be passive and aggressive, it’s good to twist things up!
Exile, as I stated earlier, I’ve calmed down since I know it will get me no where being that way. But don’t push me though, a girl is known to have flash backs///lol
disco
December 5th, 2012
11:46 am
leggs – you are right. some states pay fairly well. some pay something and I guess something is better than nothing. I read the central park five recently and those poor kids (grown men now) haven’t received anything.
i'm swiss
December 5th, 2012
11:47 am
Sorry, gotta do this — pet peeve:
dominate — Verb. The act of dominating. As in: “I will dominate my opponent in Saturday’s tennis match.”
dominant — Adjective. Describing a person, place or thing as “one who dominates.” As in: “With this post, I have become the dominant grammar nazi on this blog.”
Okay, I feel better now. Carry on.
Sara
December 5th, 2012
11:48 am
lick my ear, not my dariare…
Celisea
December 5th, 2012
11:51 am
Ion Sara, a few soft kisses on the butt cheeks ain’t half bad. Really really soft kisses
Celisea
December 5th, 2012
11:52 am
I was saying “I’on know Sara…..” You’re competely nude and on your tummy, while you get the soft kisses on the butt
Celisea
December 5th, 2012
11:53 am
and vice versa
Button
December 5th, 2012
11:54 am
like my ear and my dariare
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
11:54 am
kimmie ~ no, I didn’t. Should I go read it??
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
11:56 am
Curiosity piqued, so going to read it.
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
12:01 pm
soft kisses on the neck….and soft kisses on the butt
thats the first step Celisea.as i lick from the back once,step back a lil..as if to say..’this is all mine”..then come back and lick some more..as i zero in at the apple,partially squeezed tween them round butt and thighs……
Swiss..dominate this grammar…..
disco
December 5th, 2012
12:32 pm
dang. was there early dismissal today or something?
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
12:40 pm
Leggs, disco, who’s supposed to the the compensating? the person who lied or the court system that convicted them based on the evidence they had? DNA has done a lot to help curb that, but back in the day, most of the time all you had was eye witness testimony.
Also in this day and age, we’re quick to condemn someone before all the evidence is presented. You’re guilty until proven innocent, and then you just got away with it!
Sara
December 5th, 2012
12:40 pm
lights off, bra on…
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
12:41 pm
I was just thinking that, disco. I had to step away for a little bit. Anyone have a new topic?
Celisea
December 5th, 2012
12:49 pm
Yesterday was a pretty good blog day!! Alright folks, I’m out of here…til later….maybe
disco
December 5th, 2012
12:50 pm
S/H – seems like you should at the very least be able to beat up the person/people who lied without any new charges. lol. in many of the cases the state/prosecution tampered with evidence for various reasons. maybe they wanted to believe the victim or eyewitness and they tried to make the evidence match the story. you’ll hear a lot about critical evidence being buried. this makes it really easy to find the state at fault. a lot of times, too, the police and prosecution have to keep their numbers up.
For Real
December 5th, 2012
12:53 pm
My type of “man” ain’t for you if I have to:
- Check you. You grown know when to shut up and you know when to speak up.
- Pay all the bills while you use your money on shoes. Again, I don’t need a chick that acts like a child and needs to be taken care of.
- Believes that relationships are 50/50. Ain’t nothing on this planet is 100% so 50/50 is fuggin impossible.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
12:55 pm
Disco, when the aystem does that, they should be held liable! I’m like you I should get one free pass, (double jeopardy) LOL
That’s the 15% I’m talking about. When you know your man wasn’t doing anything wrong, nothing wrong with waiting. But now you know Ray Ray was slanging and banging, you knew his ass was going to jail one day.
For Real
December 5th, 2012
12:56 pm
Oh and hell yes women like to be dominated. Women hate being responsible for failure. They require a dude to blame.
disco
December 5th, 2012
12:57 pm
for real – when I said a man that can check me and I fall in line and be checked I mean it in the sense that a man whose final say I’ll respect. I don’t just let every man’s word be final just because he’s male. a lot of men know not of what the heck they speak. re knowing when to shut up. I’ve also joked that when I meet the man that tells me to shut up/hush/be quiet and I do it, well then I’ll know I’ve met my match. generally shut up or be quiet can border on fighting words.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
12:59 pm
For real, umm they blame the dude no matter what!! (LOL)
Disco, checked (LOL)
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
1:13 pm
Just got back from cafe and was putting change in wallet. I can’t believe my eyes, I have a buffalo head nickel. I didn’t even think these were still in circulation. I have 2 saved up in mint condition, along with my lady head mercury dime. But to see a nickel like this in circulation brings back memories.
Single ~ from the cases I’ve seen on the news, the State pays. No sense in exacting your own brand of punishment on others involved in putting you behind bars just to find yourself again behind bars.
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
1:19 pm
Single, glad to see you softened up, even just a smidgen because your first post out the gate felt like everyone was stupid for waiting for someone locked up. 15% is acceptable.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
1:23 pm
Leggs, now i did say I wasn’t talking about the ones that were locked up on false charges.
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
1:26 pm
what?? bra on??
u kidding me right?
Sara…i want to pull those yuummie babies!
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
1:29 pm
When you know your man wasn’t doing anything wrong
Single..what if he was doing drugs But feeding the family and bringing the mula home…not the strip joint?
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
1:31 pm
Leggs, also that 15% aren’t going to be out screwing another man while their man is locked up, they’re going to be spending most of their time trying to clear his name. That’s was what I was referring to about her having no dignity. She was just looking for a filler until he got out.
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
1:32 pm
Gotcha, Single.
