Do women prefer to be dominated?
I once heard a woman say that dating a man that allows her to walk all over him can be a major turn off. While she wants a nice guy, she does not want a doormat. She prefers a man that can exert some dominance over her and won’t let her get away with anything.
I can see her point when she refers to not dating a doormat, but wanting a man to dominate you seems like a slippery slope. What kind of boundaries would you want to have? How do you know when the man’s dominance goes beyond a “healthy” dominance and gets eerily close to the scary kind?
I am not referring to the sexy Christian Grey/Anastasia kind of arrangement, here. (I am sorry for making a Fifty Shades of Gray reference, forgive me?) I am talking about having an adult relationship with one dominating partner – the man, having most of the power in a relationship.
Ladies, do you think that you prefer some degree of dominance over you? Would you get bored by a man that “let’s you walk all over him?”
Men – in your experience, do you get a favorable response when you exert your masculine energy in a relationship?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
2:57 pm
Disco, unless he was a bully, people go for assault all the time, which could also be self defense. Plus you they don’t seize property for that like they do drugs.
MsAtl
December 5th, 2012
2:59 pm
Leggs- Yowsers! fifty in a row. I’ll take 3 or 4, but 50? No thanks.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 5th, 2012
3:00 pm
Leggs that lady claimed to have 50 orgasms a day. How does that fit in the daily schedule?
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
3:02 pm
Blackfoote – Yep, the Golden Rule, should not be that hard, but folks make it that way!!
disco
December 5th, 2012
3:02 pm
S/H – I was just saying that that’s the only prison guy in my past. it’s funny. he did time back in the early 90s. I saw him a couple of years ago and we went out. out of the blue I recited his prison ID number. dude practically swerved the car. he was like “you still remember that”. yep. I still do. lol.
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
3:04 pm
S/H – I’ve been really good the past few months…I think I’ll tell him that I want to take a break and see how I do without seeing him. I’ve only been going once a month for a 45 minute session anyways…
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
3:04 pm
I have yet to hear of a case of a dude waiting on a woman that’s gone to prison.
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 5th, 2012
3:05 pm
treat me the way I treat you
Cosign…an even swap is no swindle.
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
3:07 pm
Leggs that lady claimed to have 50 orgasms a day. How does that fit in the daily schedule? – Ummm, Ummm, Ummmm, don’t know. Too funny!
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:08 pm
Okay bluz, it may be time for you to spread your wings then
Disco, you really love him (LOL)
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
3:09 pm
kimmie ~
I have yet to hear of a case of a dude waiting on a woman that’s gone to prison.Ssshh, you’re ruining the argument (lol).
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 5th, 2012
3:09 pm
Kimmie, me either. What I have seen is guys in prison with more than one woman.
And I’ve also seen some episodes of a show called “Locked Up” where they’ve shown couples that tried to sustain a relationship while the guy was in the pen and couples that met WHILE the guy was in the pen…and these women are SO in love. All the while I’m giving them the side eye and thinking, “You must have a high level of low self esteem.”
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 5th, 2012
3:10 pm
Oops my bad…back to lurking for what’s left of the day…
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
3:11 pm
Leggs – Wow is right with that woman’s story. As much as us women like to feel that way sometimes, I sure know I couldn’t handle it consistantly!!! Poor woman…
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:11 pm
Kimmie, I did see one case where a man married a woman in prison that’s more than likely never going to get out,
Leggs, was she a porn star (LOL)
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
3:11 pm
I don’t know if I would have used the Barack_Michelle reference unless I didn’t have folks up close to see who are married.
How do folks judge the soundness of a Barack Michelle marriage?
Who would know that Bill was pining for a blow job before Monica?
Illusions really.
Barack and Michelle make good optics when u see them on television
That’s all to go by!
DuShawn
December 5th, 2012
3:12 pm
“… I did hold him down…….”Sometimes the shoe is on the other foot. Wifey got a potnah that recently got released after doing almost a dime. This chick was cool as hell, always brought a bunch of females with her when she came to visit. She was a beast with the stolen identity, fake check hustle. She would print money orders from her house. This chick bought her man a brand new Acura, off the lot, with a funny credit card. Baby had some nutz. I remember she rented two suites and threw a birthday party for her dude. Wifey called up some strippers; I went and got them. The party was off the chain. Then she got hot, was on the run and got jammed up. That was like in 2002.
I’m willing to bet my last dollar, Dude moved on to the next chick as soon as she got knocked off.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:15 pm
Ex, you know people are going by the image they see. The grass is always greener on the other side.
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
3:17 pm
Kimmie..,dude waiting on woman that’s gone to prison
Are there many women who do crimes while their men are passively supporting but on the str8 and narrow themselves?
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:18 pm
Du, you know how we men are, unless they’re conjugal visits. why you think I’m coming go see you in jail?
Celisea
December 5th, 2012
3:18 pm
Y’all went back to folks in prison??? I thought sexy was picking up when I dropped off??
Oooookie dokie then
disco
December 5th, 2012
3:19 pm
D – your wife’s girl sounds like an acquaintance of mine. my girl has been on the most wanted list for like the past 3 or 4 years. she’s like a ghost on them feds. they can’t get a line on her.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:19 pm
Ex, most of the time the men aided them, or had them doing it for them.
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
3:21 pm
Exiled – You are right, we never know what goes on behind closed doors with any couple. But the Michelle reference was in context to a discussion where men complained that some women put BO up as an example and say if BO can win the presidency, their dude has no excuse for not achieving anything. The guy said too many want their dude to be a Barack, but they are not a supportive Michelle(at least what they appear to be).
