Do women prefer to be dominated?
I once heard a woman say that dating a man that allows her to walk all over him can be a major turn off. While she wants a nice guy, she does not want a doormat. She prefers a man that can exert some dominance over her and won’t let her get away with anything.
I can see her point when she refers to not dating a doormat, but wanting a man to dominate you seems like a slippery slope. What kind of boundaries would you want to have? How do you know when the man’s dominance goes beyond a “healthy” dominance and gets eerily close to the scary kind?
I am not referring to the sexy Christian Grey/Anastasia kind of arrangement, here. (I am sorry for making a Fifty Shades of Gray reference, forgive me?) I am talking about having an adult relationship with one dominating partner – the man, having most of the power in a relationship.
Ladies, do you think that you prefer some degree of dominance over you? Would you get bored by a man that “let’s you walk all over him?”
Men – in your experience, do you get a favorable response when you exert your masculine energy in a relationship?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Jake-SPJTWB
December 5th, 2012
4:27 pm
nobody
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
4:28 pm
If American prisons were more like Venezuala, I can bet you that not as many people would want to go to prison! I read an article about a police chief in Arizona (I think) who makes sure that prison is not luxourious (sp?). He actually has tent cities where the prisoners would sleep. The ones where were actually inside the building only had certain foods they were fed and could only watch Disney or the Weather channel on TV. He also had chain gangs where the men had to wear pink shirts.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
4:30 pm
Swiss, i know how TV exaggerates things, but prison is the US is alot different than prison in Russia, no one is fighting for you rights, and some of those prisons in South America, and Mexico, where the guards are there basically to keep you in, they don’t care what you do as long as you keep it in the inside, people have guns knives and everything else. and in most there is no such thing as parole. Some of the younger generation don’t have a problem with going to jail even though they’ve never been before.
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
4:30 pm
Here he is: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joe_Arpaio
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
4:30 pm
Well, even though this talk of prison is depressing, it’s been interesting!LOL! But I’m outta here!
Have a great one!
i'm swiss
December 5th, 2012
4:30 pm
The vast majority of folks in prison — particularly those in the private prisons (and there are a ton of those) — are there for non-violent, drug-related offenses. Why should someone be locked up for doing (or hell, even selling) drugs?
DuShawn
December 5th, 2012
4:30 pm
Yall trippin….If DuShawn II went to jail. I’m coming to get him out immediately and ensure that he has the best legal representation. I don’t care what he did. I been there. That aint no place to be. I’m getting my boy out. If the case goes south and he has to go inside. I’m visiting often and making sure his books stay full. I’m raising right. God willing his journey won’t take him there, but if it did. I would there for him, just like my father was for me.
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
4:31 pm
Bluz ~ I can bet you now that not many “want to go to prison.” And, those tent cities are no joke. There are worse prisons out there than our American prisons!
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
4:32 pm
Bluz ~ I thought I was going to open a pic of your ex (lololol).
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 5th, 2012
4:33 pm
They also get to watch for shanks and azz-rapers in Prison.
That’s some scary isht right there. There’s a guy from my neighborhood back home with 8+ children…he went to jail for about 2-3 years and came back a lil….suspect..
Read y’all tomorrow…gotta go bust these four miles and show my treadmill who’s boss
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
4:33 pm
Swiss, why? because it’s against the law, if you don’t like it fight to change the laws!
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
4:34 pm
Leggs – LOL! If you’re really curious you can look it up on National Geographics site…it was the Caracas episode of Locked Up Abroad.
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
4:35 pm
Seriously DuShawn ~ not take the charge for my child, but of course I will get her the best legal representation I can afford, and yes, I will visit her. I won’t like it because each visit would break my heart, but I would never abandon her.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
4:35 pm
time to go, have a nice evening, debate y’all tomorrow
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
4:35 pm
Dushawn – I know now my parents would have gotten me a good attorney, but they scared me straight into not getting in trouble to begin with. But neither were going to take the rap for me, that I am sure of!!
i'm swiss
December 5th, 2012
4:36 pm
“if you don’t like it fight to change the laws”
That’s my whole point. We have those laws in the first place because big industries with lots of $$ to lobby for them (private prisons, pharmaceutical companies, etc.) got them passed.
Celisea
December 5th, 2012
4:37 pm
Still prison??
Let’sake tomorrow a Thumping Thunderous Thursday of a blog day
I’m out!