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 5th, 2012
1:32 pm
Afternoon folks,
I’m still trying to catch up but i’m curious, i’ve heard men say they do not want a women who will let them get away with stuff and that they like the fiestiness of some chicks. What is that about? Now i’m supposed to control you? When you do something I don’t like and I tell you about it, do i have to cuss and throw things through the walls to get my point across?
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
1:33 pm
Ex, see my 10:31
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
1:34 pm
. I don’t just let every man’s word be final just because he’s male
@Disco…u single chics take things waaay left All the dayme time…well some of u
are u saying there are women who will defer to a man jus coz he got a penis…and still be considered a less than air head? OR just trying to differentiate urself just so u seem independent of thought…
I dont think there is a sane women out there,not in slavery, who wld just do that Disco..just so he is a man, i will zip…..
Ummmm….u over dramatising, I think, which single women do a lot…
ohhhh, i aint gon cook just coz he asked
ohhh, i go to the club if i want to..
ohhhh….
Come on Man!
Comon Cents
December 5th, 2012
1:37 pm
Hey, bloggies!
Just popping in for a minute. It has been a busy week or so for me, but I wanted to stop by and say HI! I miss y’all! Hopefully, I will be back soon. (Probably not regularly until after the first of the year, though…)
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
1:37 pm
Nobody else impressed with a buffalo head nickel in circulation.??
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
1:40 pm
sorry leggs, I had to google it to see what it was (LOL)
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
1:41 pm
I have been ordered to take the fish outa the freezer…we havbing fish today!
hmmmmmm,yum yum,yum…..
im gon fast this whole afternoon…
greedy me.
Single….i see ur 10;31….dont u respect that cati was talking bout..drug dealer still but true to his fam…….
if im checking or trying the wife and she wont budge or gimme the goods, i aint mad..thats loyalty…..
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
1:42 pm
Hey Ms Al..Common!!
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
1:42 pm
Speedy comon, Roll Tide!!
Comon Cents
December 5th, 2012
1:43 pm
Hey Ex! Fish for dinner. Hmmm… sounds yummy!
Comon Cents
December 5th, 2012
1:44 pm
S/H~ This will probably be the one time in my life I will have to say Roll Tide! (Cause I don’t want the Irish to win)
I think I just threw up in my mouth a little while I said it…
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
1:45 pm
Yeah, right, Single.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
1:57 pm
Ex no I don’t, when you put your family in jeopardy for a easy dollar instead of getting a “legit” job. You’re not thinking about what could happen to them, If a) you go to jail, they could lose everything. b) drug deal goes bad and they decide to kill your family.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
1:59 pm
Comon, don’t jump on the bad wagon, we don’t allow that (LOL)
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
2:02 pm
Leggs, it was probably one of the nickels I took to the bank a few months ago, I was just wrapping them, wasn’t looking at them (LOL)
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
2:02 pm
Exiled – I know you were talking to Disco, but I want to comment on your 1:34. Like I said the other day and have said before, most folks today lack FINESE! You can get pretty much anything you want if you know how to go about it. A man that commands respect without intimidation and belittling is a real leader. So even before we married, if my hubs wanted me to cook something for him I would be happy to oblige. He didn’t have to kiss my butt, nor did he bark out orders to me. He might say “hey babe, I sure do love that spaghetti you make. You think you might be up to making me some of that this Saturday?”
See, real simple. If I’m not up to it, I’ll say so, but more than likely dude is getting exactly what he asked for and more.
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
2:03 pm
I was thinking that as well, Single. If you have a family and decide to hustle illegally as your way of making money and get popped, I wouldn’t feel you were really looking out for the welfare of your family.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
2:12 pm
yea leggs, i’ts not about just you anymore.
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
2:15 pm
CC – I’m torn about rooting to Bama. I typically go for the SEC, but many folks are saying that ND doesn’t have a chance and I like to root for the underdog. As much as I hated our loss, I gotta give respect to Bama for playing like an NFL team most of the season…
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
2:16 pm
Single ~ I’m keeping this nickel. It is now back out of circulation.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
2:20 pm
I’m a Bama fan and that’s all, root for no other team!! Old school (LOL)
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
2:21 pm
What you gonna do when they come for you?
Work ain’t honest but it pays the bills
What we gonna do when they come for you?
God I can’t stand life without ya
Now, me and baby got this situation
See brotha got this complex occupation
And it ain’t that he don’t have education
‘Cause I was right there at his graduation
Now, I ain’t sayin’ that this life don’t work
But it’s me and baby that he hurts
‘Cause I tell him right
He thinks I’m wrong
But I love him strong
He gave me the life that I came to live
Gave me the song that I came to give
Pressure on me
But the seed had grown
I can’t make it on my own
Single/Leggs – Reminds me of the above Erykah Badu song!
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
2:24 pm
Yep Kimmie that’s about the way it goes, you can’t make it on your own, but then you’re forced too, and put something on his books (LOL)
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
2:24 pm
Exactly kimmie. A request like that will have that request being granted.
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
2:25 pm
I haven’t eaten a juicy pear like this one in a long time. Nice and sweet! Yummy!
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
2:25 pm
Enter your comments here
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
2:27 pm
kimmie ~ I am literally cracking up because reading the first line to the song I thought of Cops, not Erykah!!
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
2:30 pm
Leggs, so did I, I was singing it and thinking these aint the right words (LOL)
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
2:33 pm
Totally off topic…I’m so excited. I just got a message from a friend of mine, who is a solo blues guitarist. He’s playing at a Toys for Tots festival at Northside Tavern on 12/16 and has invited me to play a song with him on my bass! Yay!!!
