Do women prefer to be dominated?
I once heard a woman say that dating a man that allows her to walk all over him can be a major turn off. While she wants a nice guy, she does not want a doormat. She prefers a man that can exert some dominance over her and won’t let her get away with anything.
I can see her point when she refers to not dating a doormat, but wanting a man to dominate you seems like a slippery slope. What kind of boundaries would you want to have? How do you know when the man’s dominance goes beyond a “healthy” dominance and gets eerily close to the scary kind?
I am not referring to the sexy Christian Grey/Anastasia kind of arrangement, here. (I am sorry for making a Fifty Shades of Gray reference, forgive me?) I am talking about having an adult relationship with one dominating partner – the man, having most of the power in a relationship.
Ladies, do you think that you prefer some degree of dominance over you? Would you get bored by a man that “let’s you walk all over him?”
Men – in your experience, do you get a favorable response when you exert your masculine energy in a relationship?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Comon Cents
December 5th, 2012
1:37 pm
Hey, bloggies!
Just popping in for a minute. It has been a busy week or so for me, but I wanted to stop by and say HI! I miss y’all! Hopefully, I will be back soon. (Probably not regularly until after the first of the year, though…)
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
1:37 pm
Nobody else impressed with a buffalo head nickel in circulation.??
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
1:40 pm
sorry leggs, I had to google it to see what it was (LOL)
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
1:41 pm
I have been ordered to take the fish outa the freezer…we havbing fish today!
hmmmmmm,yum yum,yum…..
im gon fast this whole afternoon…
greedy me.
Single….i see ur 10;31….dont u respect that cati was talking bout..drug dealer still but true to his fam…….
if im checking or trying the wife and she wont budge or gimme the goods, i aint mad..thats loyalty…..
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
1:42 pm
Hey Ms Al..Common!!
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
1:42 pm
Speedy comon, Roll Tide!!
Comon Cents
December 5th, 2012
1:43 pm
Hey Ex! Fish for dinner. Hmmm… sounds yummy!
Comon Cents
December 5th, 2012
1:44 pm
S/H~ This will probably be the one time in my life I will have to say Roll Tide! (Cause I don’t want the Irish to win)
I think I just threw up in my mouth a little while I said it…
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
1:45 pm
Yeah, right, Single.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
1:57 pm
Ex no I don’t, when you put your family in jeopardy for a easy dollar instead of getting a “legit” job. You’re not thinking about what could happen to them, If a) you go to jail, they could lose everything. b) drug deal goes bad and they decide to kill your family.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
1:59 pm
Comon, don’t jump on the bad wagon, we don’t allow that (LOL)
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
2:02 pm
Leggs, it was probably one of the nickels I took to the bank a few months ago, I was just wrapping them, wasn’t looking at them (LOL)
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
2:02 pm
Exiled – I know you were talking to Disco, but I want to comment on your 1:34. Like I said the other day and have said before, most folks today lack FINESE! You can get pretty much anything you want if you know how to go about it. A man that commands respect without intimidation and belittling is a real leader. So even before we married, if my hubs wanted me to cook something for him I would be happy to oblige. He didn’t have to kiss my butt, nor did he bark out orders to me. He might say “hey babe, I sure do love that spaghetti you make. You think you might be up to making me some of that this Saturday?”
See, real simple. If I’m not up to it, I’ll say so, but more than likely dude is getting exactly what he asked for and more.
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
2:03 pm
I was thinking that as well, Single. If you have a family and decide to hustle illegally as your way of making money and get popped, I wouldn’t feel you were really looking out for the welfare of your family.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
2:12 pm
yea leggs, i’ts not about just you anymore.
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
2:15 pm
CC – I’m torn about rooting to Bama. I typically go for the SEC, but many folks are saying that ND doesn’t have a chance and I like to root for the underdog. As much as I hated our loss, I gotta give respect to Bama for playing like an NFL team most of the season…
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
2:16 pm
Single ~ I’m keeping this nickel. It is now back out of circulation.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
2:20 pm
I’m a Bama fan and that’s all, root for no other team!! Old school (LOL)
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
2:21 pm
What you gonna do when they come for you?
Work ain’t honest but it pays the bills
What we gonna do when they come for you?
God I can’t stand life without ya
Now, me and baby got this situation
See brotha got this complex occupation
And it ain’t that he don’t have education
‘Cause I was right there at his graduation
Now, I ain’t sayin’ that this life don’t work
But it’s me and baby that he hurts
‘Cause I tell him right
He thinks I’m wrong
But I love him strong
He gave me the life that I came to live
Gave me the song that I came to give
Pressure on me
But the seed had grown
I can’t make it on my own
Single/Leggs – Reminds me of the above Erykah Badu song!
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
2:24 pm
Yep Kimmie that’s about the way it goes, you can’t make it on your own, but then you’re forced too, and put something on his books (LOL)
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
2:24 pm
Exactly kimmie. A request like that will have that request being granted.