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
4:37 pm
swiss – I agree with you that drug users shouldn’t go to jail, unless they have committed crimes to get their drugs. I think pot should be legal everywhere. Not that I smoke it (wish I liked it), but it’s not right that so many people go to prison over pot. The hard drugs? Now, that’s where it gets tricky. I wouldn’t want to see those legalized, but what you do in your own home should be your own business. I did hard drugs for a couple of years back in 2005-2007 and it would have destroyed me had I been out at the bar, in the bathroom, and gotten caught.
i'm swiss
December 5th, 2012
4:38 pm
And the only way to get rid of such laws is to get enough people to realize that most of our drug laws are total BS. Thus my rants — I’m raising awareness, dude.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
4:38 pm
Leggs, Dushawn, I’m sorry I’m not going broke for my child (because I know my child) how many times are you willing to do this, had another friend that almost made his parents, his grand parents and a aunt loose their homes because he jumped bail, His step-dad basically worked his self to death to save those homes. For me, it aint happening. that’s why I let my sons know this early on.
Celisea
December 5th, 2012
4:39 pm
Let’s make……
Toodles! Lata gators
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
4:39 pm
See ya S/H!
i'm swiss
December 5th, 2012
4:40 pm
“I did hard drugs for a couple of years back in 2005-2007 and it would have destroyed me had I been out at the bar, in the bathroom, and gotten caught.”
Bluz — Exactly. You knew full well that what you were doing could land you in prison if caught, and yet you still weren’t deterred. Folks with drug addictions need help. Being locked up in prison and being branded a felon for the rest of your life is not help.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
4:41 pm
Swiss, these laws came long before all this lobbying, most of these drugs were legal until black started taking them. Thus why the time is different for different drugs, that may be the reason they’re still around but not why they started.
disco
December 5th, 2012
4:42 pm
S/H – folks have spent time in jail just because of things as simple as resembling someone else. my point is only that it can happen to anyone. it’s not always about checking yourself or walking away.
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
4:42 pm
Single ~ I hope, like kimmie’s parents, I’ve scared mine straight enough to not walk that path toward prison. Like my mom scared me and just knowing what I know about loosing my freedom was enough for my walk to be more straight than crooked (lol).
abc
December 5th, 2012
4:43 pm
I told my kids that if they don’t want to be in jail, don’t commit any crimes. If they committed crimes, jail is where they belong. I felt bad on that account for one of my sons, but the past few years, he’s taken it to heart and now tailors his behavior such that he doesn’t commit crimes, thus does not get arrested.
On topic, I have a somewhat dominant personality and so will function as the Alpha in pretty much any scenario. As that applies to my relationship, sweetie asserts herself when she deems necessary and I pay close attention, but my word is still the last word. Often, my last word is in favor of her, but only because after she asserts herself, I can see that she’s right.
It’s about respect. A man requires respect, even if it isn’t deserved. So, pick a man that deserves it.
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
4:43 pm
swiss – instead of sending addicts to jail, they need to be sent to rehab! I was lucky because there was a time that I had a gram of coke in my pocket while driving…I was following my boyfriend at the time to his house and a cop came right behind me. He ended up going around me and pulled him over for tag issues. I could have been put away for a while for having that in my possession, but I’m not a criminal. I was just caught up in a bad way…
i'm swiss
December 5th, 2012
4:43 pm
“most of these drugs were legal until black started taking them”
S/H — Exactly. I wasn’t going to open up that can of worms today, but you’re absolutely right. And do you think that’s a coincidence? All the more reason we need to wake up & realize that the “war on drugs” is a con.
abc
December 5th, 2012
4:44 pm
And, from my perspective, a man that deserves respect sure as hayell ain’t in jail!
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
4:44 pm
Swiss there is no determent, by going to prison, hell some go to prison to get clean because they know without any thing to trade they aint getting any in there.
I’m gone for real this time, need a joint to battle through this traffic (LOL)
abc
December 5th, 2012
4:45 pm
I disagree: if you’re in violation of the law, you are a criminal. Criminals are described by their actions, not their intentions, nor their character — although disregard for the law is a common criminal characteristic, obviously.
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
4:46 pm
Often, my last word is in favor of her, but only because after she asserts herself, I can see that she’s right. – Now, that’s loaded and made me laugh! I hear you, abc.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
4:46 pm
Swiss anything about my statement makes you think I think it was by coincidence? LOL
cya
i'm swiss
December 5th, 2012
4:46 pm
S/H — Do you think someone deserves to be locked up for smoking weed? (Even if it is a looooooot of weed)?
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
4:47 pm
Bluz ~ did you continue driving or did you stop and wait on your bf? Sorry, but if you stopped that was a crazy thing to do.
i'm swiss
December 5th, 2012
4:55 pm
abc — Yes, but we define our laws, and therefore we define what is criminal. If our laws are stupid, then so is our definition of what is criminal.
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
5:02 pm
Leggs – I kept driving to his house (we were only 1/2 mile away), dropped the coke off, then did a drive around to make sure he didn’t get busted for DUI.
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
5:03 pm
You know…if pot was legal everywhere, I can bet the economy would boom. Just think of all the taxes and jobs created with that!
Ok ya’ll…I gotta run. I’ll check in when I get home.