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
2:35 pm
Single/Leggs – I think of that COPS song too!! I love that Badu song tho. The words were going in my head as I was reading you guys and dude’s “complex occupation”!
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
2:37 pm
I was singing too, then realized WTH are these words too (lol). Scrolled down and never saw…bad boy, bad boys, whatcha gonna do when they come for you…
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
2:38 pm
Congratulations, Bluz. I sense your giddiness.
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
2:38 pm
There is def good ,2_folks_humping sleeping weather out there Now!
….in the burbs.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
2:41 pm
I’m really liking the new and improved bluz
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
2:41 pm
Thanks Leggs! This Sunday is also the Atlanta Blues Society’s Christmas party and I promised I’d take my bass to the jam as long as other jammers know how to play the only song I know so far!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 5th, 2012
2:41 pm
Leggs better hold on to that nickel if it’s dated in the sixties and before, they have new versions of the old buffalo nickel in circulation.
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
2:44 pm
Oh Kimmie….
I don’t know now how these young men go bout it.
Their women don’t cook nor offer them dranks coz I guess they just don’t respect them or maybe they don’t pull their own weight in the home upkeep.
Maybe I’m getting old….coz these single chics biastch and moan too much.
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
2:44 pm
Thank you S/H! I feel really good these days. I feel like I’m making good decisions and taking care of myself first. My social life has grown. I’ve reconnected with two old friends this week. I feel happy. My last two therapy sessions were all upbeat. I think I’m going to tell my therapist on Monday that I’ll call him when I feel like I need to see him. I’ve learned how to handle things better. Maybe it’s because I’ve been through a lot in the past year.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 5th, 2012
2:46 pm
LOL……..Ex I get the feeling that is the case they don’t respect.
MsAtl
December 5th, 2012
2:46 pm
Hey Ex- Fish for dinner over here too.
Get a legitimate job and there will be no worry about jail, jeopardizing your family, whether she will wait for you, etc.
Congrats Bluz.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
2:47 pm
yw single
Ex, the old ones act the same way. but I still love em:-D
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
2:47 pm
BF ~ I know, I know!!!! Please believe, I know (lolol).
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 5th, 2012
2:48 pm
I knew you would be fine Bluz, when stepped off that door mat.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
2:48 pm
I mean yw bluz (LOL)
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
2:48 pm
“I’ll call him when I feel like I need to see him. I’ve learned how to handle things better. ”
WHOA NELLY. Now, to write those words can be looked at as a sign of progress…Good for you!!!!!
Lady~it is what it is!
December 5th, 2012
2:49 pm
what have I missed today?!?
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
2:50 pm
Bluz we’re all the therapy you may need, but you may not want to cut him off that quick, give it a couple of more months
disco
December 5th, 2012
2:50 pm
ex – while I’m not 100% sure what you were getting at I will say that yes, there are some chicks out there that defer simply because a man is a male. they think whatever a man says is right. that’s just their way. I’m not judging them, just saying I’m not one of them.
s/h – back in my late teens/early 20s I dated a guy who went to prison on an assault charge (2-5 years). while I did hold him down with letters, I didn’t put money on his books. in fact, he sent me money from prison and had his brother and peeps on the outside looking out for me. he only ever did that one stint though and has been good ever since. we’re still cool like that.
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
2:52 pm
Exiled – You can blame some of it on the new generation, but not all. It’s some old heads out there that still don’t get it. Everybody wants respect.
Someone on here said too many women want a Barack, but they are no Michelle. I countered with too many men want a Michelle, but they are no Barack!
I got no problems treating my man like a king cause he’s a real leader and he treats me like a queen!
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
2:53 pm
I’m not judging them, just saying I’m not one of them.
Disco – Me either.
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
2:54 pm
http://www.nydailynews.com/life-style/health/fla-woman-afflicted-sexual-disorder-commits-suicide-article-1.1213728
WOW!!!!
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
2:55 pm
Someone on here said too many women want a Barack, but they are no Michelle. I countered with too many men want a Michelle, but they are no Barack!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 5th, 2012
2:56 pm
Kimmie so right treat me the way I treat you, nothing hard or fancy about it.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
2:57 pm
Disco, unless he was a bully, people go for assault all the time, which could also be self defense. Plus you they don’t seize property for that like they do drugs.
MsAtl
December 5th, 2012
2:59 pm
Leggs- Yowsers! fifty in a row. I’ll take 3 or 4, but 50? No thanks.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 5th, 2012
3:00 pm
Leggs that lady claimed to have 50 orgasms a day. How does that fit in the daily schedule?
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
3:02 pm
Blackfoote – Yep, the Golden Rule, should not be that hard, but folks make it that way!!
disco
December 5th, 2012
3:02 pm
S/H – I was just saying that that’s the only prison guy in my past. it’s funny. he did time back in the early 90s. I saw him a couple of years ago and we went out. out of the blue I recited his prison ID number. dude practically swerved the car. he was like “you still remember that”. yep. I still do. lol.
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
3:04 pm
S/H – I’ve been really good the past few months…I think I’ll tell him that I want to take a break and see how I do without seeing him. I’ve only been going once a month for a 45 minute session anyways…
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
3:04 pm
I have yet to hear of a case of a dude waiting on a woman that’s gone to prison.
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 5th, 2012
3:05 pm
treat me the way I treat you
Cosign…an even swap is no swindle.
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
3:07 pm
Leggs that lady claimed to have 50 orgasms a day. How does that fit in the daily schedule? – Ummm, Ummm, Ummmm, don’t know. Too funny!