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
2:25 pm
I haven’t eaten a juicy pear like this one in a long time. Nice and sweet! Yummy!
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
2:25 pm
Enter your comments here
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
2:27 pm
kimmie ~ I am literally cracking up because reading the first line to the song I thought of Cops, not Erykah!!
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
2:30 pm
Leggs, so did I, I was singing it and thinking these aint the right words (LOL)
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
2:33 pm
Totally off topic…I’m so excited. I just got a message from a friend of mine, who is a solo blues guitarist. He’s playing at a Toys for Tots festival at Northside Tavern on 12/16 and has invited me to play a song with him on my bass! Yay!!!
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
2:35 pm
Single/Leggs – I think of that COPS song too!! I love that Badu song tho. The words were going in my head as I was reading you guys and dude’s “complex occupation”!
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
2:37 pm
I was singing too, then realized WTH are these words too (lol). Scrolled down and never saw…bad boy, bad boys, whatcha gonna do when they come for you…
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
2:38 pm
Congratulations, Bluz. I sense your giddiness.
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
2:38 pm
There is def good ,2_folks_humping sleeping weather out there Now!
….in the burbs.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
2:41 pm
I’m really liking the new and improved bluz
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
2:41 pm
Thanks Leggs! This Sunday is also the Atlanta Blues Society’s Christmas party and I promised I’d take my bass to the jam as long as other jammers know how to play the only song I know so far!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 5th, 2012
2:41 pm
Leggs better hold on to that nickel if it’s dated in the sixties and before, they have new versions of the old buffalo nickel in circulation.
Exiled!
December 5th, 2012
2:44 pm
Oh Kimmie….
I don’t know now how these young men go bout it.
Their women don’t cook nor offer them dranks coz I guess they just don’t respect them or maybe they don’t pull their own weight in the home upkeep.
Maybe I’m getting old….coz these single chics biastch and moan too much.
Bluzgirl
December 5th, 2012
2:44 pm
Thank you S/H! I feel really good these days. I feel like I’m making good decisions and taking care of myself first. My social life has grown. I’ve reconnected with two old friends this week. I feel happy. My last two therapy sessions were all upbeat. I think I’m going to tell my therapist on Monday that I’ll call him when I feel like I need to see him. I’ve learned how to handle things better. Maybe it’s because I’ve been through a lot in the past year.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 5th, 2012
2:46 pm
LOL……..Ex I get the feeling that is the case they don’t respect.
MsAtl
December 5th, 2012
2:46 pm
Hey Ex- Fish for dinner over here too.
Get a legitimate job and there will be no worry about jail, jeopardizing your family, whether she will wait for you, etc.
Congrats Bluz.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
2:47 pm
yw single
Ex, the old ones act the same way. but I still love em:-D
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
2:47 pm
BF ~ I know, I know!!!! Please believe, I know (lolol).
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 5th, 2012
2:48 pm
I knew you would be fine Bluz, when stepped off that door mat.
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
2:48 pm
I mean yw bluz (LOL)
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
2:48 pm
“I’ll call him when I feel like I need to see him. I’ve learned how to handle things better. ”
WHOA NELLY. Now, to write those words can be looked at as a sign of progress…Good for you!!!!!
Lady~it is what it is!
December 5th, 2012
2:49 pm
what have I missed today?!?
Single and Happy Wondrous Wednesday
December 5th, 2012
2:50 pm
Bluz we’re all the therapy you may need, but you may not want to cut him off that quick, give it a couple of more months
disco
December 5th, 2012
2:50 pm
ex – while I’m not 100% sure what you were getting at I will say that yes, there are some chicks out there that defer simply because a man is a male. they think whatever a man says is right. that’s just their way. I’m not judging them, just saying I’m not one of them.
s/h – back in my late teens/early 20s I dated a guy who went to prison on an assault charge (2-5 years). while I did hold him down with letters, I didn’t put money on his books. in fact, he sent me money from prison and had his brother and peeps on the outside looking out for me. he only ever did that one stint though and has been good ever since. we’re still cool like that.
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
2:52 pm
Exiled – You can blame some of it on the new generation, but not all. It’s some old heads out there that still don’t get it. Everybody wants respect.
Someone on here said too many women want a Barack, but they are no Michelle. I countered with too many men want a Michelle, but they are no Barack!
I got no problems treating my man like a king cause he’s a real leader and he treats me like a queen!
kimmie
December 5th, 2012
2:53 pm
I’m not judging them, just saying I’m not one of them.
Disco – Me either.
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
2:54 pm
http://www.nydailynews.com/life-style/health/fla-woman-afflicted-sexual-disorder-commits-suicide-article-1.1213728
WOW!!!!
Leggs
December 5th, 2012
2:55 pm
Someone on here said too many women want a Barack, but they are no Michelle. I countered with too many men want a Michelle, but they are no Barack!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 5th, 2012
2:56 pm
Kimmie so right treat me the way I treat you, nothing hard or fancy about it.