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:21 pm
Kimmie, here’s an article about that guy, check out paragraph #7
http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/US/story?id=889903&page=1#.UL-qDeRbZyI
Robert
December 5th, 2012
3:23 pm
@Disco – “I’ve also joked that when I meet the man that tells me to shut up/hush/be quiet and I do it, well then I’ll know I’ve met my match.”
How do you want it? Bigger and Better….Deeper and Deeper….Harder and Harder…SSHHUT-UP…and put the pillow over your head…You will wake-up the neighbors
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
3:23 pm
I would think being with a chick like that, DuShawn, is like being with someone for the season. It’s not meant to last. Just a memory on your canvas of life.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:24 pm
Ex, Kimmie, if a man or woman are doing their best those are references that should never be made, but sometimes you get people that your best is never good enough.
DuShawn
December 5th, 2012
3:24 pm
S/H – Wifey showed me her picture on the inmate site a few years back, she was was lookin like a real hard butch, hair wild, no make up. The other day she showed me a new picture. Now,she’s on face book looking cute and fly as hell. I wouldn’t be surpised if dude tried to real her back in. She was a Walking ATM.
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
3:26 pm
Single – To your 3:11, I figured it had to be at least one case of it, so it could be featured on one of those Locked Up or Snapped-like shows!
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:28 pm
Du, is she out? you know she’s looking for somewhere to stay, and they say there are some desperate men on the net
aint that right ex (rotflmao)
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
3:30 pm
Disco…so u guys don’t snitch over there and protect her?
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:31 pm
Kimmie I have to admit when I watch some of those locked up shows, I look and some of those women and think what a waste
cause they do be looking good (LOL)
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
3:31 pm
Men serving time for some of the most notoriously heinous crimes apparently have enough sex appeal to turn death row into a sort of lovers’ lane.
Single – All I can do is say WOW and shake my head!!
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:33 pm
Now I had a friend that went back to prison on what some say was a humbug, but I said it was his stupidity. He was on probation and his ex had a restraining order against him, she called him over one night slept with him then call the cops. No trial or anything just sent him back to prison.
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
3:34 pm
Single….a woman with that crafty crime skill set will never be without.
Besides,she’s a desperate woman with vaginal leverage!
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:35 pm
Kimmie this is the one I was talking about , but that one is a wow too! how can you fall in love with Charles Manson??
In a recent posting on PrisonTalk.com, a Web site where nearly 50,000 members seek and share comfort and advice about their relationships with inmates, McDonald asked, “How many men marry women in prison? And more to my case, how many marry women they met after incarceration? I’ve not encountered any others so far.”
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
3:36 pm
If I give up on dating on the outside and any of you see me on a broadcast that I am now dating someone behind bars (man or woman), please find me and shoot me! Thank you.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:36 pm
yea ex, Bonnie will always find her Clyde, or better yet, an easy mark.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:36 pm
Okay leggs, so what’s your real name again (LOL)
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
3:37 pm
All men want to nutt
All of them
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
3:38 pm
“…she called him over one night slept with him then call the cops.” – Ummm, another definition of bitter and spitefulness. And on his part, another definition of stupidity thinking her wounds had healed. He knew what he did to her!!! Puddy wins…..
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 5th, 2012
3:38 pm
and they say there are some desperate men on the net
aint that right ex (rotflmao)
wheeeeew what a good laugh…I needed that
Robert
December 5th, 2012
3:38 pm
@Leggs & Single – “Men Locked-up”
There are men who prey on women when they are locked up in prison and leave them when they return to society. They will write letters and make phone calls while in prison to beg for money or just to past the time away.
Second, prison will test a man. If he is weak he will be treated like a “woman” and perform the same services that women perform on the streets (sex, washing clothes, etc.). Too many men who are gay or bisexual are released from prison and return home to women who do not know what they have been exposed to. Beware of prison relationships.
i'm swiss
December 5th, 2012
3:38 pm
“He was on probation and his ex had a restraining order against him, she called him over one night slept with him then call the cops.”
Well damn. That is one conniving byotch…
And, of course, one stupid motherf__ker….
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:39 pm
yea ex, and the thought that she hasn’t had any real peni in years. (even though she probably has, cause them guards be tearing it up) makes it more appealing.
disco
December 5th, 2012
3:41 pm
S/H – naw. that there wasn’t a humbug. that was dirt right there.
leggs – I’m with you. times are hard but I can’t imagine them being that hard. now I don’t deny having joked about waiting on current wives to die or the parole board to let a few more out but I’m not trying to checking the pods for a man.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
3:41 pm
Robert, first I’m a man, so I aint looking for no man in or out of prison (LOL) and I don’t think leggs is either.
Also you know prison gay and outside gay aint the same (LOL)
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
3:41 pm
Ummm depends on the crime she committed
I can’t say I will Never Ever..
She may be a out to come out,is like a Martha Stewart in for forgery and got good bread.
I can see myself dating her whilst still inside.
Her money ofcourse a big attraction too
Martha Stewart is a dateable felon!
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
3:41 pm
Single – Dangerous, bad-boy types have NEVER been attractive to me, I don’t care how good they might look physically. They SCARE me to death! I mean absolutely ANYphysical attraction drains from me once I know his history!! And I’m not going to prison or getting in trouble for any dude, ain’t that much love in the world. That’s just a world I am not a part of nor want to be a part of in any way. I have a friend from elementary school that got caught up in some money crimes with her boyfriend and a did a few years in prison. I still can’t believe it. This girl is in her 40’s now and still looks about 12 too!