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:08 pm
Okay bluz, it may be time for you to spread your wings then
Disco, you really love him (LOL)
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
3:09 pm
kimmie ~
I have yet to hear of a case of a dude waiting on a woman that’s gone to prison.Ssshh, you’re ruining the argument (lol).
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 5th, 2012
3:09 pm
Kimmie, me either. What I have seen is guys in prison with more than one woman.
And I’ve also seen some episodes of a show called “Locked Up” where they’ve shown couples that tried to sustain a relationship while the guy was in the pen and couples that met WHILE the guy was in the pen…and these women are SO in love. All the while I’m giving them the side eye and thinking, “You must have a high level of low self esteem.”
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 5th, 2012
3:10 pm
Oops my bad…back to lurking for what’s left of the day…
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
3:11 pm
Leggs – Wow is right with that woman’s story. As much as us women like to feel that way sometimes, I sure know I couldn’t handle it consistantly!!! Poor woman…
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:11 pm
Kimmie, I did see one case where a man married a woman in prison that’s more than likely never going to get out,
Leggs, was she a porn star (LOL)
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
3:11 pm
I don’t know if I would have used the Barack_Michelle reference unless I didn’t have folks up close to see who are married.
How do folks judge the soundness of a Barack Michelle marriage?
Who would know that Bill was pining for a blow job before Monica?
Illusions really.
Barack and Michelle make good optics when u see them on television
That’s all to go by!
DuShawn
December 5th, 2012
3:12 pm
“… I did hold him down…….”Sometimes the shoe is on the other foot. Wifey got a potnah that recently got released after doing almost a dime. This chick was cool as hell, always brought a bunch of females with her when she came to visit. She was a beast with the stolen identity, fake check hustle. She would print money orders from her house. This chick bought her man a brand new Acura, off the lot, with a funny credit card. Baby had some nutz. I remember she rented two suites and threw a birthday party for her dude. Wifey called up some strippers; I went and got them. The party was off the chain. Then she got hot, was on the run and got jammed up. That was like in 2002.
I’m willing to bet my last dollar, Dude moved on to the next chick as soon as she got knocked off.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:15 pm
Ex, you know people are going by the image they see. The grass is always greener on the other side.
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
3:17 pm
Kimmie..,dude waiting on woman that’s gone to prison
Are there many women who do crimes while their men are passively supporting but on the str8 and narrow themselves?
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:18 pm
Du, you know how we men are, unless they’re conjugal visits. why you think I’m coming go see you in jail?
Celisea
December 5th, 2012
3:18 pm
Y’all went back to folks in prison??? I thought sexy was picking up when I dropped off??
Oooookie dokie then
disco
December 5th, 2012
3:19 pm
D – your wife’s girl sounds like an acquaintance of mine. my girl has been on the most wanted list for like the past 3 or 4 years. she’s like a ghost on them feds. they can’t get a line on her.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:19 pm
Ex, most of the time the men aided them, or had them doing it for them.
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
3:21 pm
Exiled – You are right, we never know what goes on behind closed doors with any couple. But the Michelle reference was in context to a discussion where men complained that some women put BO up as an example and say if BO can win the presidency, their dude has no excuse for not achieving anything. The guy said too many want their dude to be a Barack, but they are not a supportive Michelle(at least what they appear to be).
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:21 pm
Kimmie, here’s an article about that guy, check out paragraph #7
http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/US/story?id=889903&page=1#.UL-qDeRbZyI
Robert
December 5th, 2012
3:23 pm
@Disco – “I’ve also joked that when I meet the man that tells me to shut up/hush/be quiet and I do it, well then I’ll know I’ve met my match.”
How do you want it? Bigger and Better….Deeper and Deeper….Harder and Harder…SSHHUT-UP…and put the pillow over your head…You will wake-up the neighbors
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
3:23 pm
I would think being with a chick like that, DuShawn, is like being with someone for the season. It’s not meant to last. Just a memory on your canvas of life.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:24 pm
Ex, Kimmie, if a man or woman are doing their best those are references that should never be made, but sometimes you get people that your best is never good enough.
DuShawn
December 5th, 2012
3:24 pm
S/H – Wifey showed me her picture on the inmate site a few years back, she was was lookin like a real hard butch, hair wild, no make up. The other day she showed me a new picture. Now,she’s on face book looking cute and fly as hell. I wouldn’t be surpised if dude tried to real her back in. She was a Walking ATM.
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
3:26 pm
Single – To your 3:11, I figured it had to be at least one case of it, so it could be featured on one of those Locked Up or Snapped-like shows!
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:28 pm
Du, is she out? you know she’s looking for somewhere to stay, and they say there are some desperate men on the net
aint that right ex (rotflmao)
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
3:30 pm
Disco…so u guys don’t snitch over there and protect her?
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:31 pm
Kimmie I have to admit when I watch some of those locked up shows, I look and some of those women and think what a waste
cause they do be looking good (LOL)
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
3:31 pm
Men serving time for some of the most notoriously heinous crimes apparently have enough sex appeal to turn death row into a sort of lovers’ lane.
Single – All I can do is say WOW and shake my head!!
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:33 pm
Now I had a friend that went back to prison on what some say was a humbug, but I said it was his stupidity. He was on probation and his ex had a restraining order against him, she called him over one night slept with him then call the cops. No trial or anything just sent him back to prison.
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
3:34 pm
Single….a woman with that crafty crime skill set will never be without.
Besides,she’s a desperate woman with vaginal leverage!
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:35 pm
Kimmie this is the one I was talking about , but that one is a wow too! how can you fall in love with Charles Manson??
In a recent posting on PrisonTalk.com, a Web site where nearly 50,000 members seek and share comfort and advice about their relationships with inmates, McDonald asked, “How many men marry women in prison? And more to my case, how many marry women they met after incarceration? I’ve not encountered any others so far.”
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
3:36 pm
If I give up on dating on the outside and any of you see me on a broadcast that I am now dating someone behind bars (man or woman), please find me and shoot me! Thank you.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:36 pm
yea ex, Bonnie will always find her Clyde, or better yet, an easy mark.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:36 pm
Okay leggs, so what’s your real name again (LOL)
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
3:37 pm
All men want to nutt
All of them
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
3:38 pm
“…she called him over one night slept with him then call the cops.” – Ummm, another definition of bitter and spitefulness. And on his part, another definition of stupidity thinking her wounds had healed. He knew what he did to her!!! Puddy wins…..
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 5th, 2012
3:38 pm
and they say there are some desperate men on the net
aint that right ex (rotflmao)
wheeeeew what a good laugh…I needed that
Robert
December 5th, 2012
3:38 pm
@Leggs & Single – “Men Locked-up”
There are men who prey on women when they are locked up in prison and leave them when they return to society. They will write letters and make phone calls while in prison to beg for money or just to past the time away.
Second, prison will test a man. If he is weak he will be treated like a “woman” and perform the same services that women perform on the streets (sex, washing clothes, etc.). Too many men who are gay or bisexual are released from prison and return home to women who do not know what they have been exposed to. Beware of prison relationships.
i'm swiss
December 5th, 2012
3:38 pm
“He was on probation and his ex had a restraining order against him, she called him over one night slept with him then call the cops.”
Well damn. That is one conniving byotch…
And, of course, one stupid motherf__ker….
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:39 pm
yea ex, and the thought that she hasn’t had any real peni in years. (even though she probably has, cause them guards be tearing it up) makes it more appealing.
disco
December 5th, 2012
3:41 pm
S/H – naw. that there wasn’t a humbug. that was dirt right there.
leggs – I’m with you. times are hard but I can’t imagine them being that hard. now I don’t deny having joked about waiting on current wives to die or the parole board to let a few more out but I’m not trying to checking the pods for a man.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:41 pm
Robert, first I’m a man, so I aint looking for no man in or out of prison (LOL) and I don’t think leggs is either.
Also you know prison gay and outside gay aint the same (LOL)
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
3:41 pm
Ummm depends on the crime she committed
I can’t say I will Never Ever..
She may be a out to come out,is like a Martha Stewart in for forgery and got good bread.
I can see myself dating her whilst still inside.
Her money ofcourse a big attraction too
Martha Stewart is a dateable felon!
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
3:41 pm
Single – Dangerous, bad-boy types have NEVER been attractive to me, I don’t care how good they might look physically. They SCARE me to death! I mean absolutely ANYphysical attraction drains from me once I know his history!! And I’m not going to prison or getting in trouble for any dude, ain’t that much love in the world. That’s just a world I am not a part of nor want to be a part of in any way. I have a friend from elementary school that got caught up in some money crimes with her boyfriend and a did a few years in prison. I still can’t believe it. This girl is in her 40’s now and still looks about 12 too!
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
3:42 pm
Robert ~ you didn’t say anything we don’t already know, but thanks!
swiss ~ I see we said the same thing at 3:38. Yes sir!
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
3:42 pm
About to come out
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:45 pm
Ex, I’m not saying never ever either, but I can say it aint going to happen while she’s behind bars.
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
3:46 pm
Martha Stewart is a dateable felon
Exiled – Dang, I keep forgetting Martha went to prison!! Now THAT is a different case right there.
i'm swiss
December 5th, 2012
3:46 pm
Leggs — I know, right? I mean, the b!tch was definitely wrong for that, but anybody stupid enough to fall into that trap kinda has it coming…
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:48 pm
Okay I might have dated inside Martha, as long as I had the unlimited cash flow (LOL)
Jake-SPJTWB
December 5th, 2012
3:48 pm
I am sure today has been interesting and ya’ll prolly off topic, but of course she want man who will put his foot down and tell her to shut-up every now and then.
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
3:50 pm
Yes, they do, swiss! That’s my take as well. You clearly see the bottle with the skull and bones on it and you drink from it anyway…you might as well say that’s what he did. Horny, Greed and macho man syndrome always lead to disaster, or in this case, jail.
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
3:51 pm
In regards to not knowing about what goes on behind closed doors (trying to catch up), several people were surprised with the Ex and I broke up. In public, we looked like the happy, perfect couple. But behind closed doors, it was a whole different story.
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 5th, 2012
3:51 pm
I’m not going to prison or getting in trouble for any dude, ain’t that much love in the world.
Cosign on that,too. No man is worth my freedom. I was watching “Women Behind Bars” and saw a woman get 12 years so her boyfriend wouldn’t get locked up again. I can’t do it…I might love you but I love me waaay more..
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
3:52 pm
Oh…and I just saw the reference to “Locked Up.” Ex was featured in an episode of “Locked Up Abroad”! LOL! I thought it had changed him for the better and it did for a while, but then he turned into the same ole user/loser/jerk!
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
3:54 pm
Man or woman, I’m not taking the charge. I’m not even going to take it for my own child.
disco
December 5th, 2012
3:54 pm
kimmie – re old girl still looking 12. I have a cousin like that. she’s around 40, has several children, wears a size zero and still looks exactly like she did when we were teenagers.
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
3:55 pm
Kimmie…being lonely is a biastch,can be very depressing indeed.
And mist of these folks who date prisoners are proly in bad psychological or emotional situations
It can start with an accepted collect call from someone in prison and they offer good talk and companionship
Then you get to like them,they open up are seemingly contrite about their crime.
Then the rest is history!
It’s the same way playas bang good upstanding chics!
Women aren’t difficult to woo if a man zeros on their inner emotional spots.
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
3:56 pm
Leggs – I know that’s right, my mom used to tell us all the time she was not taking the rap for any of us! She & daddy might have hired us the best attorney they could, but that’s about it!!
Jake-SPJTWB
December 5th, 2012
3:57 pm
Wait, what?? Bluz…your ex was on Locked up Abroad.
For Real
December 5th, 2012
3:57 pm
Blog ladies would you expect your man to take a bullet for you?
Celisea
December 5th, 2012
3:59 pm
I’m having a time keeping up, being in and out.
Did I miss something or did Robert talk about him prison stint??
Sassy’s 3:38 lololol
disco
December 5th, 2012
4:00 pm
for real – would I expect it? no. would I appreciate it? of course. now I can’t have a man using me as a human shield either though. he ducking and dodging and trying to hold me out in front. no haps.
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
4:01 pm
Exiled- About accepting those collect calls:
Tom Joyner had Jesse Jackson on talking about how much phone companies charge prisoners for those calls in some states. It’s only like 2 phone companies that are contracted to prisons so they have a monopoly. I think GA is one that charges $15 a minute or something crazy like that and there were states that charged even more. Jesse said they were being ripped off and it should be looked into, but I don’t feel sorry for them. Just another price to pay for getting yourself in trouble. We have more important pressing problems for people on the outside that are doing the right thing!
DuShawn
December 5th, 2012
4:02 pm
-On topic- Over the years of marriage, I’ve learned to submit to my wife. After a decade of research, I’ve discovered four words that help you avoid a lot of bullsh*&t: YES BABY, YOU’RE RIGHT. If you can master saying those words at the right time and more importantly perfect the art of zoning out and making her voice sound like the teacher on Charlie Brown, you are ahead of the game in keeping your thing together.
Celisea
December 5th, 2012
4:02 pm
No….I don’t think so. I would hope that never happened/presented
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
4:03 pm
ForReal ~ no, I wouldn’t expect it. If he pushed me out of the way and took the bullet, that would be his decision, nothing I expect.
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
4:04 pm
Jake – Yep…the dummy decided to try to smuggle out of Venezuala and got locked up down there for 18 months, then 9 months in Miami. He was desperate for money at the time. Such an idiot! But…he was lucky to live through prison in Venezuala. That’s a rough place for sure, where they allowed guns, drugs, and other stuff inside.
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
4:04 pm
Jake ~ I purposely let that go. I was afraid of what she might say (lololol).
Celisea
December 5th, 2012
4:06 pm
Off topic:
We should have a blog career day
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
4:06 pm
Kimmie…they actually charge the person the prisoner is calling. My friend’s friend was recently locked up and she has to buy minutes so that he can call her…That is crazy to me…
disco
December 5th, 2012
4:07 pm
big ups bluz. lol. none of my people have made appearances on the prison shows (at least not yet). I did have a cousin appear on an episode of america’s most wanted though.
i'm swiss
December 5th, 2012
4:07 pm
“We have more important pressing problems for people on the outside that are doing the right thing!”
kimmie — I agree, except that we do need to look at why we have so many more people locked up, per capita, than anywhere else in the world (ahem, war on drugs, ahem). The majority of folks in jail (even those who are truly guilty of the “crimes” with which they’re charged) don’t need to be locked up. But prisons are a huge industry, built primarily on what amounts to slave labor, so they’re not going to give up those “resources” without a fight.
disco
December 5th, 2012
4:08 pm
bluz – when folks started letting go of the house phones they had to figure out another way for inmates to get through. so now there are packages of pre-paid jailhouse minutes that you can buy so you can get prison calls on your cell phone.
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
4:08 pm
That is crazy to me
Bluz – Me too!
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
4:09 pm
disco – He definitely loves the spotlight and got paid for doing the show, so he was more than happy. Anytime they played reruns, he would run to Facebook and tell everyone to watch it! I told him flat out that he looked like a real dumb a$$ and she shouldn’t promote that! LOL
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
4:10 pm
swiss – Okay, but that’s WAY down the list of priorities to me!
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
4:10 pm
I had a friend years ago who got locked up on bogus charges in California. We would write letters to each other. No need for quick phone calls that cost an arm and a leg. Sure, letters may take a few days to get there, but what’s the big rush?
disco
December 5th, 2012
4:10 pm
swiss – you are right to say that prison is big business here. not to mention the entire concept of parole is nothing but a con and a hustle. heck I’ve never even been to prison and I violate parole on the regular.
Jake-SPJTWB
December 5th, 2012
4:12 pm
Well I will be dayumed, I saw that episode, a musician right…Bluz, you sure you aren’t pulling my chain, if not, you have had some experiences with some intereting cats.
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
4:12 pm
I did know someone who showed up on Cops in the 80’s I think. He was very well known in New Orleans and the cops came in during Mardi Gras because of some crazy stuff on the balcony. He opened the door and they were like…”of course it’s you George. Just tell them to calm down and have a nice night!”
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
4:13 pm
My mom always told me that if I ever went to jail don’t call her cause she wasn’t coming to get me, needless to say I wasn’t about to test that one out. I also told my son’s I don’t visit folks in prison, and I ant putting nothing on your books!!
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
4:15 pm
Jake – yep…blues musician from Atlanta. The chick in the show, who was his girlfriend at the time, is the only girl I’ve ever gotten into a fist fight with and it had nothing to do with him! She shouldn’t have had her moment in the show because she knew all along what he was doing and helped set it up, yet she acted like she was totally innocent and didn’t know anything.
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
4:17 pm
Single ~ I told my child if she decided to make jail her home, I won’t visit. I don’t like the food or the furniture!
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
4:18 pm
Bluz, I remember that episode I think
Swiss is it possible that we have more folks looked up because we have made prison life so easy? you will hear some of these guys say they don’t mind doing time like it’s okay
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
4:19 pm
If I ever got arrested for anything, I would not call my parents! They would kick my a$$!!!!
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
4:22 pm
S/H – If you think about it…folks go to prison and get a bed to sleep in, food to eat, equipment to work out, tv to watch. It’s not as bad as it should be…
disco
December 5th, 2012
4:23 pm
lol. am I the only person here with a “get disco out of jail plan” in place? not wishing it on myself. not living a jailbird lifestyle. still I know things can happen. it’s easy for anyone to land in jail on a humbug. now prison, that’s different but a weekend in a holding cell isn’t so far-fetched.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
4:24 pm
Bluz, prison needs to be a deterrent, not somewhere you go and relax. Slave labor, I think not, need to bring back the chain gangs, Make it a place that no one would want to go.
i'm swiss
December 5th, 2012
4:24 pm
“is it possible that we have more folks looked up because we have made prison life so easy? “
Well, once you’ve been to prison, it’s definitely easier to go back than to go straight on the outside — we’ve made sure of that. But prison life here isn’t any easier than other western countries, and yet they don’t have the same huge prison populations we have. My general rule of thumb on any issue is follow the money. Want to know why we have the laws we do, that produce the large number of non-violent “felons” that we have? Just look for who benefits from such a system. And how they spend their lobbying $$.
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
4:24 pm
Bluz- We actually had a friend of the family that kept going in and out of prison. He admitted he just could not make it out on his own.
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
4:24 pm
disco – I guess I should memorize a couple of my friend’s phone numbers so that I wouldn’t have to call my parents! I sure hope it never happens, but you never know!
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
4:25 pm
Disco, you have to learn how to walk away, look at the bigger picture.
Jake-SPJTWB
December 5th, 2012
4:27 pm
They also get to watch for shanks and azz-rapers in Prison. People die in there daily, we don’t hear about it because no gives a dayum…I will stay out here where I belong!!
Jake-SPJTWB
December 5th, 2012
4:27 pm
nobody
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
4:28 pm
If American prisons were more like Venezuala, I can bet you that not as many people would want to go to prison! I read an article about a police chief in Arizona (I think) who makes sure that prison is not luxourious (sp?). He actually has tent cities where the prisoners would sleep. The ones where were actually inside the building only had certain foods they were fed and could only watch Disney or the Weather channel on TV. He also had chain gangs where the men had to wear pink shirts.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
4:30 pm
Swiss, i know how TV exaggerates things, but prison is the US is alot different than prison in Russia, no one is fighting for you rights, and some of those prisons in South America, and Mexico, where the guards are there basically to keep you in, they don’t care what you do as long as you keep it in the inside, people have guns knives and everything else. and in most there is no such thing as parole. Some of the younger generation don’t have a problem with going to jail even though they’ve never been before.
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
4:30 pm
Here he is: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joe_Arpaio
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
4:30 pm
Well, even though this talk of prison is depressing, it’s been interesting!LOL! But I’m outta here!
Have a great one!
i'm swiss
December 5th, 2012
4:30 pm
The vast majority of folks in prison — particularly those in the private prisons (and there are a ton of those) — are there for non-violent, drug-related offenses. Why should someone be locked up for doing (or hell, even selling) drugs?
DuShawn
December 5th, 2012
4:30 pm
Yall trippin….If DuShawn II went to jail. I’m coming to get him out immediately and ensure that he has the best legal representation. I don’t care what he did. I been there. That aint no place to be. I’m getting my boy out. If the case goes south and he has to go inside. I’m visiting often and making sure his books stay full. I’m raising right. God willing his journey won’t take him there, but if it did. I would there for him, just like my father was for me.
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
4:31 pm
Bluz ~ I can bet you now that not many “want to go to prison.” And, those tent cities are no joke. There are worse prisons out there than our American prisons!
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
4:32 pm
Bluz ~ I thought I was going to open a pic of your ex (lololol).
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 5th, 2012
4:33 pm
They also get to watch for shanks and azz-rapers in Prison.
That’s some scary isht right there. There’s a guy from my neighborhood back home with 8+ children…he went to jail for about 2-3 years and came back a lil….suspect..
Read y’all tomorrow…gotta go bust these four miles and show my treadmill who’s boss
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
4:33 pm
Swiss, why? because it’s against the law, if you don’t like it fight to change the laws!
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
4:34 pm
Leggs – LOL! If you’re really curious you can look it up on National Geographics site…it was the Caracas episode of Locked Up Abroad.
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
4:35 pm
Seriously DuShawn ~ not take the charge for my child, but of course I will get her the best legal representation I can afford, and yes, I will visit her. I won’t like it because each visit would break my heart, but I would never abandon her.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
4:35 pm
time to go, have a nice evening, debate y’all tomorrow
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
4:35 pm
Dushawn – I know now my parents would have gotten me a good attorney, but they scared me straight into not getting in trouble to begin with. But neither were going to take the rap for me, that I am sure of!!
i'm swiss
December 5th, 2012
4:36 pm
“if you don’t like it fight to change the laws”
That’s my whole point. We have those laws in the first place because big industries with lots of $$ to lobby for them (private prisons, pharmaceutical companies, etc.) got them passed.
Celisea
December 5th, 2012
4:37 pm
Still prison??
Let’sake tomorrow a Thumping Thunderous Thursday of a blog day
I’m out!
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
4:37 pm
swiss – I agree with you that drug users shouldn’t go to jail, unless they have committed crimes to get their drugs. I think pot should be legal everywhere. Not that I smoke it (wish I liked it), but it’s not right that so many people go to prison over pot. The hard drugs? Now, that’s where it gets tricky. I wouldn’t want to see those legalized, but what you do in your own home should be your own business. I did hard drugs for a couple of years back in 2005-2007 and it would have destroyed me had I been out at the bar, in the bathroom, and gotten caught.
i'm swiss
December 5th, 2012
4:38 pm
And the only way to get rid of such laws is to get enough people to realize that most of our drug laws are total BS. Thus my rants — I’m raising awareness, dude.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
4:38 pm
Leggs, Dushawn, I’m sorry I’m not going broke for my child (because I know my child) how many times are you willing to do this, had another friend that almost made his parents, his grand parents and a aunt loose their homes because he jumped bail, His step-dad basically worked his self to death to save those homes. For me, it aint happening. that’s why I let my sons know this early on.
Celisea
December 5th, 2012
4:39 pm
Let’s make……
Toodles! Lata gators
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
4:39 pm
See ya S/H!
i'm swiss
December 5th, 2012
4:40 pm
“I did hard drugs for a couple of years back in 2005-2007 and it would have destroyed me had I been out at the bar, in the bathroom, and gotten caught.”
Bluz — Exactly. You knew full well that what you were doing could land you in prison if caught, and yet you still weren’t deterred. Folks with drug addictions need help. Being locked up in prison and being branded a felon for the rest of your life is not help.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
4:41 pm
Swiss, these laws came long before all this lobbying, most of these drugs were legal until black started taking them. Thus why the time is different for different drugs, that may be the reason they’re still around but not why they started.
disco
December 5th, 2012
4:42 pm
S/H – folks have spent time in jail just because of things as simple as resembling someone else. my point is only that it can happen to anyone. it’s not always about checking yourself or walking away.
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
4:42 pm
Single ~ I hope, like kimmie’s parents, I’ve scared mine straight enough to not walk that path toward prison. Like my mom scared me and just knowing what I know about loosing my freedom was enough for my walk to be more straight than crooked (lol).
abc
December 5th, 2012
4:43 pm
I told my kids that if they don’t want to be in jail, don’t commit any crimes. If they committed crimes, jail is where they belong. I felt bad on that account for one of my sons, but the past few years, he’s taken it to heart and now tailors his behavior such that he doesn’t commit crimes, thus does not get arrested.
On topic, I have a somewhat dominant personality and so will function as the Alpha in pretty much any scenario. As that applies to my relationship, sweetie asserts herself when she deems necessary and I pay close attention, but my word is still the last word. Often, my last word is in favor of her, but only because after she asserts herself, I can see that she’s right.
It’s about respect. A man requires respect, even if it isn’t deserved. So, pick a man that deserves it.
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
4:43 pm
swiss – instead of sending addicts to jail, they need to be sent to rehab! I was lucky because there was a time that I had a gram of coke in my pocket while driving…I was following my boyfriend at the time to his house and a cop came right behind me. He ended up going around me and pulled him over for tag issues. I could have been put away for a while for having that in my possession, but I’m not a criminal. I was just caught up in a bad way…
i'm swiss
December 5th, 2012
4:43 pm
“most of these drugs were legal until black started taking them”
S/H — Exactly. I wasn’t going to open up that can of worms today, but you’re absolutely right. And do you think that’s a coincidence? All the more reason we need to wake up & realize that the “war on drugs” is a con.
abc
December 5th, 2012
4:44 pm
And, from my perspective, a man that deserves respect sure as hayell ain’t in jail!
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
4:44 pm
Swiss there is no determent, by going to prison, hell some go to prison to get clean because they know without any thing to trade they aint getting any in there.
I’m gone for real this time, need a joint to battle through this traffic (LOL)
abc
December 5th, 2012
4:45 pm
I disagree: if you’re in violation of the law, you are a criminal. Criminals are described by their actions, not their intentions, nor their character — although disregard for the law is a common criminal characteristic, obviously.
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
4:46 pm
Often, my last word is in favor of her, but only because after she asserts herself, I can see that she’s right. – Now, that’s loaded and made me laugh! I hear you, abc.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
4:46 pm
Swiss anything about my statement makes you think I think it was by coincidence? LOL
cya
i'm swiss
December 5th, 2012
4:46 pm
S/H — Do you think someone deserves to be locked up for smoking weed? (Even if it is a looooooot of weed)?
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
4:47 pm
Bluz ~ did you continue driving or did you stop and wait on your bf? Sorry, but if you stopped that was a crazy thing to do.
i'm swiss
December 5th, 2012
4:55 pm
abc — Yes, but we define our laws, and therefore we define what is criminal. If our laws are stupid, then so is our definition of what is criminal.
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
5:02 pm
Leggs – I kept driving to his house (we were only 1/2 mile away), dropped the coke off, then did a drive around to make sure he didn’t get busted for DUI.
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
5:03 pm
You know…if pot was legal everywhere, I can bet the economy would boom. Just think of all the taxes and jobs created with that!
Ok ya’ll…I gotta run. I’ll check in when I get home.